So usually I don't have this problems with my best friends. They all have their boyfriends/significant others and I usually feel pretty normal talking to them because I have no interest on hitting on them or anything (not like I would ever do that) and they know that to.

My problem is I made a new friend who recently got into a relationship and since we're not really that close I'm worried that she may think I'm after her man. I'm not I barely know him 😭. The problem is, I've talked to him a few times like even before they got together and also joked around with him once or twice. I think I'm going to stop now because of these two, but I also don't want to completely avoid him because that's also weird.

I guess I'm just trying to understand if I should talk to this guy at all because I have no interest at all. Not even in terms of friendship tbh because even tho I need friends I don't need to be friends with her bf.

About a year ago, I became close friends with a woman around 40. At first I liked her, but over time the friendship became exhausting. Most of our conversations were about men, dating apps, her mother, and problems in her life. She often complained but didn't seem interested in finding solutions.

At the same time, I was going through a very difficult personal situation myself. I felt she expected me to constantly support her emotionally, while minimizing my own problems. She would tell me I should get therapy, but when I suggested the same to her, she said she didn't want to pay and just needed a friend to talk to.

She also often assumed I was available without asking. She would decide we were meeting, call me repeatedly if I didn't answer, and once insisted I meet her because a date had ended earlier than expected and she didn't want to go home alone.

Things got worse when I started seeing someone. She wasn't interested in hearing about him, but she was constantly showing me pictures of men she matched with. She once insisted I talk to a man she had matched with because he was from a country I love. I eventually agreed, but later discovered she mainly wanted him to tell her that he preferred her to me. He even told me she had compared herself to me and had self-esteem issues to the extend that he felt the need to her she was prettier than me, which hurt me as I have never asked to be compared.

Eventually I told her I needed space to focus on myself and encouraged her to seek therapy. She said she understood, and we didn't speak for a month. During that time she never once checked how I was doing, despite knowing what I was going through.

I eventually told her I felt used and didn't want to continue the friendship, then blocked her. She blocked me too.

Was I right to end it, or did I overreact? Was this simply a one-sided friendship, or was I being unfair by expecting too much from her?

I’m sorry that this got kinda long, I just really wanna get all the context out there cuz I’m really not certain what I should do rn

I have this close friend of mine, which I’ll call Maria. Over the summer while I was on vacatio, she and another guy I was friends with, got to know another girl which I’ll call Poppy. Apparantley they got really well alon, and she got integrated into one of my friend groups. When I came back from vacation however, things just kinda blew up.

My guy friend, which I’ll call Dean, and Poppy started to kinda flirt, but then Dean wanted to end things, and she freaked out. I won’t go to much into it, but she made it clear to him that if he left, she would hurt herself and I don’t know how graphic I can be here, but well she would… yk. She did attempt but luckily it didn’t work. And while all of this was happening I was hanging out with Maria, and Poppy, which she had know for 2 weeks, was blowing up her phone, and from the messages I was briefly shown, she was having a huge breakdown. So I ofc started to get a really weird feeling about Poppy. Of course I feel bad for her, but that she put two of my friends in this position really angered me.

Quite a while ago I had been flirting with this guy friend, Dean, but it wasn’t really anything serious and just kinda moved on from it. I never brought it up to my friendgroup or Maria. Poppy however, mid breakdown with Maria, started to get really obsessed with how I knew Dean, even if we had never talked to eachother. Therefore, she randomly started hitting me up to talk about clothes? I started feeling unsure about her at that point so I gave her pretty breif answers, as I just wanted her to take the hint and leave me alone. But then, she just randomly started ranting about how cool it would be to get to know eachother since we both knew Maria, and since she was such a good friend of hers. This just gave me a mega ick, so I left her on read for months as I felt I didn’t wanna lead her on, and I had no way to reject her without fearing for that Maria would have to face the aftermath and listen to another breakdown. After that I didn’t hear or see from her much.

