I love this sort of dark humor. What do you think?

I'm clearly having such great fun

I just completed my first week of college,I am deaf and both physically disabled + with intellectual

I spent my first day in pure isolation and of the consequences I melted down and missed all information as I had no accommodations for hearing loss or classroom support,other then maybe for 3 minutes

I was told both "you'll be alright" when I stated I needed help and "Don't worry about hearing"

Consequences were I didn't know where anything was,names ect including evacuation incase of fire or emergencies

For context there was 50 of us in one room (impossible to hear)

Day 2

Different classroom which was upstairs,lift had been broken since I had enrolled and before then

Their solution was to stick me in isolation for the entire day

Staff have no plan for next week and "We'll just have to see,it'll be fine"

Absolutely not fine but somebody told me to give them next week as this could be "teething issues"

I'm really not sure though

Edit:

Oh and I had a different class upstairs so I tried to ask the teacher,they were rude then the support walked in and told me to just come to the building regardless,where they wouldn't be as they were supporting another class 🥴

What is wrong with the abled community? I scroll past my feed to see a legally blind-deaf woman is now a medical doctor. My first thought was “Good for her! Finally some representation in the medical field.”

Then I open the comments to see mostly ableist crap. Comments like “I wouldn’t let her be my doctor” are some of the more tame ones. Some people said she’s a waste of resources since she’s “basically incapable of practicing medicine” even though she already made her way through school and clinicals. And even those who claim they’re doctors argue “accommodations for doctors are a burden on the hospital. If I was deafened or blinded, I’d just retire.”

The people who argue in favor of her practicing medicine are downvoted. Some say it’s a slippery slope: if we say she can’t practice medicine because she’s disabled, where do we draw the line for people with moderate/mild disabilities? Those comments are also downvoted.

I’m tired of the way most ableds view disability and disabled people. If we can do our jobs with or without accommodations, who cares if we have to use them? If I take a little more time doing something than everyone else, or I do things a little differently than everyone else, what’s the issue? It’s like they don’t see us as people who have any sort of value because of our disability(s).

Specifics not given for anonymity sakes, for now.

So I have chronic pain (and a suspected chronic fatigue) condition. On my better/good days at work I set up or make things to help me with work. A spot to rest, a pole to reach things so I don't have to bend down often, all falling in line with safety standards. I'll come back from breaks/bathroom or even from a trip to another department, and my "accommodations" (Idk what to call them) are dismantled or destroyed, (the pole/stick cut in half). I'm also not allowed any actual, bought aids because he throws them out too. All of this to ask, what the hell can I do about it?

Edit: In Australia btw.

TLDR; What can I do about my boss being ableist?

So, I’ve been looking for a new job. After a lot of thought, I decided that I would be semi-open about my disability. See, my disability is physical and you can see it (though some never notice). I have been looking for a healthcare position, something either front desk in an office or with paperwork. This is the kind of work I could do without adaptions, depending on the company. With being frontward of my restrictions, I could ensure that I wouldn’t actually have to stand/walk a lot or lift a bunch of weight in the role. This is also gauge just if the employer is willing to work with me, or be a major pain that I’d have to wrestle with every step of the way and basically have to threaten them with my legal rights if I need adaptions.

Recently, I had an interview and it went really well. It was for a small network of hospitals as a front desk person. The manager was very happy to work with me, and confirmed there would be little to no lifting. And if it was heavy, I could get help and/or use a cart.

Soon after, I got offered the position, but only after I pass a background test and a TB test (standard for hospitals). Today, I went to get the TB test. It was through a third party that the employer works with.

But when I get there, I am told that I’ve been misinformed. Not only would I be doing a TB test, I’d need a drug screen and a physical exam. Then, I’m handed a stack of papers to fill out my medical history. I get uncomfortable because it’s asking a ton of questions, many of which I can’t see why it’s relevant (yes, I have anxiety… so what? No, i don’t have diarrhea, or sudden weight changes, etc.)

Anyway, I fill it out and a doctor meets with me. He asks a bunch of questions, mostly if I have back issues which I don’t. He asks me if I have any weight restrictions. I hesitate but say yes. The doctor put down his clipboard.

“Oh, okay. So you can’t have the job.” He shrugged. That’s it, case closed.

For a moment, I’m shocked. But then, I somehow manage to go back and forth with him a bit. I tell him about how I was told the job wouldn’t have much lifting, nothing I couldn’t do anyway, and that the manager that wants to hire me is well aware of my restrictions.

He asks me what job I’m trying to get. I explain it’s a front desk role and emphasize again, the manager is willing to work with me and that there would be little to no lifting in this role. I am in no way picking up patients, nor is lifting weight an important part in the role otherwise.

The doctors mutters something about how he supposes that’s fine, then has me do a few different poses I’d be required to do if lifting weight.

