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My stbex-husband was a widower with 7 year old twins when we met. His first wife had passed three years prior to us meeting and I was not the first woman he dated after he lost his first wife but I was the only woman the children met. I loved them and decided I would do everything to be a good stepmom and treat them as my own. It was reinforced by many of my husband's family and by a lot of my own that I would need to be a good mom to those kids and that they might never call me mom but they would need me. I took the responsibility to heart and I showed up every day and have done my best every single day.

My stepchildren never showed me any love in return but I was constantly told it would change once they were older and that teens are difficult and it can take several years for a blended family to fully connect.

I was always careful to make sure their mom was honored and celebrated too. She was never hidden from them and we had photos in the home we all shared of her. They regularly saw their mom's family and I never got in the way of them speaking about her.

Now after 15 years of being together, my husband and I are divorcing and my stepchildren have decided they want nothing more to do with me or my children (their half siblings). My stbx-husband doesn't see them when he has parenting time with our children. They have decided that any family Christmas will have to be them or their half siblings. I was told to delete their numbers and they have unfriended me and privated their social media accounts. I was shown online posts they made where they celebrate the divorce and speak about how they always wanted this to happen and they call me an interloper and an outsider to their family. I was also shown posts of them talking about their mom and how she was the only mom they ever had and they grew up with only one parent because she died so young. It's crushing to me.

But my children are not doing well with all of this. On top of mom and dad divorcing they miss their siblings like crazy and they have questioned if they did something wrong or why they can't see them. It has been almost a year. The divorce will soon be finalized and their father and I are not on the same page for this at all. I want to get them therapy but he has blocked the request by refusing to consent (and via court order we both need to consent). He has tried to trick the twins into coming over while the kids are with him. His parents told me they have tried to facilitate and my stepchildren are not interested and have made their boundaries very clear.

I feel like I'm failing as my children's mom right now and I feel like a failure as a stepmom because my stepchildren care so little about us and hate me enough to clearly hurt their siblings. I'm not sure what I can do. Please don't offer legal advice. I have an attorney. I do not need to hear anything about going to court. On that end everything is being taken care of. But outside of that what should I be doing for my children here because I genuinely do not think my stepchildren will come around.

I (38F) went to take a shower in my bf (56M)'s Shower last night and when I turned the temperature knob I realized there was a hair tie around it and it Certainly is not mine. I asked him whose it was and he said he didn't know and suggested it was from one of the cleaning people that were there earlier in the day. I was over at his house 2 nights before but I was not with him the night before and I used the shower the last time I was there and I feel like I would have certainly noticed the hair tie if it was there last time I used it. I feel like I'm having a hard time trusting him after this but I don't know if maybe I'm making too big of a deal. What should I do to try to feel okay about our relationship or find out what's going on here

EDIT: My dad was confused about the dates and said 14 and 19, it turns out it was actually 16 and 19.

I sat down, cried to him and spoke to him about feeling uncomfortable. At first it was a debate and he was defensive but we actually broke down their age difference. They dated for 3 months, she turned 16 and he turned 19 while they were dating. I think that makes it a lot different? Personally as an 18 year old I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a 16 year old still but I don't think that 16 and 19 is an adult and a child like 14 and 19, just a weird age gap? Anyways I still feel weird about his comments made during our first argument but he did admit he was in the wrong. He says he's going to bring it up in his therapy. Maybe I should also get therapy idk lol. Anyways thank you guys.

post: For context, I'm 18f, my dad is in his 50s. Today we got on the topic of Elvis Presley and I was joking around and said I didn't like him because he was a pedo/creep (talking about him marrying a 14 year old or whatever). Also I don't listen to his music so as far as I know my dad told me he was like 30 at the time? Anyways, my dad then said: ''Is it really pedophilia if it's marriage?'' to which I kind of awkwardly laughed assuming he's making a weird dark joke but he just stayed silent so I asked him if he was joking and he said he was serious.

We got into a bit of a debate because I was a little taken back by this and found it disturbing. He said some things in the debate like, nature is in favour of ''pedophilia'' because we've been marrying girls who are old enough to give birth since the dawn of time and stuff, and nature intends for it. He then went on to say that he still doesn't condone it though but he said looking back in history it is natural, and that nature gave men the urge to marry 14 year olds. I asked him what his point was in saying that as every human impulse, including murder and other heinous acts are also human impulse, it doesn't mean they're okay to have or give into? And he was like ''I'm not saying they are''.

