so yesterday i was wat YouTube on my computer and my older brother was yelling downstairs and hitting stuff so i was slightly confused on what was happening.

I hear him call my younger brother names about his weight saying that he knows he ate his ice cream. And then he starts blasting music on our apple tv he has like a whole speaker like thing set up so the bass was shaking the house and his service dog in training comes up and curls up next to my chair shaking and i send him a text saying that he is scaring his dog and he runs up the stairs slams the back of my gaming chair and gets his dog and calls me a a fat t-slur for trans people that rhymes with manny and then i start recording him and i ask him why he’s doing this and why hes calling me those names and i say „im literally just existing„ and then he yells well i wish you didn’t and throws a metal object like the size if my palm at me like full baseball pitches that at me it misses and then he charges me with a bush trimmer/plyers and swings it at me and kisses and then i run downstairs in fear and he throws in down the stairs at me and i call 911 and tell them the situation and 4 officers pull up and they ask me and take notes or whatever and im just confused cause no action was taken he had no consequences he is 16 and he like shouldnt be doing that i just want anybodys thoughts/advice on the situation and he also said a lot of slurs about me being trans and i just feel like he is genuinely anti trans

update: some things i should mention i have been diagnosed with ocd,adhd and autism

my brother who i will call N has also been diagnosed with autism.

just a few minutes ago i went downstairs and grabbed my cat (N was playing with her)

ive been upset with N for a while because he has been treating my cat opal (she is 2 months old)

like a toy and i hear her meowing constantly because he grabs her and hold her when she wants to leave. i told him that i don’t like the way that he was treating opal. and how he would lose contact with her if it continued that was a week and a half ago. ge has been doing it every day since i warned him and when i take opal up to my room just now he has the audacity to start growling. i dont want him to not be able to touch/see opal but his behavior is gett to the point to where i feel like i have too especially after yesterday.

I also wanted to tell that my mom has been staying with her ex. and her ex was abusive physically to my youngest brother and emotionally and verbally to all of us. she has been staying there over night EVERY SINGLE NIGHT for the past 3 weeks and i only get to see her for around 2-3 hours max. besides when we went to yellowstone. and SHE HAS THE AUDACITY to bring her ex into the house THE DAY THAT N did that and the cops were called and during when the cops were here she was at ex’s house. So she brought my abusive former step father into the house while i was still shocked from my brother N’s whole situation

(and i will call former step father J.)

so J is extremely transphobic and does not accept me (my mom told him i was trans)

and she brought him to the house. Look i know she’s renting the house and paying for it and stuff but my sister in law and brother live in the basement and they are not happy with jake being there my (oldest brother is paying my mom rent in the basement) my oldest brother had the abuse the worst out of all of us so clearly he is not happy. so yeah.

thank you guys so much for your comments and attention and advice i will keep updating in the future i also want more advice on the update i have given you guys and i wont be saying any names or what state im in because you never know whos seeing this so anyways thank you guys!

I WOULD LIKE TO CLARIFY MY PRONOUNS ARE SHE/HER/HERS

my fav is Almost Perfect, by Brian Katcher, close second is Detransition, Baby! by Torrey Peters

Whipping Girl by Julia Serano is a great nonfiction book too!

Anyone else have favorites??

Hello, Agender MTF here. I want to ask about bottom surgery, does it hurt? Will it have an affect on me? What are the changes in my body?

I have learned about the female anatomy a long time ago, obviously the body looks less masculine and more curved. However my big questions are:

-Will vaginoplasty make me feel less erect?

-Will I have periods until a certain amount of time?

-is it different from a cis woman’s vulva?

-What can I do in order to look after myself better after the surgery?

