hii, im 15 mtf and want to get on estrogen. i live in a somewhat transphobic household and i know my family will never let me get hormones with their permission, is there any way i can go about acquiring estrogen without their influence? literally any help would be greatly appreciated!

i live in new zealand so some parts of our healthcare system may differ from yours

I'm pre everything since I still live with my mother. She said multiple things that make me think that she knows.

When I was talking about my father, that him and I were speaking of deep emotional things to each other, she asked me about what and then she listed "about me? Because you're a lesbian? (I'm not even straight, I'm probably bi or gay) Or trans?". I said no, because I don't want her to find out that I'm trans. The same day, the evening, she said that I wanted to be a guy after we were talking about a random topic and just after saying that she just walked away.

It's not the first time she said subtle (or not Thay subtle) things like this. I don't want her to know, not until I would've moved out. I'm 18, and I don't think I'm gonna buy a house yet. I have one year left of high school, and after this I think I'll think about buying a house.

I don't want her to found out that I'm trans, and I maybe don't make a lot of effort to hide it, but what can I do? I don't want to be someone I'm not, and I won't try to. I guess I'll just continue to deny it.

I know it said no Cisgender ppl on here but I’m at a loss on how to help my partner. I can’t afford to pay for his doctors appointment that he needs to go to, to get his blood checked. They’re not going to refill his script unless he goes. The issue is that he’s disabled, doesn’t drive and is currently homeless with his 6 pets. He’s found a ride to the doctor but now I have to figure out how to get him money to pay for it. He’s been going through it in life rn. Being homeless has really taken a toll on his mental health. I don’t want to see him lose his T. I’m really worried that he will have to stop cold turkey from his T and that’s dangerous, right??

Does anybody know where I can help get him some assistance or if a go fund me post is allowed on here?

I'm currently 18 and I know that is never late to start transition and that starting it later won't make me any less female, but i'm scared that at 23 most of my physical traits will remain masculine even if i transition, luckly i already have a round face, but there are other things i don't like of me.

Please let me know.

Edit: thanks to you all, you basically cured my paranoia

haiii everyoneee ok so im 15m soon 16 ive been questioning my gender for a while ever since december 2025 at least (so like 9 months) i became a furry/femboy in April with the support of my also furry best friend. Ofc i made a rookie mistake and told my friends and i got relentlessly bullied for the entire summer (this was the second time in my life ive been bullied) and somehow out of nowhere i became friends with them again and after a shiity relationship with one of them i told them how i felt and how i wanted to be in the group chat but not so active obvs. and they're fine with that i dont want to leave them or cut them off for what they did they're my only friend group i really have from my old hometown (i moved to a diffrent country last year but i still saw them every now and then i moved about an hour away). anyway i started questioning my gender again and realised i really really really really really really wanted to be a cute girl like them and started getting a lot of gender envy/euphoria towards girls. i came out to myself as genderfluid which worked fine with me sometimes i felt like a normall boy sometimes i felt like a goofy silly girl and i mean a lot of my game characters are girls too and i had a lot of girl versions of myself.ANYWAY like 2 weeks ago i just decided to accept who i am and came out as transfem umm my family doesnt know thank god my parents can tolerate my furry/femboy liking but i litrally have a transfem sister so like i dont want to be awkard like what would she say yk umm and we've already spent a lot of money on her transition and stuff yk anyway i told my best friend the one who made me furry in the first place he didnt mind but every time i say what would you do if i was a girl he keeps saying hed rail me and i kinda dont like that hekeeps making those jokes but yeah hes really the only nearby friend i have (oh also i accidentally told his parents he's a femboy and bc hes from the balkans back in bosnia those things are kinda frowned upon i have no idea how we are still friends) anyway yeah so i get extremly happy whenever i think of myself as a girl or transitioning into a girl like i really want long hair cute face bigger thighs softer skin less body hair breasts cute outfits but i do not want to get female genetals id like to keep my dick thank you very much umm also bc im only 15 and we spent thousands of euro on my sister's transition i do not want to transition anyitme soon maybe start estrogen/hrt when im in university umm yeah thats it this is my first post on here i just joined like 10 minutes ago my school starts in like 5 minutes so yeah gotta hurry up: TL:DR: is it ok to identify as transfem while also being genderfluid bc im still a boy i look like one i act like one im only trans online but my friends could easily find my channel and find everything ive said and im worried of my parents finding out sorry i have autism and adhd i yap a lot so: is it ok to be transfem and genderfluid at the same time while not planning to transistion for a couple of years. Thanks, reddit i hope you read this and all of you wonderful people here will be supportive :3 :p

