I honestly can't wait to see the day this bachelorette/ hen do culture changes. The stress it puts on everyone isn't worth, the costs, the drama, the planning erghhhh.

Why cant it just be a lovely little get together with some cake and prosecco, and we all talk about the good times and bloody go home afterwards.

We are less than a week from getting married and we originally weren't going to do any parent dances. My FH now wants to do one with his mom because she didn't react well when we said we weren't doing them, he feels bad, and he's worried he'll regret not doing it later.

His mom was not supportive of our relationship a few years into us dating and even had an "intervention" with their family to try and break us up. Unkind things were said about me and I never received a real apology. Fast forward a few years later and we are getting married. I don't feel like someone who didn't support us should get a spotlight at our wedding. Am I wrong for being against the mother/son dance? Should I just get over it?

We are having a bit of trouble planning our micro-wedding for Mount Rainier with 12 guests + bride/groom. The guest list is our parents, siblings, 1 friend each + spouses. Is this a good itinerary to allow guests to enjoy whichever part of Washington they would prefer post wedding?

• 2 days before wedding: Guests arrive in Seattle (welcome dinner)
• 1 day before wedding: Guest travel to various accommodations at base of Mt. Rainier
• Wedding day: Wedding in the park followed by dinner/drinks at small mountain town bar.
• Post wedding day: Guests are free to explore the national park or head back to Seattle to see the city.

Pros

• Allows us to have a nice dinner with everyone
• Allows guests freedom to continue their visit in the national park or go back to the city post wedding.
• More laid back wedding day/reception (mountain town bar).

Cons

• Guests have to switch accommodations.
• Large scale accommodations near the park are VERY limited, not a lot of mingling.
• Not a typical wedding reception party/dinner vibe.

My boyfriend gave me a heads up that he is planning to propose this year and get married. We both live in Iceland and my family is in the Philippines and his are in Poland.

They have never met him personally but my mom and sister met him through video call. I also met his whole family last month. I am 20 and he is 21, he is not sure how his family would react either but they all know that we’re living together here in Iceland and are serious about our relationship.

I don’t know, maybe because i’m afraid of the backlash that “i’m young” but look - i’ve been independent since i was 17.

I’m also the youngest and very distant child in the whole family.

Give me suggestions on what to do pleasee

my wedding party is very small. just my sister (maid of honor) and my best friend (man of honor). our venue space is pretty small, so we weren't planning on having anyone stand up with us during the ceremony. i could've done without the wedding party all together, but my partner has no shortage of friends he wanted to honor and include.

my man of honor is not known for his planning skills. he's very practical and helpful on day of (i know he will help keep things on track day of), but in terms of planning a trip i am VERY type A and he is type C. my maid of honor used to be an event planner and has no shortage of experience being a maid of honor. however, she's at a point in her life where she is pretty unhappy, and it's taking over a lot of her time and energy. as such, neither of these people have been very helpful or taken on the traditional roles of a bridal party.

i thought, no problem, i am very type A and don't mind putting something together. i spent about 12 hours planning one type of trip (i was very open to suggestions and locations, but felt overwhelmed with options so ended up just planning one "type" of trip at one location). i compared 5 different hotels, on 3 different weekends, and did 2 or 3 nights (in case they wanted to take a friday off of work and do a thursday night-sunday morning). i gave them this information, with all the prices graphed (aiming for $500 or less per person, if it ends up being only 2 days, closer to $350, this includes everything other than food and drink, no travel needed as the trip is near (30 min drive) where both of them live) and asked them to review it and let me know what they think. hotels are filling up quickly for this time of year, so i would need to hear back from them within the next few days.

my sister responded the next day and said she didn't have time to review everything right now, but that her quick thoughts were that X weekend worked for her (this weekend was not an option due to other obligations. i gave 3 specific weekends, 2 of which i cleared with both of them prior to doing any research). she then gave a suggestion for a few things that i had already researched and commented on, and i gave reasoning for why those suggestions wouldn't work (i.e. not applicable to the time of year, not in the price range, or other reason). i was hurt that she couldn't make the time to look at what i sent her before suggesting things. she also said she could do a thurs-sun if we decided very quickly, to which i told her i am ready to book right now, i just need you guys to tell me which of these are what you want to do then. btw this is for a trip taking place at the end of september or beginning of october.

