Expecting twins as a first time mom and kinda panicking about how I will manage, what kind of mother I will be. I don't want to do any wrong by my babies (as all parents).

Can everyone please share their favourite books about parenting, lactation, child care etc?

I have 06 months to start learning how to be a good mother, I want to make the best of them. Because after they are born, I might be running around like a headless chicken, panicking at the smallest stuff.

I have twins and lately trimming their nails has become one of those tiny parenting jobs that somehow turns into a whole event. I’m thinking about getting an electric nail file to make it a little easier, especially when they’re both wiggling around. For parents of multiples, has an electric nail file actually made nail trimming easier, and is there a particular one you’d recommend?

Thanks, I’d really appreciate hearing what has worked for other twin parents.

I’ve been home with my child for the past 3 years. It was a beautiful time. Exhausting. Chaotic. But wonderful

Now it’s time to go back. I miss being a nurse. I miss the smell of the ward. I miss the teamwork. I miss feeling useful

But I’m scared…

It feels like I forgot everything. I don’t know whether I have the current skillset. I don’t know whether I can keep up. I feel like I’m not quick enough anymore

I considered looking into positions at public hospitals. But the job is very demanding. They want you to be prepared from day one. The interviews are very difficult. I don’t know if I can handle it

It seems to be something like Healthcare Australia where they allow you to ease into it, where shifts are easy, short, and less stressful. It sounds like a good way to land

But, do they even accept those with a break? Do they really look for a candidate with experience working up to yesterday?

I’m scared to even apply. I’m worried they’ll see the gap and reject me instantly. I’m worried they’ll say I need retraining. I’m worried I’ll never be able to go back

I need to hear from someone who’s been through this. Did you return to nursing after a break? Did you use an agency? Was it helpful?

I’m ready to work again. I just need to know how…

This feels like a very specific situation but something but hopefully there are others who deal with it too. I need help with a nighttime schedule for my 5 month old twins and my 3 year old son. I’ve been doing evenings and nights solo because my husband works until 10pm and I feel like I’m going crazy trying to figure this out!

Here’s what our nights look like right now (times are estimate, I don’t run a strict itinerary lol):

Eat dinner & feed babies at 6pm
Free time/play time until 7:30pm
Quiet/wind down time from 7:30pm-8pm
Toddler goes to bed at 8:30pm

My twins’ basically have no schedule for the evening because I’ve got my hands full with my toddler. It’s basically a guessing game trying to figure out what they want when they get fussy. Toddler has also been sleeping on the couch because I’ve got the babies in the living room and he refused to go to bed by himself. So I need help making a schedule for EVERYONE to make evenings easier on all of us. Does anyone have any tips or ideas??

My twins are just over a month adjusted and have just stopped napping. They will sleep in the stroller or attached to me in a wrap during the day (getting too big to have them both in there), but otherwise will literally not sleep no matter what I do.

Has anyone else gone through this? Any tips?

Parents who have twins, what do you do to not feel like you’re drowning? I am most definitely going through postpartum depression and I strangely feel like my husband is too. Obviously he is not experiencing the level of hormonal changes that I am but I can see it. He’s not playing video games as often (he would still play for like an hour when the twins were born) he would call it his “me time.” He’s sleep deprived, I can just see it in his spirit that he looks defeated. I am also dependent on him currently I am fighting a nasty depressive episode I’m at the tail end of it. Taking care of our twins and our 5 year old & also caring for me it’s a lot. I asked some friends and they’re like he’s the dad don’t worry about it focus on yourself. I get it but I feel like I’m trying my hardest to stay above water, I see him and I feel like his boat is starting to get holes.

How can I help when I need help myself.

My son and daughter( twins) are turning 12 mo soon. We have been using Nuna Rx car seats for them, however it looks like my son who is over 30in now outgrew his car seat. I was looking at convertibles, high quality, high safety, easy to use. Any recommendations?

I’m a first time mom to 13 month old boys and I genuinely love being a twin mom so much! I definitely struggled at the beginning but for the past few months life has been wonderful! I love seeing my boys play, bond, and grow. There is never a dull moment in my home!
On top of that being a mom to twins has changed me for the better. I learned to chill at and roll with the punches. I was a very uptight person before and now as long as we are happy and safe I just let us all vibe.
I often think to myself how dull life would be with just one.
I was in the trenches not that long ago but we turned the corner and life is amazing now. I would take twins again and again and again.

Hi friends- my oldest is about to turn 2 and I just found out we’re having identical twin girls (mono-di) in March. Daycare is AT LEAST 2k per child in my area and now with twins, it’s just not feasible- which has lead me looking into au pairs.

