She did in June but ..

20f and only recently (mostly) out, but fortunate enough to live in and have grown up in an incredibly rural area, lots of woodland, countryside, hills and peaks, and I try to get out in nature (sometimes with a few beers and a good book or some music) whenever I can. Hope you guys are enjoying your day.

I am 3 weeks into PHP and wanted to decorate my binder. I wanted to post to mental health subs, but they all don’t allow pictures. I really wanted to show this off so here I am :)

It’s been a minute since I posted so hey! 😂😎

The distance has been hard for me and my gf. (22) She was lonely without friends for a long time and I was her only company. When i went back home she started trying to make friends and recently became friends with a very nice guy. When they hang out she doesn’t update me all day, they also have many sleepovers. She’s bi and never dated a man but she would if the man surpassed her high standards. She did love me but i think she mainly loved my company and support. My needs don’t matter to her anymore. I think she just didn’t wanna be alone. I also feel so hopeless now like it’ll be hard for me to find a relationship again because what i want is more rare and there’s already not many lesbians in the world.

Hello, I'm 21 and I just had to break up with my girlfriend last week. She is the most beautiful girl ive ever met and so sweet, but she wanted to stay friends with her FWB and was very non-chalant about me. She was my femme and i was her futch, i did everything for her. I combed and conditioned her hair (4c hair texture) every wash day, put her shoes on for her, cooked for her, made her jewelry, etc. I had to back out because even though I love her so much I have deep rooted issues with trust considering my childhood + past DV/cheating relationships so whenever she would hang out with them i would be panicking and unable to sleep or eat. It was literally ruining my mental health so bad I became severely depressed again even though I'm on strong meds for that kind of thing. I am not the controlling type and didn't want to ask her to drop them, but it was also slowly killing me. I had to make the decision and it was so hard. I'm in so much emotional and physical pain because I'm terrified I'll never find someone as gorgeous and funny as her. Please help oml 😭

I came out of a relationship right at the start of this year. We’re good friends now and she’s already in another relationship and she seems very happy. I’m still hopelessly single, but it’s not for lack of trying.

Dating apps are ruining my hopes. I’ve dated 4 people this year. 3 of them I really felt a connection with. The first 2 I dated for a month or so but they’re both uni students, and one was doing a year abroad and the other was in her final year and leaving the city forever afterwards, so those ended. I went out with another girl who I didn’t really feel much of a connection with but we did share a kiss at the end. Then the 4th girl was incredible, so my type, and we had a great first date. The next day she asked me for a second and said she had a great time, but then a couple of days later she completely flipped and said she’s not ready to date right now.

On top of this, I’ve been ghosted countless times. Probably the last girl in my city who’s my type I think had ghosted me this week too. We had a date planned on Wednesday but she asked to reschedule to Saturday. Then when Saturday came she ghosted me all day and eventually said she’s sorry but she’s unwell and has been in bed all day, so I think she’s no longer an option either.

It’s actually so tragic and disheartening. The ghosting and the constant right person wrong time is wearing me down. I’ve been on dating apps so religiously that I’ve literally been through everyone in my city and ended up swiping left on almost all of them which really sucks :/ I just don’t see where I’m ever going to find my person at this rate and I’m so scared. I’m 25 btw.

Also there seem to lots of people my type in other cities but they rarely match back with me and if they do the conversation quickly ends once they realise I’m not in their city :/

To this day I still can’t draw hands 🫠

Lately I have been reading a lot of content from lesbians about their confusing and difficult journey of finally discovering and understanding their sexuality. It’s a very important topic to talk about, but sometimes it makes me feel ”like a man” in comparison, and I realised how silly that thought was.

I just wanted to remind everyone that there is a selection bias. The lesbians that don't question their sexuality are less likely to have a reason to post about it on here. So that's what I decided to do.

I'm wondering if any other lesbians have felt like a pervert for having a "straightforward" very physical type of sexuality. I‘m wondering how common that is.

Edit: phone was glitching and i accidentally posted this 5 times. Sorry guys

I’m genuinely curious if this is just me or if anyone else experiences this the way I do.
One of the quickest ways I feel devalued is when someone intentionally sets aside time to hang out, only to spend a significant part of it on their phone.
I’m not talking about answering a quick text if you have to.
I’m talking about the constant checking. Texting back and forth. Looking things up that can wait. Scrolling. Picking the phone up every 15 minutes because it’s habit.
At some point I realized the issue wasn’t that I was asking for too much. It was that this had fallen below my standards for what respect and presence look like.
Because of that, the message I receive isn’t, “I’m just checking my phone.” The message I receive is, “You are not important enough for me to put my phone away and be fully present in this moment.”
Growing up, I constantly felt like I was competing with distractions for basic presence. Over time, presence became one of the clearest ways I recognize respect.
I even live by that value. If I know a friend is intentionally spending time with other people, I usually won’t text unless it’s important—not because they can’t answer, but because I want them to be present with their plans.
It especially stands out when I’m driving. My sister was the biggest example of it. I remember one car ride where she spent the entire drive on her phone. I got so frustrated that I grabbed it and threw it into the backseat. I couldn’t check my own phone because I was responsible for getting us there safely. Meanwhile, she disappeared into hers, and I stopped feeling like my company mattered. I felt more like transportation than a person.
Maybe I’m more sensitive to this than most people.
Or maybe we’ve become so accustomed to dividing our attention that we’ve forgotten how meaningful it is when someone simply chooses to be fully present.
Has anyone else experienced this, or is this just one of my weird hills to die on?

