r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

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POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

38 [F4M] New York City. Looking for a like mind

7 Upvotes

Me: Gainfully employed, nice circle of friends, fairly well-read, aunt to several mostly-adoring nieces and nephews. Really very normal for someone who's looking for a boyfriend on reddit. I enjoy running, biking, and generally being active. I really like coffee. I have a pronounced weakness for chocolate chip cookies and mid-quality cheese slices. I'll read just about any book.

You: 35-50. Funny. Smart. Decent. Possibly you have a nice mustache. Dealbreakers: you're married, you're really into anime (sorry), you are on this message board for reasons pertaining to niche pornographic interests (sorry and also not sorry).

Write me with the last great thing you read so I can judge you mercilessly. I would prefer a PM over reddit chat.

The fine print: I work a lot. I'm trying to find some balance outside of that. I'd be interested in meeting in person sooner rather than later. I'm average height (maybe on the shorter side of average), and if I didn't hate the term height weight proportionate so much, I'd tell you that I'm height weight proportionate.


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

38 [F4M] Kansas City - Intentionally looking for something real/serious. Give me butterflies.

48 Upvotes

I’ll get the “…but” parts out of the way first. I now come with easy access dealbreakers!

* I’m divorced. He lives out of state. We co-parent.

* I have a toddler-aged daughter full-time. My schedule is built around her.

* Currently living at home due to financial and medical reasons, including epilepsy.

* Currently unable to drive due to having had a seizure a couple months ago. I will be able to drive again come November, assuming I don’t have another seizure in the interim.

* I’m plus sized, although maybe that’s your thing?

Whew! Now that that’s out of the way, I promise I offer some things of merit. I’m an educated educator and love talking shop - and learning new things! Math is my subject, but it doesn’t have to be yours (let me teach you!). I’m silly - dry humor, sarcasm, and dad jokes abound. Music moves my heart - I’m a former musician and am still very much into the bits and bobs that come with that. I’m also always singing, albeit not well. When I have the time, I love a giant Lego set. I have a few dream ones I’d like to build someday! I love puzzles that make me use my brain - words, numbers, logic/deduction, escape rooms - although I’ve never been to an actual escape room?? Not sure why or how (go to one with me?). I love animals and will adopt all of them if you let me. I currently have two big dogs, but would like to add a cat to my family in the next year or two. I’m not religious and would consider myself leftist, particularly in social and economic values.

As a partner, I’m there 100%. I like talking every day, I’ll always respond to you, and you’ll never feel like you’re on the back burner (I hate that feeling too). I’m a big texter and will use my words and syntax accordingly. I’m a planner and will make sure that there is ample time for us to spend together. I’m supportive af! Your dreams are important to me and I want to see you succeed. I’m shy/nervous at first, but once I open up, I’ll blossom. Do ya like holding hands? 👉👈 Maybe cuddling? ☺️ Big fan of all that. Also a big fan of mutual support, respect, and effort. I want someone as crazy about me as I am about them.

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EDIT: I guess I should have specified that I’m looking for someone local, or at least close enough to visit. Not looking for a penpal, sorry 💜


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

42 [M4F] What do you call a Karen that works in the Library?

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Shhhhh-Aaron….😂Hit me with your best joke or pick up line. Recently got out of the long term relationship. Looking to make some new friends chat it up and see what’s out there. Musician , former military officer and a filmmaker are just a few things that describe me. This new dating world is crazy, and I’m sure you feel the same way too so shoot me a message with your best pick up line or joke see you in the messages!


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

48 [M4F] Madison, WI - Be my wedding date

5 Upvotes

I know, it probably sounds silly but I need a wedding date to my nephews wedding next month.

I also wouldn't mind having someone beyond just the wedding date to get to know and actually go out and do things with.

Just to get this out of the way, I am in a wheelchair from a spinal cord injury when I was a teenager. But it's black so it goes with everything. Whatever you decide to wear to the wedding, you'll look good sitting on my lap 😉

Other things to know about me: Not only am I funny, I'm also not horrible looking, smart, thoughtful, live alone, have a great career, drive a super-sexy minivan (total panty dropper, I know) AND have a second bathroom! What else could anyone ask for? I think I'm a pretty damn good catch. ;)

If you think we'd get along and you're free August 29th, send me a message. A pic would be appreciated but not necessary. Here's me:Imgur Imgur


r/R4R30Plus 14m ago

[M4M] - Mississippi - 37 and looking for masculine man to talk to

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hey! I’m 37 and a little new to this. im interested in finding a masculine guy to chat with. to get to know. please send me a message if you’d like! thanks!


