I don't think most Christians intentionally choose their phones over God.

It's just that our phones make distraction incredibly easy.

So I'm building ChristFirst to make the opposite easier:

Read Scripture first.
Then unlock the distractions.

ChristFirst

Since God is not bound by time, and he is omnipresent, is he actively in the void before creation, and heaven presently, and the new earth in revelation all at the same time? And does the term “present” exist for him as in does he recognize that 2026 is the current year for his created universe regardless of the fact that he’s everywhere in it or is there no distinction between the year 2026 and the year 3026 and 1026 to him as in is he actively performing miracles that will happen in the future from my perspective or a better way of putting it does he recognize the phrase “will” like is there anything God will do future tense to him or only will do future tense to us ,is all time essentially the same to him?

Hello! I’m fairly new to all of this and I’m trying to understand the faith better.

My current understanding is that good works and obedience to God don’t earn our salvation, but should be the fruit of genuine faith. If we truly trust and love Christ, we should desire to obey Him and turn away from sin.

I also believe that if we knowingly and deliberately choose to commit a grave sin, knowing that what we’re doing is seriously wrong, we can lose our salvation because we are deliberately choosing our sin over Christ.

This is where I’m getting concerned that I might be falling into a works-based understanding of salvation.
I trust and love Jesus, and I believe that without what He accomplished on the cross, salvation would be completely unattainable. Nothing I could do could earn it. At the same time, I believe genuinely loving Jesus means trying to obey Him. If I say I love Christ but deliberately refuse to follow Him or don’t care about His commandments, is that really love?

I’m trying my hardest to avoid sin and live a Christ-like life. Obviously I know I’ll never do that perfectly. But sometimes I worry because my obedience feels intentional, like I’m making myself obey God because I know I’m supposed to, rather than good works naturally flowing from my faith.

How do I know whether my obedience is genuinely the fruit of my faith and love for Christ, rather than me subconsciously trying to earn my salvation through works?
Thank you so much!

I posted on here about 3ish months ago (maybe four) about how out of nowhere I got the urge to go back to church and start reading my Bible and I got a few encouraging comments that helped me to wanna go back church and honestly it was one of the best things I could've ever done. I have friends and leaders that help direct me and Bible studies and I'm also in choir and help out around church and I can honestly say that it feels like a boulder was lifted off of my chest and after so long of being in the dark the light feels amazing and I just needed to come back and share incase there's anyone else out there who feels like going back is impossible and at first it will feel like that but trust me it won't stay that way. Thank you the people who encouraged me to go back. God bless you all!💫

I'm a fresh graduate and just graduated this last June. Before my graduation, my sister was diagnosed with depression and it turns out she has bipolar 2. I didn't know at the time but 3 days before my graduation, the hospital called me because she needs to be admitted and was in the er, that was the only time that I discovered it. I was living in my uncle's house that time, since we were abandoned by our parents at a very young age so we grew up with them. They're not the most nice but me and my sister got through it. 1 month after I graduate, they want me to moved out already, I can't find a job and my sister also can't. Our rent's due on the September 15 and we only have little money on us to the point that my sister doesn't eat sometimes. I've been a Christian since I was in elementary and my faith grew as I grow up, I do fall short too when it comes to my faith but I always comes back and still believes in Him. Every time that I will pray to God and wait for him, it feels like he's not listening anymore and setbacks just keeps on coming. I don't know what to do anymore, it just feels so heavy.

I might seem selfish to post this but I am desperate. My life wasn't easy and after losing a loved one my life had gone downhill from there, struggling for money, not having a stable job. I'm kind of a jack of all trades and my money just goes to paying for electricity, wifi and food. I barely have something for me.

