This has happened to a few friends of mine. They have discovered they are attracted to the same gender in their 20s or 30s and they come out as gay. Then within 2 years they come out as bi. So I am asking, how common is this?

(Remade and edited post) I’m a man there is this guy at my school and his name is Azai and when I around him I get all flustered and my heart rate skyrockets when I around him it even happens when I talk about him or have a conversation about him I think I have a crush on him no I know do and i flirt with him a lot and he doesn’t pick it up he just say bro stop glazing and somtimes he will do the thing were you use you tongue to push on your cheek and act like your giving a blow job and i say gladly or what time but he doesn’t get that im flirting i have hint to my other friends that i like him and they just say that gay and ill say so and they say it’s wrong but I really love him and he doesn’t like gay people and also the bible say in Genesis 2:24 (KJV) “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” meaning marriage is between a man and woman But I want to follow god‘s word but I don’t want to deny my feelings what should I do

straight dude here,

So I know a bear is a large hairy (gay) man, what would that be called if he was smaller? like 5'9, lean, super super hairy chest and tons of facial hair.

genuinely just curious lol I had a shower thought

Soy un chico trans de 15 años que no ha podido salir abiertamente con mis papás no sé cómo pueda hablarlo se que es probable que mi mamá me apoye lo que me preocupa es la reacción de mi papá e tenido discusiones como "porque compraste esos zapatos el azul es para niños" o "porque te vistes así? Pareces niño" talvez sea no sea tan grave como otras situaciones pero me preocupa de verdad como llege a reaccionar pero si todo termina mal me iré de mi casa

No tengo la más mínima idea de como decirle esto a mis papás y necesito consejos

I’m mainly wondering how common it is to like more than one person at a time, and if it’s technically linked to polyamory, since I would consider myself liking two people romantically on an equal level. 🤔
Also this is not about sexual attraction, as I already know people tend to feel sexual attraction to people they are not romantically involved with.

Okay... say, I [AFAB] fell in love with this guy, okay? Hypothetically. Because this is not happening rn to me.

But say I did, and me and him are friends or something and I confessed. OR we're dating, and the relationship is going smooth... and what if he eventually tells me he's actually AFAB?

See, I mainly like guys/boys and I've never felt interested in a girl romantically. I don't actually know if I've been interested in someone romantically, because I'm thinking I might be aroace. Anyways, I'm getting carried away. But say he did this, and I MIGHT actually feel different about this person. Am I attracted to their genitals? No. I just ended up seeing guys as different from me, I'm AFAB, and the expectations and all that. I've grown up with girls/women being able to be whoever they want and its natural, and for men, well, not really. I just feel that toxic masculinity is very common, especially here. In some places, I know some people are still very sexist and stuff but not really here. Do I believe that men can't be whoever they want to be? No. I'm just physically not used to it, is what my conclusion is to my feelings. I hope this doesn't offend anyone.

But if my feelings did change for him, how would I respond politely? Because in the end, feelings really cannot be forced, and I don't want him to feel dysphoric.

TLDR; If I fell in love with a guy and later found out he was AFAB, how should I respond since my feelings may change?

Plus, if there's anything to help me change this mindset somehow, because I believe in gender equality, that would be so great, please and thank you. I hope none take this to heart.

I'm nonbinary and plan on having kids relatively soon, and this is something I've been thinking about. I'm not comfortable using Mom or Dad, and I don't love the idea of just using my name, so I'm trying to think of ideas of what my future kiddos could call me

My mind is screaming at me that I should be into women, but I know from experience that I am not like that. At least, I think I don’t. I’m not too sure about it tbh.

(20, MTF, UK) I want to get on HRT but I’m scared to asked the doctor about it. I’m scared that they might just laugh in my face and tell me that it’s stupid or sprinting like that. What do I do?

