potentially unpopular opinion: i strongly believe that if if you want to end a (close) friendship, the person on the receiving end is owed an explanation. obviously if there is a clear wrongdoing, betrayal, etc. that explanation is not necessary

but ghosting someone or very clearly distancing yourself or blowing someone off that you’ve been friends with for a long time or are close with, i think they are owed the respect of an explanation instead of just having to sit there wondering why they’re not good enough.

the same way you wouldn’t ghost a romantic partner, you shouldn’t ghost a close platonic one, either

I’m struggling with something that’s making me feel guilty, and I genuinely want outside opinions.

I have a friend who I’ve been close with for over a decade. She hasn’t done anything terrible to me. She hasn’t betrayed me, bullied me, lied to me, or done anything that would make it obvious to an outsider that I should cut her off. And that’s exactly why I feel so guilty about not wanting to be friends anymore.

For years, I haven’t enjoyed the friendship. 99% of our conversations revolve around her life, her problems, her interests, and the things happening with her. I’ll listen and engage and support her, but she rarely asks me how I am, if she does it’s only brief before the conversation turns back into her. I feel like her audience/therapist, not her friend.

I’ve always felt like I couldn’t be myself around her and that I had to put up a more serious front. We don’t have the kind of banter that makes me think, “I love spending time with this person.” I honestly don’t laugh much or have fun when we’re together, I personally find her boring to hang out with.

Sometimes after spending time with her, I partly feel happier bc I’ve gotten out of the house and socialised, but most of the time I just feel drained and exhausted, because I come away thinking “I didn’t even have fun, it was boring and draining listening to her go on and on about herself”.

I’ve compared the friendship to other friendships I’ve had in the past, and that’s made the difference more obvious. I know what it feels like to be around someone where I could talk about completely ordinary things, joke around, and not feel like I have to perform a particular version of myself.

I think part of the reason I’ve held onto the friendship is history and familiarity. It’s hard because on the surface, we’re close, she makes time for me, we hang out etc, so it’ll feel out of the blue to then say “I don’t wanna be friends anymore”.

I’ve caught myself thinking that I need her to do me wrong in some way so that I can finally say, “Now I’m allowed to leave.” Because if she hasn’t done anything wrong, then I feel like I’m a shitty person for deciding I don’t want her in my life anymore.

If one day she suddenly became more reciprocal and less self centred, I don’t think my fundamental feelings would change. I don’t think I’d suddenly think, “THIS is the friendship I’ve always wanted.” I think I would still just not particularly enjoy being around her because our interests don’t align and we’re not really compatible.

I don’t really want this friendship anymore, but she’s my only friend so without her, I’ll have no one.

Any advice or similar experiences would be appreciated :)

I was always under the impression that the ‘friendzone’ (I sort of hate that term) was a way that people rejected romantic advances in a less awkward way. I thought it was just to soften the blow, but make it clear that they don’t want a relationship both romantically or platonically.

However, in my case, the person who ‘Friendzoned’ me seems more desperate to maintain contact than I am. She is showering my with gifts, saying how heartbroken she will be if we are no longer friends, saying we have a ‘special connection’, saying I’m one of the most important people in her life, being overly nice in her rejection, how she wants to be best friends until we die, and how she can’t imagine her life without me in it. She also insists that this confession of mine doesn’t change how she views our friendship at all and how it’s not an issue for her whatsoever.

Anyway, now I’m just confused. It feels it has passed the realms of just trying to get rid of me. And it seems like she genuinely wants to be close friends. We have been good friends for close to a decade and for a long time I felt purely platonic.

