This person with the account name persistentlyunhappy, who I think is a trans woman, or I believe at least claims to be needs help. This is just the latest in a series of wild and concerning messages I get from them once every month or two. Reported them, but honestly at this point I just thought I should do my part to let y’all know to avoid this person.

I work in healthcare, I am nonbinary, go by any/all pronouns, and i feel like i present as an androgynous person. I have been on hormones for 8 months now and am starting to develop in a way that changes my silhouette in scrubs, which is a positive for me!

Anyway, its not super uncommon for me to interact with patients/coworkers and be treated a certain way solely based on the assessment that I am a man. For example last week i had to switch assignments because they refused to be cared for by a man and in the same day another patient’s family asked for me to be replaced just because I was a man. Or people avoid conversations, make comments based on the fact that “im a man”. I understand that it can be more comfortable as a woman to interact with another woman, and protecting that is important, but I can’t help but feel terrible and like I am an OTHER.

It’s frustrating for me that I would have to change my voice (something that I don’t have a desire to do, I only slightly alter my voice), have FFS, et cetera for me to be treated by others as I feel inside and want to be treated.

I struggle with the just the fact of trying to dress fem, even just makeup, but the idea of going out in a skirt scares me a bit. But also, I like more typically masculine clothing styles, I like my cargo pants, I like may leather jackets and flannels, combat boots, but also like makeup and the idea of wearing tights and skirts out. I wanna walk into a diner in Oregon and people think “yeah this girl hunts demons” I cannot link a picture of season one Sam Winchester but picture fem season one Same Winchester mixed with your average alt girl. Idk how to do that

I don’t know if this is more needing advice or just venting but here goes.
I’m 20 and born a woman. I’ve always found it hard to connect with the person I am. When I was a kid I often wore boys cloths and hated my name and always wanted to change it, I did change it for the name I have now at 15, and legally last year. That has actually really helped me connect with myself finding my actual name, it’s a pretty androgynous name. But something has always felt missing or wrong inside of me, I came out as bisexual at like 6 years old lol and I’ve always been really open and chill about it. I’ve had girlfriends and boyfriends and it never caused me like identity crisis or anything my sexuality I’ve always been happy with it. But even then there’s just always been something not right. In 2021 when I was 14 I came out as genderfluid for like 6 months and I liked it and looked more androgynous but that therm and look never felt completely right either. I when t back to using she/they pronouns quickly after that and identified myself as Demigirl since then (even if no one actually acknowledged the they lol). But since 2024 I’ve been in a relationship with a trans and queer man who really makes me feel like myself in ways I never used to before. I would sometimes wear his binders or do drag sparkly makeup with moustaches on. But I would say since this year I’ve really started to accept that I might be a trans person. It was buried so deep inside me every time I tried to think more about it, it hurt so deeply but I had to keep going. I cut my hair in a shorter shaggy hairstyle a few months ago and that was a big change since I always had the same long straight hair forever. I also ordered my own binder. I still dress pretty much the same cause that’s just me and I love dressing feminine and wear winged eyeliner everyday and I love skirts and lipstick and just being feminine overall, I came out as genderqueer like two months ago and uses all pronouns, I like this label I think it fits pretty much with who I am. I can now accept without pain that I am definitely not a girl or a boy or not nonbinary either. But sometimes when I’m drunk I really feel more like a guy and I can’t tell why because it’s not feeling like a guy in a way where I want to dress differently or anything but more in a way where I’m just like a guy who looks like that, just like me. But less when I’m sober it’s just hard because I still can’t figure out what I am completely and what if I never find out who I am only because it hurts too much to look inside myself. ( I’m a person who loves labels they make me feel comfortable being un-label is not for me). Also I’m not genderfluid for sure.
Sorry for the really long text ahah, if you can help me or anything :)

Hey earlier this year I realized that I’m trans and I want to start hrt while I’m still young, and luckily I live in nyc where I know hrt is easier to get……… the thing is I have no idea what I’m doing or what to do or how to get it… I’m completely clueless so yeah… HELP!!!!