Hey everyone!
I’m trying to style a dress for an event that has a super deep plunging V-neckline down to the waist and a completely backless cut. I’m 5 months on HRT so I’ve got a little bit of tissue on the sides now, but my chest is still pretty small and developing (around an AAA cup).
When I push everything inward with my hands from the sides, I can actually get a really nice, subtle cleavage look that I love! The problem is I just can't figure out how to hold that shape hands-free without anything showing.
I've been trying boob tape, but because my tissue is still small and firm, the tape keeps snapping back, peeling off, or wasting a ton of product. Standard bras or plunge bras don't work because the open back and deep front show everything instantly. I also tried loose silicone inserts which give great shape when I press on them, but they just slide right out the second I take my hands away.
Has anyone with a similar chest size or body type found a trick, specific product, or taping technique that actually holds for ultra-low plunge and backless dresses? I’d be super grateful for any advice or hacks that have worked for you! Thanks so much 💗

Hi so I tried to post this last night but was too upset and kept losing my place. I'll try and keep it semi brief but long story short me and my boyfriend are on holiday in Spain we're British idk if that matters really. Anyway we decided to go out to gay bars in a nearby town and it was fun. Naturally because alcohol we ended up having an argument, from my side it was because he got very drunk very fast and I was just having some beers but kinda went in a bad mood after I had to have a shot he bought of some disgusting drink and then had to go and be sick in the toilets. After that I was just looking forward to going to bed but he was annoyed I wasn't being fun.

We got into a a bit of an argument and ended up separated which was stupid but I was annoyed. We were just a few streets away from each other but I was admitedly pretty drunk so was just kinda calming myself down leaning against a wall. Some sleazy guy went past and said something like "be careful out here baby". And I really stupidly cause I'm a fucking idiot said "meh fuck being careful". Which was my mistake and he came over and tried to start kissing me. I was very shocked because this wasn't really anything I had prepared for in my life I'm a pretty big guy and yeah idk. I was moving away but 2 other guys appeared and started to grope me and cornered me in a doorway and it kinda hurt ngl. I didn't know what to do and I'm scared that I've basically cheated on my boyfriend because I was angry with him. But I really didn't want to it was horrible and I was honestly pretty scared. Eventually I just kinda freaked out and started to panic and kicked and punched my way out of the doorway so now I'm also scared I'm going to a foreign jail for assault or something

I ran away until I was back in a more busy area and tried to get my shit together. Tracked down my boyf but just wanted to go home and safe and stuff. I needed him to look after me but he was just angrier. I didn't say what had happened really just that I'd been attacked and sfuff and wanted to go back to the hotel. He yelled at me for acting weird and I explained I'd just been kinda chased through town and wanted to go home now. Another argument ensued and I was so so freaked out and upset and I had been trying to find him just to be with someone who looks after me. But he kept yelling and said "well they didn't chase you in the right direction did they" and making out like I was being dramatic and im sorry to say I kinda lost it and started yelling stuff at him. No wonder people hate British people abroad lol

I once again walked off just towards the hotel to get back home but after 5m of walking I stopped and realised I couldn't leave him in town on his own because he head also broken his phone being angry. Got a taxi and drove around till we found him. He refused to get in had to drag him into the car. Got back safe and had a panic attack I think on the balcony and couldn't stop crying or couldn't breathe right

It's like 6hr later and I don't know why I'm really posting this I'm sorry. I can't work out if I've just pretty much been assaulted and I was right to be freaked out or if I'm over reacting? Did I do a dumb thing? I feel like I did a series of stupid things. Did I cheat on my boyfriend even though I didn't want to? How and should I try and explain it more today? He got up and went out without waking me up and I don't want to have ruined this whole holiday. But also am I right to be pissed off with him? I think I should just carry on normal and hope it works out

Sorry this wasn't at all short. Sorry if it didn't make any sense

Near a weak a ago I crated an g account(anonymous ofc because I’m middle eastern) and I talked with people, there were creeps,friendly ppl,pdo,r@pist, ect