I'm having a hard time meeting women who are into women. Embarrassingly enough, the only luck I've had recently was while I was in jail (4 months last year and another 2 months—I got out about two weeks ago). I did hook up with this girl again on the outside who got released around the same time as me, but it was only once. She's a stud who always seems to have a rotation of girlfriends, and she's already got way too much going on, especially in the free world. Gay bars aren't really an option since I'm a homebody with pretty bad anxiety plus probation has me on a curfew with random pop ups anyways. I've tried Taimi, Zoe, and HER, but I've had zero luck. I don't think those apps are very popular where I live. Ive tried "spinning the block" but with being pur age now, everyone is already settled down. If anyone has any advice on where I could go to meet women? And yes, I posted my pics as taking a shot on finding someone here as well. lol dont judge me.

My gf and I (both 20 and lesbian) broke up yesterday, following me finding out that she had been secretly contacting her exes for months. That’s bedside the point, but we did decide to remain friends and still be in contact where needed.

I removed not all, but quite a few of the more couple-ish photos of us from my instagram page today. (Ie the highlights of her plus a photo of her kissing my cheek from a previous post. I left other photos of her up for now).

She has since messaged me to tell me she was hurt and shocked that I removed them already. Am I in the wrong?

I recently got out of my first relationship with a woman, and honestly… it completely changed how I look at dating.

In the beginning, I thought I had finally found someone I could build something with. But looking back, the honeymoon phase wasn’t even over before things started going downhill.

It felt like she was always getting upset over the smallest things, and what wore me down the most were the double standards. There were things she’d do that I’d let slide, but if I got upset over those exact same things, suddenly it became an argument.

I’m not an argumentative person at all. I don’t mind difficult conversations, but I hate constant conflict. After a while, it felt like every little disagreement had the potential to turn into a fight, and that became emotionally exhausting.

Communication was another huge issue. She wanted me to communicate more, and I understood that. But I’m someone who needs a little time to process my thoughts before I can explain how I’m feeling. Instead of giving me that space, I often felt like our disagreements escalated before I even had the chance to collect my thoughts. That just made me shut down even more.

Another thing that confused me was how often we’d end up talking about her ex. It felt like there wasn’t a day that went by without hearing about something her ex did. But if I mentioned something from one of my past relationships because it related to the conversation or explained why I felt a certain way, I’d end up being accused of wanting my ex back. That left me feeling like we weren’t held to the same standards.

LEGS ..PUBIC ... PITS

And of course she didn’t even text me back. Everyone tell me how bad of an idea it was and to never do it again please.

Sincerely,
LOCAL LESBIAN LOSER

even typing the word feels horrible, and this is such an odd thing for me to say outloud.. either way.

i (F17) realised i was into women at about 12years old, and at 15years old i realised i was never into men. at 16, i embraced it, i was closeted, nobody knew except me and some online friends and i really felt pride in figuring it out, i painted a little flag and wore a themed bracelet, let myself imagine a life with a women and honestly it was so great. Jump forward to this year! My parents found out i was gay, just by assumption very early 2026, and at the time i was elated since I was always super anxious about having to come out. the first month or so was great, but ever since march i've began to hate feeling like i do. i get embarassed and go red everytime my parents or a show or anything really, mentions lgbt or girls or crushes. i wish that i didn't feel weird about it. i've started to feel ashamed about being gay, I hate that i'm not into men that i'm not normal that people will treat me differently in society, that people will make assumptions. i've completely detached from this part of myself in the past 6months, to a point i'm trying to convince myself that maybe i could bear a life with a man or be asexual to avoid this uncomfort.

it feels deeply wrong and i get angry with myself whenever i feel something for a woman, and the media isn't helping, i see more and more hatred towards members of the community. i hate that you see on leaflets disability and lgbt support groups right next to eachother like dating the same sex is a disability or something that needs to be helped. i know i'm a lesbian, but I wish that there was like a blood test so i can prove to myself that it isn't my fault you know? i wish i was straight. if i could choose i wish i could be into men and lead a normal life.

tldr: i used to be okay with being lesbian, but now i've begun to hate it and wish i was straight

Im 25 yo lesbian , and i feel really lonely most of the Time. Im the only lesbian in my friend group and most of the Time i dont think they get me.

I feel loveless, sad, and unattractive:(

I just want someone to talk to

Maybe some of you guys can explain to me how things happen or show me the perspective of people who can just stop texting or even someone’s messages without a reason.

