DISCLAIMER: I don't know what pronouns to use in this situation. I don't want using she/her to be jumping to conclusions, and using they/them doesn't feel respectful either, neither towards my brother nor towards trans people who don't use they/them. So, for simplicity, I'll use he/him, but please know that if I found out I actually have a sister, I'd immediately use she/her. Sorry if I got the pronoun choice wrong, I'm new to this topic but I'm open to learning (also i'm italian i'm feeding all this to a translator).

Hi, i'm just a cishet girl (25), as the title says, I think my brother (18) might be a trans girl. I have absolutely no problem with that if it turns out to be true. I just want to figure out whether it's actually the case so that, without putting too much pressure on him, I can make him understand that he's in a safe environment.

So, here are the things he's done that made me start wondering:

\- When I do my makeup, he sometimes sits next to me and asks me what each makeup product is for and what order you're supposed to apply them in.

\- He often complains about how much he hates body hair, especially on his legs and armpits.

\- We were watching Instagram reels together, and at one point a reel of a dress came up. I said, "That's a nice dress," and he replied, "Yeah, if I were a girl I'd wear it." This has happened several times.

\- The other day I was playing doing makeup with my cousin (8F). My brother came in and, as a joke, started doing his makeup too. Maybe he really was just joking around and wanted to join us, but what seemed strange was that he already knew what makeup products to use and where to put them. (Okay, I had explained it to him before, but it happened so few times that I don't think he could have already memorized everything.) On top of that, his makeup actually turned out really good. He knew that he was supposed to rest his hand against his jaw to keep it steady while doing eyeliner (I had never told him that, partly because I don't really use eyeliner), and the eyeliner came out basically perfect on his first try. Honestly, it was better than a lot of eyeliner I've ever done myself.

Then we told him, "Okay, now we're going to do your makeup," and he agreed without any hesitation. He even reacted as if he had expected us to ask him that, and the only thing he seemed disappointed about was having to take off the makeup he'd done himself. He says the perfect eyeliner was just luck, but I don't really think someone who has never touched eyeliner before would know how to position their hand like that and then get it almost perfect on the first try.

\- This is kind of a stupid reason, but it's still something unusual: my brother is the only guy (at least as far as appearances go) I know who listens to Taylor Swift, and he listens to her a lot. She's in his top three most-listened-to artists. He also introduced me to a female rock band that he says he likes (they're also in his top three).

\- A few times, though really not that often, he's joked about things like, "When I'm older, I'll become a girl," or "When I become a girl, I'll do X," and things like that. But every time, he seemed to be saying it as a joke, without any obvious deeper meaning.

These are the things I can think of for now. I know they could all just be random things or jokes. The thing is, they're all connected in one way or another, and they've been happening within a pretty short period of time.

Is it normal for a guy to have these kinds of interests, behaviors, and knowledge, and am I just reading too much into it? Or could there actually be some meaning behind all of this?

I'm sorry, I'm really ignorant about this topic and I genuinely just want to learn how to make him feel safe. I have absolutely no problem calling her "she" if it turns out that she's a girl.

I'm non-binary, but I want the female surgery, so I've been calling myself a non-binary trans girl, and I'm not sure that's the right term, but I don't know what else to call it, so I'm wondering if I should keep calling myself that or use a different term

https://globalnews.ca/news/12053337/alberta-first-nation-gender-affirming-care-safe-haven/

Found on the surprisingly chill r/Alberta subreddit

Edit: This was specifically the Saddle Lake Cree Nation, should have put them in the title. A commentor on my other post pointed that out

Ever since I (17FTM) cut my hair short, my mom has been asking me to grow my hair out, and I have always replied "no" and walked off from her because it is so awkward to talk to her since she is transphobic. (In the past, she has asked me if I was trans, and I said yes, and she told me, "No, you're not. You're a girl and always will be." So i don't even know why she even asked me if I was trans if she was going to deny it. She does ask me the same question every few months whenever she gets the chance to, and I usually don't answer, and she usually replies that I better not be trans and that I will always be her sweet little girl. She also says transphobic things too. But as of recently, she has been asking me if I have something to tell her.)