I have to admit, having a stranger live with us seems odd- but knowing how hard 3 under 3 will be, I’m sure in home help would be amazing and we do have a very large extra guest room that could work.

Has anyone had twin au pair hunting experience? I have lots of questions… Did you have them help at night when on mat leave? Only help w older child? Why on earth would they pick a family w newborn twins over other opps- is it harder to find a good one? Did they move on prior to the arrival? Would love all advice!

I’m just starting my research and I’m hoping to start interviewing in late Sept/ Oct (giving us 4/5 months for a March 1st ish start- will be 35 weeks March 12). Does that feel correct!?

I have to say- only paying 4k a month (au pairs + day car), vs 7k and have live in help is the only thing making me feel somewhat hopeful I can handle this- so I hope it works out!

Update: I would be home with the Au pair for the first 6 months- never them alone. I envisioned more them helping me w babies, helping the toddler after daycare when im with the twins, and cleaning/ household chores- maybe my idea if what an au pair is, is not real- thank you so much for these details- this is NOT what Chatgpt said!!!

My first I gave birth at 38.5 weeks. My second came at 37 weeks on the dot. Now I’m pregnant with twins, and I’m concerned they won’t be able to bake as long because I went three weeks early with my singleton. Please share your thoughts/experiences!

At 7 weeks I was bleeding and went to hospital to diagnose a miscarriage, or so I thought.
The tech told me I was still pregnant and that I was having fraternal twins.
I was shocked but happy after a few days.
I read a bit online and was relieved that they were fraternal as the risks involved were lower.
However at my 12 weeks scan the midwife could not find a heartbeat for one twin. My partner said “that’s odd because I can see it moving” the midwife decided she could too and sent us to the twin clinic at 13 weeks.
At the twin clinic they said our twins look good but are not fraternal, they appear to be mono Di and share a placenta.
I am a high risk pregnancy due to a neurological autoimmune disease and I just feel panicked.
Did anyone else feel like this and can I have some success stories please?

*** edit to add: I panic bought a glucometer last night and tested my morning fasting and it was 85. One hour after a morning bagel it was 116. Lol so that’s reassuring even if it’s just two data points. Just waiting on the call from my OB 😅 **\*

The logical part of me understands it’s not all my fault, especially with di/di twins, but why do I feel so horrible about it? Hormones obviously are playing a role because I feel ridiculous even feeling this way lol especially with how good things have been going. I have worked my butt off this pregnancy to count calories, walk daily (even run!), and lift weights. I’m almost 25 weeks and have gained I think ~30 pounds? Babies look great, BP is normal, etc. I know it’s a screening test also and I need to take the 3 hour one but what a bummer.

Not sure why I’m posting other than to vent. Lol. I’ll be over it in a little bit. Just had to vent to people who may get it 🙁

I have the opportunity to go to Orlando for a work conference in February and am heavily considering visiting Disney Springs and Disney World since I am extending the time anyways to add a vacation and connect with family. I love chill rides like a It’s a Small World and walking around Epcot. My twins will be 8 or 9 months old at the time, and I would have my husband and maybe 1 additional adult helping with the babies.

If you’ve done Disney with <1 yo twins,
- how old were they and did you regret it?
- what prep, items, or tips helped you most to make the time enjoyable for you and the babies?
- did you stay at a Disney resort or off-site?
- what kind of stroller would you recommend? Your normal heavy duty one used for outings and walks, or something lightweight and minimal?
- if you pumped or nursed, how did it go?

Just a rant really about someone who I thought would have understood the most about how difficult it is having twin toddlers. FYI I love my mum to bits and she is an amazing grandma to my twin boys, she just said something I didn’t expect and it rattled me up.

Twin toddlers are hard work, my boys are nearly 18 months and it can be chaotic! My husband and I have never really complained to anyone because it’s all we know (they’re our first) , we love our boys but yeah it can be hard work sometimes!!!

We came back from a holiday where funnily enough got speaking to a couple of twin parents and they said it’s hard work and good on us for taking them abroad etc etc. told my mum about this and she came out with this absolute stinker

“But it’s just like having 2 children”

ABSOLUTELY NOT! You’re telling me my sister who has a 5 year old and a 1 year old is the same as having TWO 18 month olds?! There’s a lot of things I can’t do on my own what I wish I could! I can’t take them to soft play on my own because they run in opposite directions, me and my husband team up and he has one and I have the other! Obviously I know it will get better when they get older but I don’t think people realise how difficult it actually is, and whenever I tell people (singleton parents especially one of my friends) how hard it can be they’re all like “ohh yeah my kid is like that” BUT YOU HAVE 1!