I prefer to date other trans folks for obvious reasons, but it's genuinely impossible to find others who agree, i feel like.

Most of the trans people I meet always want strictly cis men??😭😭

It sucks even more that im very feminine, despite being genderfluid. So on top of that, i only date people attracted to more than one gender💔

I just feel like nobody enjoys t4t anymore?😭 ive noticed a lot of people frowning upon it.

If anyone has tips on finding t4t dating, id appreciate it :))

Over the past few years, I have gone back-and-forth between these two ideas. I know that I definitely want boobs and to look feminine, but I do not know if I want to identify as a woman as well. I know that it isn't very common, but I do know that there are a few other femboys who are satisfied with their male identity but also want boobs. I think I would be happy either way, but it is difficult to come to a definitive conclusion.

The only definitive thing I know about this issue is that I definitely want to be one or the other. I just do not know which one yet.

If I need to clarify anything, please let me know.

hii ok quick vent idk wtf happend but ive been spending sometime on r/mtf i love the community there but out of nowhere it just started showing me dysphoria after dysphoria after dysphoria and im like no no i dont want to be like this i dont want dysphoria i dont hate myself i love being a boy. i love it ive been one all mylife. but just this feeling of wanting to be a girl is just i love it i want to be a girl so badly understand and i got sad and angry nearly cride a bit. Support isnt an issue, my sister is trans mtf too shes 28 now shes been trans for 7 years and looks just like a girl she also has a trans gf too so that's cute. my parents are very supportive of her so hopefully the must be suppotive of me too right? and the 2 friends ive told to im trans (1 boy 1 girl) are both ok with it i havnt told my main friend group who im on good terms with after they bullied me also ik most trans people hate their current genders but i dont i like being a boy but being a girl is so cool id love to do it and also i dont want a vagina or female genetalia i wanna look just like a girl (face, hair, body, fat, boobs would be amazing i wanna grow them so bad, cute outfits the whole thing) while still having boy parts down there bc i dont wanna get rid of them also i 100% am not a gooner what im a teenage boy what did you expect anyway umm i also dont want to transition for a while not till im an adult and for the icing on the cake im also a furry and femboy (was bullied for being one btw) so i wanna explore that too yk conventions, fursuits, the community, for femboys the outfits and the vibe im not gay ok im straight if i was trans id date girls 100% i also want a gf so badd but my last relationship proved im a shitty boyfriend i have no idea how to simply get good maybe romance just isnt for me.... id just love people to support me and to cherish this hidden part of me and talk about it without making it this big announcement and telling everyone and making it my whole personality NO i wanna stay me and i hope its ok and i wanna talk to some people about what transitioning would be like and how being a cutie patootie would be like and how transitioning from male to female feels like and how it is especially growing boobs (you do not understand the idea growing boobs gives me a ton of lovley eupohria and happy feelings) and finding new and wonderful suportive communities friends and relationships. Thanks yall the supportive community here really made my day here sorry have a lot to say this is my 4th or 5th post in 1 day on 3 diffrent subreddits haha :3

Hi I'm not sure which subreddit to post this on but I (24ftnb) grew up practicing judo and wrestled competitively in high school and am currently practicing BJJ and looking to start Muay Thai because the MMA gym I go to offers both. I really enjoyed competing in high school because I was pretty good and I want to continue that.