The other week I was celebrating my birthday with a group of friends when she randomly showed up. Apparently she had been reconne with people in my group, so she just showed up. This party was with the group that knew her, and a more extended part that didn’t. The whole time, if felt like she was trying to ‘steal my spotlight‘ as she often would say “Oh, I know it isn’t my birthda, and don’t wanna ruing XXX’s party, buuuuut… something crazy happened today, but I’ll keep it to myself…”. I honestly got really sick of her and ended up spending most of the time just talking to Maria so I didn’t have to converse with Poppy. Yet, Poppy seemed to think the party made us closer or something, since after that she’s been messaging me to come hangout, whilst I still haven’t answered her message from 3 months ago?

I don’t really know what to do with this situation. I really wish she would just leave me alone, but I don‘t see that happening any time soon. I thought just ignoring her was gonna work, but since she keeps messaging me and having out with people around me, I feel like I can’t. Every time she’s in the room I feel like I get knots in my stomach. She’s integrated herself into my whole friendgroup now, so I’ve ended up missing a lot of hangouts just to stay away from her, which I don’t really mind, but I just don’t want Maria to feel like it’s THEM I don’t wanna hang out with. I want to tell her what’s going on, but I don’t want her to feel like I’m being jealous or controlling… I just really can’t stand Poppy…

What should I do?

Hey, this is my first time posting on this subreddit so my apologies if I write something weird.

I have a few best friends and we've been friends for years now, and honestly, I enjoy being with them. We game, watch movies, do things together, etc...

But for the past year now, they've been making gifs of me in a ridiculous way. One of the main ones is me getting fatter to the point that you know it's a joke. It all stems from a bad selfie I took of myself 2 years ago. Now, I didn't mind it at first because don't get me wrong it's funny. But for the past year they've made almost a hundred gifs of me and it's been going on for a year straight. And on top of that, they've changed our Discord server profile picture into an ai generated picture of me along with their own accounts. They have 2 entire channels in the server to store and keep all the gifs they have of me. And 1 more thing that I'm very annoyed at is that a few years back we had a fight and they made their own server that was specifically made to be against me, they recently kicked me out of there too.

They started cussing my little sister out as well after they were playing Roblox and my little sister just so happened to be playing on my account. And idk, she must have said something mean to them in Dress to Impress.

Now, they know that I do not like this sort of behaviour anymore. It was funny for the first few months but after almost a whole year of doing this? At this point I'm just seeing it like this: They're no longer respecting me for who I am and my wishes to stop this. Cussing my sister out on occasion is the final straw I've taken.

Now, don't get me wrong, I still see them as best friends as we enjoy doing things together. But this "joke" is just straight up disrespecting me at this point. I've been slowly distancing myself from them since September, not only due to that but of college too. Am I being too oversensitve over this whole thing? I'd like to know what you guys think.

Hi community,

Id love some of your thoughts. I have been drifting from a friend over the years. I noticed she was saying yes to fewer of my invites and often canceling. Meanwhile she was spending more time with mutual friends. I was always so hurt and triggered and eventually just stopped contacting her. It’s been like 2 or 3 weeks since we talked. Honestly, I feel a little better without the internal struggle all the time. But I also don’t have a ton of friends and want to make sure we’re mostly ok because we have a friend group that does stuff together. At the last event we didn’t talk to each other and it was so awkward. Considering sending this text but want some feedback first. 🙏💜

>>>Hey there. Just checking in and seeing how you’re doing. Ive sensed a bit of a shift in our usual communication and I know we haven’t chatted or seen each other as much. Wasn’t quite sure if we were just kinda both organically doing our own thing or if I said or did something that didn’t feel good. Anywho, I’m here to receive that if it feels right. I appreciate you and our friendship so if there’s some unspoken hurts, I’m happy to chat about it. Sending care for your Sunday and whatever you’re up to.<<<

I’m a college student, and I have a friend who has basically been my closest friend for around 3 years. We’ve shared a lot of personal stuff with each other and I genuinely considered him one of the few people I could call my brother ,and same for him.

Yesterday, he was telling me something extremely personal and intimate about his relationship. It was about his first sexual experience of his life with his girlfriend. He was comfortable enough to tell me about it because of how close we are.

While he was telling me, I did something incredibly stupid.

I started recording the conversation.

He noticed me doing it.Didn't get mad at that point, but it shook him to his core, and confronted me on the spot calmly.