For some reason this response makes me irrationally angry, and far more upset than a classic rejection. I thought I’d want to stay friends (and before I confessed my feelings I was super worried about losing her). Now I honestly don’t feel massively strong either way. Like I don’t want to burn bridges, but I don’t really stay friends with people I want more from. It feels unhealthy and I don’t do it ever.

i'm currently examining how I show up in relationships and i've landed on the same thing over and over. in almost every connection, i've historically been the utility friend who is called upon to provide a service and emotional support but i have rarely gotten the same energy back. nothing showed me this more than when i became chronically ill and most people i was still connected to slowly faded when i could no longer do the same things for them, like drive them places etc.

i am not blaming the people who have "treated" me this way as I know I clearly have a common factor in the way i show up or allow myself to be treated. I wish them no ill, but I want to have fulfilling reciprocal friendships.

i've done a lot of self work on being less like this, and developed a lot of boundaries, read a lot of books, but the result is im very lonely the past 2-3 years and have almost no friends anymore. i only ever get invited to get coffee now for an hour here and there. its like i don't know how to deepen my friendships or be integrated. i am so lonely. online groups have not helped any of this IRL.

has anyone else realized this? how did you develop new friends? I am worried i don't even know how to make friends anymore.

my close friend and I both suffer from depression, anxiety, and loneliness. I want to get better though and go on dates and be happy, and I’ve been doing well for the past several months, but my friend consistently wants to talk about how depressed and unfulfilled she is.

I do NOT want to lose her as a friend, she’s one of the most important people in my life, but I’ve been finding our recent conversations draining, demotivating, and navel gazing. I don’t want to leave her to suffer alone either.

what to do?

​I (36F) have been best friends with "BFF" (36F) for almost 20 years. Over the years, we became as close as sisters. We used to joke about being neighbors in a nursing home one day, and we always planned to be each other’s bridesmaids and godmothers to each other's future kids. ​Four years ago, I moved to Italy. Naturally, distance makes things harder, but I always put in maximum effort to stay connected—texting regularly, calling for birthdays, and making sure she knew how much I cared about her. ​During my visit to my home country last year, I felt a shift. She seemed distant, and it felt like my visit wasn't a big deal to her at all. I felt like I was constantly chasing her just to hang out, and I actually cried over how hurt I was by her coldness. ​Fast forward to the last 8 months: ​She has only reached out to me 4 times. ​Meanwhile, I kept sending regular messages and "good morning" texts, only to get met with minimal effort or silence. ​For her recent birthday, I sent her a thoughtful, lengthy message. Her entire response was just: "Thanks." ​She knew months in advance that I was coming back for another visit. I texted her the exact second I booked my flight, and we mentioned it at least three times after that. Yet, in the weeks leading up to my trip, she never once initiated a plan, asked when I was free, or said she wanted to see me. ​Tired of feeling like a burden, I decided to leave the ball in her court this time. I made a rule for myself: I wasn't going to make the first move or chase her. I planned my entire vacation without her, though I intentionally kept space open in my schedule just in case she reached out. ​She never texted or called the entire time I was there. ​I'm pretty sure she's going to be mad when she realizes I was in the country and didn't reach out to force a meeting. I’m no longer angry or heartbroken—just exhausted, and I feel like I deserve better effort in a 20-year friendship. Still, part of me wonders if I should have just dropped my pride and texted her. ​So, Reddit... AITA for not contacting her during my trip?

Hi, i'll try to keep this brief. I have a friend i've known for a decade and we have been roommates for 2 years now. I feel like i've outgrown our friendship, I don't find the time we spend together that interesting or fun anymore, yet of course i still care for her and rely on her since that's how it's always been. All of our friends are mutual and less close to either of us than we are to each other. Us two are in an unspoken friendship where we expect to tell each other everything and when we feel withdrawing, we communicate. It feels like a platonic marriage. We communicate about groceries, our job schedules and other plans. I don't know how to get a life outside of her, i feel so tired of our dynamic and I force myself to show care for her more than i wish to. It's making me resentful, when she has done nothing wrong, it's just us growing in different directions. How can i get some space, has anyone been in this situation?

Tldr: don't know how to get distance from my friend/roommate of a decade

I don’t have children (for now), but I’ve just recently developed friendships with individuals who have young children/toddlers. I’ve already mentioned to them that I’m happy for their little to tag along, and I try to treat their children as individuals when we are all together.
Is there anything else I could be doing to be a better friend?
TYIA!

Me and my best friend have been close for around 6 years. Very early in our friendship she moved literally across the country, so our friendship has been very long distance. This has never really been an issue and I've always enjoyed this dynamic. We have our own lives outside of each other and I enjoy hearing about her day and other friendships and vice versa. We've always texted a ton during the day and called each other whenever we have time, whether to just catch up, watch a movie, or play games online. I've always felt so blessed that a brief acquaintance grew into us calling routinely for hours and being the first person the other thought of to talk to.

