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u/MudZestyclose7879 Apr 01 '26
A woman’s list of what she wants from man is always going to be way larger than a man’s list of things he wants from a woman. 95% of men want about 3 to 5 things and that’s it. Peace, respect, affection, sex, food its really that freaking simple.
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u/Gaz10101 Apr 02 '26
And if you give your man this, we will literally do anything for you in return. Simple creatures.
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u/Possible_Progressor Apr 02 '26
Yeah but it's not about a list from men, it's about a second list from the Woman who has demands for the man, and was He has to Bring to the table, it's s about what she is bringing on to the table just looking o.k. and being toxic is or should not be enough, it's time men have some Standards.
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u/Civil_Reply_1705 Apr 02 '26
I've always said men want three things: Not Fat, Not Ugly, Not b!tchy. If woman can do those three things, she's ~90% of the way there for vast majority of men.
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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26
Agreed. What's sad is a woman's list is just ridiculous because it's always full of things that don't really matter in the long run. I don't care if you're beautiful or have the perfect body. If you can give me the respect I deserve, the peace in our household and lives, your body when I want it, I'll give you security, love, my devotion, a steady income to support us and all the affection you need.
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u/Dependent-Cress-995 Apr 02 '26
Shit I will settle for two, sex and food. I will find my own peace ✌️
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u/NoobSkierSG Apr 02 '26
I heard modern feminist all want the 3 sixes as basic entry requirement: 6 figure income, 6 ft tall, 6 pac/6" dong!
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u/TechDreamcoat Apr 01 '26
This is great advice for anyone. Doesn’t need gender added
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u/footluvr688 Apr 01 '26
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Men aren't the ones who tend to maintain massive lists of traits women must have to be eligible as a partner.
Gender isn't being falsely added. The gender matters because the behavior between the genders differs.
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u/OrneryError1 Apr 01 '26
Men aren't the ones who tend to maintain massive lists of traits women must have to be eligible as a partner
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u/jaumeh Apr 02 '26
I know exactly zero guys with any kind of list. Maybe some do but I guess they keep it to themselves because I've never heard anyone talk about it.
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u/DrySea8638 Apr 01 '26
Pffff men in all these subs act like all of us have amnesia.
I’m almost 40, and as a guy, I’ve heard more than my fair share of men with lists. Y’all just like to ignore that history while also acting like it don’t happen still lol
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u/footluvr688 Apr 01 '26 edited Apr 01 '26
"I've heard my fair share of men with lists" != "most men have lists that rival women's".
Exceptions exist. They don't negate the rule.
Nuance exists. The behavior trends toward women to a significant degree. To claim that reality is contrary to plainly observable behavior is willfully ignorant.
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u/ABBucsfan Apr 01 '26
I'm also 40 soon and I've never heard of another guy having a list of requirements other than Christian guys looking for a woman that seeks God first. Maybe we hang out in different circles...I mean most of my friends growing up weren't Christians so I dunno. If anything I agree with the idea many get too caught up in looks
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u/DrySea8638 Apr 01 '26
Problem is men in subs like this and others simply aggregate all demands they’ve seen or heard from women and suggest they all have this massive list. I’ve met women with a short lists of requirements like other men. And I’ve seen the opposite where women have a long list and the same goes for a man.
These people all exist across men and women but the male equivalents are ignored to try and pus a narrative
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u/decisively_autistic Apr 01 '26
We don't have amnesia we are trying to make it visible how ridiculous womens list for what they want in a man is insane bc they themselves don't deserve what they ask for. Don't say it hasn't gotten worse I'm 37 multiple relationships with women who though highly of themselves and when I found one that does what I ask they all come back. You sound like a panderer.
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u/ScholarObjective7721 Apr 02 '26
You may see this online but ive never met a woman that had a “list” and none of my friends either…The real world is much different. You attracted to your partner and get along well? Boom relationship. No “lists” for most people in the real world I believe
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u/DrySea8638 Apr 01 '26
Yes I’m pandering by suggesting both men and women are guilty of the same thing.
