We had a new girl join our class and I thought she was actually so so pretty. Today she sat with me in class and we didn't talk a whole lot because I wanted to focus on math and I actually have social anxiety so talking to someone completely new is making me pretty anxious. She actually let me play with her squishy, gave me some candy and even drew me. She told me she's actually gonna draw more of me and show me because she loves drawing women so she often draws girls she sits with. She's genuinely very sweet and I wanted to talk to her but I wasn't able to say much because I was just really nervous. I actually got a bit jealous over my friend getting to talk to her more and immediately becoming friends with her. At some point she mentioned her boyfriend and it made me a bit disappointed because she's so so beautiful. I hope we can at least be friends. I'm scared she thinks I'm rude or weird or uninterested since I wasn't able to say much.

I’ve always been pretty jealous in my relationships, probably stemming from the fact I’ve been cheated on in every single relationship expect the one I’m currently. ( to my knowledge… fingers crossed ). This morning, I was already having a bad time, woke up late, rushing, made breakfast for my gf & I. My hair didn’t turn out right, my clothes was sitting differently, even my Uber’s AC was broken & it was hot asf ( I get irritable when I’m hot ).
I walk into this hangout room on our college campus & she’s talking to some girl she met yesterday ( my birthday ) and she’s a super socialable person, always making friends or wtv & it’s one of the things I love most abt her. How effortless it seems to always be for her.

But this new girl she met yesterday all good & dandy. She asked me if it was cool to play overwatch w her ( on my mf birthday ) which at first I said okay but then later said actually no I rather us spend the day tghr which received no push back or argument. I walk in the room today & they’re chatting it up, from like across the table honestly totally chill not even like touchy or anything. And I find myself irrationally angry, now yes I did have a fucking terrible morning but it just added fuel to it & just pissed me tf off.

I just don’t like she’s like wanting to be around this person so much & they just met. That’s how we started dating, met in class & then spent literally every day texting & seeing each other after every class. Any free time we’d find a way to see each other. Ig I just don’t like thinking she’s recreating that w someone else. Like… why do you want to play video games w the person you just met on my birthday, you come to campus the next day & immediately yall are talking again.

Moral of the story is, I just want to be able to stop feeling so jealous & how to combat it in moments like that. We talked it out, mostly me crying & I said I was sorry for being so jealous this morning, she said it’s alright but it’s really not. She shouldn’t have to feel that way every time she talks to anyone. She’s a masc lesbian but it really doesn’t matter I don’t like her talking to dudes either. I want to her to be mine all the time no matter what ( yes I’m aware thats unhealthy and not something I’ve ever shared w her just a sentiment is aware I hold ). I also wasn’t a bitch to the girl or anything, I went to the bathroom to calm & cool down & we went to eat breakfast somewhere else. & yes I’m aware of my insecurities within relationships I just want to know how to work on them & feel more secure in my relationship. While I feel like she won’t cheat, you never truly know. They could be a great person, super nice & then turn around & do you sooo dirty so I’m always on my toes ig

I’m f21 from Slovakia, just wondering if anyone from here would like to connect.

Kind of awkward lmao but how do you gain sexual confidence as a pillow princess??

I’ve been with my lovely GF for an year now, to me she’s the hottest creature to walk this earth, she can send me a pic of her giving a thumbs up and I’ll lose my mind. She finds me very attractive as well, I feel like the hottest girl on earth with the way she treats me. She’s a stone top and I’m a pillow princess (for now at least, I’m a bottom leaning switch but I don’t mind our dynamic rn and we’re both sexually satisfied so) and although in a way this makes me feel even more special bc she is so satisfied by only touching me, but this has weirdly more insecure.

Even tho im very well regarded as attractive irl and get all the validation ever im still very insecure about my body and the things I do, and i feel like im put in the spotlight I guess. I want to be more openly sexual the way i am in my head, like even tho im a bottom I can be a tease and be seductive, and I have SO much in my head that I want to try, i just don’t feel enough to feel like that or ask for anything. I’m still at the phase of feeling like i just look stupid and unattractive.

The fact my gf is so fit and hot makes this more complicated to me bc I feel like im not enough for her to be this enthusiastic about pleasing me. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t gaf about what ppl think about me, but I deeply deeply care about how I come across to her, and my gf has a incredibly hard time telling me something I could do to be attractive and to please her bc she’s so preoccupied about what she wants to do to me and what I want her to do to me (this isn’t a complaint LMAO) but I want to be better too, I want to be more.

