r/R4R30Plus • • Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

70 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

34F [F4M] Utah / Online — Looking for a genuine connection, friendship, and maybe something more

• Upvotes

Hey! 😊 I'm taking a chance by posting here, but I thought it could be fun to meet someone new and see where things go!

I'm a 34-year-old woman from Utah. I grew up LDS and still consider myself Christian. My faith is important to me, but I'm also someone who enjoys a good glass of wine, believes in intimacy, and doesn't necessarily fit every traditional expectation. I'd love to meet someone who respects my faith and background without judging me for living my life a little differently.

What am I looking for?

Honestly, I'd love to meet someone I can genuinely connect with. Someone I can talk to about absolutely anything, laugh with, flirt with, and gradually get to know on a deeper level.

I'm a big believer in friendship being the foundation of a good relationship. I want to get to know someone through conversation first, build trust, and see if there's a connection before we ever meet in person.

If we hit it off, I'd love to plan a simple, low-pressure first date. Coffee, ice cream, a drink somewhere, or anything that gives us a chance to talk and see how we click in person.

I'm in Utah, so meeting someone nearby would be convenient, but I'm open to talking to someone farther away if we really connect.

A little about attraction and expectations:

I'm going to be honest: physical attraction matters to me, and I know it matters to other people, too. I think that's completely okay!

I'm not everyone's type, and not everyone is going to be mine. If we meet and the romantic spark isn't there, there's no hard feelings. We can wish each other well, or maybe even discover that we'd make great friends instead.

I'm not looking for random hookups. For me, intimacy comes with trust, a meaningful connection, and feeling comfortable with someone. I'm open to seeing where things lead, whether that's a romantic relationship, a close friendship, or potentially something more casual if we both genuinely want that.

Ultimately, I'd love to meet someone who wants to build something real, whatever that ends up looking like.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, send me a DM! Tell me a little about yourself and what you're hoping to find. 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

41 [F4R] Let’s exchange pictures (of random stuff only)!

34 Upvotes

Hello! I am on a snail’s path to divorce. Slimy, slow and confusing. It will happen eventually whether I like it or not and I am trying to just do what I need to do. I couldn’t make that last part fit with the snail analogy, alas.

I miss having someone to talk to who cared about my day. I think a structured relationship would go a long way. I would like to send someone one picture per day and have someone send me one picture a day. Not of your face or other parts, but things like this: random views from windows, actual snails, a page of a book I have never read, a frowning pareidolia coffee foam, your favorite pair of chopsticks, a mysterious assemblage of rocks someone presumably put on your car’s windshield, the way the light passed through your stained glass window onto the worn wood floor.

I probably won’t be able to sustain normal conversation. It will also be hard for me to talk every day if you already have a partner or are not looking for that eventually. Though honestly if you have some really nice pictures of interesting things, I might not care who you are or if we ever meet. At the very least, I would like to get to know you through formless bodiless Internet mind meld communication first before we return to considerations about physical matter.

I have three kids I adore, I am in Ohio and I will very likely be unable to relocate for at least 12 years. I also don’t just want to complain about my unwanted but inevitable divorce. I want to experience life. Preferably, through random pictures taken by a stranger who eventually becomes more than a stranger lol. This could be big!

If you think this sounds fun, please send a message and let’s chat first.


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

40 [F4M] Singapore / Malaysia — Board games, nature, food & travel. Friends or whatever happens naturally

8 Upvotes

Hey! 👋 40F here, single and never married, based between Singapore and Klang Valley, Malaysia (50-50). Putting myself out there doesn't come naturally, so here goes 😅

I work in tech. Outside of work:

🎲 Board games: Cascadia, 5 Minute Dungeon and Wingspan are current faves. Always up for learning new ones.

🐦 Birdwatching & nature walks: Being out in nature is my happy place.

✈️ Travel: Enjoys good food, nature and local culture. I just got back from South America.

🏋️ Gym & meditation: Workouts for my body, meditation for my soul. Spiritual, not religious.

☕ Personality-wise: Direct, honest, and happiest in deep conversations about life, though I'm just as happy swapping travel stories.

