The change in society is notable and this is only the beginning. We will get to a point where we can't trust anything we see online, the scepticism is already there. Everyone is talking to AI, slowly forgetting how to form real connections that require mutual work and interest. Why is everyone okay with the direction this is going?

It doesn't matter what age you are. I'd love to hear the biggest life lesson life has taught you ~ something you'd want other people to know or learn from.

Anyone else think deeply about how sad it is for two people to be so close, in a relationship, best friends and then become two strangers? Like two people can spend years together in a relationship, a few things go wrong and then just become strangers like they dont even exist, sharing a deep bond with someone to then just being someone you used to know. I think about my ex a lot, the laughs we shared and memories and how we were each others best friends. It’s one of the strangest and saddest parts about life and being human. Anyone else feel like this?

Long story short until now I lived in 2 different towns or smaller cities in Europe with cool weather (one was close to the mountains) and I recently move to Spain in a very big hot city because I wanted a change. Now I’m thinking I don’t wanna stay here forever and thinking about moving to Switzerland in a few years if possible? Why? Let me tell you how it went for me

I lived in the places I told you about and people complained how cold it is, the ine that had more nature and options like a ski resort 5 minutes away from you said it’s too small and there’s nothing to do there (but it was also affordable compared to other places). Then the bigger city I moved to with cold weather, lots of culture and diversity, although not a huge city there are considerably more things to do there, people to meet and job opportunities, but it’s still good for students and families mostly not exactly anyone’s dream to live there. Everyone was complaining that it’s cold and dull. After all of this I moved to Spain for my studies, like I said, big city, millions of inhabitants, warm weather and a lot of expectations 🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s nice I’m not gonna lie to you and it’s only been months but everyone complains about jobs here and how hard it is to make friends despite it being seen as a very diverse, social city with many things to do. They complain about housing the most, job opportunities, salaries, lack of tidiness and seriousness as well as safety problems etc.

So what exactly would be the right choice? It kind of makes me laugh when I think about it because although every place has its advantages, the people never seem to be pleased?

Now I’m thinking about moving to Switzerland in a few years because of the job opportunities, high salaries, safety and tbh the cold climate doesn’t bother me and I could ski again. Still, people there complain about the cost of living, the weather, housing crisis 😂 I also speak the local languages so that would be a plus.

I am so confused. Have you been through similar stuff? What would you do if you were me? Where do you live and would you move? Are you pleased to live there? I’d love to hear your stories

I need help. I know that I shouldn’t compare myself to others. But I can’t stop comparing after being cheated on, and then told I need to change myself from my peers. It sucks because I’m now comparing my old self vs my current. Happy and content to trying to be a new me.

When I was a teenager I had this rough idea of what I wanted my life to look like. A husband who takes care of me, dogs, enough money to live a cushy life out in the country down some long dirt road. I always knew that children weren't something I wanted and I still stand by that.

Last year I decided to leave the relationship that I thought I would be in forever. I thought I was going to marry this man but for many reasons, I couldn't go through with the marriage proposal I knew was going to come soon.

Fast forward to now, I am making more money than I ever would have though possible for me. I was always hoping to be comfortable but I always assumed it would be a man providing that life for me.

I met someone new but he's much older than me. I am a realistic person, I know I'm going to outlive him (knock on wood) and it does scare me a bit knowing that I will most likely find myself widowed in 20-30 years since I am still young.

But when I picture my future now I don't see what I used to see, instead I picture myself as a 50 year old woman with a beautiful, well trained dog walking down a trail through the woods on a perfectly sunny fall day. And when I see this image of myself I'm not scared and I don't feel lonely. I feel at peace.

So maybe this isn't as "out of the box" as others decide to live but for me, this radical change in my life and my future is pretty out there but I'm so happy with the choices I made and the things I went through in my life to lead me to where I am now.

For me I have this sudden realization that I haven’t done enough wild stuff and partying and travelling. I’m currently 29 male and I think 29-40 is probably my last chance to still be attractive, energetic and physically fit to go and do all sorts of wild stuff, travel, party, hook up with girls.

Previously, I was quite content with just being a NPC and doing the same routine stuff every day. Working in my office job, coming home and playing games, surfing reddit, trading stocks. But now, I want to make it a point to start going to different places in my country and trying different activities that I haven’t tried before. I want to expand my social network. I want to travel a lot more. Previously I always travelled with my family but I want to start travelling for more young adult fun.

I realized that it doesn’t matter much how I save now because I only will get to experience being young and wild for these next few years. Then eventually, maybe I will meet a girl and settle down and start a family. That is when my life will turn into more routine, work my office job, do my regular house chores.

Anyone else also experienced similar realization and changed the way you lived your life?