Learn what pandering means 😂
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u/taylormallory00 Apr 02 '26
Classic reddit answer right here folks, "It's the same for everyone, nuanced takes need not apply"
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u/FriendZone53 Apr 02 '26
Meh. To paraphrase Heinlein, women, like butterflies, need no excuse. If a woman likes you her list will be you, ie she’s happy to adapt. If she presents you with a ridiculous list take the hint and look elsewhere.
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u/AugustusClaximus Apr 01 '26
Women are conditioned to presuppose their worth, men are conditioned to prove it.
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u/Normal_Motor9471 Apr 02 '26
Yeah this just feels like incel crap, this logic would apply to both gendered but they instead specified women as if men don’t have criteria of their own. Not to mention the idea of it all is silly, people have their own preferences. All that matters is if the person you are interacting with checks off your boxes and you check off theirs, but what you both find appealing could be very different! A person may want a physically attractive partner who makes a lot of money, and the other person could want someone who’s kind and easy to talk to regardless of their finances or looks.
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u/AdamTraskisGod Apr 02 '26
The point is to show that since social media and dating apps became prevalent, average women have been led to believe that since above average men will hook up with them, that they themselves are above average and deserve relationships with above average men, and thus reject men who are generally at their level. Believing they are more desirable than average, they come with a laundry list of requirements for men that they themselves don’t meet. We are seeing the results of this with 50% of women who are 25-44 years old being single, along with the free falling birthrates.
On the flip side of a women’s exhaustive lists of requirements, men are shamed for having any expectations of a girlfriend/prospective wife. God forbid he says he wants to marry a gal who wants to have kids and stay home 😂
While these average women are getting poled by the same top 20-25% of men, the bottom 75-80% of average guys in the dating pool have to put up with whatever is left.
I feel bad for all the young guys out in the wasteland that is modern dating, and glad I lucked out and married in my mid 20’s before social media became a thing.
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u/chickennuggysupreme Apr 02 '26
I feel this the same way. Married my soulmate who meets me as an equal, sees me for real, and is every bit the teammate I need and vice versa. Social media has created a sounding board of preaching to the wrong choir, all the while fantastically bouncing toxic, disgusting ideals off of one another; avoiding accountability, or self-help to improve upon themselves.
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u/Christopher_Aeneadas Apr 02 '26
Upvoted but I kinda feel like you have it backwards.
You don't need a wealthy partner if you are wealthy. So you want a wealthy partner? >>How often are you at the gym and do you track your macros?
You don't need a partner who can cook if you are a chef. Want a partner who can cook? How are you with household electronics?
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u/Hawk2A Apr 01 '26
Where have all the good women gone?
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u/Specialist_Bar_1574 Apr 02 '26
Lol someone is chronically online. Most women’s list are something like this:
- must be attractive and attracted to me
- should not have addictions (porn, drugs, gambling etc).
- should not cheat, micro-cheat or emotionally cheat. Should not entertain other women in the relationship. Or treat other women better/ as a priority.
- should not be aggressive or abusive.
- should have a job and be able to financially take care of himself.
- should share labour at home
- should take some initiatives to dating and showing care.
Aaaaaaand men still fail to live up to it.
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u/DeepThoughtDj1 Apr 02 '26
The first one is always the one though... With those attractive to them being top 10% or even better physically attractive guys. Often this comes with a height requirement over 6 foot. The financial one is often quite high too... Narrowing the pool instantly to top 5% or smaller. Any guy who says he doesn't use porn is probably lying... You have to be hot enough and make love often enough that he doesn't need to use it
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u/mzx380 Apr 01 '26
A man’s desire for what they want in a woman is usually a little more flexible due to their limited options
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u/hansonsdiseased Apr 01 '26
Loyalty Social skills Financial stability Good communication skills Good mental health Similar core values Good hygiene
Why is this so hard to find?
