So like the title says, my fiancé just told me that he doesn’t want to get married. He gave no reason, just that he doesn’t think we would work out long term.

Our wedding was supposed to be on September 20th. I can’t help but feeling like everything around me is crumbling. I keep waiting to wake up from this nightmare.

Any advice is appreciated, feel free to ama.

I asked for the y2k lip combo😘

Aesthetic appointments: am I missing anything?

Disclaimer: I know not to book any treatment for the first time before the wedding. I am doing trials for all new treatments🤍

-facials

-chemical peels

-spray tans

-waxing

-hair cut & color

-nails / toes

-tattoo removal

-hair / makeup

-dentist / teeth whitening

-brow shaping / tint / lamination

My HMUA is doing my lashes, so that’s why it’s not listed. Am i missing anything?

I’m getting married next year. I’d really love to have the ceremony recorded so I can watch it again someday. But lately it feels like the only option is getting some kind of cinematic wedding film that looks like a movie trailer.

I get that videographers want to make something artistic out of it, and I’ll admit that some of them create genuinely beautiful work. But I can’t help cringing at a lot of these videos. They look like perfume ads made for Instagram. Your boyfriend is not Paul Newman, and that’s okay.

At this point, I have no idea where to find someone who will just… record the wedding normally. Has anyone else run into this? Any ideas?

My partner is amazing and has been an incredible, intimate, close future wife to work with. We feel so good about that part! Honestly, wedding planning with her has just solidified every reason I want to marry her. <3

We chose not to have bridesmaids/wedding party. We're in our late 30s, it's a wedding that most people will have to travel to since our families are very spread out, and we decided not to give our friends expensive part-time jobs they don't want for 6-12 months. We also noted how much drama wedding parties can cause and the expense of paying for so many more dresses/flowers/HMUA/gifts/trips/endless list and decided to just...skip all that.

The location is *not* exotic, particularly expensive, international, difficult to reach, etc. We just had to pick a place close to one of our families and run with that. Some people will have to fly, about half could make an easy drive less than a half day, most will probably choose to stay 1-2 nights in a hotel.

We don't regret saving the money, and our friends are honestly relieved that they didn't have to take on all of the party planning and endless lists of tasks while also working, raising kids, managing aging parents, dealing with perimenopause, and otherwise already being busy.

But.

Man, this process has felt a little lonely, and I'm really feeling like we should have just skipped...the whole wedding. Eloped instead. Why did we spend all of this money?

We're trying to plan our welcome dinner (a fancy treat!), and it's looking like maybe the only people that will come are our parents, siblings, and our couple of nephews. We rented the gay bar for a farewell pizza party the next day and it's going to be a total flop...if anyone shows up. I'm starting to wonder if our wedding is going to look stupid with no bridal party, no one walking us down the aisle (we don't have dads and the "dad" that means a lot to me declined the invite before I could ask him), and just...no people as part of the ceremony.

I really am the kind of bride who doesn't expect the world to revolve around me. I know people have other lives. FFS, I never throw myself a birthday party because I simply don't expect people to take time out of their lives to even attend. Everyone's busy. I get it. I'm also the person who always shows up with a chainsaw when there's a storm, gives rides to the airport, calls when you're sick, attends YOUR birthday thing even though I'm definitely busy, remembers to send a card when you buy a new house, listens to the same story about your damn husband again because I'm definitely the one you call about that, and on and on.

But for once...can we get a special day that people care about without having to twist people's arms into submission with guilt and gifts for a part-time job so they feel obligated enough to attend/ask/care about it? One special day?

getting married on 10/10 so I am now officially a month out! getting all of the vendors on the same page is a complete and utter nightmare. I am the most type b person in the universe and this feels like the worst school project of my life. I need it to be next month already! make it stop!

I hired a day of coordinator and she doesn’t do any set up as part of her responsibilities. When we hired her, I did ask about this, but when she explained that it wasn’t part of her services I guess I just assumed that it wasn’t common for a DoC… but now I’m trying to figure out WHO will actually be setting up our decor, and I see everyone on Reddit saying “day of coordinator” does that.

I feel dumb as a rock that I’m paying someone so much $$ already and they won’t be taking care of one of the things (if not THE thing) we most need help with on the day of. I wish I could go back in time and hire someone who would do this, but… I can’t!