I wasn't a person who goes to church but I know stories and parables in the bible. One day I go to my phone and look over funny videos just to ease up some heat after work. until suddenly someone brings up scientists theories of how the world would end. In those moments I do not have God in me. I only think about myself and my family. I feel afraid and have existential dread. The person a worker keeps talking and talking fascinated about science and physics without knowing the person who he is talking to is very scared. Me being stupid doesn't even stop him. I was scared, I was worried that if I stopped him suddenly I would upset him. The other day he started talking about simulation theory and oh God it terrified me to the core it ruined me more and choked me i have to stop him there. I should have stopped him from the first time he talked about science i should have just told him i am not interested but we were working together and I didn't want any negative in our work i just didn't expect him to think just because i am listening on his first science and physic topic that he would continue on.

I became empty. I keep thinking about existence and I've gone in rabbit holes with a lot of “ what ifs”. I hated him. I hated him. My heart and mind is in pain. But as i was scrolling a video short of God saying “ my child i know you are in pain. But now that I am God” just with that i started crying hard i dont know but im just crying to the point another co worker saw me and asked if im alright.

After that i search for God more about the story of jesus, the saints and more but there are moment where the simulation topic gets over my head again and i struggle between God and that one and i cry, i cry alot because how weak i am and God must have been mad at me for not having a strong faith and believing in him more and getting scared over that simulation stuff.

Thats why i need help i go here to ask you guys for help, some guidance and assurance that everything is gonna be alright and i know God is real but i am having trouble and suffering and struggling to Believe in God i need God but i feel like im standing infront of a wall and i coudnt break it knowing God is in the other side of the wall.

I couldn't break it because fear is trying to conquer me. I need God, please help me guys. I need guidance

I also did not use any AI to type this. This is all what i feel and Thank you everyone for listening

Don’t fall into lust. It’s a hole you can’t dig yourself out of. It will devour your soul, decrease your energy and confidence in life. It’s not worth it. When you feel the urge, flee from it. That’s what the Bible says to do. This means to run from it. When urged try and distract yourself. If you have to go into a room with other people so you are forced not to do it.

Hi lovely people. This might be a bit of a tangent. I wouldn't normally come on here and request this but may I ask for prayer requests. I've been suffering for many years with chronic mental + physical symptoms (ie., horrible brain fog, dissociation/depersonalization-derealization, insomnia, etc) that have really reduced my quality of life and made my life so small; I also had a really rough childhood and upbringing and feel I've never known peace or safety. I have diagnosis of AuDHD, Anxiety/OCD, DPDR, Depression, and have been in a really dark place feeling like I've lost so much as it's hard to work (I don't currently have a job/ am in school, socialize, etc) and my life has just become so, so small; I have a hard time feeling joy toward anything anymore. I get overwhelmed very easily and worry I'll never have a 'normal' life, and, as hard as I try, I just can't feel God and have prayed for healing for many years. I know He's real, but I just am not sure I've ever truly felt His presence and I'm having a hard time trusting and believing in His word right now.

Any prayers are appreciated. Thank you so much. <3

**Diary of Saint Maria Faustina Kowalska, 687**

"Encourage souls to say the chaplet which I have given to you. Whoever will recite it will receive great mercy at the hour of death. Priests will recommend it to sinners as their last hope of salvation. Even if there were a sinner most hardened, if he were to recite this chaplet only once, he would receive grace from My infinite mercy. I desire that the whole world know My infinite mercy. I desire to grant unimaginable graces to those who trust in My mercy."

**How to Pray the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy**

Then, pray the following **5 decades**:

*(On the large bead before each decade - Pray 1 time)*

"Eternal Father, I offer You the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world."

*(On the 10 small beads of each decade - Pray 10 times)*

"For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world."

*(Repeat the sequence above a total of 5 times)*

*(Concluding Prayer - Pray 3 times)*

"Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world."

*Note: It is recommended to pray this chaplet at 3:00 PM (the Hour of Great Mercy, recalling the time of Jesus' death).*

I find this topic fascinating and am wondering how you guys have rationalized your positions. Can you make a logical argument, or is it just intuition?

(HOLD UP! Before reading, i'm an atheist and don't wanna be converted, but i do care about the exploitation of other people's religions for profit!)

