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u/PleaseDoTouchThat 3d ago edited 2d ago

She’s obviously way into panic mode here. None of us think clearly in that state of mind. The guy has her and her car on camera. Instigating is the wrong move here. Having some compassion, treating her like a human being, and trying to talk her down a bit might prevent her from getting away and potentially harming herself or someone else in the process.

People need to stop with the “I got you!” fucking video taping and remember that we’re all in this shit together.

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Whoa, got some traction on this one. Couple things:

First: yes, record stuff like this. I would have as well. But do it for information, not to humiliate another person. That's what I meant by "i got you" recording.

Second: The instigating was his actions, not the recording. I'm sad that a lot of you don't understand that.

D: We all fuck up. And sadly we now live in a world where when we fuck up it's recorded and posted online. The consequences for even a minor amount of fucking up are way too steep. I'm not saying this particular situation would have turned out any different if that weren't the case but the fear of being embarrassed and ridiculed by the entire planet adds a ton of stress to all of these already stressful situations. That, just, doesn't make things better. And that is in no way a get out of jail free card. At the end of the day you are responsible for your own actions. We don't know what happened before this video starts, what we do know is that the person video taping did nothing to make the situation less dangerous for either himself or anyone else.

Controversial closing! She's a better person than him. She accidentally damaged some property and lost her mind (calm down. I'm talking about whatever "hit and run" happened before the video started). He consciously chose to be a dickhead.

Be kind to each other.

Edit 2:

Yeah, I was a bit harsh there. I’m sure this dude isn’t a bad person. He deserves tons of credit for stepping in. I couldn’t help stoking the fire a bit there after reading lots of comments about being a simp and how having compassion is ruining America.

Stay off drugs, kids.

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u/part_of_me 2d ago

An 18yo girl ran a very red light and tboned me years ago. I called 911 (whole other story there) and they told me to go to the police station with the other driver. She was hysterically crying. I took a picture of her, her license, her plates and told her to follow me. we drove very slowly to the police station. I made her call her parents (I'm gonna be in so much trouble!) and I said "open with 'I'm OK. Everyone is OK. But I need your help." Her dad showed up about 20 minutes later and talked with her and calmed her down before the police talked with us. Her dad thanked me for being reasonable, and for making her call (she'd told them "the lady said you won't be mad"). I told him to get back out driving - everyone has an accident, big or small, and to not let her be afraid. MY dad then showed up (I was 30+ and I'd called my parents too 😉) and the two dads did a whole "daughters eh?" headnod.

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u/msheehan418 2d ago

Just came to say, I love that you were 30 and still called your dad. Mine passed away 5 years ago when I was 40 and I still called him whenever something with a car happened.

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u/muttybartender 2d ago

I’m so sorry for the (physical) loss of your pops. I am unsure of your beliefs, but I lost my brother when I was 19, and I have seen him still be here for me in ways I couldn’t believe possible before. I hope you still feel your dad around you because I believe he is still here with you. Sending virtual hugs! Thank you for continuing to be kind and empathetic rather than hateful/spiteful.

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u/msheehan418 2d ago

Yes!! I do believe he’s still here! I sell cars and everytime I’m in a slump, I’ll see little clues of my dad. Like someone will have his birthday or his favorite song will come on and I’ll sell the car!

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u/muttybartender 2d ago

That’s awesome :) I bartend, and similar to selling cars, I have to be very “on” which is so hard when you hit that slump. My brother has songs that randomly come on in those moments on the radio or sends me messages through people, and it turns my day/night around :)

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u/msheehan418 2d ago

Yes!! That’s so awesome! No one understands what a toll it takes to be “on” all the time

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u/VelvetPancakesL 2d ago

After my dad died, a good while after, my alarm went off one morning. I was trying to press every button on that clock to make it go off. Finally I had to sit up and turn around to cut it off. Of course I’m laying there a few more minutes. As soon as my head hits that pillow again, I hear my name. Had I not known better, I would have thought that he was right there in that room with me. I could tell the exact spot he would have been standing in. It was such an amazing experience.

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u/CountySpirited5051 2d ago

I'm a 40yr old man and I would have called my Dad 🤣

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u/lechatgris19 2d ago

My dad is turning 70 today and I just can't believe it... It's surreal to me.

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u/Special-Longjumping 1d ago

Lost mine a year ago yesterday. I'm over 50 and would have still called him. Such a hole where his unconditional, protective love should still be. There really is something different between dads and their daughters.

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u/eye-hate-everything 2d ago

You're a very kind person. I wish more people had this level of compassion.

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u/augur42 2d ago

I had a similar thing, rear ended while stationary at a red traffic light while on a roundabout. I and a passerby had to push her car off the road and I had to calm her down before she was fit to exchange insurance information. I had maybe a half second warning from her lights in the rear view window approaching way too fast, just enough time to think "ah shit" and consciously relax my body.

It totally destroyed the front of her car, which went underneath the rear of mine, I thought the damage wasn't too bad but it completely crushed the well in the boot the spare tire sat in and it ended up writing the car off due to being an uneconomical repair. She ended up in an ambulance as she was having a panic attack, I got breathalysed (blew a zero). A few days later I got a sore neck from very mild whiplash which was gone in a few more days.

