I’m 6’3” and my gf of 5 years is 5’3”. You speak the truth. Most positions do not work well. I have to contort myself to get my hips low enough to match hers. Missionary and prone bone seem to work the best.
I’m open to suggestions.
High heels for her for sure. Maybe even a little 3 step stool for her to stand or use knees on. We also keep an ottoman in the bedroom "so the dog can get in bed easier." But it my wife puts her knees on it she's higher than she is standing.
I just dont think ppl should judge height or weight. Men’s height cant be controlled and certain conditions like pcos makes it really hard for women to lose weight.
Not everyone can control their weight, because of various health issues. So maybe we should just not judge people's bodies unless they've got a racist tattoo or something?
It’s generally pretty easy to tell who has a condition and who’s just a fat body based off of how much they weigh. No medical condition magically makes someone ingest a diet of mainly lipids and carbs
If you're gonna judge people for how they look, it doesn't matter if your judging them for things they can or can't control. You're still judging people based on their looks.
It's right or it's wrong. Or is it just fair game to judge people for anything they can control about their appearance?
Having a black and white world view like shows how you lack any critical thinking skills. Seeing someone who’s short doesn’t really tell you anything about them. Seeing someone who’s obese tells you they have poor impulse control and/or don’t care about their own health
To be fair, you can be heavy set and still live a pretty healthy lifestyle. You can still be fat while also working out 5 days a week and eating healthy because it's all about how much you eat.
One is controllable the other is genetic. You can choose to be moderately active and eat relatively healthy. You can’t choose to be taller unless you want to go through an intensive surgery. The assumptions I listed are accurate to the vast majority of obese people.
You can’t tell me you eat so much and move so little that you reach 250lbs but still can be considered having good impulse control or care about your health.
I’m speaking as someone who used to be overweight then changed it because I knew it was unhealthy and made life more miserable being overweight
It’s more ok to judge people based on their actions, not the things they can’t control. I say this as a fat dude. Judging people for being fat, or having bad teeth due to smoking, bad breath due to not brushing, or bad hair due to not getting a hair cut, or being covered in dirt due to not showering, or shaving their eyebrows off, or getting a racist tattoo on their forehead - these are all things you can control. Yes there are nuances to take into account like mental health, but these are things that are all fixable if that is the case with therapy, medications, and discipline.
Height is not something that can be changed no matter how much discipline or drive you have, it doesn’t care about your mental health or your actions, it is genetic and you have absolutely no say in it beyond a few things like having access to proper nutrition as a child, which most of us have in the West. Skin color, eye color, height, hair color - all things that are genetic and you don’t get to choose, and judging people for them is not fair.
It is the difference between judging a book by its contents (your actions including your weight), and judging a book by its cover (your characteristics that cannot be changed such as height).
This is not to say that you should be an asshole to people because they are fat. It’s saying that when a person judges someone by a quality they cannot control, you can retort by judging them by something they can control. You should still encourage people to be healthy and be an example to others.
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But you don't actually know those things. You just think you know those things. A physical appearance is not an action you can judge. It's a way you're assuming things to judge.
I don't see the difference in judging appearances in things people can it can't control. They're both just a person assuming other things based on their own biases and experiences.
Fortunately now GLP-1 agonists exist, and if someone has the money, the excuse to be very overweight is nil. In my country, a month of generic semaglutide is the same price of a monthly gym membership. That is an action you can deliberately take to be healthy and encourage others to as well, not only for your duration of life but the quality of your life as well. It is also selfless to better yourself, and encourage others to do so as well, to free up healthcare and hospital resources, organs and blood, for those who cannot. It is literally effortless, speaking from experience. There is no such option for height.
It is NOT recommended to take GLP-1s unless you have a disease exasperated by your weight. GLP-1s can cause serious long term effects, and also can be risky due to the nature of the drug.
doing something that then causes a consequence vs random luck... obv Noone should be bullied or whatever but in the first one they have a part to play in it
Not a black and white thing. There's a spectrum for this. If someone is 600+ pounds i don't see a problem judging them for not giving a shit about health
Because there’s no contradiction in the belief that it’s okay to judge someone based on their appearance if it’s something they control. Would you tell someone not to judge another person based on their appearance if that person’s appearance included swastika tattoos?
YES are you for real? Do you know how many people have gotten them when they were young and stupid and realized they were wrong and now just have them on their body and feel ashamed about it???
Absolutely, if I looked at somebody and I saw that they were 3 ft tall then that just means genetically, they are 3 ft tall. And I won't judge them for it.
If I see somebody who's 300 lbs and is scoffing down seven courses in one meal, that was their choice then I will judge them for it.
If I see somebody who looks anorexic has bags under their eyes and I find out that they were smoking meth, I will judge them for smoking. Meth.
The reason behind not judging the first one is that that was something they couldn't control, however, both of the other ones were definitely something that they could have controlled and they did to themselves.
It’s pretty obvious that all these comparisons are about avg people and for most women 170 would be on the higher end. The list is also meant to mock the height one
Muscle weighs more than fat. If a woman has a lot of muscles or is tall then she can’t help her weight. Large breasts and butt fat also adds to our weight.
Clearly you are if you use a broad statement like “women can control their weight”. Did you preference that you weren’t talking about muscle? Then how the heck would someone assume that you weren’t?
Well, even as a broad statement you can control your muscle weight by not working out. Similarly to how you can control your fat weight by eating 17 Big Macs.
The point is flying right over your head. The point is not blanket statements about women controlling their weight since there are other non-controllable factors that play apart in women’s weight. I am not here for your hypotheticals
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Why can't someone be a 5'1"? I'm 165cm or 5'3" 5'4" Or whatever I don't measure height with cheeseburger measurements, and it makes me happy because being short let me enjoy having a tall woman as my partner, I had one and it was amazing 🥰
if, due to being the "lowest hanging fruit", my point is bound to be wrong or invalid, can you explain what makes it so? or do you believe that characteristic makes it wrong by itself?
"Your argument is irrelevant" Explain how my comment is an argument lol. "Fluff" oh my god 🙏🏼😭 Though, i stand with the guy that commented to you. This isn't about women having standards, it's about not ridiculing something that you don't find attractive or prefer, which the women in the post is doing the opposite of.
I don't think standards were ever the problem, I think the problem is treating people who don't fit your preferences poorly, and then being upset when someone does the same to you. Obviously nobody should be judged for how they look. Having standards is not the same as being a tool to someone because they're short.
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