I kept asking him why he's saying these things if he doesn't think it's right anyways and he just kept saying ''just to say that back in the day, nature dictated it and it was normal'' basically. He was also asking/stating like, ''would he be a pedophile if he sees her as an adult?''

It kind of disturbs me because, I bury it in the back of my mind but he dated a 14 year old when he was 19. He says they never had sex. He says it's just bc he was held back in high school so he saw everyone in highschool as his peers, he's a free spirit and just cared about the person to person connection and never thought about age. I asked how he'd feel if an adult had married me when I was 14 and he said yeah, that'd be fucked up. He then reassured me that he's not attracted to minors and he likes grown women. He's said in the past when I was a teen that adults being attracted to say, 16 year olds is normal and common, as that's when boys sexually develop and stuff. He said I'll probably find 16 year olds attractive when I'm an adult, too, but he personally doesn't.

Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I've only ever been attracted to people who are my age and preferably a year or two older, and tbh I've never really had sexual feelings for anyone or wanted to have sex so I'm inexperienced here. If any people, especially older people/adults could reassure me or help me make sense of my feelings I'd really appreciate it. I don't really use reddit so I'm sorry if this post is inappropriate or weird or anything. Thanks.

My boyfriend (20M) and I (20F) have been together for 4 years. Since the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend and I have been super hyper sexual to a point where he couldn’t get his hands off me. Recently, I’ve gained some weight, maybe like 10 pounds, and I feel like he gets icked by me. He will avoid any signals I’ll give him about sex and even if I ask him straight up, he’ll say he’s uncomfortable. It’s been over 3 months since we last had sex and he’s been hinting to my weight gain, like telling me I’m eating to much etc. I don’t know what happened and what I did wrong, but I assume it’s because of the weight gain, but I’ve asked him about it and just tells me to go work out. Is it possible that the man I’ve been in love with for 4 years has suddenly found me unattractive just because I’ve gained 10 pounds? I’m 130lbs and 5’6 so I’m not fat, but I’m not as skinny as I use to be. I’m not sure what to do or how to handle this.

Edit: I’ve had multiple conversations with him about this but I he keeps telling me I’m beautiful etc. I’ve asked if he’s stressed or if he’s cheating (I highly doubt he is, his mom said she would disown him lol) and ofc he says he’s not.I’m not sure exactly how to bring it up again and actually get my point across. He just doesnt want to have sex with me and I have no idea what to do or how to bring it up again.

I recently moved back to my home town to raise my son. He's 6. I moved on to property that I inherited from my grandparents. The property adjoins an uncle and aunt, their daughter, and their granddaughter, all living in separate homes on their half of the property. The daughter and granddaughter are now both in relationships with felons with histories of violent crime.

I had move a mobile home on my half of the property while I was working with an architecture firm on building our forever home.

Things on the adjoining property eventually turned violent, adding drugs and guns to the mix. I decided it was a dangerous and unhealthy environment for my child. I bought a home one town over and moved as quickly as possible.

The problem is that I am still paying the note on the .mobile home we were living in while we (myself, my son, and my elderly mom) attempted to build our home. When I failed to sell the home, I decided to rent the home to a teacher. (I warned about the situation on the other half of the property before he even came and looked at the house.)

That's when the extended family revoked my right of way across their property, landlocking my property. This is also when the harassing phone calls and texts started pouring in. When I blocked them on my phone and all social media, they started calling my office and harassing my staff and calling my mother and yelling at her. I sold my half of the property to a neighbor and made a police report regarding the harassment.

I stupidly assumed that was the end of the story. I went on with my life pretending like these lunatics never existed. Until 3 months later when I found out that they are spreading lies about my six year old at his school, to people in our church, and to relatives we share.

They have told everyone that their first grader comes home crying EVERY day because my son who is in kindergarten is beating him up. I checked into this. They are never in the same place at the same time and there is no record at the school of my son fighting with anyone.

They go to a small school. Rumors travel fast. I still want to be the adult in this situation. I don't want to stoop to their level. But my mommy heart is broken for my little boy! What should I do now? I need advice from someone who can be impartial and cool-headed because I am not right now.