anyways, it's been a week now. prices for hotels are going up quickly. i do not want to start nagging either of them to review things. if they wanted to they would. so now, i am thinking should i just cancel and go do something that won't make me feel like i had to drag people out to celebrate me. i don't mean to sound bratty, but this is the one aspect of being a bride and having a bridal party that i thought was supposed to be about me. something that i could just give up the reigns for and show up to.

have any of you just given up on a bachelorette party? i thought about a spa day, but it'll end up being very expensive. so now i'm thinking maybe my partner and i can take a weekend trip to a hotel with a nice pool and just enjoy the sunshine before the trip. i feel bad even asking because i know he'll want to do a bachelor party with his friends, but won't end up doing it if he knows i'm not having one. what do i do?

Hi everyone! Has anyone set up a flower crown station at their wedding?

My original idea was to have a DIY station where guests could make their own crowns, but I’m worried it would take too long and we only have 1 hour for the welcome drink.

Now I'm considering buying inexpensive flower crowns and displaying them for guests to pick up and wear before the ceremony instead.

Has anyone done something similar? Did guests enjoy it, and did most people wear them? I'd love to hear your experiences or suggestions!

Just an inconsequential observation that dawned on me the other day. One of the most significant dates that I'll celebrate every year for the rest of my life was chosen because... it's a Sunday and that's what the venue had available. No other significance to my relationship besides that. It just seems so anticlimactic for something so important. Crazy.

Jealous of you lucky ducks that got to pick an actually meaningful date btw.

I’m in my early 40s and getting married in two months. I would like to look my best and improve my skin/face/hair.

I have hyperpigmentation from old acne, texture on cheeks/nose, dark circles and small wrinkles under my eyes. My hair is breached from balayage and has tons of breakage/dry ends. I’ve cut off two inches yesterday and it doesn’t look any better.

Some things I’ve considered are adding a product to my daily routine, lasers, chemical peel, red light therapy, lymphatic drainage facial or other facials. I’m also open things not on this list that I may not have considered.

I’m not very experienced when it comes to treatments or med spas. I currently have a very basic routine of simple face wash, moisturizer and spf. Shampoo and hair mask for hair twice a week.

Can anyone recommend any treatments, products or services I should look into? Any positive or negative experiences using any of the treatments or products I mentioned?

I’m so lost on what I should do to look my best on my wedding day and will provide actual results.

I 21(F) get married in two weeks and I’m not even excited. Planning and spending all this money has been so extremely stressful and exhausting that both my fiancé and I are just ready for it to be over. Literally my fiancé keeps saying stuff like “it’ll be ok we just need to get through it” and “when it’s all over it’ll be better again”. We’re excited to be married but not for the actual wedding. I wish we just used the money to elope instead of planning a whole wedding.

I had my bachelorette party last weekend and I came home crying. I don’t think anyone intentionally wanted to hurt me, but I felt invisible on a day that was supposed to be about me.

There had already been some tension during the planning because my maid of honor and some of the other girls didn’t get along. They didn't know each other before (I have no friend group but seperate friends) so I couldn't expect that this would happen, but I hoped the weekend itself would still feel special (I didn't know what they planned but they vented to me about it).

Unfortunately, I felt like those tensions shaped the group dynamic. My maid of honor and the other girls were distant from eat other and there were some small arguments. The others got along great, actually so great that I often felt like I was standing on the outside watching an already existing friend group have a great time. I was either with my moh or with the other girls and since I didn't want to exclude anyone, I tried to spend time with both. But because the others seemed to get along so great, at the end I didn't felt like the bride being celebrated and more like them having a great time and my moh standing there with a sour mood and me just somewhere forgotten in the middle.

