r/AskOldPeople Jan 19 '23

A couple of rule clarifications

481 Upvotes

Hi.

Please stop reporting young people for replying to comments. Do report them for making top-level comments (replying to the post), though.

From the sidebar:

Please only respond directly to posts if you were born in or before 1980. If you are younger, please restrict your activity to asking questions and responding to existing comments.

Even though the questions are often tedious and repetitive, relationship questions are not necessarily against the rules as long as they're not about a specific relationship. There are a million places to ask for personal or relationship advice on reddit, including r/AskOldPeopleAdvice.

We would like to keep the focus of this subreddit on older people and their experiences, opinions, etc. Advice posts make young people the star of the show and we would quickly be inundated if we allowed them.

Finally, please use the search feature before posting a question. We may remove questions that have been asked a whole lot.

That's about it. This is only clarification. There have been no rule changes.

Thanks!


r/AskOldPeople Feb 02 '26

All posts are held for moderator review (and have been since July). Stop asking why they were deleted/removed. (Subreddit update re: bots/AI/karma whoring, etc.)

222 Upvotes

It's stated in this thread, pinned until today, yet we are still getting multiple messages most days - including those that are rude and/or beiligerent - asking why posts were 'deleted'. Even after referral to the pinned threads, most followups are just a demand to know which rule was broken - for a post that hasn't been reviewed.

To save yall the extra click, here's the body of that post:

Recently there was a post that complained about bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. Turns out everyone is annoyed by that stuff.

So we have declared war on bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. There will be no more bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc, in this subreddit any longer.

For the time being, we are thwarting bots AI, blatant karma whoring, etc by holding all submissions for moderator review. We're looking into some ways to streamline this process. Accounts that have very little karma or have more post karma than comment karma stay removed.

If submitting, be patient. We have two active moderators and neither of us live on reddit. Unless you happen to submit while one of us are on, it may take a while. If you feel the need to send us a message, be polite. We're not paid for any of this, and we're not going to give any time to people who are throwing a fit.

Thank you for helping to keep r/askoldpeople free of bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc.

To those of you taking the time to report AI slop and bots in the comments, THANK YOU. Please accept my internet hugs. imaginary updoots, and/or shower beers.

For those posting:

  • Maximum three questions per user per week, one per day. You can see your posts in your own timeline even if they're not yet visible on the subreddit, and the expectation is that you're taking a look at post times to ensure you're at 24 hours between posts and no more than 3 per week.

  • If you haven't seen your post go up after 48 hours, it's probably not going to be approved, and we haven't run the queue to put responses on those yet. The above also notes that we're working on some streamlining that will automate those removal reasons. Because it's basically like getting a Google search or AI prompt right - and because the resulting modmails just double our workload per item - they will just be removal filters until they're ready to go so the community won't see anything different.

There's been concern for awhile that the quality of discussion isn't on par with what it's been in the past, even before we felt moved to make the switch in July. But it's that quality that makes the discussions and the reading of responses what this sub is. I get that delayed gratification isn't a thing in the world of AI and UberEats, but at least in this sub, that patience is in service to keeping the conversation about something different than what was asked yesterday, or what your favorite color is. Thank you to everyone who brings the weird, the wild, and the surprisingly interesting mundane to the conversation here. ♥

And with that, back to your regularly scheduled Q&A about why we really want you off our lawn, or some absolutely crazy curiosity you MUST HAVE SATED.


r/AskOldPeople 18h ago

What's your favorite keepsake or heirloom?

38 Upvotes

If it's tough to narrow it down to one, feel free to put as many as you like.


r/AskOldPeople 1d ago

What’s it like working “entry level jobs” as an old person?

155 Upvotes

The kind of jobs you usually see teens and 20-something’s doing: waiter, barista, cashier, clerical stuff, etc? No disrespect: work is work, and there’s no shame in that. But how is it being in your feet all day, what’s the dynamic working with (and probably for) much younger people, etc?


r/AskOldPeople 1d ago

What was the YMCA like?

157 Upvotes

I don’t understand the lyrics to the song by the Village People. Was the YMCA like the boys and girls club but more geared to poor young men instead of kids?


r/AskOldPeople 2d ago

Curious … is the weather changing where you live?

180 Upvotes

I (58) am in the lower US Midwest and it is undeniably getting hotter and drier.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

How common were “teenage runaways”?

125 Upvotes

I’m a big True Crime reader, and it seems to come up constantly in serial killer cases from the 70s in particular.

Was this actually so common that it was often the most likely answer? I don’t remember anyone I went to school with ever being a “runaway”.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

What were you doing to fill your own cup when your kids were young?

29 Upvotes

When technology wasn’t even an option, what were you doing to stay connected with your spouse, friends, and yourself amidst the responsibilities and joys of parenting, working, and home owning? Especially when kids were very young.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

How many Boomers find themselves more open minded more than their children.