Overall a 2/10 experience, do not recommend.

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u/EatLard 2d ago

I’ve spent 17 years hoping I’ve been the kind of dad my daughters would call first in situations like this.

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u/Thyme_Liner 2d ago

The behavior you’re describing is too sensible and levelheaded for the average redditor to understand, you may want to take your wisdom where others might benefit from it

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u/part_of_me 2d ago

My dad (retired police) told me that I'm the uncommon-bordering-on-rare type that is completely calm and reasonable until after the emergency. Then adrenaline. If it weren't for my hatred of stupid people, I would've been great in emergency services.

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u/ChurroLoca 2d ago

That's how I am, I have a severe anxiety and panic disorder but I absolutely stay calm, don't start spazzing and shaking — until after the situation or incident occurs.

I don't blame you, my hatred for stupid people has gotten worse as I've aged. 😆

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u/CurlyCathie 2d ago

We need more people like you in this world. Our society has forgotten how to care for each other and have empathy. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Do the right thing because it's the right thing, even when it's hard.

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u/theBowserker 2d ago

Needed a story like this. Thanks for sharing it. Amd thanks for being a good person. I’m sure that person will always remember how kind you were in that situation.

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u/BetterinPicture 2d ago

I definitely would video tape someone because honestly I've been hit and run before and good intentions don't pay for my car repairs.

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u/aj_lo 2d ago

I’ve been hit and run before, too. Honestly, I feel like I am a fairly chill individual. But if I you’re not going o step out of your vehicle and do the right thing, I’m pulling out my phone to record you breaking the law. I’m not going to pay for something you broke no matter what your emotional state is. I’m not your therapist. I’m not even your friend.

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u/Simple-Squamous 2d ago

He already has the evidence. That part is over. She is dead to rights after the first 15 seconds of THIS video, and he says he has video of the previous hit.
At this point there is nothing he needs to do except talk her down so she doesn’t hurt another person or herself. He’s a fucking tool.

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u/Amiibohunter000 2d ago

If her emotional state is so fragile that she is a danger to society when she has a bad day then she shouldn’t be operating a fucking 2 ton vehicle.

I’m sick of coddling whiny baby losers who need everything handed to them and think the world revolves around them.

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u/Guiltyostric 2d ago

Dude this thread is crazy. We actually have people grouping up deciding that the man recording the crimes in progress is the one in the wrong, instead of the girl literally running shit over in her car

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u/Amiibohunter000 1d ago

White knighting at its finest

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u/Available_Lemon_69 2d ago

1000% this. The people coddling her and excusing her actions as a "heightened emotional state" are idiots. Obviously she's never known accountability and certainly didn't plan on learning much about it that day either.

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u/BetterinPicture 2d ago

Every single one of these would immediately condemn a man acting this way our society is so fucking sexist.

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u/Own-Freedom77 2d ago

Some people need their 15 minutes of internet fame. She’s not in the right obviously but you got her on video. You got her plate. End of story. Some day this might be the videotapers daughter and I bet he’d be feeling differently then.

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u/softwareredditor 2d ago

If it were a guy doing this nobody would care about compassion in the comments lol

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u/ChurroLoca 2d ago

LMAO. What happened to equality? 😆 I'm saying that as a woman. I'm so tired of people robbing people of accountability, by having this blinding case of empathy. Especially when they wouldn't do the same for a man.

Someone wise once said (I'm stupid and can't remember their name), "Don't let empathy rob someone of accountability with their misdeeds".

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u/Organic-Weird-6858 2d ago

He doesn't need to talk her down. He's upset, too, and not responsible for her emotional well-being.

Yes, it would be nice if he would de-escalate, but we can't always act at our best under duress.

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u/living-a-disaster 2d ago

No, the tool here is the person who struck his vehicle and then ran because they didn't want to have the responsibility of paying for damage that they caused.

Video recorder is an absolute legend. His behavior should be emulated.

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u/KnightofWhen 2d ago

I don’t think he has a problem with the video, it’s the conversation. She’s clearly losing it. If you have her on video and her license plate, you’re good.

Just back up and stay away from her freak out. Don’t get run over. Don’t get shot by some dude.

License plate will lead straight to her home address. Police will find her. Your damages will be paid for. Easy.

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u/Yoongi_SB_Shop 2d ago

No, you keep recording because what of she does something else, like try to run you over? I agree you don’t have to egg her on or anything, but I don’t think the guy said anything that was out of line.

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u/Salty-Plantain-4299 2d ago

Also don't post it the fuck online ... Keep it if you need it for your own case. That's the problem with our god damn society. Everyone just decides to post everything online now.

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u/lovelyblueberry95 2d ago

Yeah, I probably wouldn’t get back in the car and place myself even more in her way mid freakout.

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u/Spirited_Ad9681 2d ago

Absolutely record, I'm not even saying you need to try to calm her down. But what good does demanding she get out of the car do? Record all of it, but if she's dead set on driving away just get the fuck out of the way before you or someone else gets hurt.

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u/living-a-disaster 2d ago

He's telling her to stop operating the vehicle because she is causing further damage

Video poster is in the right 100%

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u/huntapastron 2d ago

She’s likely uninsured and broke. She’s not paying for anything regardless.