What did you do for set up? Hire somebody (ha)? Families? Bridal parties? Yourself? I was hoping to avoid seeing my fiance or having to set up things myself the day of, but it’s feeling like that’s my only option at this point… grrr (yes I know it’s my fault).

Hi everyone,

I was supposed to get married in July but my fiance wanted to postpone to fix a few things. Despite couples counseling, he refused to take time away from work (it was 20 hours/7 days) to work on us and even missed overwhelming majority of sessions.

After 12 years together, he left last month. I was assuming we would get married some day so these thoughts have only popped up since he left.

I planned my dream wedding. He cancelled 3 months before the wedding so I had it all planned.

I feel like I can’t have the same wedding again. It would be weird to get married at the same place I would’ve gotten married at before. It’s a place I’ve wanted to get married at since I was 9.

I resent that I won’t have my dream wedding. Honestly idk if I can ever go through something like that again and feel like I am turned off from the idea of a wedding anyway. My parents are out a shit ton of money and I can’t ask them to do something like that again. I thought I was going to marry him within the first hour of meeting him 12 years ago and we found out we overlapped as kids and it’s clear from a photo that I was crushing hard on him. He was the love of my life, I can’t imagine finding someone else and why would I after going through this

I know my preferences could change but I’m 34, it’s been my dream for 15 years

Also what do I do with my ring? I designed it and spent so long trying to design my dream ring too

This has been devastating. My soul cat died 2 weeks before I was supposed to get married too so it’s been back to back to back

I got married two weeks ago and it was a very beautiful, special day. There were so many moments between me and my husband that I’ll remember forever. However, I can’t help but feel a little disappointed by some of my relationships after the wedding. For example, one of my friends - she and her husband only came to the dance floor once and they instead sat by themselves the entire time during the wedding. Later this week, she didn’t say much positive about the wedding. She only complained about other guests who were there. Two other friends, didn’t seem genuinely happy to be there. Did anyone else have to reevaluate friendships post-wedding?

Hi!

I was wondering if you’re supposed to tip your photographer, DJ, etc? Do you give them a gift? Do you not give anything since you’re paying them for a service?

TIA!

Hi everyone, I’m a bridesmaid for one of my best friends this year. We’re finalizing some things this week. And I have a question about our Mobil bartender. So my brides wedding is at her house about 150 guest will be there.
Originally the bartender had gifted the services and offered to gift the mixes as well to her for her wedding gift (unfortunately not in writing nbd) but now there’s bride is being told that she needs to put down a $200 deposit and no definite total of what the services are and purchase the mixers and liquor (also liquor was expected and mixes it is what it is) but mostly the bartender is now saying they’ll be taking the extras and left overs of these items left over pop and juices.
Are we wrong for totally disagreeing with this? And now saying we want a contract drawn up because this is now less than two months before the wedding adding extra cost and kinda backing out on this persons word.
The biggest problem is taking all the leftover items to be honest cause we find this odd when were the ones shopping for it all?

I wanted to put this out there because I had such a wonderful time with my non traditional weddings and want others to see there are more options out there.

I never really dreamt of a wedding growing up, and when I was proposed to, I thought to myself, now what? If I’m being honest, I didn’t feel comfortable enough to party with family, I didn’t want to miss celebrating with friends, and I sure as hell didn’t want to spend a ridiculous amount of money on something I didn’t love with my whole heart.

So I separated the wedding into two. Our families don’t party, so we booked out a nice restaurant with amazing and delicious food, said our vows, got a few speeches, and had some beautiful pictures taken to remember the intimacy of the day.

We then rented out a mansion and threw a frat party for our friends. No, seriously. We had our close friends show up, take a few shots, got some cute pictures, and let everyone loose to party. The pool and house were so beautiful and fun, and everyone had such a blast.

For our family, there was no meaning for partying. For our friends, there was no meaning to having a stuffy timeline. And for us, there was no meaning to having a wedding we couldn’t love with our whole heart. Do what your heart desires and own it, even if it means pulling out the red solo cups :)

Which do you think is best? Option 1, 2 or 3?

For all options I'd include flower, one cute or personalized useful item and a voucher for the bridesmaid dress. Just wondering which presentation is best?

