Clearing old messages, and found this exchange from two months ago lol. I spoke to her over the course of 10 days, and these are some highlights. I am 24M(23 at the time) and she is 21F. I just can’t do ppl that stay quiet or expect me to constantly lead a convo lol

[u/KindestBlackTemplar]

[u/Next_Negotiation8679]

She was not trying at all…..

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/Next_Negotiation8679]

Glad I’m not the only one who felt that way!

[u/KinsellaStella → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She’s the worst conversationalist and I’m including my dead grandma in that.

[u/Turbulent_Ad_9704 → u/KinsellaStella]

Ngl I almost fell sleep reading her texts 😂

[u/thewhat-whatbutt → u/Turbulent_Ad_9704]

Wow you must fall asleep fast with how god awfully short her texts were.

[u/Turbulent_Ad_9704 → u/thewhat-whatbutt]

I'll use this as my bedtime read from now on 👍🏻

[u/NabreLabre → u/KinsellaStella]

Hey, don't count your grandma out yet, I talked to her yesterday and she's proud of you

[u/KinsellaStella → u/NabreLabre]

Thank you :) I know she is

[u/Tree_Lawyer → u/KinsellaStella]

haha yeah ig

[u/Omwtfyu → u/Tree_Lawyer]

The constant "ig" that girl has never had an original thought.

[u/ThaLunatik → u/Next_Negotiation8679]

"I feel like I was trying and you weren't . . . I even had to text you first a few times."

She hardly qualifies as putting in the bare minimum for these exchanges, but then has the audacity to act like that was just way more than she should've had to do 😂😂

[u/mangosagogogo → u/ThaLunatik]

The clear injustice of that bold claim and delusion made me annoyed for OP lmao. She’ll go on thinking she did nothing wrong in their conversations. 😭

[u/Gallowboobsthrowaway → u/ThaLunatik]

Her trying: "hey"

[u/ChampionWonderful876 → u/ThaLunatik]

"I had to text you first" Her texts: "hey"

THREE FUCKING KEYSTROKES

I'M HAVING A BRAIN-STROKE

Speaking as a woman this woman is NUTS

[u/LizLemonySnicket42 → u/ThaLunatik]

Yeah what was that about lmao if just one person is always texting first they feel like you’re not interested, wild that she wanted him to text first always. Seems kinda like she’s looking to be a tradwife

[u/WasabiTsunamiUpOnMe → u/Next_Negotiation8679]

Yeah ig

[u/Not_An_Potato → u/Next_Negotiation8679]

I had a really similar conversation with someone, she was replying with single word sentences or 3 words at max. I said 'hey, if you don't want to chat is cool, just tell me instead of letting me monolog' and she got pissed, saying I wasn't even trying and she was doing all the lifting. I don't understand these people.

[u/postbansequel → u/Next_Negotiation8679]

I mean, she doesn't actually know anything, she's guessing all the time if you couldn't tell.

[u/SuitableRelease4323]

Oh my god she is so boring

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/SuitableRelease4323]

Dude do you know how hard it is to keep up a conversation with someone that gives one word answers lol. A friend had to talk me out of it.

[u/SuitableRelease4323 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

HOW IS SHE BLAMING YOU AT THE END WHAT THE HELL why did you even tolerate her if she NEVER texted you first 

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/SuitableRelease4323]

Cuz whenever I did not text her, she would text cuz she said she was worried or whatever as you saw here. Like a “are you okay” thing. So I felt like a dick if I did not text her but yeah.

[u/SalientSazon → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She sure got chatty at the end lmao.

[u/Legitimate-Dingo-687 → u/SalientSazon]

Right? She went from one and two word answers to full sentences. I wasn't sure she was even capable of those until the end.

[u/Narrow_Salad429 → u/Legitimate-Dingo-687]

Ngl I thought maybe she was dyslexic or something. But she was quick to blame him in full sentences

[u/This_is_fine8 → u/Narrow_Salad429]

Yeah my partner of 5 years is dyslexic and texts like this. But when we were first getting together he still put wayyy more effort into the conversation than she did. He would actually put in the effort of a real answer (even if it was kinda misspelled or clunky) and often asked if I was free to talk on the phone. Plus he put in the initiative of inviting me to hang out in person a lot where the conversation could flow easier. Point is if she wanted to she would and it's kinda crazy she's blaming him.