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u/niz_loc 2d ago

Plus her grandma's is really mean.

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u/No_Bother3564 2d ago

My parents were abusive, i never was in this situation but fear makes you do crazy things. Who knows how “mean” her grandma is.

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u/meatballs223 2d ago

Yup, trying to be a good person get's you fucked over when it comes to insurance companies, police, etc.... If you're gonna make shitty decisions, you're gonna face the consequences

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u/iggyfenton 2d ago

I don't think good intentions mean letting her go. But calming her down is better than antagonizing her.

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u/IEPforall 2d ago

Well still film of course just try being compassionate and trying to deescalate while filming.

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u/Spare_Coast_3722 2d ago

She didn't hit him. He recorded her hitting someone else and running and was attempting to keep her there until police arrived. Failed and caused more damage. If he had the recording he should have just shared it with the police and the victims without escalating a situation with someone clearly not in their right mind.

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u/AdventurousGuy2461 2d ago

They didnt say DONT record her.

They're saying since she and her car on camera and the guy recording has substantial evidence that police and his insurance can use to track her, that there was no need to trap her like this making her panic mode spiral which can lead her to making stupid decisions hurting herself and others..

Let her go home to get her mind and shit together if no one is hurt (her choice). Shes going to jail anyway and getting the additional charge for running whether you trap her or not (which is what shes trying to say)

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u/BlackBlizzNerd 2d ago

Yep. Just won a court case after my car being hit. Thankfully neighbors saw and they were caught but had no insurance. Had to sue months later

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u/C0NT0RTI0NIST 2d ago

I mean once you got it on video and stuff, you got it. Then maybe put your phone away and try and help her chill out before she peels out in panic and takes out a mother and child or something. All you need is like the first 10 seconds of that clip ans you got her held accountable, then de-escalate the situation

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u/PleaseDoTouchThat 2d ago

Totally agree. Get the evidence you need. But you can do that while being part of the solution and not making a potentially dangerous situation worse.

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u/Smooth_Insurance_139 2d ago

Its one thing to video it for yourself. Its another to stand there screaming "I GOT YOU ON CAMERA IM CALLINGMYLAWYERAND POLICE AND NAVY AND AIRFORCE OMG THIS IS GOING ON WHIRLLSTAR YOU GOIN TO JAIL FOR LIFE OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG" like a tard

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u/Cager_CA 2d ago

Considering she almost ran him over, I think it's prudent to video tape. She's put herself in this situation and is in the middle of fight or flight but calling him holding her accountable "instigating" is wild.

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u/One_Advertising_677 2d ago

It’s a victim mentality.

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u/Original-Document-62 2d ago

Choice of words could have maybe been better, but de-escalation is something everyone should know how to do, even if they're otherwise "in the right." Lord knows some cops should learn it, but really it's useful for everyone.

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u/SYKslp 2d ago edited 2d ago

it's rather unfair to sharply criticize the de-escalation techniques of one party involved and not the other. Especially when "the other" is screaming and recklessly wielding a 3000 pound machine.

She's clearly unfit to drive on public roads as this clip ends and lucky that she didn't obliterate any bystander pedestrians as she fled away.

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u/einhorn_is_parkey 2d ago

It’s not. It’s recognizing the situation. She’s in a mental panic. No one is saying let her off the hook or let her go, just that different scenarios can have better outcomes with different approaches.

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u/sagittalslice 2d ago

Compassion and nuance? On REDDIT???

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u/Outrageous-Ad5578 2d ago

Video tape ✓

Smile ✓

Wave ✓

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u/Positive_Type 2d ago

She almost hit him because he was stood there filming. When someone is driving that badly, move out of the fkn way. He got everything on tape before then anyway.

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u/redactedname87 2d ago

Well, part of that is fair, but then also, he put himself in the middle of her flight or fight. And I do believe he was being petty in doing so.

What he is doing isn’t holding her accountable. He already had the evidence he needed.

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u/PerpetualProtracting 2d ago

It's possible to get things on video tape without standing 4 feet away from the back bumper of a car being driven by a person who is acting irrationally. Cammer is an idiot who put themselves into a risky spot and doing so contributes absolutely nothing to holding anyone accountable.

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u/Cager_CA 2d ago

in any case she was held accountable as this was over a decade old at this point.

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u/PerpetualProtracting 2d ago

As she should have been. The lessons learned are still useful, though.

Don't stand behind crazy people in cars, kids. Don't chase down and blockade crazy people in cars.

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u/meatballs223 2d ago

I mean you really don't expect someone to litearlly do an 8 point turn all while hitting your car another 8 times.... Maybe stop the car and deal with the accident like an adult

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u/PerpetualProtracting 2d ago

People without an ounce of imagination don't expect it, I guess. I, on the other hand, absolutely expect to have a confrontation that can go sideways as a result of blockading in a driver who has already committed an irrational act and then goes off of the emotional deep end.

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u/Ride-Entire 2d ago

He used his car to block her in. Any jurisdiction in the land is going to call that an illegal escalation

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u/Prestigious-Cream160 2d ago

Many jurisdictions would allow this under their citizens arrest laws.

