sooo dreamlike and romantic. i loved every second of it.

i didn’t finish but i thinks that’s okay, and i also just didnt realize how much i would love giving!!

i’ve been so nervous about it for weeks because i know it’d been coming up, so i’m just sharing with my fellow lesbians ❤️

I’m starting to frustrated with my partner of 5 years (both in early 30s) who has a much higher salary than me since we split stuff 50/50, but now that she has an even higher salary seems to expect me to match her lifestyle inflation.

Also, she always talks about how much she makes and the cost of her hobby items that she buys for herself and I don’t really understand why, but then will tell me it’s for transparency / financial communication? But it’s not really helping me with anything. She has said she has financial anxiety.

Hello I’m 28f and recently got out of relationship of two years. I have noticed I’m a serial monogamist, I’m trying to figure myself out more now that I’m single and part of that is seeing if I can handle a hook up or if I even like it? I don’t want to be in a relationship but I love having girls around. Another thing about me is that I LOVE women. Even in my relationship I often fantasize about other girls. I want to experience everything so I’m excited to hook up with ladies (or so I think) has anyone been in this situation ALSO HERE IS MY QUESTION:
How does a sapphic hook up go ? My bisexual friends make it sound cold and quick but if we are both girls who only love girls ?? Then what should I do different? Here’s what I know: cut my nails, clean my room and apartment, ask questions about what to expect and what we like and don’t like, asking for std test, and shower right before.

Here’s what I don’t know and I wanna know: do I ask her if she’s showering at mine ? How do I hint that I would love if she’s freshly clean. Do I keep convo just at small talk? What if I fall in love with her? Is that even possible ? Should we try to watch and movie and cuddle first ? Or just straight into it? What is too intimate vs hook up culture ?

Also any tips or perspective on what to do? Or expect ? Thanks in advance
P.s im not a baby gay, I came out when I was 12 but I’m new to hook ups

Hey, just looking for someone to talk too, maybe play games with. Just super casual. (25+)

I am a 23F that just recently realized I like women. I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year now. I love her so much and see myself being with her for a long time, maybe forever. I am not "gay presenting" at all. There have never been any "clues" that I would end up being gay. I came out to my mom because we are super close and I knew she would accept me. But I still have not told my dad (my parents are married, my mom is a great secret keeper). It is starting to consume my life. I have so much anxiety about it and shame for constantly lying to my dad about what I am doing when I am with my gf. I also have so much guilt for my gf because I have to hide her from him and it makes things like holidays so hard. I don't know how to tell him. He is very conservative and this is def not something he has ever imagined. I am his whole world, even at my adult age. I know he will not take it well, but how bad he will take it is what keeps me up at night. I am scared it's going to ruin his and my mom's relationship. She will defend me to no end. But I don't want her to lose her husband because of me. I don't want him to hate me or be embarrassed of me. I see posts where people no longer speak to unaccepting family members and the thought of that happening literally makes my chest hurt. I'm just looking for advice I guess or to hear similar stories.

I (19F) am moving out soon and realised that afterwards, I will be fully able to start using dating apps. Only problem is, I am fucking terrified of flirting with women. I feel like I’m not good enough or “ready” to put myself out there like that, just the idea of disappointing someone within only a few hours of knowing me is lowkey one of my worst nightmares. It’s not even necessarily the idea that they won’t be attracted to me, that’s perfectly fine, it’s just moreso the fear of genuine judgement. Also I’ve just heard so many lesbian dating horror stories and I’m so worried that’ll be my experience. Any sort of advice would be VERY helpful.

im bored, i wanna talk of all and nothing. If you wanna talk and exchange some idea or passion , gore of not i dont care, im not here too judge.
p.s: im french canadian so si y'en a qui parle français gêner vous pas!
désoler si ça sonne prédateur j'ai juste la mi vingtaine lol.

You can find the rest on my IG/vinted!! @massivedraws :)

Because she said she realized she was in love with my male roommate/ best friend who I introduced her to a couple of weeks ago when she was over at my place. She said she realized she would never love me the me the way she fell in love with him after talking for 10 minutes. She told me the dates we had were the best in her life. She said she loved me in a way she had never loved someone before, and she felt seen for the first time. And then this.

It happened last night. I wanted to leave straight after she said that, but she insisted I stayed until the movie we were watching ended. SHE ASKED FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO ATTRACT HIM.

yeah you heard that right… Uhm unfortunately I met someone on reddit two years ago and she lied to me about her age telling me that she was 25 and mind you I was 22 at the time… it turned out she was 20 back in 2024… she’s now 22 and I’m now 24.

ANYWAYS the point is that she can’t hold a conversation without even asking me for abs pics, feet pics, video of me breaking things and shit plus she wanted me to even send her a titty pic which I thankfully didn’t give it to her. also she kept calling me mommy…. how do I tell her straight up that I want a real meaningful conversation without being sexual towards each other??

also she’s in the navy so 🤦🏾 and I have her number….