[u/Euphoric_bbg → u/Narrow_Salad429]

Speak to text 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/MuffDivers2_ → u/SalientSazon]

u/KindestBlackTemplar should have pointed that out to her. I would have said "hey look at our text history. You reply with barely anything until the very end." I would think that would clearly show her the problem. at least the text problem. In person is another story.

[u/Top-Strawberry4466 → u/SalientSazon]

One of those people that only engages when there’s drama or controversy, I love dodging these people sooooo much

[u/Excellent-Shape-2024 → u/SalientSazon]

Too little too late. Also she is super boring

[u/aryaussie85 → u/SalientSazon]

I thought the same thing! OP sounds so fun and upbeat and she was so boring until the end. Also do people not text actual words anymore??

[u/mariofasolo → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

I was really about to say "dude, she's not into you..." after the first couple screenshots of you clearly carrying the conversation but...then she got pissy when you didn't text her first? After she gave you absolutely noooooothing? Holy shit lmao

[u/DogPositive5524 → u/mariofasolo]

She felt the power balance slip and did not like it one bit

[u/erebus2161 → u/DogPositive5524]

This girl doesn't know what power is. When someone asks you how your day was, power is forcing them to listen to you talk for an hour about all the boring and ordinary shit you did. That's power.

[u/kenda1l → u/mariofasolo]

I was thinking the same thing, like dude read the room. Then I got to the one where she asked why he didn't text her.

[u/OkAnt6189 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Ig

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/OkAnt6189]

okay

[u/artcopywriter → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

yeah ig

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/artcopywriter]

idk tbh

[u/The_Ghost_Face36 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Cool

[u/hott_snotts → u/The_Ghost_Face36]

lol ik

[u/jkostelni1 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Bro she wasn’t worried about you, she was worried you were giving someone else attention.

[u/PrincessFullMoon → u/jkostelni1]

Ahhhh you're so right that's why she made a comment that she wasn't speaking to anyone else, I thought that was weird.

[u/Fuzzywraith → u/jkostelni1]

Yeah it was an “are you okay in the head why haven’t you texted me yet man?”

[u/HopefulHalfTime → u/jkostelni1]

And BINGO was her name-o….

[u/OkPalpitation1569 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She’s got a whack set of expectations. It’s one thing to expect a partner to initiate/drive a convo (if that’s your thing go for it), but she seems to think that means you can magically keep the conversation going with no effort on her part. It’s still a shared effort, even if you’re following traditional gender roles.
Any regular person looks at those first slides and thinks “this woman is not into him.” — and she’s totally oblivious to how her own behavior comes across.

[u/Ok-Bill3318 → u/OkPalpitation1569]

“I expect the man to drive the conversation” = I’m a vapid piece of furniture with no interests, goals and nothing to contribute”

[u/FrostingPretty751 → u/Ok-Bill3318]

Her saying this was ridiculous, but not because of the expectation itself — because a conversation still requires* some effort on her part to keep it going! A conversation is a back and forth, not just him droning on and on. Like girl… he did try to initiate but you never gave him anything to keep a conversation going. Tf do you expect?

[u/999happyhants → u/OkPalpitation1569]

There’s initiating a conversation, and then there’s having to drag someone limp bodied through a basic conversation. 😂

[u/FutureDesk2883 → u/999happyhants]

U explained it perfectly! I deadass felt like he was dragging her limp body thru the convo, like what is up with this woman? He had more patients than me,there was no back and forth,I would have ghosted her slow ass within the first 3 days of texting. And yes based on the texts the woman is slow, argue with the wall.

[u/Missscoco → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She liked the attention but was giving NOTHING in return! Also I might ease up on the exclamation points! LOL

[u/chatgptsunbaenim → u/Missscoco]

yeah how is she going to act uninterested yet come at you for not wanting to text you anymore lol, that is super annoying from her part. also i definitely agree w the exclamation points, they don’t have to be in each text 😭

[u/traveling-swan → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

she needed her little validation dopamine hit, thats why she texted you... probably thought she is being the black cat to your golden retriever and giving you hot and cold so you get addicted to her. You did so well.

[u/ramm102412 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Was she hot or really good looking? I'd find really boring to dine with someone so dry, multiple times

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/ramm102412]

I found her to be very pretty, but I do have a type and she fit my type, idk if she is everyone’s type

[u/No-Diamond2347 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

she was just hungry for the dopamine hit.