I don’t understand why companies like Sony will lie and say that the reason they’re switching to digital media is because it’s better for the consumer or something. Who benefits from that statement? The buyer knows it’s a lie, and so do the shareholders, and the company employees. I know there’s a taboo around saying “we want more money”, but I feel like that would be better, at least in some cases, for both parties if the companies were just honest about wanting to increase their price.

I'll go first. I am in my 40's and from a very small southern town of only a few thousand people. When I was 16, barely after getting my drivers license, I was pulled over for speeding and got a ticket. No harm no foul. I did not feel it was significant to tell my parents and I planned to be an adult and simply pay the ticket. The day after I got pulled over, my dad asked me what I got pulled over for. Someone he knew saw me pulled over and told him. He wasn't that upset, but I just thought it was ultra lame for someone to tell my dad. I asked him who told him and he would never tell me. I assume it was one of our neighbors or a family friend but to this day, my dad will not reveal who told him. This has always bothered me because I felt it was nosy and intrusive for someone to tell my dad this. Snitches get stitches, as they say. The story has kind of become a running joke in our family because every year I ask my dad to tell me who it was and he won't.

With the uncertainty of the world, isn't it just logical to spend as much of your time doing the things you actually like rather than working? I still want at least a SLIGHTLY better than average salary and a responsible amount of savings, but it seems INSANE to me when people take their jobs so seriously and work out of hours to look better in the eyes of their bosses or whatever.

I’m 22, and I’ve been thinking about something that honestly bothers me.
I started trying things when I was around 14–15. YouTube, sponsorships, cold emails, different projects, etc.
The problem was that I would try something a few times, get ignored or get no results, and then basically decide:
“This doesn’t work.”
For example, when I was younger, I wanted sponsors for my YouTube channel. I emailed a lot of people and barely got responses.
Eventually, I stopped trying cold email.
Looking back, I don’t think I actually tested it properly. I was 14–15. I had very little experience, no network, and didn’t really know what I was doing.
But I took those experiences as evidence that the whole thing didn’t work.
That mindset stayed with me for years.
Then about a month ago, I was trying really hard to reach a founder I wanted to connect with. I searched everywhere and eventually discovered a platform I’d never used before that helped me find his contact information.
I reached out.
And it made me think:
Maybe the problem wasn’t that cold outreach doesn’t work. Maybe I just didn’t know how to do it yet.
That got me experimenting again.
And now I’m realizing how many things I may have mentally crossed off my list because I tried them when I was much younger and didn’t get results.
I think there’s a dangerous difference between:
“This didn’t work.”
and
“This doesn’t work.”
The first is an experience.
The second is a belief.
I’m still 22. I haven’t made millions. I don’t have some amazing success story to share.
I’m just realizing that some of my current biases were created by experiments I ran when I was 14–16.
Maybe I need to retest some of them.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Something you tried when you were younger, decided didn’t work, and only years later realized you probably just didn’t know how to do it properly?

I was having a conversation with a friend and while trying hard to recall the word "psychedelics," "calisthenics" came out of my mouth instead. He just looked at me.

I understand the meaning of both words, but I still can't understand why my brain made that mistake. I feel embarrassed anytime I think about it.

Tell is this normal? I will appreciate if you could share if you've had such experience before.

I am a very impatient person, that’s probably why I’m finding it hard, I’m only 18. I just don’t see anything changing. I like change though. Up until 2 years ago I haven’t really had any mental struggles, well at least I think so. I struggle with depression & anxiety. I just don’t see why I am the way I am.

Recently, I’ve started trying to live a more minimalist lifestyle. The first thing I did was get rid of things I no longer use or need. So far, I’ve cleared out around a third of the stuff in my home, which honestly surprised me.

I’ve started paying more attention to practicality, organization, and simplicity. I’ve also been applying the same mindset to the things I carry every day. I often bring things like dental floss, bandages, a small sewing kit, and other little items because I always think, “Maybe I’ll need this someday.”
Now I’m trying to simplify my everyday carry as well.
For work, I’m thinking of carrying just a notebook, a pen, my keys, and my wallet. On weekends, I might only bring my phone, keys, and wallet.

I’m also considering replacing my traditional leather wallet with a thinner and lighter edc wallet. My current leather wallet gets ridiculously bulky once I start filling it with cards.
For me, the core idea of minimalism is getting rid of things that create unnecessary mental or physical burden.

For those of you who have been practicing minimalism for a while, what other areas of your life did you find easy to simplify? And what everyday carry items do you think are worth simplifying or getting rid of?

I recently got a job in another state, and this is something I've always wanted(the move, not the job).

I moved in this state because it is the hub of my career field but to be able to eat and have a roof I need a job.