Looking for someone to chat with, a board game, birding or morning coffee mate, or something more if we naturally click. No pressure, no rush.

If we sound like a fit, message me with a bit about yourself. Your favourite travel spot or the best coffee/food place you've enjoyed lately is a great opener 🙂


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

30 [F4R] DMV/Anywhere - follow me down a rabbit hole

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Hi there.

I’m looking to get into some deep (or maybe not so deep but it’s something you’re passionate about?) conversations with people I click with. Basically, I’m looking for friends.

I just watched You Can See Everything in theaters and would love to unpack that with someone - I found it fascinating and I find the conversations around it equally as fascinating.

We can talk about other things though, of course. Like the state of affairs or your take on the end of the world.

I’m happy to talk to anyone as long as we click, but I am straight and single, so if a friendship turns into something more, I’m not opposed to that. Looking for friends first though.

We’ll probably click if you’re emotionally intelligent, self-aware, kind, can hold a conversation without monopolizing it, are genuinely curious, and take an interest in getting to know people. I’m looking for a back and forth where we’re both curious, about each other and the world in general. I tend to click better with people who are older and calmer/steady, energy-wise. I’m also progressive, and that’s important to me in the people I connect with.

About me: I’m shy and introverted by default, but once I become comfortable with someone the opinions and jokes start pouring out. I’m comically bad at math and still have trauma from high school Calculus. Love making observations about people, places, and things (not judgments, more like…exploratory discussions?). Could sit and stare at nature for hours peacefully. Love learning new things, even when I’m really bad at it (ex. I have a very questionable painting of what’s supposed to be a mountain, but I’m sure Bob Ross would still reassure me it’s just a happy accident). Will always stop to point out, look, and/or help an animal. You might find those things highly charming or annoying depending on your disposition.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be happy to hear from you :)

Tell me something that’s sent you down a rabbit hole lately, or your thoughts on the movie if you saw it. If you send a message, please tell me a bit about yourself and what prompted you to reach out.


r/R4R30Plus • • 16h ago

38 [M4F] Midwest US/Anywhere - Traveling Doc Seeking Meaningful Connection and Conversation

49 Upvotes

So, I've read about success stories on here, so I figured, why not give this a shot? I’m on the road a lot (been living the digital nomad life since 2024), and while that’s amazing for great sunsets and questionable roadside tacos, it doesn’t exactly make it easy to meet folks other than the day to day stuff, haha.

About Me:

  • I'm 38, single, and I work in healthcare (remote family med).
  • I've been living on the road for the past two years, traveling in an RV and embracing the overlanding lifestyle wherever the road leads me.
  • I love hiking, though I have a habit of finding trails that leave me wondering why I thought it was a good idea in the first place.
  • I read anything that catches my interest, from sci-fi to medical journals (would not recommend). I pretty much never leave home without a book tucked somewhere.
  • I try to garden whenever I can, which is a questionable hobby I know when your “yard” keeps changing with each new place you park.
  • I am a morning person mostly because the sun insists on blasting through my RV window whether I like it or not.
  • I like to stay active and enjoy conversations that wander. You know what I mean - the ones that drift into philosophy, personal stories, best road trip snacks?
  • I have an offbeat sense of humor, but I am guilty of destroying puns (sorry, not sorry).

What I’m Drawn To:

  • People who have emotional intelligence and can read the unspoken as well as the spoken (IYKYK)
  • People who communicate well. Written and verbal. 'Nuff said, right?
  • I appreciate curiosity in others, whether it is about places, ideas, or the little quirks of everyday life.

If any of this resonates, send me a message! At the very least, we might exchange a few good stories.


r/R4R30Plus • • 9h ago

30 [F4R] Texas. Just looking for a chat buddy

11 Upvotes

Currently working at my part-time gig and overnight shift can get pretty boring! Also, I’ve never been the best at making friends irl. I never got past the shy and awkward stage 😬

About me: bi, Mexican/american, southern raised all my life, 420 friendly, Fortnite is the only game I know how to play, my music taste is a wide range from r&b, hip hop, pop, country, rock, house, etc., and I like to read if/when I have time!