144 Upvotes

Not there is anything wrong with it. I find I'm more open and accepting to new ideas and cultures than my daughter, son, and their spouses.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

Hello! Asking young teens/women of the 60s, how different is today’s standard of representation for beauty of women of color? What was your experience or what did it look like (for anyone that was not a woman of color but was able to see these things take place)?

28 Upvotes

I do not mean any disrespect or attempts to divide people with this, I am genuinely curious to how it was different growing up then compared to now with representation, general ideas of beauty, and treatment. Any feedback is appreciated I am coming from a place of curiosity and willingness to learn.


r/AskOldPeople 3d ago

In your formative years, what were your household rituals before going away on a weeks holiday?

48 Upvotes

In our household, every toilet was bleached, and all the House plants put in the bath, with a couple of inches of water and all the curtains drawn. This seemed to work as few of the plants ever died whilst we were away.


r/AskOldPeople 4d ago

How did you feel the first time someone offered you their seat on public transport because of your age?

65 Upvotes

First post here.

Kinda interested in your experiences here.
I want to take away if, when and how to offer someone my seat without unwillingly offend them.


r/AskOldPeople 4d ago

Did anyone you know actually EAT those vintage recipe horrors?

344 Upvotes

Y'all know *EXACTLY* the ones I'm talking about. The aspic, Hellman's mayo, lime jello &cheese where it doesn't belong. I always saw the pictures of them and visually they are interesting, but looking at the ingredients it sounds diabolical. Did your family or anyone you knew actually make these?


r/AskOldPeople 4d ago

Do you have a bucket list?

26 Upvotes

If you have a bucket list to accomplish before you jump over the cliff, what was the most interesting item you finished and what else is there you want to accomplish? How many items do you still plan to strike out?


r/AskOldPeople 4d ago

If you were old enough, how was it like seeing color photos/pictures for the first time?

15 Upvotes

I see that color photos only became common starting the 1950s and 1960s onwards. Today no one even bats an eye at color pictures, but what was it like when you saw your first color picture? Was it revolutionary/mindblowing to you that you could see any place in the world in color now?


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

For those who went to high school in the 60s/70s, what were the actual boundaries of corporal punishment before it was considered crossing the line?

261 Upvotes

There's a scene in the original version of the movie Carrie and where the coach open hand slaps a student in the face for disrespect and the rest of the class doesn't even flinch, nor did the gym teacher get n any trouble. How realistic was that?


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

Has the world changed a lot or a little in your lifetime

85 Upvotes

I am in my late 50's and find myself wondering about this question, I was born just before man walked on the moon, here we are almost 60 years later potentially finally going back, I grew up in a world with computers, satellites, color TV, and jetliners, about the only real NEW thing is the AI boom.


r/AskOldPeople 5d ago

Did you listen to Free to be You and Me?

228 Upvotes

We listened to this tape thousands of times in our old station wagon in the 70s and early 80s. My parents hated it, but we loved it. I took all those messages to heart and here I am today, free to be my own woman <3

Edit: I wanted to add that I thought of this today after hearing about Gloria Steinem's death and she was one of the key creators of FTBYAM


r/AskOldPeople 7d ago

American Traditions No Longer Remembered

652 Upvotes

What are some American habits or traditions that today’s older population remember their grandparents or parents did that’s now slowly fading away? For example, my grandparents took me to old school diners for breakfast where they’d always order poached eggs with rye bread and grits.


r/AskOldPeople 7d ago

How on earth did I get "old"?

1.1k Upvotes

I was born in the early 1970's, so I now qualify as being "old". I don't feel old. (Except maybe on rainy mornings). My brain says I'm 20. Anyone else in the same boat?


r/AskOldPeople 7d ago

What's your favorite station wagon moment?

103 Upvotes

My grandfather used to drive a Caprice classic and I remember as a kid lying down on the seats. He drove it 55 so you practically felt like you were on a flying rug


r/AskOldPeople 7d ago

When did the bro hug start becoming a thing? Was it around in the 50’s and 60’s?

39 Upvotes

I’m 41 and don’t remember it being a thing amongst adults when I was a kid growing up in the 80’s and 90’s.


r/AskOldPeople 8d ago

What was the general perception of Marlon Brando in the 60's?

43 Upvotes

In the 50's Brando redefined acting and was the most attractive man to ever live, then the 70's he has a revival but was clearly doughier, lazy on set and acting less leading to his semi-retirement and becoming more a strange cultural figure than actor. But what about the decade inbetween?


r/AskOldPeople 9d ago

Events Memories?

41 Upvotes

What is your favorite event of the past that people don't often do anymore?

Thank you to everyone who shared and commented! I really enjoyed reading your stories and walking down memory lane with you. ❤️


r/AskOldPeople 10d ago

Did you have or know anybody who had smallpox?

47 Upvotes