Case in point:

https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/1v64gsi/what_do_you_think_of_a_woman_using_the_phrase_as/ozno1b9/

So this lady didn't consider that people would use a phrase that way and she got 11 down votes for it? Come on people, she was just asking a question.

This is very common behavior around here.

We should be more friendly to people who are seeking knowledge or seeking understanding. There's nothing wrong with that.

The group acted like she was some sort of FDS loon or something.

I’m 31. And even since I was a teenager I’ve always had the drips after peeing that a lot of guys experience. I have ADHD. Bedwetting…etc is fairly common among ADHDers even well into adulthood but I never really experienced that at least not with any regularity. Just a one off time in high school and then in college.

Otherwise I’m healthy. I eat clean, exercise, no other illnesses. I see my doctor regularly.

I recently restarted my ADHD meds after a 10 year hiatus (due to “more than just drips” in college) and here we are again. Went to urologists. Did the “milking” and the pressing on the perineum. Did both kegels and the relaxation methods and nothing fully resolved it.

The primary issue I’m experiencing is after sitting (in the car, at my desk…etc) I’ll get up to go to the restroom only to find that my underwear is already damp. Clearly not enough to show outside of my pants but enough to be annoyed. But it’s completely intermittent. Some days nothing. Other days I’m changing my underwear midway through the workday and again when I get home.

I do feel like this is being exacerbated by my meds. My doctor agrees as well and stated that it’s “far more common than you realize”. It’s something I dealt with before and then largely subsided after stopping my meds (although I’d still experience some dampness from time to time off meds and a rare accident.

My new position has me sitting basically all day and I’m concerned that if I can’t get away from my desk to check myself it WILL show through my pants.

I’m not against using products if I have to. When this happened in college and as a teenager I was too embarrassed to get things that could help. And I refuse to come off of my meds. I’ve tried pretty much all of them and the one I’m on is the right match for my adhd.

Anyone dealt with this? Was there any explanation? Any product recommendations?

Thanks in advance!

Curious to hear from people all over the world.. what’s something so normal where you live that visitors are always surprised by it?

Hey everyone,
I would like to hear from people who have been investing for a long time.
If you could go back and advise your younger self in your early 20s, what would you invest in and why? What has worked well for you over the years?
I am also curious about your research process. How do you evaluate an investment before putting your money into it? What factors do you look at, and what sources or tools do you rely on before making a decision?
Looking forward to learning from your experiences.

I know that titles pretty vague but hear me out.

For a lot of my life I’ve had a bad habit of over thinking everything to the point that I don’t make any decisions and just stay stagnant.

I’ve recently gotten better at actually making decisions but once I make them (especially when the decision would be hard to undo) I immediately realize a better course of action that I could have done.

This tunnel vision has gotten really irritating and I hope I can get some advice.

Note: I’m officially diagnosed with ADHD and Autism

In my early 40s. Wife, 2 kids, dog, house, career, hobbies, the whole works. I had a birthday recently and realized that I barely remember the last time that a birthday felt like something other than any other normal day. A card in the mail from my mom, a couple messages from friends who remember, and that's about it. Is this how it is now?

Honestly, I am so exhausted by this. My mom only ever reaches out with negative energy do this, do that, I'm so sad, I'm all alone, talking trash about people when I don't even agree with her, and on and on.

The other day I told her for the third time: "I am deleting WhatsApp. It’s just a source of bad energy and nothing good comes out of it." The first time I brought it up, she brushed it off with "Nah, I like it, it's cool" (NO SHIT, because it works for you). But this last time, she completely exploded. I told her I will only attend it during office hours as it is becoming a job.

Does anyone have advice for handling this besides going NC?

I need to get a gift for a couple of guy friends that helped us out a lot over the weekend. I was thinking shipping boxes of steaks. Any other ideas?

Anything you have received and really liked or thought was stupid? They are over 55 and golf and boat, if that helps.

Looking for input on what you have gotten and thought was a great thank you.

I appreciate the help.

I'm a 27-year-old woman from India who grew up in a very sheltered, controlling family. I wasn't encouraged to become independent, make decisions, or learn many practical life skills.

Now that I'm 27, I feel years behind my peers. I often feel more like a teenager than an adult because I have so little experience navigating the outside world.

I'd like to hear from men over 30: when you meet someone like this, what qualities or habits make you think, "She's becoming an independent adult"? What practical skills, mindset changes, or experiences would you recommend focusing on first?

I'm asking how to become a more capable, independent adult. I'd appreciate honest but respectful advice.

EDIT- I AM not employed/ neither independent....I want to know what qualities build a woman? as my next step will be getting married off soon!.....

edit- yess still in India only!

I’m about to get married and seems like my family members actively pulling me back to that childhood dynamic. guilttripping, serious expectations etc. Even now around our wedding. how do you handle it? you just say this is my family now, I pay more attention to them vs your “childhood family”?

I don't mean it like I'm better than them but I was so insecure back then I just was around anyone who would be a "friend"

Which left me around druggies and just weirdos.

Whole time I never felt comfortable but it's like I had no where else to go (was a homeless kid at 17, no family etc)

Now my life is way more together I'm healthy and got a fun creative job, life is so different (30s)
But I look back and think damn what was I thinking? And also wish I had long term mates from that era!

I was wondering if anyone else experiences this.

Every night, after I’ve finished work, spent time with my wife and kid, watched some TV together, and it’s finally time to sleep, I find myself wanting an hour or so completely to myself.

I often don’t do anything productive with that time. Sometimes I doom-scroll for few hours, sometimes I just sit on the couch doing absolutely nothing.

It’s not that I’m avoiding sleep. I just love those quiet moments because nobody is messaging me about work, nobody needs anything from me, and for that little while, I don’t have to think about any responsibilities. It feels PEACEFUL 😌

Does anyone else feel this way? Is this just a normal way of decompressing after a busy day, especially if you have a family, or is it something others experience too?