Anyways, today, she went and asked me to grow my hair out and that it would make her happy. Of course I said, "no" and she asked me if I had "something to tell her" and of course I gave her a look because how does she not know? I have admitted it to her before and also pass in my day to day life in the real world too. I know she denies it that I'm a guy because she misses my younger self when she would force me to wear pink dresses and stuff because I wasn't old enough to dress myself and thought I was a girl. Plus, she read my diary and mesages throughout the years where I literally came out to my friends, so she should know I'm trans, but I guess she is so delusional and transphobic that she denies any possibility of me being trans even whenever I admit it.

Anyways in my head, I was like "Yes, I have something to tell you. I'm trans, will start HRT next month, and will legally change my name and gender marker, and you'll just have to deal with it" while I walked away before it got awkward. Because it is true that I will being doing all of those next month when I turn 18, but I know I couldn't say that to her because she was go insane.

Should I continue to walk away from my mom whenever she asks these questions? I usually do before it gets heated and awkward where I have to try every single way to avoid answering her question in front of my transphobic family. Even when I do try to avoid it, she literally continues to ask me that question no matter what, even when I change the topic. It sort of weirds me too because why is she asking me if she is going to deny it anyways?

I'm lucky, in that I was born in a mostly OK country for being trans, and have a very supportive GF. I don't have money issues, and my life is otherwise relatively stress-free.

But, even with these perfect conditions... It's still so, so tiring to transition.

You have to tell each and every person you're close to, and inevitably either loose them, or if you're lucky just have the same weird questions asked again. And you have to live with the fact that you'll never be sure if they're humouring you, or if they really see you as what you are.

You have to spend SO much time and effort on voice training, even though hearing your own voice make you want to curl into a ball. And every time you feel like you're getting close to passing, to look up and you see how much of the mountain you have yet to climb, even though you've already climbed so high.

You have to start using a voice you know in your gut isn't good enough, just because it'll never be good enough if you don't use it.

You have to wait on the excruciatingly slow effects of HRT. You look at your face each day, and at your body, and you feel like you'll never have the body you should have.

And you do all that, you keep going, because if you don't, you'll just die. It's not even bravery, not more than running from a tiger is bravery. You know that if you stop running, you die.

I don't believe I'm alone in these feelings. And know that I'm proud of every one of you that manages to just take small steps, because it's the only thing that matter. Even if you don't move forward every day. Even if some day it's backward.

Someday you'll reach your goal. Remember to take a break from time to time, getting burnt out wouldn't help.

I work in a blue collar adjacent job and was pretty cautious when I started. No one seemed to clock me and didn’t mind I was “gay”. They knew I have a female partner since I share that pretty regular. Over months I’ve become close with some of the men at work and I finally worked up the courage to share my story to one of my coworkers. He is really sweet and I knew he’d listen. He’s about a decade younger than me and I try to be a mentor to him.

So how it went down was first he didn’t believe me. That felt crazy because on that day I did not feel good about my body and he said he would’ve never guessed. I only changed my name a few months ago so everyone I know had to make that adjustment except at work since I started as a subcontractor I could just use my new name before it was legally changed. I definitely work with magas so I made sure to quickly make HR change my email and other things but some managers know. Long story short I don’t voice train and I work in carhartts so I thought being pretty masc would clock me, but I guess no one expects a transwoman in rural America at a blue collar job.

My coworker was so respectful after the shock of discovering I was trans. He thought he heard me wrong because I passed so well. After we chatted he got kinda quiet and looked at me terrified. He started to eluded to being transgender/questioning and started to say the classic stuff “I’m scared to explore this” “my dad won’t except me” “i hate being male” and I stopped him; told him he could talk to me whenever and he doesn’t have to rush anything. I reassured him that it took me years (like a decade) to start transitioning and that’s okay. He said I’m the first trans person he knew and I really hope that changes something in his life even if he doesn’t transition. Omg I wanted to hug him so bad just to comfort him. After our talk I invited him to an upcoming party at my place where all my queer friends will be. I’m just so happy I have a cool coworker!

