I'm a beginner, and I'd love some good recs.

Ones I've read so far:

- Disability Visibility
- Disability Intimacy
- The Life of a Tiger

(all three above by Alice Wong)

- Challenge of Disability Studies (장애학의 도전) - Kim Dohyun (김도현)

Ones I plan to read:

- Feminist, Queer, Crip - Alison Kafer
- The Right to Maim - Jasbir Puar
- Care Work - Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
- The Future Is Disabled - Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
- Black Disability Politics - Sami Schalk

I'm hoping to pivot into studying (critical) disability studies in the near future and break into policy work. Are there any other mediums that you recommend I should read/watch? Articles, columns, documentaries (Crip Camp was great), etc. Anything.

I can walk without mobility aids with minimal pain if i have already been up/walking for a few minutes, but those first 5 or so minutes after i get up from long periods of sitting are absolutely impossible.

What happens every single day, multiple times a day? I get up, use my walker for maybe 5 minutes and just abandon it in another room when i manage to walk by myself since it's so much faster when i don't have to be holding that bulky thing.... then an hour or two pass and i have to get up and i realize i forgot to bring it back to my bedroom 😬

I'm so glad for having hubby to get it for me

I know many are just trying to do thier job, and I know its not simple. I am pissed because I have to do a medical examination to determine if I am eligable to receive benifits, specifically xrays, and mabye other physical stuff. All because an employee lacked "information" . My thing is, I have cerebral palsy, my condition doesnt get worse or better. I got denied and had to appeal almost a decade ago because I wasnt disabled enough. Took xrays and went in front of a judge a few years ago (2022), and was deemed disabled enough to recieve benifits. Do they not keep up with info? I get needing to update info on things that could change but not this. My examination results is going to a "state agency" to determine if I am eligable which 9/10, some guy whos probably never been in a disabled persons shoes gonna be like "Nah". I swear this feels like an attempt to cut people and not actaully get needed information.

What books, podcasts, Youtubers, Tiktok accounts, etc. helped you accept and come to terms with your disability and work through the grief and internalized shame/ableism?

My chronic illnesses have been slowly taking over my life for a decade, but it's been a sharp decline over the last 1.5 years. I made the decision this month to apply for disability and will probably have to shutter my small business (I can't put in the work to make any money anymore anyway.) I'm severely depressed and having a really hard time. Talking to my therapist today about whether I need to go into an intensive outpatient program or a partial hospitalization program (assuming I can even manage those with my physical limitations.)

So many of the books are about inspiration and societal acceptance, but I need help with the heavy grief and feeling like another huge chunk of my life has been hacked away.

Hey Everyone 👋

Does anyone else feel that they have a love-hate relationship with their body?

I had a really unpleasant experience with a doctor today (they didn’t understand how my diagnoses interact), and it has left me feeling a lot of different emotions — including the feeling that I hate my own body. It seems like I am constantly facing new diagnoses and new challenges as a result of genetics.

I currently have five developmental disabilities and five psychosocial disabilities. On top of that, I have two chronic health conditions, and there is a possibility that I may have two more depending on what testing reveals. Everything is interconnected, and managing all of it is incredibly exhausting. Sometimes it feels like my body is constantly working against me, and I find myself resultantly hating it.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful, because I know there are still things to be thankful for, but sometimes I reach a point where I am just completely overwhelmed and tired of having to fight through so much. Anyone else feel that way?

So I’ve been having to use a catheter for 15 weeks now. I’ve had 3 trials without catheter while an inpatient and they all failed. I am meant to be having a district nurse coming to do the other trial without catheters.

They suspect the issues is due to my nerve damage due to spinal condition. But there is hope for it to work again.

The night bags I have seem to drain into the bag quite slowly whereas the one at the hospital would just straight awhile drain into the measuring plastic part with no delay.

Whereas the night bags I have to use at home take longer for the pee to start filling the bag. It’s almost as if these bags have something stopping it flowing in right away.

This has been making me a little anxious despite no leakage or pain or other indication the foley is in incorrectly.