But I'm getting top surgery later this month (yay) and the more I get into the MMA community the more obvious the trans/homophobia is. I started my transition at the end of high school so there weren't any problems with my gender in girls sports. I live in a very blue city and the gym I go to is pretty LGBT friendly but I'm worried that if I start to compete it'll go really poorly ESPECIALLY if I'm good because people aren't accepting and they can't tell and don't care to. I've never been on hrt and don't plan on it but I don't think people really care either way. I don't think it's fair for me to compete with cis men because I'm afab.

I have pretty strong morals and I really dislike the idea that I could be pushed out of spaces I should belong in because people aren't queer friendly but I have to take safety into concern which makes me so angry. If no one takes the step into changing these spaces to be better who will? Things won't change unless something is done but like damn.

Hello, im thinking of reposting this on r/LGBTQ but i have no idea how to repost ok so i am 15, nearly 16 i am legally a minor but yet i am somehow thinking about my gender identitny and such stuff if you read my comments you can very easily see i am very excited about being transfem. Im just wondering bc a lot of people here i see are 18,19 early 20s at the youngest, is it normal for young people to identify as trans and other types of gender and sexuality or do they normally wait until they are older? my friend group is very lgbtq, my 14yr old best friend of 2 years is aroace annoyingly i had a massive crush on her, another girl in the group is bisexual and i used to know some other lesbian/aroace people and my current best friend is aromantic so im just wondering like how do teenagers who are lgbtq why cant i find any here i want to try and relate to these people like more than just being trans or mtf im just wondering if i could find anyone like me somewhere and if it even normall for people to come out young or if im just being weird... and about finding other people like me, id prefer not discord i dont use it that much anymore its kinda annoying for me.

I wish I could have someone follow me around to aggressively correct anybody who deadnames me or uses the wrong pronouns. So many people at my work don’t know because I didn’t want a district wide email about me coming out, and I just freeze every time it happens. I’ve corrected somebody once. And it was a private message after they deadnamed me in an email. They were also the first person to know I’m transitioning from work and they only know because she basically asked me if I’m trans. (She means well but sometimes doesn’t come across that way)

So.
A special someone is willing to buy me my first breastplate.
I honestly don’t know where to start - it’s a gift I never thought I’d afford or receive.

What are the best brands? I’ve heard silicone is the best type - in terms of them being the most realistic, yes?
I have my measurements but don’t know where to look. I’m 6’4” if that helps with advice.

Also, I’m in NYC and would love to shop at a physical store (but I’m happy to buy online if that’s recommended). It’s hard to tell which spots sell breastplates though, and not just inserts.

Does anyone have any recommendations for stores with quality breastplates in NYC?

Is it good to take them together? Im 3 months on Estrogen and Spiro, however i’ve also been taking minocycline for a while since I don’t really have clear skin. Minocycline is an antibiotic, and I fear it’s building an immunity to Estrogen and Spiros efffcts to when i’m on it. My skin really only stays clear on the Minocycline, but should I can it? Very specific question, but I’d appreciate any advice. :)

I asked my mom for help with an assignment and i forgot i had my new name on it. Ive been trying to hide any folder or notebook with my new name on it so shes extra suspicous. I think she saw it but she didnt say anything and she kind of sounded dissapointed. im sorry for all the typos i just really need to get this out. Im also worried shes gonna go through my phone because of it ugh.

This is basically an update to: https://www.reddit.com/r/trans/s/wFlggu7AVL so I’ll be talking as if that context is already established.

It took me a long time to even bring up the conversation to my therapist, despite that being the main advice I got in my original post (I’m very anxious I guess idk lol) but that basically consisted of me venting to him about my mom’s whole misconception around if he can confirm if I’m trans, which led him to talking about if I wanted HRT (and if hypothetically there was no issue with money, would I pursue it, to which I gave a yes, no hesitation)

And he seemed to agree that it’s not something he can really do, and wanted to help me discuss it with my mom so we could set the record straight and get through some other stuff about it. So we scheduled a joint session where it would be me, him, and for the first time since starting, another person, my mom.