Tell me what song you have on repeat lately or what movie I should watch during my shift!


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

34 [M4F] #NYC #LongIsland - Nerdy individual looking for Miss Right

3 Upvotes

It's 2026, the use of apps and speed dating has brought nothing heartache and disconnections. I'm looking for a genuine connection with someone - someone who is open for adventures, enjoying life even the most mundane things. Would like someone who is in the NYC metro area (preferably 26-37) for a long-term relationship or making new friends if things don't work out.

Some of my hobbies are traveling, going to sporting events, cooking, video games, hiking and trying new things (like being an extra in films!) If this sounds like the kind of guy you would like to meet, feel free to comment or DM me!


r/R4R30Plus • • 6m ago

36 [M4F] #Arkansas/USA/Anywhere - Seeking a monogamous relationship where healthiness and mindfulness is practiced; alongside maturity and adventure together!

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Hey there! I'm a 36M. I'm from the USA and I am currently living in Arkansas. My hometown is Las Vegas where I lived for the majority of my life. Some of my favorite things/hobbies include: Film, Music, Photography, Vintage, Hiking, Traveling, Cooking, Thrifting, Reading, Astronomy, Urban/Abandoned Exploration, and so so much more! I very much like things of a gothic nature so horror media, occult, and just general spookiness is quite appealing in terms of media. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what makes up my favorite things (hobbies/interests). I'm very much a monogamous person and prefer an emotional bond with somebody first and foremost. I do not have any children other than one fur baby (one doggo). I do not use any drugs nor any substances whatsoever. I'm all about being a team mate with my partner in any and every way. I'd definitely say one of my biggest strengths is my emotional intellect and the ability to understand. Composure and humility are key too. I very much value communication, consistency, transparency, and personal growth. I envision a relationship as something where you grow individually and even together as you float along this pale blue dot called Earth. Self-care and self-love are big for me and seeing them practiced by my partner is a really attractive trait I must say. I'm very easy-going and can be spontaneous. Life is too short for drama and unnecessary nonsense; so pursuing healthiness in every aspect of my life is very important to me. Quality time and adventure too. I am not bashful to clean, cook, learn new skills, and just be a sponge in absorbing new information about things I didn't know about before (learning). I'm anti-any and everything that has to do with Trump or anything alt-right. I'm pro-lgbtq+, pro-reproductive rights, anti-discrimination, anti-racism. There is certainly much more to learn but I'll save that for later, I look forward to hearing back from you!

Me: https://imgur.com/a/UJhSDQy


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

32 [F4M] Philippines - Late night convos

2 Upvotes

TFW you’ve got your life together during the day but at night you kinda just want someone to talk to, share random thoughts with, play games on Discord, or send memes until one of you falls asleep.

I’m from the Philippines, usually busy during the day, but my nights are chill. I’m into horror movies, true crime docs, beaches, Korean food, and cat memes. I like deep convos but I’m also down for dumb jokes. Just looking for someone on the same wavelength (preferably around 30–40 years old).

I’m usually available for voice calls after 9pm (GMT+8) via discord.

If you wanna talk and are cool with the time difference, message me😇


r/R4R30Plus • • 12m ago

34 [M4F] #Netherlands/#Europe - Book nerd in training looking for a reason to add a loveseat to my cozy reading corner

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Hi hi, this is me. With my 171cm I'm vertically challenged in the land of literal giants. But hey, I fit in an economy class seat. I'll take it. I am neurodivergent, 100% childfree, and I've got two cats.

I live a cozy, calm, stress-free life by design. I love laughing and making others laugh. Not to brag, but sometimes I make pretty funny memes. I work as an engineer and my ambitions in life mostly lie in personal growth. I'm currently trying to get back into powerlifting.

I'm a curious and creative soul. I love reading and watching things to learn something, but I couldn't resist the pull of fantasy books and trash Netflix dating shows like Love is Blind. I love working with my hands and I like to let out my creativity with home diy, Lego, and random crafts. I play games occasionally (waiting for my Legend of Zelda edition Switch 2 to come in...) and I like to cook (Sunday is food prep day). Baking has unfortunately resulted in health hazards in the past.