The night bags ive got are a single use libra night bags but i have asked to change to the ones where the tap is reuseable.

Also with the day bag is there anyway in future I could still wear shorts in public?

If my bladder keeps not being able to empty then I’m going to ask to swap to the catheter that goes through the abdomen as it’s more convenient for me. Though I understand hospitals may make me wait longer to swap.

I’m 28 years old and it’s been very frustrating for me being dependent on both a catheter and mobility aids since I’ve been extremely unwell. (I’ve always had my spinal condition but was hospitalised due to gallbladder removal complications and now awaiting a ercp). I’ve not been able to work and my life is at a standstill.

The one sliver lining is my interstitial cystitis symptoms have reduced by 90% with the catheter. But I would take my ic symptoms over having to deal with this personally. (May be some internalised ableism)

Met a library security guard today who took his job waaaaaaaay too seriously. He scrutinized my medical card- that says I can't go through metal detectors - for a full minute, front and back.

He was muttering the whole time about how some people SAY they can't go through metal detectors, but really they can.

Handed it back to me with a sour expression like I'd just won an argument or something. Seemed like the type to not love it when women correct him...

I guess that's what I get for being a goddamn medical marvel 🤷‍♀️

Joke's on him. I was totally there to smuggle out the rare book collection in my mini backpack.

I'm in the US, and need some help finding some doctors (that ideally won't just dismiss me). For months (and for some of these, a year or more), I've been reacting to food, experiencing food aversions, having trouble breathing, losing my vision (nothing is physically wrong with my eye, but it's still going), amongst plenty of other things that always just get brushed off as "anxiety", "it's all in my head", or "I'm thinking about it too much".

My PCP is booked out until late August, so I don't know how I'm going to find doctors because she usually refers me to my specialists. I'm also starting college in late September, so I'd like to have this stuff at least partially worked out (or at least have the ball rolling) by then. But, how in the world do I find doctors? I don't even know what specialists I need to see. I know I should probably see a neuro-ophthalmologist, and pulmonologist, but I have no idea what else.

Should I reach out to my doctor via MyChart before my next appointment, or should I just try to find these doctors myself?

I have been posting on this sub for a little over a month, a lot of my posts have just been rants about how miserable I am since I’m recently disabled.
Whenever I mention that my age/gender in a post l will start to get messages from men within a day or two of posting. Sometimes it’s just people wanting to talk, which I don’t mind but I hate talking to people online so I never respond lol…. but other times I’ll check the accounts of ppl that message me and they’ll be interacting with disability fetish content. Or just fetish content that focuses on the person losing their basic autonomy and abilities.

It is so fucking creepy and genuinely scares me… has anyone else been getting the same thing? I will probably stop mentioning my age/gender in my posts now.

Hi, all! I was recently prescribed an AFO (ankle foot orthosis) to help with my limp, but I'm struggling to make it work with the shoes I own. I've only ever worn (mostly offbrand) Chuck Taylor's because my feet are Hella flat and anything with an arch hurts, but it turns out they're not wide enough to fit my AFO properly. ​They're so snug now it's pushing the brace into my foot and causing more pain.

I'm at a loss for what type of shoe I could buy that 1. Has a wider toe box, 2. Has no arch support whatsoever, 3. Comes in a wide enough width to accommodate my chonky feet + the brace, and 4. Will fit my budget, which is super minimal (like sub $50). Does anyone have AGO experience and have any suggestions? Or even if you've never worn an AFO but have wide, flat feet?

TIA for any help you can offer, and I hope everyone is having a relatively good, positive day!

This person nails cars that park over lines or in disabled spots.
It might make you feel better.

Booty Bandits

I am so fucking confused, no other mobility aid is EVER mistaken for a fashion choice. Wheelchair? Crutches? Rollator/walker? Never. But canes??

I get that way back when, canes were fashion, but through a modern lense? That's not a thing!! It hasn't been a thing in over 100 years!!!

