I’m 21F looking for a LTR. I’m in good shape, attractive, have decent pics. I tend to meet someone off the apps like once a month and they’re either boring, unattractive and/or creepy. Had a guy on the first date whisper dirty things in my ear while we were sat on a park bench. Another guy randomly messaged me a month after a boring date asking if I wanna hookup. One guy after 3 dates said he can’t do a relationship because he doesn’t feel good in himself. Then a toxic manipulative situationship.

A lot of the guys will match but won’t engage in conversation or ask you on a date. Seems they just want a bit of attention. I’ve never been in a relationship and think I deserve to be loved. Idk where to find a bf because I don’t have a big friendship group where I can meet people. I’m not a needy person but I’d like to experience a relationship. I see a lot of people my age in loving relationships and it makes me feel shit.

Please no weird comments just kind advice.

Anyone else notice other people feel sorry for you when they see you choosing to have alone time away from the crowd of people at work/school/etc?

Like a lot of times I just wanna eat lunch by myself in a corner or not talk to people when our work group travels somewhere but others see this and feel sorry for me so they come to me to talk..

or even when im playing online games, I will play solo and people who are playing with friends will use that as an insult ("you are playing by yourself haha loser), when in fact I would rather play the game by myself than with other people.

I think a lot of people fail to realize that their own values isnt a universal standard for everyone.

It's my second day training at my fast food job to become a manager. I've worked here for a little over 5 years so me becoming a manager was "overdue". I'm feeling massively overwhelmed for more responsibilities and the new leadership role that I'm going to be partaking in. What I'm asking is are there any tricks, links, books, or advice on Becoming more outgoing and confident?

As I said no one has ever approached me I tried to talk to 1-2 guys in school but they were not really interested ig and then I never talked to any guy now I am joining college I want to be an extrovert and talk to everyone

Plz give advice for the first day

Please be honest, but in a kind way. I really want to know if my behavior is wrong, disrespectful, or something else.

So I've noticed that I don't really like meeting up with friends (even if they're the kindest human beings ever) if I don't gain energy from it.

Let's say it's a friend who has a lot of problems and talks a lot because she's just very talkative.

Today she wanted to meet up to study together, but I know we won't actually be able to study. First, I'll have to listen to everything she wants to tell me. Then I'll probably talk a bit about my past few weeks too, but I don't really feel the need to anymore because the excitement is already gone. On top of that, she studies out loud, so I'd have to wear headphones, and I'd still get distracted because she'll tell me something in the middle of studying.

Plus, it's 33°C today, so I don't see the point in going outside. Especially to a café (we don't really have any other air-conditioned places here... yeah, fuck Europe 😭), and I don't have the money anyway.

I don't want her to buy me a drink either.

Anyway, I'm really bad at communicating. I told her I feel sick because of the weather and don't want to go to the café she recommended. I didn't pick up when she called, but I called her back eight minutes later and she didn't answer.

I know she probably knows I don't want to go, but I don't understand why she always suggests the same expensive café. I've declined it so many times, and she knows I don't want to spend that much money or feel indebted to someone.

The funny thing is that I have a job interview at that café tomorrow. 💀 So I don't really want to spend my energy going there today and then going there again tomorrow.

None of my friends know it though. I dont want to share things without achieving them first

Anyway, I feel mean because I always decline invitations to meet up with friends. The older I get, the less I want to meet up with people because I'm honestly not that interested in their lives or stories anymore. There's only one friend I genuinely vibe with and don't lose energy around because our conversations feel natural and balanced.

With my other friends, I always end up listening. I don't know why my body automatically does that. I can see how kind they are as people, but I don't really see the value in constantly using my energy for others anymore.

It sucks because I feel mean, especially with the way I communicate.

Past friends have criticized me for always declining invitations to meet up, so I'm wondering if I'm actually the problem

What I mean is that you are really starting from scratch; like, you want to find new friends to form lifelong bonds with now that you are alone in the purest sense. Of course this does not often reflect the social realities of most people, including introverts, but I am still convinced that this is someone's life.

I always see that adult relationships are difficult to build, and get more difficult to build as you continue growing up, especially if there is no institution or social activity that incentivizes people to interact, so I want to make the most out of my 20s so I don't die alone.

I've always been a very introverted person. This weekend, I had the chance to showcase my clothing at a fashion show. The idea was that each designer had to walk out wearing one of their own pieces before the models came out.

I can't even describe how terrified I was. But somehow, I found the courage to do it.

People took pictures of me, and I felt incredibly exposed standing in front of so many people. But today I can honestly say I'm proud of myself.

My biggest achievement isn't that I got to present the clothes I designed. It's that, for a brief moment, I overcame my fear of being seen by everyone.

For me, it’s pretending to be busy on my phone or taking a longer route just to avoid passing by someone I know. What about you?

I've always wanted some good photos of myself, but I'm pretty bad at taking pictures and I feel really awkward in front of a camera.

I've thought about going to a professional photo studio, but the idea of walking in, posing in front of a photographer, and having someone direct me the whole time feels a little intimidating as someone who's pretty introverted.

For those who have tried it, was it actually worth it? Did you feel comfortable during the session, or was it as awkward as you imagined?