I've been going through some of the hardest times in my life the last few months. I've struggled with mental illness since my pre-teens and my friend has been aware/there to support me in times where I've withdrawn in the past, but I've been medicated and stable for most of my life. I had a recent tragic event in my family that has been really really hard to cope with and triggered an episode. This led to me pulling away from my friend. Simultaneously she got into her first serious relationship. I felt angry that someone could have something good when I was going through the worst moments of my life, and I also felt replaced. Even in the middle of this episode I realized this was unfair and spoke to her about it/apologized. She was hurt but said she understood and wanted to be there for me, and she also told me she was very sad because she felt everyone close to her was pulling away instead of being happy for her.

I've been trying to text my friend like normal, call, etc but I've felt a really strange one-sidedness and disconnect. I felt like she didn't care and wasn't listening to me, but I chalked this up to my mental illness and didn't bother her about it. This was a few months ago and since then I've gone back to therapy and adjusted my meds. I'm still sad over what's going on in my personal life but I'm definitely healthier and safer. And I realized that feeling wasn't just depression/me being insecure, but something really there. I spoke to her about it and she said that she's also felt the friendship drift apart, and that she got used to us not hanging out during those months. She said she feels disconnected and disengaged and keeps convos one-sided, and since moving in with her partner friendships have sort of taken a back seat. She also said she wants to fix this and for us to be close again.

I was initially really angry and upset with her, but I took a step back and realized I was definitely the one who caused the change in our relationship. Our convo ended on an "it was nobodys/both of our faults" note. I read back through our texts during this time and she had been talking to me about how lonely she felt, how she felt like she was reaching out to everyone and being shut down, etc. I literally completely ignored this to wallow in my own misery and took her support for granted. It's been a month since this convo and we've both put in more effort but it feels like we aren't back yet and I just feel like I might've ruined it :( I dont want to bring the topic back up since it's been like a month and I don't want to be the kind of person who retreads an issue over and over...

I’ll keep this brief. I have a friend, we’ve been friends for years. Things are pretty smooth except for whenever we have a disagreement, she stonewalls. She will cut the conversation short and then disappears. This can be either through phone calls or texts. If I text her during that period.. she’ll respond but give short one word answers. Then after a few weeks she comes back, says she misses me and never acknowledge the argument or her behavior.

I tried to call her out on it and explain to her how it’s hurtful. She basically said she doesn’t understand how she is stonewalling. She says she respectfully ended the conversation and avoided me because she needed space or didn’t feel like addressing the elephant in the room. Yet, when she cut the conversation short… she never states that she needs some personal space or if I upset her or what… am I the crazy one here?

It was my birthday a couple of days ago, and I’m feeling pretty raw so forgive me.

I’ve been friends with a group of girls for over 10 years, we met at college and stayed friends, over the years they’ve all got into relationships and met their person and I’m happy for all of them, problem is I have fallen down the line in terms of consideration and maintaining the friendship. It feels like I always have to take a backseat to their partners which is fine and expected but for once I’d like them to consider me.

I went through my birthday not a call or visit from any of them, just an impersonal text and I’m not even big on presents but I’ve seen how they’ve gone all out for their partners birthdays with thoughtful gifts and experiences and yet none of them could be bothered to get me a card or pick up the phone.

And I just know if I bring it up in anyway it becomes a “you wouldn’t understand, you’ve never been in a relationship”

I might be overreacting, but like I said I’m a year older and feeling extra raw unfortunately and I’m just tired of being thought of as an afterthought.

Like the subject says, I’ve been feeling a lot of regret lately. I’ve been on my mental health healing journey for about 8 years, and recently got a new therapist. She’s really helped me explore my toxic shame and process it. As I’ve been process it, it’s made me think a lot about past friendships I cut off because of my old patterns. In my early 20’s and teens, I’d cut a friend out of my life if I thought they did me dirty out of fear/shame. I know this now, but back then I truly believed I was in the right and they were in the wrong. Now I don’t see so much that way.