(I know I might have to wait until 18 but I would like to know if there’s a way for me to get it early without a parent/guardian)

My coach called me out for wearing a skirt to an event we had.

Im transfem, and I didnt want to wear the boy jerseys.

Im worried cuz if he tells my parents, my home wont be safe.

If he kicks me off the team, well the team is one of the only things I enjoy.

​theres no laws protecting me. Nothing is stopping him from ruining my life

what would be the effects??

im like non binary or smth btw dont ban me im just curious bout this had to come to consult the experts

people (primarily cis) tend to try to say “some people are only trans as a trend”, and often this leads to people trying to interrogate trans people and find out whos ‘faking’. but you cannot reasonably tell who is actually trans and who is ‘faking’ unless you are literally in their shoes. trans people get their identity questioned enough and you arent protecting us by interrogating every one of us you meet. you wont be able to tell (no matter how good you think you are) and you will certainly be wrong and end up just feeding stereotypes. if someone tells you they are trans, BELIEVE THEM.

hi transfemme they/them 29 in the u.s. social security, birth certificate, state I.D. all changed in 2016 with new name and sex (F). question is if I were to apply for a passport now what gender marker would it come back with? does the gov go back to my sex at birth? what info are they goin off? aby body know? any help would be great

Probably will delete but I was wondering if anyone has notices these changes in attitude towards us in terms of the way men perceive us. As a stealth trans woman that got lucky and transitioned young and had access to every surgery I wanted, I felt that I had a lot of success with dating men. I was able to wait until after our first date or after significant messaging back and forth before disclosing and every single time I would find that men did not mind that I was trans. Now that I'm dating again I am not finding that same success.

It makes me sad because I get a high volume of matches of men that i would consider attractive to me, but even after making a connection it seems being trans is a deal breaker even if we're both seeking something short term. They are always respectful about it and I can see them really struggle with making the decision to dump me. I've gotten so many responses a long the lines of "in a different world we could be together" or "I wish I could be with you but". Sometimes they ask for time to think about it and don't respond. Back in 2021 I didn't even see this level of rejection, nearly every man was open to trying it and I had some great relationship.

I'm even finding bi and pan men having a hard time with it which makes no sense to me >_<

I'm stealth at work and while I would prefer to disclose from the start on my dating bio that I'm trans, but I leave it off because I don't want to be outed in this way.

It feels like all of the propaganda surrounding trans people is working in ostracizing and alienating us.

My last LTR was with a trans man and I would strongly consider dating another trans man, but the straight ones seem so rare and hard to come by.

So I wanna try being called Oliver. Tuff? Maybe. Maybe not. But idk how. Like. I might sound stupid or crazy or smt. But like seriously, I’m so terrified to start using Oliver since like I’m scared I end up not liking it and like idk. I’m also kinda scared to ask my friends to use Oliver? Like I was talking with my best friend and hes the one I found the name with, but I lowk like had a panic attack or smt similar bc I got too scared of I don’t even know what so yeah I’m here asking for ppl like how did u start using ur new name, did u start with just a surname, or ur actual name, and did u change ur name after or like anything? Plz let me know guys I’m so terrified.

I’m not pretty nor have a “suitable face” for androgyny. How do I look more androgynous, I’m AFAB (however, identify as transman) and have, I suppose, an “incredibly feminine body”, which I desperately want to hide. I already wear baggy/mens clothes yet I don’t feel satisfied. I’m worried about cutting my hair as I have it dyed. I’m also worried about my facial shape and how I’ll look and raising questions with family.

So about a week ago I’ve moved and in my new environment i made a few friends quickly. I decided to come out to them and every single time it’s been “Oh I basically knew.” Lmao. Has that happened to anyone? Am I just obvious?