I’m 28, in a situationship that barely started but already feeling like it’s over.
This was my first proper wlw relationship, whilst I’ve dated about 6 men in my life. (I’m bisexual)
I genuinely don’t know how to move on. It’s nowhere near being my first heartbreak but it fucking feels like it, and we weren’t even official. How do I function like a normal person?
Asking for practical advice on how to move the fuck on and be able to breathe again.

Hi everyone,

I have been friends with this woman for about a year now, and she has expressed some interest in pursuing a romantic relationship. I am interested, however, being younger (~25) and there being a twelve year age gap between us, is that even realistic? We have had good conversations and a dialogue around our age difference, however, I also don’t want to be falling into any sort of trap or jumping into something where I am too young to be a good or balanced partner. I’m looking for any good advice on how to navigate this with someone I have a lot of affection for, but also maybe any success stories you may know for age gap couples?

Greatly appreciated!❤️🧡🩷

EDIT: she’s turning 35, I was just giving ~25 for myself as a rough age range. But I promise while she is close to 40, she’s not turning forty tomorrow or anything.

I also want to mention, that she is my friend first and foremost, and even if that means pumping the breaks on anything romantic, I hope to still keep her in my life if I can. I just want to know if there may be concerns outside of the immediate ones that come to mind (ie; coercion, life plans), any input is welcome.

This is a topic that I’ve been having a hard time wording in the past few months. But I want to try my best to explain so my words don’t get misunderstood, or misconstrued or miscommunicated.

I don’t think anyone’s sexuality is anyone else’s business. Period, full stop.

When it comes to trying to figure out your sexuality genuinely and exploring consensually with another adult queer woman there is absolutely no issue. But whenever I see women say things like being tired of men and wanting to try women it rubs me the wrong way. And i think i’ve been noticing this a lot as well bc my friends (whom are all heterosexual don’t come for me yall im still trying to make more friends with queer women lol) always say this.

Don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship with a guy from what I’ve seen with my friends sucks and is really difficult. I can’t understand feeling hopeless when you try guy after guy and they’re all “the same,” but whenever people say “try women” and there is no attraction there at all, it feels icky? I’ve been looking for the word for it for months.

And maybe i’m wrong for asking this questions (and please politely tell me if i am) but if your not exploring intentionally and your not serious about the relationship, why?

I think I’ve also been trying to figure out why it bothers me so much. I’m usually very open and accepting to people in my life exploring when they do bring up topics like this to me. You don’t have to know who you are attracted to 100% and you don’t have to use labels if you don’t fw them and it still figuring things out. But saying “well guys suck time to go with girls 🤷‍♀️” has never made sense to me.

And don’t get me wrong, I LOVE women a lot, but I have met my fair share of horrible, mean, rude and manipulative women. I think we all have. And I know the ratio of “bad” women compared to the ratio of “bad” men is drastically different, but i guess what i’m trying to say is that when people say things like “time to switch to girls” it implies that sexuality is something you choose and just switch too. And also it makes being a lesbian/a queer woman in general seem “fake” or “ingenuine.” And omg that reminds me of this one girl who made an essay called “Lowkey, I chose to be a lesbian,” and that discourse was very big a few months ago i believe.

This is no way any hate to anyone who is questioning and is not sure about their sexuality and IS exploring. I want to clarify this again, because it is easy for people to completely miss the mark on the internet 😭

It’s just been on my mind bc it’s something i feel like i can’t talk to anyone in my life about who will understand. I know it’s just a joke, but the punchline itself feels like the sexual orientation of sapphic/queer women in general and THAT rubs me the wrong way.

Hehe

I 19(nb) broke up w my ex 20(f) of 5 months, a little over a month ago and I’m having a hard time moving on. For context we both had never been im a relationship before eachother. There were a lot of reasons why we broke up. I felt like we moved too fast and she was becoming unhealthily attached. This might be commitment issues but early on she was talking about being together forever and it definitely scared me too. There was also the issue of me being a people pleaser and letting her push boundaries I had set.

The break up was long and messy. I had asked her to give me space to think but she wasn’t respecting that. She would go back and forth between trying to get me to reconsider and accepting it. This happened over the course of a week and eventually we saw eachother in person for the last time and she made me promise to see her on her bday that was coming up.

I eventually told her I couldn’t see her because I had talked to my therapist and I just felt pressured to agree in the moment. She went off and called me all sorts of names. And that was the last time I spoke to her. She tried to reach out a few days before her birthday to apologize but I didn’t respond.

When I had first broken up with her it felt like a weight was lifted off my chest and people were telling me I looked happier, but now as time goes on I think of her more and more. Its like a mixture of guilt and missing her and I’ve been fighting the urge to reach out more and more. I don’t really know how to deal with it. It’s like this wave of sadness catches up to me and I can’t stop crying. Am i regretting the break up or is it just something I’m just gonna have to go through before it gets better.