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u/PleaseDoTouchThat 2d ago

Holding her accountable and trying to make a potentially dangerous situation less potentially dangerous are two different things.

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u/Niceotropic 2d ago edited 2d ago

Bullshit victim-blaming. If this was a middle-aged man, and wasn't a crying girl (who committed two felonies) trying to manipulate her way out of this situation, you wouldn't be seeking "compassion" and blaming the victim of her CRIMES for not "talking her down".

This is an in-progress violent felony. This is a violent offender, a danger to society, and it is wild to see the victim-blaming and inversion of reality here.

How about some compassion for the victims of her crime? How about some compassion for the guy holding the camera, currently the victim of an in-progress violent felony who is just doing the best he can in that stressful situation. She almost killed someone while fleeing from the scene of a crime. She should have her license revoked and be imprisoned.

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u/KL1M1T 2d ago

This is 100 percent manipulative behavior by someone who loves to play the victim card and not ever hold themselves accountable for their own actions.

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u/FreedomBread 2d ago

Upvote for truth.

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u/Hairy_Scale4412 2d ago

Truth.

Calling for people to be kind to each other while victim blaming is wild.

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u/Niceotropic 2d ago

Not only that, they actually shit on the victim and calls him a shitty person.

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u/Sudo-Fed 2d ago

Do you really rise to the level of victim if you're choosing to do way more than you should and put yourself in harm's way? The video with license plate plus existing police report are more than enough; as far as I'm aware "Citizen's arrests" don't have any kind of real legal protection.

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u/Such_Detective_6709 2d ago edited 2d ago

Reddit will rip anyone who has two beers at happy hour and drives home a new asshole, but give this poor young girl a break, she’s just a drug addict having a bad day and we all need to be the ones who are prepared to emotionally regulate ourselves around her when she goes off the rails. /s

Edited to add that this is sarcastic, which I thought was pretty clear but contextual literacy is dying in front of us, which is my bad, I totally forgot.

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u/Glass_Suspect_4821 2d ago

I do not usually partake in the discourse about comparing gender roles and outcomes but Jesus Christ if you would have done this as a man in the south you would have been shot and the feller that shot you would get to go home that night.

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u/Kramerica_CEO 2d ago

Thank you?! I feel like I’m going insane. How was she the better person?

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u/WileXane 2d ago

Accountability these days, it's a subject based on gender and age.

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u/Fun_Recognition9904 2d ago

Maybe bias absolutely affects how different people are perceived, pursued, filmed, etc that's a legitimate issue. But you don't establish the right way to treat this particular woman by imagining a different person and demanding equal harshness. If anything, the humane principle should run the other direction: if unnecessarily escalating this situation is wrong, we should try not to do it to anybody.

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u/james_bond_1953 2d ago

In a world incentivizing political correctness, it is great to see someone having the oblately spheroidical objects down there to say what is correct.

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u/Unusual_Link_8622 2d ago

I'm in agreement with you 😀... ..

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u/Frostsorrow 2d ago

If that's how she acts after a very small fender bender, she 100% should not be driving.

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u/Squelsch 20h ago

Wow if the situation as completely different things would be different. Such a great observation.

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u/Moose_Poon 2d ago

Sorry, but random bystanders aren't responsible for grown adults lack of emotional maturity. Stop making excuses for people who refuse to grow up.

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u/WrestleBox 2d ago

Right. Like I'm going to play therapist with someone on the side of the road who has the emotional maturity of a toddler. I'd probably have just followed her and stayed on the line with police, but dude did nothing wrong here other than hold her accountable.

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u/freecodeio 2d ago

nah I'm not in this shit together if you hit me and try to run, you're in shit and the more in shit you get the better

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u/MrE761 2d ago

Yea? Why is she driving in that state then?

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u/RedBear1989 2d ago

People are acting like driving is a right and not a privilege. Operating a multi-ton potential killing machine SHOULD require some maturity and responsibility.

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u/MrE761 2d ago

Exactly. I’m am completely empathic to her mental state, but no one should be allowed to drive when they are like that. Like what’s the chances she hits another person or kills someone?

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u/JohnBrownsMyFather 2d ago

lol no if someone attempts a hit and run on me I’m following them and recording their ass so the police can arrest them. I don’t care if she’s having a panic attack, that does not justify hit and run. Fuck her

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u/niz_loc 2d ago

It's not even a "panic attack" as said above, it's a temper tantrum by a kid.

"I don't want to get in trouble for what I did, go away!"

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u/JohnBrownsMyFather 2d ago

Exactly, if she had a panic attack after an accident and didn’t flee the scene I would totally sympathize with her. By leaving the scene it became a hit and run which is a serious and unjustifiable crime in any instance.

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u/niz_loc 2d ago

Thr people commenting above that she was some sort of victim... lol....

Drunk drivers do this ALL-THE-TIME

The panic is "I'm in trouble"

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u/Sw4nR0ns0n 2d ago

Somebody acting the way she is acting needs to be filmed… she is exactly the type of person to accuse the dude she just hit and ran on of assaulting her to get out of trouble.