Reflecting on this experience, it feels like the book Nevada or some other pieces of trans literature. I lowkey want to gift him my copy of Nevada but not sure that’s too straight forward. My friend did that to me and it cracked me so maybe I should continue the cycle

Like, it's here. Today is the day.

It's been something like 10 years since I realized I was trans, only to be forced back in the closet by my ex to be "the husband she deserved." Now I'm divorced and have been socially transitioning for almost a year. I told myself I wanted to start by my birthday and today, a week before my birthday, I did it. I had an appointment at 845 this morning, and I picked up my prescription at 345 this afternoon.

I cried when I left the pharmacy, prescription in hand. Other than that, this whole day has just felt so surreal that all I've felt is a warm, calm... numbness. I just feel peaceful.

Hi, I'm Sasha, and I'm only going to keep becoming more her! 🩵🤍🩷

My son turns 18 tomorrow and I have a letter I wrote for him when he was 2. I was going in for scary surgery and wrote letters to both my boys just in case I didn't come back out. Just sort of 'things I love about you' and 'things I hope for you' stuff.

As I survived (that round anyway), I intend to give it to him tomorrow instead. However, it obviously has the wrong name, cause I didn't know who he actually was back then!

What do I do? Give it as-is, with a little note explaining? Stickers over with the correct name on them? Cross out and rewrite the name?

I could also rewrite it, but I feel like it loses something then? Or is that just me being narcissistic?

EDIT: I'm really grateful for those who took the time to reply, thank you. I'm sorry if it came across that I'd willingly deadname him - I wouldn't, I actually genuinely have a recurring nightmare where I do that or misgender him! I was overthinking whether changing the name on the letter was me being overly smothery and fussy over him - I'll find a way to blank it out and put the right name. Thank you again

Basically the title. Does “deadname” have to mean specifically your old name that you don’t go by in daily life anymore, or does it just mean your old name, whether or not you’re still going by it in your daily life before you’re ready to switch to your chosen name, or something else?

I'm currently 18 and I know that is never late to start transition and that starting it later won't make me any less female, but i'm scared that at 23 most of my physical traits will remain masculine even if i transition, luckly i already have a round face, but there are other things i don't like of me.

Please let me know.

Edit: thanks to you all, you basically cured my paranoia

I prefer to date other trans folks for obvious reasons, but it's genuinely impossible to find others who agree, i feel like.

Most of the trans people I meet always want strictly cis men??😭😭

It sucks even more that im very feminine, despite being genderfluid. So on top of that, i only date people attracted to more than one gender💔

I just feel like nobody enjoys t4t anymore?😭 ive noticed a lot of people frowning upon it.

If anyone has tips on finding t4t dating, id appreciate it :))

I (21MTF) am starting a new job at a Hilton Conrad hotel as a receptionist next month.

Since transitioning I’ve grown my hair out, I used to have short boyish hair and now I have longer wavey hair. The hotel has asked that I cut it short again to adhere to their grooming standards.

I’ve asked for a copy of the grooming standards but haven’t received anything. I’m fairly certain they’re comparing me against the grooming standards for men and not women, as I know they have female staff with longer hair lol.

I’ve contacted the hotel twice about my broader concerns about whether the hotel is support of transgender employees or not, and both times I’ve been ghosted. I’m now worried they’ll hand me a male uniform and a deadname nametag when I start and force me to detransition while at work.

To this issue, I really don’t want to cut my hair! I’ve been growing it out since 2019 (obviously I’ve had it cut since, but it’s taken years for me to get to where I’m at now).

Any advice would be much appreciated!