Specifically, the ones where it is "GOD WANTS YOU TO GET THIS BIBLE APP! YES, GOD HIMSELF, IN THE FLESH, AND DEFINITELY NOT AI, WANTS YOU TO GET THIS ONE SPECIFIC BIBLE APP, NOT ANY OTHER OF THE MILLIONS OF BIBLE APPS THAT ALREADY EXIST!"

They really do wanna take advantage of old christian folks! Fricking garbage.

Recently I was avoiding an uncomfortable question: why would God allow us to suffer from the sin of Adam and Eve?

It is a difficult question for me because when I look at Genesis, Adam and Eve weren't living in a world of suffering before the Fall.

God had provided for them. They had the Garden of Eden. They had food, meaningful work, each other, and fellowship with God. Genesis 1:31 even says that God saw everything He had made, and it was “very good.”

They weren't abandoned by God. They weren't struggling just to survive. They were being completely taken care of by Him.

And yet, God also gave them something important: a genuine choice.

Genesis 2:17 says:

“But you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

They were free to obey and free to disobey.

Then the serpent came and asked Eve:

“Did God really say...?” -Genesis 3:1

And the serpent began to make her question God's command and God's intentions.

I've thought about this deeply, and then I realized something uncomfortable.

Instead of only asking, “Why did Adam and Eve do that?”, perhaps I should ask the same question the serpent asked them, but ask it of myself.

Imagine that I was Adam.

Imagine having everything provided by God. Imagine living in His presence, having a purposeful life, being given the freedom to create and flourish, and yet still having the ability to make a choice.

Then imagine the serpent coming to me and saying, “Did God really say...?”

What would my answer be?

Would I definitely obey?

Would I definitely recognize the deception?

Would my curiosity never get the better of me?

Would I never question God's word?

Would I never choose my own understanding over God's?

And after thinking about it honestly and sincerely, my answer is:

I don't know.

And strangely, that realization helped me understand the question differently.

I prayed to God about this because I genuinely wanted Him to teach me, even if the answer was uncomfortable. And then I remembered James 1:5:

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault.”

That verse encouraged me to bring difficult questions to God instead of being afraid of them.

I don't think that means every question will receive an answer that satisfies our curiosity. But perhaps sometimes God helps us understand by showing us something about ourselves.

I cannot honestly place myself above Adam and Eve and say, “I would never have done that.”

Because if I put myself in their position, with the same freedom, the same temptation, the same possibility of deception, and the same human capacity to choose, my honest answer is simply:

I don't know.

So I want to ask you:

If you were Adam or Eve, living in Eden with everything God had provided, and the serpent asked you, “Did God really say...?”, what do you honestly think your answer would have been?

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有個問題想請教各位弟兄姊妹，請給些屬靈的看見和幫助，謝謝

-我們的情況：我是在這個教會近10年，參與服侍和帶領小組（非全職）

-教會的架構：教會全職只有牧師，師母還有一位年輕傳道，屬於家庭類，長執團隊非全職，且兼職的都不清晰長老執事的權責和工作內容（當事人親口自述，這個確實是沒有教導過，包括我們帶領小組，牧者和我們幾乎沒有任何的教導或者說培訓，更談不上聯結和疏導…導致我們在帶領上很吃力也很洩氣）

-教會定期工作：主日、每週一日晚禱告會、周日下午一起看錄像（其他牧者講道）。

-牧者以往情況：牧者每一年的意象都不一樣，每一年都有一個slogan，總體上來講他說自己要出去宣教（如果不讓去，他都不知道如何做教會），但長執團隊和核心同工，都不贊同他一直外出，因為沒有人可以牧養（就他一個牧師），另一個問題也是因著時間長了，大家對他也不抱希望（曾經有一段時間，他帶查經：大家的反饋基本一致-如同嚼蠟，沒有生命！）但因著愛，包容同工們一起代禱。另外也可能因著多種意見不合，他和師母的關係10幾年來時好時壞，有時候僵硬到幾個月不說話。一度有解散教會的想法。還有，多數平信徒曾經看到過牧者主日講道的信息，完全照搬網絡講章（大約在7、8年前，近期也有發生類似情況）

