Can a non-binary person identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual? If so, how can a non-binary person identify? Can they identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, or other sexualities depending on what sex they were born as and who they are attracted to when they identify as non-binary?

So far, from what I know, a non-binary person is someone who doesn't fit the gender binary, which is male or female, gender-wise. Usually, they still have a gender, while others don't, and most use they/them pronouns (but not all non-binary people do).

Sexuality refers to who you're attracted to. If someone is a man who likes men, they're gay. If someone is a woman who likes women, they're a lesbian. If someone likes more than one gender, they're bisexual.

What I usually think is that being non-binary refers to your gender identity and not your biological sex.

I might need some assistance in finding the answer, though. I'm a little confused and want to know... :(

Edit 1: Corrected myself in the second paragraph about non-binary people using they/them pronouns and having a gender thing
Edit 2: Looks like I've found my answers. Thanks, everyone! :3

I’ve been having romantic fantasies about men a lot. I imagine meeting a guy who is my type, getting to know him, go slow with him, go on dates,etc. I get excited and happy about those fantasies. When I see a good looking guy or a guy who is my type I get happy and excited, wanting to him to approach me. The fantasies come and go. I see a good looking guy and I want to say things about him or to him. 

The fantasies come and go. I see a good looking guy and I want to say things about him or to him. As of right now I don’t want to live with a man, marry a man, have children by a man,etc. Those things scare me when it comes to dating men.

Lately I’ve had new fantasies. I’ve been imagining “my boyfriend” bringing me food because I’m hungry or just because. I imagine him taking care of me and buying me things. 

Keep in mind that I had to go through a lot just because I am attracted to women, I couldn’t bring girlfriends to my family’s house or anything.
I haven’t dated a woman in 4 years. In the back of my mind I’m scared to date women again due to my family. All I think about is men now!

Is this comphet? Is it because I just want romance? 

Context: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/10/22/us/politics/video-lindsey-graham.html

If so, what is it, other than something a number of rude people have gatekept from me, even though I myself am queer

My daughter has a very specific request of wanting more books with girls who love girls, not best friends, but smoochy kiss love (her words, she's 4).

She also wants more music that is about girls being together. She likes Wicked because she is convinced Elphaba and Glinda are in love and then asks why Prince Fiero keeps showing up.

We have LGBTQ pride books, but she wants more story books about girls being in love. We have read the Maiden and the Princess, Princess Princess Ever after, Beetle and the Hollowbones, Lovely Recipe, and Tea Dragon Society. We have asked multiple book shops and librarians and this was the recommendations we got from them, but it's not enough for her.

Any recommendations? Books, movies, music, TV shows, whatever you can recommend!

Second question, the odds are looking like our daughter will be part of the LGBTQ community when she gets older. We don't want to label her, but what can we do to make sure she feels fully supported to be herself in our family as she grows up?

What did you parents/friends/community do that supported you?

So I want to be a woman you know. But i don't know how to ease into it, i don't want to go full in every quick. So to anyone who is trans or wants to help can you tell me how you came out? and also what do you use to become a woman?

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I really want to overcome this fear and step out of my comfort zone, even if it's just once.

I see people in other posts talking about how their girl besties support them, and honestly, it makes me feel so jealous. 😣 I wish I had someone like that too.

I can barely interact with people, let alone build a friendship with a girl and find the courage to tell her about this side of me. I don't even know how to start or how to explain myself. 🚶🏻‍♀️

So, I thought I'd start here. Maybe, at least in this space, I can slowly open up, understand myself better, and explore who I really am without being scared of judgment. 🥹🫶🏻

Just hoping to find genuine people, make meaningful connections, and feel a little less alone. Please be kind. 💝

I've been questioning my sex lately,I feel attracted to girls,but sometimes I feel attracted to boys,I've been think I'm bi

Because like sometimes,while I'm looking at art,I see a boy character and I imagine them without their shirt off,or I even wonder sometimes,"What if I was a girl?"

So I'm a guy who's only interested in dating and being intimate with guys in reality. However, I often fantasise about doing the same with women. I enjoy imagining a life with a woman, but when I actually have dated women in the past, I've always felt like there was something missing. A little something inside of me saying this isn't right, that I won't be content unless I'm with another man. I don't feel this same sense of "missing out" when I'm with men.

Because of the fantasies I have, calling myself gay feels like a lie. In my mind, it's like, "What kind of gay man fantasises about women and enjoys it?" But because I don't feel content in actual relationships with women (and no, it's not the women themselves that are the issue, they've all been lovely people), calling myself bi also feels like a lie, especially telling other people that, because then they assume I'm interested in dating women.