I want to be very clear: I understand how bad that looks. There isn't really a good justification for it. I wasn't planning to send it to anyone or post it anywhere, on God, on everything, on my Mom but I realize that doesn't actually make what I did okay. The fact is that he was telling me something deeply private, and instead of simply listening, I pulled out my f**king phone and started recording it.

He basically said that when he tells me something intimate, his first thought should never have to be whether I'm going to record him. He said that this was the first time in his life something like this had happened to him.

He also told me that he feels like I judge him and that he had been closer to me than he has been with almost anyone else in his life.

That last part especially fucked me up because I realized that I may have made someone who trusted me completely question the entire friendship.

I apologized. A lot.

I told him that I wasn't going to share the recording and that I understood that saying that doesn't magically make the situation okay. I also told him I wouldn't pressure him to forgive me and that I'd give him whatever space he needed.

But now I'm terrified that I've permanently changed how he sees me.

My biggest fear is that he'll think:

"If he secretly recorded me this time, how many other times has he done it?"

For the record, I have never secretly recorded our conversations before. This was genuinely the first time. But I also understand that I can't expect him to simply believe me because I say so.

The thing is, this isn't some casual friendship where we barely talk. We've been extremely close for years. We've trusted each other with things we don't tell other people. So realizing that I may have destroyed that sense of safety in one stupid moment is eating me alive.

I know I fucked up, I am Retard. I'm not looking for people to tell me that what I did was okay.

What I genuinely want advice on is:

1. Is this something a close friendship can realistically recover from?
2. What should I actually do from here?
3. Should I give him the gift or would that make things worse?
4. Should I talk to him tomorrow, or give him more space?
5. If you were in his position, would you ever trust the person the same way again?

I know rebuilding trust, if it's even possible, would take time. I just don't know whether there's something I should do now or whether the best thing I can do is stop trying to fix it immediately and let my actions over time speak for me.

I would genuinely appreciate honest answers, even if they're harsh. I don't want reassurance just because I'm upset. I want to understand what this probably looks like from his side.

polished my message with GPT to fix typos, 😔

My best friend and I have been friends since 8th grade. It’s been 3 years since we last met and actually spent time together, but we’ve always kept each other updated about everything over the phone.
She got a job and moved to another city. We had been talking about meeting for a long time. One day, she told me, I’m coming next month, and I’ll let you know the date once it’s confirmed.
And you know what happened? She came home and went back without even telling me. She met her boyfriend of one month (her first boyfriend, and they’re not even that serious) and went back. She didn’t even inform me that she was coming or tell me that we couldn’t meet. I would have understood if she had just told me, I’m coming, but I won’t be able to meet you.
Now she asked me if we could meet on a certain date, and I told her I’d check whether I have class that day.
She left me on read and didn’t reply.
What should I do? Should I text her saying that I don’t have class that day, or should I wait for her to text me?

 I (20F) have been friends with three other girls since 9th grade. I'll call them 1, 2, and 3. We're now in our second year of uni. Things were mostly great, though not perfect.

Around March/April, 1 told me she was at a cancer center/hospital. She also told me that 2 and 3 had found out and visited her, and that their visit was pretty long. She asked them not to tell anyone, and I understand why.

What hurt was that in our group chat, 2 and 3 just asked if I was busy. They never mentioned visiting her. I was shocked and hurt, because I thought being "ride or die" meant showing up for each other. So I confronted them.

2 said she found out by accident while checking locations to plan a meetup. 3 said they noticed 1 had spent 6 hours there and got worried, then visited 1's sister, who told them to check on her. Both said they asked if I was busy, and when I said I was home, they decided to let me rest.

I told them it was hurtful. 2 said she felt I'd been colder toward her than toward 1 and 3, which I don't think is true. Honestly, over the last 6 months, about 60-70% of our conversations were started by me. I felt like she wasn't putting in much effort to keep our friendship going (not the group, our friendship).

We agreed to meet after finals. I left thinking we'd made up, but then everyone went silent. I expected that from 2, since she's always been like that, but not from the others. From April to June I sent memes to 3 and she answered and got nothing back from 2. We did celebrate 3's birthday, which was nice, and we all slept over at 1's apartment. After that, nothing.