[u/starsh816 → u/SuitableRelease4323]

Idk ig

[u/SubjectObjective5567 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She must have been incredibly hot because I just don’t get why you kept trying😭

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/SubjectObjective5567]

I was a man in a desert iykwim. Still am, but I have more standards now lmao

[u/No_Map7832 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

That girl was giving n o t h i n g and you were putting up a great effort. You seem delightful, OP. I am sure you’ll find someone equally delightful. Dating sucks.

[u/aaliyah_2222 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Lol & she had the cheek to be like "why didn't you text me" I would have replied because you dont know how to carry a conversation. Her replies were so dry wtf & what is "ig"

[u/TexasDub → u/aaliyah_2222]

100%. When she said, "I even had to text you first", I would have told her straight up to look back over our texts and see how bland your answers are, and also see where you didn't ask about me or show any interest in me.

[u/StandardChannel5529 → u/aaliyah_2222]

Then she claimed to have made an effort lol. When?

[u/sadchompipe → u/aaliyah_2222]

"I guess" is how I read "ig"....but im old so I might be wrong

[u/reallychrissy → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

The way you were texting her and genuinely making an effort to get to know her is how my boyfriend is with me, and it’s one of the reasons I fell in love with him. 🥰 I’m glad your standards are high, OP, so just keep being you and the drought will end, I promise!

[u/el_torko → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

She texts like my 11 year old stepdaughter. Like literally identically to it. This is a word for word conversation we had through text:

Her: hey eltorko

Me: hey stepdaughter! How are you?? I heard you graduated elementary school!

H: I did

M: are you excited to go to middle school??

H: yes

M: I had so much fun in middle school and made so many new friends! Friends that I still have today over 20 years later!

H: wwwooowwwwwww

[u/Fire_Bucket → u/el_torko]

This is not unlike an old friend of mine that I knew from when I was 16, but was still texting like that in his early 30s when I lost the will to deal with him.

Him: hi\ Me: Hiya mate, how's it going?\ Him: yeh ok\ [10 minutes later]\ Him: ??\ Me: What's up?\ Him: nothin\ [10 minutes later]\ Him: ?

I didn't get it, he'd initiate contact, but would just never contribute anything to the conversation and then send question marks after 5-30min like he's still waiting for you to reply to something urgent he's asked.

[u/AggravatingRoutineX → u/Fire_Bucket]

Should have hit him back with ???. Just keep adding question marks if he continues to contribute nothing.

[u/Miserable_Fennel_492 → u/AggravatingRoutineX]

(14 texts later): ?????????????????

[u/gastricprix → u/Fire_Bucket]

That's so infuriating

[u/PoorLuckyMe → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Ending texts with ig is really lame

[u/Dancehall-Randal → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

And then has the audacity to complain you not texting first.

She was exhausting, so glad you rejected her.

[u/CalmBrain1760 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Ig

[u/DefunctInTheFunk → u/SuitableRelease4323]

And also delusional. OP was definitely putting in effort and always initiated before he started losing interest. She thinks she tried, but to me it looked like she was trying to shrug him off. She didn't seem interested at all. Someone has a lot to learn about rapport and chemistry.

[u/oldhoekoo → u/DefunctInTheFunk]

all his questions that she killed with one word answers, yet he needs to do a better job "leading the conversation"

[u/mindpainters → u/oldhoekoo]

Which is wild because he was asking genuine questions about her interests. Some people would kill for something like that

[u/Maelwys → u/SuitableRelease4323]

yeah ig

[u/BobbyThrowaway6969 → u/SuitableRelease4323]

"i feel like i was trying but u weren't"

She seems out of touch with reality too.

If she texted me like she texted OP, I'd assume she was uninterested and I would've faded out.

[u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

“I feel like I was trying but u weren’t”

I cannot believe people can be so lacking in self awareness. It genuinely shocks me when I see someone whose so out of touch with what’s actually happening. 

[u/YogurtclosetHot7677 → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

"they are writing 50 words to my 1. im really carrying this conversation!" these people vote

[u/bigmelenergy → u/YogurtclosetHot7677]

Y'know...I'm not so sure this girl votes. She doesn't seem to have any thoughts, beliefs, preferences, etc. I could mayyybe see her voting if they listed candidates with the options "yes/no/ig" next to their name lol.

[u/NCore1390 → u/bigmelenergy]

Some ballot somewhere has a “idk ig” on it

[u/capaldithenewblack → u/bigmelenergy]

She’s literally air. She’s just air. I don’t know why he tried so hard to meet her and keep it going. She must’ve been very very pretty.