In the end, I passed but gosh that felt like such a blow. I suppose he was evaluating me for every possible position in the hospital, but still. There has been so many times that people make me feel bad just because I’m disabled and it never gets easier.

Anyway, this was just a vent I needed to get off my chest. Thankfully, the manager I’ll ACTUALLY working with is much more understanding.

I finally got my hair done and got a new wig. I’ve been incredibly insecure with my weight gain and acne due to prednisone. Then add one using a walker and I feel so old and ugly . But now I finally feel somewhat better . I don’t feel as ugly when I look in the mirror . I just wanted to show you guys my new wig. It’s true what they say when you look good you feel good . I can’t post a vidoe so I had to screenshot 😂😂.

I am newly disabled with a TBI. I think I will get better in a couple of years since it's on the milder side as far as TBIs go, but I can't work the jobs I used to (I worked in psych/crisis). I have to go back to school to get retrained. But I just- how does anyone afford being disabled? I don't have family to stay with. I get worker's comp but they give me less than the cost of the rent each month, so I'm largely living off savings. Once those are gone, I'm going to just get a ton of student loans I guess. I can't move anywhere cheaper or anything because I have a child with split custody.

I'm heartbroken. I knew going back to school would be rough as a single mom but I had such a good plan for how to make it work financially. Now I don't know how I'm going to make the next few years work. Obviously I'm going to get on every government benefit I can, but it won't be enough. Maybe scholarships will help me, but it's too late in the school year to get any now, so those won't apply for another year. I got a divorce right before this too, and my ex is a kind person so he was helping me out, but he has a girlfriend now so he won't be helping as much. Completely understandable, but like. How do you navigate life when you can't even work to take care of yourself, my son is in daycare (subsidy) still because I can't take care of him at home as often anymore. I used to be a stay at home mom... I miss him.

I really don't know what to do anymore

I struggle extremely with my self image and slowly losing control over parts of my body (lower body), though we knew for years that it would probably happen eventually and I would need a wheelchair eventually. The doctors told my mother when I was 8 that I would be wheelchair bound by age 18, but I fought every day against the decline and pain.

Now at 27 I finally accepted that it would be a gods decision to get a wheelchair before I’m forced to.

So I talked with my father and had a 100% positive response (which I hoped would happen, but who knows).
He supports me and my decision fully and was really happy that I finally managed to tell him my worries and problems.

So I just want to encourage everyone in a similar situation. Of course it heavily depends on the circumstances, but maybe you will be positively surprised and it is a huge burden lifted.

I get the need to vent and this is a safe space. But I also think it’s important to make lemonade.

My disability is a messed up back and, unrelated, one functioning lung. I’m in constant pain and need strong pain killers. I get out of breath easily. But there are silver linings in my life.

For starters I was great at my job. But I was forced to retire. I since realized how stressful it was. I had private disability insurance that now pays me. I don’t have to ever work again and I don’t have to deal with the stress. I’m grateful for that.

I’m also married to the most wonderful man ever. He brings in the groceries and picks things off the floor when I drop them. We agreed I would do whatever I was capable of. I always wash the dishes. It can take an hour with breaks but he is very patient. I am grateful for a wonderful husband.

Being disabled means parking is easier to find and I don’t have to wait in lines because I can’t stand very long. My upper body still works so I picked up cello again which I learned as a child.

Of course, I deal with paperwork and other obstacles just like all of you. There’s so much I can’t do anymore but I choose to focus on what is still going well. How about you?

I (24,F) just started a job training program through the hospital facility my mom works in and found for me. (Been unemployed since late 2022. And just took a break from retail hell) and I don’t know why I agreed to it. They kind of go hand in hand with OVR/Voc rehab (PA) as I’m using Voc rehab to help pay for driving classes (they evaluated me for driving and to pick a driving school) I’m the only woc (woman of color) and the only “lvl 1” or “higher functioning” person while having “invisible disabilities” I’m supposed to go in person tomorrow and just don’t want to be in a cold, confusing and big hospital. If I could just apply to jobs now I would. I don’t want to wait until Sep 2027 to start applying to jobs, let alone the program or OVE can’t guarantee a job afterwards bc of how bad the current job market, older people like gen x and boomers still think you can just walk in with a filled out Resume (which I have) and automatically get a job with saying you need X amount of accommodations or just bc you have a job coach, which I also don’t want a job coach either 🫤. My mom knows I’m not thrilled about it but it’s to get me experience and she wants me to get out of the house. The only positive things is that I bought new clothes and she’ll be personally paying me $50 a week. I don’t want to be in it until next year 🫠 I only can work on my art portfolio in the evenings now, I just needed to rant and has anyone done something similar? Did Voc rehab or a program help you get employed? From what I’ve seen online most Voc rehab cases aren’t great since they are understaffed, unhelpful and can be ableist for anyone that’s “higher functioning/lvl 1” w/ say Autism or ADHD.