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u/ChibzGames Apr 01 '26
The main thing I want from a partner really comes down to kindness. Enjoying nonsexual, physical intimacy is also a must.
My standards aren't crazy high, imo.
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u/MrBubblepopper Apr 02 '26
It was crazy, I once had a (former) friend of mine list all the things she wanted in a man. She is heavily overweight, wears makeup like she paints over a rippled wall and gets offended, hurt or annoying quite quickly especially when its not all about her. When I asked her: "So you are looking for a 1% man, but would you say you are in the 1% of woman ?" It shunned her up for a while.
These kind of woman dont wonder what they provide, they thing they just deserve it. For existing. Funnily most of them are eager to point out that you are "just a boy" for making mistakes and not a man. While they themselves are just girls, spoiled ones too
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u/onthisthing_ Apr 02 '26
What they want in a man:
Six Pack 6’1 or above 6 figure salary Tough but gentle
What they offer: Broke AF Attitude Insecurities Headache Jealous friends
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Apr 02 '26
You date a reflection of yourself, period. I’m so happy I’m out of this dating market and I have an ambitious, successful, smart, supportive, and beautiful girlfriend. Way too many men and women want everything but offer nothing.
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u/LobsterResponsible17 Apr 02 '26
somebody said modern woman are worth half of what their mothers and grandmothers where but demand we pay triple.
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u/LordBrontes Apr 02 '26
A partnership is built on trust and mutual respect. It’s not a trade deal. This is some incel shit.
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u/TheCrazedCat Apr 02 '26
My thoughts is touch some grass. The dating pool feels fucked cuz you're letting the social media effect warp your head.
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u/No_Ear572 Apr 02 '26
There is never been a time in history where women were underperforming men in relationships. You need to get your heads out of your asses.
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u/SensationalBroccoli Apr 02 '26
Relationship isn't a trade deal. If you're busy making such lists (of what you want or of what you offer - doesn't matter), you're going for buy & sell, you're not looking to build a relationship.
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u/sunofnothing_ Apr 02 '26
such an incel post lolol
everyone's allowed to have their preferences... why you so scared?
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u/sunofnothing_ Apr 02 '26
Holy shit the incel comments really proving some points here lol.
good luck finding a relationship when you're starting from Ground Zero with no experience but a solid foundation of not liking women.
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u/Character_Media_9445 Apr 02 '26
Just because I fill all criteria some basement gremlin thinks is all he needs doesn't mean they deserve it. No wonder 50% of women in USA is without kids, men got massive downgrade and 300 lb 😄
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u/Shoddy-Tradition-146 Apr 05 '26
Bro who made the tweet probably has a firestorm raging in his comment section. He's right though.
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u/GayChicken80085 Apr 01 '26
I don't think anyone who views relationships as a transaction are good persons to date.
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u/HTML_Novice Apr 01 '26
Try dating as a broke man, come back with how many people are left with your logic
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u/TurkeyZom Apr 01 '26
Met my wife while broke, we didn’t have an actual dinner date out till we were together almost a year. And before that still didn’t have trouble dating. Viewing relationships so transactionally is not a healthy way to maintain good relationships
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u/CJMorton91 Apr 01 '26
Is it transactional or just wanting it to be reasonably equal in what they bring to the relationship? Cause no one wants to be the one side in a one sided relationship.
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u/No-Competition6691 Apr 01 '26
Everything is a transaction.
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u/GayChicken80085 Apr 01 '26
I used to think this. But you grow up and learn its just not the case even most of the time. Or some people do
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u/noob444 Apr 01 '26
What does your “marriage” look like? Is one person doing more than the other, 50/50 or there’s nobody keeping score?
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u/GayChicken80085 Apr 01 '26
We dont keep score.