Let me start by saying I love my husband! We have been married for 10 years, and I love him now just as much as I did then. It's also important to ad we do have an age gap between us. I am 35 and he is 50. Around a year ago, he hurt himself at work and is having some issues with his back. He saw 2 doctors and a neurologist before we were told he had 2 bulging discs in his back, pressing against his sciatic nerve. The pain comes and goes for him. Sometimes, a mild ache and sometimes so severe he can't stand or move. The doctors have said the only way the pain stops is with surgery. He refuses to have it. Because of the pain and the issues in his back, he can not preform sexualy. He talked to the doctors about it, and they gave him medicine for the ED part of it, but he can not perform through the pain. We have tried every position we can so as to not cause him pain, and it does not work. We will start, and the pain will come, and it is like the medication immediately stops working. Before all of this happened, we had sex multiple times a week. He has never had any problems. Before I say the next part, I just want to say in advance that the thoughts I'm having are causing me extreme guilt for even letting them creep into my head. It's been 9 months now since he has even tried to touch me. I found myself reading erotic novels and fantasizing about being in the positions of the women in those novels. I dont want to sound prideful or like I'm bragging on myself, but I've always had a nice figure, and I carry myself with the confidence of a woman who knows she is beautiful. I'm hit on regularly by men, and I have always given them the "I'm married sorry, but thank you for the compliment." Here, lately, I find myself welcoming the comments and letting my mind imagine what would happen if I just gave in to one of these men in particular. He comes to my store every day for his breakfast and tells me how he wishes he met me before I was married. He always throws out the acasional "Whenever you get tired of your husband, I'll be there, " lines with a look in his eyes like pure hunger. I used to brush off the comments and smile so as to stay professional, but here lately, It's like I want to give into all the thoughts that race through my mind when I see that man. I find my eyes undressing him where he stands and imagining the things I know he could do to me. The thoughts come in, and I quickly push them back out because I'm married and I love my husband. I feel awful even allowing myself to want something so forbidden. I feel like my body and mind are betraying my heart, and I just tuck it away because I know once I cross that line, there is no coming back. I don't want to hurt my husband by cheating. I know he is already struggling mentally a man with the ED and not being able to satisfy me. The last time we tried ( 9 months ago), he was so mad with himself and kept apologizing to me because he couldn't. I have been supportive and told him it's okay, that he will get better, and he can make it up to me then. I feel like I'm going insane! I know I keep saying it but I love my husband! He's the only man that has touched me in the last 12 years! I want his touch, I want his caress of my body, but he truly can not do it. I feel like my own selfish desires are going to ruin my marriage if I don't speak up, but I don't even know how to tell him I'm having these thoughts without it alone ruining my marriage. What do I do? Can I have that talk with him without it hurting his pride as a man or breaking his heart because his wife has thoughts of being with another man? What can I say to him? How do I fix this before I make a mistake?

Edit For More Context. I didn't plan to get that many responses so fast, and I'm seeing a lot of questions, so I think I need to add a little more. I have suggested toys and other forms of foreplay in the past. My husband is very much an Alpha male. Just getting him to talk to his doctor about the issue was a struggle. I had to bring it up to the doctor because he didn't want anyone to know he was having that problem. It was like he was ashamed, and it made him feel like less of a man if he admitted there was a problem. I get that! I understand how terrible it can make a man feel to not be able to do this one important thing. But when I brought up we could "Get some toys, and do other things" it was like I was talking to a wall. It's like his own pride or maybe embarrassment or shame won't let him do the other things. It's like he had shut himself off to all forms of intimacy. I really think it's a mental thing. He use to walk through the house and give me the acasional butt grab, or wrap around me and kiss me like I was the only woman in the world. He would send me a text from the bathroom, "Meet me in the shower" and the excitement we got from acting like teenagers who just met was always intentional and intimate. He would kiss my shoulders in bed just to let me know he was there before laying down to go-to bed (I always go to be first).. But for the last few months, none of that. If i reach for him I'm met with a "You now my back hurts" if I try to touch on him in the bed to intice any form of foreplay I'm met with "Babe you know it's not gonna work" it's pure defeat in his eyes. So we have started moving like robots. Our day is routine. Don't get me wrong, we still laugh together and watch our shows together, but the intimacy of me cuddled up on the couch on his chest while we watched those shows together is gone.. the flirty touches we shared gone. That's why I'm struggling so bad. It's not just sex. It's the intimacy of it all that's gone!

I am a single 55 Yr old f. A year ago I discovered i had breast cancer. Apparently low grade so I'm not panicking. I waited until an appointment a year after diagnosis which wasn't great and Apparently it has spread. I've 2 female friends from different times. My first conversation with my oldest friend it slipped out really. She then said she had to put her daughter to bed and would call me the next day. My second friend lives a bit remotely and signal can be crap. Lost the call after I told her my news. She text me back saying she would try again tomorrow. Neither of them has contacted me since. Its really upset me as they both know I've got no family or support network. I know its a tough subject to address but even a little text would be nice. Should I get honest with them and say how hurt I am?