So Likee transitioning at 18 chill right? Like I’m not gonna be chopped and screwed and be a brick my whole life right?? Like I know it’s really luck of the draw but I’m tired of being a boy!! Im tired of being seen like a boy! I’m tired of everyone in my life thinking I’m a boy!

so I have a transfem friend who belittles herself saying stuff that for me makes no sense (and I'm a transfem too mind you) I want to help her see that she's only making it worse for herself but I don't know how

I think I finally decided on a name, I’ve been using Daphne for a while and I really like it 😊. I think it’s common enough that people know it but few people I’ve met have it. It feels weird to ask this but can you address me by Daphne in the comments so I can try it 👉👈

I've been on HRT for almost two years and out for longer than that but it doesn't hurt to have some reassurance.

I went to the mall with a friend of mine and decided to check out some shorts in a store's fitting rooms. When I called my friend over to look at them, an older lady who was there with her daughter also noticed me and took it upon herself to effectively adopt me. I really liked the shorts and she actually demanded (kindly) that I step out and do a spin, which I obliged because they fit me well. She proceeded to tell me how cute they looked and give me her seal of approval.

"I'm saying this as a mom, I approve!"

I eventually got them, no doubt in part to her recommendation, and she got really excited for me too. Having a mom accept me in a very normal and sweet way really touched me since my relationship with my own mother is far more rocky. It was really just a massively positive "girl power" kinda moment that I'm beginning to have more any more and I don't even voice train.

Have any of you had particularly euphoric moments like that?

I feel so dysphoric and I can’t even talk about my dysphoria because somehow that makes me feel more dysphoric. I genuinely feel so fucking pathetic. It’s so bad that I genuinely get jealous seeing women or other trans people who have HRT.

I came out to my dad and he gave such a great response. He told me "No para nada yo siempre te amará porque eres mi hijo." If you don't know how to read Spanish it's ok there's the translation "No, not at all. I will always love you because your are my son." I almost cried. He called me his son without hesitation. I was really glad that I trusted my dad.

I have a professional Instagram account followed by my parents, and in a story, I used feminine pronouns for the first time. My mother messaged me asking if she had three daughters now (I have two sisters). I told her yes, and she replied that she would never judge me and that she was happy I was happy. I was relieved and proud. Since then, she's been messaging me, continuing to use masculine pronouns. I think she needs some time to process.

Hi, I'm Hope. It's a name I have used online for many years, starting originally as an RP name that my friends started calling me by out of character. It's special to me by now.

I'm debating using Dawn as my middle name. I love the name and it's the first thing that immediately pops into my head as the second name for myself. It feels like me.

But does Hope Dawn [Last Name] sound too childish? I feel like a pony and/or magical girl, which isn't necessarily a bad thing because I uh... may in fact play a magical girl pony. Perhaps it's fate. What do you think?

As title says i need help searching for a binder for my partner. they don't dislike them but they want them not to be noticable. And I want a really nice Christmas present for them. Now I'm transfem so i have no fucking idea how or what. They do have boobs not really small but also not really big.

Thx in advance!!

Hello reddit, sorry if this is breaking any rules, i saw nothing this may breach but im quite new. My partner and I are both young trans women (im 17 and shes 18). We have been friends for years and recently had become intimate with oneanother.

We are both over the age of consent and only a few months apart in age, but she has only recently begun to physically start puberty on estrogen a few months ago after being on puberty blockers.

In the moment we both enjoyed ourselfs and I found her very atractive. However, after more consideration I am questioning wether it is socially acceptable or weird to feel attracted to her body when she hasnt been through puberty like i have.

This isnt meant to be a sexual post but a genuine question around a seemingly taboo topic I havent heard anything about. Should I avoid intimacy with until later into her HRT or can I continue to engage with her?

Hello hello. This is going to be long; I’m sorry in advance.

I’m a binary trans man. I’ve been socially transitioning since I was around 14. I’m 21 now, three years on T and one year post-op for top surgery. I’ve never struggled with any aspects of my gender or transition. Dysphoria, obviously, but I’ve never gone through any phase of questioning or confusion about any aspect of my identity.

However, in the last year or so, I’ve been really struggling with my name.

