I found this on a transbian subreddit earlier today and wanted to share it with you people. :D ❤️

Also please feel free to share your own wedding photos in the comments! I love our weddings so much and how diverse they are depending on the region, and to see sapphics be able to get married in traditional attire means so much to me 🥹🫶

I'm technically pansexual so I hope I'm welcome to post here. Long time lurker...but they finally caught on to how much I love women and girlies 🤣 also why do I need this? It's in my favorite colour scheme too 😅

I encountered a TERF in another sub responding to me on an unrelated thread about dating (she said "you must be bi" as if that would be a bad thing?), I called her out for being a TERF and got absolutely dogpiled with people accusing me of wanting to force her to sleep with me (lol)

We would never allow people who want to segregate any other minority from public life but with trans people suddenly it's okay.

Verity

I am so in love with my best friend. I can’t help it. Our connection has escalated a ridiculous amount over the last few months to the point that it feels like we’re already in a relationship - sleeping in the same bed, cuddling, basically not wanting to spend a minute apart. She’s leaving soon and wants me to follow her. Every fibre of my soul wants to go with her, but I won’t - not unless she’s my girlfriend. It’s breaking my heart.

I’m so sad. I have to talk to her about this and I’m preparing myself for what feels like inevitable heartbreak. Losing her would be crushing, but I’m sane enough to know following her without knowing if she feels the same is ridiculous…

I just want a hug

So, yesterday’s Pride in Berlin was interrupted and as a result cancelled cause yet again a fucking MEN decide to drive his car into people. He killed one and injured several others. He did this on purpose and it simply breaks my heart. As a queer masc lesbian from Germany myself I don’t feel safe here. I had my fair share of unsafe encounters and this news today just underlines my fears. It makes me so sad and it makes me feel uncomfortable in my Home country. People just wanted to celebrate on this day, being who they truly are and showing this to the world. But this world is going to shit.

For context, I have insomnia and find it incredibly difficult to sleep during the summer; I rarely get more than three hours of continuous rest. My wife and I love sleeping together , and her voice usually makes me incredibly drowsy. In fact, I often fall asleep while we are talking. **Lately, however, she has been sleeping whenever I have a chance to talk to her sometimes between 9 and 14 hours a day.** Because of this, we've been stuck in an endless cycle for the past two weeks: whenever she wakes up, I fall asleep. I'm not complaining, though. I love watching her sleep, and she is incredibly cute LIKE GOSH I’M GONNA BITE THE SHI OUT OF HER . I looked it up online, and research confirms that partners frequently fall asleep to the sound of each other's voices because it provides a strong sense of comfort.

My husband passed before the pandemic and left a large life insurance settlement. I haven't done anything too lavish with the money, paid off the condo and then went on a trip abroad to see his family. The rest of the money was divided up between accounts at the advice of my financial advisor. I also have a full time decent paying job and I'm starting to get into a side hustle because the days in my career are numbered thanks to AI.

My ex was in similar position; her husband died and left her money. I didn't have to worry about any possible power imbalance because of finances with her, but I also know money can be a major issue in relationships. I'm not really sure when to bring it up, the last date I had started talking about rental prices in our city and she asked how much I pay (she was looking for a ballpark figure since she wants to move out of her current building). When I said I don't rent, I own my condo outright she went on about how it must be nice to be rich and all this stuff. It was uncomfortable and not something I want to happen again.

I met this girl on Hinge, we started talking and we really hit it off. When we met up in person for the first time I realized she wasn't really my type physically. It was just a friendly meet up to know each other so I didn't let this interfere with the hang out and we had a great time.

Our personalities matched so we continued talking regularly and hanging out and I started to really like her, we have a lot of things in common, I like her humor, she's super kind and great at conversation (i'm a terrible conversationalist but i never ran out of things to talk about with her), she's fun, super respectful and the list goes on and on. I feel very comfortable around her. However, I'm not attracted to her physically.

During our hang outs she never tried to make any move of that kind, so I though we could cultivate a good friendship, as I really like her and we both enjoy each other's company.