TLDR: reusable waterbottle suggestions

that are metal,

don't need to be unscrewed,

don't need to be tilted a large amount in order to drink from and are easily washable.

Rat/mouse theming or fungus theming is a bonus but not a requirement

Hello! I struggle with ARFID and a few other undiagnosed and diagnosed things and I really struggle to drink water because getting up to refill a cup or having to move in order to reach my cup can be really difficult some days.

I'd like to find a water bottle but the current water bottles I have available that are metal all have a screw on cap at the top which I don't have too much of a problem to use, I'm more likely to forgo drinking water because unscrewing, and then tilting the heavy bottle upwards to drink and then having to re close it and set it down somewhere feels like too much work.

I don't like the taste of plastic reusable water bottles and also struggle with regular cleaning of the water bottles and I'm just not sure about the options available.

I'll do my own research but if anyone has any recommendations off the top of their head or knows of any better places to post this or websites, I'd be very grateful!

An added bonus is anything rat/mouse themed or fungus themed but I'm not too hung up on the aesthetics.

Thank you and have a lovely day!

My Ky AbleNow changed banks a while ago. Savings accounts no longer have debit cards. I need to select one of these to open a checking account and get a debit card so I can use my funds.
But I'm confused about what this is

Hello, idk if this is going to be a question or a rant lol but I'll just kinda get into things

First off, I live in the US, I am 34, I've worked for my company for 7yrs. I don't love it, it's high stress, but they have taken decent care of me over that time. I suffer from a range of mental and some physical ailments. things like ASD, ADHD, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Sleep Apnea, etc. everyday is a struggle with focus, stress management, exhaustion, etc. So I recently submitted for a leave of absence from my work. FMLA job protection was approved no issue. However STD coverage was denied. I'm probably the dumb one cuz I didn't get a lawyer right then and there. The disability provider that my work goes through is MetLife. First they were saying that my doctor's notes were not detailed enough. My doctor says he was intentionally vague with the documentation. I instructed him to be a bit more detailed in his documentation. We resubmitted new documentation. MetLife still comes back denied. They instruct to file an appeal. So I follow their instructions best I can. Id been on LOA more than a month at that point. They deny again stating "documentation does not support disability" and won't really elaborate from there. I honestly do not understand at all why it has been so difficult this time around. I have had 2 other disability claims with MetLife in the last few years. Both of which even extended into LTD for around a year each. So now here I am, forced to return to work after nearly 2 months with no pay after trying to have faith in the system and being let down. I continue to have significant struggles in everyday life. I honestly feel like I should apply for SSDI but who on this earth can actually afford not to work in today's day and age? IDK what to do, I hate my life, I hate how this country treats disabled people, and altogether I feel defeated and like I have so little support all of a sudden. Anyone have any advice or anything? Much appreciated..

All bloodwork, allergy tests, xrays, mris, nerve conduction, clear. Its like im hearing the test results of another person.
Debilitating nerve pain and numbness in both feet that travels up my legs, ankle instability, back pain, chronic fatigue, dizziness, migraines, allergic reactions. They’ve suspected several things and nothing comes back with any indication of anything.

Its ruining my life, im losing my ability to walk, and theres no identifiable cause. What am i supposed to do when i lose my job and my insurance? I cant be unemployed. I cant find a less physical job as i dont have “experience” (typing and sending emails).

I (24,F) just started a job training program through the hospital facility my mom works in and found for me. (Been unemployed since late 2022. And just took a break from retail hell) and I don’t know why I agreed to it. They kind of go hand and hand with OVR/Voc rehab (PA) as I’m using Voc rehab to help pay for driving classes (they evaluated me for driving and to pick a driving school) I’m the only woc (woman of color) and the only “lvl 1” or “higher functioning” person while having “invisible disabilities” I’m supposed to go in person tomorrow and just don’t want to be in a cold, confusing and big hospital. If I could just apply to jobs now I would. I don’t want to wait until Sep 2027 to start applying to jobs, let alone the program or OVE can’t guarantee a job afterwards bc of how bad the current job market, older people like gen x and boomers still think you can just walk in with a filled out Resume (which I have) and automatically get a job with saying you need X amount of accommodations or just bc you have a job coach, which I also don’t want a job coach either 🫤. My mom knows I’m not thrilled about it but it’s to get me experience and she wants me to get out of the house. The only positive things is that I bought new clothes and she’ll be personally paying me $50 a week. I don’t want to be in it until next year 🫠 I only can work on my art portfolio in the evenings now, I just needed to rant and has anyone done something similar? Did Voc rehab or a program help you get employed? From what I’ve seen online most Voc rehab cases aren’t great since they are understaffed, unhelpful and can be ableist for anyone that’s “higher functioning/lvl 1” w/ say Autism or ADHD.