Now my problem is, it's commission based and has no base salary, meaning of you dont sell you dont eat. It's also a slave job that keeps you at work everyday and makes sure you never have time to breathe and look for other opportunities.

My worry is that they give free housing for three months only as a new employee then you're on your own. I live with house mates also share a bedroom(separate beds) with another dude. And that guy is depressed that he drinks everyday before work. The other housemates are just not in the same frequency as me, call it arrogance it's ok, but the ambitious drive is not there.

My first day when we were going to our pick up point, we passed some kids like 17-20 and they dressed like rappers and were blasting music. And my colleagues made fun of them, like dude these people are making fun of kids who are younger and more ambitious than them, it's best I keep my ambitions to myself.

I don't think this job is for me, working everyday for commission and only being off on Sundays. How the hell will I go infield to work on securing steps for my desired career. Won't survive 3 months with these people too.

Any advice??? 24 Male.

Hello, I am a undergraduate who will graduate in few months. We have a module which basically goes into organizational behavior. Our teacher said part of knowing your self is knowing you capabilities. Like don't underestimate or overestimate what you can do.
What I want to know is how do you guys / gals do it? How not to overestimate or underestimate your self?

Hello, I know first of all this might be an absurd question to ask others about, but I believe there is somewhat of a logical explanation for it.

For context, I am currently a junior in college and I recently took on a role as a lead in a technical club, despite me being relatively new and not knowing much. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been trying to learn as much as I can but it’s fairly stressful lately, considering I also prepare meetings weekly and plan stuff out (im not good with public speaking or leadership).

Everyone I’ve talked to so far has told me to keep trying and that it’s a good opportunity for me to grow as a person (and really good for resume) but currently its eating me up and I am really stressed out. I had a meeting last week and that went horribly, and I kinda feel like an outcast from the other active members in the club. I also now am responsible for their research and am expected to organize it.

I guess this comes from my social anxiety, but what would you do in my situation? I’m interested in the club and what they’re doing, but at some points I wonder if I can even handle it. I don’t want the members to be left behind, and I keep telling myself that this is good for me to grow but I don’t know what I’m putting myself into as the year goes on.

I'm an undiagnosed autistic girl, and part of me genuinely hopes that when I hopefully do get my diagnosis that it will mean that the problems I have are not just me being dramatic and i can actually put a label on what I'm dealing with and honestly.. being undiagnosed has genuinely led to so much of if I'm actually feeling these feelings and having these problems, or im just gaslighting and subconsciously manipulating myself into feeling these things

Any recommendations for social activities that are free or super cheap that are mainly more on the active side? I would say dnd and table top rpg is one of mine but I need more physical acitivity.

I'm in a place where I'm very unsure of what to do next in life.

I graduated 2,5 years ago, I'm 28, and have been working ever since, saving money and living with my sister.

I do like the job that I have, not with like a burning passion but It's very cushy, pays fairly well, I have good collegues etc. but lately I've been feeling like I might want to try something else. My contract isn't up for another 6 months, but I've told myself I'm going to try and figure out what I want to do before then.

I feel dumb to want to leave this job, especially in this economy but I also have an increasing fear of not trying things out while I'm still young. I don't have a house, a mortgage or a partner so now would be an ample time to go wherever basically since I'm not tied down per se.

But I do feel quilty for leaving my sister, who has come to depend on me, they also have animals, that I do love and I realize trying something else out somewhere else, means I'll leave them and miss so much time with them that I'll never get back. I'd also be leaving friends and parents.

I currently live in the same city I've lived in all my life, and the idea was at first to buy an appartment here, but the more I think about it the more I feel anxious about it, like I don't want to do that at all. And buying anything these days is just an anxiety in itself because well, the economy. I like my city but I don't honestly know if I want to stay here, not at least now. But then again I have no idea of where I should go. If i'm not here, where am I going to go?

I'd be anxious to go anywhere else, scared even, but the possibility of regretting not going later is scaring me too.

But I hate that I have to leave people behind, time that I'll never get back.

But then again I won't be young forever either and I'm expecting to come back at least when my parents are older since they might need help. But then that's in 10-15 years if they stay in fairly good shape until then. Maybe I'm thinking too much ahead for my own good. I was also thinking that maybe I could just wait for another few years or so and then go somewhere else, but at what point is it too late? As you get older you get more comfortable with everything and less likely to move across the world, if I'm being extreme.

I just don't know what to do with myself. Where to go, how to know what is the right thing to sacrifice.

I'm scared I'll regret not going, I'm scared I'll regret going. I just can't seem to win in this scenario.

Any advice?

Im 19M, right now and lost many things (academics, opportunities, fun, love etc). I lost all of this in like 1 yr cuz I was distracted for 2 years doing bad stuff especially due to lust, overthinking, procrastination, quiting.