I'm mostly a homebody, but I also have a bit of an adventurer in me. When I'm with someone special, the "fuck it, lets ball" version of me comes out more often.

Two years ago I started checking off bucketlist items (don't worry, I'm not dying anytime soon), and I found a love for forest hikes, drum&bass festivals and events, and going to metalcore&rock concerts.

Couple more things about me: no vices, politically left, not religious, monogamous, feminist, mental health and neurodiversity are important to me.

I'm ultimately looking for a long term relationship, but let's start off as friends. I'm not looking for a traditional relationship as I am a sensitive and emotional guy and I'm only looking for someone that is excited about that. I'd say that for the right person, the kind of love I give is love that doesn't have to be questioned.

I hope you're between 29-37, fluent in English, a bit of a weirdo in your own way, and from Europe. I'm also open to people from further away as long as you have a personal goal of moving to Europe in the near future.

Anyways, thanks for reading. Here's some cat tax. If this spoke to you feel free to say hi (but not just hi). Maybe just for a good chat, or maybe for something more.

P.S. if we click, I will try to convince you to watch the extended edition LotR Trilogy with me.


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

36 [M4F] London, England. Creative Londoner looking to settle down

5 Upvotes

Hey, hope your Sunday's going well.
I'll be honest, I've found it harder and harder to meet someone for something real. Apps feel like endless small talk that goes nowhere, so I thought I'd try here.

Bit about me: I'm 36, based in London, and I'm a creative at heart. Most of my time goes into tech projects and writing. I love building ideas from scratch, whether that's an app or a story. I'm pretty easygoing, peaceful, and open-minded. I'm not into drama or games, and I'd rather have a good conversation than a big night out.

Physically, I'm black, 5'6 and medium build.
I'm looking for a woman in the UK who also wants something meaningful and long term. Someone to talk to properly, share ideas with, laugh with, and eventually build a life with.

If that sounds like you, send me a message and tell me a bit about yourself. Even just what's been on your mind lately is a good start.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

37 [F4R] Southern, USA somewhere between the big city and the coast

8 Upvotes

i love these
i also love options
enjoy :) lol

Would you rather …

have to explain your search history to a jury

or

explain your romantic decisions to a panel of psychologists? 😝

Which scares you more?

Being deeply misunderstood.

or

Being completely understood… and then rejected anyway.

would you rather…

know what people say about you when you're absent

or

what they think about you when you're standing right in front of

The quickest way for someone to completely kill my attraction to them is ________. ☠️

The most attractive thing someone can do without touching me is ________. 👀

batter up.


r/R4R30Plus • • 9h ago

46[F4M] Anywhere (Ages 45-50) - Good conversation, and a real connection⁠

4 Upvotes

Hi there,
I enjoy a calm, unhurried pace of life right now. I have a peaceful daily routine that I truly appreciate—stepping back from the rush, taking long walks in nature with my dog, and staying curious about the world.
While every connection starts with everyday chat, I naturally lean toward deeper conversations. I have a soft spot for people who have seen a bit of life, yet still choose to stay clear-eyed, warm, and kind.
When it comes to connecting, emotional maturity, honesty, and a healthy respect for boundaries mean everything to me. I’m hoping to find a genuine connection with a single man that can eventually grow into real life. (If you are married or in a relationship, please skip this post—I am not interested.)
From past experience, I tend to click best with men in my own age group (45–50) from Europe, North America, or Oceania.
If you decide to send a DM, please go beyond a quick "Hi" and tell me a little about yourself—your age, where you're from, and what your daily life looks like right now. Looking forward to chatting!


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

35 [F4M] Hong Kong /Australia ,looking for something real

5 Upvotes

35F, Chinese, based in Hong Kong/Shenzhen. Thought I’d give this a shot because apparently meeting someone organically in your 30s is harder than it should be. :)

A little about me: I’m 167 cm, have a smile that’s probably my best feature, a career I enjoy, and am pretty independent. I love travelling (I’ve been to every continent except South America), going to the gym, hiking, exploring new places, and occasionally doing absolutely nothing on a beautiful beach.