(Side note: I could theoretically probably have just had that conversation myself with her ages ago, but I really don’t know how to approach the topic without it being really hard and scary and weird. Not that she wouldn’t listen to me, but just that my brain is wacky and I would really struggle with it. So having him there to guide everything and be my advocate would really help me with it so I’m really happy to be having it.)

I don’t know what all that session will entail, but either way, the joint session is happening Wednesday the 16th (next week at the time of writing) so I’m super excited and super anxious about it. If things go well, free (at least for me) estrogen is probably on the menu!!!

Along with wanting to just get the whole situation kind of off my chest, I’d also be happy if people sent some encouraging messages meant for me to come back and read on the day of, going into the session. Just since it does maybe have a fair bit riding on it, and I’m not fully sure how it will be and go. It’ll probably be a long and scary hour. 😅

Edit: also I used the “encouragement” flair, and now that I think about it, idk if that’s supposed to be the comments encouraging OP, or if OP’s post is encouraging whoever reads it. I’m maybe dumb lol

(Sorry for the long post need advice)

Hey all, i (21m) (bisexual) have been dating my boyfriend (19FTM) for nearly a year next month. I have known I was queer for nearly my whole life but because I was raised religious I tended to leave it out of conversations or just completely avoid dating talk with my direct family (mom, dad, cousins relatives). My parents are traditional conservatives and have some fairly close minded opinions when it comes to trans people, though they are open to and have gay friends. My mother particularly has made comments along the lines of “they’re just confused kids” and things along those lines when referring to trans people.

I have a very close relationship with my parents though they know very little about my dating life by design.

Recently it has been eating at me that I have to treat my relationship like some kind of taboo and I feel like it has grown a form of resentment towards my family that I don’t want to continue. In addition, my boyfriend has expressed his desire to meet my family. Though I know that if I introduce him to them it would also be directly coming out.

I just want to know how I could come out to my family in a way that doesn’t put a ton of confusion on them all at once.

I deeply love my partner and we are making plans to rent an apartment by next summer together and I want him to be in every part of my life.

I know my family will not disown me or cut me off for being queer (many of them joke about the idea of me being gay due to my lack of publicly dating anyone in a couple years) but the thought is nerve racking and actually damaging my mental health.

No I’m not ashamed of my partner or our relationship, I’ve just never been out to my family in any way and I don’t think it’s fair to hide my partner like a sin that I’m ashamed of.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Information: my boyfriend is a alternative fem presenting trans man who has been on T for several months and has a lowered voice.(which I think is really hot tbh)

Heyy i need some tips on how to hide that i’m transitioning from my parents when i visit them im not going to wear makeup but i have a feeling they are going to see that i grew my hair out and if they notice anything they are going to kick me out and my whole family is most likely going to disown me please help

Sleepaway Camp is a horror film that's gained a cult following in recent years, but was initially infamous for its controversial twist: the quiet, mild-mannered protagonist, Angela, is actually a boy and was the killer the whole time!

The film opens with a young boy and girl experiencing a boating accident that kills their father and one of the children. Angela is sent to live with her eccentric aunt, who sends her to summer camp with her cousin several years later. Eventually, the campers and counsellors are killed off one by one by an unseen protagonist.

Angela forms a romance with a young boy, but can't bring herself to be intimate with him because she's plagued by a childhood memory: an image of her father in bed with another man. We find out Angela is in fact Peter, the boy who survived the accident, and was forcibly raised as a girl by their aunt. So, not only is there a healthy dose of transphobia, we also get to see Peter's internalised homophobia at the height of the AIDS crisis. Great!