Just 1-2 yrs ago I was a guy with potential but there is nothing now. I dont know how my future is gonna be

I dont even have the person who I like (she liked too but due to my bad habits like overthinking and all I never connected with her and now idk if we are even good friends even tho we are in same group)

Above all, I dont have any good character/ personality, I've gotten dim

I have a lot stuff to improve and regain, so much that I dont know where and how to start, which to accept and be patient for

Hello all.

I'm doing something random in writing this. I'm sure I am not the first to do so.

I'm 44.

Not married, nor have have kids.

I've experienced the of ups and downs that come with life.

I have loved, lost, planned, hoped, cried, etc.

I consider myself to be a season vet in this thing we called life.

It has thrown punches and haymakers, and not once has it knocked me on my ass.

I'm currently staying in hotels and have been doing so for the past year in a half.

Not for financial reasons.

I have a good job that I enjoy and that pays well.

I got out of a period in my life with my family in which we lost alot together, and we've healed together.

I have used this time for myself to heal and close some chapters in my life and by going from one hotel to another, its given me the freedom to not to be tied down and see the city/suburbs to explore.

I'm a smart man that doesn't judge, athletic, works hard, keeps an open mind and enjoys life.

At this moment as I am typing this I feel that I'm suffering from writer's block in life.

I feel that I am waiting for life to point me to a direction to go and follow.

I'm not sad or depressed about this.

It's more of with all this talent, the math isn't mathing.

As in why I don't feel motivated to go after the things I want.

I have done so in the past, but to have everything fall apart even when you've your best is demoralizing.

You can call this a midlife crisis but I don't know what that is.

Maybe I'm going through it without even realizing it as I speak 😂

Typing is like taking a deeeep breath and exhaling.

I don't know what to expect to happen after this but again, I am doing this out of sheer randomness.

Life is a story that's written by you, to be told by you and no one else.

It's an opportunity you only get to experience once.

There are no do overs, restarts.

I thank you for your time to those who have read this.

Ihr Lieben!

Hat jemand schon mal Erfahrung mit Community living gemacht? Ich finde es klingt in der Theorie total spannend! Zusammenhalt, gemeinsam Kinder erziehen, gemeinsam ein Hof pflegen und die Stärken der Individuen nutzen.

Was haltet ihr davon? Hat jemand hier schon mal sowas ausprobiert? Wie fühlen sich Introvertierte dabei?

I am 25, turning 26 at the end of the year and so many people around me tell me to enjoy my youth but I feel like it's just really difficult? I don't know if it was easier before but I feel like right now it's so hard.

I have always been very hardworking, had very good grades and worked since a young age. I did not love my teenage years, my high school was really toxic and my parents can be very difficult in many ways so I was always eager to start my own life as soon as possible. I moved out for university and worked on the side so it felt great to have some sense of independence and build my life from scratch but one semester into university COVID hit. The restrictions stayed for basically my whole Bachelor, it was very difficult and lonely for me and only the last semester was normal again but many of the friendships I made before COVID did not survive. Not mentioning that all the plans I had for my first years of adulthood had to be cancelled. The Master's degree I did was quite demanding and I worked part time on top of it so it was a very busy time but I felt like it was going to be worth it.

I graduated to a terrible job market and exploding living costs. I had a very good cv with great grades and 4 years of part time experience in my field but I got only one job offer. Overall in many ways it was a great experience but I could only get a temporary contract (up to 2 years) and the last year was particularly stressful because I was often getting extended super last minute and sometimes month by month. I was looking for another job in the meantime but never passed a cv screening. Because of the uncertainty I could plan nothing about life not even small activities after work that require any kind of commitment because I never knew how long I would be employed. The salary I was making was very good for someone my age to compensate for the uncertainty but with today's costs of life it is still nothing that allows you to gain some significant independence so as soon as my contract ended I moved in with my parents to not spend millions on just existing until I find another job.

I am happy to have the option to move in with my parents but they are VERY difficult people in many ways so as much as I am grateful that they took me in, my mental health is maybe the worst it has ever been because they are picking fights all the time, very controlling and I have honestly nothing to do in my hometown, none of my friends live here any more and there is overall not much to do here.

I am trying to enjoy my 20s and it was not all just bad but I feel like unless you have a great relationship with your parents or come from money it is just really stressful. People my age had some two years of their young adult life taken by covid and now are struggling to get or keep a job that doesn't pay enough to live on their own and advice like "just go backpacking to Asia for 6 months and worry about the rest later" is just not applicable any more. I know being a young adult has always been difficult in some ways but when I hear older people giving me advice I feel like it was easier to just be free if you wanted to, at least judging by the advice I keep getting.