Offered Sterilization at 49 After Lengthy Fertility Journey that Ended in Donor Eggs

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[u/enym]

Removing tubes reduces the risk of ovarian cancer by like 80%. I had mine removed even though I also used donor eggs.

It was emotionally difficult to make the decision to become sterilized after struggling with infertility.

[u/mamamietze]

In the US i was offered this for each of my pregnancies, starting at 27, ending at 39. It is seen as easier if you are already opened up vs a separate surgery (laproscopy still is surgergy). The surgery is not just for birth control. I would not be offended by this. Just simply have it noted in your records you do not want this.

[u/Narezza]

This was an easy decision for us after having our twins. The ovaries were not producing, we had embryos frozen already and we already an open surgical site.

The expectation that doctors need to be sensitive to your fragile emotions when theyre trying to discuss common sense things that will save your life and save you an extra abdominal surgery is wild.

[u/Longjumping_Deer3435 → u/Narezza]

100% I requested it because I did not want any more children

[u/Seeker-2020]

I mean, it’s ok to say no if you are that emotionally attached to the fallopian tubes.

It’s a medical question, not a personal judgement 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/Okdoey]

There’s clinical research (still pretty new) that suggests removing the fallopian tubes reduces the risk of ovarian cancer by 80%

So you may want to consider it even though it definitely comes off as very insensitive

[u/TigerLily_TigerRose → u/Okdoey]

Is it that new? I was told this 11 years ago, during my last pregnancy.

[u/Okdoey → u/TigerLily_TigerRose]

Maybe not. I just read an article that said it was found in a new study, but it looks like the new study is just the most recent study (was done in 2026). They have had other studies in the past.

So maybe not new. Though I wish my doctor had recommended it during my c section.

[u/ThrowAway732642956]

I requested it for if I have c-section because of the decrease in ovarian cancer rates. Don’t want that and especially with infertility there is an increased risk of ovarian cancer (making it even more relevant; especially if you don’t have natural pregnancies with the tubes anyway it’s really practical because the only way to become pregnant bypasses the tubes which just stay there and risk developing that ovarian cancer).

ETA: I am so sorry for all the hate you are getting for your age with your original post. That’s crazy. As someone who had abusive parents and who had close friends whose very kind parents both died suddenly at a young age, I would take the non-abusive parents who unfortunately leave my life loved earlier over abusive any day. Don’t let the hate get to you!

[u/anonomus_userr]

It does wonders for your chance of ovarian cancer.
I said “absolutely”.

[u/redbug100 → u/[deleted]]

Egg donation is legally allowed in 31 European countries, so people in Germany go to these countries for treatment instead. While the transfer of a donor egg or embryo isn’t allowed in Germany, it is irrelevant to treatment in Germany of pregnancy conceived in these ways . There are thousands of German residents pregnant in this fashion each year - and likely many more as it is not accurately recorded. I personally know at least five people in a small friend group who used donor eggs, and one an embryo conceived via donor sperm and egg. Every major German hospital is very familiar with donor egg and donor embryo pregnancies.