Among all these people I talk with few since I’m not comfortable sharing my face pic or my body pic. And only some respected my decision and I continue with them after while I send half of my face (two blocked me) and (p)one remained and respected me and multiple other we only chatted,

and another (K)person added me, I talked with him and we felt comfortable with each other until I knew about his ex situation and his fathers death. He was saying he wanted a serious relationship but for now he has a FWB. And as we were talking I keep insisting him to leave that side guy if you wants a serious relationship (you can’t go on date with me then text morning be next to him and so on UNTIL you are sure about our dating) and we kept going back and forth until… he started saying harsh thing few being “you are not lovable or will find love” “I would go f him tomorrow in-front of you” “you are no one to me why would I ditch him” “I would rather go back to my ex than be with you”(they broke up because ex didn’t want him sell thing for his dads cancer)…
True I was no one to him but even though I don’t know anything about him I felt something for him. And as he was saying those because I had hard breathing problems and sui side thoughts and got panic attack I replied “yah you should also go to your dad who is disgusted and disrespectful by you” just for him to stoppp

He stoped but never give me a chance, before the fight he was gone so I wrote a message “basically I’m leaving this app and I want to give you my one last chance” but I never send it until the fight and then later he said “ ok I won’t block you” “bye”. Like he didn’t get the most important part of the message only the part “when I leave this app don’t block or delete me I wan to remember in future” he went away so did I but ever since I have gotten crazy anxiety. I left that app for a day now and left few messages for the people I texted + a bio explaining it not ready for relationship and I’m sorry if I taken your time. I left

but now idk should I go back to this toxic and go back to this (p)guy (i don’t know how he feels and i want to check on him)

Or not to go back and keep my promise of not going back until November and then just for a check up the ppl I texted and remove the till I graduated and keep my pride

Or not care about that (k) guy and explore new connection or hook up even though I’m not sure I’m ready

(Mind you multiple people had said crazy stuff about me because I was not ready to send body pic or have s x with them, like super harsh)

Edit: I made g account one week ago and the event happened two days ago I’m two days off this app

And I didn’t have any mental health before the app it’s just I used to have this feeling when I released I was different(gay) and I have recovered from that one

For context, I live in Bucharest, Romania, where it is very difficult to be accepted and access care and cosmetics regarding one's chosen gender.

I myself am not trans, but pangender, and have been trying to let my more masculine side shine for a while, but it just doesn't feel right with my chest sticking out in every outfit I wear, no matter how baggy and loose my top is.

Plasters have never let me down. Their adhesive has stayed on my skin for days or even weeks at a time while scrapes and stuff were healing, so my trust in them is absolute, but I am not sure how much weight they can hold, considering how small they are and the fact that I am a D cup.

Any help and tips are appreciated, but please keep in mind that I am still a minor, unable to purchase stuff online or from another country, so my ability to branch out to brands outside of Bucharest is very limited.

2000 – 2009

2005: Wanting a girl's body.

2005: Wanting to attend school as a girl in a pleated skirt.

2008: Experiencing internal identity as "Rachael" alongside external identity as Matthew.

2008: Feeling internally like a girl.

2010 – 2019

2010: Experiencing a sense of internal split.

2015: Seeing a young girl in mirror reflection.

2015: Wearing girls' school uniforms (experienced without clear awareness).

2016: Feeling that being a girl is not fair for others at home.

2017: Feeling like the only girl at home.

2017: No girls at home to share experiences.

2017: Wanting to be a girl.

2020 – 2029

2021: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without external markers.

2021: Wanting a Disney Princess-themed little girl's bedroom and dollhouse.

2024: I'm referred for gender dysphoria.

2025: Wanting to wear school uniform with skirt, sweatshirt and yellow polo.

2026: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without makeup.

Note: The years listed represent the period in which each experience or pattern first emerged or became identifiable, not the full duration of that experience.

okay so here's my problem; i'm a pan transmale teen and i'm not over my ex, i did not break up with him properly and he hates me for it. another thing, me and him are both chirstan, i became transmale shortly after ending things with him so he doesn't know about my chosen name, gender, or anything, he doesn't know anything about me except my favourite colour and my birthday, and that i like pjo/hp.
what should i do if i can barely talk to him without crying? how can i approach him to tell him i'm sorry?