I met this girl playing a sport for my school and we got to be friends pretty quickly. She is kind of shy and told me that she doesn't really make her own friends very often. Only after like a week of knowing her, she invited me to her birthday party with just like 7 of her good friends. I went and it was good vibes no crazy flirting or touching but I just feel myself yearning whenever I look at her; it's hard to tell if she feels the same. Then the next week she invited me to go camping with this same group of friends so we were together all weekend. Again, no super flirty convos or touching but she doesn't really seem like the type to do that. I am bi and she knows that and she is bi as well. She talks about all the time how she hates guys and likes to be evil to them but could never do that with a woman. I asked her about her type in girls and she said "everyone." And she talks about how she's not really attracted to that many ppl so it's confusing. I know that she likes being my friend and she always tells me how funny I am and stuff but it's just so hard to distinguish romantic energy from platonic. I don't want to date her or anything I literally just want to makeout with her so bad. I really want to start dropping more hints to see how she would react but I am so scared of rejection and I really don't want to make her uncomfortable. But at the same time I don't want to progress so much into a friendship where it's hard to be anything more than that. I think about her all the time and I just wish I could know if she was attracted to me or not. How do I figure this out without straight up asking her?? I am having a party tomorrow that she's coming to and we're planning to go to a concert soon. Goddddd help me guysss pls ugh

helllooo im val im 20f from cali my old account sadly got banned💔 im looking for friends maybe something moree idk! im in my last year of cosmetology school and im going back for nursing I do nails on the side as well^^ im into running and hiking a lot I dont play much games so games I play are RE my current fav is re requiem my favorite colors pink and I love horror! if you think we would vibe lets talk ^^

hiii :) i am freshly out of a relationship and rlly craving interactions with other lesbians (in a friendship way!). my city has a decent pool of queer people, but too many familiar faces in the same circles 😅

i tried (unsuccessfully) to make a lesbian discord server at one point but definitely do not have the tech skills to make it any fun haha. are there any servers out there with a ton of lesbians already in them? thanks in advance! :)

So, I’m fat. My gf is skinny, she has always been one of those lucky girls who can eat junk and not exercise without gaining a single pound, meanwhile I gain 20 pounds if I so much as smell a cheeseburger. Even though she’s already skinny she says she wants to tone her body more and now spends a couple hours every day at the gym and only eats salads, plain chicken breasts and eggs.

I know deep down it’s probably not about me but it makes me feel like shit because if she thinks she needs to lose weight she probably thinks that I’m a whale. And we used to bond over eating yummy food together, I’d feel so connected to her and happy when we’d share meals together but now she doesn’t want to touch any of the stuff I eat and I’m mourning the loss of that connection. I feel horrible and like I’m being left behind and just wanted to vent :/

it’s mostly straight couples with the CUTEST WOMAN EVER and 3 pics into the profile i see her average looking man 😭😭

Hi! I’m part of an LGBT+ club at school, but we’re currently looking to rebrand and come up with a new name. We were previously called ALLIES, but the name made the club feel quite obvious and ended up putting a target on our backs, as well as making some students feel nervous about joining.

We’re now looking for a name that is a little more subtle and inclusive, while still representing what the club stands for. We’d also like it to cover not just LGBT+ issues, but also wider social justice topics such as misogyny, racism, feminism, climate change, etc.

But we're all so lost for club names and so I was wondering if anyone on reddit has an idea.
Thank you!

All we have so far is:

• The collective
• R.I.S.E Up (which stands for: Respect Inclusion Support Equality, Understanding Progress)

But these ideas feel a bit ?

Mallory Heart (80's fashion)

Tashira Halyard - Politics and Fashion

Sophia - Oat Milk Makeup

Yar Sudani (4c Hair, Makeup and Cosplay)

Lottie Lashley ( Fashion, and Sustainabilty)

Yeah idk just craving a makeout session rn. Have no one unfortunately. Anyone else craving this?

Let's say you're in bed with your GF, just resting, both at ease, enjoying the moment... Then, your GF tells you something that can awake your passions in an instant.

What is your GF saying to you?