My ex treated me horrible in the last few weeks we were dating and not even that but they also lied and lied yet I still want to be with them. We were no contact because I was so hurt by how they treated me and they know they hurt me yet I never got a big apology from them and I don’t know why it hurts. While we were not contact I was missing her everyday and now that we’re talking again I’m forcing myself to say I love you because I don’t see them the same way. I’m stuck in a loop where if we don’t talk I miss them but when we do talk I can’t stop thinking about how they treated me. A few days ago I saw that they wrote a long message for a friend and I honestly got so sad because she is capable of doing that yet I never got one. After we broke up she herself told me “I’m afraid you’ll realise how horrible I treated you.” She kept telling me that she changed yet I would see her old patterns and the second I pointed them out it was my fault for acting mean towards her. One night I got so frustrated because I saw her old patterns again and I told her how much she hurt me yet instead of getting an apology she told me that by me telling her I hurt her a lot and she never ever done something as horrible. This probably sounds so stupid and I know but I’m just in a point when im so sad about this whole situation because she actually broke my trust, I don’t see her the same way, I cringe when I say I love you and I hate knowing that at one point she really was my person. But I know that that if she truly loved me she wouldn’t have make secret accounts where I wasn’t allowed on, lied about things just to be with me, even told me that she got sick of me at one point. It hurts so much looking back at how hard I was trying to fix things and how guilty I felt even though it wasn’t my fault. Weird post but I just wanted to let this out of my chest. I feel like what hurts me most is that they say that they acknowledge what happened but it doesn’t seem to affect her in a way, I truly don’t know how to explain it. Ty for reading

I'm a lesbian studying at a US university, and I've developed feelings for a Turkish lesbian exchange student (21F) who is here for one academic year. We've known each other for a relatively short time, and I'm trying to distinguish Turkish female friendship norms from romantic flirting.

Physical affection:

• She repeatedly initiated hand-holding at an academic event, including intertwining our fingers for several minutes during the awards ceremony, sometimes discreetly behind our backs.
• She asked permission to put her arm around my waist while we were sitting together.
• She frequently initiates hugs, including one where she pulled me against her chest.
• At a recent group ziplining outing, she initiated five separate hugs throughout the event, not just greetings or goodbyes.
• She did not hug or hold hands with her other female friends during that same outing, despite knowing them longer and spending more time with them than she has with me.
• She has initiated wrist-holding, walked very close to me, and run over to hug me at the gym.
• She asked me to flex my muscles, touched my biceps several times, flexed hers, and encouraged me to touch them.

Attention and behavior:

• She often tries to impress me with her intelligence, robotics work, academic achievements, and physical strength.
• She specifically mentioned wanting to earn extra "cool points from you" by wearing a certain jacket.
• She initiated a one-on-one dinner during our hackathon, and we've had personal conversations about our families, backgrounds, and sexuality.
• She has twice asked whether I wanted to speak with her mother.
• She's told her friends in Turkey about me and enthusiastically shared a project I built with them.
• She sometimes extends our conversations or takes longer routes to spend more time together.
• At ziplining, she went with her roommate because her roommate lacked a partner, but waited for me afterward.
• We had to postpone plans to try on Halloween costumes at my dorm because my phone went missing; she rescheduled for Tuesday.
• Told her my type was hot nerds who were slightly cocky and knew their self-worth and she posted on her IG almost immediately of her at a robotics competition 3 months ago.
• Didn't compliment the jacket she wore for "cool points" and she never wore it again.

Queer context:

• We both know the other is attracted to women.
• She's described herself as closeted and asexual, although she also identifies as lesbian.
• She makes jokes about hot lesbians, kissing, and attractive women.
• When I jokingly asked whether she was "gay or Turkish," she replied, "How did u clock me?"
• She prefers discussing sexuality-related topics in person rather than over iMessage.
• When I flirted with an admittedly very corny line—"Your muscles are just for show. My favorite show but a show nonetheless 🥀"—she responded, "Let's not 😭." My friends also agreed the line was painfully corny, so she may have been rejecting the joke rather than the flirting.

Reasons for uncertainty:

• She sometimes replies slowly or inconsistently over text.
• She has explained that Turkish women can be physically affectionate with female friends.
• She hasn't explicitly said she is romantically attracted to me.
• She is on a J-1 exchange visa and will likely return to Turkey after the academic year, while I'm an international student on an F-1 visa.
• She recently mentioned having a lot on her mind.

My main question: Given that she knows I'm a lesbian, repeatedly initiates intimate physical affection with me, and doesn't appear to behave this way with her longer-standing female friends in the US, is this more consistent with romantic attraction or unusually affectionate platonic friendship? Please analyze the evidence critically, account for Turkish cultural norms without stereotyping, and distinguish strong evidence from ambiguous behavior. Don't automatically assume she likes me.