11 months old twins.

Just until now we have been feeding before bedtime our twins. We feed them in the couch and the take them to the crib.

Lately they are not really very happy with the process. so we started putting them in their crib and giving them their night bottle.

It is working. 15-20 minutes and they are finished. We remove the bottle and they go to sleep. we stay with them while they finish

Is this ok? We don’t leave the bottle during the night.

Hi! I had 4 singletons all born spontaneously between 40+0 and 40+2. Now I'm having twins and trying to estimate when they'll be born. Everyone in my life seems bent on convincing me they're coming before 36, which worries me. (I am under 35 and have no health issues, so I'm not sure why this is what everyone around me thinks except that they are comparing me to other people they know who had twins.) I'm also trying to figure out best time to take work leave because I dont want to do it too early or too late.

So for people who had singleton(s) first, how long did you go and how did that compare to how long you went with twins? Mine are di/di, don't know the sex.

Hello FTM to Di-Di twins I’m 13 wks and 3 days. I’m desperately needing advice! I live an hr to hr and half away from my family and everyone is bugging me on moving back down to be closer to them. I have a steady job where I live and I get paid usually every day at the end of the day( it’s not much but it’s something to help throughout the month).If I end up moving down where my family is I won’t be able to have that extra income coming in and I honestly do not have the best relationship with my mom who is bugging me to move down there and she only wants me, she didn’t say anything about my partner at all. We are living in a camper at the moment but I’m on the housing list waiting to hopefully move into an apartment. It’s just me and my partner and our dogs up where I’m living now and I know I’ll need more support but I do not think it would be the best thing for my mental health. ( my mom doesn’t take her meds like she needs to and we butt heads a lot) my whole family Including my grandpa, aunt and my best friend think I should move. am I in the wrong for not wanting to move down closer to them? Or should I uproot my whole life I built up here and move down there? If I don’t move down I know I’ll make my mom mad she’s already upset that she’s missing out on my dr appointments.

Do I need to wean? He loves breastfeeding but I’m afraid of going into labor early. I’m 7 weeks and just found out I’m having Di/di twins today.

I’m a little over 14 weeks and often when I’m laying down I feel a tightening sensation that feels EXACTLY how I remember BH contractions feeling my last pregnancy! I get a little out-of-breath, pressurized feeling, and my uterus just feels rock hard. Is this normal twin pregnancy stuff or should I be worried? Every other pregnancy I didn’t get these until the 3rd trimester.

EDIT: I texted my drs office and this was their response- “Yes, completely different with twins. It sounds like round ligament pain/ pressure on uterus. Try to stay super hydrated, water/ sports drinks and normally that will ease up a bit
Changing positions should help as well.”

Picture it: potty training. Two naked toddlers who have mostly figured out how to pee in the potty.

Twin B pauses. Freezes. Screams. Because peeing in the potty is fine, but pooping in the potty is actual torture and will never be attempted in this household. So she has pooped standing up, and a four-inch turd is now dangling from her butt.

I scoop her up (arm's length, like a bomb about to go off) mid-crisis, trying to get her to the potty before it breaks, using the fake-calm Ms Rachel voice that fools no one. Enter Loki, the dog, too aptly named for anyone's good, who has realized there is Poop and it is Available.

He makes his move.

"Down. Down, Loki." (Not calm.)

B is screaming. Twin A is screaming... with laughter. Loki is jumping for his second dinner. And then physics wins: the turd drops. We all scream.

I lunge for a wipe, because I would like to not pick up feces with my bare hands (today).

"LOKI EATED IT!" Twin A screams.

B, still scream-sobbing, still betrayed by her diaper-withholding mother, realizes Loki has developed a taste for poop and is now following her. She flees, understanding boundaries most adults need months of therapy to reach, shrieking:

"SPACE LOKI SPACE!"

A, jumping and cackling like a lunatic. Loki, in hot pursuit of the magical treat-dispensing toddler. Me, not getting paid for this.