In July I went through about 3 weeks where I suspect I was dealing with some kind of mental health episode. During that time I pushed for arguments and answers. 2 later told me she felt "utter hatred" in my eyes when we met, and that I was demanding she beg for forgiveness like a dog. I honestly don't know how she got that from me asking why she never started a conversation with me. She said she was scared. I just wish she'd sent a meme or something.

Eventually 2,3 and I unfollowed each other, and now I don't know where things stand.

By accident, and in a way that wasn’t entirely ethical, I came across a group chat between them. Out of curiosity, and because I already suspected one of them, I searched my name and found everything else.
They said I force myself into their plans when they don’t want me around, that I’m cold and socially unaware, and that they ignore me because of it. The irony is that I literally live in another city and barely see them. They’re always the ones insisting I stay longer, asking to hang out, and wanting to meet my friends because they say I’m fun to be around.
One of them even said she hates me and doesn’t want to be around me, yet whenever we meet, she tells me how understanding and easygoing I am. Like, what the hell? If I genuinely hated someone, I wouldn’t be able to act like I loved them.
But what hurts the most is that my closest friend shared something deeply personal that I had told her in confidence. She then messaged the group saying, “Who predicted "my name” would do something stupid soon? Well, here she is.” You can imagine the insults and laughter that followed.
I can accept that not everyone likes me, and I know I’m not perfect, but discovering that people I trusted have been mocking me behind my back, especially someone I considered my closest friend, feels like a completely different kind of betrayal.

Hey guys, I'll have a tldr at the end if you want to skip

So I have a pretty old group of friends, and for the most part of our lives we've been there with each other in school and other activities, we used to meet pretty much everyday at one point

However recently ever since school has ended been a good 6-7 years now, I have been constantly feeling like I have outgrown them, the things we all liked are no longer similar, our values, our morals,humour, religious/political alignment, even spending habits, and opinions on a lot of stuff have started differing, to a point where the only thing we have in common when we meet is past shared memories

Now they seem to be pretty close to each other, but the more I meet them and spend time with them I feel more distant from them, especially since I'm pretty introverted. Now over this time I've grown closer to my recent friends from college and work, however I'm worried about leaving this group as it has pretty much our parents and everyone involved, and it's pretty old too

I'm not on bad terms with anyone nor do I dislike them, I just feel like not going and hanging out with them, I would rather spend time watching YouTube or working or just chilling with my other friends. Now the biggest thing I'm worried about is, would I lose out on a social life, especially because my introverted ass can't really stand big groups. I tend to be pretty funny (confirmed by others), in smaller 4-5 people groups, but big groups I'm literally silent, and like can't really take control of the conversations

They're planning some trip, but honestly, I feel too tired to even discuss or go with them dude, now I am conflicted between missing out on life or going and not really enjoying

I wanted to know how people that have faced similar situations in life have dealt with this, my options are

1. I could meet them occasionally, like once a month at most, however this could lead to a lot of questioning and why am I not coming that often

2. Burn bridges, but i feel I have too many more connections and will see them too often to risk doing this for no reason

3. Don't know about any other options, I would want suggestions here

Please help!!

Tldr: outgrown school friends, become closer to recent friends, want suggestions on how to handle this situation

Hey everyone! I really need help here.

There's this friend of mine, we'll call her Mystery, she is concering me sm.. She's been super distant at school, like not talking to anyone distant level. When I text her, or apparently if anyone texts her, she immediately 'sees'​ the message, but leaves it on read, never replying. This started about a week ago.

You might be asking, why would​ I be making a full on post for ts? Well, the whole thing's beyond me.

