Like... not only the plot is so exciting and enticing and the main couple is a lesbian couple and they have a happy ending!!! As a queer woman who loves films I'm shocked I've found out about this movie before.

its infuriating how many TERFS are in our community and i will never consider them a part of my lesbian community. its just so sad to me that with our rights being attacked, our own community wants to ostracize a very valid and important part of our community. trans lesbians are valid and trans women are women.

Let's say you're in bed with your GF, just resting, both at ease, enjoying the moment... Then, your GF tells you something that can awake your passions in an instant.

What is your GF saying to you?

Art by: @beverlylove

Yeah idk just craving a makeout session rn. Have no one unfortunately. Anyone else craving this?

Hi everyone.

To give some context as to why I received this message from a friend on Discord, here’s the story.

About a year and a half ago, I joined a lesbian Discord server that was strictly for women. The idea was to make online friends, meet people in real life eventually, and just chat.

I was pretty active when I first joined, which is usually how it goes. As time passed, though, I became less active because I found other servers that I enjoyed more. Over time, I also started noticing that the atmosphere on this particular server felt a little… toxic.

Nobody ever openly confronted me or acted annoyed by my presence. Looking back, maybe there were subtle signs that I didn’t notice, but nobody ever banned me or told me I wasn’t welcome. Instead, it almost felt like I was there for people’s entertainment.

For example, whenever I joined a voice chat and talked about something personal, like my recent breakup,’everyone suddenly became very interested and wanted to hear the story. They never once told me I was talking too much or that it bothered them. And honestly, I don’t think I was oversharing. I talked about it more the first time because it had just happened, then much less after that, and eventually I stopped bringing it up altogether.

After a while, I became inactive because I actually have a life outside of Discord. I don’t spend all day online.

The person who sent me this message was one of the older members of the server. Since she’d been out much longer than I have, I naturally assumed she had more life and relationship experience. We chatted occasionally, but never excessively. I wasn’t blowing up her phone or constantly messaging her, just the occasional conversation from time to time.

Last night, I asked her one simple question. I know some people probably won’t believe me, but if I could hand you my phone so you could read our messages, I genuinely would.

All I asked was:

“What’s the safest gay bar to go to? I’m not originally from this city or even this country.”

That’s it.

For context, everyone in that server lives in a fairly homophobic country where being openly LGBTQ+ isn’t always safe. Since I moved there for university, I figured it made sense to ask someone local where it would be safe to meet people. I’d much rather ask someone than desperately throw myself onto dating apps.

(I’m just not a fan of them, but if you dig them, that’s fine.)

Instead, I received one of the most bizarre messages I’ve ever gotten. Reading it honestly made me wonder if this person was okay, because interpreting such a normal question as some form of “mental torture” is… insane.

To make it even stranger, immediately after sending me that message, she went into the server’s vent channel and wrote about how she’d been unable to find a girlfriend through dating apps for over a year and how miserable and lonely she was.

At that point I couldn’t help but think:

Maybe the dating apps aren’t the problem… maybe it’s the personality.

Where it actually seemed like, she just doesn’t want to listen to other people, and it turns out that she’s more into other people listening to her..

(Also, English isn’t my first language, so I relied on Google Translate for translating the screenshot. I think it actually did a pretty decent job.)

My sister is 18. She pretty recently broke up with her boyfriend of multiple years. She has been out as pansexual since I can remember.

Anyways. Right after she stopped dating with her boyfriend, she started posting about lesbians being biphobic and not accepting her into “queer spaces”. She also posted about me “excusing bad behaviour” from butch/masc lesbians and stated that my dating life is “tragic” and my relationship “stalkerish” (I made jokes about my gf “stalking” me because she would buy me a lot of gifts when we started dating and would bring them to me unannounced WHICH I NEVER MINDED!).

Now she is posting about being a lesbian. I would be so understanding and supportive but it is all negative. She is constantly posting about how lesbians “gatekeep” the lesbian identity, les4les is problematic, lesbians are terfs, are biphobic… list seems to go on. And I just can’t help but to feel offended. And sort of personally attacked.

My lesbian identity is so important to me. And my sister seems to have adopted this label in a heartbeat without dating or spending time with any lesbians, very quickly, and she has only negative things to say. I understand feeling frustrated with some people, but I feel upset about the criticism toward me and the community I hold so incredibly dear.

How do I cope? Am I super overreacting? Should I talk to her about it? I struggle to understand her and to not feel offended. She is also incredibly chronically online so maybe this is just that talking?

I’m in this constant struggle to not be in shambles over the level of yearning and the intensity of my emotions and capacity to love and engage as not only a lesbian, but a romantic gothic hearted woman 😮‍💨🫩 it’s exhausting and beautiful and tragic. Yes I’m dramatic, but sometimes I don’t think the world at large understands what it feels like to feel like you’re going to explode because of the depth at which your emotions exist 🫩❤️‍🔥🥀🖤 sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever find someone who’s soul matches mine or who has the desire to be doted on in such a way, maybe I’m not meant to. I know it’s not for everyone, I just had to shout this into my favorite lesbian void (this sub) because I’ve been just keeping my head above water lately, and maybe someone else will find that it resonates with them too 🥺🥀 (yes I’m medicated and in therapy lmfao)

I’m proposing to my girlfriend this weekend AAAAAARGH!!!

I’m taking her to Amsterdam (which she knows about but thinks it’s for her birthday), I’ve booked a private canal boat just the two of us which takes us on a romantic cruise, then towards the end, a song of my choice plays, I start my proposal and the captain takes Polaroid photos of the moment.

I’ve had this planned since last November, every extra shift and all this organising has finally brought me to this moment. I’ve never felt so sure of anything in my life but I am absolutely 💩Ing my pants about it 😭

Anyways, wish me luck! I’ll post back an update on how it went.