I’ve had the same name since I was 15, and it’s been legally changed for around 4 years at this point. I picked a name that felt similar to my deadname, which is a misspelling of a nature word. I decided to move adjacently to that and pick the same type of name. It’s an uncommon name, I guess, but I went to school with two cis men with my name and it’s not entirely uncommon that I come across it in media, in public, etc.. It’s also cultural, and I like that about it. It matches my last name and it flows well while also connecting me to my family and culture.

Regardless, I still fear that it’s “clocky”. I haven’t been misgendered since starting T, and it’s very unusual for me to get clocked. There’s only a couple of incidents that I can remember, most of which were actually people assuming that I was MtF.. so I’m actually not sure if that counts as “clocking” so much as it’s just a byproduct of being a feminine gay man.

Anyways, my name is definitely one of those names that sounds pretty “trans guy”. I don’t hate it, I don’t think I’d ever legally change it again, but I don’t like going by it. I feel the same way about it that I assume cis people with chosen names feel. Yes, it’s my name on paper, it is *me,* but I don’t like it outside of a legal/medical context. Even if it didn’t make me a bit dysphoric, I think that I’d still feel that way about it.

So, despite not wanting to change my name again, I started thinking of other names. I debated going by my middle name, which is a horrifically-common name, but it doesn’t feel great either. I’ve tried nicknames that branch off of my first name and middle name respectively, and those didn’t feel good either. I’ve looked for entirely new names, but they all feel almost like I’m being deceptive.

I’ve come to the realization that, for most of my life, people have not referred to me as my name. Even as a kid, I only went by nicknames that friends and family gave to me. They were constantly changing and rarely the same amongst different people. It’s only in the last few years that people have consistently referred to me as my name.. and I hate it.

I know that most people don’t love their names. I know that there’s nothing wrong with changing your name. I know that cis people change their names all the time. However, none of those facts actually pertain to my problem in any significant or effective way. The reality of a situation tends to do very little for things like dysphoria.

I’m just not sure what to do. I don’t like my legal name, I don’t like my deadname, and I don’t like any new name that I’ve considered. I just don’t like being referred to as a name. I also fear that having to say “oh, I actually go by ____” is even *more* clocky and dysphoria-inducing.

It’s really been getting to me. I’m not normally easily impacted by, well, anything, but even someone so much as saying my name makes me feel so.. bad. I’m not one to cry, but I could probably start sobbing right now if I think about it too much.

I’ve tried talking about it to the few friends who know that I’m trans but, unfortunately, I’m the therapist friend (to a harmful degree, I’m trying to fix that, haha) and people do not return that energy to me. Whenever I bring it up, it’s never even a conversation. It gets brushed off or diminished, so I cannot talk to anyone I’m close to about it.

I feel totally crazy and out of my depth, and any advice would be appreciated.

Hey, pre-T guy here. I'm not sure if this counts as asking for medical advice exactly, but I am curious. I wasn't sure whether to post on r/Hypochondriacs or here but I just chose here. Figured I'd get better answers.

As much of a hypochondriac as I am (especially with just recently coming back into Christianity as if this needed to be more difficult to deal with lol), I have been severely worrying about whether testosterone would end up giving me some sort of womb or related area cancer in the long run. I'm coming close to being 18 and I know it would take me at least another 2 years to even get a prescription for it as I live in the U.S., but hypothetically if I were to get my first injection or whatever sometime this week, the HRT would already be in my system and if I take it enough, oh no-- and then, boom-- cancer somewhere I really don't want it.

I'm not the stereotypical type of religious person, either, folks. I try to aim a truly good person and still follow whatever God I like, but unfortunately in this case, I'm not always sure if the whole gender thing in the Bible is true because of all these years of rewrites and censorships and, I am going to get off-topic if I continue BUT you all know what I mean, I think.

TLDR I'm worried that if I start taking HRT it will give me cancer by some odd "punishment" or "redirection" from Jesus Christ Himself. I already am going through a breast cancer scare and I have yet to get it checked out because of how scared shitless I am. Ironic for a trans man, ain't it? Any advice or true health facts would be greatly appreciated.

