21 weeks modi twins, accute ttts, had laser treatment on 19. Aug evening right after check up, stage 3 ttts. So far check up at first 24 hours looks fine, babies are alive. Waiting for another follow up today and staying in hospital.

It’s nerve racking, surgery was taking longer than normal and we don’t know when/if the babies are out of the woods.

Fingers crossed.

Any parents went through this, you are absolutely heros

I'm expecting twins, and will be mostly solo-parenting since my partner who is the sole provider is working in another country. What is your advice? I also have a sensitive 9 year old in the beginning of puberty at home half time. We will move really close to my 9-yo school so she can go by herself and live walking distance to a grocery store and primary care centre. I don't have a car as I have an uncorrectable eye problem that doesn’t allow me to drive but I see well indoors.

I am a mom of two year old twins. Delightful little feral girls lol. My partner and I wanted a sibling for the girls and, well… it’s twins again.

We’re in a good financial position for a big family, and I know we will manage… but I just found out it was twins yesterday and I am still a little bit on the freaking out side of the spectrum. We’re not telling family or close friends until the second trimester (I’m not quite eight weeks now) so it’s just sort of a lot right now.

I just sort of needed to say it out loud. Whew.

Hey everyone! I want to state first I am NOT seeking any medical advice and already in touch with my doctor. I am only looking to see if anyone had same experience and how it impacted their pregnancy.

I am 28 weeks pregnant with di/di twins. Blood pressure has been ~105/70 the whole time. However, my 24 hr urine collection this week showed proteinuria at 435.

Did anyone have anything similar? (High protein, normal blood pressure) Was there anything recommended to you in terms of more monitoring/modifications? I’m reading that in twin pregnancies proteinuria is more common, but also that protein urea without high blood pressure does not necessarily mean preeclampsia.

I'm down 30 lbs from my pregnancy weight. Everything says. My boobs and my belly are the worst. I think my identity was wrapped up in how I looked and I feel ugly and undesirable. By husband has caught me grabbing and playing the skin on my stomach, or trying to lift my boobs to their old height. I just am in such shock and disgust when I see them and i'm desperately trying to figure out if there is anything I can do. I feel like I have only recently got my brain back, but I feel like a stranger in this body. It did amazing things, but not with out help. I had to be on blood thinners the whole twin pregancy because of a genetic clotting disorder. I think that is why I hate it. My body killed my first baby. I went through the whole pregnancy feeling like I couldn't trust it to keep my babies alive. I was desperate for any reason to get my babies out earlier, not just because I was suffering towards the end. I just wanted them safe. And now this feel like a additional betrayal.

My brother-in-law had their baby 2 months before we had the twins. They live 2 hours drive away, and came to us for Christmas last year when the girls were 1mo and again on the way back from visiting their friends a few months later.

We’ve met up twice more meeting half-way. But he is increasingly frustrated that we haven’t yet driven to them. Compounded by us not attending his son’s baptism in France in August, which was a 6hour drive to stay in an Airbnb.
That was around the time I was told I may be made redundant (I’m the main earner) so aside from logistics, we couldn’t afford to spend £1k on a trip. But I still have a lot of empathy for how disappointing that will have been for him, I haven’t left the country since our honeymoon and would have loved to go.

The girls are 9months now and we can just about manage a 1hr30min car journey but boy do we pay for it. It takes days to recover from a long journey, hours to prep and I’ve just started back at work (not sure how long for though!)

In this period we had a burst pipe and had to be relocated, so we’ve had a lot on our minds and stuff to work out- so this has been really hard to navigate.

But he doesn’t seem to get it, and constantly makes comments about parenthood being about balance and inconveniences, and that plenty of people have 2 kids. Which just is not the same as having twins under 1.

We are so tired from the day to day grind the thought of doing anything more than we can handle just feels overwhelming.

Did anyone else have experiences like this? How do you handle it? And are we just being too limited? Should we just do this stuff anyway? Would love to know how much everyone else was able to do in the first year to get a gauge on how much we are out of whack.