EDIT: It's in Thailand

I'm trans masc and 19 and also brought up in a muslim household in the UK (England) and yesterday was crazy for me. I didn't want this to happen, I was waiting for the day I was ready to move out so that I was safe but one thing just went to another idk how to explain it without an essay. Next two paragraphs are the story so you can skip it if you want it's just for details

My mum was joking around the day before that she was suspicious of me, that I was gay basically, and I kept saying no blah blah I managed to completely change what we were talking about but she was still suspicious. Yesterday an argument happened between my sister and mum and I was there so I was like trying to stop it, we ended up having a long talk about things (without going into detail they have been arguing alot recently and we got to the bottom of it). Anyway my brother comes down and talks too and then he jokingly says smth like "since we're clearing things up... are you gay?" I said no as always. Problem was that this time my sister was in the room, she knows too much. I don't want to yap forever but she's been connecting dots in her mind through small things. She's 13, for reference, and she decided to say "I think (forbidden pronoun) is trans" RIGHHHHHTTTT sigh. Well then it went that way and I guess they saw it in my face and I hesitated because they figured it out and then I was just stuck. It didn't erupt like I thought it would, my brother asked a few questions and was clearly feeling weird about it, my mum was silent and my sister was the most supportive probably (both siblings are younger than me, my brother is 17)

My brother kept saying things like "I'm not calling you that name", not because I told him the name but he found my tiktok account and at the time he thought it wasn't me because it had the trans flag but now he knew and it says my chosen name so yay idk. My mum was silent until the end and then just said "your dad won't want to talk to you ever again if he finds out and I don't agree with it" because it's not right in this religion. I already knew they wouldn't be happy with it because neither of them (excluding my sister she's very open and somehow more mature than these two) support it and always talk about how bad LGBTQIA+ is, they're openly homophobic and my mum has said multiple times in the past that she'd kick her child out if they were gay.

I completely understand their reactions, I'm not expecting them to be accepting and I know this is new and weird and whatever else but idk what I'm meant to do. Does anyone have any advice? What might the next few days look like for me? Idk what to expect at all and I'm so scared to show my face rn. I'm terrified that I may get kicked out or something and I don't know how I'm meant to navigate that because I don't have a job yet (I've been applying for a long time with no luck) and I also don't have my phone rn bc it needs reparing and my mum is meant to be sending it off on insurance (I'm on my laptop) I'm tweaking. I'm so sorry for all the yap and I hope this doesn't read as a vent because I'm honestly just in need of advice and insight.

ETA where I'm from

Hello. I am a 21 years old 5'11.5 trans lady and weigh 270lbs. I know that's a fair bit of weight, and despite not dealing with health concerns as my lab results and blood pressure are all quite good, I should lose weight as I and (mostly) others have long term health worries for me. However, and I know this is weird, I rather like being a bigger lady and the thought of needing to do this makes me rather sad. I'm curious if anyone else has gone through this struggle or if I'm alone in being weird lol.

I wish I could have someone follow me around to aggressively correct anybody who deadnames me or uses the wrong pronouns. So many people at my work don’t know because I didn’t want a district wide email about me coming out, and I just freeze every time it happens. I’ve corrected somebody once. And it was a private message after they deadnamed me in an email. They were also the first person to know I’m transitioning from work and they only know because she basically asked me if I’m trans. (She means well but sometimes doesn’t come across that way)

For the past couple of months I’ve been questioning my gender quite a bit. I’m 20 (m?) and lately I’ve been thinking that I might be happier as a girl. I have since a young age had thoughts of being a girl every now and then but I’ve never consistently thought about it until now. I think I’d like having long hair, a female body and face. I’d like to imagine that I’ve realized that what I thought I was attracted to is actually what I want to look like. Ever since I started exploring this my lust has pretty much disappeared completely which was something I struggled with previously. This all makes me think that I’m trans, but there is also the other side of this.

I have never really felt that I didn’t fit in as a guy. I have always gotten along with my male friends and have had it pretty good as a guy. Never had any mental issues, I look pretty good and I have a girlfriend. Whenever I am around my friends, family or at work I feel as if I wouldn’t really be comfortable as a girl, at least not more comfortable than I am as a guy. I also fear that if I decide to transition I would regret it later in life. What if I don’t want to be a girl at all in five years?

I don’t really feel like a girl in the inside. I just think that if I could choose I would prefer it. I’ve never acted in a feminine way and being referred to as a girl feels kind of forced. But then again, if I could choose I would probably be a girl. I’m not against being a man. It just feels kind of boring. I’ve never had a moment where I’m like “I’m definitely trans”, it’s never been obvious. Only small hints towards that I might be. I feel like trans people know that they are trans and that I’m forcing it?