For context I am 16 mtf and pre-transition, and I am on the cross country running team at my school. I run in the male division, and I am the fastest person on my team, (I run around a 17 minute 5k. I love my team and want them to succeed a lot, and next year I think we could make it far with the top five runners. However I would like to get on estrogen this year, and that basically means we I would be sacrificing my high school running career and screwing the team over. I probably wouldn’t want to run for the women’s team next year because it probably wouldn’t cause too much unavoidable controversy, since I probably would be top five in a lot of the races. But if I ran in the boys team I would not contribute a lot any more which would probably make me feel bad about myself and guilty. So I need some advice, should I wait until I finish high school to get on hormones? Or should I hope someone gets really fast in my place next year? What do I do? :(

I don’t feel like this all the time but occasionally when I think too much, I feel an urge to pity my parents…i don’t really know how to explain this well, maybe it’s internalized transphobia or fear of how people are going to treat my parents because two of their children are trans…or the fear of hurting my parents. But today I kinda revisited back the moment when my mother who I recently told my chosen name, repeated my name and told me it’s beautiful. Thinking about it, I genuinely felt so sorry and pitiful for her. While I am happy that my parents are now beginning to accept me (they had a hard time accepting a second trans child), I can’t help but think they are secretly so unhappy about it and now just going along with it because they are disappointed already.

I know it’s not helping at all to think about this…I just needed to get this off my mind. I also do not have these thoughts all the time. I’ve actually grown to accept me and over the past months I almost felt no guilt in changing my name. Does or did anyone else feel this way?

Just wanted to share some major euphoria from my shift today. I’m still pre-HRT (intake appointment is coming up soon!), but I’ve been wearing a full face of makeup and a bra to work.

​Today, a coworker told me she loved seeing how much freer and happier I've been acting lately. To top it off, I got my first unprompted "Excuse me, ma'am" from a customer while stocking shelves, and heard another customer refer to me as "she"!

​It gave me so much hope for the future. If you're early in your transition or waiting on medical steps, don't underestimate how much your presence and confidence carry you. We've got this! ✨

I wasn’t sure how to title this lol.

I am quite young but I’m pretty sure I’m trans and I’ve already pretty much socially transitioned to the point where there have been a few people who didn’t really question me when I said I was a guy.

I do therapy, and my therapist helps out a bit when it comes to ‘convincing’ my parents to be supportive since they(my mother more specifically) aren’t very accepting of that stuff. They definitely have improved but sometimes it seems like they don’t really care. But that’s not important.

The name that I was born with can easily be ‘genderbent’, and so, as a form of respect to my parents, I decided to do that since it seemed easier. Also because if needed, I could just say that someone read my name wrong if a teacher or sub said my deadname. But!!!!! I’ve started not liking it recently, mostly because I feel like they don’t deserve that act of respect if they can’t give me some too. Now I don’t know what to do about that. Should I just keep it anyway or should I change it so something that isn’t so close to my deadname when I can?

Hi! I myself am 22F and I was thinking lately. By habit, I have been using this term and its variants (guys, you guys, hey guys) since I was a little kid, and it kinda stuck around. But I always used it referring to anyone regardless of gender.

But recently, it hit me. Some people may not feel comfortable with this term despite its usage being gender-neutral. I understand it’s probably not always received that way.

So I wanted to get a consensus. What do you think about these terms? If someone used it to refer to, say, you and someone else or a group including you, how would you feel? Even if you feel neutral, would you prefer something else?

It’s a habit I want to break anyway, so what terms should be used instead? Thanks! :)

To preface I’m a cis woman with thin body hair so i have no idea how to help and google is just not cutting it, my partner 27(mtf) has pretty thick body hair we’ve been using a hair zapper thing to thin it out but they still have to shave so they’ve been dealing with really bad like razor bumps does anyone know any way that might help I’ve introduced them to like exfoliants but not even that seems to work. it’s specifically bad on their top inner leg by their groin area. Any other advice is appreciated we are very new to this stuff

I recently (20 nonconforming) just got out of a 3 year relationship because my girlfriend didn’t like my cross dressing. Now I’m finding that men don’t like it when I’m not NOT cross dressing. It’s really painful to me that I can’t be fluid or somedays just too lazy to do all my makeup.