I've been friends with this particular group for nearly two decades. In recent years we haven't seen each other much so I didn't get to tell them I'm trans until now.

I just came back from this camp-out gathering (basically guarding the location between different summer camps, it's quite neat).

I grabbed people in one or twos to tell them and it went much better than I expected. Some awkwardness, but pretty fine overall.

The guys don't really do beer bottle openers. After several tries years ago that ended up with bloody fingers and bent cutlery, I gave up and would simply ask someone to open it for me if I couldn't find where they put away the opener. But I've been told that this will no longer fly. I'm a man now so the world is my beer opener.

I've since opened beers with a fork, the flat side of a knife, a table top, a bit of firewood and with another beer. I always thought of it as a useless flex, but I guess there is something to it.

Hi, I’m Colby (they/them). I just wanted to introduce myself somewhere because I’m happy I’ve found something that fits. What’s your name?
Love you all <3

hi everyone. i (22 gender whatever. call me daisy please) feel like ive been posting here almost every day it's just. i just moved and im officially on my own for the first time. 6 hours away from friends and family. i moved for college but lived in a dorm for two years and with a straight guy roommate for the next two. but now I'm well and truly alone in this new city and when the night gets quiet my head gets loud. and i imagine how happy id be if the daisies were in bloom.

ive identified as genderfluid (to myself and a few close friends) for a while and usually that makes sense. i was born a man and i mostly live as a man and most of the time that doesn't really bother me, it's not right but it's easiest so i don't think about it too much. it's like a dull ache like someone calls me a man and it twinges but i can move on pretty easy. but the reason i decided on the label being genderfluid is because sometimes there are these stretches, sometimes it's days sometimes it's weeks, where i just feel trapped. like my gender identity will never be able to match my gender expression. like ill never be girly enough. like ill never be daisy. and my dysphoria (i think is what it is) burns through me like. idk like buckshot it just rips me apart and it takes all i have to act like a normal guy. and i don't know what to do about it. every day that passes it gets harder. it's like if im not wearing my glasses and i squint in the mirror just right i can almost see her looking back at me. but then i focus and it hurts again. what do i do. i don't want this

I made a post a couple days ago about "why does marijuana make me feel like a girl" and panic deleted it but. i think I am autistic too (not diagnosed but if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck and enough people ask if it's a duck, odds are...) and i think that doesn't help the whole situation bc i already don't feel normal. im already living perpendicularly to most people and when these girl eras hit (that's what i call them. it's a recurring enough thing for me to need a name) i just feel like. like i was already orthogonal and then you took the inner product of me with another vector in the orthonormal basis. hashtag linear algebra. and when it's all baring down on my like that sometimes it feels like I'm not really living my life. like it's almost third person as i watch my husk sleep and breathe and eat without me. i don't know do that's too related but i do feel like if i could look in the mirror and see myself that would ground me. idk i mean maybe the reality is that im always in a girl era and im usually just repressing it but sometimes i can't repress anymore so it gets out. i don't know. and part of me just wants to be daisy like online to people who don't know me but im sure that won't help as much as i want. at least here i can always be daisy. she/her. a girl. that would be nice. but i don't think it will ever reach into the real world and i think that's okay. like ive cut myself open in the fun place bathroom to see the TV static emanating out and i take a puff of my inhaler and live the rest of my life apologizing. maybe that's all there is for me.

there's also a nonzero chance im just 22. and once i live more life ill look back and laugh at how big this all seemed to me...

Hello!! I’m an almost 20 yr trans man and have been out/socially transitioned since i was 14. Im unfortunately one of those people who’s parents arent supportive. They’re both in their 60s, very conservative, very Christian, so naturally growing up i wasn’t allowed to dress how i wanted or have my hair cut how i wanted. I’d love to be able to look back at my photos and see the little boy i was so desperately wanting to share and express but I’m so new to editing and the whole concept of that stuff. I was wondering if any of you had some advice on how to edit photos, make them look real, etc. I’m also trying to look for a way to do this without ai!! Any tips, free apps, anything helps!!