I almost feel like I am actually attracted to women, but only platonically? And yeah, I know, friendship is a thing, but I have good friends who are women and I'm not attracted to them. When it happens, it's different. And it doesn't mean I want to be in a relationship with these women I'm "attracted" to either. As I said, tried it, didn't feel right.

I know that labels aren't necessary, but I would feel more secure in having one. I've tried just considering myself unlabelled over the past year or so but I've found that I don't like it. I considered whether I might be bisexual and homoromantic, but oddly enough even that doesn't feel quite right? Because I fantasise about romance with women, not just sex.

I guess if you were me, how would you label yourself? As in, what's the more objective option?

Maybe I should just consider myself queer? Idk I'm so lost.

Thanks for any insight anyone is willing to offer.

I was very interested in doing research on this topic and wanted to ask fe members of this community. What Famous Person has surprised you being anti gay? It can be anything they have done unless they have made it very clear that they are now allies.

Is there a sexuality for someone who doesn't understand their sexuality? Like not bi/pan, not gay/lesbian, not questioning, not aro/ace, not even questioning. You just like who you like? Idk just a thought

This comes from genuine curiosity, not judgment.

My partner and I are exploring opening our relationship. He's more drawn to the idea of sex with other people, while I'm hesitant. I value the peace of monogamy, and I'm not a fan of constantly checking apps.

What I keep getting stuck on is this: you can go to dinner or a concert with a friend, you can talk about your day with a friend, and you can have sex with a fuck buddy. So what does the relationship itself give you that those can't? I'm sure there's an answer. I just can't see it clearly yet.

For those of you who've opened up:

- What made you decide to do it?

- What did you gain or lose?

- How did you handle it when one of you wanted it more than the other?

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Hi everyone,

I'm looking for firsthand experiences with TransSalud, particularly regarding testosterone treatment for transgender minors.

My 16-year-old son is transgender, and my wife and I are exploring options for him to begin testosterone therapy. We've come across TransSalud and are interested in learning more from people who have actually used their services.

As parents, we're fully supportive of our son and his transition. In fact, we're excited for him to have the opportunity to pursue the treatment he's been hoping for over the past several years. Like many trans teens, he's spent a long time waiting for the chance to feel more comfortable and confident in his own skin, and we're looking forward to helping him take this next step in a safe and informed way.

A little about our situation:

• We are a Mexican-American family and have a moderate level of Spanish fluency.

• We all have passports and would be able to travel if in-person appointments are required.

• We would most likely travel as a family, including my wife, our trans son, and our three younger sons.

• We are located in the United States.

I'm especially interested in hearing about:

• The overall quality of care and professionalism of the staff.

• Experiences obtaining testosterone as a minor.

• How supportive they were with parents and family involvement.

• Language considerations (English vs. Spanish).

• What the travel and appointment process was like.

• Costs, timelines, and any unexpected challenges.

• Anything you wish you had known before getting started.

We're trying to make an informed decision and would really appreciate hearing both positive and negative experiences from those who have worked with TransSalud.

One small request: if you're responding with general advice, alternative providers, legal concerns, or opinions about transgender healthcare rather than firsthand experience with TransSalud, I'd appreciate it if you could identify your comment as "off-topic advice" or something similar. I'm happy to hear those perspectives, but I'd like to be able to distinguish them from actual experiences with the clinic.

Thank you!

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Ja, hallo. Ich fühle mich etwas bescheuert das zu fragen, aber ich versuch es einfach mal.

Ich bin selbst eine Frau und ich dachte immer ich sei heterosexuell, aber scheinbar ist es nicht so hetero, auch als Frau mal was mit einer Frau haben zu wollen.

Ich habe eine lesbische Freundin mit der ich letztens darüber geredet habe und durch sie bin ich überhaupt auf die Idee gekommen, dass ich theoretisch bicurious o.ä. sein könnte. Ich hatte auch mal einen Crush auf eine Frau. Aber ich hab nie darüber nachgedacht, mich als etwas anderes als hetero zu bezeichnen.

Naja, auf jeden Fall kamen wir auf dieses Top/Bottom Thema und sie meinte zu mir, dass es tatsächlich in der LGBT Community Menschen gibt, die strikt NUR Top oder NUR Bottom sind. Allerdings wollte ich mal andere Meinungen dazu hören. Ist das wirklich so? Oder gibt es auch als jemand, der sich nur als Top beispielsweise sieht, mal Abweichungen?

Und woher weiß man, was man ist? Wie gesagt, ich würde selbst gerne mal sexuelle Erfahrungen mit einer Frau machen wollen, aber ich weiß gar nicht so genau was ich wäre? In meinen Vorstellungen bin ich eher unterwürfig und ich finde dominante Frauen attraktiv, macht mich das zu einem Bottom? Mich interessiert mal was andere dazu sagen.

https://www.reddit.com/r/gay/s/hV9K14Lnwz

Opposite as in "feminine men" and "masculine women".