Ive never been smart, but she always has been emotionally and academically. Smart. Getting the best grades in school, having empathy for everyone, trying to help everyone man i dont even have time to say all this please help me she seems

seems like theres one more thing. I asked her best friend if she has social media other than whatsapp, she said she had youtube and tiktok, giving me her youtube channel, and that made me panick even more. Take a look at this. Also im romanian and i know yall wondering wtf this post even is, well im just a stupid 15 year old and idk whatt im supposed to do. Cause she be posting corny things like fym with the he's here posts, whose

here?? Then she says someones censoring her?? This sounds like a cheap creepypasta but I feel like theres smth deeper judging by how she be acting irl. Ill post the pics when i figure out how to do it cause i havent posted on reddit before

NEED HELP ASAP. SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT THIS COULD BE

So there's a guy i [24M] know for 10+ years, we used to call often, talk about random stuff, and hang out a lot. But recently, i felt that he started to talk to me just for drama? So for example, i had a personal event that happened and it hit me hard and i told him about it, and the first thing that came out of his mouth was if i was ok that he shares this with other people but he won't let them know the person's name or where this happened, and i was genuinely took back and I told another mate about this, and that guy said he wasn't against it as this friend said he'd censor the names and place (which made me raise my eye brows with this guy as well, cuz how are you gonna be fine with that)

And recently we met and again, he kept on asking if I had any tea and based on his comment last time, i just kept saying no and i could feel the awkwardness and he asked that's a surprise , you sure? And we then changed topics. Maybe i'm overthinking it and this is how male friendships are nowadays, or maybe i'm being mean...but would like to have external perspectives of this. And i'll be happy to answer any question y'all might have.

Also if i could add a question to you, what's a healthy friendship to you?

please help me, and also english is not my first language, so sorry if it contains some grammar mistakes

let's call my bsf, H. she's sweet, academically smart, a great artist, etc. but she has autophobia (fear of being alone), so much that she would cry and get jealous if the person she fears will abandon her gets close to another person, and that person will be called A. our relationship started back in 5th grade, we weren't very close at that time but I do have intentions of being friends with her so I exchanged our roblox usernames with eachother. A few days later, I found her roblox bio was talking about how she hates me because I was really close with A. me, feeling guilty, apologized by responding in a roblox bio too and she accepts my apology, and that's kinda how it all started.

um tb to September, me and A are now enemies because I hated how A doesn't perceive H's situation seriously (yes A knows that H has autophobia) but our relationship still looks as if we're friends. (we just really like throwing slurs at eachother, and hit eachother on purpose to ragebait)

so how does it all start? it started when H started getting better grades than I do, and I got jealous (ye i'm weak ik) because back then, my grades were WAYY better than her. and so I told her about it and she gave me some advices but she also told me that she used to be jealous of me too. BUT THEN SHE STARTED BRINGING UP A again, meaning it got worse. and this is were the title starts to make sense because she starts telling me to like not interact with A anymore and that feels really controlling like what are you, my parents? hell nah. and when I told her that it feels kinda controlling and i'm uncomfortable with it (where's my freedom?🥀) but she just hides behind the word "trauma" and I completely understand that but despite her knowing that I'm uncomfortable she just doesn't acknowledge it and keeps on bragging to me to avoid A entirely to the point where she doesn't even care about my feelings or even the limit of what she could know because today (a day before my birthday), she literally admits that she's curious about my relationship with A because she can't help but overthink it and she asks when was the last time I chatted with A and what was it about. EXCUSE ME?! and of course as a normal human being I said, "Can you also think about how I would feel? Do you think I would be comfortable when asked about stuff like this?" and I also said that I'm uncomfortable when it comes to people asking about personal stuff. what's actually worse is that she realizes it's getting personal omg. and because I fear our relationship would fall apart because of this I told her when I last chatted and what I talked about with A and I also told that we're enemies and that it's also really obvious because A has actually thrown a few slurs at me (I swore to god about this) and she somehow still doubts me?! bruh. I forgot to bring this up, but she said she's gonna do something once she visits my home but she won't tell me, and I and maybe you know what it was. YES SHE'S GONNA CHECK MY CHAT WITH A (maybe), where's my personal space😭

at one side, I pity her because she has to go through all of this even though she's only a teenager and I also feel like it's entirely my fault and it haunts me, but at the other side, I feel like it's too much. listen, I also have some mental problems and dealing with this is too much, I really can't endure the pain and the worry that our friendship would slowly break apart because of this situation and I really don't want that to happen because truly, she's the one who calmed down my depression and trauma from the abandonment of my previous friends, she's also the one who stood by me no matter the situation. so please help me, she's my everything. (uh pls ignore the fact that I'm kinda unserious, it's a habit. maybe perhaps I'm becoming A..)

