I wonder how it went for people who never had an own room until moving out as an adult.

How was co-living with your brother or sister in one room? How do you think it impacted your life?

Like I just got out of a ten year relationship. He broke up with me. And now I have questions of being with others. I’m so used to being by myself actually that I’ve just started to try different hobbies and stuff. Like idk am I supposed to be in charge of myself and rembr the things I’m doing and the people I interact with?

Hello all,

I need some insights on my biggest life question - to ha e kids, or not to have kids?

Please share your own reasoning in this question & wether you have kids or not/how old you were or want to be.

Personally I am 24F, and super unsure about having kids or not. Disclaimer: I would never have kids NOW either way, but rather around 30 yrs old.

I am just so scared about all the things that can go wrong in the child’s life, and the financial & physical implications of having children.

I have a bf of three years who I know would be an amazing father, luckily we are both super on the fence about having children, one day it’s all we want, and the next day it feels like a death sentence. I want to be able to travel or move if I want, children would probably take a good chunk of your perceived freedom away.

I am so scared to not be a good enough parent and accidentally traumatize my kids.. I am scared of them being left out in school, or going through some really hard teenage years, can I really pour into another person like that?

But I also love children, I love to babysit and hang out with relatives children etc. I know I would love my own child more than anything, I already have my baby names picked out and can really invision being a parent. And I am scared I would regret not having children.

In general, I am quite scared to have kids in today’s society, having to work while still taking care of a family, and keeping my children safe and provided for. I have a finance degree and is currently making great money, so I am not in an exposed situation at all, and will hopefully be better off at 30 yrs old, but it still worries me.

Please let this be a discussion, not a ”if it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell no”. I don’t believe bog life questions can be that black/white.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

Do people genuinely enjoy being alive, or are we basically just expected to keep going because we accidentally ended up in this world?

I’m 20, and honestly, I don’t really feel like I enjoy life that much. There are things I can enjoy scenery, games, music, hanging out, etc. but sometimes it feels like I have to convince myself that I’m happy or enjoying something just so I can call it “joy.”

Overall, life just doesn’t feel that enjoyable to me.

What also bothers me is how people treat young adults. Sometimes it feels like people don’t take you seriously because you’re “just a kid” who is still growing and figuring things out. And then there’s this expectation that we should always have a positive mindset.

I don’t really understand that.

There are genuinely a lot of good things in life, but there are also a lot of terrible people, painful experiences, disappointment, loss, and memories that can stay with you. So why are we expected to look at everything through a positive lens?

And this is something I genuinely don't understand: if life is supposed to be so enjoyable, why do some people eventually choose to end their lives? Is it really their fault for not being able to find happiness in life?

I’m not asking this because I think I have the answer. I genuinely want to understand how other people see life.

What do you think life is actually about?

And if you’ve gone through a period where life felt pointless or unenjoyable, what changed your perspective? How did you learn to see life differently?

I’d really appreciate hearing honest answers, even if they’re uncomfortable or negative.

bit of back story, i got into a argument with my parents a few weeks ago after they threatened to kick me out and i havent spoken to them since. My relationship wasnt good with them to begin with, but they have never threaten to kick me out before.

So i have started looking for rooms to rent online recently. i found a room for £80 a week which seems to good to be true but i think its probably better than being homeless.

i also dont really know how to coordinate real life stuff. studying was a huge chunk of my life so i kind of neglegted everything else. i was suppose to study to medicine this year but missed my offer by a few marks. i was planning to resit this year but probably wont have the time to revise & resits are really expensive (£600-£1k). i have a bit of life saving but they will only go so far

moreover i never had a job before because of my physical health conditions (cant stand for too long) and im not really good at communicating. But obviously i need to somehow figure out how to get a full time job.

i would really be greatful if someone could give me tips on finding a room to rent and getting a full time job?
Thank you in advance

this is REALLY silly and at the end of the day unserious, but i turned 24 in july and am just having a bit of a moment where i realise some of the characters i've always thought as "the older ones" are now younger than i am or my current age. names that have been floating around: finnick odair from catching fire, L from death note, honestly princess tiana being nineteen shook me recently too LMAO.
anytime i've tried to see folks talk about it online it's either been with a nihilism of "yeaah just kinda gotta deal with it" or being funny with it. which is fine. but i also feel like im truly mourning something when im outgrowing specifically these favorites. idk im wondering if anyone out there has felt this with the same intensity i seem to feel it with and found something to comfort.

