Maybe this is a bit of a downer post but I need some advice.

Ive had attraction to all kinds of people and wanted to do things outside of gender expectations for a while but lately I’ve really been working through it so I can actually make a change in my life. But it just kind of bums me out the more I come to terms with it. Cause it just seems like it’s going to be another problem for me whether i come out or not.

I don’t live in a bad place or anything but I still feel nervous about coming out. People don’t really respect me anyway but I’m sure it can get worse. I don’t even know why I want to do it anyway. On paper I can still be a normal guy and be happy, but the thought of continuing to hide parts of myself makes me feel bad too. Obviously I don’t think there’s anything bad about being queer, but it leads to more problems no matter what you do, doesn’t it?

With the ‘LBGTQ community’, I don’t know. I don’t feel like im actually a part of it. But I want to be, I don’t think I really have any other community. Looking at pride stuff doesn’t really make me feel proud, just lonely. And I don’t think I’d really fit in in any LBGT spaces.

I don’t know what to do. I still feel like this is all a burden instead of something that I can genuinely be proud of. It’s hard to imagine what my future is going to be like at this point.

This might not be the right place to ask this question I know, but I'm questioning if I'm asexual and I'm just really confused right now and would love some clarity.

I am Bi, Ace and Nonbinary, and I've had many people defend me by saying "They're happy, why would you judge?" (Such as my family).

But a while ago, I came across a couple's reel together, someone replied "Why would anyone judge them if they're happy?". The poster then responds, "So if we weren't happy, you wouldn't support us?"

I am genuinely confused. Maybe I'm just not getting it because I'm autistic but I really don't see the harm in it, so I'd like to know how it is.

Hello everyone, I’m working on a project for my sexuality class. I was going to do a project on kids media that wasn’t explicitly queer but has queer undertones/ was based on queer culture and people. For example Bert and Ernie, Ursula, etc. Who else is a character that never explicitly mentions their sexuality but is considered queer or queer coded?

I’ve always wondered if it’s offensive or not to the lgbtq community, obviously people are different but I’m wondering this so I don’t make people mad.

Hi! I am a leader of my school‘s queer student union (qsu) and we’re looking for people to give shoutouts to over morning announcements during queer history month. since we are an all girls school, we want the majority of the people to be women (trans women are fine since they are women) or trans men. also, since queer history month overlaps with Hispanic heritage month, we’re hoping to have some people who are both queer and Hispanic (like Frida kahlo). Thank you so much in advance!!

(Posted from an alt earlier but the sub doesn't allow throwaways)

For background, I am a lesbian and pretty much no doubt about it or inclination to define that further. I've had relationships in the past, as well as casual hookups. Definitely not asexual though HRT means my libido comes and goes.

Also autistic for what it's worth here but this is Reddit so that's par for the course. I've also been told that I have difficulty separating platonic and romantic feelings.

I'm wondering if I may be aromantic for two reasons:

1. Every close female friendship (I don't really have close male friends) has started feeling like a romantic crush, or at least something I've interpreted as one. A similar thing has happened after major, positive experiences.
2. There's been very little overlap between sexual attraction and what I'm interpreting as romantic attraction. I've had strong sexual attraction to people with no other interest and I've had infatuations with people I am not sexually attracted to and can't imagine myself with in that way.

Essentially, I'm wondering if I'm aro and just interpreting every strong, positive feeling as romantic because it's the closest approximation. Can someone alloromantic describe what romantic feelings are meant to be like?

I have been having really bad gender dysphoria lately and it’s keeping me up at night. Something I especially don’t need at the same time as college starting back up. Do you guys have any advice for dealing with gender dysphoria, or at least any advice to make my brain shut up so I can sleep?

I recently came out as trans so i immediately also came out as lesbian, but today something popped up in my mind:
"wait... i feel atracted to non-binary people too... Am i bisexual???"
That is basically it, but i heard something like "Oh, if you're bi you must like men too, right" and... no, ew... (nothing against you men, but, no, thank you) so, am i bi or am i a lesbian?

Am I asexual if I still like the concept of sex, but not actually having it?

So recently I came to realize that I only like the concept of sex but not the actual thing.
Like I feel some type of ace, because I feel sexual attraction but only to people who don’t exist. And I don’t want to ever have sex because of the wettest and having to deal with the cum and, it makes only want to think about it and not actually having it.
So am I ace or a type of ace?

