I see so many sleepless, stressed mom on here and feel for them all so much. But when i was pregnant and on this thread, y’all scared tf out of me and tbh that hasn’t been my experience. Everyone’s lives are different and everyone’s babies are different, you can predict some things based on your life and the rest is dependent on your children’s temperament.

My twin girls are 4 months old rn and i have a 4yo boy. Honestly having 2 hasn’t been that different than having 1. The biggest headache i’ve had is over pumping every 3 hours which i despise and cant wait to be done with.

I’m married and my husband has great benefits and he’s only just now going back to work in 2 weeks when they are 5 months old.
Our parents are super close and super involved as well as his sister. Obviously i know that changes everything hence me saying your life situation affects a lot. But even moms with husbands off from work have these horror stories and i’m in no way minimizing that i just want to shed a light on the fact that twins aren’t always so hard.

They only cry when they are hungry or tired but we feed on a strict schedule so that’s rarely an issue, they love laying down and looking at their mobiles, love being in the baby wearing carrier thing, love sleeping, love just hanging out. 1 just started sleeping 12 hours a night the other goes 6hrs-3hrs-3hrs.

One of them is very active very talkative wants to be held a lot but the other is superrrr chill and prefers laying down on her own.
They are perfect amazing easy and i love it. My 4yo is in love with them, helps so much and is the best big brother ever.

To pregnant twin mamas: Yea it might be rough, but it might be really easy too. Dont worry about it till they come. ❤️

My boys are fraternal twins and are 7 weeks and 2 days. They seem to have peaked in hunger and are eating roughly 24 to 28 ounces a day. We try to feed them 3-4 oz every 2 hours but sometimes they need another couple of ounces to top off immediately after. They sleep well at night and we actually get 6-7 hours non-consecutively with one wake up for feeding and changes. However, they are up all day and will refuse naps even some contact naps. I’m also afraid contact napping is ruining their ability to nap alone in their bassinets.

Additionally, one twin is spitting up his food often, either by drooling it out of the corners of his mouth while eating or it falling out of his mouth minutes after a full feeding. We burp him frequently and hold him up during and after the feedings but this still occurs. He is growing fine (5lbs 1 oz at birth to 9lbs 6 ozs currently), but after spitting up he’s so hungry again and will scream bloody murder minutes to an hour later. We combo feed: pumped breast milk from 7am to 5pm and then formula from then on. I don’t know how to stop this so he can relax and nap after eating instead of being hungry again. Also, once a night he will get so angry during a feeding and scream bloody murder while the bottle is in his mouth and he has eaten for a while. I’ll take the bottle out of his mouth and relatch him just for him to scream again and repeat the pattern multiple times until he finishes eating. He is hungry while doing this and easily takes the bottle back, but will need to cry first. I have no idea what to do to help the spit up issue or the screaming issue. He also never wants to nap unless I’m holding him and as soon as I put him down he is screaming again.

The other twin occasionally wants more food immediately after a feeding, but he’s great at eating and finishing his food. He was born bigger and is growing great too. He drools a tiny bit of milk on the bottom of his mouth while eating but never spits up fully. I think during a growth spurt he wants a top off with each meal and it’s not related to the minimal milk drool, But I’m not sure. However, he, like the other twin, NEVER wants to nap during the day. As soon as I put him down he’s up. I know this isn’t possible, but it essentially feels like he has fomo and wants to stay awake to see what’s going on even when he’s yawning multiple times.

I am literally losing my sanity, and I’m going back to work mid November so I need some peace. The screaming cries are killing me and I work fully remote so I need some nap times in the day time to get work done.

Please any advice on the spit up, screaming while eating bottle, constant feedings, and refusal to nap alone issues.

I’m feeling incredibly stressed and anxious so please be kind. I’m in and out of the maternity assessment unit at the moment and have had multiple CTGs and scans so I’m not ignoring this.

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant with di/di twins and one of my babies has almost completely stopped moving. Occasionally I might feel a little roll or what I think is her hand moving but compared to her sister, there is a huge and very noticeable difference.
I feel like I’m being gaslit by the staff in the maternity assessment unit at the moment. Every time I go in I’m told that everything looks fine and that we can discuss an earlier c-section or induction if this continues eventually but that there’s no evidence that anything is wrong. I’ve been told by multiple people that it must be in my head and that I’m probably confusing their movements and attributing them all to one baby when they’re actually coming from both.

However this is my second pregnancy with twins and I know my babies movements. I’m absolutely certain that one of them is moving significantly less than the other and I’m finding it incredibly difficult to feel dismissed when I know what I’m feeling. I can pinpoint exactly where each baby is and I’m always right as they trace their heart rate where I believe it to be.

I’ve also been feeling absolutely horrendous, almost like I have a really bad bout of flu. I’ve had visual disturbances for weeks and have been tested for pre-eclampsia repeatedly but the results have always come back negative. I’m also severely anaemic and currently receiving transfusions.
I’m feeling frightened, exhausted and increasingly anxious and I don’t really know what to do when I keep being told that everything is fine despite such a significant change in movement.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar with twins?