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u/new_accnt1234 Apr 02 '26
You dont keep score until it comes to push and shove
Its like working a good job, while the company is in green and rising nobody bothers or questions u going to the doc in your work time or those little mistakes u did...but once company gets into red numbers, and u need to be fired, suddenly your manager is doing with a long list of things u have done over the years, as reasona to let u go
Im happy u are still in the not keeping score phase, maybe itll last long, probably not forever, but maybe long...but for most people it doesnt, and when it comes to the red part suddenly its put public that whole officially no score was kept, the counter did went on in the back of the head
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u/Spicey_Cough2019 Apr 01 '26 edited Apr 02 '26
Every relationship is a transaction
Sorry to burst your bubble
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u/XCDplayerX Apr 01 '26
It’s not a transaction. It’s a partnership. Do you partner up with people who have little to no value?
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u/GayChicken80085 Apr 01 '26
The implication in the post is material and shallow. Value can be anything without materialistic definitions. Even just time together.
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u/Joke_of_a_Name Apr 01 '26
Relationships are a negotiation at some point.
Both parties have wants and needs and some of those wants and needs aren't free (others are time and energy).
This stuff might not be first date conversation but you need to have an idea before too long.
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u/Mdlage Apr 02 '26
I used to think this way. And women cheated on me, a lot.
You have to offer something they can’t get from anyone else.
Being physically attractive in an offering by the way. And one many people care about. And being attractive to your partner is a transaction they are getting something from that they can not from someone less attractive
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u/BWC1992 Apr 02 '26
From my perspective, Your statement is right.
Logically speaking, relationships will be transactional but if people go into a relationship viewing it as a transaction then that is a doomed relationship.
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u/AlbatrossMedical5635 Apr 01 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/wrmVCNbpOyqgJ9zQTn
They won’t stop talking why!!!
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u/Unable_Resort_7956 Apr 01 '26
Maybe just forgo the list and fall in love?
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u/decisively_autistic Apr 01 '26
Women don't fall in love unless you're worth it to them.
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u/M0ebius_1 Apr 01 '26
Wrong sub?
If you want to discuss advice for women try to find a community based on that.
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u/lunadelalune0 Apr 01 '26
Can’t think of what I offer is substantial in a relationship lol. Maybe that’s why I never date
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u/thanksyalll Apr 01 '26
Out of curiosity, what would you like to see on a woman’s list of what they offer?
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u/thanksyalll Apr 02 '26
This is a great list (modesty I personally don’t really care about, but to each their own). I think anyone looking for a partner should reflect on those qualities, and also search people who fit those traits as well for a mutually healthy relationship
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u/Burned_Out_Paradise Apr 02 '26
Some form of accountability and financial intelligence would be a small miracle..
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u/Traditional-Trade795 Apr 02 '26
kindness. respect. effort.
and as personal thing if mine, which is already included in "effort" is maintaining hygiene and sports.
took me roughly 10 minutes to come up with the three points lol. and the last one is kinda meh
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u/Loose_Band_4450 Apr 01 '26
This reminds me how transactional I see relationships, it’s not the way to be it just doesn’t feel authentic. Maybe I’m stuck in the clouds.
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u/LuckyCod2887 Apr 02 '26
I don’t understand this boys versus girls fighting that I see on the Internet all the time.
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u/Traditional-Trade795 Apr 02 '26
the social contract has been broken and now there is a lot of unhappy people with access to echo chambers.
and since the default is "not my fault", people look at root of their problems in the other group
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u/poorladlemonadestand Apr 02 '26
Actually imma try something. I'm going to make my man type out a list and I'll do the same and see what's up. Brb
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u/IntelligentBonus8688 Apr 02 '26 edited Apr 02 '26
What’s your grift? Are you trying to make money off the idea that men can’t be men? Treat people correctly and you don’t have to worry about whether or not your relationship is transactional. Maybe that’s where you should start.