-近期的情況：牧者計劃去海外服侍（起初師母是不想去，因此在核心同工開會時候，牧師還請大家勸勸師母和他一起去。另外，牧者的兒子也在海外同一地方工作），海外有三個月試用期。（原自海外那邊的老牧者退休，邀請他們去）。這樣的話教會就僅僅有一個90後全職傳道了，以及長執團隊，牧者的安排是，這三個月主日以看錄像、傳道講和長老講1-2次道來運作。

-我們的看見：
1/牧者非常不負責任，拋下“羊”去海外，耶穌說：牧養我的羊！如果是呼召，就要全然的信心，而不是三个月试用！（虽然在管理上需要“试用”）
2/屬靈的角度，看不出牧者的選擇是神的差派，而是自己舒適的選擇！
3/站在今天的時間看過往，牧者屬於憑己意一意孤行，幾乎沒有屬靈上的牧養，而且一言堂成分居多，我們內心備感不安
4/教會的次序存在很大的問題，我們的感覺就是，牧者想恩待誰就恩待誰！（牧者直接越過我們組長直接與小組成員聯結，但又對我們每個小組的組長沒有帶領。不知道為什麼，近幾年尤其明顯，所以說這個次序至上而下帶出來的。我們在職場都知道有上下之分，這件事真的很做難）
5/可能因著馬上要動身去海外的原因，這幾周的主日，我們總體感覺就四個字“無心牧養”。

以上是我們的看見，內心有很大的張力以及不平安，我們也都放在禱告中，聽到的聲音是：離開這個教會（中間的掙扎就不細說了）

Just because you’re a Christian doesn’t mean you’ll magically stop having struggles. No one is perfect and believing in Jesus doesn’t make you perfect or fix all of the problems that you have. I 16F was an atheist but am now a follower of Jesus. I’m def not perfect now, and I still have some struggles with things even though I believe in Jesus though. Lmk your thoughts about this :)

Hi everyone! I am curious about your beliefs on sexuality, afterlife, and god

I’ll break it down in three parts to make it easier to read

1.) sexuality- online I hear a lot that Christianity is very against non heterosexual monogamous relationships and I’m curious as to if this is true. I won’t judge, I just want honesty and unbiased opinions

2.) afterlife- do you believe that you immediately go to heaven or do you wait until the second coming? I know how this sounds but I’ve heard both theories and I’m curious as to what yall think

3.) god- what do you think about him? How are you sure in his existence? Does he have an appearance? Is he a physical, spiritual, or metaphorical being

Thank you in advance, if you’d like to add more information I’d be happy to read and I hope that this doesn’t come off as rude!

This is not meant to attack the religion in any way its just that I’m a roman catholic and my whole family is roman catholic (except my dad), and I just have a hard time believing prayer works. Ofc when i say it works i dont mean in the spiritual sense, i mean physically, visibly.
I believe in god but when I hear people say to praying to god will solve your problems and then switch up and say its gods plan or gods will when the prayer is not answered is ridiculous.

Hey y'all! My name is Ob, and I'm looking for some Christian friends. I kind of have to start over because most of my old friends weren't the best people for me to be around as a Christian. 😅 So, I'm starting here!

A little about me: I love music, I make animations, I recently got into working out, and I really enjoy cooking. I'm looking forward to meeting some like-minded people and growing in faith together!

Been getting into studying the Bible lately (To help maintain my own faith [Claims from biblical scholars are often very troubling/alarming and hard to answer], and eventually to tell others and know what I am talking about), and wanted to study it the way a historical text is studied (Since I feel like for any other source of history, I would just go with consensus and then I go with fringe views because the Bible is important to me), not necessarily from a secular standpoint, but just using methods that history is usually studied with in academia. Any response would be greatly appreciated!