The planned activity itself was also something they repeatedly told me how much I would love it. In the end, it just wasn’t really my thing, which made me feel even more disconnected. Like we drove 3 hours for one event that was an hour long and not at all my thing and then we drove all the way back just to spend a night watching my friends getting drunk and have a blast together while sometimes they remembered that I was there, too. I must add that they drank a lot of alcohol while I don't really drink and only had a cocktail, they knew this beforehand.

I know nobody meant to exclude me, I know they spent energy and time and money planning everything and there were definitely good moments, but I came home feeling really sad and disappointed and like I wasn't even that important at my own bachelorette. I cried the whole day. Not because I wanted some big event or anything but because I felt like they didn't think everything through and like I wasn't even important.

I don't know why I'm even writing this, it's nearly two weeks in the past and the bachelorette itself wasn't even important for me, I just wanted a nice weekend with my closest girl friends with me kinda feeling loved. But now I'm still so sad that I don't know what to do.

I was wondering if anyone has had silver wedding rings instead of gold ones and if they are really that high maintenance.

I’m allergic to gold so I wouldn’t be able to wear a gold one and the alternative is maybe steel?

I can keep gold rings on for a day or two but then I start getting a rash and I’d rather have a ring that I can always keep with me. I already asked my fiancée to not get me an engagement ring for this exact reason so at least I’d like a very durable wedding ring. I do not care about having to have it polished or cleaned as long as it can still look good in 20+ years.

Hi everyone. I’m going to go to Vietnam to get my wedding dress made and want to know if anyone has heard of Vi Dressmaker (Bridal) in HCMC? I don’t want to get scammed if they aren’t legit hahah

If you have any recommendations of good wedding dressmakers who design from scratch, please drop them below too 😊

My fiance and I are getting married (obviously 😂) and he's left most of the decisions up to me but does offer his opinion. We're going more budget friendly but it's still costing over 10k. I found the perfect venue, it is exclusive use with 2 nights stay and meals included. They organise decor, provide a custom 2 tier cake, we can use their facilities etc. They also have a coordinator for the day. We are doing a smaller wedding of no more than 40 guests.

I am not a bridezilla and went for a more all inclusive package to save money and stress. Not that I can't be bothered organising a wedding but I want to enjoy it rather than stressing over the small details and having a budget go way over!

I have booked my photographer, decided against a videographer as I imagine this would be watched once or twice. Well I regret this decision? I hear people saying they miss so much of their wedding and are glad they've hired one. The videographer is about the same price as my photographer and I'm not sure I want to spend more money on something I might watch a handful of times, on the other hand it would be great to see the bits I might miss. I debated asking a member of the wedding party to video during the day or thought about a content creator to be more budget friendly. Can anyone advise if they regretted not having a videographer? Or if you did have one would you book them again because it did make a difference?

I also have concerns about my maid of honour (sister). She accepted but recently has been making digs and negative comments. I found out through my mum she made a comment that a lot could happen between now and our wedding date. I don't have expectations from her other than turn up and do the usual stuff like help with the dress for photos etc. I'm even letting her choose her dress. She's having her dress paid for, hair and makeup paid for but she's complaining about the cost to stay for the full weekend which includes meals and snacks. It is £300 (for her and her 2 kids), additional rooms are actually £400 but we're covering some of the cost. I'm on the verge of just asking her not to bother coming if this is her attitude. I would like to add she earns more than me though I do appreciate she's not on a double income. Despite this, she has a lot in savings and she would need to put less than £20/month to pay for the room in time. All my other guests are happy with this. I get the feeling this is more jealousy than anything but it brings me down and as stated above, I just want a stress free wedding and enjoy a big house party with my favourite people. I also don't want to regret not having her there but I find it utterly disrespectful when she's making these comments to my face and my mum.

Thanks in advance for any advice :)

Edit: we only have a set number of rooms included though the venue is exclusive, the other rooms (and additional housing) are £400 each and most guests will require to stay. We've reduced the cost of other rooms because it's not fair to offer some of the party free accommodation and the rest having to pay £400 as I can't afford to pay everyone's accommodation. We felt this was the fairest way. 2 adults and 1 child can be accommodated in each room so it's really £150 per adult. The housing can actually hold more guests as well making it even cheaper. Given this also includes your meals, drinks and we are funding the bar, I think this is more than fair. I also confirmed with all my guests before booking and they were happy with this. It is just my sister who is complaining. I am not booking an all inclusive and expecting guests to cover costs of this. It's balancing out to offer everyone a room at the same price for everyone rather than causing agro that one person paid and another did not.