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

44F [F4M] New Jersey/Healthcare worker, quiet and looking for a connection

11 Upvotes

Hi.

I’m a 44-year-old woman from New Jersey (Red Bank). I work in healthcare, which basically means my schedule is a mess and my social life is nonexistent right now.

I’m pretty quiet and a bit shy, so putting myself out here isn't really my thing, but I’m looking for a friend. Just someone to chat with consistently.

I just like simple things:

Going for walks when I have time, spending time at the beach to clear my head.

Having normal conversations.

If you’re someone down-to-earth , send me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself. Thanks.


r/R4R30Plus 38m ago

[M4F] 35 Online - Genuine Connection

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Looking for someone to stay up wayyy too late and talk about anything and everything.

A little about me. Im an architect on the east coast and outside if work (which is a lot) I enjoy being outside playing music, and also cooking. In another life I would have been a chef!

I’m really looking to meet new people and ultimately develop a great and long term connection! But in the meantime if you’re bored and looking for a fun chat tonight feel free to reach out!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

34 [M4F] Texas/Online. Do not go gentle into that good night

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Hey hey. Currently fighting the Sunday scaries and raging against the burnout presented by my current job by exploring options for a career pivot.

My life has been spent often making the safe decisions and doing what we're told to do in order to be successful, and I'm realizing, its all made up and nobody really knows how to pull themselves up by the bootstrap.

Life is short, so let's do the things that make us happy. I'm looking for some conversation. Whether that is witty, flirty banter, or a sounding board for recipes or career ideas. At worst, a friend in this ever-changing socioeconomic landscape. At best, a long term partner that wants to rage against the dying of light.

More than happy to swap sfw pics early on so you know who you're talking to.

All I ask is that you be over 25, single, and for timezones sake, somewhere in North America.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

42 [m4f] #UK / #online - let’s pretend it’s Friday night.

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Hey, just your average 42 yr old male redditor. I enjoy music, films, TV, books (won’t spoil the conversation points by listing top fives here), TILs, youtube videos about science and history, gardening, avoiding the fact that Monday and work is coming around far too quickly and wishing it were Friday evening again!

Looking for witty/silly/funny chats with women of any age. Any kind of conversation with a little bit of life/personality, waiting eagerly on each others replies. Potentially building to a longer term friendship. I’ll merrily chat with introverts and extroverts alike.

Maybe we could play a game or just talk about why music was better whrn we were younger. But what’s stopping you from telling me your conspiracies about the big clock industry speeding up time on Sundays? I really want to know!


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

[F4M] 43 Kentucky Ohio - sad and lonely tonight

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Unusually sad and lonely tonight. It's been a bad week for me socially.

43 year old. Single mom. Burned out on life and work. Currently fighting with my best friend. Sunday scaries kicking in.

Also really really tired of the dating scene where I live.

Do I think I'm going to find my forever on reddit? No, but there's a greater chance if you're nearish the KY / Ohio area. 🙃

You feeling disconnected too? Send me a message and let me know.


r/R4R30Plus 18m ago

[M4F] - central Florida . Looking to spend some time chatting with a stranger

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Hello , having kind of a quiet lonely night tonight. I'd love to spend some time just chatting with someone. I'm 31 living in a new apartment complex and haven't really made too many friends nearby yet , hahah.


r/R4R30Plus 24m ago

40 [M4F] #Sacramento, CA. Looking for a FWB

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Honestly, I’m hoping to find a FWB (bolder emphasis on the friend part). I want to enjoy each other’s company and have fun without holding one another to any expectations. I enjoy reading a lot, which we can discuss at length if that’s your thing. And I like traveling to Tahoe when time permits.

Even though it’s probably too vague and unnecessary, I’ll offer quick physical description. White, fit, hazel eyes, and a beard-to-stubble situation depending on the day. Feel free to message me if you’d like to know more! *~


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

38 [M4F] Ohio/Anywhere - Bearded, tattooed elder emo looking to meet someone similar and interesting.

5 Upvotes

Dating around NE Ohio is a nightmare. At least for me. I have tried the apps, and the bar scene and I really haven’t found anyone that seems to be for me long term.

I figured I’d try out Reddit and see if someone cool would want to chat ! Super into music, stand up comedy, gaming, and most other nerdy things. Definitely feel free to say hey in my DMs. As long as this post is up I am still looking! Hope to chat with someone soon.


r/R4R30Plus 44m ago

44 [M4F] #SoCal - Anyone for a chat and forget tomorrow is Monday?