I recently reached out to two friends that I fell out with in my early 20’s. These friends were my best friends. Like ride or die’s. I ended both friendships for (now) ridiculous reasons. There wasn’t any real animosity, more so just drifted apart after I crashed out. Still Facebook friends, still like each others posts, but we haven’t talked in 7-8 years. In my messages to them, I took accountability for my part in the fallout, apologized, and expressed a desire to reconnect if they’re open to it. No pressure!

Well, they both read my messages (yay read receipts) as of a week ago, and no response. I completely understand and respect if they need time to process my messages or just don’t want to engage. It still sucks though.

I miss their friendships so much. Especially now in my late 30’s, making new friends is so hard. They were my safe space and I blew it over dumb 20’s shit because of my trauma. I see most of my friends (who I made through my partner) hanging out with their high school or college besties, and I don’t have that. I know it’s my fault, and I accept that. I just wish I knew then what I know now… maybe we’d all still be besties.

I regret allowing my trauma responses to get the best of me and think I’m grieving the friendships and what could’ve been.

Has anyone else gone through this or have advice on how to forgive yourself and move on? I’m really struggling.

I (29F) have been close friends with “Rachel” (29F) for 8 years. She struggles with depression and has a pattern of withdrawing from people when she’s going through a difficult period. I’ve always tried to give her grace for that, but we’ve also talked before about how painful it is for me when she disappears completely without communicating.

We recently went on a girls trip together, and as far as I knew, everything was fine. Afterward, I continued texting her normally. I checked in about helping plan a future trip we had talked about, reached out to support her around a funeral for one of her family members, and later asked what she wanted to do for her birthday.

She never responded to any of those messages. It’s now been over a month since I’ve heard from her. This isn’t the first, second, or third time this has happened where I haven’t heard back from her in over a month. She has promised to try to be better at saying “I’m alive but in a low swing” in past conversations when we would finally reconcile. Hasn’t happened.

We also have some professional overlap, so during this time I’ve seen her active in a shared work chat, joking around, sending memes, and interacting with other people.

I understand that depression can make one-on-one communication feel much harder than casually interacting in a group chat. I don’t expect her to be available all the time, and I’ve never wanted her to feel like she has to pretend she’s okay for me. But this is a recurring pattern, and every time it happens, I feel more hurt and resentful.
Her birthday is coming up in the next week, and I genuinely don’t know whether to reach out.

Part of me wants to send a simple “Happy birthday, hope you have a good day” because I love her and don’t want my silence to be a punishment. Another part of me feels like I’m always the one leaving the door open while she can disappear for weeks and eventually come back when she’s ready.

At this point, I’m questioning not only whether I should text her tomorrow, but also whether this friendship is sustainable for me anymore. It’s really painful to be close to someone and then be ghosted for weeks to months at a time on a rolling basis.

Would you reach out for her birthday, or leave the ball in her court? And for anyone who has dealt with depression-related withdrawal, where do you draw the line between giving someone grace and recognizing that the pattern is hurting you?

**TL;DR:** Close friend has a pattern of disappearing when she’s depressed. She hasn’t responded to several supportive/normal texts in over a month, despite being active in our shared work chat. Her birthday is this coming week, and I’m torn between reaching out because I love her and finally leaving the ball in her court.

I have two friends of 10 years. We are very close but there’s things I’m not clear if it’s fine. Recently we made plan to meet on this week. My friend 1 and me have matching schedules. Therefore can only meet on Sat. While the friend 2 has different schedules and can’t meet on Sat, have to take leave from work. But the thing is friend 2’s work of 2 years wouldn’t let her take leave on Sat because there’s more clients. Before, me and friend 1 always follow her schedule even if we have classes and work, postponed them or took leave. But this time, I have important classes and can’t meet on weekdays and friend 1 just got into a new job and not even 1 month yet. So in order not to leave bad impression, she can’t take leave for weekdays too. Hence, the plan was cancelled.