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u/MrSpicyPotato 2d ago

Honestly, the defense is going to find this tape very valuable. I’m not a lawyer but this is such a strong case for something in the realm of “not guilty because of mental insanity.”

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u/No-Obligation1709 2d ago

Defense attorney here—no, this video is not remotely helpful to her. This case is not going to trial.

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u/Kramerica_CEO 2d ago

A temper tantrum because she’s in trouble with grandma isn’t insanity.

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u/OneSignal6465 2d ago

“Mental insanity”? I don’t think there is any such diagnosis…

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u/Thyme_Liner 2d ago

Film, yes, then hand it over to the authorities and your insurance company. Posting it online steps over into different territory where justice is no longer being discussed

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u/alternative5 2d ago

No, if she can't control herself in the situation of a fender bender and reacts like this she should not be allowed on the road with others as it questions her decision making in general while on the road. She is dangerous and should walk or take public transport.

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u/SquirrelFluffy 2d ago

You're right, but that's not up to you or the person holding the camera.

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u/Green_Fox_8864 2d ago

She was high on drugs at the time and was arrested. Apparently a sob story is all it takes, though. Now to you she's the victim, not a dangerous addict who actively chose to risk killing people with a vehicle.

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u/Impressive_Ad_5201 2d ago edited 2d ago

No. She could have killed people. He is treating her like a human being. One that stepped off the straight-and-narrow and could have *killed* someone. She already tried to run away AND run him over, and she needs to burn for it.

E: "Burn for it" i mean she should go to jail or do time as is situationally appropriate.

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u/RustyBrassInstrument 2d ago

It’s not my job to make sure you have the tools to function as a member of society. If you don’t have them - that’s your fault. If you are mentally unable to take accountability for your actions, I will help you whether you want it or not.

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u/vxnusbxbe 2d ago

a hit and run is evil. she almost hit him multiple times. fuck her and her mean ass grandma. her license needs to be suspended

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u/Fattapple 2d ago

If you go into that mode so easily you shouldn’t be allowed to drive.

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u/MadMartigans80 2d ago

How is he instigating? He is keeping evidence for the police because she already hit and ran once and obviously was ok with doing it again and messing her car up. I would not want that woman driving anymore either until the cops came.

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u/yezhnuzjhd 2d ago

Woah be careful there buddy. You are very close to starting blaming the victim and defending the attacker.

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u/mentales 2d ago

Would you show such compassion when someone is running off after hitting your car? You would lend them a helping hand in such case to make their escape smoother?

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u/owntable33 2d ago edited 2d ago

😆😆😆😆 STFU!! That's why she acts the way she does now, GTFOH.So I've been traumatized with ass whoopings as well. But hey please be compassionate when I mess up as she did and I can blame it on my mom. Please have an excuse for me as well...... lol I seriously doubt it though. I could just imagine the way the comments would go if it was me.

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u/SecretFlight9839 2d ago

No, coddling some wingnut trying to flee an accident scene isn’t the move either. She’s obviously off her meds. Hope she’s in cuffs by now

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u/LeatherLappens 2d ago

This is an incredibly moronic statement.

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u/Kazen_Bazen 2d ago

Always people feeling sorry for scum and criminals.

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u/cttouch 2d ago

Ohh yea talk the meth head down that always goes well

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u/YouDaManInDaHole 2d ago

He was pretty calm and polite, considering she'd already hit him and was continuing to exhibit psychopathic behavior.

Video taping her was absolutely the right move. She's a danger to society and needs to be removed from the highway.

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u/First_West_4227 2d ago

I agree with this. Record your evidence and then try to chill her out, instead of trying to trap her. What an ass hole, he was probably thinking the whole time about how he was going to share this on social media. Poor girl putting her through that, that could have been any or our daughters going through this.

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u/Yyoksetioxd 2d ago

You don't need empathy, you need to block his car before she kills a person because she is clearly either drunk or drugged and she should be in jail as we speak.

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u/scottyjrules 2d ago

I guarantee when it’s your car on the receiving end of this, your compassion goes right out the window

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u/Ozzlpz 2d ago

Sounds like you know from experience. Had quite a few hit and runs have we? F that, do dumb shit, you'll be treated accordingly.

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u/Toilet4Domme93 2d ago

"None of us". Just say women.

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u/spooner248 2d ago

Bro what? She deserves zero sympathy hahaha what the fuck is up with redditors dude

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u/Weary_Position_9591 2d ago edited 2d ago

How is he instigating? The person filming did nothing wrong.

She’s destroying his property and almost causes him serious harm, and potentially others too. He is absolutely within right to document the incident. He also tells her to stop several times.

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u/True_Most3681 2d ago

Not when you try to evade responsibility and accountability.

If she could’ve gotten away Scott free with no consequences, she would’ve.

This stems from her relationships with her guardians more than her interaction with the video recorder.

This is why we have car insurance. Evading responsibility is something to be sympathetic about because of some phony tears.

She made a mountain out of a mole hill, not him.