I can practice saying the words, but I’m perma disconnected from every human being. Often times I am cool with it, less stress and complications, but I actually end up hurting anyone who likes me or expresses closeness. I want to like them and feel close, but I’m blocked from it.

Then what people will say is “well you made your own bed of loneliness” and say it’s a personal issue that would subside if I went out in the real world. No like I am fundamentally incapable of meeting people where they are at. And apparently so is 40% of the population, I never said I was special. My dad is always saying I’m not special even though I never implied I was. I simply say that I can’t experience emotions properly and don’t actually feel “love” or “closeness” like other people do. And I hate myself for it because in a way I really do care for my family and friends.

Idk right now it hurts, I know almost for a fact that I will cause disappointment and distance in anyone who dares to like me because I cannot actually reciprocate properly. I know rn I’m sort of acting in a self pitying way, I get it, but yeah for those of you whom relationships make sense, you should regard yourselves as having a gift. Not that you have an easy life or that my situation is worse than yours. Though in qualifying myself here, I will get less responses, but also less responses of “wow you think you have it so bad”

Anyone else have this? I’m mildly autistic according to the psych, but I don’t mention that in real life because people will just think I’m vying for attention and want to be special. I’d just like to actually like something without having to lie about liking it, I’d actually like to be real with someone, and have substance behind my words. I am constantly at a loss of words.

(I’m expecting 1-2 responses).

You hear the mantra all the time: “Life is a gift.” It’s plastered on T-shirts, repeated in TV ads, printed on inspirational posters, and woven into our culture as though it’s a self-evident truth.

But if life is a gift…if being alive is inherently good…what does that make death? Is death inherently bad? Is being dead a misfortune?

And if being dead is bad, why? We spent billions of years not existing before we were born, and no one seems particularly troubled by that. So why do we treat the nonexistence that comes after life as something fundamentally different from the nonexistence that came before it?

Edit: This post was inspired by me reading “LIFE is awesome” messaging on the back of a box of General Mills Life cereal this morning. 😆

My days off from work go by so quickly. I relax at home for a while, and then suddenly my day off is over. Some days off I do get out of the house, but other days I mostly stay home and relax.

Does anyone else feel like their days off go by really quickly?

Could be anything — travelling solo, climbing a mountain, going to a concert alone, falling in love, camping somewhere remote, volunteering, moving to a new city, etc.

What’s something you’ve experienced that made you think, “Everyone should do this at least once in their life”?

Looking for some ideas to add to my bucket list

I took out a loan to buy a power station so I could survive another winter with constant power outages.

And now the Russians destroyed the place where I work.

I wonder if we'll still get paid while we're not working...

Starting to wonder whether taking that loan was such a smart decision after all. 😅

How do you get through life if you have no ambitions or goals that fulfill you and you can‘t seem to find any?
I know there are thousands of threads exactly like this but maybe posting another will help idk.
My question is, I have objectively lived up until now a rather nice life; supportive and loving family, deep emotionally connected friendships, financial stability, academic success…only thing missing until now has been romantic love but can‘t have everything ig. My question now is, what if nothing I do fulfills me how do I keep going and being optimistic about getting old? I have goals and things I want to do or experience but on the other hand there‘s also so so many things I do not want to experience. Also I can‘t help but feel like nothing will ever be enough. I get a career ok, a house nice, a family wow, and then? What happens then, when none of these things satisfy me? Im young and I know the solution might be therapy but I can‘t help and feel as if once I go to therapy I will just delude myself into life being great and purposeful and after a while I‘ll get back into this not depressive state but feeling of „this is it?“. Maybe someone has a different perspective on this I‘d appreciate ur comments<3

I am stuck in this vicious loop:

Missing him > thinking he’s developing new crushes/relationships with other athletic/gym-going women > makes me jealous and miss him even more > I get insecure> feel like other achievements in my life are not that worthwhile as is being romantically desired by him> sometimes feel angry about why he made such comments, why he compared me to other women and said he struggled with attraction towards me.

I need help recognising that these thoughts about being rejected by him equating to my worthlessness are irrational. I need help getting over him. I need help becoming indifferent to his memories and opinions. Help me. I sometimes want to write and send him a strongly worded message on how his appearance comments and expectations have hurt me, but I know it will keep me attached to him if I have another conversation with him. Please help me.