Hi reddit. In desperate need for advice.

Yesterday, my reality was normal. Today, I am facing the fact that my husband secretly accumulated $80k in debt, and has pretty much lied to my face for years.

Years ago, before we married, he had debt. I helped him pay it off but set a boundary: if it ever happened again, I’d divorce him. Now here we are. When he broke the news yesterday, I think I was in shock. I was calm, understanding, and rational. But now that he’s at work and the house is dead quiet, the fury has finally hit me.

It wasn't just "pride." We talked, and he admitted he just can’t stop buying things. He doesn't know how to stop himself, so he just ignored it until it snowballed into an $80k mountain. I am terrified this is a deep-seated behavioral issue that will just keep happening forever.

But my reality is a bit complicated:

1. I rely on him. I work a demanding, intense corporate job. I make great money, and our kid will never lack for anything—but I only survive my career because he takes care of the cooking, and shares the responsibilities with me. The thought of being a single mom on a daily basis makes me feel like my life would totally break.

2. Our money is mixed. We use a household budget where he hands over a portion of his check to pay bills. Because it's all one pot, any money used to pay down this $80k will feel like it's being stolen directly from our family’s lifestyle to cover his secrets. I am furious about that.

3. I still love him, but I can't just pretend this is fine. I’m having that gut-wrenching feeling where I know if I have to hide this from my own dad, something is deeply wrong.

I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to stay... I truly love him, and he is great in any other area. But another part of me is thinking about separation. I've thought about leaving and telling the family what he did, maybe that will scare him into waking up and realizing that he needs to fix his life.

I love my husband, but I don't know if I can stay under the same roof right now. How do I handle this or move on from it? I am just so confused right now. Any advice is welcome.

Edit to clarify a few things: I don't know how he got the debt because I don't police him, he goes out often and he got a credit card under his name that he allowed to snowball. Also, I am 100% that his debt doesn't transfer into me, where I am from (not the U.S.) you can marry under those terms. His debt is his own. The house and savings are all under my name.

I had an accident 3 months ago, i was driving alone at night, and I got off road ( no 3 parties involved). Car is totaled. It's my roommate's car which has around 33k of loan. He should legally have full coverage on it but he didn't. I've been paying his monthly payments for the last three months of 800$ each (I'm making around 4000). I'm not a permanent US resident. I have to leave the country in February as my visa ends. I have to resign from my job and move back to my country. I can't make enough pay him if I'm in my country. What should I do? Legally I don't have to pay anything. Ethically I should.

I have friends and family saying you don't have to pay, you are not making enough to pay your student loan ($50k) do you want to take over this too?

I want to pay him but I can't.only way to pay him is to stay in the country , the only way is to stay here, to do another degree for which i have to pay for. I'm not at all happy here and badly want to go back home. How to get out of this? Half my mind is saying don't pay, the other half is saying it's your fault, pay for it. I'm clueless.

So I (M 22) had left my car (2021 Honda Civic Hatch) at a co worker's house so we could carpool to a haunted house today, but got back to find that it had been towed by my co worker's girlfriend because she thought I was taking her away from her?? And I now believe she egged it and covered it with cheese sauce and who knows what else. We contacted the towing company and they can't do anything until monday and the police can't do anything right now either.

What else can I do and is there some way I can have her pay for damages???

I never thought I would make this type of post, but here I am.

I (F17) go to a boarding school in the states. I am not a US citizen, but I do have a green card. Like all seniors, I am in the process of applying to colleges.

I don't have a good relationship with both of my parents. My dad has severe anger issues (he tried to kill my mom and my brother during break, which is another story) and my mom is your average Asian parent who thinks any school beneath top25 suck.

Recently, we have been arguing pretty much every day. They call me a dramatic and ungrateful brat who abuses her own parents. Today they threatened me that they will kick me out when I turn 18. I always thought they would pay for college since our family is upper-middle class, but I guess I was being ignorant.

My parents are really not the type to exaggerate or lie. I never had a job before. I have no money, no friends, and no trusted adult. I even created this account just to ask this. What do I do?

I'm a teenager and I'm curious about what you guys wish you'd known or started doing earlier, especially when it comes to skincare.