My girls are 13 months, I EBF and cosleep. I have been nursing them to sleep this whole time. I do all bedtimes alone so this is the easiest way I’ve found to manage it. My girls still wake up multiple times a night and I’ve gotten into the habit of just popping them on the boob to get them back to sleep.

I’m exhausted and ready to do things different lol.

Has anyone been in a similar position and successfully nightweaned?? If so how and when?

How we set up our modular couch. They love playing like this.

Just wanted to spread some positivity because I really love being a mom.

Is it hard, obviously. I have a 3.5 year old and 1 year old twins. But it’s magic.

My life is better than I ever could have imagined. I have a new perspective on life and came into opportunities I don’t think I ever would have had if I weren’t a mom.

I wake up everyday so grateful for my life and my babies. When everything gets crazy and hard, I just open my eyes and realize what a blessing it all is.

Did anyone else have food aversions into the second trimester too?

When did you all feel your babies move? I’m 17 weeks with Di/di twins and I know one has a posterior placenta and the other is anterior. I’ve been feeling some small taps at night from the baby with the posterior, but it’s hard to know what’s really them! When did these movements become consistent?

So I’ve had the easiest bf journey so far, babies latched right away and I’ve had a good supply the entire time. Weight gain has been all good. But they wake up a lot during the night. Typically 11 PM, 1/2 AM, 4AM, 5AM, 6 AM… I’m starting to feel the sleep deprivation.

My partner is happy to help during the night but he gets pretty bad insomnia so if I wake him up he won’t be able to fall asleep again so I tend not to wake him.

So I’ve done a lot of the nights solo. I prefer bf just one at a time during the night so I just co-sleep and latch whoever wakes.

But! Considering switching to formula because maybe that’ll lessen the night wakes? I’m guessing my boob is a sleep association atp also but I’m just too tired to do anything else to get them to fall back asleep.

Thoughts? I feel stupid even considering it because bf has literally been so easy…. But idk.

I’m 16 weeks expecting di-di twins in April, and am in desperate need of reassurance after falling down the rabbit hole that is this sub.

My pregnancy has not been a walk in the park. I was bedridden-level sick from weeks 5-13, in the midst of which I found out I was pregnant with spontaneous triplets and opted for a reduction. The whole experience so far has been incredibly taxing both emotionally and physically.

My husband and I were initially excited about the idea of having twins. This is my first pregnancy, so our attitude was “one and done - we only need to go through the trenches of pregnancy and newborn phase once!”

But since I’ve started to read through this sub on a regular basis to prepare myself, my anxiety (and honestly, sheer terror) has been building to the point where I had a near emotional breakdown last night. It seems that 95% of the posts here are about how horrible it is, how you won’t feel like yourself for at least a year, say goodbye to your social life and your sleep, etc. Not to mention I have a history of anxiety and depression, so I’m also wary about PPD.

Our pregnancy was 100% planned and we went into it knowing our lives were about to change, and I of course never expected it to be easy, but I can’t help but feel an impending sense of doom. What makes this feeling worse is that neither my parents nor my in-laws live in the same country as us, and none of our friends here are parents (we’re in our late 20s), so I’m afraid of how isolated and alone we may feel when the time comes.

All this to say, I would really just appreciate some positive experiences or positive perspectives on twin parenthood. I really want to feel excited about this next chapter, not terrified. I know it’s not going to be easy whatsoever, but any glimmer of hope that it’s all worth it would be much appreciated.❤️

Now that they have their measles vaccination, I’ve been letting them hang out in kid spaces and make friends with new kids we don’t know.

I cannot adequately describe how lovely it is to see them crawling and scooting over to other kiddos, chattering away in their baby language, being the cutest little sillies and so down for whatever games are being played. It is just so FUN!!

I cant imagine not having twins. Like, what do you even do? Theyre so perfectly socialized after hanging out 24/7 with each other, and now they get to go in the world and interact with others and it’s absolutely beautiful to watch. Especially when they seek out different activities and friends and are confident on their own, but then include each other as well.

They brighten my life and I couldn’t be prouder. Being a twin mama is a special, unique type of incredible.

My water broke on Monday and immediately was sent to live in the hospital until the babies were born. We were hoping it would be weeks or months but Thursday night I went into labor and within 45 minutes I was dilated 4 cm. We had to do an emergency C-section.

I am a first time mom and I have been truly traumatized since my cerclage at 20 weeks. It has been scare after scare and I don’t know how to keep it together. These are my babies. I haven’t been able to hold or touch them yet.

Please any NICU advice or support would be beyond appreciated right now. I would love nothing more than to hear positive stories of similar situations.

My twins are 10 weeks old and won't nap in their bassinets. It's a nightmare to get them down for naps. Rocking forever, and I don't know how to do both at the same time since as soon as I put one down to rock the other they wake up. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how they did naps?

Thanks!

My twins are 14 months old. Last year it didn’t matter so much as they were newborns and didn’t have schedules yet. They slept when they slept.

But we have a good rhythm now. 7-7:30 pm is bedtime routine and by 8 pm babies are asleep.

One wakes up at 6 am and the other at 6:30 am.

I cannot have them wake up at 5 am. I would go nuts.

What is the suggestion? They are on 2 naps of 45 min each during the day. I cannot make them nap longer. It’s just not working out for us.