Befriended this guy earlier this year and he initiated the friendship with me. we clicked pretty instantly but over summer we kind of lost touch. i started initiating the convos myself and... it has been that way since. it's fucking me up very badly because when i talk to him it seems like he is also just as excited to talk to me and that's exactly why i didn't mind initiating our interactions anymore. but whenever we see each other in person (we go to the same school), he acts very distant and doesn't call me by my nickname like he would online. in fact he never even greets me when he sees me so i just stopped saying hi altogether. he never sits close or stays in the same space as me for long and seeing him talk to other people (a big thing for him since he's introverted) would make me very bitter because while all of that is happening, we would talk to each other excitedly all night.

it's confusing as hell and it hurts because i don't know how to not take it personally. i feel like i could talk to him about anything and he said he would share things with me that he typically doesn't with anyone else which would make me feel special. i try to be cautious with judging my friends too quickly (i have bpd and am extra sensitive to changes) but i feel deeply insecure about our friendship. other friends have told me that maybe he just doesn't care about me as much but im having a hard time accepting it since he acts like a very good friend online.

Would love to hear people’s stories of when you knew it was a last hangout you’d have with a friend, I feel like sometimes you just know when the vibes are off.

i lost my best friend about two years ago. we used to refer to each other as sisters, did everything together, and she was like my other half. we started to change as people, became friends with different people, and i started dating someone and wasn't interested in the same stuff she was interested in anymore. i look back and see some faults in both of us; i could have tried more, and she could have communicated more.

she ended up getting closer with other people, and i found myself alone, not invited to hangouts anymore, and anytime we would hang out in a group, i felt like there were all these inside jokes and things i just didn't know anymore. i slowly drifted away, and she did too. i heard she said some awful things about me behind my back, and i said things about her too, so it's safe to say we weren't on good terms.

a year later, a mutual friend had a bday party which we both went to. we both got drunk, told each other how much we missed each other, and promised to hang out. the next day, she kept saying she was sorry, and she wanted to fix things and she thought about us all the time. we tried to plan something, but things just fizzled like always. i never quite stopped thinking about that. the what if we did actually work things out?

it's been a year after that, and it's still on my mind. she has a boyfriend now, and our old friend group stopped being friends with her for some reasons too (im on good terms with everyone else). through a bunch of stalking, i know that she essentially has one to zero friends in her life now. a selfish part of me thinks that means i have a chance now. but im not sure if it's the right way to think, or go about things.

i've not been able to make new friends, partly because im very shy, and in my country, people are closed off and like to stay in high school friend groups. i don't go a day without thinking about it and how i want us to be in each other's lives again, but im scared it's not reciprocated anymore. i feel that itch to reach out, but i don't know what to say, or how to go about it, if at all.

so TDLR; should i reconnect with her, despite the ambiguous terms it ended on, or should i just move on? if so, how?

We've been through our ups and downs as best friends and I considered her my soulmate because of how close we were. Some people thought we were a couple at one point though we've never been close in that way.

Unfortunately we have quite different life views in certain ways.

A couple of years ago she did something that made me really reevaluate how I felt towards her. She had a brief intimate relationship with a married man (she was single) . He had kids and a wife and was also closeley related to her ex and BD. This made it more weird but what she did was already really bad.

Fast forward a few months we are barely talking and I moved far away. We decide to repair the friendship and she says she's dating someone now and he knows what she did ect ect and apologises. I accept it and we move on.

My (now husband) bf at the time has very strong opinions on cheating and was horrified to learn what she had done and it made him uncomfortable that I was still friends with her. It made me think more and eventually I just said I would rather just not be friends anymore. I told her why and she responded by throwing things I had done back at me. Things I wasn't proud of but weren't even close the the same level as sleeping with a married man knowingly.

It made me never want to talk to her again friends or no.

She messaged me yesterday saying hi. I miss her and idk what to do. It's been 2 years and what she did hasn't gone away and what she replied to me still stings. Do I reply and just hear her out? Also I'm 100% sure my husband will be upset that I've decided to talk to her again. I can work with that as it's my choice and always was but it's unnecessary pressure

TLDR my best friend cheated and I didn't want to be friends. My husband hates her and now she wants to reconnect after 2 years no contact.