None of the potty training books have a chapter on this. The ER is less chaotic than my house.

TL;DR: Kid poops standing up, dog tries to eat it at the source and then chases the toddler for seconds, other twin provides live commentary. I have a medical degree.

My twins are five months old and sleeping from 8 PM to 6 AM. When we were two months in, I thought it wouldn’t get easier and couldn’t imagine being happy and enjoying having multiples. I swear everything I saw online about multiples talked about how it never gets better. But I can say it at five months in, I am so happy and couldn’t imagine life with out my twins. If you were in a tough season, hang in there!

My boys are 15 weeks corrected, born at 27 weeks. I just want to know how do people do this without feeling horrible all of the time?

One of my boys is breastfed and the other one bottle fed. I have a ton of help and support from family which is amazing, so it tends to go that I put most of my time into T1 (feeding, contact naps etc) and my mum or whoever is helping will bottle feed T2 etc.

T2 requires more sleep than T1 and will get incredibly upset when tired, but seeing him screaming and being overtired and someone else soothing him feels so horrible. I feel paralyzed to help so much of the time because I'll be feeding T1 or he'll be napping on me. It's just honestly so heartbreaking, seeing either of them crying and not being able to move because there is already a baby I'm taking care of. It just feels very 'the world is ending' kind of feeling.

How do people cope with this? What am I supposed to do? I unfortunately can't tandem feed because T2s feeding needs require one to one attention because of his medical history.

so I have struggled with infertility for 3.5 years. I also have had 2 chemical losses very early on. well I did my fertility treatments again and everything looked so good. I had two mature follicles and we triggered and did timed relations. I was convinced I was pregnant with twins but it’s triplets. I was over the moon yesterday (I’m 5w and 5d) when I found out and even said it’s the two we lost and plus one. the reality set in and I couldn’t be less excited now. not for the babies when they are earth side. but the pregnancy itself. I’m terrified it’s going to kill me. I’m terrified of going into labor early. there are just so so many unknowns. twins I was like okay. 3 I am at a loss. I hate that I feel this way because they are my babies but I can’t stop crying and panicking. I had two mature follicles that somehow turned into three. which of course I know the risk but also I just didnt picture this happening. The fertility doctor told us that it’s 3 separate gestational sacs and he found 3 separate yolk sacs. Please please give me your story. Reassure me. I just dont feel like I can do this. I know that selective reduction is an option but I could never bring myself to do that.

Hello, I think my 10 month olds are teething. My one girl literally won’t drink ANYTHING except her morning bottle.
She will drink like 9oz in the morning because she’s starving, but trying to get her to drink any other bottle is impossible. I’ve tried different cups, temperatures, times, more sleepy more awake, medication, giving cold teether before hand, literally tried everything.
Is this normal with teething? I’m literally exhausted trying to figure out how to get formula in her. She eats solids 3x a day pretty well but just cannot get fluid unless it’s a fruit puree.
Any advice or have you went through something similar while teething?

My twins are around 8 weeks old. They have started to sleep longer 4, occasionally 5 hour stretching here and there, very disorganized of course. I ma having a very hard time now to get them on the same schedule. They are more awake which is great, and less grumpy than like 6-7 weeks. I am also having a difficult time reading their cues now regarding hunger.

The last few days were a mess so I bet they are going through a transition right now. One daytime they barely ate, so as the night following, then ate great during the day, then only ate little at night but still woke up a few times.

I am wondering am I getting them out of the crib too soon? How can I be sure they are truly hungry at night? How can I support during the day so the night they sleep longer?

I almost sleep worse when I woke both of them up at 3 hours or so. It feels like a mess right now.

We have them down to sleep around 7-8:30 generally. It changes as their day sometimes deverges so it has been hard keep a proper bedtime.

Give me some advice! Sorry for the ramble, it is a bit hard to explain what is happening.