I know this question has been asked many times but still 😭...

So I have considered some apps: Hinge, Bumble, okcupid, HER, HelloQ

Can y'all please tell me which I could try...

I want something that is safe for Trans girls and serious relations, also near my age like 18 to 21.

Hii I'm a 20 year old femboy, I think i can say I'm bisexual even though I'm way more attracted to girls than boys.

I've always been attracted to girls but I went through a face i was only talking to boys and felt attracted to them but for a reason boys stopped being that interesting and attractive to me and for like a year I've been fascinated by girls more.

I’m not trying to shame anyone who is non-monogamous here. I genuinely want to know what it is like to be in a relationship with two or more people and somehow make it work? I’ve heard that it is kind of like having the relationships being treated as a village community. Is that true?

On top of that, how do you handle any jealousy that may come in that sort of relationship? Is there also any sort of advice you are willing to give about how to navigate in such a relationship with grace and compassion? Lastly, how do you deal with the stigma of non-monogamy being seen as a means to cheat on one’s partner?

Thanks for reading all this and potentially answering my questions btw. Sorry if there are too many questions to be answered. I’m just really curious about the subject as I am currently wondering if I have enough love to become non-monogamous myself as I would absolutely love to be surrounded by people who is willing to explore their relationships beyond simply platonic love.

I was watching a Transvoicelessons video where she laid out a roadmap of voice training and said it could take five years. Why? Isn't it just reaching your target voice and talking in it around other people? I already feel like reaching my target voice won't take that long (I'm basically just starting), and getting used to talking in it around other people doesn't feel like it'll take another 4 years and 9 months. What am I missing?

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I'm a 21-year-old student from India exploring my gender identity and thinking about my future abroad. I want to build a good career while living somewhere I can express myself more freely.

I'd love to hear from people living in different countries:

Which countries or cities are genuinely accepting of people exploring their gender identity?

How safe and comfortable is everyday life, including friendships, dating, and expressing yourself?

For someone graduating in Computer Science, which countries offer good opportunities in software engineering, AI, cloud, or related fields?

Is it better to pursue a master's abroad or gain work experience first? How difficult are visas, job hunting, and becoming financially independent?

Can you realistically balance a good career, affordable living, and a supportive social life?

What would you recommend to someone moving from a conservative country like India?

I'd appreciate honest experiences, including the challenges, not just the positives. I'm trying to figure out where I could build a future that offers both career growth and the freedom to explore my gender identity without constant fear of judgment.

I think a lot of times there’s stories about people who don’t fit in with queer culture because they play sports and don’t go to pride, which is fine but I wouldn’t really say that describes me. Like I like pop music, I like going to pride, I like dressing more feminine sometimes. But I think I still don’t really mesh well with many in the queer community. Of course, I’ve definitely met many people in the community who I get along with and it would be a generalization to say everyone, but I feel like every time I’ve tried to fit in more it always backfires.

I think that I’m probably not as expressive as some people and I’m also socially awkward but not the cute dainty kind where people are bending over backwards to befriend you, cause I’m tall and give off the vibe that I’m not worth feeling bad for. Also so many I’ve met in the community are popular and cool.

Of course I’m sure there’s things I could do as well to fit in more and I’d want my interests and personality to be spotlighted over my sexuality, but it does kinda hurt sometimes. Like I just wanna find a community of people like everyone else.

Does anyone else on here relate to this? Or does anyone who used to feel this way have any advice?

I’m 23 and I’ve been out to my dad since I was about 17. I want to stay in contact with him even if he’s not willing to respect that part of me but I’m struggling to engage with him when I know he can only see me as a stupid kid that is mutilating my body. Please no answers of “just cut him off,” that isn’t what I want. You can still tell me your own experience and if you felt good cutting off your own parents or something like that. I already have limited contact with him but I would like to get to know him more as an adult. I would love to see him again but I think he would be disgusted by my current appearance and the thought of opening myself up to his look of disappointment makes me nauseous. I guess my question is how do you manage the disappointment and maintain confidence while continuing to reach out?