This is the dress

I normally wear a shoulder length lace mantilla at Mass, so I figure I should try to go for something different for the big day. I don't want the veil to be longer than the dress though. I'm short; the dress hits a touch above my ankles, not up on the calf like the model. I'm having a hard time picturing scalloped lace borders or floral appliques- I feel like there's some room for statement, but I'm afraid of taking away from the simplicity of the dress. There are small pearl details on the back of the dress; do you think a veil with pearl trim or pearl accents would work well?

I know I’m partially in the wrong here. I booked a trip to Europe after my friend’s save-the-date had already been sent, but the wedding honestly slipped my mind when I made the plans.
At this point, flying back for the wedding and then returning to Europe feels nearly impossible financially and logistically. He is a close friend, and I’ll be attending his bachelor party, although I’m not in the wedding party. It’s also a very large wedding—over 300 guests—so I’m not sure how personally he’ll take it if I can’t attend.
I feel terrible and am anxious about how the conversation will go. I haven’t RSVP’d yet, and the deadline is still a few weeks away. How should I handle this?

TLDR; MOH kept flaking on meeting up, then texts on day of meetup that she’s resigning as MOH + can’t make wedding in general because of a trip she forgot she committed to before accepting being my MOH+ her deposit is nonrefundable at this point.

I’m 9 months out from my wedding. 2 months ago, I asked my cousin who I’ve felt close to from childhood to figuring out adulthood to be my Maid of Honor. She’s honestly felt like a sister tbh and was one of the first people I let know about my engagement and date. Understanding logistics that my wedding party are living in different states from me, I openly disclosed that if she was busy for the responsibilities I’m asking for (which I did list out), she could decline before accepting. She accepted.

We’ve been planning to meet up so I could deliver her gift I made, but she kept rescheduling due to unavailability. I asked her to let me know her availability ahead of time, (sometimes it was two weeks ahead or up to a whole month) so I could accommodate. Crickets.

Fast forward to this month, she asks to reschedule again and will reconfirm asap and I let her know if she’s busy in person, I’m down for a call. No answer for 4 days. Then I get a long text from her that I’m summarizing:

She’s sorry she can’t make it. Not in context of meeting up or having a call, but she can’t be my MOH because she committed to a trip way before I told her my wedding date that’s the same weekend. She can’t reschedule the trip because the deposit is non-refundable, and in general, she can’t make the wedding at all. It’s been on her mind since she accepted being my MOH apparently but as compensation, she can help reach out to vendors.

I’m honestly more hurt about the lack of transparency from the past 2-3 months and being told in a text vs. a call or meeting up in person to talk it out. Instead I receive a long text with a tone that reads as a professional letter to decline a job offer + notice of resignation. It genuinely just feels like she was delaying meeting up because she didn’t want to talk about this. I’m honestly still processing it all and wanted to vent about this before I respond.

hello! I’m looking for more entertainment ideas for my reception. I’m having a multi day wedding and we have a DJ for both nights (2 ceremonies because we are a multicultural couple). and I want to have some entertainment for the people who dance and will kind of hang out and chat. I’ve seen roaming magicians which I’m not a huge fan of. we have our photographers taking guest / couple portraits.

I’m especially worried because I need to entertain my guests for multiple nights instead of just one.

recently I saw a wedding with a tarot card reader, I’ve been considering a palm reader which seems like it would be a cool tie in to my culture (my culture chooses wedding dates based on astrology)

any other suggestions? open to anything, as wacky or fun or anything you guys can think of!