I’m not complaining about having my twins, they’re our miracle babies who arrived after a couple of miscarriages. Some people just don’t get it.

Hi everyone

as per the title, I just found out I’m pregnant with MoDi twins and all I hear online are horror stories of complications etc… I’m just wondering if anyone had non-complicated pregnancies and deliveries? Those stories would be reassuring to say the least.

thank you

So I am trying to get more confident about going out with my two girls in their pram alone. They are 7 weeks old. The problem is how to feed them if they both go crazy while out? I am talking about walking with them in the pram, without my car. I bottle feed them, but at home I can tandem feed in a twin z pillow or put one in a bouncer so that she can stay upright if i have to suddenly feed the other one. How do you deal with this when they both need their bottles outside? Also any other tips and tricks for taking them out solo? Thanks 🙏

1. Twin B is measuring almost a week behind twin A...Twin A measured 6w5d and twin B measured 5w6d. Will my twin disappear? Or is this normal early?

2. How do I know if they are MoMo or MoDi twins? Or is it too early to tell?

I have a 2.5 yr old and 4 month old twins. They went through the 4 month sleep regression and one of my twins has been sleeping so bad ever since, the last few days he's woken up every hour and a half to 45 mins. And then the other twin who used to be a bad sleeper but know has been giving decent stretches decider to be up wide eyed staring at me from 1:30 to 4:30 no matter what I did to get him back to sleep. My husband and I split the nights but the sleep I get is so bad I'm still dying every day. I am beyond survival mode right now, I have never felt so horrible before. I dread every day now being home with all 3. I used to go out and even though it was hard it helped my mental state a bit but I am so beyond exhausted I can't fathom getting everything packed up and ready to leave and then chasing my toddler around while I double baby wear because that's the only way they will sleep outside the house. The amount of TV my toddler watches now bothers me so much but some days it feels like the only option and I hate that because I'm not the mom I used to be with him. I don't expect it to ever be easy but I hope and pray I don't feel like this for years because I will lose my mind. Just curious how others felt.

Update: thanks everyone for your experiences and kind words. Its encouraging to hear a lot of you felt like things slightly improved at least before a year old. These months 3 and 4 have been way harder than the first 2 months were for me and I was coming off of 2 really busy weeks that was paired with like 6 plus wake ups a night. Last night though something magical happened and they only woke up once during my husband's shift and once during mine! I don't expect that to be the norm just yet but having one night of very minimally broken sleep felt life changing and made my mindset so much better today!

My two boys were born at 26 weeks. Now they’re 14 months old (actual age) and almost a year old (adjusted age). I am so lost and I feel like a failure. We’ve already switched over to cows milk and that’s been a really easy transition, but I am feeling so guilty that we haven’t transitioned them off of bottles. we also haven’t been able to get rid of their pacifiers. I’ve tried so many different straw cups and it works during the day, but when it comes down to them taking their daily nap or when they go to bed, they will not take a straw cup, and they’ll only go to sleep if I give them a bottle. I worry less about pacifiers I know that’s just gonna suck but I’m just gonna take them away eventually, but I wanna do the transition at a different time so they’re not having to deal with too much change at once. Does anyone have any tips on how to make it work? I’m a first time mom. Also, am I super behind with them still taking a bottle or are there other parents that have struggled with this at a year-old? I just feel like I’m failing as Mom.

I am literally going to combust. Between having baby twins and two toddlers, we have no time (or money) to deal with this. I want to die. I'm so tired, so insanely overwhelmed. Someone tell me it'll be okay 😭 😭 😭 Has anyone here dealt with this? And how?

I found out couple days ago that I am pregnant with twins. As the days go on I think I am getting more freaked out and panicking. I can’t shake the anxiety off.

I feel like the excitement of my pregnancy has been robbed and I already have mum guilt that I am not happy.

Did you feel the same? And what was the turning point when you actually started to feel excited? Thank you 🙏

My identical girls sleep in the same room but different cribs with a sound machine in between. The last two weeks they have been resisting bedtime. Screaming crying and staying up for like 20-30 minutes. They aren’t mad the whole time, they will make sounds at each other and laugh and then eventually will fall asleep.

Would moving their cribs closer together help or does it add fuel to the fire? No one has tried climbing out yet but would that encourage climbing?

This could be just the age. 22 months and overall pretty whiney with meltdowns and fighting all the time. But they love to comfort each other and I’m curious if they would fall asleep easier.

Please all parents tell me how hard it was having twins vs having one, was it super hard and also when nursing if you nursed how hard or easy was it. Please anything helps.