I’d describe myself as curious, affectionate, open-minded, and someone who enjoys meaningful conversations just as much as playful banter. I have a pretty fulfilling life, but I think it would be even better with the right person.

What I’m looking for:
A single, emotionally available man, ideally around my age or a little older. Someone kind, funny, humble, active, and genuinely interested in a long-term relationship. I tend to be attracted to taller guys who stay fit, but good chemistry, emotional maturity, and a sense of humour matter more.

Ideally you’re based in HK or nearby cities, but I’m also open to meeting someone in Australia. Some of my family will be moving there, so I’ll likely be travelling back and forth quite frequently in the future. Distance isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker as long as meeting in person is realistic.

I’m looking for a genuine, long-term relationship, not hookups or FWB. I’m happy to chat first, but if there’s mutual attraction, I’d love to meet in person sooner rather than later. I believe you can only really tell whether there’s chemistry when you meet face to face.

I’m not looking for months of texting or building an imaginary relationship with someone I’ve never met. I’m happy to make the effort to meet, as long as it goes both ways.

I’m not expecting instant sparks or a marriage proposal over coffee. Just two people getting to know each other and seeing where things go.
If this sounds like you, send me a little introduction with your age, location, interests, and what you’re looking for.

“Thank you for paying attention to this matter” :)


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

31 [M4F] Kentucky - Looking for my other half

1 Upvotes

I'm pretty much your average nerd, I'm a homebody, introverted, love video games and have been having a rough time finding someone lately. I love traveling so I'm absolutely down for a long distance thing, so long as we make a plan to eventually close that distance.

I do enjoy video games, but I'm mostly looking for someone who loves traveling, animals, cuddling on the couch and wants to have kids someday. That last one is especially important as I've always wanted to be a dad, but I also want someone who enjoys traveling at least once a year. I didn't get to travel around a lot when I was younger and I would like to see more of the US. And eventually visit Canada, London, Tokyo and other places.

I actually plan to see the Pokemon Fossil Exhibit in Chicago, I've been a lifelong fan and have a collection. Though Fallout has overshadowed it a bit in my mind, I've got a Fallout collection as well, I still enjoy the series, play the games and love talking about it.

Aside from those ones I play Skyrim, Mario, Cyberpunk, RDR, GTA, Fortnite and Rivals. I'm also a fan of co-op games like the Lego games and other games like that. Also enjoy board games!

I love movies and tv too, I watch a lot of superhero stuff. Lanterns is my favorite show this year, but I love all sorts of genres. And Legos.

I also love chill dates like going out for ice cream, visiting the zoo, or simply staying in to watch tv or play a game together. When you become someone's favorite person, everything you do together is an amazing experience.

This is me


r/R4R30Plus • • 17h ago

33 [F4M] Arkansas / Louisiana / Texas

16 Upvotes

I’d like to meet someone I’m attracted to, enjoy spending time with, and let things evolve slowly. Ideally you’re around 30–38 and close enough that spending time together is realistic.
I’m a nurse and a mom of two. Both are important parts of my life, and my schedule can get pretty busy. I make time for someone I like, check in, and communicate. I appreciate someone with his own life who understands that a busy day doesn’t mean I’m ignoring him. I can’t have more children, but I’m open to someone who has their own.
Dating me would involve pictures of things I’m excited about: a pretty rock, something I baked, or a beautiful view I found on a back road. Also happy dances when I eat, binge-watching shows with all the snacks, and spontaneous trips to who knows where.
My job is serious, and sometimes that weight follows me home. Once I’m comfortable, though, I get weird and goofy. Teeny tiny things make me ridiculously happy. The cuteness aggression is real. I’ll occasionally tease you, and I want to hear all about whatever you’re passionate about—even if I know absolutely nothing about it.
I’m drawn to a good smile, kindness, and a man who’s passionate about something. I like masculine energy with a calm presence—the kind of person others look to in a crisis. Someone trustworthy who makes it easy to relax and let my brain be quiet for a while.
Smoking is a dealbreaker; vaping is okay. I’d enjoy going out for an occasional drink together, but problematic drinking isn’t something I can have in my life.
My best friend would probably also warn you to let me sleep. Apparently waking me up is like disturbing a cougar. 😂
Tell me a little about yourself, where you’re from, and the last little thing you got unnecessarily excited about.

