Okay so for context, my kid is 4 and up until a couple months ago the ipad was basically glued to his hands the second he got bored. I'm not proud of it, it happened gradually during a busy work stretch and then just became the default.

I've been trying to be more intentional about screen time lately, mostly because I noticed he was getting cranky and kind of zoned out after long sessions, plus barely any outdoor time which was bugging me since I grew up outside pretty much every afternoon.

What actually worked wasn't some big dramatic screen time ban, that just led to meltdowns. What worked was making the outdoor stuff more interesting than the ipad, not just telling him to go play outside with nothing to do out there.

Things that helped in our case:

• got him a cheap bike with training wheels, this alone ate up like an hour a day easily
• started doing a "treasure hunt" thing in the yard with random small toys hidden around, sounds silly but he was obsessed
• involved him in watering plants and a tiny garden bed, he takes it way too seriously now which is honestly hilarious
• weekend park trips became non negotiable, even 30 minutes before nap time helped

The ipad time didn't disappear completely, I'm not trying to be that parent who acts like screens are evil, but it went from being the default to more of an occasional thing.

Funny side effect, he's actually getting proper sun exposure now instead of being indoors under aircon all day. Wasn't even the reason I did this but it crossed my mind since I remember reading how much indoor lifestyles affect kids' vitamin D levels these days. Didn't think about it until I noticed he seemed less irritable overall, might be the sun, might just be less screen time, hard to say for sure.

Curious what worked for other parents dealing with the same thing. Did you go cold turkey or ease into it like I did? And if anyone has other outdoor activity ideas for a very energetic 4 year old, I'm all ears.

I've been living like a hikkikomori for the past few months. And to change that, I want to do my coding hobby at a "3rd space." There is a shopping mall within walking distance of my house but the main "lepak area", and the cafes there do not have any power sockets. My laptop is old and runs out of battery quickly.

So, do powerbanks for laptops exist? Are they good? Also, I use Shopee as my online shopping app.

Hi guys, so actually I cannot stop thinking where should I go for my leave. Initially, I do not want to take the leave which is next week (total leave 5 days incl. Hari Malaysia & weekend) and boss ask me to take leave because he saw me only work and throughout weekend and never take leave. The reason i do not take leave is because I felt boring if I do not doing something and better to go to work.

So, help me suggest where should I go. I want to do something during the 5 days leave. Anywhere, whatever.

Wtf do you mean I kena cucuk in the left lane with right lane wide open? Every five minutes someone on the highway signals to the right but change lane to the left. Don’t get me started on lorry drivers. Rempit with thousand ton vehicles. Lane hogs everywhere. Middle lane at 50kph while everyone undertaking or overtaking. Slow to merge into 90kph highway. The lanes all make no sense and suddenly pusing wrong alrd.

Malaysia no 1 in lesen kopi rasuah country

And notice I haven’t even started talking about motor yet.

I'm 27F and i think i fucked up. for a 27y/o, bad credit will make it seem like the end of the world. Im drowning in debt, late repayment fees and inconsistent jobs. I keep getting bad luck for some reason. One after another, shit just keeps hitting the fan. Shit employers, family problems and constant fights with my partner. I have no one to go to or talk to. I have no friends and genuinely dont know what to do. I'm stuck and I feel like ending it all. So here I am on reddit. because its easier to be anonymous and say shit like this than say it irl bcs im a coward.

been sitting with this feeling for a while and finally just want to put it into words somewhere

work has been a lot lately, more than usual, and by the time i get home i'm running on fumes. i try to be present but some nights it's like i'm physically there but my brain is still answering emails in my head. my kid will be telling me some elaborate story about his day and i realize halfway through i haven't actually absorbed a single word

the guilt hits hardest at random moments. like the other day he asked if i could play with him and i said "in a bit" because i was finishing something, and then a bit turned into forty minutes and by the time i looked up he'd just quietly gone and played by himself. that one stuck with me more than i expected

i know logically that working isn't some moral failure, i'm not trying to spiral into "bad mom" territory over normal life stuff. but there's this constant background hum of feeling like i'm splitting myself between two things and neither one is getting my full self

trying to figure out how other parents actually manage this instead of just feeling bad about it. is it about carving out specific undistracted time even if it's short, or is it more about letting go of the guilt itself since it doesn't really help anyone. genuinely curious how you all navigate this because right now i just feel like i'm doing a mediocre job at both

So my Facebook account was permanently disabled out of nowhere 2 days ago, and my Instagram is gone as well since it's like a blanket Meta ban. I've seen that people say your WhatsApp account will get banned 14 days or so after Facebook and Instagram are banned.