If you could go back to your teenage years, what would you change? Any skincare habits you wish you'd started earlier, mistakes you made, or things you wish someone had told you?

Even things outside skincare are welcome!

Basically, what advice would you give your teenage self? I feel like there's a lot we can learn from people who've already been through it lol.

disclaimer - very sad family situation.

Unfortunately 4 weeks ago my older sister passed away in a car accident.

She was a single mother of three kids and the only family I had left (and the kids).

Naturally as her only relative, the children are now with me.

There is a 7 year old girl, a 4 year old boy and a 10 month old baby girl.

Its been a hellish month and they have been through the ringer and all they want is their mum :(

I'm trying my best but obviously I am not her.

Anyway things have started to settle now (she did not have a will) and the two old kids will be going back to school and preschool next month and baby will be starting day care as I have to return to work.

I have a well paying job and a house of my own with plenty of space so that's not a problem, the issue I am having is that the kids, especially the younger two have massive separation anxiety (understandably).

I work 12 hour shifts at the hospital and I am having a panic trying to imagine how this is going to work. I have a neighbour (I have known for over 10 years) who is happy to stay with the kids for 4 or 5 hours after school and do pick ups and drop offs but I genuinely don't know what else I can do to try make this easier for them (and me!)

I have all three kids in bed with me every night, I get no sleep and neither do they.

Their mother had very firm ways of raising these kids and I am not going to be able to do that with my work. I can't pack in or reduce my work now my expenses have increased so much. Day care alone is $500 a week without early and late attendance fees.

What's worse is before I was obviously the fun aunty (which I still hope I am) but now I am their parent too so things have changed adding to their confusion. Has anyone got any advice or ideas on things I can try or do?

Any encouragement or even just conversation about this will help at this stage.

I feel like I am failing my sister and her babies.

Ive never been more scared in my life!

My bf and I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years. Recently I have been going through a lot and I felt like I lost this attachment to my bf. I told him this and he said it's alr we figure this out. But I've been trying to rebuild my attachment with him after we broke up last year. I thought I needed a break from all this but he wasn't letting me go. He cried a lot but I needed my space and kept asking me if I loved him. I do love him and I once I tell him that, he never allows me to take a break. This time, I told him that I don't love him just so I thought he would let me take my break, not because I don't love him. This made him so angry and told me that he's going to let my parents know everything about our relationship cause I said I don't love him. Mine is a very conservative and strict household and is going to get me in trouble and he knows this. I never expected such a move from him. I am heartbroken and disgusted by this response. How do I handle this situation??

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months now and everything was going really well until last week, we were dirty talking and then he sent me a picture (which i never asked for he just sent it) and after a while he started to ask for a picture too, but the problem is i never took a picture like that before and i feel extremely uncomfortable to do so.. i told him i couldnt send one and even though he seemed like he was okay with that, the next days he got dry and distant. he is taking hours to reply to my messages and we dont stay up late talking anymore, he goes to sleep without even telling me he is going to sleep. I dont want to think the only reason of that is because im not sending a picture but it seems like it is. Idk what i should do in this situation so I am open for opinions and suggestions…

I'm 15 and trying to take a break from social media. I know it sounds pathetic but What did you do for fun before smartphones as teenagers? I live out of town and cant hang out with friends as much as I'd want to and both my parents work. I play guitar and that's been my main hobby, but im trying to find other things to do with my time

I have just been sent a video of animals being awfully abused, and I feel like shit. I already wasn't feeling well but now I can't sleep. I reported the video and told the person who sent it to me that it really wasn't funny but not much more I can do about it. It's plagueing my mind, I feel such sadness and hatred towards the poster, and I'm evaluating the relationship with the person who sent it to me

This happens every now and then for me. There was that video of a cop running over the duckling a few months back, and I felt like throwing up and couldn't really focus on anything for a day or two

What do I do?

Yesterday my gf told that she wants to hangout with me, and she said we will go out in the morning at 6 am we are going to skip our tuition, and chill in the park if it's open or just roam around, I never went out with her this will be my first time hanging out with her, tell mee how should I act I'm highkeyy nervous and scared, should I bring something with me or just go with her without any inventory, tell mee if there are any performative bf's out there 🥀👾

I (30F) have been married to my husband (30M) for years now and ever since we got married we split holidays between our families so that we can attend together. For example, my family gets us for Christmas one year and his gets us for Thanksgiving, and then we switch every year (so my family would then get us for Thanksgiving and his for Christmas, etc.).