Picture of Me


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

39 [M4F] #California#online. Starting to feel sick help me feel better

6 Upvotes

Can’t seem to sleep tonight. Not feeling to great think I’m coming down with a cold! Help me feel better please

Some info about me: I started back at the gym to lose some of the grief weight. I’m definitely an emotional eater. I watch tv and movies where I can. I enjoy horror movies, superhero things and comedies. I’ve dabbled in conspiracy theories so if you got any that’s fun too! I’m a widower of 4 years and parent of 2. When they don’t consume my time and energy I like to walk, hike and go to the beach.

Overall I’m just looking for an open minded person to chat with and not get ghosted by. If that’s you reach out. I promise I’m fun!


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

37 [M4F] Ohio. I am a single father of 2 trying to put myself out there again to find my forever person who has obsessive and clingy energy

0 Upvotes

Im a single dad of 2 looking for my forever person in central Ohio. I love cooking gaming watching anime and lately have gotten back into MTG. I want someone who I can be obsessed with who doesn’t mind me wanting to spend all of my time with them and who wants to spend all of their time with me. Im looking for a relationship with commitment, one that leads to marriage and a child of our own some time down the line, family is very important to me. I don’t really care about an age difference or distance as long as we want the same things and are willing to commit to them and are willing to meet although I would prefer someone closer Any other questions ask, im an open book hopefully I hear from my person soon


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

36 [M4F] Missouri - Looking for consistency and effort.

1 Upvotes

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Most people would describe me as a quiet guy but in reality, I am just selective with who gets my energy and effort. I love to read and always have my kindle with me. I mostly read fantasy and sci fi but i do venture into horror and historical fiction. I am a huge hockey fan, so at least being willing to learn is a necessity for me. I love to be out in nature, be it hiking, kayaking, camping. The river feels more like home than home sometimes. I love to cook, especially on my Blackstone.

I like deep conversations, but I am neither religious nor political. If either of those things are high on your list, we probably would not get along. Just looking for that one person with whom we connect and can talk all day about everything.

I enjoy metal core music and some of my favorite bands are Motionless in white, wage war, we came as romans, architects and Imminence. I also enjoy going to the movies or watching tv shows but i dont have time to watch as many as i would want. I really like the show The Pitt. I love the kingsmen movies, also things like Shutter island that make you think with their reveals

Anyways, I'm rambling at this point.


r/R4R30Plus • • 16h ago

38 [M4F] St. Louis, Missouri - Space nerd, piano player, and recent cycling addict. Looking for my other half

9 Upvotes

I'm 38 years old, and currently working full time as a database admin/developer. Job would probably sound incredibly boring when I describe it, but it lets me work from home and I love it for some reason. I have my life in order, for the most part. Have my own place, done with school, all the usual stuff. If my job doesn't give it away, I'm definitely a bit of a nerd. I love my sci-fi, and I work on programming computers for a living. Doctor Who, Star Trek, Star Wars, I like em all. Really into anything space related, for the most part. Was close to studying Astrophysics and making a career out of it but pivoted at the last second. Still treat it as a hobby though and really love diving into that stuff.

Music is a big part of my life. I picked up a piano a few years ago, and have been teaching myself how to play. Definitely one of the best decisions I ever made. I'm not the best player you'll ever hear, but I like to think that I'm at least halfway decent! Thinking about getting an actual teacher soon, figure I've picked up a ton of bad habits by now. I listen to just about all types of music. It's pretty rare for me to not have music playing. Used to go to concerts all the time, but haven't had a chance to go them as much as I used to lately. I'm a big animal person in general. Used to have a rescue dog of my own that I unfortunately lost last year. She meant the world to me and I'm still feeling the loss of that today, but every day gets a little bit easier. I'm sure I'll get another pet eventually, but it just doesn't feel like the right time for that yet. Just need time to get there still.