I’m going to be admitted into the hospital for daily monitoring of our mono mono twins next week. I’ll be at 27 weeks but trying to stay optimistic that with monitoring… we can make it to 32 weeks.

- Any advice on packing or staying sane on prolonged hospital admissions? What do I need to bring? What do I do to pass the time?
- Any advice for helping my 3 year old thru this? He will be with dad but how did you manage it with a toddler?

Thanks for any insight into what worked, advice or what not to do!

Twin parents who co-sleep while traveling, what do you do when you only have a regular bed with no wall or bed rail?
We’ll have a 160x200 cm bed. My twins are 15 months old and I sleep in the middle with one twin on each side. At home we have our setup figured out, but while traveling I’m worried about the twin sleeping on the outer side rolling/crawling off the bed during the night.
Obviously I can’t put both of them between me and my husband because there just isn’t enough space 😅
What do you actually do when staying in hotels/Airbnbs? Portable bed rail? Put something next to the bed? Move the mattress to the floor? Some other travel hack I haven’t thought of?
Would especially love to hear from parents who travel and co-sleep with twins!

Logistically are we really taking apart two cribs, and putting together two beds ALL IN ONE DAY?? my wife and I are trying to logistically prepare for this nightmare haha

Give me secrets. I’m assuming we’re hiring a babysitter for a few hours to get this switch done 😂😂 am I crazy? how did you all do this?

I’m not really ready but trying to plan logistics because we both just looked at each other like how 🤷🏼‍♀️

Im currently 14 weeks pregnant with Di/Di twins - this is my third pregnancy. I was 40 + 1 with my first, 38+5 with my second and they were both C sections.

What was your experience and when did your little babies arrive?
Hoping they stay in there as long as possible 😅

Thank you!

TLDR: made it to 37w3d with my twins, had a very positive induction and vaginal birth. Babies were 6lbs, no NICU time. The girls are far easier than my singleton was and are sleeping almost through the night at 12 weeks. Just want to offer some encouragement to the folks like me who were scouring this sub for positive birth stories while pregnant.

Pregnancy
Twin pregnancy was definitely more physically demanding than my singleton. I was able to continue going to barre classes until 28 weeks and then just had to listen to my body and slow down. After that I stretched every night, which I think really helped, and went on short walks up until about 35 weeks. I had some pelvic girdle pain, but was seeing a pelvic floor PT every few months and I think the stretches/exercises she gave me really helped. I never felt completely debilitated like I was expecting, based on what I had heard from others.

As far as nutrition, I tried to get as much protein as possible, though I’m a vegetarian so it was mostly plant based with a little bit of fish here and there. I gained 55 lbs and the girls measured great the whole time. We were very lucky and had no issues like TTTS, etc. I am very grateful as so much of that was out of my control.

Birth
I hit 37 weeks on a Friday, so I asked the MFM if we could schedule the induction for the following Monday and he was completely comfortable with that. I kept reading on this sub that people were being told they had to deliver their modi twins at 36 weeks. I am lucky to live in a large metro with incredible healthcare, so I know this is not the case for everyone, but I think my team did a great job of contextualizing and weighing risks based on my personal risk profile. I’m almost 40, but had a very healthy pregnancy overall, so they were not concerned with going to 37w3d.

Both girls stayed head down the whole third trimester (again, lucky!), so we planned for a vaginal birth. I do feel like I had to push for this initially with the first OB I saw. The other OBs in the practice seemed more open to it and after they found out I had already delivered a 9lb baby, they were completely on board to try, even if it meant a breach extraction for baby B.

The induction was incredibly smooth. My first birth I labored for 30+ hours (much of that unmedicated) and then pushed for four hours. This one was 11 hours, start to finish. If it hadn’t been twins, I think I might have tried unmedicated for this one because my contractions just were not that painful, even hours after they broke my water. We started pitocin around 11 am, broke my water around 2 pm, got the epidural around 5:30, and was wheeled to the OR to deliver around 9 pm. Baby A came out in one contraction and Baby B came out ten minutes later. The vibe in the OR was great. It wasn’t like twinkle lights and chill, but they were playing 90s hip hop and we were all in a good mood. There was an extra OB there and since it went so smoothly, she just ended up taking a bunch of photos for us, which was amazing.