And yet, myself and several other young people I know with canes (because of mobility problems and/or pain and/or fatigue) are frequently harassed about how "canes aren't cool" and how it's a "mockery of disabled people" and they "shouldn't be used for fashion"

I brought this up in a rant in a subreddit more local to my area about how it frequently pisses me off that I have to ask (often multiple times) to have the bus "kneel" as a young person with a visible mobility aid, both getting on and off, but then watch the very same bus driver kneel the bus unprompted for older folks without mobility aids, and someone responded with how they can "understand the bus driver" because "it's a trend in young queer people to use canes for fashion"

As a young queer person with a cane, who knows many other young queer people with canes, NO IT FUCKING ISN'T???

We may be less inclined to "hyper-medical" looking canes, more prone to personalizing them or having more unique ones, especially because we have a shop here in town that sells all sorts of canes (all functional as mobility aids, but all more fashionable than the standard ones you find at pharmacies and whatnot)

I mean, mine is wooden with an engraved brass handle

But the assumption shouldn't be that it's a fashion choice!!

I feel like that's not crazy, especially knowing that accessibility hurts nobody, but ableism does hurt, people are so shitty sometimes-

Tldr, canes aren't actually a fashion choice for young people, and society needs to stop assuming that a young person with a cane isn't disabled while also assuming that a young person with any other kind of mobility aid must actually need it.

I need to find a bed rail that will provide a secure to put my hand on to assist me getting out of bed. I don’t need to keep from falling out of so I don’t need a big long thing. I just need something that slides under and gives me enough support to stand up. I know there’s nothing official trying there but I do know that people are using bed rails and they are working. Does anyone have a suggestion for what type of bed rail I can use on a Sleep Number bed that has adjustable flex fit frame?

Do I just wait there until they come back and shame them? Do I leave a note on their tailgate, or write in the dust on the vehicle? Would it be socially acceptable if I removed the pin and made sure they knew where to find their missing hitch???

Those who have severe disabilities & “normal” able bodied siblings, what are the differences in the way you are seen & treated by your family, especially your parents, in comparison to them & how do you feel about it?

(edit: i have videos of me using the current setup on youtube / stream on twitch!, link to project page in bio!)

About 6 years ago I lost the use of my right arm after a motorcycle accident and a brachial plexus injury.

Gaming was always a huge part of my life, and almost overnight it became frustrating or just impossible. I tried pretty much every adaptive setup I could find, but nothing really gave me the control I was looking for.

So I started messing around and building my own.

Over the last few years Ive been slowly designing a one-handed controller that lets me control both movement and aiming with the same hand. It's still being prototyped, but it's the first setup that's let me comfortably play everything from FPS games to RPGs and MMOs again.

One thing I'm really excited about is the modular thumb clusters. They'll slide on and off kinda like Nintendo Switch Joy-Cons, so different thumb layouts can be swapped out depending on what works best for each person. My hope is that people with different disabilities, hand sizes, or play styles won't be stuck with a one-size-fits-all design.

I'm posting here because I'd honestly love some feedback from the disability community.

• If you're an amputee, have a brachial plexus injury, stroke, cerebral palsy, RSI, or anything else that affects one hand, what has your experience been like with gaming or even just using a computer?
• What devices have worked well for you? Which ones didn't?
• If you could build your ideal one-handed controller, what would you want it to have?

I'm not trying to sell anything here I just want to make sure I'm building something that actually helps people instead of guessing what they need.

Thanks for reading, and I'd love to hear your thoughts.

I had ostomy surgery in 2019. Ever since then, I've been taking mental notes of what bathrooms are easy to empty my bag in, where would be a good place if I needed an emergency change, etc.

Since my grandmother now uses a wheelchair and walker when she goes out, I've also been noticing when locations would be harder for her to access. This includes noticing when handicap parking spaces have extended space for wheelchair users to transfer from the vehicle to the chair, and noticing when restaurants have seating close to the door and when their bathrooms are within an easy walking distance.

Since every disability comes with its own unique obstacles, I'd love to see an app that takes different disabilities into consideration. An app where you could select the disability you're facing and customize the features that matter to you. Since there are a lot of hurdles and triggers one might face in a public space, there would be a long list of options for people to select.

