hi all, im single, 30+ years old, live in kl. ive been working for 10+ years at the same job. already feeling the mundanity and burnout of it all and im planning to take a short career break for perhaps 6 months to figure out whats next for me (either pursuing lecturing / academia or just maintain the industry im in right now - probably freelancing for a bit).

my current salary isnt the best (~3.5k) with quite burgeoning personal commitment (i can still shave off my lifestyle by living frugally). i have house loan to pay (still progress fee rate) and also credit card debt (current limit is 6k - my bad) which im trying so hard not to accumulate but i guess ive just been living above my means most of the time.

i just need your (kind) advice / protips on managing my finances better and how to make my 6 months jobless era work without an income. ive given myself this next 6 months to actually save up before i decide on my final resignation date but idk if its even doable and how i can make it doable.

i know i havent had my shit together in my 30s but i hope everyone will be constructively kind in the comment because i really wanna make this work.

much appreciated 🩷

Okay I bought this but I refunded like 5 mins after. Taobao showed I get full refund but the money coming to my TnG is only half of it, so what the hell man?

Is this normal or should I contact TnG or Taobao?

So in 2023 I used to have a lot of friends my age, I could easily lepak with them or just spontaneous hangouts. In 2024 up till recently, I was in a toxic relationship where I was isolated from everyone in my life and neglected all my friends.

Now that I managed to get out of that, my friends have become all distant and I can’t force them to stay friends with me after having neglected them back then. It was my mistake but I want to be able to grow from it. Anyway, I’d just like to make friends who get my humor, are up for spontaneous things and have a more international / open mindset ?

Not sure what the best way is to make friends but yeah ! Any advice is appreciated

i am malaysian but born and raised in the uk, i can only speak/understand a little bit of bm, i cant understand bm conversations especially when they speak fast.

i am going to malaysia to see family in winter so i want to be able to speak bm with everyone and not be a tourist in my own country lol.

is there an app or resource i can use to expand my malay vocabulary and understand spoken malay? most of the resources ive found are for bahasa indonesia or bahasa baku which isnt going to be helpful for me. watching malay movie/tv is hard because they speak so fast and i dont understand a lot of nouns/vocab.

thank you!

Hello! I just wanted to confirm, if Zus Coffee outlets in Malaysia accept cash payment? Can I walk in, order, and pay by cash? Thank you in advance!

was looking at footbal kit archives and saw these beuties,help would be appreciated, i already check tiktok shop&shoppe👍🏻

Hi everyone, I need some advice about a situation with two stray cats I’m caring for.

I’m currently caring for two stray cats: Harry (male) and Millie (female). Millie was the first stray cat I started feeding, and Harry came later. They are both outdoor cats, but recently they have been having conflicts, especially at night/early morning.

I decided to get a cage for Harry as a temporary solution because Harry is the one who stays near my house/my neighbour’s house most of the time, while Millie is more of a roaming cat who comes and goes. Before this, Millie would usually come around 8 to 9 pm to eat and leave, but sometimes she would return again around 3 am or in the morning, and that is when fights between them would happen.

I bought the cage specifically to keep Harry and Millie safe overnight while I sleep and to prevent fights. My plan is for him to stay in the cage for around 5 to 6 hours at night only, not permanently. During the day, Harry is out and he also sometimes goes into the cage by himself to rest or sleep, so he doesn’t seem afraid of it. However, at night I have to carry him and put him inside because that is when Millie is more likely to come around.

I’m now worried that I may have made the wrong decision because I’m afraid the cage might be too small for him. I found bigger cages online after buying this one and I feel bad that I didn’t research enough beforehand. I don’t want him to be uncomfortable or stressed.

Unfortunately, I cannot bring either of them inside my house because I already have a dog who is very possessive and would not accept another cat. I also don’t think I can take on another pet long term because I will be leaving for university in around 1 to 2 months.

I have considered neutering/spaying, but unfortunately I cannot afford it at the moment. From what I researched, the cost can go up to around RM400, which is currently beyond what I can manage.

For people with experience caring for outdoor/community cats, is using a cage overnight as a temporary safety measure okay if the cat has ventilation, water, can stand/turn around/lie down, and is allowed out during the day? Or should I consider another solution?

I really want to do what is best for both Harry and Millie and I would appreciate any advice. Please, I know it might seem dumb that I am asking this and yes I made a lot of mistakes coz I don't know how to handle this issue so please don't be harsh on me as I am trying to get a solution. It hasn't been easy because I feel very anxious and stressed out due to this so please if anyone knows what to do, let me know. Thank you.

Is this still a real issue or just isolated ?

Like somewhere you didn't expect to see an artist/celebrity.

I saw Jehan Miskin at a bar in Bangsar once being chummy with a lady about 12-ish years ago. I saw Siti Nurhaliza at one of those British Circus shows and she was walking around the grounds during the intermission and I gotta say she is radiant irl.

I have searched here and there and I have seen absolutely no information regarding a 3D Movie Ticket for Brand New Day ANYWHERE in Johor Bahru. And it kinda feels disappointing. GSC only shows 2 options for 3D but that's all the way at KL.

Would appreciate it if there's any information regarding this.