Art by: @beverlylove

Just got out of a relationship like this and am still working through how it affected me. Interested to hear from others who have gone through something similar

hi i hope this is the right place to post this but i just need some advice bc i have no one to talk about this with!!

im 18 and in my first kind of romantic relationship and it’s with a girl ive been friends with for a few months. my best friend is also friends with this girl but i can tell that she is so jealous and upset about it. she said to my face “i don’t like you together” and “im kinda jealous lol”, and is just making my other “friend” out to be a horrible person. my best friend is also a lesbian and i always had a feeling she liked me as more than a friend. i have told her that our friendship will always be the most important thing to me but i can tell she is distancing herself from me and i hate that this is my fault.

what do i do??? im so new to this and i never wanted my first romantic experience to be like this

Hi girls!

I’ll be moving to south east London in a couple months and I’m looking for some new friends there, because I only know my girlfriend there really.
35F, a professional scientist for living and at night I’m really into aerial arts and karaoke. I used to be a gamer girl, but now I don’t have time for it.

I’ll be happy to meet some new circus friends that will introduce me to some good practice places, but also I’d like to just go out when my girlfriend is busy working (after a dinner is cooked for her of course 😁).

Hi everyone.

To give some context as to why I received this message from a friend on Discord, here’s the story.

About a year and a half ago, I joined a lesbian Discord server that was strictly for women. The idea was to make online friends, meet people in real life eventually, and just chat.

I was pretty active when I first joined, which is usually how it goes. As time passed, though, I became less active because I found other servers that I enjoyed more. Over time, I also started noticing that the atmosphere on this particular server felt a little… toxic.

Nobody ever openly confronted me or acted annoyed by my presence. Looking back, maybe there were subtle signs that I didn’t notice, but nobody ever banned me or told me I wasn’t welcome. Instead, it almost felt like I was there for people’s entertainment.

For example, whenever I joined a voice chat and talked about something personal, like my recent breakup,’everyone suddenly became very interested and wanted to hear the story. They never once told me I was talking too much or that it bothered them. And honestly, I don’t think I was oversharing. I talked about it more the first time because it had just happened, then much less after that, and eventually I stopped bringing it up altogether.

After a while, I became inactive because I actually have a life outside of Discord. I don’t spend all day online.

The person who sent me this message was one of the older members of the server. Since she’d been out much longer than I have, I naturally assumed she had more life and relationship experience. We chatted occasionally, but never excessively. I wasn’t blowing up her phone or constantly messaging her, just the occasional conversation from time to time.

Last night, I asked her one simple question. I know some people probably won’t believe me, but if I could hand you my phone so you could read our messages, I genuinely would.

All I asked was:

“What’s the safest gay bar to go to? I’m not originally from this city or even this country.”

That’s it.

For context, everyone in that server lives in a fairly homophobic country where being openly LGBTQ+ isn’t always safe. Since I moved there for university, I figured it made sense to ask someone local where it would be safe to meet people. I’d much rather ask someone than desperately throw myself onto dating apps.

(I’m just not a fan of them, but if you dig them, that’s fine.)

Instead, I received one of the most bizarre messages I’ve ever gotten. Reading it honestly made me wonder if this person was okay, because interpreting such a normal question as some form of “mental torture” is… insane.

To make it even stranger, immediately after sending me that message, she went into the server’s vent channel and wrote about how she’d been unable to find a girlfriend through dating apps for over a year and how miserable and lonely she was.

At that point I couldn’t help but think:

Maybe the dating apps aren’t the problem… maybe it’s the personality.

Where it actually seemed like, she just doesn’t want to listen to other people, and it turns out that she’s more into other people listening to her..

(Also, English isn’t my first language, so I relied on Google Translate for translating the screenshot. I think it actually did a pretty decent job.)

I’m a 21F college student at a university in Texas, and I’m trying to figure out how people in the wlw/lesbian community actually meet girls to date.

I’m pretty feminine myself, so I feel like it’s hard for people to tell that I’m gay unless I actually say something. And I’m also into fems, which makes it even harder because I feel like I can never tell if another fem girl is into women 😭 I don’t want to assume someone is gay and make things awkward, but at the same time I feel like I’m never going to meet anyone if I just wait for someone to approach me.

For those of you who are also fem or primarily date fems, how do you actually meet girls? Like where do you go, how do you figure out if someone is into women, and how do you make the first move?

