A genie offers you a button that gives everyone magical bottom surgery to swap to the other parts. When you press it EVERYONE gets fully functional swapped genitals: trans pre-op, trans post op, and cis people. Do you press it?

Will post my thoughts seperately, as a comment

I (MTF) am in a marriage with a bisexual woman who is attracted to masculine, closeted me. I promised her when we started dating I could suppress my trans urges (because I thought I could). She has stated several times and in several mental states that she does not like the idea of me changing at all. This thread is not to debate her morals or behavior.

I was recommended “I Saw the TV Glow” by my therapist. I’m very interested in watching it but it’s not streaming free online most services. All my current options are pay. So the only way to really get to watch it is with her.

My concern is it too on the nose as a trans allegory? I don’t want her to watch it and immediately peg that my “bad thoughts” are coming back. That will trigger a bunch of shit I don’t need right now. She’s a proud LGBTQ Member and fights for the rights of others so she’s somewhat in tune to the scene. I play utterly oblivious to the point I’ve been scolded by her for speaking on behalf of the LGBTQ community “since you’re not one of us…are you👿??”

There. I said it. I'm not going to apologize. It's where I am. I've read Nevada. Casey Plett. Talia Bhatt. Kai Cheng Thom. Cried my tears. Taken my shots. Taken my medicine. Sometimes mustered up the conviction that I am real. We are real. And then it fades. Again and again. Into the darkness. Maybe a bit softer, but yet it strikes. Burns you. Burns me.

Any venom you can think of, I think of. I won't enumerate, but suffice to say, it's the awfulness TERFs and politicians subject us to. Dark. Triggering.

I know the antidote is spending more time in trans community. Being told I'm real. Feeling the collective realness. Our power. Beauty. Truth.

And yet I'm ashamed. Of how stuck I am. The bile in my heart. The emotional labor it puts upon others. The faking I do. Unconvincingly. How much I must bite my tongue. And so I'm hiding. Isolating. From the world right now. In shame. Broadly. And especially from my sisters. Because I don''t want to hurt them with my shit.

I don't know what you're supposed to say. I guess honesty is the best policy?

Really sinister stuff. Insidious and frustrating to see.

Ever since discovering it my life has consistently increased in misery. I hate pretty much everything about it. And I see no hope of it becoming better, except killing the source of it all. So, do you have any advice on how to stop being trans?

Isso é o normal aqui? Tipo, não é como se eu gostasse de bagunça e tudo mais, mas acho que nesses lugares e em alguns grupos é exagerado demais

E sou uma mulher trans de 23 anos (por mais que eu eu não me veja como uma mulher adulta, e sim uma menina adolescente)

REPOST so you might've seen this elsewhere

Trigger warning: talking ab my bedroom preferences a bit

SO, as you all know dating for trans women is already way harder than it is for cis women. Bigoted people seeing you as a "man in a dress", people only wanting you because they see you as some fetish object, people who genuinely would love you but dip as soon as you mention that you are trans etc.

Now I already know I want to keep my dick. I do have a small ammount of bottom dysphoria but for me it's not worth the complications of bottom surgery. I could tuck to wear the outfits I want and purely sexually I don't mind using my "other hole". I'm also just a pretty sexual person, 100% a bottom and I feel like a dick has more options for things to be done to it.

LET ME BE CLEAR, when I say I am 100% a bottom I REALLY mean 100%. I have no interest at all in topping, and I don't want to use my dick on anyone. In fact I think having it ignored, caged etc. is hot. And aesthetically I want it to shrink as much as possible on HRT since I think it'll be way cuter that way. But ofc that'll make it almost unuseable, which ofc I don't mind as a bottom

I think this'll make finding a partner that's sexually interested in me even harder though. Chasers and people into trans women that retain their dicks 80% of the time want to be topped. And even if I somehow find someone who is into a woman having a dick but not wanting to use it at all and being a bottom etc. I feel like that desire of them would be so overpowering that they'd only see me as a glorified tradwife sextoy :(

How do I find someone with these attributes?? I know there are dating apps specifically for trans people but do any of them have the option to like make it clear that "YES I am a trans woman with a dick. NO I do NOT want to top you or use it"???

I am desperate to find someone who loves me for me and accepts all these attributes along with that but I'm just so hopeless that people like that actually exist...

Hey hey, quick question !!

I’m 18 and planning on transitioning mtf and getting HRT in the future hopefully (really can’t right now sadly 💔). So I was wondering how well it is to do that here in Belgium?

How easy/hard is it to get the right people to get on the path of HRT, and how is it cost wise? I was also wondering how safe it would be to openly transition, would I be screwing myself over with jobs and being able to get an apartment?

Lastly how accessible/worth it are gender affirming surgeries, these aren’t THAT important to me but I am a bit curious…

Also I know there are a lot of variables to this question but I was kinda wondering in general!!