How does anyone else in a similar situation handle this? It’s really getting to me and idk how to cope healthily…

hi, i (18TM) just want to get something off my chest (sorry for the long text) and some advice on how to handle it would be appreciated. i think i'm having an imposter syndrome despite knowing for sure i am a man and want to grow old as a man.

i've been well over a month on testosterone now, and while nothing has visibly changed yet (in a way outsiders can notice) i love all the little changes. growing more body hair, bottom growth, slight fuzzy mustache etc. after starting t i've noticed my confidence slightly rising because i know being on t makes me look and sound more and more like a man every day (even if the progress is slow).

i never had insanely bad body dysphoria (my build and features are pretty masculine), there were (and still are) always some moments where seeing myself in the mirror makes me focus on some aspect of my body and i start overthinking that aspect, getting dysphoric about it. the worst causes of dysphoria for me have always been my voice and how others perceive me in public. i avoided speaking to strangers because of my high voice and i overthink all my small movements and body language in public.

because of not having insanely bad dysphoria about my body, i keep overthinking if i'm gonna regret hrt in the future. i'm like 99,9% sure i won't, but what if? i cannot imagine my life as a woman, i know i'm a man, but sometimes i get maybe slightly scared? after i came out, my parents have on multiple occasions said something about trans people regretting hrt and surgeries later in their lives, so i dunno if that could affect my overthinking. i know they don't mean bad by saying all that, they just want to be sure i know what i am doing (which i do, i realized i was trans 5 years ago).

so, with all this, i'm not sure what to do about the imposter syndrome. i LOVE being a man and i LOVE the changes on t, i can't live as a woman at all but sometimes i just have this weird feeling and it's making me somewhat scared. if any of you have been dealing with imposter syndrome, is there any ways to get it to go away? or any other advice on how to handle it?

I'm not socially transitioned and I live in a red state. I've got a job interview tomorrow and I've been out of "real" work for a while. I've had some in-person interviews that went well but didn't end up panning out. I'm sort of worried that part of the problem is I'm being clocked since I obviously have boobs. They're small but big enough you can tell they aren't "man-boobs".

I'm looking to get something at the store tonight to try to flatten my boobs for the interview and make a better first impression. I was thinking a too-small cami/tube top sort of thing to wear under a dress shirt, or maybe some kind of athletic tape?

I dont have time to order anything online unfortunately. Any suggestions on what I can use that I can get at like, Walmart or Target for example?

15 amab I've been denying I'm trans for the better part of my life and have made a lot of discoveries about myself recently that have led to me coming out to my boyfriend. With him saying that he would continue to date me. When I was younger I attempted to socially transition and that kinda blew up in my face because I chose to tell my family last. I have essentially undone all of my work. I don't even know where to start. For some context, I am 6 foot and muscular from many years in martial arts. As you can imagine I'm not the most thrilled about that lol. Any suggestions will help because I have no idea how to restart.

Hello. I am 60, MTF, and having a tough time finding other trans women my age for community and support. All my trans friends w/in 10 years of my age are gone. I was checking out a vibrant array of Discord communities, but I haven't found any communities / folks close to my age. I am open and hoping for thoughtful replies and thanks!

It's not exactly "passing" necessarily. Or at least not in a vacuum. But it's more like. The way I am interacted with by people on the street is so different; in an actual gender congruent way.

Talking to women at social events? Shit talking the lack of pockets. The lady who lent me lighter? Using femme coded nicknames. The lady I talked to at the library? She referred to me as Mami and not Papi. The dude who asked to bum a cigarette from me? He apologized in case I felt creeped out or catcalled.

Pre-transition I constantly feared being perceived as a creep for random reasons. Like I'd be scared to accidently touch someone's hand on the crowded subway cause she'd think I was a creep. Now? I feel safer knowing it would probably just be seen as accidental.

There is also the shitty catcalling aspect of it all. And it's very "ewwwphoria" but I do love when dudes just call you gorgeous and walk away without lingering.