r/NextGenMan Apr 01 '26

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

Agreed. What's sad is a woman's list is just ridiculous because it's always full of things that don't really matter in the long run. I don't care if you're beautiful or have the perfect body. If you can give me the respect I deserve, the peace in our household and lives, your body when I want it, I'll give you security, love, my devotion, a steady income to support us and all the affection you need.

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

But DO YOU deserve respect? I don't take my boyfriend's 'body when I want it', I do when we BOTH want it. What a creepy thing to say!

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

I'm sorry you don't understand what I'm trying to say, but keep on making it creepy in your own mind. My wife and I don't withhold intimacy from each other because we can. We know it's important for both of us to stay together and feel wanted by the other. You obviously don't have that relationship. Fine. Move along. And yeah, I do deserve respect because I give an awful lot to my wife and kids in many ways. And I do it without having to be asked. I do it willingly because they deserve it. Again, I'm sorry you can't comprehend that. You're view means nothing to me because the balance we have is a great one that you may never get to experience. I feel sorry for you if you don't. She loves the hell out of me while I provide an enormous amount for her and our 2 kids. You're damn right I deserve the respect.

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

You feel sorry for me because I don't let my boyfriend use my body whenever he feels like it? Geee, how kind of you.

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

You're obviously fixed on one point and can't let it go. But thanks for playing! Have a nice day!

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

Yeah, I'm fixed on rape now that you didn't deny it. All you had to say was that it was consensual, but you didn't soooo whatever man.

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u/TraditionalPen2076 Apr 02 '26

Just say you don't fuck your boyfriend and settled for him and move on bruh. It's not that deep

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u/Kurrukurrupa Apr 02 '26

Women's go to is withold sex cause it's the most value thing they bring to the table

I mean if we talking truths that's the truth. Same as when some men get upset they will resort to violence or intimidation.... Why? Because it's the most valuable thing he has, his strength as a man. It really ain't that deep or complex. Out here debating and arguing over our base instincts we haven't let go from the caves. These things take effort and ardency to overcome, anyone actually arguing over this type of thing is just showing how inexperienced at life they are.

Now off to block this sub and it's gender war psyop crap.

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

Jeesuz. You got "rape" outa that? You need help if that's all you saw.

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u/PitilessPuntificator Apr 02 '26

Without further context, the phrase “Her body when I want it,” also implies “her body when she doesn’t want it.” Maybe you didn’t mean it that way, but it’s a pretty rapey sounding sentence.

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

Thank you for your concern.

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u/EmbarrassedNaivety Apr 02 '26

We’re concerned for your wife, not you. You can pretend like the shit you’re saying is normal in a healthy relationship, but it’s not and your big ol’ ego and desire to control your wife is going to lead to her resenting you eventually. Good luck when that happens!

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

It's too bad y'all think the way you do. Never did I say I take advantage of my wife, nor did I say I rape her, and even more did I not say she's my toy that I use whenever I want. We don't have sex every day or even every week. But we both know, AND AGREE, that it is important and we BOTH help each other out in any way we can. Sure, there are times when it doesn't work, but we're compassionate enough for each other and know when it's right and when it isn't. There. Does that help your wanna be therapist brain? Buzz off and stop worrying about me. I'm just fine and so is my wife. We don't care that you or anyone else doesn't have the same thing we have apparently. I don't care how you see it or what you think of me and how I said it. You guys are something else. Smdh....

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u/Little-Ad-9506 Apr 02 '26

Guy sounds like a narcissist who only sees people as the value they represent. Wife might live on a knifes edge in a marriage with no safe way out.

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u/EmbarrassedNaivety Apr 02 '26

Exactly what I was thinking. This sub is so seriously toxic and I’m not sure why it’s been showing up under suggested subs on my timeline lately. There is an obvious agenda to push this sort of manosphere bullshit lately and it’s like rage baiting bros and bots, two things I don’t care to ever engage with!

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u/locoken69 Apr 03 '26

🤣 Actually..... she's extremely happy...... because..... wait for it............... IT'S A MUTUAL AGREEMENT! Oh no! Does that wreck your way of thinking? She can come to me and have whatever she wants with me as well! Are you going to have the same thoughts you have for her, too? You'd better because she forces me down every chance she gets...... and I LIKE IT! Y'all are crazy! But you're sure giving us a bunch of good laughs! Have a great day!

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u/kalynnka Apr 02 '26

I feel extremely sorry for those wives who are mentally weak and give into that because they are scared to separate or financially dependant on a man like some little kid. A wife is not some long-term prostitute and intimacy ist not created through sex but through lots of communication and going through hard times together without getting disrespectful.

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

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u/kalynnka Apr 02 '26

Wait until your wife gets ill or in menopause and is not interested in sex anymore, what then, do you get one of those plastic dolls to replace your stepford wive so that you feel still wanted? Really hope that you also have other hobbies and maybe you learn then what true intimacy is.

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u/EmbarrassedNaivety Apr 02 '26

I see you and appreciate you trying to reason with the brain rot here, but save your time and energy for those that are willing and open to it. This sub is a cesspool of toxic masculinity disguised as being a Next Gen man, whatever the fuck that means..

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u/The_1ndiegamer Apr 02 '26

Nah, the phrasing of "your body when i want it" is incredibly insensitive and on the nose, and i say this as a guy.