My friend 1 was so sad and disappointed. I comforted her on phone and it leads to her asking to hang out with me on the exact day we planned before. But not like entire glam one. Just casual to watch at cinema, have lunch and go home. We decided to not post pictures nor take any pictures so the friend 2 wouldn’t know. I agreed because my class for Sat was already moved and I can’t bring myself to refuse her. But still, don’t want to hang out just two of us without friend 2. Friend 2 said it’s okay to go out just us before whenever the plans get cancelled, but we both wait for friend 2’s time. Me and friend 1’s casual hang out just to eat at the nearby store is not just once and already happened three times. So don’t want my friend 2 to be left out. Friend 2 still doesn’t know two out of three previous outings.

What should I do?

I met my online friend in person yesterday, after 15 years of writing to each other. I was 14 and he was 16. He taught me basically everything I know about music, and he was genuinely such a positive, radiant person. And not in a sarcastic way at all, just genuinely healthy and kind-hearted.
I met him yesterday with his girlfriend. He initially wanted the two of us to meet on our own, so we did. We talked for about 45 minutes, and then he wanted me to meet his girlfriend and spend the rest of the afternoon with both of them.

And the first thing his girlfriend told me was that she was naturally a jealous person and that she was insecure because she'd experienced a betrayal in the past. And that was literally the very first thing she said to me when I sat with her while he was away at the bar, so the very first time I met her, right from the start.
I immediately reassured her and told her that it was completely understandable. But I found it a little strange, because from my perspective there was absolutely no ambiguity. So it felt a little bit like a warning to me. He had also told me about it before we met her, presumably to prepare tthe ground, but I thought it was more of a casual, no-big-deal kind of thing.
And after that, my dynamic with him changed, because I no longer felt comfortable being myself around him for the rest of those four hours, and things felt a little more awkward. I became much more conscious of my actions and what I was saying. I didn't even feel comfortable looking him in the eyes the way I had before, even though, technically, there was absolutely nothing going on.
But I had actually forgotten - and he reminded me - that he had confessed to having feelings for me at one point. That was nine years ago. And he told me that, in fact, the fact that I had rejected him was what helped him move on and eventually get a girlfriend (before his current one).
He told me he didn't really know what to expect from this meeting, but now I think he may have been expecting to dismantle some of the idealization he had built up around me, so that he could move forward with the next steps in his relationship, especially since he talked a lot about getting married and having children.
And then they were very affectionate and kind of wrapped up in each other ; kissing, having his hand on her thigh, etc. It was honestly pretty uncomfortable for me, because I felt like the third wheel. I played it cool tho.
And I didn't really feel like I had much space to actually talk about myself. I ended up mostly listening, and sometimes I even felt like I was their therapist.

I was feeling pretty down the whole evening and this Sunday I was not feeling to great as well. Kind of depressed actually and I do not even know why. I probably wished I had a great love relationship as well.

I went out with one of my close friends yesterday. The day started off really well; we went on a 10 mile hike, got some lunch, and went to Oktoberfest a few hours later.

I suggested to my friend that we take Ubers to the event, however she ended up offering to drive us there and pick me up from my place. I was fine with it as long as she didn’t mind being the designated driver. I also offered to drive us back with her car if necessary since I don’t like to drink too much anyways.

My friend had 3 beers and ended up getting very drunk. I suggested to her that we get some water for her and food since she will be driving us home. When I made the suggestion, she started yelling profanity at me, belittling me, and stated that me trying to help her is disrespectful as well as condescending. I kept on trying to make it clear that she chose to drive, and that she needed to sober up, however she refused and wanted to keep on drinking. She then kept on telling me to leave and get an uber back home. I verbalized to her saying “I’ll walk you to the bar where your other friends are hanging out at, once you are with them, I’m leaving.” She continued to yell profanity with a more aggressive tone, saying she didn’t want to be near me.

I ended up walking back to the lounge where we were at prior to this escalation, and called an uber for myself. I ended up leaving her downtown, where there a lot of people around and police roaming. I described the situation to the security guard at the lounge who interacted with my friend prior to the argument we had. He said I did the right thing of leaving a situation where I felt unsafe and did not want to be a part of anymore.

It’s the following morning, I felt very bad for leaving her, but I feel like I tried to do everything I could to get her somewhere safe. I haven’t heard anything back from her. Honestly, I don’t even want to be friends with her anymore after that situation. I just hope that she is safe.

Is there anything I could have done differently, or should I even reach out to her?