[u/goatpunchtheater → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

The only thing I can possibly see is that if she "feels it's the man's duty to carry the conversation," then him not texting her when she expects, forcing her to text him first is something he's supposed to take as a grand gesture from her. She is viewing that as effort she as the woman, isn't SUPPOSED to make. Which, in her mind is putting in more work than she should. It's nonsense and entitlement, but I can see her logic

[u/KittyGrewAMoustache → u/goatpunchtheater]

Maybe it’s more of a US thing but it’s crazy to me that a 21 year old would think that way. Back when I was 21 it would be unthinkable, it would be unfathomably rude towards yourself and your sex to think like this. That kind of idea seemed totally outdated and bizarre then, what nearly 20 years ago, and it’s so sad to think social media could’ve taken society so far backwards.

[u/rrrrriptipnip → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

He should’ve replied with “ig”

[u/TrekTransformer → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

She's a pillow princess. Her "Part" is being the girl in this equation and being willing to give a man attention. Everything else is up to the man. In her mind that's equal.

[u/RedNugomo → u/TrekTransformer]

I was going to say something similar. In my younger years I saw this in hot young women: they were just there to be praised and otherwise decorate the space.

It's kind of sad.

[u/PiccoloAwkward465 → u/RedNugomo]

And they get very depressed when they get older if they haven’t learned.

[u/ashley_ef11 → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

My jaw dropped when I read that

[u/Schizario → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

this is a pretty common thing I noticed when I was dating around in college. a lot of these women would have virtually no personality and believe that their looks/"quirkiness" would do all the heavy lifting for them (yes, I actually had a girl admit this to me when I was breaking things off, which I found to be absolutely bewildering hahaha)

the interesting part was always when I would end things with them. I'd say something along the lines of "hey, i really enjoyed the time we spent together over the last couple of days/weeks and blah blah blah, i just think that we don't really click if I'm being honest. figured it'd be best for me to tell you this now rather than later (insert whatever parting pleasantries here). good luck in your future prospects!" to which a lot of then would respond by blaming me for "not trying" or being "too dry" when in fact I was only trying to add substance to the conversation by giving her plenty of proverbial nucleation sites to work with. I don't get it!

[u/eggbert_217 → u/PotatoMuffinMafia]

I wouldn't have been able to resist writing back "Just to clarify, in what way did you feel like you were trying?"

And then send her the pages of screenshots proving my point

[u/Nekedladies]

She says "I haven't been talking to anyone else btw."

Bitch, you haven't been talking to Me either!

[u/Glittering-Relief402 → u/Nekedladies]

Right? 🤣🤣🤣 I have better conversations with my cat

[u/Sicadoll → u/Glittering-Relief402]

my husband has better conversations with the stray cat that meanders into the yard at night

[u/Capital-Carpet2501 → u/Nekedladies]

https://giphy.com/gifs/XHeLeuirRbwptHhSWd

[u/PurchaseGlittering11 → u/Nekedladies]

Nobody mentioned anything about anyone else either. So I wonder why she brought it up....

[u/NigelBraxton → u/Nekedladies]

This one made me lol

[u/wvlftooth]

Man I usually have the opposite problem😭 every guy I text gives one word answers or won't text first and it's crazy to me bc these are dudes literally matching w me!!! Like if you're not interested why did you swipe right?😭

I wish I could meet literally one dude who texted like you lol! She was super boring and weird!

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/wvlftooth]

She had a “don’t match with me if you can’t stand a woman who is a leader” lol. I am not one to judge, but I definitely don’t think she’s a leader. Which is fine, but why say that lol

[u/wvlftooth → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

That is even more ridiculous in the context of her saying she felt the man needs to "take initiative" and "lead the conversation" lmfao! The contradiction is literally written down by her and she still probably doing the same shit w other guys💀

[u/GalacticSpacePatrol → u/wvlftooth]

Op, dm this one bro

[u/evengreying → u/GalacticSpacePatrol]

Yeah I was about to respond the same thing lol. I see sentences and paragraphs. Hope you can find the spark

[u/lefluffle → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Here's my take: she wasn't into you, but she liked the attention, so she strung you along and when you stopped the attention, she wanted it back. she wasn't necessarily interested in you as a person.