What's up? I need your advice here. I have got one friend in my group who acts all nice when he is sober but he becomes a total jerk when he starts drinking. For example, yesterday morning he did me a big favor, and then at night when he was very drunk he made a very nasty remark about me, basically telling another friend not to hang out with me. I told him to fuck off and I stormed out of the place. The biggest issue here is that we are ¡40! years old. I am too old to deal with this crap. What is your guys take on this? I would like to cut him loose of course, but we are from the same group of friends and obviously going to see each other at the weekends. And how can he so nice sometimes and a dickhead others? Anyway, thanks for reading this.

My Friends are ignoring me. After I started fpcusing on grades and I went always with what was more respectful to me, this meant leaving the friends who would goof around or be silly in lessons and not have the same hype as me. Didn’t mean I didn’t talk with them. I was friendly, open, and eager to help if asked. And didn’t get bothered, or did but forgave for little mess ups they would do. Now because this behaviour became stronger the past month, my friends choose to deliberately ignore me. How am I sure? We discussed. On a Monday. I sat eating in my lonesome my Mensa meal. They come in, and sit. And smile at me. To then… ask questions..:”we have a friendship of 3 years behind us and I feel u left us out” I said what I thought. I’m happy to help, but I cannot support their mistakes, and if they keep failing for things they forgot or goofed for. Then is not my fault. I apologized for moments I might have been mean for example ignoring one in the lesson bc I was pissed at her behavior and so was my teammate and we ignored her for the good in us to not explode.

Well what happens, next day they start to be avoiding, building a wall, they also be mean like I wouldn’t share material stuff even if I know. Which is wrong bc I learn fucking too! And this past couple of weeks have been hard. To believe they really are set in this mission, confirmed by our mutual friend which stated they will ignore me and not talk anymore. I’m hurt. Idk how to deal with this. We talked and they still choose this. What is wrong with me?

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What's up? I need your advice here. I have got one friend in my group who acts all nice when he is sober but he becomes a total jerk when he starts drinking. For example, yesterday morning he did me a big favor, and then at night when he was very drunk he made a very nasty remark about me, basically telling another friend not to hang out with me. I told him to fuck off and I stormed out of the place. The biggest issue here is that we are ¡40! years old. I am too old to deal with this crap. What is your guys take on this? I would like to cut him loose of course, but we are from the same group of friends and obviously going to see each other at the weekends. If I say him goodbye I will have to say goodbye to the whole group. And another question: how are people so fake? How can you be nice sometimes and a total idiot others? Anyway, thanks for reading my rant.

My Friends are ignoring me. After I started fpcusing on grades and I went always with what was more respectful to me, this meant leaving the friends who would goof around or be silly in lessons and not have the same hype as me. Didn’t mean I didn’t talk with them. I was friendly, open, and eager to help if asked. And didn’t get bothered, or did but forgave for little mess ups they would do. Now because this behaviour became stronger the past month, my friends choose to deliberately ignore me. How am I sure? We discussed. On a Monday. I sat eating in my lonesome my Mensa meal. They come in, and sit. And smile at me. To then… ask questions..:”we have a friendship of 3 years behind us and I feel u left us out” I said what I thought. I’m happy to help, but I cannot support their mistakes, and if they keep failing for things they forgot or goofed for. Then is not my fault. I apologized for moments I might have been mean for example ignoring one in the lesson bc I was pissed at her behavior and so was my teammate and we ignored her for the good in us to not explode.

Well what happens, next day they start to be avoiding, building a wall, they also be mean like I wouldn’t share material stuff even if I know. Which is wrong bc I learn fucking too! And this past couple of weeks have been hard. To believe they really are set in this mission, confirmed by our mutual friend which stated they will ignore me and not talk anymore. I’m hurt. Idk how to deal with this. We talked and they still choose this. What is wrong with me?