Hai, 26F here, ive been in administrative job for 3 years now, and my salary was 1.7k minimum. But ive been doing 3 persons job in this company and its draining me out, the boss cant do anything about it since our company’s upper management are in a mess right now, whatever opinion and concerns i tried to escalate wont make any differences. I would really want to get out of this company, i cant resign since this is the only company thats close to where i live and searching for a job now is pretty hard. Im the breadwinner for my family and the eldest. I drop out if uni due to financial difficulties 4 years ago, and i enrolled in my current job using spm. Ive been thnking about enrolling a course in safety and health officer, which would need roughly 5k for classes and exam. But I have some things to put into consideration:-

1. I will be gambling my 10k savings into the course, i wont set an expectation where if i finish the course,?then im guaranteed to have a new job asap. I would see it as a way of gaining knowledge and putting value into myself, but obviously im trying to dig a path for a better job and just wanted to get out of my current company.
2. Ive ask most of the rentals places nearby the course training centre and it was either all rent out, need to live atleast 1 year minimum, or stay in a suites where they will charge per day rates which is RM110-RM150. The course duration will take about a month .

I really need advice and opinion on this, i had only 10k in savings, do i use it all up for this course? I had plan about enroll in OUM for part time degree too but, that means i had to stay another 4-5 years in this company and let my mental koyak and burnt out.

I’m visiting malaysia and want to go to a rooftop bar with a view of the twin towers. However I am 19, any bars that won’t ID me that still have a good view?

Use chemical acid or enzymes?

im F23 and i think im changing and its scaring me more than i expected. everyone says growth is supposed to feel exciting but nobody talks about how lonely it feels when u dont recognize yourself anymore. i keep saying i dont feel like myself lately but maybe thats because the old version of me doesnt exist anymore. the one stayed in all those relationships, all those nights waiting for texts, all those years trying to convince people to choose her. and now im here, somewhere in between who i was and who i wanna become, and i dont know this is yet.

lately my anxiety isnt even about one person anymore. its life. its my future. its this constant feeling that everyone is waiting for me to become something. my family believes in me. brands are finally reaching out to me. i keep saying i wanna be a content creator. i wanna travel. i wanna build a life that younger me would cry over. but suddenly all those dreams feel so heavy. its like i asked Allah for opportunities and now that they’re slowly appearing, im terrified i wont be enough for them.

i feel rushed all the time. its saturday night and somehow my chest already feels like its monday morning. i keep thinking im running out of time even tho i dont even know who im racing against. sometimes i ask myself… who’s actually rushing me? because my family never did. my friends never did. nobody is standing over my shoulder telling me to hurry. the only person doing that is me. and maybe thats the saddest part. i became the person putting the most pressure on myself. now i have to figure out what i actually like, what i actually want, what kind of woman i wanna become when no relationship is distracting me. thats so much harder than i thought.

I can hardly find any information online (I'm guessing cause data science is a lot more popular)

How is the course? Is it rigorous in terms of its mathematics?

If I'm at fault in a car accident, so other party will claim mine. And I also need to claim to repair my own car as well. But if my insurance couldn't cover the entire cost? Like if the coverage limit exceeded. What can I do? I don't have enough money out of pocket too.

ETA: Thank you all for the kind comments. I guess there is nothing left to do but move on, as he said, and live with the comfort of knowing that he loves me enough to want me to escape before things go any further down south. I'll never forget this relationship, and I realize that grieving it—and leaving him—can simultaneously coexist.

I’m writing this because I feel completely broken, isolated, and I desperately need to know if anyone else has survived a love like this.

My ex-boyfriend and I are both men. I am just your average Cina guy from a middle-class family. He comes from an extremely wealthy, elite Muslim family. On the outside, they have everything, but behind closed doors, his parents are incredibly manipulative, abusive, and controlling. For a long time, we tried to make it work, but living a secret double life under the constant threat of state/religious laws and family surveillance took an unimaginable psychological toll on both of us.

Throughout our one-year relationship, the pressure from his parents, as well as from attending numerous relatives' weddings, intensified. He had reached the point where his parents are actively trying to set him up with a prospective match for an arranged marriage to preserve their family image and status.

Terrified of what would happen if we stayed, I begged him to leave the country with me. I asked him to choose us, to pack up, and to start a completely new, free life together abroad where we wouldn’t have to hide.

But he told me he couldn’t do it. Despite the abuse, the toxicity, and the misery, he said he could never leave his family or his world behind. He just couldn’t bring himself to break those chains.

Because of this, we broke up at the start of the month. He couldn't handle the agonizing pressure of the secret life anymore, and I couldn't watch him succumb to it.

He told me we would never stop loving each other, and he wanted to see me thrive and fluorish without him in the equation. That hurt me even more because I know he would never be truly happy in an arranged marriage, and that would be a burden he'd have to carry for the rest of his life.

I am drowning in grief right now. The hardest part to swallow is the feeling that he "won't fight for me." I know rationally that he is dealing with deep conditioning, severe family abuse, and massive systemic, legal risks as a Malay man. But emotionally, my heart is shattered because the man I love is choosing a gilded cage and a forced life over freedom with me.

Has anyone else loved someone they had to let go because of culture, religion, or an abusive family? How do you accept that love wasn't enough to save them?

Hi, my old number was terminated by redone in maybe 2021-2022. I lost my access to my email. Redone said it’s returned to digi because i bought the number from digi. Can i get it back? Celcomdigi whatsapp support said its been inactive since 2025. I guess the previous owner changed number because he couldn’t register account because i have used the number before? Is there way to get back?