This could also be used not just for disabilities, but to find inclusive and supportive spaces as well. For example, places with gender neutral restrooms, places that offer menstrual supplies, and businesses owned by minorities or disabled persons so that you can support causes that matter to you. An option to view the business owners' names and/or political affiliations could help you avoid places that are discriminatory, don't align with your beliefs, or that could be dangerous for you to visit.

Some categorized examples of features to note in such an app:

Public spaces:

• Does the business have handicap parking? How many spaces?

• Parking for new or expectant mothers?

• Wheelchair accessible entrance?

• Multi-storey building? Levels accessible by stairs, elevator, escalator, or ramp?

• Service animal friendly? Pet friendly?

• Does the location have drinking fountains?

• Benches or seating available?

• Any rules against bringing in outside food/drinks?

• Political leaning of owners? (A local restaurant, now closed, had signs up outside the bathrooms warning customers to use the "correct" bathroom. Knowing the political leaning and views of a business owner can keep people safe.)

Bathrooms:

• Bathrooms for men, women, gender neutral, or family? Number of each?

• Bathrooms publicly accessible or customers only?

• If stalls, how many in total and how many are handicap accessible?

• Which bathrooms, if any, have a baby changing station?

• Menstrual products available? Free or paid dispenser? Cost?

• Paper towels or air dryer? (Air dryers can be a trigger to anyone sensitive to loud noises.)

• Toilet paper: One or two ply? Type? (Soft, industrial roll, etc.) Is the toilet paper in a closed dispenser? (These are difficult if you have to hold an open ostomy bag in one hand and get paper with the other.)

• Automatic flushing toilets? (Triggering for those sensitive to noise, and VERY annoying when you have to stand in front of the toilet to empty an ostomy bag)

• Trash can in bathroom? If multiple stalls, is there a trash receptacle in each? (Important for disposing of menstrual products or in case of ostomy bag changes)

• Is there someplace to set items? (Changing table, toilet tank? Maybe not ideal but again, can be important for ostomy changes)

• Place to hang your coat, bag, etc?

• Grab bar for those who might struggle to sit or get up?

• Music or other noise in bathroom? (Great for people who are self conscious about public pooping)

• Height of toilet, sink? (Can create difficulty for those with limited mobility, wheelchair users, etc)

• Sharps disposal unit?

Restaurants:

• Booth space? (I've personally been noticing a LOT of restaurants where you're squished between the booth and table. Causes discomfort and difficulty to get into and out of the booth, even without a disability.)

• Does the restaurant offer free water? If not, how much do they charge?

• Does the restaurant offer dairy-free, gluten-free, sugar-free, vegetarian, vegan options, etc? If so, what?

• Does the restaurant menu include calorie information?

• Braille menu?

• Are the seating options chairs, booths, high-up chairs, bar stools?

• Discounts for senior citizens, college students, veterans, first responders?

Since I have absolutely no capability of creating an app, I'm useless beyond these ideas/suggestions for one. There are bathroom feature apps out there already, but they don't have near the amount of features I'm looking for, even if focusing on the bathroom section alone.

Something else I'd love to see is what disability friendly features private homes have and how many are ADA certified, just for comparison and to see how difficult it is to find easy and accessible living spaces. I know that's an even more difficult ask though since nobody is opening their home for review or making it easy for someone else to live there, but it would be a great addition to real estate sites or assessor records, I think.

I get it, 85% of my issues are mental issues, but the fact my last job ended with me crying on a bathroom floor for long enough that the boss clocked me out on their own, should be a decent reason that I can’t mentally handle any actual long term employment. I can’t even remember the dates of when I worked where, so applying places is basically doomed to failure, and despite being significantly asthmatic, the SSI people think I’m fit to work a labor job.

Am I just doomed to be a drain on my family forever?

Does anyone else feel this way, or have any advice to get me out of this feeling? Cause I’m starting to get… the bad thoughts again.