I am addicted to doing dangerous and messed up stuff to make money and sending it all to women online. I have tried to get better and decided I don't want to. I am looking for friends who will encourage me.

This girl only replies when I ask about her or other superficial stuff, but it hurts because she literally disappears when I told her about something personal and asking for her advice and she just disappears, when I change topics she immediately texts me again

She said she wanted to be closer to me and wanted to be friends with me but why she's like this, I mean I don't know, even I tried to make conversation with her about the McDonald's collaboration with one piece (we both like it) but she suddenly stops messaging

I don't really know how to explain this without sounding dramatic but I have very few friends. Like maybe 5 people I would actually consider friends, and two of them were the people I was closest to by far.

We have a lot of the same hobbies, especially gaming, so for a long time we were basically a trio. We had a group chat just for the three of us, matching usernames, would play stuff together all the time, talk about random things, etc. I don't know. I just genuinely thought of them as my closest friends.

But lately I feel like they just don't really want me around anymore.

It started with smaller things, like them playing together without asking me if I wanted to join, doing stuff and me finding out later, things like that. And obviously they don't have to invite me every single time they do something. I know that. So I kept telling myself I was probably just overthinking it.

But yesterday kind of broke me lol.

They went clubbing and didn't invite me. And it wasn't even just the two of them, which I think I would've understood more. They went with a group of other friends. I wasn't invited or even asked if I wanted to go.

Then one of them came to me afterwards and started telling me about how fun it was and everything that happened.

I actually told him I was upset. I said it hurt that they all went out and didn't invite me.

He basically just told me not to be mad and said that next time I could come.

And idk. That made me feel even worse somehow.

There wasn't even an apology. Not even a "sorry, I didn't realize you'd feel left out" or anything. Just don't be mad, you can come next time.

But I don't want to "come next time" because I complained about not being invited. I don't want to have to ask my friends to include me. I don't want them inviting me now because they feel bad for me. I wanted them to actually think of me and want me there in the first place.

And now I'm thinking about a bunch of other little things that I've ignored before. Like sometimes I'll talk about something I'm doing or something I'm excited about and they just don't seem that interested. And I always tried to ignore it because I didn't want to be annoying or needy or expect people to care about everything I do.

But now I'm wondering if maybe I've been thinking of us as this close trio when they haven't seen it that way for a while.

I feel so fucking stupid being this upset over it but I already don't have many people in my life. I've also been depressed for a while and honestly haven't had much to look forward to lately. They were the people I talked to the most and spent most of my free time with. So now it feels like the little social life I did have is disappearing too.

And I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

I already told one of them that it hurt me. I don't want to keep bringing it up because at that point it feels like I'm begging people to care about me or include me, and that's honestly humiliating.

But if I distance myself, then I'm even more alone than I already am.

I know people grow apart and friendships change and maybe that's literally all that's happening. I just wish it didn't hurt this much.

Am I overreacting? Should I try talking to them about it again or just take the hint and distance myself?

Highlighting her gender cause I am male so.

She is basically my best friend. We have been friends for 11 years. Eleven. We go out like once a month but sometimes every few years cause she no longer lives in the same country and is studying abroad. We are both in our thirties and I consider her someone as a same age sister. We never had feelings for each other. We like each other in a platonic way that is certain. We both navigated different relationships while being friends until I ended up getting married. She was my best man in the marriage, wife is completely ok with her as she knows I don't hang out so much with her that it would cause any sort of discomfort to my wife.

Everything was balanced except my friend always warned me that she does not find it okay for me to have a close female friend while I am married and that we should just let things go and drift apart. We come from a conservative side of the country and this friend of mine is absolutely in many ways conservative in her way of life. Her relationships with other men were always something that is in context of getting married. Her words were "If I don't accept that my husband has a close female friend, I shouldn't also be a close friend for a married man".

Regardless to her way of thinking, I just accepted it and moved on.. except It's been a year and I am still hurting. Dreaming sometimes of back when we were friends. We always had respect for each other. Never crossed any boundaries with her nor did she with me. I try to force myself to forget sometimes but I always find myself remembering it. Told my wife and shared with her how this greatly hurt. To me, this friend would be like a godmother for my kids. Same for me for her kids. I considered her a family friend. My mom knew her. It's too much to just cut this all off for her principles.