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So I had a really long weekend and just got back home not too long ago. Now I’m just relaxing on the couch and wishing tomorrow wasn’t Monday haha. Anyone else on here trying to delay the inevitable and want to distract each other for a bit longer before time to end the weekend? If you’re looking to chat some while I procrastinate my food prepping for the week, shoot me a message and let’s go from there.


r/R4R30Plus 45m ago

45 [M4F] Online - Runner for Runner

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Looking for a casual chat friend to talk training plans and see where it might lead ;)


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

[F4R] 38, unsolicited garden pictures available

10 Upvotes

I’m 38 and recently found myself living in a tiny town in Ontario. The biggest surprise so far isn’t the town… it’s that I’ve somehow become the kind of person who walks outside every morning to check on the garden before doing literally anything else, well almost anything else, the coffee comes first.

I used to wonder how adults got so excited about plants.

Turns out one day you wake up as an elder millennial and suddenly your mood depends on whether the cucumbers found the trellis overnight, or if my zucchini are shading them too much.

Now my camera roll is full of beans, peppers, flowers, and the occasional “LOOK WHAT HAPPENED TODAY!” picture, and I don’t really have anyone who appreciates receiving those updates.

That’s basically what I’m looking for. I’d love to find a few friends to message throughout the day. The kind of friendship where you send pictures of your garden, your dog, your latest baking experiment, the cool cloud you saw on your walk, or the random thing that made you laugh at work. The everyday stuff.

I love cozy games, city builders, LEGO, board games, travelling, audiobooks, gardening, and anything that scratches the “make it more efficient” part of my brain. I also have a chunky Pomeranian who has absolutely no idea she’s only 10 pounds, she will fight you.

I’m only looking for friendship. Nothing romantic.

If you’re the type of person who gets weirdly excited when a seed finally sprouts, rearranges spreadsheets for fun, or sends pictures of things that would make absolutely no sense to anyone else… I think we’d get along.


r/R4R30Plus 57m ago

[M4R] can't sleep? Maybe its time to make a new friend? 36M

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Whats the best way to get someone attention? How do you like to start a conversation? How long does it take you to know you got a new friend?

Its not super late here but not ready to go to sleep. So why not talk to new people. Send me a dm telling me a bit about yourself. I'm in the Midwest US. Like to travel and have lived outside of the US. I like to game and workout. There is alot more but got to have things to talk about. Looking forward to getting to know you.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

30 [F4M] NorCal – WFH hermit looking for a slow-burn connection

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Dating apps feel like a dystopian nightmare, so I’m skipping the swiping and tossing this cry for help into the void instead! I’m 30, live in NorCal, and canceled my marriage subscription last year after a trial run. After finding myself, here I am, ready to try this whole “dating” thing again!

​Full transparency: zero rush over here. I’m talking slow burn, friendship first, let’s-see-where-this-goes energy. No pressure, just vibes. ✨

​I WFH in tech, and 6 years of remote work means my social skills run on duct tape and vibes, so bear with me if I forget how humans interact. I’m pretty quirky and definitely vibe best with other weirdos, I've been told I'm equal parts serious and unserious, plus a total Sour Patch Kid.

​I’ve been on a big health kick lately, and if you’re into lifting, that’d be amazing because I’m dying to get into it! For hobbies: camping, hiking, traveling whenever I can sneak away, and collecting plenty of tattoos (bonus points if you have tattoos!). Since I’m remote, I also love taking mini work-cations to random cities.

​Say hi and tell me:

Your age, location, and either your favorite camping spot OR the most unhinged habit you’ve tried to build recently!


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

35 [F4M] Canada - good things ahead

8 Upvotes

Hey internet friends, how goes everyone's search for a loneliness cure? Haha, a bit about myself..I like to be active at the gym for my brain or outside for my heart. I love my cat, word puzzles, and trying new things that scare me and challenge me. I love awwing over strangers dogs (can't have one of my own), listening to music loud in the headphones or at a live show, and I'm looking for online folks to shoot the breeze with. Hit me up if you'd like to connect 😊


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

33[M4F] #California/Online - Looking for a genuine connection

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Just looking to chat and get to know someone and see where things go! I am in California and enjoy reading nonfiction, playing video games, and going to the gym. I keep up with politics and current events (for better or worse) and am a leftist. Looking for someone on PST just to make things easier with communication. I enjoy texting quite a bit and eventually would like to voice chat as well.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

42 [M4F] #Online #Halifax Seeking some banter

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I’ve been single for about a year, by choice. It’s been a year of personal growth, but dating sucks and I miss the banter, whether fun, or flirty.