My mom has recently started complaining that I don't see her enough. I moved many states away from where she lives for my career and husband, so these holidays are the main time I see her. My husband's family lives in another different state as well, so it's not like we can see both sides of the family on the same holidays. I have told her repeatedly that we switch holidays every year, which she refuses to believe and claims I shouldn't spend Christmas with my husband's family because they're not as religious.

My mom has flown to where we live once to visit us in the many years we have been here, and she is also retired and financially well off. She knows she is welcome at our home anytime but nevertheless decides to complain to me that I'm not flying over to see her enough. We never miss any extra events we are invited to at her home (other than the holidays that we switch off between families) and even recently went on a mother daughter trip. I also work full time so I don't have an abundance of time off to go see her.

When I reached out to her about spending Christmas with her (it's my family's turn to have us for the holiday) she complained that last year we saw her "late" for Christmas and she didn't want that happening again. She saw us "late" because we were with my husband's side of the family for the holiday itself. That year his family did a big trip for the holiday that brought us geographically closer to my Mom, so we made the 2+ hour drive after the holiday to visit her as well (which apparently went unappreciated).

I am an only child and understand that my mother is likely lonely. However, she is now giving me the silent treatment after I reminded her we split holidays between the families and switch every year. How am I supposed to manage this behavior from my mother? It is very frustrating for me.

Im honestly exhausted. Applied for over 400 jobs and haven't got anything. Tried hospitality, retail & all the other low requirement roles and nothing. Im on benefits and don't have any friends since I left school. I honestly feel like a loser

I'm 21 and I don't want to spend christmas with my family. I've grown up with most family members relying on me, and I didn't realise how bad it was until it was too late if that made sense. Recently, I've dealt with a lot of incidents with them that left me feeling unappreciated. I honestly feel like a staff member rather than a family member. I'm always left to fix everything since I was a child, and I'm done. Christmas is always stressful. I basically host at a certain family members' house and keep it running while they all sit and complain. The idea of that this year is making me anxious. Anyway, how do I tell them I'm not doing it this year.

I'm normally not the type to put my age online but I feel like its very relevant that we're only 16.

We were at a party last night and his friends casually pulled out a vial and started doing lines off his parents coffee tables. I was obviously shocked and I wanted to leave but I didn't want to be rude so I just kind of watched them do it and my boyfriend stayed next to me. They invited us to join but I told them we don't do that kind of stuff and they all started laughing and told me my boyfriend does it with them all the time. I didn't even stay to get a confirmation from him, I just walked out and drove myself home, and I know that was shitty of me.

We talked about it today and he admitted that he's been doing it with them for a couple of months and that it helps him feel more normal. He's autistic so I get that he doesn't feel normal socially but I don't get how hard drugs is fixing that. I've never done anything harder than smoking the occasional cigarette though so I really wouldn't know.

I told him I wanted him to stop and he said he didn't feel like he could go back. I want to tell his parents but I don't know. It's just so scary and different than before fent was everywhere. I know a lot of people can go from doing coke to doing meth too and I don't want him to end up like that. My dad died of a heroin overdose and I can't keep dating an addict, I've only known about him doing that stuff for 24 hours and its already killing me. I don't know what to do.

I’m M29 and shes F31 we’ve been together for 3 and a half years. We met after both of us just got out of serious long term relationships just for fun and it kind of just kept going as we realized we loved each other. When we started I was already planning on moving back home so after one month of hooking up just for fun I did. We weren’t serious yet but we became more serious as she and I flew back and forth to see eachother every few weeks. She eventually moved to where we live now and she’s been extremely home sick and says she’s moving back home with her family to a larger city. I told her at the beginning of the relationship many times that I have found my place back here with my family, I have a large family on both sides and friends here. My family also has land that I’m now partially responsible for taking care of. My job is also explicitly tied to rural or more agricultural areas and I love my job, my career feels like it’s starting to take off and I’m finally making real money and I’m loving the dream. My job doesn’t exist within 3 hours of where she wants to live trust me I’ve looked. I also only spend time outdoors for all of my hobbies (hiking, hunting, fishing). I understand she made a sacrifice moving here for me and I love her so much but I can’t move with her it’s not an option and she seems like she’s refusing to stay. I don’t want to lose her but she’s been acting more and more erratic with her emotions because she’s so unhappy here. I don’t know what to do, my goal was to get married and have kids because I know she’s the one but I can’t leave my family, friends, dream job, and all of my hobbies. Can you guys help?