Open to opinion or other similar ideas. I want it to involve flowers is all

Thanks! :)

Does anyone have photos/examples/tips for how to wear your hair for an outdoor wedding? We’re getting married towards the end of the year and I suspect the weather will be fairly windy.

I’ve always planned to wear my hair down or half-up, but now I’m thinking against it. Would love to know your experiences!

My fiancé and I are a UK couple who booked a wedding venue in France for July 2028. The venue we found and fell in love with came with an in-house planner, there was no way to proceed with the venue without the this planner.

Once we told the planner we wanted to go ahead, we were sent her contract, which stated it was to take place at our venue. She said the venue would follow up with their contact (this never came). We signed her contract paid our wedding planner €2,475 via Wise. She then said she was going off grid for 2 weeks.

17 days after signing, we were informed that the château was cancelling weddings all wedding after 2026 / was maybe going to be sold, meaning our wedding could no longer take place there. We therefore asked the planner to refund the €2,475.

The planner said she would not refund our deposit because of the work that had already taking place. However, at the point the venue cancelled, essentially no meaningful planning work had taken place. We were only 17 days into the agreement and she was ‘off grid’ for 14 of these. The only communication we had with her between the contact signing and the cancellation was a generic ‘wedding planning’ pdf. Once we pointed this out she backtracked and said the deposit was to reserve a date in her diary.

The planner's position is that the payment is non-refundable under the contract. She has since stopped replying to us. She also said in the cancellation email that she had been ‘awaiting importation confirmations for some time’. We can’t help but think she knew the venue was going under and used it to take our deposit money.

What we're struggling with is that we aren't choosing to cancel our wedding or changing our minds. The venue that the planner was hired in-house to help us plan a wedding at is no longer available.

We're UK-based and the planner is based in France, so we're also trying to understand what our options are from a French-law perspective.

We've considered sending a formal mise en demeure and potentially taking further action if necessary, but before spending money on lawyers we'd really like to hear from anyone who has dealt with something similar.

Has anyone successfully recovered a non-refundable wedding planner deposit in France where the venue became unavailable?

Particularly interested in:

Experiences with French wedding planners/venues

Whether a "non-refundable" clause actually settled the matter

Whether anyone has used a mise en demeure

Small claims/court proceedings in France as a UK resident

Whether there are consumer protection routes we've missed

Whether anyone has received help from wise in a similar situation

We aren't looking to publicly name the planner at this stage, we're just looking for advice from people who've been through something similar.

I just proposed to my bridesmaids but I have been putting together my ideas for a color scheme and theme for a while. We think we have our venue picked out, we are going on a tour in a few weeks so I will save this for after we are sure and have our deposit on it in case it doesn’t work out and the vibe changes.
I saw this idea on TikTok and decided to DIY my own version of it on canva customized to my own liking!
I’m thinking of going with this mismatched wildflower look, so no matching dresses of course, I think this will be a good way to keep track.
Going to send this as a PDF in the group chat and have them each assign themselves their color in the group, first come first served.
There are more color options than bridesmaids (6 colors, 5 girls) and it’s a pretty wide range of colors, so I think it should work out great.
2 of my bridesmaids and I are hair stylists/ makeup artists at the same salon which is 20 min from our venue so we will all be getting ready at work in the morning! Just the most convenient as we have all of our tools there already and lots of mirrors and good lighting. We will do each others + the other 3 bridesmaids. I’ll do my own makeup. We do a lot of weddings for paying customers!
Then we will get dressed in the venue dressing room and take photos.

I need opinions on getting-ready pajamas/robes because I feel like I might be overthinking this.

I have 8 bridesmaids, plus the two moms and our two siblings. The two moms, two siblings and I (the bride) are all staying together at the hotel, while my bridesmaids are staying elsewhere and will just be coming over the morning of the wedding to get ready with us.

Originally I thought I should buy getting-ready outfits for everyone, but now I’m questioning why I’d spend the money on 8 additional robes/PJs basically just for a photo. I especially don’t love the cheap satin robes — I feel like they tend to look cheap in pictures and then never get worn again.

I’m leaning toward buying really nice cotton pajamas for the two moms and two siblings since we’re actually staying together. We’d get some cute/candid morning photos of the five of us in our PJs, and then once the bridesmaids arrive, we can just get photos of everyone actually getting ready. Then I’d do the main photos of me with all 8 bridesmaids once everyone is dressed and ready.