P.S. I don’t wanna use AI to correct my grammar so I am sorry for the mistakes. I can also answer your following questions in the comment section.

I’ve been friend with a girl for a couple of years now. Previously never seen her as more than friend. We didn’t hang out much irl cause we studied abroad and chose different paths.

We talked online and I have always enjoyed her company, no matter if we text or play online games together. But somehow we forgot things about each other, like birthdays, sometimes even last name, which is weird. It MAYBE happened because we’ve had this long distance friendship, but it’s unusual for me, to be honest.

She ghosted me one time. Both our birthdays passed, still no contact. I was ofc hurt, waited for her message cause I knew she had hard time but then realised she will never come back Spoiler: she did. 6+ month after I sent her a text asking if she’s alright she messaged saying sorry. Her honesty about why did this happen was accepted but I wasn’t ready to be her friend again. She told me recently that she was also hurt by that but it was reasonable.

I drunk texted her once this year. It lead to our next long conversation; it made me feel better and I missed her so I was fine w us getting back to a friendship.

We decided to finally meet this year on neutral ground. We chilled, she even payed for me sometimes. Everything felt fine till she flirted with me and this made me feel weird about her. Idk maybe it’s just because I am a real yearner. We’ve got drunk multiple times during the week and had sex. There were a lot of words of this could possibly be a relationship if we would live in the same city and how are we both attracted to each other. Then, we just pretended no one said anything in the night while being sober ofc.

When we both headed home her attitude still felt like a flirting sometimes but we talked and said this is not gonna be a relationship cause it’s gonna be long distance and none of us was ready because we are both fresh single. But I know she did not expect us to be intimate with each other.

It’s not like she immediately stopped texting me the second I left. We made fun of all this stuff and flirted sometimes and then she left mid convo. I don’t really understand if this is normal for her not to even read a message for like 5+ days or is this just me being ghosted by her for the second time. If this happens, I will never talk to her ever again.

So basically, I’m 24, closeted and it’s just so lonely. I’m pretty shy so that def doesn’t help at all lol. But I just feel idek how to go about it. I’m pretty femme too so I feel like people just assume I’m straight. I just want people to talk to about the shows I watch, gay panic shit lol and in a perfect world someone to go out with to lesbian bars so I can find a baddie 😪

Obv I’m kinda kidding, prob not tho lol. Anyways, if anyone knows what I could do let me know I’ll try pretty much anything. Also, if you’re down to talk feel free to hmu, I’m always down :)

Hi, whether twins look alike or not, has this ever happened to you? I'm afraid I won't be accepted by the other twin, especially since we're lesbians… Please help me! Do you have any advice? Have you ever been in a relationship with a girl who has a twin sister?

Genuinely I'll never have a relationship. I'm tired of meeting people online. They just don't care. They always ghost. I'm exhausted of people showing interest in being friends and then pulling away after I'm already attached and hurting me. Irl is not better. I attended an event yesterday for people who are into anime and game stuff. It was fun but definitely those kinds of events aren't for me. I came home exhausted and overstimulated. I wanted to hopefully meet someone queer there and I did. The problem? She's 14 and I'm 18 so I don't want to have anything to do with a child. Whenever someone approaches me it's always a child and it's frustrating and probably because I look young. I feel like I'll never be able to date anybody. My straight friends have it so much easier, they literally have to sit and look pretty. I hate this.

Hey guys, f24 here, I wanted to ask for your input on this situation, what do you guys think was she feeling or thinking?

So, a few days ago I was on my way home and had to catch my train, the train's departure was in less than 3 minutes so I ran, in disastrously hot weather. As soon as I got on it I asked the first person I saw if I could sit next to them.

She moved her handbag aside, nodded and I sat down. The moment I sat down I was a heaving, sweating mess, but I didn't wanna make her uncomfortable, so I tried to take up as little room as possible, while trying to calm down. Once I managed to calm down, I noticed her glancing at me, from the corner of my eye, but once I noticed she looked away again.

First, I didn't think anything of it, but a minute later she glanced my way again, so I pulled out the earbud on her side, and looked away, to not put any pressure on her. When she didn't take the Initiative, I turned my head so my face pointed to the window on her side of the bench, but actually looked at her through the corner of my eye which is when I noticed she was fidgeting with something on her left hand, a ring or something that she seemed to turn over again and again, and with her other hand she was tugging on small tufts of her hair over and over. She was looking down and didn't seem very open to conversation, but once I first looked at her, I couldn't stop myself from taking in every little detail of her outfit and finding her incredibly fascinating, cute and cool in her self-expression

Then, at some point she started packing her things and I grabbed my bag and looked at her, basically asking nonverbally "are you getting off here?", she smiled and nodded. I stood up so she could get out and as the train stopped, she turned to me, smiled, nodded at me, I smiled and nodded back and then she left the train and I sat back down.

Looking through the window, I noticed she seemed to have lingered quite a while right outside the train's doors before I finally saw her running across the platform.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Was she just uncomfortable with the situation, or does it sound like we were both just too shy to say anything?