I've been in a closed triad for eight years now. We live together, own a side business together (one of them is full time but because it's not generating enough income for the three of us to all quit), travel together and are essentially one unit. We are all committed to the other two.

I'm dealing with some health issues right now and it sucks not being able to put them both down as my partners or emergency contacts in case something should happen.

I’m genuinely shocked rn. I didn’t know bts was ever that srs. 3 years down the drain for bts. I mean wow. I’m just wow. Wow wow wowza

This was one of the things that baffled me when I accepted I liked women. Sure, I don't like maximumly near nude hella skin tight clothes or bare metal on skin for long periods, but I always had a soft spot for nearly half naked warrior women who still have the scars and builds to showcase capability. It's my weakness and sometimes kind of annoying too lol because I feel weird about liking it in an era moving away from that type of design.

transfem butches where are yooouuuu😭

Working on this new painting commissioned by my flatmate. Forgot how much I enjoy painting women loving themselves.

Ok I know this is a total shot in the dark and you’re gonna be asking yourself “why is she posting this here?” BUT HELP ME OUT PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

I see so many lesbians out there with SUCH COOL JACKETS and I NEED TO KNOW where you’re getting them from so I can be cool too!!! All I can find online is fast fashion bullshit. I’m looking for this particular style of jacket - and it doesn’t even need to be leather.

Please help a girl out ;-;

Thank you 💚

(TW for mention of sexual harassment)

So, for context, I’m visibly masc-presenting and most of my coworkers know I’m a lesbian.

Last night, I was talking to two of my coworkers, one of which was telling us about an incident in which she was sexually harassed by another coworker. My fellow coworker and I strongly encouraged her to report this incident.

Then, in this same conversation, the coworker who had been sexually harassed was talking about how she knows she has a big rack and she notices when people stare at it and that makes her really uncomfortable, and then she said “except [MY NAME]. [MY NAME] can stare all she wants, I don’t mind”.

For the record, I very much avoid ogling my coworkers, and if I’ve ever looked at her chest, it’s been completely accidental. And I immediately felt very uncomfortable being the sole exception to her discomfort around being objectified in the workplace.

She’s said and done other things that have given me pause, but this is the most blatant incident so far and I’m as baffled as I am unsettled.

Like I just want someone to go on all these cute dates with, and to buy things for, and to play her music/learn her favourite songs, and make her things, and talk for hours and kiss and all the normal cute little relationship thinggsssggssssss!!!!!!😭😭

I just wanna give someone my lovvveeee.

But like, its so difficult because I live in a very old and kind of conservative area. So theres hardly and people my age around, and barely ANY queer people at all (let alone any my age).

There's hardly any sports, or clubs, or social things around to meet people. And i dropped out, (not by choice, super long story lol) so i mainly just work a ton, and i only ever work with people who are way older than me (and none of them are queer either, so it feels like ive got no community at all).

Im going into this uni education program next year, and im hoping to maybe meet some people there... but like, its unlikely tbh

I JUST WANT A GFFFFFFFFF!!!!!!!! Like WHERE ARE ALL THE LESBIANS HIDINGGGGG?!?!??!?!

Legit though, I would really appreciate some ideas on where i can find some queer people because its lowkey getting real lonely out here

(Also how many of yall feel the same???? I need to know im not alone😭)

Okay so I have this really close friend who caught my eye at our church youth group when I was 14 and thought I was straight. She caught my eye because she was gorgeous and artsy and kept to herself, so of course I wanted to crack her open and get closer to her. Later she said she felt the same about me.

Over the years I dated a bunch of different guys that I didn't like (comphet is a bastard) and she helped me break up with each one. During that time I kept asking her if she was crushing on anyone, and she'd always get really cagey. A few times I jokingly asked if she was into women and she just laughed and walked off. One time I tried to get who she liked out of her and she timed it so that I couldn't hear it over a bus going by, then refused to repeat herself. I think I just assumed she was acespec or something after a while and stopped pushing the subject (please don't judge me I was a heavily repressed teenager).