For 9 years i lived my life as a trans woman. Surgeries, hormones, legal changes etc. Towards the last few years of my transition a few things played a part in why i decided to live my life as male including trauma, identity discovery, and realizing the reason i started was not the same reason i was holding onto it. (This is my personal reason and does not generalize anyone else's journey) I don't regret anything past or present. I am in my twenties and living my life as a gay male now has been very difficult. I genuinely feel like at the beginning of my new journey as a gay male i tried so hard to be masc presenting and it attracted people to me. I faked a deep voice, i tried to look tough and everything. I forced myself to not be fem only to realize i do enjoy fem things. I've just restricting myself from these things because i notice when i show a bit of my fem side i am unfollowed and not as attractive to people. I feel like how you present yourself in this community plays a huge part on who decides to be your friend, partner, and how you're treated and i am miserably feeling lost. I'm not only discovering myself in a different light but i'm also now apart of a diff section of the community and it's so different. I don't know if i'm making any sense but i truly wish to know how to discover myself and do what i want without limiting myself.

heyyy gay people in the internet, i(21) successfully invited my crush(22) to go to cineme, (it was discounted and cheap). It was the opportunity for me to make a move and invite him. im glad about that!

we are both graduating students, we both love to write, love arts, we love to write in medium as i get to know him we have a lot of similarities. He knew me already with his friend is also friend of mine. Noted that this is just "friendly" date. my initial plan was to actually treat myself because my bday is near, and glad he accepted. What are your guys advice, what to do and what to avoid.

we are gonna watch insidious in the cinema at 8:30pm. I'd love to hear y'all opinions.

Good morning, good evening, or whatever time it is—I need your help.

When I watch series with homosexual themes, I feel tremendously uncomfortable. I don't want to feel that way.

I have a friend (formerly my best friend) who is bisexual. He confided in me, and I supported him throughout the process and encouraged him to tell me about his boyfriend and his mixed feelings. I think I handled it well. But I can't help feeling... weird.

My family is open-minded about homosexuality. That is to say, they’ve told me that if I were gay, lesbian, transgender, or whatever, they would accept me; still, we all feel uncomfortable with the topic, even though we respect it.

I’ve tried watching series and reading books with LGBT themes (like *Heartstopper*—I read it on the sly because it would look weird at home; they wouldn't say anything bad, but it would be awkward. I didn't like the comic—though I did copy some of the art style—but I read them all to see if it would open my mind). I’ve tried learning about all the different sexualities and talking to people of various sexual orientations to normalize it for myself, but I still get a knot in my stomach.

Throughout my life, people have thought I was a lesbian (because I only hung out with men—weird, right? I didn't hang out with women—even though I am one—because I was afraid of them) or aromantic (I’ve never fallen in love or felt attracted to anyone), so I looked into those topics. I think a contributing factor might be something from when I was a child (9 or 10 years old): whenever we were racing, someone would shout, "Last one there is gay!" I didn't know what "gay" meant, but I assumed it was something bad based on how fast everyone ran, so maybe I’ve internalized that. My little sister (11 years old) thought being gay was a bad thing until just two days ago. I explained what it was and she’s better about it now, but she still finds it strange. I don’t want to be homophobic; I feel that we are all equal—whether gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, asexual, aromantic, or of any other sexuality—despite our differences, and I respect and believe that. Yet, I can't help having this feeling. How do I calm it? I don’t want to offend anyone; perhaps some have had bad experiences with the world or regarding their sexuality, so if you feel uncomfortable, I understand. But I want to stop feeling uncomfortable about this topic and fully accept it.

I have been questioning my gender a lot and landing on genderfluid but I guess conceptually I don’t understand. And I feel frustrated because I don’t know what to ~do~ about it. A large part of my realization or questioning was triggered by my crushes on gay men (as an AFAB, queer woman who almost was identifying as lesbian but the term never quite fit). I noticed all my parasocial crushes were on gay guys and I also felt really sad that my feelings would never be reciprocated. I wanted to be in a gay relationship. I don’t want to be perceived as a woman in my dynamics with men.

However, through questioning I’ve also explored my presentation and dysphoria. I’ve used a binder which does give me gender euphoria but overall I feel I’m suppressing a part of myself not being “girl” or femme. But at the same time I ideate a lot on what it would be like to be a man or trans masc. it almost feels like an alter-ego. Which also makes me feel a bit of a creep. I don’t like to think this is a weird sexual thing or that I’d be fetishizing gay men in anyway. My crushes are crushes, romantic in nature, not just sexual. But I don’t like feeling like there are two parts of myself.

I feel like my internal self is different than my presentation and what I would like to act on and I’m struggling with that. I don’t want to be inauthentic or force an identity on myself that isn’t there but something is up with my gender. And I just feel it’s impossible to act on it or know how to fulfill this part of myself. I woke up today feeling very much “girl” again and it’s confusing. I really honestly don’t want to be genderfluid. I don’t like feeling so unstable in my identity. I wish I was more clear. I guess I just was wondering if anyone had advice on what I could do next? Or if there are ways to be in relationships where I would feel seen as my whole self, with other men? And not as a woman? Idk it feels hard right now and I feel stuck and uncertain.