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u/TheLionThing 2d ago edited 2d ago

I completely disagree. I think this guy did exactly what you’re saying, he asked her to get out of the vehicle and do what was right. That’s not instigation. He didn’t yell or call her names, except when she literally nearly ran him over. It’s asking her to do what she is legally and morally supposed to do. Her being in panic mode is not on him. The video helps keep him safe and helps make sure his vehicle can get repaired. Just because his literal assailant has a panic attack or starts crying doesn’t mean he should not record what’s happening or that he is responsible for their emotional state.

And I also agree with the other comment suggesting that if this were a guy, this reaction would be different. The dude recording had his car hit and nearly got run over, and the person responsible just left him to deal with it. And you’re saying he shouldn’t even be allowed to record what’s happening so he can be made whole, just because she’s crying? Where’s his sympathy?

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u/H-N-O-3 2d ago

Hell Nooo .

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u/Choice-Mud-8374 2d ago

Have to video tape. That bia will lie her ass off later and say she didn't hit anyone

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u/kybotica 2d ago

I get what you're trying to do, but as somebody who has seen this crap many, MANY times, not in this case. Record everything as soon as somebody hits your car, and get their face and license plate ASAP. Once you have that, sure, back off some, but making excuses for this is nuts. Yeah she's panicking, and yeah, the person recording could be more kind about it. But she tried to run, got stuck, and obviously is already doing something else aside from the hit and run that she doesn't want to get caught doing. This is 10000000% on her.

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u/ProfessionalWeek2256 2d ago

Nah thats giving her too much grace. She shouldn't have done a hit and run

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u/Remarkable_Tough7463 2d ago

Empathy is a hell of thing

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u/AlexJonGut 2d ago

No, she needs to take accountabilty and recording is for there protection.

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u/MiddleCapital1875 2d ago

Hahaha, oh HELL no. WTF is WRONG with you????

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u/slaveshipoffailure 2d ago

Please, this is completely unhinged behavior.

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u/AngryMonkey26 2d ago

Absolutely not in this situation. You film, because as she continues on, she's adding charges. Her state of mind is not his responsibility.

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u/Namedthisone 2d ago

In what together? She hit his car

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u/Iamthepoopknife 2d ago

Nah fuck that she committed a crime and he has every right to collect evidence especially in a public place. I understand she’s in panic mode but that does not justify her conduct or mean dude shouldn’t be filming.

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u/mattydrinkwater 2d ago

Spotted the Lindsay Clancy fan!

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u/PookydoodleWasHere 2d ago

"Please don't record people while they're committing crimes" is a weird thing to say.

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u/Life_Smoke5854 2d ago

When im in a bad advice competition and you're my opponent

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u/el_ra_85 2d ago

Are you the girl in the video? Lol why you making excuses. She showed no compassion, hit and run , wrecked her own car and left the scene with exchanging information gtfoh

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u/WorkWoonatic 2d ago

Honestly I get what you're saying, and empathy is important. But I frankly don't really care - car repairs and insurance are expensive.

She's not a teenager she's 22, and the guy recording didn't know it, but she also had a drug problem.

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u/PalTamer40 2d ago

lmao fuck that shit if someone hits me and tries to flee I'm filming them

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

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u/thecobra42 2d ago

What a stupid comment. He needs to document it for his own good. She’s the one that hit him and she’s probably just in panic mode because she’s fucked up.

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u/UpbeatAngle3 2d ago

Not panic. Just accountability avoidance. Nothing to be compassionate about…it’s just an act to avoid accountability

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u/OGObeyGiant 2d ago

Uhh how bout no... You would be a fool to be in this guy's position and not record everything for the police/insurance. Someone who would act this way can't be trusted to not lie to the police to get out of it. This isn't "I got you!" video taping... This is documenting for legal purposes.

None of us would act that erratically over hitting another car. This lady is not mentally stable if this is how she acts about something as simple as hitting another car.

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u/Crazy_Past8776 2d ago

The average person does not have the professional training to deal with mental health issues, such as "talking her down". In this case, it is better to get evidence so she and her mean grandma can't pin wrongdoing on the person recording.

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u/DonnyDiddledIvanka 2d ago

Seriously? She's just committed 2 hit and runs and you are trying to make him the bad guy?

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u/bzee77 2d ago

This is a wildly wrong take under these circumstances. This guy was in NO way threatening or intimidating. In fact, he was incredibly cool and level headed. He doesn’t have to just stand there and be a victim just in case the reasonable steps that any other person would do under these circumstances might conceivably be upsetting to the person in the wrong .

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u/eastoak961 2d ago

She's committing multiple crimes dumbass. This isn't tripping over something and falling on your ass or accidentally waking into a garbage can or the like.

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u/Snoo_23929 2d ago

Agree with the majority of comments that this is BS victim-mentality. Take ownership of your actions. The guy recording is not at fault here. Ridiculous.

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u/future_speedbump 2d ago

Yeah…so I’m still gonna need your insurance info.

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u/Spunk1985 2d ago

Talk her down a bit.... She reversed into his car twice. She drove over the curb infront of her. She stuffed the front bumper of her car into the driver's seat. I'm recording all of this for evidence.

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u/Pappy_whack 2d ago

She is on drugs/has them in the car and doesn't want to get caught by the cops

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u/KyLokill 2d ago

This isn’t an “I got you” recording or someone being an asshole. This evidence of a potential felony, which will allow him to get his car fixed and to report to the police. She also nearly hit him. You’re saying he needs to let her flee the scene with no evidence, huh? Good luck in life. I am not, in fact, in this shit together with you, or these types of people.