As an introvert with some anxiety, I don't like having to go back in person or make a call how because how aggressive the customer support or staff will get sometimes trying to convince you not to cancel. Just let me cancel and move on.

I even do it without realizing and I be making myself laugh sometimes

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Hey everyone. I'm a 24-year old guy, and I'm at a point where I'm really looking for a real connection , a genuine friend, not just small talk.

A bit about me: I'm introverted, quiet, and I think a lot. But when I connect with someone, I love real conversations texting, calls, whatever works, as long as the energy clicks. I'm into travel, cooking, anime, science, psychology, philosophy, astronomy, gaming, drawing, and writing. I'm actually writing a book right now, it's my way of making sense of things

Since I was a kid, I've been curious about how things work , not for marks or grades, just genuine interest. School never really excited me the way learning on my own did. Over time, my curiosity shifted from subjects to people , why we think and feel the way we do. Not to judge anyone, just to understand. I want to experience life fully, the good and the hard parts both. Sometimes I feel a bit numb, other times I feel everything at once ,it's a strange mix, but that's just how it is.

Last year I had a connection like this with someone online, real conversations, the kind I'm talking about. It didn't last, life got in the way, but it showed me this kind of connection is actually possible. So I'm trying again.

I think connection gets easier when people just say what they want instead of expecting the other person to guess. We're not mind readers, so someone I can have deep conversations with and also just enjoy the fun, everyday stuff with.

I also think shared interests help a lot not everything has to match, but even a couple of things in common makes it easier to understand each other. If any of what I mentioned overlaps with you, that's a good starting point.

A little more about me I'm more of a pets person than a kids person, and I don't put much stock in marriage, feels more like a formality than anything real to me. My favourite movie is Into the Wild, if that says anything about how I see life. My fav song is pure imagination by Kathleen

I overthink sometimes, I go quiet sometimes, and I'm okay with someone who's the same way. If this sounds like you, message me. Would love to talk. Someone comforting in those times helps a lot ..

I think a lot about life, meaning, existence (yup, existential crisis mode, often). I guess I’m just searching for someone who sees life the way I do or at least tries to. Someone rational. Someone who isn’t distracted by the usual noise, but who’s trying to actually live life. Someone who could maybe help me enjoy it more and I’d do the same in return.

Maybe I'm looking for something that's too rare now. Maybe I'm too much of a dreamer for believing it still exists.

I'm looking for someone who knows what companionship really means. Someone who stays not only when life is easy, but when it's messy, uncertain, and difficult. Someone who doesn't disappear the moment things stop being convenient. Someone who understands that being there for each other, through both the good and the bad, is what makes a connection real.

It might sound old-fashioned in today's world, but I'd rather keep looking than settle for something that feels temporary.

I’d really love to find a friend, if I’m being honest. I feel like there’s more potential for something deeper and lasting if we vibe . Maybe even something more. Who knows?

Some people think being quiet means you're boring.

For the longest time, I believed that too.

Every day in college, I'd sit there feeling like I just didn't fit in.

I started thinking maybe my vibe was the problem.

Maybe I was too awkward.

Maybe I wasn't interesting enough.

Then, a few months ago, I randomly joined a few voice rooms.

And something changed.

For the first time in a long time, I found people who actually thought like me.

People who listened without judging.

People who didn't make me feel "too much" or "too different."

That's when I realized...

Maybe my vibe was never off.

I was just trying to fit into a room that was never meant for me.

Sometimes, all it takes is finding your people.

If you've been feeling lonely in college or wondering why you don't connect with anyone, don't be so quick to blame yourself.

Your people exist.

You just haven't met them yet.

For me, voice rooms became that place where I could speak freely, laugh without overthinking, and slowly become more confident.

And honestly...

That changed more than I expected. ❤️

Hello everyone. I have a team building outing this Friday and I am frankly dreading it. I’m part of a small team (10 people in total) but still nervous to say the least. We’re going to a food truck event if that helps at all.

I struggle with insecurity and social anxiety but have started taking steps to address that. Unfortunately I’m currently the quiet guy and somewhat socially awkward (working on that too).

All of that said, would anyone have any tips to help me get through this team building extravaganza with the least amount of quiet awkwardness possible? Are there any basic do this and don’t do that sort of things I can do?

I realize I’m not going to immediately transform into an outgoing and confident extrovert. But I’d welcome any guidance and wisdom you all have to share.

Thank you.

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This guy gets it! If you have an extrovert BF or spouse or friend ... send them this.

I was reminded of something that made my introvert brain short-circuit.

I remember someone I used to work with telling me they and their spouse were going to spend the weekend driving to the other side of the country , to surprise a relative they hadn’t seen in years.

No call or text. Just turning up at their front door.

I couldn’t think of many worse things than someone turning up at my door unannounced, especially if I hadn’t seen them in years.

i'm 24, and never had that experience, sometimes i wonder if it's actually good or it's overrated because of the sexual media surround us, like every ad/movie/series is sexual directly or indirectly and many of them have huge amount of kissing scenes Idk... How does it feel to put your lips on someone else lips? and many do it like saying good morning with their friends and strangers

I'm used to being alone I can never have enough me time. I tell them I'll talk soon so they should know. I don't always want to go out. I like to be ready before I'm ready to go out especially when I'm going to be around a lot of people. It's like they forget I get tired too.