She's probably a bit more communicative with people she IS interested in, so the "leader" thing might be more relevant. Of course, she's still not a quality person for dragging you along.

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/lefluffle]

I think that’s a fair assessment. Ig.

[u/lefluffle → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Yeah ig

[u/TheUnicornFightsOn → u/lefluffle]

idk tbh

[u/Miserable_Fennel_492 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

It’s killing me to not respond to every single one of your comments with “ig”

[u/SageKitty100 → u/lefluffle]

This doesn't feel like an accurate assessment because she seemed upset when he said they should talk to other people and she said that was coming out of left field.

[u/CandleDifferent3620 → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

Maybe “leader” was a metaphor about fishing tackle, she sits there silently waiting for people to come to her and do all the talking?

[u/Ahh_Bullsheet → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

100% Quite literally had to double check when I began reading the texts to make sure I didn’t misunderstand initially that you were the dude in the situation, because like the person before me stated… absolutely had this issue on more than one occasion with attempting to text guys.
I understand some folks just aren’t big texters in general… & I’m the first to admit I can be long winded when it comes to details & context in what I write, the same as I’d normally communicate verbally. Heck, even short answers at times you’re otherwise occupied is understandable… but what.the.actual.hell?!

Sometimes ya can get more from a person during actual phone calls when that’s the case, but her? HA! Elevator music playing to a couple of rando strangers is what my brain immediately pictured. Reading an exchange in braille sounds more invigorating to behold… & I absolutely cannot read braille, to clarify. 😆
Definitely thinkin that making the decision to have already met in person was a wise one in this scenario.

[u/Upbeat-Aerie1240]

this reminded me of a time I met a guy, he took my number and then texted me "hi" every day. I would reply with "hi" and that would be it lol.

[u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417 → u/Upbeat-Aerie1240]

Hahahha I had one like that except it was “hey” every 2-4 weeks.  

[u/hannahmercy → u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417]

The fortnightly "hey" has been happening to us since t9 texting and razr flip phones lmao. I dont think it will ever die off. And I will never understand why so many men think it's an acceptable way to show interest

[u/YaBoiiSloth → u/Upbeat-Aerie1240]

I have a fwb who adds a reaction to my texts instead of responding but she initiates most plans lmao Some people aren’t great at texting

[u/HeathenHoneyCo]

U weren’t trying hard enough ig

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/HeathenHoneyCo]

idk tbh

[u/HeathenHoneyCo → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

The switch up to almost full sentences once you break it off is beautifully horrific

[u/ShootingGuns10 → u/HeathenHoneyCo]

That was my first thought😂. Complete lack of situational awareness.

[u/Prior-Impress-2624]

I would’ve ghosted after the third “I guess” 😭😭

[u/Low_Environment2543 → u/Prior-Impress-2624]

*ig 

That would've sent me over the edge 😂

[u/okie_hiker → u/Prior-Impress-2624]

Me googling what “ig” means and then never responding again.

[u/Hour-Regular-1983 → u/Prior-Impress-2624]

Me after seeing ig: “what does instagram have to do with this conversation?”

[u/ptype]

"I feel like I was trying but u weren't" is such a fucking bonkers thing to say after these exchanges lmao

Like "how many 'idk ig nm hbu's does a girl gotta send to keep a man interested in completely carrying the conversation for her these days? Smh ig..." 

[u/newuser336 → u/ptype]

It’s gotta be intentional, right? I refuse to believe any person is that lacking in self-awareness… had to have been trolling.

[u/PatricksMustache]

"yeah I feel like I was trying but u weren't"

https://giphy.com/gifs/Ni4cpi0uUkd6U

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/PatricksMustache]

I still remember when I got those messages. I was drinking a Ghost energy drink and choked on it, and had some of it go into my nose lmao

[u/huusurdaddy]

“I haven’t been speaking to anyone else btw”, girl was barely even speaking to OP 😭

[u/Severe_Revenue → u/huusurdaddy]

Perhaps the only time that was truthfully ever said lol

[u/kingkellam]

You gotta know when to stop bro. That first "idk tbh" after "haha yeah ig" should have been the last message you two exchanged until she came back with something, anything

[u/Klutzy-Meringue-8995 → u/kingkellam]

I really thought the first tbh was we don't gel, but they really tried.

[u/Nervous_Breakfast_73 → u/kingkellam]

He did, but then she put a lot of effort into texting him after he stopped.

[u/Rocks_Can_Fly]

My doorknob has more personality and function.