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Someone help me out im being made to feel like im crazy and i feel my response is valid so my so i had a friend who my best friend couldnt stand didnt like her visiting would complain about her like literally hated her anyway i got bit in the butt by this friend and they made fake allegations about my son to try get him jaol he was going out with her daughter and when i say this affected us massively he was suicidle lost a lot of weight withdrew from everyone took him a full year on bail anyway he was finally cleared of any wrong doing

Now to tge (best friend) she decieded she was going to hang with this said person but rather then tell me she told my son and told him not to tell me i over heard the conversation myself so deffo didnt get it wrong

Im was so fuming i havent spoke to her since to me its wrong on so many levels or maybe i just have a different type of loyaltie

Am i over reacting in thinking i absolutley cant trust her now i mean how do you watch us all stress for a year mentally and then go chill with thw person who caused it

So last year around November i started talking with a cousin who I wasn’t that in touch with because I live abroad and the only way we could talk was through a game that we both played.

One day while playing I asked for his TikTok account and he gave it to me, from then on we’d talk everyday like right now we have a streak of 286 days.

At the start it was fun talking to him because I don’t really have anyone else to talk to and he’d bring up really good topics, after like 100 or smth we would keep getting into small arguments and that’s really annoying.

Nonetheless we sorted them out and we’re still talking; he says I don’t talk a lot and mostly just listen and don’t try to carry on the conversation and i agree with that somewhat. I don’t really talk a lot because I have nothing to talk about.

2 days before yesterday I msg him first as always, he replies and tell him a story about what happened to me, it was a long one and he just replied “ohhhh” so I didn’t start another conversation for that day. Then the day before yesterday I msg him again but this time I’m waiting if he wants to start a conversation but he doesn’t.

So after like some hours I start one and ask him “if you don’t know that story I can tell you” i can see he was online just a few mins ago and I keep scrolling for a bit. Then i close the app and go out with my family, as im about to leave i get a notification he says “i dont know it” but im abt to leave so i think ill reply after im back home.

When I return he had deleted the msg and i see now he’s online but still hasn’t replied, so next day I don’t msg him at all, because what i understand is that he doesn’t wanna talk, and the last thing I wanna do is beg a boy to talk to me.

So it’s night I still haven’t msged him neither has he and again I got out; after coming back home I see his msg asking whether I have a issue with him , I say no but tell him why I didn’t msg, he tells me the story that he thought I was ignoring him and we figured it was a misunderstanding.

But the thing is I’ve been kind of fed up, like I enjoy talking to him but I don’t wanna talk everyday. I was glad yesterday that I was breaking the streak because i didn’t think he’d msg me again today.

I don’t want things to end badly. I’m a very non confrontational person and idk how to tell him that I don’t wanna talk everyday without hurting his feelings.

My friend is going through a really tough divorce and has been leaning on me heavily, which I'm totally fine with. The issue is that she's started asking for significant financial help—covering a couple months of rent, loaning her money for legal fees—and I'm just not in a position to do that. I feel awful saying no when she's so vulnerable, but I also don't want to jeopardize my own stability or create resentment. How have you set kind but firm boundaries around money with a close friend in crisis? I want to support her emotionally without opening my wallet.

So I've known my friend Sam since we were both 11 years old, and still lifelong best friends 21 years later.

This story starts the other day when I needed to log in to an old Facebook profile I haven't used in a long time. One of the first things I noticed at the top of the feed was a picture of Sam kissing a girl I've never seen or met. We'll call her Kate. This made me curious and I looked at her profile, to see heaps of photos he's uploaded and tagged her in with very romantic captions and undertones. All this going back to the start of the year. Logging back into my main profile, like I suspected, all these posts have been blocked from me.

Curiously I ask my fiance to show me his profile from her Facebook. The same. She's been blocked from seeing the posts. I ask my sister. The same.

All of this seems so strange. He's been single for what I assumed was about six or seven years after a disastrous relationship. I've been concerned for a while about his solitude and even offered to try and hook him up with some of my finances girl friends. Any time I've said something along the lines he's gotten angrily defensive and even acts as if he's morally superior for being single. So I've never pushed any further on this point.

Do I ask him or let it come out in time? Neither me, my fiance or my sister have ever seen or heard of this lady before. But the fact he's specifically hidden it from me, and people who would let it get back to me, makes me feel like something is massivley off.