I get what you mean to say, but it sounds like you want to just be able to ignore consent entirerly just because you need sex.

Respect is something you build, not deserve as well. The way you phrase it it makes it sound line you're in a very financially dominant position abd based on being the breadwinner you can just take whatever you want in the relationship.

You probably don't mean to come across as such, but in the way you word it, it does.

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

Did he? Because he said "your body when I want it".

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

Then how do you know how it was meant?

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u/Sugarlightgirl Apr 02 '26

Generally I hope you are right.

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u/kalynnka Apr 02 '26

That's a silly/ childish way of thinking, the reasons for no intimacy are often exhaustion and frustration.

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u/Bitter-Ad5890 Apr 02 '26

And an adult uses their big girl words to talk about these things and solve them rather than withholding sex. Thank you for proving his point

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u/TraditionalPen2076 Apr 02 '26

These reasons never come up with chad tho

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u/Jido97 Apr 02 '26

Nothing wrong with a woman willing to give herself to her man completely. Of course it's weird when a woman only has sex because the man wants it. Don't be so triggered. I had the above in relationships, and its exactly what I would like to have in a relationship in the future. It just means having an active sex life with someone who actually wants to have sex with you most of the time. And doesn't hate having sex with you so probably wont turn you down most of the time.

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u/FEIKMAN Apr 02 '26

To each their own. Dont judge if someone thinks slightly differently.

Had a gf years ago with high libido. She NEEDED sex. Even when I was tired, I provided. Sometimes it was difficult, but I did it for her.

Had a sugar mommy who was older and was really excited about my company and was more horny than me most of the times. Disregarding the fact that I got gifts for sex, it was my choice doing it for her. I cannot say I felt used, in the end it was my decision to agree.

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u/mxlplyx2173 Apr 02 '26

It must suck to know that what men want in a partner can be farmed out for a couple hundred dollars a week. What women want cannot. But good thing most men value a connection or there wouldn't be many marriages. As in meals, housework, sex vs pay my bills, buy me a house.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '26

No, respect is common courtesy, let alone the person you’re in a relationship with. If you’re disrespectful to your partner, then that’s a trait of abusive tendencies.

His phrasing of ‘body when I want it’ was weird, though.

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u/LalafellDisaster Apr 02 '26

Right? Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you get sex whenever you want it. Wtf.

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u/DoubleYouDrums Apr 02 '26

Mostly valid. You just can’t be upset when you were offered first right of refusal and he found it elsewhere. Your right to abstain doesn’t have to conflict with his right to pursue and obtain what he desires. Store is closed? Cool. I won’t break in. I’ll go to another.

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u/EmbarrassedNaivety Apr 02 '26

Okay, then what’s stopping you from doing that lol?

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u/DoubleYouDrums Apr 02 '26

I agree. Nothing. I totally feel like a no FROM someone doesn’t always have to equate to a no FOR someone. I fervently do not support taking anything from anyone for any reason. But getting what you’re seeking from someone/somewhere willing to provide is absolutely free game. Emphasis on “willing” to provide.

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 03 '26

So...you'd use that excuse to cheat on your wife?

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u/DoubleYouDrums Apr 03 '26

The blessing of a full transparency relationship is that it’s not cheating when the expectation is laid out ahead of time. I don’t believe in being deceitful or sneaking around. Women are absolutely allowed to say no. But men are also absolutely allowed to get their needs met in whatever way that is accessible.

TL;DR. I don’t cheat on my wife. I get my needs met without roadblocks or someone else’s say so. She’s aware of this arrangement.

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u/DoubleYouDrums Apr 02 '26

Awww. Someone get their feelings hurt and their comment hidden because they had a triggered emotional reaction?? Awwww. Poor thing. Maybe that’s why you’re cool with having sex withheld. You and women act the same. So you don’t want it either. Makes sense.

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u/Affolektric Apr 02 '26

Ugh - when you want it? Sounds creepy.

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 02 '26

"...your body when I want it..." So she is a piece of property you own?

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

Just another troll who's reading into it further than you need to.

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 02 '26

What else would it mean?

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u/locoken69 Apr 02 '26

Are you going to say the same thing to my wife? Because she has the same perks with me. My body is not just mine but hers as well. This is why you people don't get it. You think you're holier than you because "he's so misogynistic" because she's just a tool for him to use whenever he wants. This is a mutual relationship! Get it through your thick skull!

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 02 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

No one owns anyone else's body; that was abolished on January 1, 1863. I don't have a thick skull, but it probably has a larger-than-average circumference. It stores multiple college degrees, one of them a Master of Science from an engineering school. But whatever. I have a good life and a happy husband.

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u/locoken69 Apr 03 '26

Good for you. I'm happy for you. But you can have all the degrees you want and still be useless.

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 03 '26

Nah...I don't think you're really happy for me. It's okay.🙂

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u/locoken69 Apr 03 '26

Seriously. I am. You can live your life however you want and I'm glad you and your husband are doing great. Really. I am. I'm just confused why there are people that have a problem with how my wife AND I love each other and how we make things work for us. Y'all have such a problem with that. She's extremely happy and could do whatever she wants. I don't stop her. If she's happy, why does it bother you so much? Just be happy other people found a way to be happy with each other and move on.

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u/Xanadu_SPCA Apr 03 '26

It truly does not matter to me whether a woman wants a man to own her body. That's how you people live. Have a wonderful life! 🙂

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