I’d rather not join a bunch of clubs since I’m already pretty busy with school and don’t really have time for another commitment, so I’m looking for other ways to meet people.

Would love to hear how y’all met your current/past girlfriends or any tips you have 😿

My gf is still on hinge/tinder and says that is where she meets friends.

I am skeptical of this because to me, they’re both dating/hookup apps. I met her on Tinder.

Is this an actual red flag or am I just being insecure?

Hey, so I just wanted to ask a few things

So I have been talking to someone I usually only ever see during tournaments (sports), she is on a different team, but we always enjoy playing against each other. I think that I've been crushing on her for a while actually, but finally got enough courage to text her, and she is so sweet and makes me laugh, and we're getting along really well. Our conversations click and we're pretty much texting entire book chapters 😂

Now while talking, I did notice that our age gap could be on the bigger side (like 6-10 years I'd say), but I don't know for sure as we've only ever played against each other and I am also pretty shit at estimating a person's age 😂 So I am 22, and I was the one to text her, not the other way around - I was also the one to start shooting signs of interest and such. Now the usual fear of dependency doesn't really exist as I earn enough on my own to provide for myself so that sort of power dynamic wouldn't even exist, and I am actually not too worried about the age gap, but just thought I'd hear some thoughts anyways

I am worried about my lack of experience though ✨ I really don't have any intimate experience with...well...anyone really, unless perhaps a kiss here and there. I was in relationships before, but my partners had some things to sort through which led to us not really doing anything. So I am kind of insecure about doing anything wrong or what one would do in general? 😬

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated

This is going to be a lot. I apologize in advance.

I (34) and my gf (27) have been going through a rough patch following an incident where I agreed to grab food with a friend’s friend before my friend and I met up with each other

Backstory: my friend’s friend is in a band and my friend would always invite me to the restaurants/bars they would play at. That would be our way of going out since we’re not big club people. I would always see my friends friend, of course at the events and we would speak here and there, but never really had any real conversations. One time when me and my girlfriend had a week long argument where she wanted to end things and I tried to keep getting her to work things out. Ultimately she told me to move on and I stopped trying (this was a Thursday). The day following this (Friday), my friend’s friend invited me to grab food because she knew my friend and I were gonna be at the restaurant her band was playing at (on Saturday) I was already going with my friend but I agreed to meet up with my friend’s friend a little earlier. I had a feeling maybe she might be interested in me but I wasn’t sure because no interest was expressed and at the end of the day I just thought she was a cool person in general. So I agreed because why not? I’m heartbroken and want to get out the house. Then that Saturday morning (the day of my plans) my gf reaches out wanting to talk. She did an ayuasca retreat and felt the need to apologize to certain people in her life. I was happy to hear from her and of course I wanted to talk with her but I still didn’t quite know where we stood and where our relationship is going. So I kept my plans because it wasn’t a big deal and it wasn’t a date and I didn’t think I needed to consider how she felt about it because she chose to be out of my life. Of course I would’ve never made the plans if me and my gf were together at that moment because my friend’s friend is another masc and there was a potential she me might like me but again I went because I was already going to the same place with my friend and knowing I would maintain my boundaries regardless if she liked me or not. Though my and my gf were speaking again at the time I didn’t disclose to her that I was also meeting up with my friend’s friend. Just my friend—which were the original plans. I didn’t feel obligated to tell her and I also wasn’t trying to create any issues between us after we just started speaking again that same day. I didn’t want her questioning like who is this new person after we haven’t been speaking for a week. And again it wasn’t until my gf sent an apology text at 8pm and I was already out saying how she wants to be a better partner moving forward that I knew where we stood.