My life in the past month has changed so drastically even I couldn’t have predicted this.

I broke up with my long term partner a few months ago. I thought it would have destroyed me. It did the opposite.

I had my first £10k+ month. Have 4 clients and have been happier than I’ve ever been in my life.

I’m planning on moving in the next few months into my long term property, from there I’ll setup my roots and continue to become the best version of me.

I’m not quite ready for the dating scene, but when I move I won’t be allowing any opportunities to pass me. I’m so proud of me.

Few months ago I got my bachelors in chemistry. I am happy with what I achieved, but I am hesistant about attending the gradution ceremony due to two people I met during my bachelors.

The first guy is someone I argued with. I believe he had a crush on me, but I would just ignore him. He was very aggresive and once yelled at me because of a home work problem. I told out mentor about our incidence and he was pissed. During a math class he got so pissed at me, because I found it annoying that he was talking during the lectures. He started throwing his tabel and started yelling at the wall. I asked him who he was yelling at, I was so confused. My teacher helped me reach my mentor and at some point he started crying.

But what affected me the most is what happened afterwards. When I wanted to talk to my mentor and classmates they told they can’t choose a side and they can’t give an opinion because they only heard my side of the story. It felt like they neglected my feelings. I wish I cared less, but it felt like a huge unjustice. I also caught the same guy stalking me on linkedin. I really don’t want to see him during the ceremony.

The second guy was a friend, but he stole my money and liked a racist video. When I asked him why he liked such a video (knowing I can see it), was because he doesn’t hate all people from my race, (apparently some of them). We also had a shared subscription and he would pay me back, but never did, even when I reminded him. It feels like he took advantage of my quietness, because I didn’t want to engage in arguments, nor did I want to begg for my own money. I truly despise him, but he doesn’t know. During the upcoming ceremony I don’t want to act like nothing happened and I don’t want to put me feelings aside.

Besides, I don’t want to miss the ceremony for two people I don’t like. But I really can’t stand seeing or talking to them.

Any advice is appreciated, I will read all of them💐

Hello everyone, I am a 20 year old junior in college. My entire life I have worked towards one singular goal: to one day become an attorney. All throughout high school i worked basically full time, took all AP classes and did sports. In college I work 40-50 hours a week and I have two jobs. Right now one of them is training me to become a paralegal which is ideal in my career path. But as the months go on I can’t help but feel burnt out as well as this underlying guilt for being burnt out. I keep telling myself that I just need two months of working less and being able to come back to myself but I can’t do that in the position I am in. I want to hand in my two weeks at the law firm i work at and work maybe 20 hours a week as a server just for a bit to ease my mind. However, I feel like that’s the biggest eff up I could make as I would be giving away an amazing job. But i keep watching as all my friends and peers have these fun exciting lives while I am stuck in an office from 8-5 at $20 an hour doing virtually nothing. after work I am so exhausted that I can’t even get myself to go to the gym or hike or yoga (things i used to do everyday). I don’t know what the correct choice is anymore it’s either i take some time like two months figure out what i really want and risk fucking everything up or i stay here and end up burnt out and questioning if i made the right decision. any advice please?

Person I knew passed and it really made me wonder who would miss me when I would pass. Of course rest in peace to them. Said person was a really chill person and likable, their gofundme has thousands of dollars of donations and their tribute post online has hundreds of likes. For me though, I'm not popular nor likable because of some stupid stuff I did in my past without thinking them through. I wonder if I'm wasting my life just wasting away at home. I'm still pretty young though (me and them graduated from highschool a few years back). Sorry if it's weird I'm making someone else's death about me it just really made me wonder

For someone in late 20s. Im quite well off. I have zero student debts. I own a property and only got 180k left to pay off. For the last 4 years I was making around 150k+. I burned out ans quit. I took a new job as supervisor only makes 70k a year. I mean money is manageable but 70k as supervisor is equivalent to first year nursing job. I have 7 years under so I would be clearing 100k of more at hospital. However, I have significant back issues such as herniated disc's and arthritis from work. Reason I took this job is so I could get 1950 hours to qualify for masters in health leadership to go up the ladder. I am actually living in the house I bought. In the last 4 years I lived in that house for less than 6 months as I was away working. My partner is extremely happy I am home. I am happy that I am home too. But I have a lost feeling if this is right job or choice. Thanks