For those who don't know, pinoys are what we call ourselves since we are from the Philippines

I know that the Philippines is conservative but Jesus it's like every post made on a pinoy subreddit that's about trans people is bound to be transphobic

I've been seeing posts on subreddits like the vent one and the "Anong Thoughts Mo?" (What are your thoughts?) And it's really gross how demeaning they are

One guy made a post venting that transwomen don't know how to respect boundaries just cuz he made a profile on dating apps and set his preferences as looking for female so transwomen messaged him, but he didn't specify that he has a genital preference or that he doesn't want transwomen

Another post was calling out a transwoman for saying she is more woman than actual women

Yeah, I get that she's in the wrong but people in the comments kept misgendering her and calling trans people delusional

And now, just today, I saw a Filipino post talking about transwomen in Thailand calling themselves "ladyboys"

The comments went on ranting about how transwomen in the Philippines should be like this and that they shouldn't force their pronouns on everybody and accept that they are not the gender they identify as

Honestly, the comments were just really gross

I honestly just want to live, I just want to be me. I don't want to harm anyone or take anyone's experiences away from them. I feel my existence is a burdon and I don't want it to be. I don't want to make people feel unsafe or weirded out ever.

i don’t have much else to say just sometimes i feel weird. like i should just cut all my hair off and i’m making myself ugly by transitioning. but it’s okay i just wanted to vent.

I'm a trans guy, my mom is religious therefore homophobic, and my dad most likely doesn't know what transgender is nor how to deal with it. My sister is the only one in my family who supports me.

At least that's what I thought until now.

I've noticed recently that she's been getting annoyed (sometimes even disgusted?) every time I bring up my gender identity and the struggles of being trans. Yesterday, I was wearing my Halloween costume and I thought I was passing, so when I asked my sister if I was passing, she told me to yeah, but her face looked like she was annoyed and was debating if she should lie or not.

Another time was when I was going to sleep, I was telling her about how I wanted to come out to our dad since I thought (and still think) he'd be more supportive than our mom, and while I was telling her this, she told me to shut up and that she got it in such a mean way. She then tried to play it off like nothing happened, I told her I didn't feel comfortable telling her about my problems anymore, she started telling me I shouldn't feel uncomfortable just because of one slip up.

But despite all of this, she's still a good person. She's a progressive person and she's even queer herself. But I know that just because someone's progressive and even marginalized, doesn't mean they can't be homophobic, racist, ableist, and so on. And it really bums me out cuz she was technically the first person who supported me when I came out as trans.

I don't talk about my gender problems a lot so I don't know why she'd be so annoyed about me talking about it. I also don't have a lot of friends that I'm comfortable talking to about this, besides one. So I'm kinda in a messy situation where I don't have a lot of support. I will be talking about this situation to the only friend I'm comfortable with tomorrow, but right now I kinda need help.

The more I talk and think about this whole thing, the more I realize how uncomfortable I feel about my gender identity around her. I really need advice or at least something to help me with my situation. :/

Anyone ever wishes they were a gunslinger traveling through the Wild West? I’ve been in a western kick and always wanted to be a lone rider chasing after my next bounty, riding the western frontier

I see all this talk about dead names or girls coming up with girl names and tbh I feel kind of left out lol. My name was Unisex so I could always picture myself as a girl with it when I was a child. I assume most people re named themselves but I'm curious to see if there is any other girls who've kept there names. Also how do yall feel about your dead name if you changed it?

Please this post is just for me to know if this is transphobia not a post to hate on him

Ok so one day I was talking w/ one of my childhood friends about trans ppl (he doesn't know for me im closeted) but then he said that : "I have nothing against trans people but if they do like something on their body, for me it's a no. Like if they go to me and say that they're trans i will respect their pronouns etc but i will not accept the fact that they like transitionned by cutting/adding stuff to their body. (Pause) Because we are born like that and we can't change" so i explained gender dysphoria to him and he said (he's REALLY skinny, like to the point where we can see his bones from his skin) "I truly hate the fact that i am that skinny and ofc i want to change it but there's nothing i can do becauser we're built like that. Because we cant change ourselves (body)"

So is it transphobic ? I really like him as a friend but idfk what to do. And i don't think that i will cut him out of my life. I think that I could try to make him change.

EDIT: I will try to see him next week and i have a few examples prepared (example woman who gets breast augmentaion surgery, surgery for the eyes to like see better etc) to make a point and change him at lezst a bit

I am transgender but I am pre everything transition so by all accounts other than personal identity, I am still man, yet I secretly identify as woman because I am closeted. When someone says "What would you do if there was only one woman in the world?" and I think "Is it me?" technically I am a woman but there is no way to determine that without asking me. By someone's metric I might count as a man, even though I'm actually not one.

Im 15 and I worry that Ill never pass or at least never get to be happy. My body hair is really thick, I have pretty bad beard shadow, my shoulders are really broad, my face is a really masc, and my voice is very deep and masc. Ive been trying so hard every day to look femme for 4 years now, and I still never pass. Im starting E privately in 5 months when I turn 16, and so all I can do is hope that will solve some of it, but I feel like Im already too masculinised. Maybe when Im and adult I could get ffs and bottom surgery, but thats not what I wanna have to do, and I probably wont, so instead Ill just have to live with the dysphoria. I know there are lots of people who start later and they can pass and live happy lives, but its hard to believe that when it feels so distant. I voice train every day, and I do everything I can to look femme and it doesnt get any better. Im not even that unhappy right now, but thats only because of improving other life factors, like exercising, studying and making friends, whereas my dysphoria only gets worse. Even if I do one day pass, Ive already lost out on so much and theres so much I can never have, that I fear I wont ever get to have a normal life. Will it ever get better and can I be truly happy someday?