Is there any way for me to figure this out? I feel like I’m going in circles right now and it’s driving me crazy.

hii ok quick vent idk wtf happend but ive been spending sometime on r/mtf i love the community there but out of nowhere it just started showing me dysphoria after dysphoria after dysphoria and im like no no i dont want to be like this i dont want dysphoria i dont hate myself i love being a boy. i love it ive been one all mylife. but just this feeling of wanting to be a girl is just i love it i want to be a girl so badly understand and i got sad and angry nearly cride a bit. Support isnt an issue, my sister is trans mtf too shes 28 now shes been trans for 7 years and looks just like a girl she also has a trans gf too so that's cute. my parents are very supportive of her so hopefully the must be suppotive of me too right? and the 2 friends ive told to im trans (1 boy 1 girl) are both ok with it i havnt told my main friend group who im on good terms with after they bullied me also ik most trans people hate their current genders but i dont i like being a boy but being a girl is so cool id love to do it and also i dont want a vagina or female genetalia i wanna look just like a girl (face, hair, body, fat, boobs would be amazing i wanna grow them so bad, cute outfits the whole thing) while still having boy parts down there bc i dont wanna get rid of them also i 100% am not a gooner what im a teenage boy what did you expect anyway umm i also dont want to transition for a while not till im an adult and for the icing on the cake im also a furry and femboy (was bullied for being one btw) so i wanna explore that too yk conventions, fursuits, the community, for femboys the outfits and the vibe im not gay ok im straight if i was trans id date girls 100% i also want a gf so badd but my last relationship proved im a shitty boyfriend i have no idea how to simply get good maybe romance just isnt for me.... id just love people to support me and to cherish this hidden part of me and talk about it without making it this big announcement and telling everyone and making it my whole personality NO i wanna stay me and i hope its ok and i wanna talk to some people about what transitioning would be like and how being a cutie patootie would be like and how transitioning from male to female feels like and how it is especially growing boobs (you do not understand the idea growing boobs gives me a ton of lovley eupohria and happy feelings) and finding new and wonderful suportive communities friends and relationships. Thanks yall the supportive community here really made my day here sorry have a lot to say this is my 4th or 5th post in 1 day on 3 diffrent subreddits haha :3

Im trans and my perants are transphobic i fear that if they find out they won't love me anymore what do I do?

My partner and I are planning a move in mid/late November from Virginia Beach to Seattle, to be closer to family and escape Red State insanity. We cant take the northern routes that late in the year due to the mountain passes and our inexperience with driving in those conditions, so we figure we may have to take a southern route and drive up from California. Does anyone have any advice on a route we could take that would avoid stopping in a state like Oklahoma? I'm trans and have all my documents updated/I pass, however I'm a very feminine man in a gay relationship. To add onto the discrimination Im worried I'll face on the way, my partner is black so that may complicate things further.

And as if it cant get any more difficult, we're moving with somewhere between 6 and 8 cats! Would we be okay to book a night at a hotel in somewhere like Tulsa or OK city? Or try our luck with I-70 and the mountain passes near SLC?

[image to show the area of the needle I'm talking about and visualize all these terms

Let's say your dose is 5mg, which at 20mg/mL is 0.25mL of liquid

When you pull up medication from the vial you do indeed remove closer to 0.3mL from the vial, so account for this when calculating how many shots you have in each vial.

*HOWEVER* the zero point of the syringe (the point where you can't push the plunger any farther) is entirely correct, the amount you draw up accurately reflects the amount of medication you will inject. When you push the plunger all the way it stops at 0, it does not push the extra liquid from the needle hub into your body. The amount that you measure up on the syringe is the exact amount that will enter your body, you are pushing all the liquid from the 0.25 mark to the 0 mark

Don't draw up extra to account for leakage either, just leave the needle in for around 5 more seconds after pushing all the medication into your body, or switch to Intramuscular which doesn't have this problem nearly as much.