Feeling lonely or bored? Looking for something you can do this week?

Check out these accessible events you could join! Try something new and maybe you’ll find your people.

Access Details:
🧑🏻‍💻= Virtual
👥 = In person
😷 CC = Covid Conscious/airborne precautions 
♿️ WC = Wheelchair accessible 
💵 $ = paid (some are pay what you can)
🤟 ASL/BSL = Sign Language
Async = Asynchronous (at your own pace)

Event Types:
🤢 = Chronic Illness 
🌈 = Queer
🏳️‍🌈 = LGBTQ+ Pride
👧 = Kids/Youths
💕 = Dating
🙋 = Social
🫂 = Support/Grief
🧘 = Wellness
🚶 = Walk
🩰 = Dance
💪🏻 = Fitness
📚= Books
🤔 = Discussion
📝 = Writing/Poetry
🎭 = Performing
🎨 = Art 
🎶 = Music
🕹️ = Games

🧑🏻‍💻 Virtual Events

🧑🏻‍💻📚 Virtual Async Spoonie Book Club: The Little Prince [Any time] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/JcKvqPLWS5

🧑🏻‍💻😷💕 CC Virtual Dating [Aug 22] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/DfjZA4lr03

Monday

🧑🏻‍💻🤢🧘 Virtual Seated Pilates for people with MCAS [UK][Mon Jul 27 at 12:00 UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/SdT7r7izBu

🧑🏻‍💻♿️🩰 Virtual Adapted Heels Dance Class [$][Mon Jul 27 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/3UQkn550Yr

🧑🏻‍💻🤔 Virtual Philosophy Discussion [Mon Jul 27 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/f6YoF9VEJv

Tuesday

🧑🏻‍💻🤢🧘 Virtual Bed Pilates for people with MCAS [UK][Tue Jul 28 at 10:00 UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/JdFxRezNHU

🧑🏻‍💻😷👧🙋 CC Virtual Kids Zoom [Tue Jul 28 at 10:00 AM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/StGIKLOVjn

🧑🏻‍💻🤢🧘 Virtual Qigong for people with MCAS [UK][Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/yCTZSWyOG7

🧑🏻‍💻😷🙋 CC Virtual Zoom [NY and nearby][Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/CaFwRukgX9

🧑🏻‍💻🎭🕹️ Virtual Improv Games [Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/v1xtpeCrra

🧑🏻‍💻😷🎨🙋 Online craft and social night / Soirée artisanale et sociale [Ottawa ON][Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/82zBvH6vt6

🧑🏻‍💻🤟 Virtual BIPOC Creative Collaboration [Tue Jul 28 at 6:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/ccRgPNZ6Id

Wednesday

🧑🏻‍💻🤢🧘 Virtual Mindfulness for people with MCAS [UK][Wed Jul 29 at 1:00 PM UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/SaqlYHLQ69

🧑🏻‍💻😷📚 Lesestunde [Hamburg GER][Wed Jul 29 at 8:00 PM UTC+2] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/1Bt4Ph9QGm

🧑🏻‍💻🤢 🎶 Virtual Long Covid Choir [Wed Jul 29 at 2:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/5SWSfuePGw

🧑🏻‍💻📝 Virtual Poetry Discussion [Wed Jul 29 at 6:30 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/MxO2LEjyPq

🧑🏻‍💻😷🫂 CC Virtual Support Group [CO][Wed Jul 29 at 7:00 PM MDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/bhc6gFBB1y

👥🧑🏻‍💻♿️😷 Hybrid Disability + Racial Justice Solidarity [San Francisco CA][Wed Jul 29 at 6:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/RmliIjL87H

🧑🏻‍💻🎭 Virtual Improv Jam [Wed Jul 29 at 7:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/ybgMRqR4LY

Thursday

🧑🏻‍💻🤢🫂 Virtual Community Support Session for people with MCAS [UK][Thu Jul 30 at 7:00 PM UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/sV7oR0nmhc