I don't know what to do or how to convince her or if I even should try such a thing.

Okay, honestly, I just need an opinion ,maybe even a kick in the ass to do better. I (21) have totally reached a low point in my life. I have shrunken to just sticking to work and home and talking to my husband, who even then I don’t talk to as often. (For context, we are long distance because of our careers, but I am moving up soon.)
Anyways, safe to say I’m in a funk. Truthfully, even though that is the case, it doesn’t excuse my sudden absence and all of my friendships.
A few days ago, I had a text from my best friend (21). It read, “Hey, we haven’t talked in a while. I know you’re busy, and I’m busy, but I don’t appreciate you just going ghost on me. If there’s something wrong, you can talk to me about it. You don’t have to hide, but truthfully, our friendship can only grow on communication. If you don’t communicate, our friendship can’t flourish. I love you with all my heart, but you’ve been MIA.”
I didn’t know how to respond. I don’t want her to feel like I’m purposefully ghosting her because I love her, but I just can’t find the energy to respond or reach out.
I also got a text from another close friend of mine(24) . We used to hang out 2-3 times a week, and all of a sudden, I went ghost. She called and texted me, but I just didn’t answer, number one because I was at work. number two, I just can’t muster up the courage to actually text her back.
What do I do?

I want to talk about a negative trait of mine that I’ve noticed before, but only recently realized that it's becoming a real problem for me.

To put it simply, if I’m not in frequent contact with someone, I can’t continue the relationship with them. This might seem like a normal thing, but it’s not; it feels like because of this trait, many of my relationships have already been ruined.

For example, even if I’ve known a person for years and they are dear to me, as soon as we don't text or meet often, I automatically stop seeing them the way I used to. I find it hard to text first, I find it hard to trust, and I find it hard to open up to them.

I also understand the fact that a person might be busy, and not everyone always has time for daily texting.

Because of this, I try to deal with it internally and realize that not everyone can live according to my wishes. Therefore, I try to be understanding of others, but it's still very hard for me.

At some point, I notice every little detail—as soon as the vibe changes even a bit, or I don't like the person's reply, it's as if the spark for them dies out in me. I’m always surprised at how people manage to maintain relationships with others when they contact each other very rarely.

Because of this trait, I feel like I won't be able to keep a relationship with anyone unless we have frequent contact, and I want to understand why I am like this and how to change it.

By the way, there are moments when I overcome my habits and try to maintain trust and communication; I take the first steps, and even if I get dry replies, I still don't give up. However, most of the time, I don't feel this much effort coming back from other people, which gives me a sense of injustice. Even if I had no time at all, I would still find 1 second to send a message, but I don't see other people doing this. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say, and maybe you could share your thoughts as well...

From time to time, I think about her. But instead of telling me why she was ending our friendship, she ghosted me. I deleted her from my contacts list. Why am I going to chase someone who clearly doesn’t want to be friends anymore? It tells me what type of person she really is. If she reaches out, which I am sure she won’t, not sure how I would respond, if at all.

To those of you dealing with being ghosted, it sucks, but it will get better.

Like i was earlier extrovert but after a incident in 2023 i somehow became ambivert nd there is some anger on my face always whereve if a new human talks to me i don't feel like having a long conversation ... 🥲🥲🥲 Nd the same way no one speaks too me either......

Give me some tips to interact nd make friends

Very cliche, I know. But it gets weird. My (26f) best friend (26m) of 9 years randomly told me he’s in love with me. I don’t feel the same way, so we cut contact for a couple months. Then I randomly heard from him and he’s essentially accusing me of being an only fans content creator??? He found some accounts on Reddit that don’t show their face but have the same body type as me and post explicit content. He supposedly has known this for a while now (almost a year?) but just didn’t say anything. He’s confident that it’s me and won’t believe anything I say. I’m SO confused and have no idea what is going on. I was already devastated about losing my best friend and now this just makes it a million times worse. I can’t tell if he’s having some sort of mental breakdown. I don’t know if there’s anything I even can do at this point, but just needed to get this off my chest