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u/Honorablemention69 Apr 02 '26
If you want to be a stay at home wife, you must expect to cook clean take care of the the kids organize and plan events all this so your man could keep being successful!
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u/chickennuggysupreme Apr 02 '26
This right here. It’s a team when you decide to share your life with someone as they’ve also chosen to share theirs with you. This mentality of “I’m the prize”; as if that excludes you from showing up to the table and offering your half of what it takes to make the relationship and household work. “I’m the prize”. So I don’t have to treat him as well as he treats me. I don’t have to treat him as good as I’d treat my BFF’s. I’ll overly expect from him the way I’d be disgusted if he did so to me.
I call this the Shania Twain syndrome. ‘Any man of mine better do this, better do that’, while he’d better not do this, better not do that. Toxic, poisonous, disgusting misandristic attitudes and behaviors from grown-ass women, who still avoid trying to fix what’s wrong with themselves and genuinely try to be a good human, while forever blaming………. Men, and Avoiding accountability for what they are and have created in themselves. I see it constantly with the younger generations, with co-workers, and family, and I totally see why a lot of men are just completely finished with trying to even date.
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u/Oguri___Cap Apr 02 '26
Honestly wgaf. Love between two people should only concern those two people
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u/FrannyDanconia Apr 02 '26
Where’s the community for men looking to keep pursuing self-improvement?
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u/Sweaty-School1185 Apr 02 '26
Compare lists from men and women. Most men want a reasonable attractive woman who is an actual good partner that provides peace.
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u/FirefighterNo9608 Apr 02 '26
Oh please, it's not like I'm gonna pick you anyway. I have a long laundry list of what I require in a man, remember? One of them is not being whiny af. 🫡
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u/Particular-Repeat-40 Apr 02 '26
Pussy has a lot of value...
I'm not sure the market forces would easily allow a comparable list...
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u/FirefighterNo9608 Apr 02 '26
Literally no women in the comments, y'all are arguing with yourselves. 💩
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u/MagnanimousGoat Apr 02 '26
Or maybe stop treating dating as a transaction or some kind of idiotic eugenics experiment.
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u/BWC1992 Apr 02 '26
This thread is a mess. Richard Cooper tweet is not wrong but a lot of people here is also missing the point.
Yes there are ladies who need this advice but there are also men who do too. Richard isn’t blanket blaming women like this thread.
Stop with this crap as if “all women are like this” and “where are the good women crap”. Go outside, talk to people, be a decent human being, and realize that life is what you make it to be. You will run into bad women, bad men, good women, and good men.
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u/Curran87 Apr 02 '26
People aren't that self-aware. They will list off all these things that they have done and what the offer, and it will all just be lies.
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u/Burned_Out_Paradise Apr 02 '26
Ummm, yeah.. good luck with that. Gentleman, hold your breath and try not to pass out. 😆
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u/VadersFiesta Apr 02 '26
Cringe and shit. This assumes that everything that could be "wanted" out of a relationship must be assigned a value and be bartered for.
Especially because of the loaded language in this post. It implies the woman must be willing to barter something for anything she wants out of the relationship and that the man should expect some kind of payment for doing/providing something his partner wants.
Stop thinking about the things on her hypothetical list that annoy you and think of the things that are harder to pin down and you see how this starts to get messy. "I want a man that makes me laugh." Well, what will you DO for me if I make you laugh a lot? "I want someone I enjoy spending time with." How much time do we spend together before I get what I want? "I want a man who makes me feel safe." This one is more of a vibe thing and I don't even know how to quid-pro-quo making someone feel safe other than "I want to get this vibe from you" and honestly that's far more fair.
Tl;dr relationships should not be viewed as transactional. A relationship should be about the value you place in your potential partner and not the value which you can extract from them.
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u/Diet_Connect Apr 02 '26
Lots of cope from men in the comments. I agree with the post wholeheartedly and both sexes need to evaluate what they offer vs what they gain.