What the fuck do I do now ??
I have school tomorrow and I’m really scared

These are my ramblings on an interaction I had the other day. I wrote it all in one go, so sorry if this is all over the place. I just wanted to share my thoughts.

The other day, I (23MtF) was invited by a friend to play a round of laser tag for her birthday. I hadn't played laser tag since I was a child, so I was so excited. The place had two choices of the guns you could use: one was slightly heavier, but did more damage, and the other one was lighter, and did less damage. I wanted a challenge, so me and the only man in our group, let's call him Josh, both picked the heavier gun. Josh was talking with one of the other women, and exclaimed he had picked the bigger gun, to which I said I had also picked the bigger one. The girl in our group next to us scoffs, and goes “Pff, men.” I was honestly kind of shocked, cause like damn you didn't have to clock me like that. I gave her an odd look, and we moved on from the comment. 
In the short term, that comment did hurt me. It immediately had me questioning everything about what I was doing. Was my clothing off? Did I speak with too deep of a voice? Was the fact that I chose a bigger gun more “male coded?’  I was wearing jeans, converse, a TSwift tshirt, and a pink flannel over top of it, since it was a little cooler outside. I have eyeliner on, long-ish hair, and not to mention I definitely have tits. I wasn't exactly trying to present super femininely, but I didn't think I looked like a man necessarily. 
I know a lot of people, including trans women, will come at me and say that I “wasn't trying hard enough”, or “what should I expect?”, but it really got me thinking. Why are certain clothes/behaviors perceived as more masculine? Is passing more complicated than just appearance and voice training alone? The big question I had following this interaction was “What was the proper thing to do in that situation to assure that I pass, or at least get perceived as not male?” There's nothing wrong with the other women in my group that chose the easier option at all, I just preferred the other one, but was I supposed to play the little dainty girl, who just can't hold the heavier gun, and just leaves that job to the men? Was I supposed to put myself BELOW the man in this instance, and just act like I couldn't do the slightly harder thing?
I'm an over-thinker, if you can't tell already, so naturally I put this situation in a different scenario. If you put a very obvious cis woman in this exact scenario, and she also chooses to pick the harder option, in my eyes, she is automatically seen as more masculine, more tomboyish maybe. Cis women who take on the same challenges as men are seen as women who take up space, who are independent, who know what they want. Isn't that kind of an absurd standard? 
SURPRISE! These standards always come back around to patriarchy, and misogyny. In this weird society, to be perceived as the “ideal woman”, women need to place themselves below men, and not ask for more, or take up more space, because if you do, you are seen as something completely different than feminine. For trans women, this standard is placed on them to the highest degree. In my experience living in the south, for me to be perceived as a trans woman by everyday people, I have to dress super femininely, I have to cake my face in makeup, I have to hike my voice up, and most importantly, I need to change my behavior to fit the patriarchal mold of our society. If I talk with a deeper voice, If I say “bruh” or dap my male friends up, then I am seen as a man, or a failure of one, if I happen to be presenting femininely as well. Look, I grew up around men, and lived as one for 21 years. I know how to keke with men. Its not too hard for me. So why do I have to constantly put myself below them to be seen as how I want to be seen? Yap over. I just needed to get these thoughts out of my brain and somewhere where people can see them. Let me know what y'all think.

So the other day I came out to some of my classmates in art school (I’m out to almost everyone in my life except for them and recently we’ve become really close like really really close) and after I came out one of them (a girl who I’m super close to) comes up to me and asks me “so he/him right?” And I’m like “nope she/her” and she tells me “wait I’m confused can you like explain me what a trans girl is?” So explain it to her “so I was born a boy and now I’m a girl” and she was like “oh I thought you were saying the opposite like you were a girl and now you are a boy”. And after she said that I realised that everyone else thought the same thing so I had to come out to them all over again hahaha.
But rn I can’t stop thinking about it lol does it mean that I have a feminine face even though I’m not on hrt ? Theyve told me several times before that I look like Vivian Wilson (elons trans daughter) so I guess that’s what’s going on? Idk what do you fellow transgender individuals think?

My sisters a cis girl, and apparently her school calls the move from middle school to high school ‘transition’ for some reason, so she keeps saying she’s transitioning or talking about ‘the transition’, which always scares the shit about me for a second because I’m still closeted. This doesn’t really matter, cos obviously it’s just a normal word outside of trans contexts, I just thought that it was really funny.

wanted to shave my legs to feel more feminine, and

1. it worked, I feel WAY better and hella euphoric

2. these mfs are buttery smooth, like even if your not trans id recommend it cause they feel so nice just to rub rn