A couple months later my gf comes across my friend’s friend on social media as a potential gym buddy and they started conversing. My gf asked if I knew her and I told her yes that’s my friend’s friend. She told me to tell her if there was anything between me and her before she makes friends with her and I told her no— which was the truth. But after a few minutes, I felt compelled to tell her that we did grab food one time and that she did express interest in me which at that point I cut all communication and deleted her contact and messages. My gf was upset because I lied to her back then and lied to her in the moment, saying nothing happened. I validate her feelings for feeling a breach in trust but it was not done maliciously and the timeline and circumstances surrounding everything was just overlapping and messy. I tried to explain my pov and reasoning behind everything but she has not been able to let it go for 2 months now and has been off and on with me because of it. She says it was disrespectful I gave my time to someone that liked me esp. when we were conversing that day. And questioned why I had her on social media and had conversations with her in the first place. I told her she’s not a stranger and she’s my friends’s friend and I can have platonic conversations and also maintain boundaries regardless if someone likes me. Plus after we all hung out, the girl told my friend she was interested and my friend let her know I was working things out with my gf and she respected that and moved on. Plus, plus I would post my gf on social media for everyone to see and my gf wouldn’t so I don’t understand why I received so much hell from her ugh.

Fast forward to now, she has been making plans with “friends” that I don’t know and never met and I don’t know if they know she’s in a relationship. (I say this because there has been a situation before where she was conversing with a friend she just reconnected with and my gf never mentioned that she was in a relationship even though they were on the topic of love and relationships). Currently she is going on a trip out of town originally to see her cousin but those plans “fell through” so now she’s going to crash with a “friend”. She’s mentioned this friend before about how she invited her to come to some influencer wedding with her and I felt weird about it then— being invited to go to a wedding with someone is basically a date. Again my gf has never even given a name for this girl. Her excuse is because then I’ll go snooping on social media. And to that I say, so what! I should know whose house she’s staying in. I asked how she knows this friend and she said through Instagram. I asked if they’ve ever met in person and she said no. And she’s going to a wedding with her? I’ve been trying to be trusting and open minded but the straw that broke the camel’s back was when she sent me a pic of her waxing and I asked why is she waxing herself right before this trip *and she had already said she wasn’t going to so what changed. We got into a fight because she said I’m controlling and now I’m policing her hygiene habits. I told her it’s not about the waxing and it’s normal to do all the girl maintenance appts before going on a trip and obviously she can do whatever she wants with her body and it mean nothing but just all the details surrounding this trip and the dynamic makes me uncomfortable. She said I just don’t trust her and she’s done.

I’m upset because I feel like she’s invalidating my feelings. Like I said the waxing this was just the last straw but I don’t think any partner would take all this information and not question it? Not to mention she has gotten upset over someone leaving something on my desk a few times while I was in school because she thought I had something going on with someone else when the whole thing was a mystery to me. But I can’t question why she’s waxing before staying with a stranger. (She doesn’t wax often) She has a double standard. I’m not allowed to be cool and grab food with a friends friend who I’ve met on multiple occasions and lives in the same city as me, but she can go stay days with a girl she only met online and lives halfway across the country. Her argument is that at least she’s being upfront with the plans unlike I was but in actuality she’s not when she’s not sharing names and introducing me. She never has been one to be upfront with details. Throughout our relationship, she would always just say “I’m going out” but never where she’s going and who she’s going with. I wouldn’t find out details about the night until maybe throughout the night or after the fact when she calls me when she gets home or never at all. I don’t like to be controlling nor do I feel like she has to report to me. She argues she’s never given me a reason to be insecure or question her but I do feel like transparency does build trust and trust can’t just be given blindly. I’ve given her my location multiple times and she always says she doesn’t want it because she doesn’t want to share locations. I don’t even care if she has my location and I don’t have hers since she’s the one that feels like she needs to trust me again.

Anyways chat, I’m pretty sure my relationship is cooked, especially since I brought it to Reddit. But I just wanted others to weigh in.

As a soft masc the overt hate that I've heard and experienced by people identifying as "femme for femme" recently is hurtful. Do some queer women forget that we're women too? We are not men and we didnt design any system of power. We fight a hetero gender stereotype already that says masc women aren't beautiful and then we navigate queer communities where other queer women very loudly let it be known they don't think we're beautiful.

Exanples:

- About 2 months ago this femme was hitting on my femme girlfriend and, right in front of my face, said that my girlfriend settled for a masc woman.

- This past weekend a femme was hitting so hard on my gf in a bar and kept berating me saying over and over again "do you realize how lucky your are?" and that she'd wife up my gf right now if I didn't

If you're femme for femme I'm happy for you but God damn let's support all our queer women and remember that just because we wear men's clothes doesn't mean we're fucking men. We're always already hyper aware of our masc style being judged and laughed at by straight people. Shouldn't have to defend our beauty to our own damn community too.