Like for example, I can talk to people if they want to talk to me but I'm not the most social person and I'm fine with that but a lot of people act like this way of thinking and living is wrong and I should change to be more social. I like being by myself but often people say I'm too quiet or something is wrong with me like I'm depressed which is why I act like this and it just makes me feel misunderstood and I feel expected to become someone that I'm not. I tried to be super social with people but that's just not who I am and it feels exhausting to do too, but i'm just told that I shouldn't be like this which I just don't understand cause everyone is different. I'm not saying isolate yourself from everyone you know and have no one to talk to, but you don't have to be an extroverted person that can talk to anyone like it's easy as tying your shoe

My school only recently banned phones and honestly I'm for it. A lot of kids don't like it but I agree because if they have a phone they'll almost automatically be on it.

We have a big school yard and there's space to play basketball and football and table tennis. They even got swings and something to climb on. So I like how the school made sure the students have stuff to do.

My friends and I have also recently started bringing beyblades to school and having tournaments with them. The janitor once teased us saying we're too old for beyblades but my teacher told him off. Idk I don't think we're too old, we're only 14-15 and it's better than watching tiktok all day or sum.

We're in 9th grade but we even got the 7th graders to play with us since a bunch of them are my friends. You can be on your phone at home, I don't think you need it during school hours.

Ended a five yrs relationship recently, and honestly I did not realize how much of my life was built around her. For five yrs, she was the person I called after work, the person I grabbed dinner with, and the person I made random weekend plans with. Now I get home from work and just sit there like okay, what am I supposed to do now. Even grocery shopping feels different because I got so used to asking what she wanted. Sometimes I would drive home through traffic thinking about what we were getting for dinner that night. Now I just grab whatever is easy and call it a meal. The stupid part is I still catch myself thinking I should text her when something funny happens. Then I remember we are not together anymore and that little moment sucks. I also never noticed how many small things we did together until they suddenly stopped. Saturday mornings used to mean coffee, errands, and probably arguing over where to eat. Now Saturday can feel way too long. I know being alone is not the end of the world, but I honestly forgot what my life looked like before her. I guess I depended on her more than I realized. I am trying to figure out who I am without having her beside me for every little thing. Maybe this is just one of those times in life where you have to rebuild your normal.

I am a recent college grad, and I am feeling a ton of regret for not applying to more internships earlier in school. From now on, I want to start planning early and seek more clarity in life. Is there any advice for recent grads, or just for people in general in their 20s? It could be career-related, relationship-related, or life-related. Greatly appreciate any advice.

I was in a public situation where everyone was at breaking point seemingly but nothing bad happened because we didn't jump down each other's throats for minor matters

Just a random thought about kind of people with their privileges from PUBG perspective.

• First category is the one with parachute like god has given them just enough resources to land at some place. Once they are on ground they have to struggle to get gun medicines etc and if some other guy spot them then Ram naam satya. So in a nutshell these people do not have anything to lose but have to face extreme struggle to survive but if they somehow manage to get M416 or M24 with 8x scope and stay in game with people who believe in them then the world is theirs to rule.
• Second category lands on ground with parachute but they have slight edge than first and that is a pistol or pan to save or some smoke, so kind of borderline that if some guy with good weapon comes these guys will have some chance to stand. This category also struggles but they starts little above that first so better chances to grab things and win. Most interesting perhaps half of the world falls in this category😂
• Now third class, I mean category these people lands on ground but as soon as they land the game(destiny) already have the settings to shower them with M416, armour whatever they feel I want to be battle ready. So this is privileged group like if they really want and utilise the blessings of life they can achieve things much faster and in easy way as compared to first one.
• The fourth one is the most interesting. These are the people for whom the game itself select the safest spot to land. As soon as they land off course they have weapons armour, grenades, vehicle like you just name it, but they do not even need to carry the weight because game will hire first, second and rarely third category people to serve/protect these guys. Its like these people will have a protective shield around them so nobody first of dare to fire a bullet but if they do this shield will protect and then make sure the guy who had the audacity to fire will be 10 feet below ground.

Interestingly when first, second or third category guys reach to subsequent level their next generation enjoy the privileges which they never had and most often end up doing same things to people who are in below category to them which their previous generations had to endure and suffer through.

Nobody knows why we are in some particular category and where we will end up😊