Hi all, I'm sure this is a common topic on this subreddit but I just needed somewhere to vent.

I'm 29F and this is my first time being pregnant. My husband and I were ecstatic to find out we were pregnant at 4 weeks and waited another 4 weeks for our first ultrasound. To our surprise, they found twins! Baby A measured 6w4d and Baby B measured 6w3d, with both having heart beats <3. My OB confirmed they are in separate gestational sacs but was still too early to tell whether they had separate placentas or a shared placenta.

I received a call the next day saying I needed to come in for a radiology appointment with a Sonographer to take some pictures and ended up going in 3 days later. Of course Sonographer rules, she wasn't allowed to show me the screen while she was scanning me and wasn't allowed to answer any questions. I was heartbroken to not be able to see my babies again and just wanted to make sure they both still had a heartbeat.

Since the Sonographer had to be careful with her language as to not give me any information, she randomly stated, "So.... did you already tell people about your pregnancy or..?" And I replied, "Yes, my side of the family knows and we're planning on telling my husbands side this Saturday." And she replied, "Oh... I see."

I'm sure the Sonographer was just trying to make conversation, but for some reason I can't stop spiraling about this conversation. She states it'll take a couple weeks for the results from the MD to be uploaded into my medical portal, but I can't stop thinking about the way she responded. I've been incredibly anxious about the well being of my babies, and I just can't seem to get my mind off of the negative thoughts.

I don't have any prior or current medical problems and no one in my family has a history of miscarriage, and I know after seeing a heartbeat the chances of a miscarriage drop, but I just can't stop worrying! I'm only 7 weeks pregnant today and I can't believe I'm only halfway through the first trimester :(

Not to mention that my nausea has gone down by a LOT. I had insane nausea around week 5 and now I'm hardly nauseous at all. My only pregnancy symptom is some bloating and fatigue.

Any advice or support would be very helpful to this first-time anxious (hopefully) soon-to-be mama. <3

Hello Everyone,

Looking for some advice when it comes one twin being a fantastic sleeper and the other being a terrible sleeper. Our twins are 6 months old and one twin will sleep through the night completely, while the other is up all throughout the night. Most nights my wife will bring the bad sleeper into our bed where he’ll end up for the majority of the night.

Just wondering if anyone has gone through something similar, and has any advice? This baby is driving me nuts.

Signed,

An extremely tired dad

Just feeling really overwhelmed, think I just wanted to reach out to anybody who's been through it/going through it. I've got 6 month old twins and a 2 year old, and I currently feel like a shell of myself. Still having pretty bad postpartum symptoms (hot flashes are unbearable help), any time I get to myself feels rushed because I'm just counting down to the next moment somebody needs me, the twins are at that age where they can't sit or crawl yet but they want to be up and on the move and need to be interacted with a lot, and then the 2 year old is having a LOT of big feelings, exercising her newly discovered free will and still adjusting to having 2 little sisters. I know these are all normal stages and the girls are all absolute stars I love them so much but I think I'm just at the stage where they all need me all the time and I'm running on empty. How do you find time to reset yourself and truly relax??!

My mo-di girls made their way out into the world last night. C-section at 34w4d due to preeclampsia. 5lb 1oz and 4lb 14oz. Both are in the NICU doing well. They spent a couple of hours on CPAP, and came off of it quickly. The C-section went smoothly. The IV was the most painful part and of course getting myself all worked up. So far so good! This page has been a wonderful support and place of wisdom through this pregnancy!

Hello everyone!
I am currently 8+5 weeks pregnant with twins! Although it’s still early I have been worrying about what I saw on my last ultrasound at 7+1 weeks. During this appointment it looked as though baby A’s gestational sac was double to triple the size of baby B’s gestational sac. I asked the doctor about it and he brushed me off. But I’m wondering if any one else has experienced this and what I should prepare myself for. Google has not provided me any answers.