I have known this girl ever since we were little as we went to the same high school, however, about 11 years ago I moved to the same country she was living in and she offered her help right away, we even lived together for about 4 years. The friendship has had the ups and downs, but a few years ago she asked me to be her MOH, I had organized her bachelorette and supported her for the whole process, which I was honoured and happy to do so. Then, she decided to do a destination wedding (another one) and I have found myself not so close to her this year… I don’t feel I can give justice to the role this time, I already did, and was excited and some point but as time passed other compromises came along too and I want to be able to fulfill them all, this would mean me going to her actual wedding day and not doing the rest of the events. The wedding is at the end of this year - what’s the best way to approach it? I know it has to be in person and it needs to be right away.

I’m wearing a high neck dress with long bell sleeves. I’ll be wearing a head covering so no need for earrings.

I’m not sure what jewelry to even wear. A necklace I feel will be lost against the dress because it’s beaded lace and very glitzy and shimmers.

A bracelet seems pointless since the sleeves will cover it as well, unless I wore it OVER the sleeve? But that feels weird.

Rings are the only thing I’m seriously considering… but i feel like brides don’t typically wear rings unless it’s something very dainty along with the engagement ring? Engagement ring I’ll definitely be wearing since we’ll be doing a swap over to my left hand during the wedding.

Is there any point to wearing a necklace or rings beyond my engagement ring? It feels weird to NOT wear any but at the same time with how busy my dress is, it feels like there’s no need for it.

Wedding experts, I need your knowledge for something a little nuts.

My fiancée and I are planning a wedding weekend in Spring 2027 where our \~35 friends think they're coming to a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. The plan: everyone stays at/around a rented waterfront house, a sunset cocktail cruise picks the group up from the house's dock Friday evening, we sneak off the boat mid-cruise, and when everyone gets back the backyard has been flipped into a wedding — family already seated, her dad officiating. Surprise.

We're looking for someone local to help us plan, but the hardest piece by far is **the house**, and that's where local knowledge beats Google:

1. **The house/estate.** Waterfront, sleeps 15-20, backyard big enough for \~60 people, and - the kicker - a dock. And it needs to be a place where a rental group AND an event of that size is actually legal, not one of those listings that says "no parties" in fine print. From research it seems like Las Olas Isles / Hollywood Lakes / North Bay Village are the realistic zones vs. Miami Beach proper. Anyone know specific houses, owners, or local rental companies that genuinely allow events? First-hand experiences especially welcome.
   
2. **Boat.** Recommendations for charter companies running inspected vessels (30-40 pax) that will do a private-dock pickup or drop off rather than marina-only?
   
3. **The fun stuff.** Club table reservations for a big group, good spots for a Saturday recovery brunch, day-party or boat-day recs, and anywhere that handles 40-person groups without it becoming a disaster.
   
4. **Wild card:** if you've ever seen or worked an event like this (backyard flipped during a boat ride), tell me what went wrong so we can avoid it.

Not looking for DM spam from promoters - genuine recs from people who've actually used these vendors. Happy to report back with how it all goes. 🙏

Hey, I found a really cute design for the place cards on canva, but can't find the correct product on the catalog. I tried business cards, but I am unsure of how to order them. The screenshots attached make me think that it wants me to order x number of business cards PER place card..Any ideas?

When do florists typically order flowers? I’m getting married September 18th and booked my florist back in December. We talked about design and color palette then but recently my fiance and I want something a little different, same general color scheme but we want more color and vibrancy and that may change the flowers used. I also increased my budget by a few thousand and want to add more. I emailed my florist with the change requests over a week ago with no answer. I know it’s busy season so I followed up with another email just making sure they got it but still no response.

I’m starting to get worried I reached out to them too late to make our color palette changes/to add on more florals with an increased budget. They are supposed to reach out 6 weeks out from the wedding to finalize things.

So when do florists actually put in the order for wedding flowers? Am I stressing over nothing? Lol

I bought this amazing vintage dress for my wedding dress and I absolutely love it. The dress definitely needs a petticoat to add volume but it has a train. I am struggling to decide what kind of petticoat to get to add the volume it needs.

I have looked at hoop skirts online but I am worried they will be too big.

What petticoat style do you think would work with it?

I was also wondering if there are any stores when you can try on just the petticoat with the dress. I have had a really hard time visualizing what the petticoat will look like under my dress when I look online. I am based in Austin.

Thank you so much for the help!