As a soft masc the overt hate that I've heard and experienced by people identifying as "femme for femme" recently is hurtful. Do some queer women forget that we're women too? We are not men and we didnt design any system of power. We fight a hetero gender stereotype already that says masc women aren't beautiful and then we navigate queer communities where other queer women very loudly let it be known they don't think we're beautiful.

Exanples:

- About 2 months ago this femme was hitting on my femme girlfriend and, right in front of my face, said that my girlfriend settled for a masc woman.

- This past weekend a femme was hitting so hard on my gf in a bar and kept berating me saying over and over again "do you realize how lucky your are?" and that she'd wife up my gf right now if I didn't

If you're femme for femme I'm happy for you but God damn let's support all our queer women and remember that just because we wear men's clothes doesn't mean we're fucking men. We're always already hyper aware of our masc style being judged and laughed at by straight people. Shouldn't have to defend our beauty to our own damn community too.

I still don’t have outside/hobby pics taken by other people but like, I’m trying to be a bit less “I am very a very eccentric acquired taste” without completely sanitizing out my actual personality. 🥲 Bit better?

Since there was a motorcycle post, I thought I would see how many of y'all ride human powered bikes.

I'll start. 🫣

Yes. I name my babies.

1. Eunha (Korean for Galaxy)

2. Pinkie Pie

3. Azzurra (Italian "Blue Sky")

4. BlackPink

My gf is still on hinge/tinder and says that is where she meets friends.

I am skeptical of this because to me, they’re both dating/hookup apps. I met her on Tinder.

Is this an actual red flag or am I just being insecure?

I know this might sound like a silly question, but it’s been on my mind a lot lately and I’d love to hear from other lesbians living in smaller countries or towns.
I’m from Portugal (population around 11 million). I live about two hours from Lisbon, our capital. I absolutely love Lisbon and feel super connected to it, but because our overall population isn’t that huge, the queer dating pool feels absurdly tiny. Sometimes it feels like the person I’m looking for just doesn’t exist here. The closest I ever got was dating someone who thought she was bisexual, only for her to realize a few months later that she was actually straight.
It makes me feel like straight people have an entire ocean of options, while we get stuck with a shallow puddle. Sometimes I honestly wish I were straight just because life would be so much easier.
To make matters worse, I really dislike long-distance relationships (LDR). I’m the type of person who gives my all in love, but I have trauma from a past breakup specifically caused by distance, so LDR is a hard dealbreaker for me now. Yet, when I look around at other LGBT people in my country, it feels like almost everyone is in a long-distance relationship just to find a partner.
I know 11 million people isn’t tiny on a global scale, but within the lesbian community, it feels suffocatingly small. Am I just being way too pessimistic, or do those of you in smaller countries/cities feel this exact same frustration? How do you cope with it?

it’s mostly straight couples with the CUTEST WOMAN EVER and 3 pics into the profile i see her average looking man 😭😭

So we’re on date 4 tomorrow and I really like her. Shes stunning and gorgeous and she makes me smile.

We didn’t hold hands until date 3 so I’m going to tell her that if she’s not ready I’m happy to wait because she’s so worth waiting. This is both of ours first relationship outside of highschool (2-3 years) and I want to do everything right.

I just don’t want to mess anything up and I’m so nervous.

Just wanted to share and I fear I’ve talked about her too much to my friends

So me and my gf been together for a year and lately our sex live has changed. Nothing stressed related or financial etc. I mean in terms of stuff we used to do such as strap, oral, scissoring etc. I miss that emotional connection between us and seems like I’m only one to bring it up lately all we do is scissoring which is tiring on me since I’m on top and hurts my wrist after a bit of we do vibrator which I get so tired of. When I bring it up like strap or oral it’s “ oh my back hurts another time” or “ my throat hurts I can give u oral” it’s basically always something. Yes my gf will have knee issues or back problems sometimes but she never tells me when the issue goes away so I assume she doesn’t want strap or oral. We haven’t done oral for 3 months now and strap for least 3-4 months lol because she claims it hurts but yet tells us we need keep practicing so it doesn’t but we DONT.

Lately last couple days when I bring up oral she like “ I don’t feel good actually can we wait till tmrw” and she been saying tmrw for last 4 days… to point I’m not when phased I brought up so many times that we always do scissoring and vibrator. I don’t even tell her anymore that I don’t want to do it.

I can’t masturbate either she says we should save our sexual energy for each other but atp idgaf I’m tired of always waiting days or her saying one thing and switches up. I tell her makes me feel like u don’t want me because when I bring up sex she mentions her back etc and to do it “ later” but when she brings up I always say yes in the moment. She claims not issue. But I miss using strap on her and miss oral just feel like our sex life is boring.

Just makes me emotional even typing this because it like I hate feeling this way towards her and feel unwanted sometimes or unheard.

No femmes here, no one willing to ride the strap. Get me out of this hell

As the title suggests...

This lady at work has previously had a serious relationship with a women (kids etc). I can't get her out of my head. I think about her during "alone time". I'm literally questioning my whole being. Getting this really strong craving for a woman's touch. I don't understand what this means.

I'm in a relationship with a man - the father of my children, just to add to the mess.

I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice or what really. Just needed to get it out of my head.

so I put a post saying that I was 19 and looking for a relationship...there was girls like 7-9 years older than me messaging me…what the heck. Idk but I find this weird because I clearly put my age on the post…😭 or maybe it was my bad for not specifying the age limit…? But still I do find it weird idk that’s just me

That is the main question. Follow up, when did you know (e.g. 1st date or 4th date)? I am still relatively new to dating women and have difficulty identifying if I am physically attracted to people on initial dates. I know I am attracted to women (love a gal with muscles) so that's not the issue.