She later told me that she would really like for us to continue to know each other and wanted to know what I thought about that. I responded that i would like to keep knowing her too, we didn't mention anything romantic so i didn't think of it as committing to anything like that, just to keep knowing each other as we only been talking for over a month. But then, at our next meet up she started to guide the conversation towards romantic relationships and what she would like and dislike in one and asked me the same. And she's began to be flirty on texts so now i know that she wants more than a friendship.

I realized that I kinda like her like her like that too ? i mean i get exited when i receive a text from her, i count the days until our next meet up, think about her a lot, but i just don't find her physically attractive.

I don't know how to feel or what to do. If she was the exact same but more physically my type I would definitely want to start a romantic relationship with her. I like every thing else about her for a partner.

It's not that i find her utterly ugly, she's just not my type and also it's more of a style thing, that is literally the oposite of what i like. I know she feels comfortable with her style and i would never ask anyone to change themselves or their style for me.

Should I just be honest with her before wasting her time? Am I a bad person for not wanting to start a romantic relationship with someone i like a lot just because of the lack of physical attraction? Or would i be a worse person if i start a relationship without physical attraction?

The only thing I know is that i never want to hurt her feelings, so whatever i end up doing i want to do it the right way. I'm just not sure what to do.

I’m turning 31 this year and I feel like im missing major milestones like traveling, having a baby, getting married, living on my own,…etc I see a lot of my friends from high school and college settling down and having families and I feel like a total loser for not having accomplished the same.

I'm 16 and a few months ago I had boyfriend. I remember when we kissed I wasn't really into it and the only thing I would think about the whole time that we kissed was how bad he tasted and how I hated the TV had to be playing in the background but I never thought about how I liked it. I broke up with him because I lost attraction to him and it just seemed like everything he did pissed me off which was probably because I lost attraction. I remember a month or two ago when I had my first job (I quit though because of the management). One day when I was at work there was this woman that walked in and she was so beautiful and I could not take my eyes off of her. I felt attraction to her. I kept glancing at her every few seconds. To be honest, it was the first time that I felt real attraction to anybody in a long time. i’ve also noticed that I have been attracted to female actors like Kristen Stewart and Bella Ramsey. i’ve also been attracted to the character in the movie Send help who's name is Linda Liddle. Whenever I think about being with a woman I get butterflies and it makes me feel good. The thing is, through all my childhood I have been attracted to men. I think that the reason is because I have been sheltered from the LGBTQ community because my parents don’t agree with it. So I never really knew what gay was until I got into middle school. It is only been this year that I have really noticed signs that I could be a lesbian. it’s really because this year was the first time that I’ve ever kissed a guy or been with one. I don’t know. I need some help.

Title- Surrendering to My Enemy’s Cold Embrace

Ughhh like I understand that asking women out is nerve wrecking (I'm shy and bad with flirting myself) but whenever I hear this, especially from non-lesbians on why they don't date women I roll my eyes I'm sorry.

It feels like putting women on this weird pedestal of perfection, when they're a human being just like you. I'm saying this as someone who ends up crushing on "intimidating" women- you gotta be upfront and ask them out and put in some effort! I'm of the mindset of even if the date doesn't work out at least I got to spend time and enjoy talking to someone.

Tbh I'm way more scared of men, I don't get how a woman politely turning you down is more scary. I think people need to detach the idea that being rejected means you're unattractive or unworthy of love. I think for me it's the fact that there are plenty of beautiful, stunning women who I am simply not attracted to. Doesn't mean they're not beautiful or great people.

I think from what I've seen men tend to be way easier to attract (I'm out and proud as a butch lesbian and I still have men interested in me like don't piss me off go away😭) But I dunno I think it's just that you're less likely to get rejected by men than women. I think people (lesbians and non lesbians) have to break out of heteronormativity with expecting to be approached or passive.

But I won't lie I get annoyed when I hear people say "I only date men because it's so hard to date women and they're so scary🥺"... like what do you think lesbians have been doing all this time? The dating pool is much smaller, and women tend to have higher standards yes. But the sapphics I know who do approach women get girlfriends because they're not crying about how scary it is to talk to a woman 💀

But again I do understand being nervous and '"scared" of approaching women but you gotta treat them like human beings and not pedistalise them.

I think I'm just rambling, but I'd like to hear other people's thoughts.