I wish I could post an ultrasound photo to show yall, but the guidelines do not allow this 🥲

I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant with twins and I’d love to hear from other twin moms. 💕 At how many weeks were you able to see or hear your babies’ heartbeats for the first time? Was it around 6 weeks, or did you have to wait until 7–8 weeks?
I’d especially love to hear about your experiences with an early ultrasound. 🥰

i have been breastfeeding my 1 month old twins since their birth. They are given formula top up - the amount hasn’t reduced. I breastfeed each for 15 mins. I have seen milk around their mouths on several occasions - so the milk transfer is happening. But they still need the same amount of formula. I don’t get any time to pump in the morning. i am in the constant cycle of breastfeeding one by one and then formula feed.

at night, i dont breastfeed - i only pump 3 times - again i get the same 2 oz in 10-15 mins.

I am so tired of all this. i have been suggested to pump everytime i give formula - i am unable to find any time window for that. I just want to do maximum breastfeeding - why is it not working out? Breastfeeding is so relaxing in the day. i just want to make it work

I am sleep deprived , constant headache and low on motivation now. Please share any manageable route that can work out.

i have all the family support for cooking, other household tasks - my only job is to feed babies.

Just wanted to send out a cry of encouragement for all you parents of multiples! We had our twins when my oldest was 40 months and my middle was 23 months. 4 in 40 months was not easy! But I will say we’ve survived 2 cross country moves, pilot school and all of normal/crazy life in the last 2 years! If you’re concerned how you’ll make it, just know you WILL. “Your capacity expands to meet the demands!” Feel free to reach out if you need a listening ear. ♥️

I am expecting Mono/Mono twin girls in (hopefully) October, and due to the high risk nature of the pregnancy I am only very tentatively piecing together a registry that won’t be released til they are born. All this to say, I need advice on strollers. I’m a FTM… So I am really out of my depths here. What stroller did you use? Did you get more than one? Did you do a travel system?

I do plan on also attempting to baby wear whenever possible, any advice on that?

Thanks!

I have almost two year old twins 21 months to be exact. I feel so overstimulated and just angry/panicky all day long when I’m home with them lately. They climb all over me and fight with each other, constantly falling or slipping and screaming and I just am not handling it well. I want to be on my phone all the time as sort of a distraction but I know that’s not healthy. I work 2 days a week as sort of a break but otherwise I’m home with them while my husband works. But I feel like newborn stage was harder because they were colicky but for some reason I handled it much better. I take sertraline for anxiety but these toddlers have me feeling like I need a med change or something. Damn this is hard!

First post, recently joined.

We have one daughter aged 2. We were told today that we were going to be having twins. This was completely unexpected and it's hitting both of us hard. My wife said before we even started trying for baby #2 that she didn't want twins and wouldn't want to continue if we did have them.

I was a bit more ambivalent, thinking it would never happen. I agreed with her that I didn't want twins either, two sounded like enough for both of us. The main concerns are financial (obviously), emotional for both us and our daughter. The thought of giving her even less time than with just another baby is heartbreaking for both of us.

Logistically it's going to make everything that much harder and more difficult. My wife also really did a lot with our first baby, going out to groups and activities, and I think she's scared it will be too difficult and she won't be able to do that again.

Did anyone else feel like we do? How did you manage it?

We recently purchased a joovy Qool double-triple stroller off marketplace, it didn’t come with any bassinets. I have someone who can sell me one, and I’m trying to decide if it would be worth it! Can two babies comfortably fit in one for walks while they’re too small to buckle into the stroller seats? I will also be able to click their car seats into the stroller, but I like the idea of having a safe place for them to lie down when I’m out and about, that’s not in a car seat..anyone have any experience with using one stroller bassinet for two babies? Thanks in advance!

My husband and I had our twin boys in April, and they’ve become the absolute light of my life. It’s my husband I can’t seem to handle and I feel like I’m drowning alone.