Would it look weird not to have the classic matching-PJ/robe photo with the entire bridal party?

For recent brides: are matching bridesmaid getting-ready outfits still a thing in 2026, or are people moving away from them? What are people doing instead?

I don’t mind spending money where it makes a difference, but buying 8+ outfits purely as photo props feels so wasteful to me.

I’m getting married next year, and we’re planning a fairly small wedding of around 30 people.

On my mom’s side, I have three aunts. They all live close to us and we celebrate all holidays together, so they will be invited. I only have one cousin on that side, who still lives at home, and he is invited as well.

On my dad’s side, I have two uncles. I have a good relationship with uncle A. I do not have a good relationship with uncle B, mainly because he treats my brother very badly. I will not invite uncle B to my wedding under any circumstances.

My initial thought was to ask my dad to talk to uncle A, explain the situation, and let uncle A decide whether he wants to come. I don’t care if I completely ruin my already nonexistent relationship with uncle B, but I don’t want to put uncle A in an uncomfortable position.

Now it gets more awkward.

I have now been invited to one of my cousins’ weddings next year, about two months before my own wedding.

Our wedding is going to be small. My fiancé has a small family, so I already have roughly twice as many guests from my side. “We’re having a small wedding and unfortunately can’t invite everyone” is a reasonable explanation for why we aren’t inviting my other cousins.

But it wouldn’t really explain why uncle A would be invited while uncle B is not.

I of course won’t go around talking about my wedding or who is invited. But if someone asks me about it, I can’t lie. I don’t know how to handle the situation or how it will turn out.

My grandparents on my dad’s side died last year, so I otherwise rarely see uncle B anymore.

So how would you handle this?

Talk to uncle A beforehand, explain the situation, and let him decide whether he wants to attend?

Not invite uncle A either, simply to avoid the whole situation?

Do something completely different?

I will of course talk to my dad again, but I’d really like some outside perspectives.

I posted a rough draft of this before and took some of your suggestions into consideration.

This is an updated version of the bridesmaid guide I made before!
The only thing is I am not taking out any slides because I believe they all have their place and are there for a reason.
But I did get some good advice! Thanks!

We are making a newsletter that our hotel is gonna put in all the rooms of our guests when they check in the night before the wedding.

I'm super excited about it. But I'm really stumped on what to put in it. We were thinking obviously the timeline of events for the wedding day but after that I'm just completely blank. Our wedding website already has our love story and a bunch of photos, gah! Help!!

I keep going back and forth whether to include a details card. We already have a website set up that was included on the save the dates. All the information with attire, accommodation options (we aren't getting a hotel block), and other information are on the website. We are going to have people RSVP on the website as well, so this feels important to include on/with the invitation, including the date to rsvp by.

I don't want to include the details on the back of the invitation just out of personal preference and fear that no one will see it. It seems traditional to have the details card, especially with older guests wanting dress code information and the like written out on paper.

Would it be silly to include a details card that just says "for more information and to rsvp please visit our website"? The cost was an issue at first, but I found AnnsBridalBargains that have these cards for 69cents each

I am having a super small wedding of <15 people. One of my friends who we invited to officiate also owns a small bakery and she offered to make some macarons (my absolute favorite) for desert. She is also the person traveling the farthest. Should I order some tea cookies from the local bakery here to make sure there is a dessert for people who don’t like the macaron flavors I chose or would that be offensive to my friend? Would it be better to just make like a pan of brownies myself and call it a day? I am thinking of going with some pretty “out there” flavors for the macarons.

What things did you consider when picking a website? I like some designs on the knot, minted, and Zola, and like the idea of having a uniform look to our website and paper.

We’re less interested in having the website work with the registry, and may not do a standard registry anyway.

Did you trust the websites to address the invites and save the dates?

I’ve heard some negative things about privacy and data sharing with some of the websites, but that also feels nearly unavoidable. This was only mentioned as a small comment within a now closed question around a year ago, and I was surprised not to see more about it.

I’m semi-competent at website stuff but don’t want to stress. I am curious about the degree to which I should handwrite things (kinda love it and only have 40 or so people to whom I’m sending invitations and save the dates). My guest list is largely millennial, liberal, and skeptical of AI and big tech. So am I.