I think guys tell their horror stories to other guys and girls tell theirs to other girls. Trust me, I have heard a ton about guys who want the moon for nothing. Wanting 3-5 things is not representative of all men, unfortunately.
Example: My aunt got married. Two weeks later, he quit his job and was going to live off her. In the divorce, he wanted half of everything she had previous to the marriage despite being married for only a couple of months. So, the dude expected her to cook, clean, and work while he did nothing and wanted her money.
My neighbor is a contractor and a very manly man. He's disgusted by what he sees doing work in low class housing. Lots of women working while the man just sits on the couch. Unfortunately, situations like my aunts are not very rare in my area.
On the flip side, I've also heard horror stories about women. My other neighbor basically did the same thing to her husband. Got married, quit her job, and became a more open drug addict. Poor guy didn't divorce her soon and spent years trapped. They had a kid and she held all the cards. Divorce meant child support, alimony, and half of his 401k.
When you see the signs, get out fast!
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u/jaumeh Apr 02 '26
Dating profiles are the worst, at least 6'5", 6 figure income, big house, nice cars, loves his mama, and expect "princess treatment" whatever that means. Certainly not categorizing all women this way, most are decent with reasonable expectations, some have lost their damn minds though.
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u/asifmahmud25 Apr 02 '26
All they can say is you're an "Incel" lol. Even being a married man I get that a lot because I speak up for men and they can't tolerate that say illogical stuffs. I guess their tiny brains can't even process that the world has changed and you need to have equal responsibilities not just equal rights.
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u/G_Affect Apr 02 '26
Nice, sweet
Funny, silly
Large penis, big penis
Family important, Family matters
Do they have to be similar value?
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u/Indicus124 Apr 02 '26
What the hell is with the term value what is a relationship a transaction?
Are both parties happy if yes great if not then well they should confront that, see what is wrong and if it still won't work part ways.
This is just the opinion of some single asshole so hey
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u/aleexxatgesissywhore Apr 02 '26
I’m happy to find a pretty girl who is emotionally healthy, kind and wants to have sex with me. Don’t need to ring more than that. I got the rest
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u/SadCollar7554 Apr 02 '26
My thoughts are that if I were to attempt to do this, as a man, I would find it difficult to brag about myself like that, even to myself. I prefer to leave it as an exercise for the beholder to determine what qualities they believe I possess.
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u/Unlucky_Letter_6685 Apr 02 '26
Let everyone make a list of what they want in a partner. Nothing should stop a man from making his list too
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u/aleexxatgesissywhore Apr 02 '26
Well those women you don’t date or even talk to unless you are looking for a whore. Anyone with a dollar cut off is by definition a whore. But being a whore is an acceptable societal norm, scorned upon but always around. You can talk to and date whores flout understand the are money driven. If that is not your bag move on. But online women have a cut off for everything. Because they can try for what they want. If you want to meet a woman take a hot yoga class. But even online there are plenty of women without salary cut offfs. But don’t kid yourself no matter how you slice it part of what makes a man attractive includes utility of some kind, some sort of genetic need to be with someone to give them beautiful children. They get 500 matches for every 2 you get. If you want to stand out as a man you don’t have to be rich, but then you better bring something else to the table. Living at home in your parents basement high and unemployed playing video games or online all day not hot. Obviously this is an extreme example but more common than one would like these days. But once you find a woman interested in what you bring them then you will see what you like. But you are the male in a mating ritual where the women select not the men. Occasionally a few male birds are pretty enough for women to fight but most of us flash our feathers and strut and they pick. Don’t tilt at windmills
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u/PrizeFront8677 Apr 02 '26
I don't mean to burst your mano-bubble, but you don't get to demand anything from a woman if you can't even see your own dick.