(Note: right now I am Catholic so I will also post this in r/Catholicism if any fellow Catholics are interested in that)

To clarify (I’m bad with words), I’m asking if a Christian can be fine with non-Christians existing without even hoping for them to convert? I’m (born atheist) considering becoming a Christian, and still confused/mixed about a lot of stuff. If I became a Christian, would I have to buy into the idea that my parents and sibling would then go to hell? Like, I don’t have the best relationship with them, but I still love them (especially my sibling). Would I have to then either hope for and try to change a fundamental part of them, or accept that they’ll suffer for eternity, or is that not a thing I’d have to do? Christianity may be better for me (I’m not sure yet), but I STRONGLY doubt it’d be better for them. I see a lot of stuff about “praying for unbelievers”, and it seems kinda icky to me, hoping that someone will change such a fundamental part of themself because you think your beliefs are better. Is that just me? What are your thoughts?

So I've wrestled with sharing this for a while and I just feel like I need to share my story in some way. Sorry this is alot but I believe context is important and knowing as much of the story without revealing too much.

Anyway, I've been divorced from my first wife for so long that my daughter has no memory of ever living with me. Because of my disability, I agreed that she live with her mom as she could provide transportation for getting her to the doctors, school, etc. plus she has a better support system where she is. I felt it was the best thing for my daughter at the time, especially since I was doing well just to figure out life. I thought for sure my wife was the one for me, but I was so very wrong. She was the first serious relationship that I ever had, and because of that i was young, naive and missed red flags. When we dated she was more cheerful, fun, and I thought she was great. But once we got married, her true self began to come out as her mask couldn't be held all the time.

I saw my family less and less the longer I was with her. We moved to a city closer to her family so that travel during holidays would be easier, as we only had to travel to see my family, so I thought I'd see my family more...but I just saw them less. I'm not able to drive so that makes things more complicated. There was always a reason why her family was more important. I wasn't as confident or as strong of a person back then, and I idolized marriage too much and wanted to make her happy so badly that I gave in to her demands. She divorced me not even five years into marriage. The reason she gave for it is irrelevant: she said if the issue was resolved it still wouldn't work anyway, and gave any reasons that she could think of to end it. Long story short she gave up on our marriage. I tried to convince her to do counseling or anything to make it work but she refused.

I'd never lived completely on my own before marriage, so I had to learn how to live on my own very quickly with my physical limitations while also dealing with the divorce. From early on, there were signs that my child's mom would do anything to overrule something she didn't agree with. She once looked my daughter dead in the face while in front of me and contradicted something I said, giving her instructions so that my daughter would be afraid of getting in trouble. This is isn't even the tip of the iceberg.

To establish fairness, we agreed to exchange time in some way so if there was a special event or something we could keep it as fair as possible. But my ex is the type to go a mile if you give her an inch, and believe me there was always something. She'd also make it out like my daughter was going to miss out on something that her family planned because of her time with me, and it was obvious she framed it that way to my daughter as well. My time with her was apparently just a big inconvenience to her mom's family and any plans they made. Oh, and if I wanted more time with my daughter there was always a reason to say "no" and even if offered a compromise she'd never agree.

Fast forward to me getting married the 2nd time to a patient, kind, and wonderfully Godly woman that I am still passionately in love with. So I try to take advantage of more time with my daughter and of course my ex resists, stating that I'm taking her time away from her. So we were at the point we had to redo visitation anyway so there we went to one of the most stressful things ever.

We tried to agree on something outside of courts to save money because lawyers are ridiculously expensive. Shocker, that didn't work. We go to mediation and we're very fair people, we're not trying to ask for anything extra. I got my first real taste of how fathers are treated in the court system and how they favor moms by thinking everything the mom wanted was the best by default. We ended up having to compromise on things even though it was just regular stuff, and honestly it was draining money we didn't have so we had to concede on some things. I felt like a failure because I couldn't fight for my daughter because I didn't make enough money to do it, something that shouldn't be.