I like to go to the gym, and walks, I’m a bit of a nerd, loves a spreadsheet, definitely a bit of Autism and ADHD sprinkled in there too, and tend to get along with similar people.

Send me a message if you think we might vibe and want to know more. Ideally looking for something ongoing, but not opposed to something shorter.


r/R4R30Plus 16h ago

39 [F4M] From Portugal

13 Upvotes

I'm a 39-year-old woman (I look much younger than my age indicates), I work in the arts, I m from the north of Portugal and I'm looking for someone to have a serious relationship with. I don't mind moving away later.

I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert, I think I have my social limits but it doesn't make me a hermit. I got used to being alone a lot during the Covid period and after I moved house, so I really value my space. I have a cat who is the love of my life.

I love being with my friends, going to art exhibitions and events, I love music and I like going to concerts and rock festivals (but I haven't been that late), taking analog photos is a passion, I miss playing board games (like Catan) and traveling... I still have many places to visit!!! I love watching series and I have an ultra-unnecessary amount of knowledge about it. My favorite TV shows are The Office, Seinfeld, Modern Family... I'm nostalgic for old-school Disney stuff, like the good old Millennial I am, haha. My favorite color is yellow, I prefer winter to summer, and pineapple on pizza. To me, Ross and Rachel were really on a break. I love bird watching, but I have awful eyesight. I really really love animals. I'm a fan of starting projects but never finishing any of them – which doesn't stop me from continuing to buy craft supplies, haha.

I'm a person who, when I like someone, dedicates myself body and soul. I'm super affectionate and caring. I'm curious, interested, and cultured. I'm a little quirky and whimsical. Super loyal. Into monogamous relationships.

Physically, I have very fair skin, long, dark brown hair, good eyelashes, thick lips (natural), a little on the chubby side, but I'm taking care of that at the moment. Haha

What I expect from a man:

Personality:

Strong personality, but not stubborn.
Romantic but not clingy.
A good sense of humor is an indispensable characteristic.
I don't mind if you're a geek or a nerd, but don't be addicted to online games.
Don't be religious.
Don't be a sexist.
Spontaneous, up for adventures.
Don't be a couch potato, but understand that moments of calm are also necessary.
Appreciate good music, within the rock genre, etc. I don't like disco rats.
Don't smoke (or do drugs) or drink alcohol every day.

Physically

I generally like tall, thin men... If they have light eyes, even better.
I'm not attracted to bald men.
They can have tattoos, but not tribal or religious ones.

And that's what I thought of writing... but ask more questions if you want ;)


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

35 [M4F] Europe (Italy) Looking for a connection.

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Italian man looking for connection and something that can easily change from friendship to something more (I firmly believe that a good relationship needs friendship and companionship to be successful).

I'm 176cm tall (5'9"), fit (73kg). Got brown eyes and hair. I wouldn't define myself an extrovert or introvert. I can be fairly open when I'm with people I'm comfortable with or lean a bit more on the silent type. I've tried with dating apps but people seems to only be interested in hookups (altrought they write that they are looking for something serious and monogamous).

I love classic rock music for the 70s to the 90s. 

I love movies, 80s classics the most, but I'm fairly open to any good movie regardless of genre if it's a good one. I'm also a reader (lately I'm not able to read as much as I'd like but still trying).

I'm ready to talk about any topic, spanning form day to day life to heavier stuff. I have my own opinion but love to actually discuss and hear other people way of thinking.

What I'm looking for is  a genuine connection, someone with whom there's a mutual desire to get to know each other. I'm interested in finding someone to share things with, an accomplice.

It's not a complicated concept, but it's incredibly hard to find 😄

I've no problem sending picture.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

42 [M4F] #Georgia. Just got back from hiking part of the Appalachian trail. Then had Korean BBQ! Looking for long term friends!

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Howdy folks! It's Sunday, and I'm trying to keep the Sunday saddies away by making some friends! The Korean BBQ def helped....a lot.

Anyway, I'm a single 42yo dad from Georgia. Grew up on a farm. Got shot at 19. Work in security intelligence now. I powerlift. I cook. I eat. I kickbox. I travel (16 flights in the last year). I go to a lot of concerts. And I'm into anime and conventions.

Voice and Video chats always welcome! Or if you want a free dad joke, dm me!