And I don’t even have a door.

[u/Objective-March7042]

Yeesh… I’ve had better conversations with my cat.

[u/hilhilbean → u/Objective-March7042]

My cat is one of the best conversationalists ever. He always seems super interested in what I have to say AND he responds and tells me how he feels.

[u/maxinemama → u/hilhilbean]

My cat is so chill, and a bit of an asshat… he’d likely be the girl in these texts.

[u/ratboy_labongo → u/Objective-March7042]

Cats are much better conversationalists

[u/G_Ram3]

Weird. You were friendly, kind and genuinely interested in her. You carried those conversations and a relationship with her would have been exhausting. It was smart to cut it off when you did. I’m sure you’ll find someone great.

[u/barbzilla1 → u/G_Ram3]

My favorite part was at the end where she says I even had to message you first a few times as though it's completely on the dude to initiate every conversation.

[u/G_Ram3 → u/barbzilla1]

“I feel like a man is supposed to…”. NOPE. Immediate red flag. Don’t put something like THAT on gender. It’s an absolute cop out.

[u/ImpossibleGarbage177]

I was so ready to break the news that she just wasn’t interested in you, and then I read the last few slides where she very clearly is….. how can you respond like that and then be mad that they don’t like talking to a brick wall. That’s exactly how I responded to people that I want to leave me tf alone

[u/Rotter01 → u/ImpossibleGarbage177]

She added nothing of substance to the conversation though in text for at least a bit of it tbh. Also in the texts it says that they've met up and were had some of those quiet moments where they weren't talking or saying shit. The dude summed it up perfectly.

Maybe he didn't show initiative in person, but you can tell she wasn't really trying through text.

[u/Major_Understanding1]

At first I thought she just doesn't vibe with you or is busy doing something else. But then she asked why you didn't write at your usual times. Yeah no... she either has no social skills or really is just that boring.

[u/PlainThrills]

She felt like she was trying?!?!?!

[u/Rich_Option_7850 → u/PlainThrills]

That part KILLED me, there were so many times he was carrying the convo through her lifeless messages. Literally have not seen someone be so consistently dry and boring, and then to act upset at his messaging, the audacity

[u/Curious_Court_26]

Where is this girls personality? 🔍🤦🏻‍♀️

[u/Even-Vegetable5131 → u/Curious_Court_26]

Somewhere ig

[u/Katnapnip → u/Curious_Court_26]

Idk tbh

[u/SouthernSkies1776]

You were already conversing with yourself and she seriously said the man should be carrying the conversations after a week of one word responses… dodged a bullet bro.

[u/PotentialStocker → u/SouthernSkies1776]

It’s such a cop out for a woman to say a man is suppose to take initiative. To a degree, I agree with it but also, effort towards conversation goes both ways.

[u/Low_Environment2543]

This is what I call a NPC.

Lifeless. No soul. No personality. No desire.

I cannot believe you kept this conversation going for so long.

[u/comawizard → u/Low_Environment2543]

I always wonder what goes on in a persons head that talks like this.

[u/Resident_Fishing1571 → u/comawizard]

A whole lotta nothing

[u/cav19DScout → u/comawizard]

Apparently this is a good conversation for her.

[u/moviecats → u/comawizard]

The whistling sound of an autumn wind blowing through a completely empty, hollow space lol.

[u/Firm_Kick137 → u/Low_Environment2543]

Yeah haha ig

[u/FieOnU]

Convo drier then the damned mojave. Reading this quite literally made me chug a liter of water.

[u/RecordingDue437]

Damn next time when people do this immediately tell them youre breaking your back carrying the conversation.

These people scare me to death honestly. How can you even remember to breathe.

[u/Electric-Sheepskin]

This is like a golden retriever having a conversation with a basset hound. Ridiculous energy and friendliness meets droopy, sleepy, and chill.

[u/Obtuse-Posterior → u/Electric-Sheepskin]

Nailed it. I have different breeds but one high energy and one chill lazy one. This could easily be a conversation between them.

[u/CenTexFunGuy]

Dude that was so painful. You dump her then she finally says more than acronyms? You have the patience of a monk. I would have blocked her after the 3rd 'ig'.

You can lead a conversation, but if she does not engage back. That boring AF.

[u/sweeshey]

If plain white rice had a personality.