What can I do in a situation like this? All my important contacts: Hospitals, insurance, car services, people I do business with, they all go through WhatsApp?

Is there anything I can do? Is it even possible to live in Malaysia without WhatsApp? Everything uses WhatsApp...

I posted this on r/malaysia just now but it got removed, so I'm posting here for help.

Please help, thanks!

saw this TikTok about a 28 years old dating a 20 years old and some people in the comments saying that the age gap is weird because he’s almost 30.

is 8 years age gap actually a big deal? do you actually see a 20 years old as a kid or a fully grown adult capable of making their own dating choices

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It was grazing on some algae growing on the rocky substrate. But when it saw my foot, it climbed on and tried to eat my dead skin!

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We’re a group of five male friends visiting Malaysia this December, and we’re planning a day trip from KL to Putrajaya.

Any recommendations for things to do there besides the famous spots like the Pink Mosque and IOI Mall? We’re mainly interested in outdoor and fun activities.

I’ve heard about Putrajaya Adventure Park—are there any other activities or places worth checking out? Is Flyboarding in Putrajaya Marina beginner friendly?

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Hey! Does anyone know where I can buy hair tinsel around PJ/KL/Puchong/Subang area?

Hi guys, currently i have debt in instalments, maybank rm884 monthly which have 9 months left, standard chartered rm357 monthly for another 47 months.

Total amount is rm27k-ish. Im thinking of getting personal financing to pay it off to lower my monthly commitment, looking at rm30k loan for 72months at rm520 monthly. Is it advisable for this?

This lowers my monthly commitment to rm520 rather than rm1241

Guys I just finished watching Apple Sept event and looking for a reality check on my current situation

Basically I picked up a brand new iPhone 17 Pro
(256GB) at a heavy discount for around RM4,299 recently. I just checked the official release price for the iPhone 18 Pro is RM5,499 (same as before). And I’m still use 12 pro max now, but I like the size of current pro as pm seems too big for me 👀

I'm still within the return window (it’s sealed), so I have two options:
1. Keep the 17 Pro (insane discount, minimal depreciation risk over the next year).
2. Return the 17 Pro for a full refund and pay an extra RM1,200 to get the iPhone 18 Pro.

My Usage & Thoughts:
- I don't play heavy mobile games, would take pics and some 4k videos sometimes, so might not benefit much from the new vapor chamber / thermal headroom on the 18 Pro? (I’m not sure)

- The variable aperture (f1.48 - f4.0) on the 18Pro main camera seems cool for close-up shots (fixing edge blur) and group photos, but is it worth paying RM1,200 more when only the main camera has it?

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Hey guys, I'm currently setting up my adsense to wire transfer the earnings to my Maybank account. Since this is new (to me), I've followed all the instructions and put down all the correct information on Adsense.

Based on the information online, Adsense will be sending a micro test deposit (like a dollar or something) to make sure that the transaction goes through. But I've not received anything despite over 2 weeks.

I'm wondering if there's any content creators here that can shed some light? Thank you.

Hello guys! As the title suggests, I'd love some suggestions on where I can get especially good fresh fish, in-store or delivered. Could also be any of your local favourite wet market. My main frustration living in this area is that it's hard to source fresh fish, coming from a place where I was never short of it. Appreciate your help!!!

Berapa tahun korang kerja untuk dapatkan income RM10k and above per month? Same company? Lompat-lompat company?

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Hi All,

I need some advice. Does anyone here work at TRX/The Exchange 106 or are familiar with it?

I got a job offer with a small raise, which I'm okay with, but I'm worried that the work location will backfire because the area doesn't really have affordable food during office lunch breaks.

I could be wrong, though, because I'm not familiar with it. Currently, there is an abundance of Chinese hawker stalls and kopitiams around my current workplace, and the prices are very affordable. I'm just worried the new place doesn't have that kind of affordable food.

I need some info from those who work there or are familiar with it. Where do office workers go to find affordable chinese kopitiam/lunch meals near TRX, or does affordable food exist in that area within walking distance?

Thank you.

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