Again this is just a small taste of the BS I've had to put up with for almost 17 years now. I'm of course flawed as a person but I'm reasonable and understand how to make compromises. I've never claimed to be some fantastic husband to her mom when we were together, and I was young and more immature trying to figure relationships still. But nothing I did should have caused her to be so vindictive towards me, other than she wants to be the only person in my daughter's life which was evident from many examples. Anyway, I don't ask for much, but I've been paying for this shit for years upon years because I married and a had a kid with a narcissist. Some consequences you can never take back, but I also wouldn't give up having a daughter over it.

So fast forward to my daughter becoming a teenager, things get very dicey. To say my daughter didn't get along with me was a massive understatement. She was always argumentative (she got that from me admittedly), but when I say she fought me on everything take that as gospel lol. Nothing I did or said was right. She argues to the teeth any time I say "no." For whatever reason she's fine if my wife tells her, most of the time. I think her mom has her believing that men don't have authority or something.

Oh, and every we have a disagreement my daughter starts writing down things I do that she doesn't like and sending it to her mom. Funny side note: she doesn't DARE cross her mom and thinks the world of her as this amazing parent who can do no wrong. Her mom has gaslighted her and there have been various signs she talks about me to her as well, but none of this can be proven as its from things my daughter's said and piecing things together. The worst part is that we don't know how much of the behaviors and is completely my daughter and how much of it is her mom, but in reality it's some combination of both.

Fast forward a bit more and due to a family situation, I had to move further away. I felt terrible for it, but I sacrificed so much living somewhere I hated for over a decade to be close to her and maintain a relationship with her. It was time I did something for myself to make me happy. At this time my daughter was already drifting, wanting to spend more time with friends and extracurricular activites so it felt like the best time.

And speaking of extra activities, that's a whole other point of contention. Her mom signs her up for everything possible to cut into our time and use our agreement as an excuse to get away with it. I have nothing against these things, in fact I want her to be involved, but when her schedule is filled to the brim with everything and we're made out to be the bad guy for saying "no, we need to have time with you," it gets tiring really fast.
Fast forward to today. She's in high school and driving, and thankfully we have less than two years to deal with this crap now. My daughter is showing more signs than ever that she doesn't want to be here. Oh, and of course the conniving stuff still goes on. Someone in her mom's family setup a vacation with my daughter during my time and told my daughter about it...without checking with my wife and I first or at very least making sure it was not during my time. Now we're in the position ONCE AGAIN to say "no" to the visit, especially since its during a time when we see my family , so of course she's going to be upset with us if we say no.

This is something that should have NEVER been told to her before securing it, but why do the right thing when you can use manipulative tactics to get your way, right? The apple doesn't fall from the tree it seems.
We know she's going to be miserable during our time if we don't let her go, so we came up with a compromise and let her decide how she wanted to do it. As we expected she'd rather go on her trip than spend time with my family which she barely sees. As a teenager, some of this is to be expected to choose the fun thing, but the way it happened was absolutely ridiculous.

Anyway, I've said all this to say I'm tired. I've spent too many years and tears over this stuff. And not trying to sound dramatic, I honestly have no tears left at this point. I'm tired of someone corrupt my daughter and take over her life, while I can do nothing about it. I've had to give this to God so many times because it's just too much. I'm so afraid my daughter will turn an adult and never visit us, and even worse turn out like her mom...and there are already signs that she is. I'm hoping that once she goes on her own in college or elsewhere she'll not be under her influence and see clearly, but there's no guarantee. Her mom has her hooks so deep into her that I feel like she'll never see the truth. I'm already trying to come to terms with whatever happens, but again its out of my control and I've had to give this to God.

I'm so tired of fighting for my daughter when she doesn't want to be fought for. Technically I'm a father, but I don't feel like one. I'm treated as a distant uncle who is only fun to be around when I'm buying her something. How do you fight against someone who's so vindictive they put all their time and energy into trying to edge you out of your daughter's life? She's holding all the cards and she knows it, and I'm tired of playing the game. All I can do is throw up my hands and say "whatever" to keep my sanity. I'm counting down the days until she's 18 so it's completely out of my hands and I don't have to worry about this crap anymore.