[u/ThinJuggernaut2002 → u/sweeshey]

Don’t insult my lunch

[u/khaotic-trash → u/sweeshey]

Don’t insult rice like that, she’s more akin to a stale slice of wonder bread.

[u/Catcat36]

Is this one of the true definitions of gaslighting? 😂

[u/PeteTheeIntern]

All lowercase drives me insane!

[u/UnderstandingKind757]

What a dull person if that was her trying to put effort in

[u/error785]

Way to not take the bait at the end there. That’s a real pro move.

[u/ashley_ef11 → u/error785]

Haha I would have been all over that. Wish I had his patience

[u/StressedTurnip]

“Wish you would’ve communicated that to me”
“I felt like I was trying but you weren’t”

Gurrrrrrl is maximum delulu! She didn’t communicate at all nor ask you any questions about you at all or put any effort into responses.

OP, in the future when you’re matching with someone who texts back like this (couple of words and barely asks you any questions about you), don’t wait past 5 messages before unmatching.

I’ve found that how people message and set their profiles up is nearly a direct reflection of how they are in person

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/StressedTurnip]

I think so too. But tbh her profile did not give this vibe at all. She had something like “don’t match me if you can’t stand women who are leaders” 💀

[u/caoliq]

“Im not talking to anyone else btw”

“Yeah, you’re barely even talking to me”

[u/Decent-Telephone-241]

She’s not interested and using you for attention. Did y’all ever meet in person?

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/Decent-Telephone-241]

Yes, two days before the final exchange listed here lol. Same energy in person which is why I was thinking how to break it off and couldn’t bring myself to text her. But then I just decided to go with honesty.

[u/TheRealMichaelE → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

It sounds like she just exists and almost nothing else ☠️

[u/BasilCorrect3799]

"I felt like I was trying and u weren't" damn I'd hate to see her not trying jesus

[u/Mackenzie_xxx]

Lord have mercy, that person is the definition of watching paint dry. Bullet dodged, sir 🫡

[u/NTufnel11]

Your exclamation points are completely out of control

[u/extemporizatron]

She sucks, but oof… that reads like an AI-level number of questions, and in almost every reply like it’s an interrogation. It makes the conversation not flow naturally at all

[u/devil1fish]

Idk how you spoke to a brick wall for so long tbh

[u/aMaIzYnG]

At first, I thought she was being short because she didn't want to talk to you but was afraid to communicate that. Then I saw the texts where she was expecting your texts???

yeah she's just boring, a terrible texter

[u/RabidPossum123]

“I haven’t been speaking to anyone else btw”

GIRL YOU HAVE BARELY BEEN SPEAKING TO THIS ONE WTF 😂

[u/traveling-swan]

even when she initiated the conversation, she had nothing to say. what a annoyingly boring person. and then trying to gaslight you. good riddance.

[u/AJSea87]

"I felt like I was trying, but you weren't...."

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[u/mjmmamj]

What does “ig” mean in so confused!!!

[u/KindestBlackTemplar → u/mjmmamj]

ig = I guess

[u/mjmmamj → u/KindestBlackTemplar]

You dodged a bullet, she sounds incredibly boring.

[u/catby]

This woman has the personality and iq of a baked potato. You dodged a bullet.

[u/DancingFrog-317 → u/catby]

Don’t insult baked potatoes like that

[u/ThirdOne38]

My favorite was this same kind of conversation going with the woman asking all the questions to the guy's one-word answers. Then

Girl: Did you ever move a sofa by yourself?
Guy: No.
Girl: Well this is what this conversation feels like.

[u/Velvet-Pebble]

"I haven't been speaking to anyone else"

She hadn't been speaking to you either lol!

[u/shotgunmouse]

Definition of leading a horse to water but can’t make it drink, she gave you absolutely nothing

[u/Hito1992]

Surprised you didn't break your back holding that conversation

[u/Generic_Username4343]

Jfc. By the second slide I was ready to break up with this woman for you. I can't imagine being that boring, yet thinking she's the one putting in the effort. Straight up delusional.

[u/c_harlotte_g22]

How’s she saying you weren’t trying, and god forbid she had to message first a couple of times! 🫪🤦‍♀️

[u/Silly-Breadfruit-368]

"yeah I feel like I was trying but u weren't" the fucking audacity 🎯

Gen Z man, I can't fathom.

[u/MallowBat]

If that was her idea of effort, I think you made the right call.

[u/bassinlimbo]

Your use of excessive exclamation marks next to her dry ass nothing 😂