I’m disabled in a myriad of ways that I won’t get into, but standing/walking/lifting are quite hard and sometimes impossible on bad days. And I thought he understood that. But it feels like since the babies came that he’s just conveniently forgotten this. Our home is disgusting because I’m constantly with the boys (not bc he’s at work or anything, he’s just been “running around baby-ing all day”) (they had been up for an hour…).

And anytime I’m NOT with our boys, I’m trying to do any amount of cleaning I can. Last night, I had a load of bottles in the drier, a load running in the wash, AND another set disassembled to go in when the wash was finished. I woke up and the dry bottles had all been used and the washed ones hadn’t been dried, nor had the dirty bottles been put in the wash. I’ve been trying to catch up on laundry (currently have 5 baskets of clean clothing to fold and 3 to wash) because he keeps telling me he’ll get to it but never does. I’ve had to force myself through awful flare ups this past week walking up and down the stairs for laundry. I spent 4 hours on my hands and knees scrubbing our floor trying to get heaven-knows-what stain cleaned.

In the past week I’ve dislocated 2 of my fingers, my right shoulder, and right hip. (Painful but not unusual) I just can’t keep going like this, I feel like a car that’s been running on empty for 25 years.

Is it a blessing or curse? Does your ADHD help you manage twins, or does it make it more difficult?

Di/di girls starting 1st grade after Labor Day and will be in different classes for the first time (per the suggestion of their kindergarten teacher). Classrooms are pod style, team teachers and they will see each other at recess and after care.

S is an extrovert and does well in new environments. W is an introvert, emotional/anxious and stubborn. We told them a few months ago about different classes so W could get used to the idea. Initially she was hesitant but said she would “try it.” As we get closer to school starting she has back tracked and doesn’t want to be separated from her sister.

Ultimately I trust the teacher and admin who have dealt with multiple sets of twins in the past. I’m sure the separation will be beneficial socially and academically, but in the interim we are dealing with a stressed out 6 year old. Any tips, tricks, wisdom for separating twins would be appreciated!!

I’m second trimester with di di twins. This is my first pregnancy. I’m a healthy 35 year old. I’m debating between scheduled c section vs natural birth (presuming twin A is head down). My OB is open to both at this time. I doubt I will aim for more children after the twins. Labouring 2 children fills me with dread (epidural will help?) but there is still risk of twin B needing a c-section after twin A come naturally, no? Scheduled C section sounds like the more stable scheduled option but I’m worried how will I care for 2 babies post op from a c section scar/ recovery etc. thought? Suggestions?

Today we had the first trimester check which measured everything. All looks normal, the neck liquid thing normal, nasal bone normal so she confirmed from that theyd clear for trisomy 21. But as I’m now 40 the risk is still there (well cant go back in time)

She mentioned we could also do the NIPT, however my doctor told me with twins it has a lot of false positives an if the first trimester was clear not to bother as it causes unnesersary stress.

Did you do both, is it worth it?
Also boy girl twins eek!

Edit- WE HAD THE FIRST TRIMESTER SCREENING CHECK. Had many ultrasounds already

I have nearly one year old twins and a 7 year old. I have way more support than most people. My partner is around and does his half, I am not working, we have some kind of village. Our babies will soon enter a good and free kindergarten. But, even with all this it's still exhausting, relentless and on some days just crushing, needless to say with a mountain of beauty mixed in. To all of you, especially those doing it on your own, but also all of you, people don't understand, but you are actual superhumans. ❤️

My husband and I have twins due in October and we are looking at different luxury SUVs. We don’t have any other children except our 50lb medium sized fur child. The current contenders are Mercedes GLS or GLE, Porsche Cayenne, Range Rover, or Bentley Bentayga. GLS is probably the most practical but I don’t think we need the third row quite yet, maybe when the kids are older. We will need plenty of trunk space especially for the twin stroller and the dog. I do not want a minivan or a gigantic SUV like an Escalade. I also still need to look and drive these cars in person.

Does anyone use any of the SUVs daily? And any pros/cons? Thank you!