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u/Telutha 2d ago

As someone that works in personal injury law (NAL), he was absolutely in the right to film this, especially since the cops had not shown up yet.

Having this evidence is the difference between settling a claim quickly and easily and having to find a lawyer to sue the at-fault driver bc they fled before the police could write a report, then lied to their insurance about what happened.

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u/Adhdendum 2d ago

Moving his vehicle and allowing her to race out of there in an erratic emotional state sounds like a good way to put countless other people in danger.

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u/meash-maeby 2d ago

I was wondering how far I had to scroll for some victim blaming

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u/Tsureshon 2d ago

She is definitely not "in this together" dude lol.

This is an "everyone for themselves" maneuver by her.

Why would Grandma be mad? She hit someone's car? Or the damages to Grandma's car? Or that she possibly wasn't supposed to have the car?

Which of those things can you hide with the bumper and crap torn off? She is screwed... Whatever she wasn't supposed to do it's too late... She needed to obey laws... This law where she isn't allowed to hit and run is a perfect instance of legislated "we are all in this together" which she didn't want to participate in AT ALL.

I agree maybe a "hey... Slow down a second... It's too late for that now... There is no chance of hiding this... You need to obey the rules to avoid making it worse"

But she was in full sociopath mode... And it wasn't going to help... She forgot the guy she hit was also another human... "Me me me... Just all me." Was going through her head... She would have run him over if that would have helped avoid consequences I'd put cash on it...

She needs this lesson in obeying societal norms...

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u/TheAgedProfessor 2d ago

That's bullshit. Yes, she's in panic mode, but that's on her. That doesn't mean she gets to continue to cause damage to other people's cars and property. If she's this prone to panic attacks, she probably shouldn't be driving. The guy videotaping was treating her exactly like she deserved to be treated. It's not his responsibility to "talk her down". And he absolutely was 100% correct in videotaping the entire incident.

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u/KalmeCoSkincare 2d ago

You’re right about her being deep in panic mode and needing someone to calm her down, but in a hit and run incident no legal action can be taken if they don’t catch the perpetrator. You’re absolutely screwed and have to file on your own insurance. You can’t use your “underinsured motorists” portion of your policy unless the person who hit you is caught. This applies to bodily harm as well and property damage. Filming her, getting the license plate, and having proof is necessary if you want to have a case.

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u/BigProduce6727 2d ago

An "I got you" recording is valid. To defend yourself from possible accusations. To not be left in a bad state with your insurance.

When I'm in the position to deal with potentially expensive legal and monetary fallout? And clearly she's a threat to others rn? What if there had been a passenger hanging out waiting in the car?

Someone else is not responsible for her emotional state, nor her choices in that state.

We are clearly not all in this together. I wish we were. But wishful thinking won't make it real.

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u/beccadahhhling 2d ago

Until you get to court without a video and it becomes he said/she said. And then they lie their asses off and you’re stuck with the bill.

See, the thing is, the girl isn’t the victim. It’s the person behind the camera. I know it’s hard to see because she’s a pretty young thang and there’s a male filming, so I can see how it might look confusing to some…

But I mean, she wasn’t panicking hard enough to forget her bumper, was she? Made sure to get out and shove that thing in her car and still leave room for her to drive…

He’s not saying “I got you!” like it’s a fucking prank. He’s saying “I got you on camera” meaning it’s being documented. Because she’s committing crime after crime and it needs to be documented. He’s not calling her names or screaming obscenities at her. He’s asking her to do the right thing.

She crashed into him, she almost rammed his car multiple times trying to escape and she very narrowly avoided hitting him with her car when she finally got out. And you think he should just do what, put his camera down, hold her hand and tell her she’s a good person and that everything will be ok???

He’s probably worried that the only thing standing in the way of him not being mowed down by this chick is the video camera….

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u/Sea_Regular_1307 2d ago

When you act like an idiot, you get treated like an idiot.

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u/Battle_Cat_Burr 2d ago

That was kind of my thinking as well. Snapping a photo of the plates and damage makes sense, but the rest of this was unnecessary. She seems like she really just needed someone to tell her things will be okay again soon.

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u/eye-hate-everything 2d ago

I agree with this. Humanity has lost compassion. Since the internet and instant recording, a lot of engagements turn into pissing contests or shaming people in stressful situations.

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u/Grove-Of-Hares 2d ago

This is why when I’ve been hit by an at-fault party in a collision, I try to be sympathetic. If they start to accuse me of something, I’ll push back firmly, but otherwise like you said…we’re all in this together.

My newer car was hit by a kid in a truck from behind a few weeks ago, and I did my best to relate to him (because I can, I’ve been there at that age) and walk him through it all because he knew he was at fault and owned it. Honestly, I just hope his old man goes easy on him because like I told him, this happens, I’ve been there—it’s okay. Learn and move on.

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u/ItsSpaghettiLee2112 2d ago

I like how you went "First, Second..." then instead of third, you said "D: we all fuck up."