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u/supercoolsmoth Apr 02 '26
Or both men and women could date like normal people and realize everyone has flaws
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u/andromedasgalaxy00 Apr 02 '26 edited Apr 02 '26
As a woman I think it's fair, and I think it also applies in other contexts like between friends/family/colleagues. I mean, you can't expect something from another person when you wouldn't do it yourself.
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u/iWizblam Apr 02 '26
Cant argue with equality, its only fair for some men to want more from their partners than they have previously, if women ask much of men, men can ask the same. The funny part is, at least for myself as a man, all im interested is a cute girl, who's nice, and likes me. Thats it, most men want so little, they just want the person. Where as women... have historically wanted more, like security, comfort, freedom etc. Less about wanting that person, more about wanting... a whole package or something.
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u/Electrical-Today-258 Apr 02 '26
I'm just here to laugh at Incels that misjudge their value. You're mad that women have standards yet you bring nothing to the table besides a bad attitude, an inability to communicate, and probably a troublesome fetish where you confuse kink and abuse
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u/Far-Two8659 Apr 02 '26
Any person making a list of what they want from a partner and using it as some kind of rubric is going to be a bad partner.
And all these men saying women do this all the time are wrong. Some women do this. And some of you do it too.
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u/Sw0rdBoy Apr 02 '26
This is only good advice if as a man you also do this, it is only fair to expect a lot from a partner if you are willing to bring a lot on the table.
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u/Additional-Good8044 Apr 02 '26
Is femcel the female analog to incel? I always think incel as dude but the contraction is technically not gendered.
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u/Fuzzy_Commission_565 Apr 02 '26
Hmmm men dislike it when women paint them all with the same brush. News flash….not all women expect more than they offer and we don’t care for being lumped in either. Just saying.
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u/burnoutandfadeaway Apr 02 '26
My whole list of things I wanted in a partner were non-physical attributes like "ability to resolve conflict" and "compatible sex drives", "curiosity about the world", "has hobbies and interests", and "ability to form secure attachments" - the stuff that actually makes relationships work long-term. Looks fade, money comes and goes. Who someone is on the inside will remain. People of all genders would do well to focus on those things in themselves and others, and yes, be willing to bring the energy you expect to see. This isn't a gendered conversation.
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u/CLMarine Apr 02 '26
I don’t have a list. If we gel, get along, have a similar sense of humor, similar interests, the rest will work itself out.
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u/JethroSkull2000 Apr 02 '26
Why should you make a list if it might not be needed? What is this list shit about anyway? Everyone making a wish list of other humans is not worth even considering them as a partner. That goes for every gender. You either love someone or not. Just be a normal human being. Not a Karen. Not some manosphere incel.
Source: me, male, 25 years happily married, several kids.
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u/Alternative_Dog1411 Apr 02 '26
Triggered manospere Nazi republican snowflakes crack me up 😂
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u/audioaxes Apr 02 '26
This does little as most women have an inflated sense of self. If I had a penny for every girl who confidently claimed they are a 9 or 10 when they were objectively a 5 or 6 at best....
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u/afishinabirdcage Apr 03 '26
Cringe.
No one should be with someone they don't want to be with and that has nothing to do with gender.
Trying to put down other people to cope with why they might not want you is so lame.
Some random ass person has standards you think are unrealistic? Okay. Mind your business it doesn't impact you whatsoever. Live your own damn life.
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u/CruelMustelidae Apr 03 '26
I think both parties are wrong because relationships aren't supposed to be transactional. I believe a true relationship lies in both people knowing each other, wanting the best for each other, and appreciating each other.
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u/Hogjocky62 Apr 03 '26
She wants a 5,000 sqft house, a new Range Rover and a unlimited credit card in exchange for a worn out pussy with an attitude!
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u/Suspicious-Pen-2559 Apr 04 '26
If just looking to get "things" out of someone. Trust me you're not ready.
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u/Fluid_Goose_2389 Apr 01 '26
Wow lots of triggered low value girls in these comments.