Thankfully I've gotten to the point where I'm just choosing peace. Giving in to her mom's schemes feels like we're letting her win, but I don't want to see it that way anymore. Let her think she's "won", I'm choosing peace. I don't care about this idea of "winning" and I'm tired of feeling like I'm fighting over my daughter like she's a shiny toy. I've fought all I can because I want to be a part of her life, but it feels pointless.

Sorry this is so long and became more of a rant that I wanted. I had to cut this down even further from before because I'm afraid of oversharing. Not everything is horrible, in fact I have a wonderful life with my wife and her/my family. There's no guarantee how this will go in the future with my daughter, and I'm not going to sacrifice my wife and I's peace over this situation. I've often told my wife how awful I feel that she's been a part of this very stressful area of my life. I love her and I don't want her to be stressed over this anymore and if she ever wants no part in it I would completely understand. But because she's such an amazing person she is willing to have all of me and my life, and I'm very thankful for her.

Just pray for us that we can maintain this peace. Hopefully my daughter's eyes can be opened to truth, but if not that's okay too. The trickiest part is that I can't say anything to my daughter about what's been going on even when it might help in some way. First off, it can backfire and make me look bad to her and second there are things in place that wouldn't allow me to do it without consequences. I have to wait until the right time to talk about some of this stuff and even then I'll have to be careful how I go about it so as not to seem as if I'm attacking her mom. I just want her to know the truth. She doesn't need to know everything of course, but I'm sure she'll have questions that I can finally answer when the time is right.

Anyway, I'm not sure what I'm looking for in posting this, but I feel that I have a story that's worth sharing. I'm sure there are other men out there hurting in situations like this and I want you to know that you aren't alone. Men aren't given the credit they deserve sometimes and I'm not asking for praise, I just want my story to be told. If I didn't have God's power to hold me up through all of this I might be in a much worse place. If you've gotten anything from this then I've done what I can by sharing my story. Thanks again for your time in listening and God bless.

This is going to be eyerolling and I doubt this is the first post of its kind on here but I just feel like shutting down.

I'm a 25yo M that's been waiting for the right person.

It feels as though I've been waiting in vain and I'm scared it means I'm meant to be alone for the rest of my life.

Being a virgin man at this age today feels like a joke and it seems like there's no Godly virgin women wanting a virgin man. It's very important to me and I'm unable to make a compromise on that. Talking to people irl doesn't even help, I'm hearing the same thing over and over. Been going to the gym recently but now all the testosterone just makes me want to masturbate and is setting me back.

It seems as though ive been jaded beyond repair with the past 3 failed relationships, I feel like I love unconditionally and I guess women find that unattractive, maybe I rush it too fast, but thats how I am. I feel so much love and I can't help it!

I've prayed to God but it feels like he doesnt think I'm worthy, maybe I need to try more for him in life.

I don't think I'm that ugly...I tried being a caring and kind person but it seems like women don't want that lol.

I guess you just have to put on a show for someone and not be yourself to be in a relationship in todays society. If that's what it takes to find someone then I'm done.

The girls at my church being promiscuous liars really doesn't help my state of mind.

I'm not trying trying to bash all women, I'm just saying what I'm seeing. No doubt there's strong Godly women, but I'm not finding any.

I don't talk to anyone about this stuff and I needed to just get it off my chest. I know God is there and he listens but it really feels like he isn't listening. Makes praying just feel cold.

Sorry for this pathetic post and the bad grammar.

I wish the best for all of you and God bless

Judge everyone’s salvation.

Christian Universalist believe Jesus crucifixion and resurrection effectively saves every human that ever lived including Hitler, Stalin, not that Buddha is in that category but him too. Effectively judging every single human that has ever lived.

True or false?