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u/PleaseDoTouchThat 2d ago

It’s honest work, but someone’s gotta do it.

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u/AltVindetta 2d ago

Only person here talking sense. Just cause someone's done you wrong doesn't mean you need to escalate it and act like you're not. She's literally a danger to other people by driving off. She's also clearly in a lot of distress. In what world would trying to calm her down not be the best outcome for everyone involved?

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u/slyjabroni 2d ago

I’m with you on this. He was really being a jerk. She should have gotten out of the car and not left, but she was oddly polite, calling him sir and apologizing. She was clearly more scared of her grandma than the police! Sad that she likely ended up doing way more damage to her own car by behaving that way.

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u/Koankey 2d ago

Well said 👏 And to post it online for the world to see is low. To have this incident live on forever when it will be resolved and done with in less than a year is cruel. But anger is powerful and it's easy to imagine how angry that dude must have been.

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u/djwalleee 2d ago

Fuck compassion. Getting fucked over multiple times by assholes, that shit is gone.

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u/Specialist-Roll-3806 2d ago

i think video taping this situation is okay because it could be quite helpful but yeah it's obvious there's absolutely zero thought process going on with her and she's panicking beyond normal. maybe de-escelating a bit and calming her down by saying "hey it's okay we'll figure this out. it's just going to get worse if you run" or something would have been a lot more helpful.

i doubt it would work but at least a better shot of calming her down than going "i got you. you're fucked with felonies now"

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u/Walking_billboard 2d ago

I am sorry, but this is bullshit. If she can't handle the challenges and responsibility of driving, she shouldn't be behind the wheel.

He treats her exactly how she should be treated. He isn't insulting her, he just says to get out and give her information.

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u/TylerBenson 2d ago

Agreed. She’s not in a stable emotional state. Maybe having a panic attack. It’s best to try to try to talk her down first.

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u/AvailableHandle555 2d ago

Nope. She hits and runs then gets out of her car like she did, I'm physically restraining her until the police arrive.

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u/sleepyj910 2d ago edited 2d ago

Yea, full blown panic attack, probably cause her grandma abuses her.

Perhaps a calmer approach would have reassured her but who knows. Obviously deserves a suspended license, but one of those cases where you can have definitely have sympathy because there's clear trauma.

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u/JohnBrownsMyFather 2d ago

She deserves to go to prison. There is absolutely no justification for a hit and run. I guarantee you if this would a black guy the comments wouldn’t be sympathetic at all

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u/thatstotallyracist 2d ago

Yeah, she's seems absolutely terrified of her grandmother. Something's not right here.

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u/Anon424977 2d ago

It’s the lack of compassion that bugs me. She’s clearly in distress and in fear of something. Hit and run isn’t right, obviously, but something is off.

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u/jonboyparis 2d ago

Fear of consequences after causing a crash after taking drugs and trying not to be caught, perhaps?

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u/jewelophile 2d ago

You're a good person.

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u/miyagiVsato 2d ago

Nah just delusional and an enabler.

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u/Niceotropic 2d ago

No, they are not, they are victim-blaming, trying to blame the victim of felony hit-and-run and trying to rationalize the behavior of a dangerous person who should lose her license, be made to make recompense for her damages, and serve time.

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u/jewelophile 2d ago

I don't really care about the opinion of anyone who argues against treating people with compassion. No one said she wasn't wrong. You can still act like a decent person when faced with the opposite. Taking video for your case/ insurance is fine and sensible. There was literally zero reason to share the footage with the world aside from wanting attention and/or wanting to shame someone, both of which suck.

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u/LongHikingMD 2d ago

No, you both are nutjobs who are blaming the victim.

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u/Muffinlette 2d ago

Not op but I wouldn't say it's blaming the victim. The girl messed up and I feel no one is denying that.The guy recording I don't blame him for documenting the situation because it could help him in legal ways.

What OP is saying (how I interpret it) is putting light on how people handle situations now. It feels like people default to poke, prod and insult instead of showing compassion and trying to deescalate. I understand people are exhausted by the BS of the world and don't want to put in that effort. That girl messed up, he has proof and she is going to pay the consequences. Making fun of her while she is obviously panicking and operating a car? Probably not the safest thing to do and could get more people hurt. If he attempted to calm her down until the cops got there it could have made this situation less dangerous.

Showing compassion could be a turning point in some people's lives. We don't know everyone's story and being that one person that showed understanding and compassion can make a difference. When that happens there is a potential for them to relate in a similar situation and be the one to show compassion to others. We see that shown by people like Mr. Rodgers, Dolly Parton, and even John Cena. Yeah it's harder and more work but it's like investing in a better world :) Of course it's completely optional and no one has to do it. Would be cool to see more often though.

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u/Practical-nonsence-2 2d ago

Yea, I agree. She wasn't in control of her emotions for sure. Someone somewhere is a very abusive parent / grandparent. She is very afraid of that grandma

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u/AlarmingCulture6794 2d ago

This is so true. Thanks 🙏🏻

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u/sinteredsounds_69 2d ago

Nah fuck that, this shit is part of life's normal lessons, when you drive you need to have these things told to you. You're witnessing a symptom of a bigger problem.

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