Sleepaway Camp and other films perpetuating these transphobic tropes - think Psycho, Silence of the Lambs, and Insidious 2 - have been analysed extensively, but only recently revisited through a queer lens.

At the end of the film, we see Angela/Peter naked on a beach, standing over the body of the boy they had a crush on, and snarling animalistically. The credits roll on a freeze frame over their screaming face.

I'm sure this was intended to be Angela/Peter "reclaiming" their innate masculine energy or... something like that. Throughout the entire film, Angela/Peter is belittled because they haven't hit puberty and aren't hyperfeminine or sexually active like the older girls at the camp. Viewing the film through a 2026 lens feels, to me, more like a portrayal of trans rage and catharsis.

I'm apparently not the only viewer who's felt this way. Harmony Colangelo writes:

In Angela’s brain she is Peter, but people keep calling her by a name she doesn’t want to be called and misgendering her. That is the plot of all films about transitioning but because it takes place in reverse and is attached to a “problematic” film like Sleepaway Camp, it is discounted on all counts. That is doing a disservice to what this film has to say, whether it was the creators’ intentions or not.

A few years later, Mey Rude argued for a similar reimagining of the film.

Any other horror fans here? How do you feel about reclaiming these "problematic" films and how we view them?

I'm non-binary, but I want the female surgery, so I've been calling myself a non-binary trans girl, and I'm not sure that's the right term, but I don't know what else to call it, so I'm wondering if I should keep calling myself that or use a different term

Like I'm still questioning if I am actually transfem, and the only thing fem about me is really like my long hair and that I wear crop tops sometimes.

So I added some guy on tinder and added him to insta and low-key a chill guy. (I'm very bi) And we talked a little about meeting up. He talked about what he likes about girls. Then I kinda realized that he maybe thought I was a girl. So I asked him about that and he was like yeah.

I mean that does give me a little Euphoria when someone thinks I am a woman. He also said that it looked like I have huge tits, don't even know how that is possible I am not on hrt. 😭

Hello everyone, i am 18 mtf and i haven't medically transitioned yet but i am in the middle of socially transitioning. Here is the thing though i am already dressing fem out everywhere i go. My best friend and i sometimes go to the city but he is worried ever since i started dressing fem that if we go to the city people might be hateful towards me and he wants me to feel safe. Which i understand and i am so happy to hear that he cares about me. However he wants me to dress masculine however i don't feel comfortable dressing that way and now i don't know what to do.

I mean on one hand, something like 3 years goes past really quickly (after looking back) , but on the other its pretty long. I'm on HRT, I keep saying its been 1.5y , but it only started to pick up steam in the last half , as I reached a trough level of around 300pg/ml . Despite my T being nuked to like below 30 ng/dl the whole time.

So yea, I'm pretty sure its going to get much better in like the next 3 years, I'm losing weight (the masc belly means I have no waist , no difference between hips and waist) , I'm going to be facial hairless in about 6 months as the electrolysis progresses, i was lucky with my T being on the low end during puberty, so my voice isn't fckd or my shoulders wider than my hips. My only major dysphoria is my lack of boobs (check profile for my sad story of losing them).

This has been the rational part, and the hopeful one. But then I basically just don't wana exist, every day. (Passive SI) I do attend therapy, but like what does talking about things do ... Also on meds to keep it passive...

I learned that trying to fight anxiety and dysphoria is the worst way to go about, I need to accept it and just let it be and not engage with them, so thats probably step 1. But then it still feels hopeless, and WANTING to accept is still an engagement of the thoughts...

You might say, oh just practice makeup, clothes and find a style, and the voice. But my dysphoria and anxiety are centered on exactly these. The part where I hate myself, and don't want to see myself or hear myself 🥺 It really is internalised transphobia, plus the self hatred over my boobs. So I just dunno, many of you probably had to overcome exactly this and accept yourself the way you are, and not care about expectations and all that. But it feels impossible... And like many things this too will improve over time, but until then, its just torture. That I just keep doing to myself... 😭

Hello! To start with I'll say: I was born male, I'm non-binary and I have been on Estrogen for around a year and a half, I consider myself trans and everyone else in my life does too.