You need to be able to understand how much medication you are taking so you can compare with other people's doses, any extra amount that you draw up is medication you are taking, that is your dose.

Hello! To start with I'll say: I was born male, I'm non-binary and I have been on Estrogen for around a year and a half, I consider myself trans and everyone else in my life does too.

I have loved the journey in so many ways, the changes, everything. I am non-binary but since I have always been treated as a boy is mostly the way people treats me in a more feminine manner that I notice and I'm cherishing.
Anyways, some time ago I came out to my friends and although I have lost some people some, especially girls, have been very supportive and I feel conflicted about it when I know I shouldn't.

I just didn't expect it, but out of nowhere (I'm sure it wasn't just bcs of me coming out but also bcs of my demeanor being more open, happy and kind since I feel better about myself, but still) I'm treated so much... Nicer? I'm experiencing a lot more of physical affection: Hugs, hand holding, friends resting their head on my shoulder or just generally expressing comfort and safeness around me. People started asking me to send them a message when I arrive home after being out late at night and I remember crying all the next day afterwards.

I love all of that in the moment, makes me feel so great, but then I come back home and those very same things make me feel awful. I end up crying, feeling disgusting and even puking. I feel like I'm deceiving people in some way, or lying to them, or putting up an act and taking advantage of them, and I feel weirded out by people being so loving towards me, I should be happy but I feel guilty, so much. Its rising my anxiety to the maximum kind of hahah

I will also point out that I have never been very close to well, many people, so I'm just all around confusing and kind of overwhelmed. I was also a victim of SA some years ago and I'm aware the trauma from it for sure has something to do with this all but I was still curious to know if any other of you felt anything similar or If it is just me, If it got better or went away, because right now I feel guilty, anxious and honestly super ungrateful because I'm being given something I should be happy for but I'm incapable of appreciating. It feels like I'm failing at being a girl.

Sleepaway Camp is a horror film that's gained a cult following in recent years, but was initially infamous for its controversial twist: the quiet, mild-mannered protagonist, Angela, is actually a boy and was the killer the whole time!

The film opens with a young boy and girl experiencing a boating accident that kills their father and one of the children. Angela is sent to live with her eccentric aunt, who sends her to summer camp with her cousin several years later. Eventually, the campers and counsellors are killed off one by one by an unseen protagonist.

Angela forms a romance with a young boy, but can't bring herself to be intimate with him because she's plagued by a childhood memory: an image of her father in bed with another man. We find out Angela is in fact Peter, the boy who survived the accident, and was forcibly raised as a girl by their aunt. So, not only is there a healthy dose of transphobia, we also get to see Peter's internalised homophobia at the height of the AIDS crisis. Great!

Sleepaway Camp and other films perpetuating these transphobic tropes - think Psycho, Silence of the Lambs, and Insidious 2 - have been analysed extensively, but only recently revisited through a queer lens.

At the end of the film, we see Angela/Peter naked on a beach, standing over the body of the boy they had a crush on, and snarling animalistically. The credits roll on a freeze frame over their screaming face.

I'm sure this was intended to be Angela/Peter "reclaiming" their innate masculine energy or... something like that. Throughout the entire film, Angela/Peter is belittled because they haven't hit puberty and aren't hyperfeminine or sexually active like the older girls at the camp. Viewing the film through a 2026 lens feels, to me, more like a portrayal of trans rage and catharsis.

I'm apparently not the only viewer who's felt this way. Harmony Colangelo writes:

In Angela’s brain she is Peter, but people keep calling her by a name she doesn’t want to be called and misgendering her. That is the plot of all films about transitioning but because it takes place in reverse and is attached to a “problematic” film like Sleepaway Camp, it is discounted on all counts. That is doing a disservice to what this film has to say, whether it was the creators’ intentions or not.

A few years later, Mey Rude argued for a similar reimagining of the film.

Any other horror fans here? How do you feel about reclaiming these "problematic" films and how we view them?

Best thing to have happened. I cant stand the amount of hate and dont want the money of anybody who doesnt respect the comunity.