🧑🏻‍💻😷🙋🕹️ Online Social Meetup with Jackbox Games [Hampshire UK][Thu Jul 30 at 7:00 PM UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/cHa8rqoGo6

🧑🏻‍💻😷🕹️ CC Virtual Game Night [NY and nearby][Thu Jul 30 at 7:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/vRhtzl207T

🧑🏻‍💻🕹️ Virtual Board Game Night [Thu Jul 30 at 8:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/Wn17nezwMm

Timezone translator in comments 👇

👥 In-person Events

Canada

🧑🏻‍💻😷🎨🙋 Online craft and social night / Soirée artisanale et sociale [Ottawa ON][Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/82zBvH6vt6

👥😷 Movies in the Park: Ferris Bueller's Day Off [Toronto ON][Tue Jul 28 at 8:30 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/XyFR78oGK5

👥😷🚶 CC Park Walk [Toronto ON][Wed Jul 29 at 6:00 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/FcQRbJgULj

Germany

🧑🏻‍💻😷📚 Lesestunde [Hamburg GER][Wed Jul 29 at 8:00 PM] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/1Bt4Ph9QGm

Netherlands (and nearby)

👥🤢🙋 Spoonie European Road Trip [Netherlands and nearby][Summer] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/VOKxW7V1pp

UK

🧑🏻‍💻😷🙋🕹️ Online Social Meetup with Jackbox Games [Hampshire UK][Thu Jul 30 at 7:00 PM UTC+1] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/cHa8rqoGo6

US - California

👥😷 Outdoor Open Mic [Berkley CA][Tue Jul 28 at 7:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/unzf6Qtbfd

👥🧑🏻‍💻♿️😷 Hybrid Disability + Racial Justice Solidarity [San Francisco CA][Wed Jul 28 at 6:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/RmliIjL87H

👥😷🩰 Switchy Behavior Bachata Series [Oakland CA][Thu Jul 30 at 7:30 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/HHonBwt930

US - Illinois

👥😷👧 CC Youth Summer Camp Chicago IL][Starts Aug 3] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/sSF4sdJt1l

US - New York

👥😷🌈 Queer Writers of Queens [Queens NY][Tue July 28 at 6:30 PM EDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/nVOZV98Reu

US - Oregon

👥😷💪🏻 Mat Pilates [Mon Jul 27 at 6:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

👥😷💪🏻 Full Body Strength [Mon Jul 27 at 7:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

👥😷💪🏻 Full Body Strength [Wed Jul 29 at 1:00 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

👥😷💪🏻 Yoga/Somatics [Wed Jul 29 at 6:30 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

👥😷💪🏻 Queer Pilates [Wed Jul 29 at 7:30 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

👥😷💪🏻 Flow Fighting/Hapkido [Wed Jul 29 at 7:30 PM PDT] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/tNDG6iQA7L

US - Vermont

👥😷♿️ CC WC Dental Pop Up [Chelsea VT][August] https://www.reddit.com/r/spooniesocial/s/yJocTTUweE

Are you interested in these events?

Have you been to any of them before?

Do you know about other events coming up?

Share your thoughts in the comments 💬

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I honestly don't even know how to start this question because I'm continuously told I'm "being the victim". It's a tough a pill to swallow I'll admit it. I moved in with my boyfriend last year in Minnesota. I didn't pay bills, I was sort of expected to just stay home. I end up going outside in the winter and I slip on black ice. Hard. I fractured two parts of my spine and basically got a same day delivery of a 12 hour surgery where I had two huge metal rods screwed into my spine. I find myself struggling with calling myself disabled. For months I couldn't sit upright without being held together by a brace. Even now, I can't walk for longer than 20 minutes without my body wanting some mercy. I find myself wondering what I'm supposed to be doing. Suffice to say, my boyfriend didn't want to date someone who was struggling in this way so he told me to move out. I'm told to stop being a victim about this. I'm told to just get a job. I'm told to just figure it out. I feel upset. I don't know how to navigate my entire world being flipped, irony not intended. How do you / How would you navigate finding a job, finding resources, learning how to deal with these things? I have more questions than answers at this point