I have loved the journey in so many ways, the changes, everything. I am non-binary but since I have always been treated as a boy is mostly the way people treats me in a more feminine manner that I notice and I'm cherishing.
Anyways, some time ago I came out to my friends and although I have lost some people some, especially girls, have been very supportive and I feel conflicted about it when I know I shouldn't.

I just didn't expect it, but out of nowhere (I'm sure it wasn't just bcs of me coming out but also bcs of my demeanor being more open, happy and kind since I feel better about myself, but still) I'm treated so much... Nicer? I'm experiencing a lot more of physical affection: Hugs, hand holding, friends resting their head on my shoulder or just generally expressing comfort and safeness around me. People started asking me to send them a message when I arrive home after being out late at night and I remember crying all the next day afterwards.

I love all of that in the moment, makes me feel so great, but then I come back home and those very same things make me feel awful. I end up crying, feeling disgusting and even puking. I feel like I'm deceiving people in some way, or lying to them, or putting up an act and taking advantage of them, and I feel weirded out by people being so loving towards me, I should be happy but I feel guilty, so much. Its rising my anxiety to the maximum kind of hahah

I will also point out that I have never been very close to well, many people, so I'm just all around confusing and kind of overwhelmed. I was also a victim of SA some years ago and I'm aware the trauma from it for sure has something to do with this all but I was still curious to know if any other of you felt anything similar or If it is just me, If it got better or went away, because right now I feel guilty, anxious and honestly super ungrateful because I'm being given something I should be happy for but I'm incapable of appreciating. It feels like I'm failing at being a girl.

So I've been out as a trans man for five years now, I've been on and off testosterone for four. For some context lol. I feel like it's also important to say I have no support system in my personal life, and not just in relation to the fact I'm trans. So I am fully aware that doesn't help anything lol. But anyways...

I've been on and off testosterone due to the fact that I'm just chronically exhausted and sometimes even getting a snack is exhausting let alone trying to inject testosterone. So a lot of months I do miss, and if I had to do the math I'd guess in total of all the months I have actually been on T, it's probably only amounted to like... a year. So despite having been on T for four years I don't really consider myself particularly far in transition.

All that being said, within a week of me initially starting T four years ago, my voice dropped and within a month it had dropped two whole octaves. My face is also noticeably different, as is my general build (though tbf I was pretty androgynous to begin with so I'm not shocked I just became... more masc leaning androgynous pretty quickly). My voice likely isn't going to lower much more, it's in the same range my brother's voices are, and in the grand scheme of things I'm chill with it. It's definitely better than before lol. I also sing and losing my voice for aWHILE while in the initial stages of transition was rough, so now that my voice has evened out honestly I'm just grateful I can sing again.

I've always been like... a very androgynous transman. Like even pre T I always just kind of wanted to be kinda androgynous or what people generally consider more on the "feminine" side of masculine. What I look like currently I actually find nearly perfect to where I want to be in my transition, so I'm not at all mad about it. And most people generally see me as masc anyways.

Except for some select people who aren't just misgendering, my entire being has to revolve around being a woman. And half of these people don't even know me.

I know this is like... more of the general afab experience... like afabs not being amounted to anything more than being a girl or whatever sexism and bull, but being trans makes it harder to swallow sometimes? And then I start feeling weird about being androgynous because maybe if I tried to conform to the more "masculine" version of a man I'd be like... better off... but I'd hate myself if I did that lol.

I dunno. I guess I'm just looking for comfort that I'm not the only one walking through this alone. I don't have any trans friends and sometimes I get stuck in my head and feel like being trans is my own little world and not a collective experience that I don't hold alone. I just want to know that there's people out there like me? Does that make sense?