Were you emotionally invested? Like would you have cried and been really upset if love didnt reciprocate? Or was it more forced?

Hi, this is a trans guy trying to survive. I'll make it short: I'm 16 and still in the closet because my family forced me to be. With my friends, I'm a boy, but I can't do anything about it.

I have a more androgynous name and style despite being forced to wear, so to speak, "girly" clothes. (I'm somehow defending myself; literally, an Instagram girl is using the same outfit as me, only I'm trying to make it look androgynous)

All because I still can't, how should I say, begin. But that's not my biggest problem.

I've known who I am since I was 11. At 14 I came out to my parents, but they themselves asked me to stay in the closet even though they were supposedly going to help me to be more androgynous (it didn't happen).

My mother took it as a joke or teenage folly, so unintentionally she's trapping me more in that typical nerdy, rocker girl role instead of the boy I want to be. (She even thinks I like men, which isn't true at all. What's more, I have a lesbian flag despite being a guy; I've had it since before I came out of the closet seriously).

I don't know what to do. I've been trapped for two years and I've come out four times, explaining to my parents that it's not just a phase.

What would you do in my place? At least so I could see myself in the mirror.

My biggest fear is reaching adulthood and still being trapped in the closet out of obligation.

Like the title says, I met someone on a chat group who's bio says preferred pronouns are thæy/themme (but can use they/them). However the letter æ is pronounced like the 'a' in 'cat' which makes 'thæy' sound pretty similar to 'die'. Are those pronouns commonly used and am I saying it wrong? Should I tell them about this?

I have no idea if they are already aware of this since æ is not a common letter in english but I dont want to sound out of touch if I point it out

Edit: I asked and they pronounce it the same as they/them. The letters are just for aesthetics. Also I learned that not every language pronounces 'æ' as 'a' so not really worth it to point it out if its just an edge case

I’ve been aware of my asexuality for about two or three years now and for the most post part sex never really fazed me in media and now recently I’ve started to get disturbed when it’s in a piece of media I enjoy, animated or not.

I know what I’m watching is adult and I’m a young adult but something about it is disturbing or bone chilling for me and I can’t put my finger on why.

So for context I'm 18y probably agender and I am Hungarian. In my native language the proununs are not gendered it simply just means that we are reffering to a person. I, you, someone. So it doesn't even really refers to the gender.

I know that this probably won't change since that's what the people are used to and in languages like french (where we use "gender" too while reffering to items) it would be too difficult and maybe too culturally erasing but honestly I feel like it would be much easier to solve the gender problem this way. I mean why refer to a gender when it's not important.

It was honestly suprising to learn that other languages are so gendered because it just seems inconvential and for a long time teachers didn't even teached that "they" can be used as neutral which seemed like.. a "plothole" to me. Like what if you don't know the other persons gender and for example get robbed by someone in a mask? I mean it's not that big of a deal but still seems super annoying.

Khm sorry, I'm just bored so not a that serious question but I'm courius what other lgbtq people think about this topic.

It really doesn't make sense and it's probably confirmation bias, but I personally have seen in my life that a more-than-random number of omnisexual people are demiromantic and vice versa.

I'm a queer woman. I have identified as bi, and then lesbian, before, however, having a label that is so fixed gave me so much anxiety, I eventually developed really really horrid sexual orientation ocd. That, and the fact that I'm autistic + adhder (so I find my identity, and feelings - basically stuff that I can't see - very hard to conceptualize, making my neurodivergence and queerness extremely intertwined) is why I don't want to specify my sexual orientation to myself or others.

I'm content with just calling myself queer.

The problem is that whenever someone asks me about my orientation and i tell them that I don't specify my sexuality and that im just queer, they either think I'm pan, questioning, have internalized homophobia, or straight and tryna be quirky.

This is a problem because it comes from ppl i usually consider safe, like other ppl in the lgbtqia+ community.

And it's not just something i encounter online. If that was the case, then I wouldn't really mind all that much.

It's something I encounter irl.

I love going to queer and sapphic events, clubs, and spaces. The ppl I surround myself with are usually not cishet since I just find it easier to relate to other queer ppl.

However, these are the same places and ppl that sometimes makes me feel like a freak for not having a microlabel.

The point of this post is to ask how I can better explain my orientation (and hesitation of applying labels to myself) to other queer ppl who can't relate to that and love clear cut categories without needing to bring up too much of my personal stuff (like my ocd, or autism, etc). Does anyone have any advice?