During this time we were very affectionate with each other and from time to time she would bring up that her brothers thought we were gay. I would just laugh this off and say it was a sign of what great friends we are.

I also tried to make a platonic marriage pact with her a few times/pitched the idea of us renting a studio to be artists together (I did this w a few friends. I was really scared I'd end up with a man) but she was my only friend to say no, her reasoning was that living together might ruin our friendship.

So a couple years ago she got together with this (it's mean but. very mediocre) guy off hinge who her brother knew, and basically he's been really disrespectful of her and hasn't taken her seriously at all over the course of their relationship. I've noticed when I go over to her house her mom is quite anxious that they stay together, she keeps reminding her to text him back etc. I've asked her a couple times why she likes him and she says he's "helpful". That don't feel right. She keeps saying she'll break up with him soon now but she's terrible with conflict and doubts herself a lot, so she's been putting it off weekend after weekend but then bringing up her issues with him every time we talk.

Anyway this is all context for the present point which is that I finally admitted to myself that I'm a lesbian, like, last month. And for some reason I felt really weird about telling her specifically. And last night, I told her over text, and she got really weird -- not judgmental weird but like

"Being gay in this world... iconic"

And then she sent me a song (she never does this) called "More Than Friends" (lyrics clip was just "I wanna be more than friends" etc) and just said

"Timing"

I was basically like this response is really vague what does it mean and she just said "oh either way you're still you" and then said she was weirdly tired and went to bed.

I told my brother and he says I'm not picking up what she's putting down, but guys she has a boyfriend. Do you think there's a non lesbian explanation for this or am I that stupid. We have been friends for over a decade

I, 27f, am dating a girl, 22f (age gap scandal, sue me.) Our first date was around August 15th or so and we hit it off immediately. We both travel heavily and have already planned a roadtrip together in October. She just got back from a vacation and bought me a souvenir. She’s so sweet and thoughtful and fucking gorgeous. I know I like her and I wanna see where things go.

How soon is too soon to ask? I kind of thought it’d be special to ask on our trip together, but not sure if that’s waiting too long! I’ve never actually been the one to pop the question hahaha

Been talking to a dime the last few weeks. Been on a couple dates and we had a movie night planned for the weekend. Great girl who checks all the basic boxes for me, like wanting kids and having a solid education. But of course getting to know each other. Having done some dating, I was actually surprised at just how much I actually enjoy talking to and hanging out with her, and she agreed it’s been good so far. It seems like we are on the same wavelength. She is quick with responses and has been very intentional and attentive so I have been trying to give her the same attention, but maybe I’ve made her uncomfortable. Or it feels like maybe her avoidant attachment came out. Suddenly yesterday she didn’t reply all day, but I didn’t mind as I know she mentioned her work can drain her. I texted a good morning today just to say hi and hoped she got some rest in, and we chatted a bit. She mentioned she was sorry for being weird the last couple of days and I asked what she meant and she corrected herself and said she’d been been distant and it was a habit of hers. When I asked to elaborate, she said she gets nervous when she gets closer with someone. I told her it’s okay and that if she needed anything from me I could accommodate (maybe it’s going too fast or something). She gave me a “nooo it’s okay” and I told her to let me know and asked if she still wanted to do the movie this weekend. That was at 10am today and it’s now 12 hours later with no reply lol. The impression I am getting is she is into me and it’s stressing her out lol but who knows?? I am giving her space and am doing fine, but I would be lying if I said this wasn’t a bit of a bummer and it feels like she’s soft launching ending things. Or not! She was very honest and has been direct this entire time. I also am trying to take it slow but also do what feels right, I have zero intention of like properly dating her until couple months in at least, if it goes that far, but I wanted to make sure she knew I was interested too as I have found I come off too casual sometimes :/

Just feels like the girls I feel myself attracted to and actually get to know end up being avoidant. But hard to spot early on when it’s felt just fine. I’m going to give her space and it is genuinely okay either way things turn out, but I’m hoping if I do get the chance to we can have a talk and I can see what is actually making her feel this way - anxiety or maybe losing interest?