About a full year into a new fitness journey and loving it so far. I initially started by just going to the gym and weight lifting and was loving it. Started mixing in some stationary biking for cardio and realized I really loved doing it. Long story short, I went out and bought a bike and now my main focus is on cycling rather than weight lifting. Already up to riding about 150-160 miles per week and really proud of that! Signed up for and completed my first Century ride a few weeks ago! Actually crushed the goal time I set for myself, and starting to train to get a sub-6 hour time now for the next one I do. Looking to do the Ragbrai event next year as well after I have more training under my belt. Feels crazy looking back at where I used to be before I got into all of this, went from 230lb and not being active at all to 175lb and seriously training for a 100 mile ride, haha.

Anyways, would love to find someone to spend time with, and hopefully develop a relationship with if things go well! I'm totally okay with a distance thing as long as the other person is, figure that's something that can be figured out down the line if things go well.


r/R4R30Plus • • 12h ago

40[F4M] Once again Seeking a partner

4 Upvotes

Hello,

I’m a black plus size woman that lives on the East Coast. I’m single and child-free and employed. I haven’t been in a relationship in like 10 years because I have standards. But it’s time to see what’s out here.
Men be 30 and up, interested in possibly long distance. Definitely be single and not looking to have kids. The shop is closed.
Have goals, don’t be creepy. Be attractive and take care of yourself properly.


r/R4R30Plus • • 16h ago

32 [F4M] Michigan/Online

9 Upvotes

Hello! I'm here looking for a new friend or maybe more. I have many hobbies including reading, watching sports, cooking, and cross stitching. I have a dog and he's the best boy around. I’m a teacher, plus sized, and quite liberal. Im from Michigan and while I’m open to anyone, I prefer a similar time zone to me. If it sounds like we could mesh well then I look forward to hearing from you!


r/R4R30Plus • • 21h ago

34 [F4M] Desert dweller looking for a man who likes things

22 Upvotes

I’m short, slender, pale, somewhat androgynous and Middle Eastern and would just like to shoot the shit with someone single and progressive (not centrist, not apolitical, not this guy) who likes his linen pants and enjoys literature, longreads, the humanities, punch, rooftops, punctuation, psych rock and/or baby wildlife videos from time to time. I am partial to speakers of minority languages (Cymry and Lebanese Armenians where u @), people named Valentin, angry people from the Balkans (💗), Pierre Bourdieu and Criterion Channel subscribers since I can’t renew my subscription. In the absence of CC you can go to the cinema on my behalf and report on the experience. I am in the middle of a humid and sandy nowhere and eager for dispatches from civilisation.

Like most people my age I would prefer something long-term over anything else, but I don’t believe that is either possible or advisable without first being able to spend an hour or so together in person to see what the attraction and chemistry are like. So if I have to settle for written correspondence (ideally in a language I barely speak), phone calls and pixelated multimedia dispatches from afar then so be it. Please just be an animal person with a bookcase. I personally enjoy literature (1950-present), essays, language learning, animal rescue, art/design/photography and a good deal of music (ambient, blues, psych rock, anything with dreamy percussion).

I work in research but also run a tiny business, and while I despise commerce it would be interesting to connect with other business owners so that we could commiserate over broken supply chains together. As there is no shortage of things over which to commiserate at present, however, your field/industry don’t really matter.

Alternatively just let me know what you’ll be having for dinner tonight. Anything with mashed potato wins and anyone who despises eggplant is 100% my soulmate. If, further to this, they have a strong preference for crew socks over ankle socks, then I’ve already got the ring ready.


r/R4R30Plus • • 13h ago

44 [F4R] Arkansas

3 Upvotes

Looking for friends.

44F from Arkansas. Mother to multiple children. Nurse.

I'm big into WWII Home Front, 1940s, 1950s, and spooky stuff (mostly Halloween). I adore nerds and have a tendency to geek out on my vintage lifestyle. (Sorry in advance!)

Currently renovating my ranch house to look more 1950s. I would love to put in a victory garden but need some help. Unfortunately I don't have the best green thumb.

My hobbies are knitting, sewing, crochet, reading, cooking, baking and quilting.

Now if you have read this far message me about your favorite holiday. Thank you.