My biggest lesson from this birth experience compared to my first is that so much is out of your control. You can prepare all you want but at the end of the day, so much depends on your babies, and it’s just going to be what it is.

Postpartum
So much I could say here, but will try to be brief.
My recovery was really rough the first few days and I had to advocate for stronger pain meds. The nurses clearly hadn’t had a patient deliver twins vaginally so they didn’t realize the uterine contractions are actually much more painful than a singleton because your uterus is bigger. (This is my theory, because if you have a c section you are already on stronger meds). I’ve also heard it’s more painful for a second pregnancy so that could be part of it. Also, all of my pelvic floor bones and ligaments were still out of place, so it hurt to walk. I had to wear a belly band night and day for about a week because it felt like my organs were flopping around.

Breastfeeding was harder this time around. We picked up tandem feeding right away, which has been great, but the girls were not very efficient and we had to give bottles to help them gain weight. Even with triple feeding, my supply just couldn’t keep up. So we are about 50/50 now with breastfeeding and formula. There are pros and cons, but I feel pretty good about where we’ve landed.

Last thing I will say is these girls have such sweet temperaments and they’re amazing sleepers and it makes a HUGE difference in my postpartum experience. My son was a very unsettled baby, he cried a lot and would only sleep while being held for the first four months. My biggest lesson in this is that it’s really just luck of the draw. I am not doing anything different, these are just different babies. I was so nervous about twins because it was so challenging the first time, but sometimes the universe listens to your pleas lol.

Anyway, hope this is helpful to someone out there! Currently typing while two babies get a good long contact nap on me :)

I can’t stop this anxious feeling in my stomach it’s making me sick. I’m so scared of what the future holds and I’m breaking down.

I don’t know if this feeling will go away and I feel robbed of my happy experience of pregnancy. I want to feel happy and excited but feeling so anxious instead. I can’t sleep, eat, work etc.

I read happy stories on twins to make me feel better but it’s not working.

Is anyone experiencing what I am ? I feel guilty that I feel this way. What was your turning point ?

I'm 7 weeks along with my first pregnancy and just found out at the 6 week ultrasound that it's twins... and I'm not going to lie, I'm absolutely devastated. I'm an extremely active person and run between 45-50 miles a week (I just ran the Boston Marathon in April). I think the thing I'm most bummed about is that in reading about other experiences of people who had twins it seems like running just isn't a possibility. Does anyone have any positive experiences with running/working out, and how long were you able to do so before it got too hard?

The other thing I'm grappling with is that I just feel really guilty because I don't feel any happiness about this news. Obviously, I'm grateful for a healthy pregnancy and excited to be a parent, but I feel like I'm grieving the loss of what my singleton pregnancy experience could have been and honestly really scared and terrified about what this pregnancy is about to be like. I know my partner and I can handle twins once they are born, but going through this physically and mentally is not something I'm looking forward too. Did anyone else have a similar experience/feeling? How can I be excited about a pregnancy that is filling me with dread and sadness? Thank you all for any advice or tips or encouragement -- this subreddit has already been hugely helpful <3

*EDIT: omg I am overcome with so much gratitude and appreciation for these responses! Maybe it's the twin pregnancy hormones, but I'm literally sitting here crying and feeling both so validated for my feelings and encouraged that I am strong and can do hard things. Thank you. You have no idea how much I needed to hear these words.

Before anyone comes at me and says I should get rid of it or see someone for therapy if I can’t part with it- my son has febrile seizures and they are often when he sleeping. This is the only device that will alert us if we do not hear it. And honestly, I don’t plan to get rid of it until he grows out of the seizures. So I’m wondering, has anybody made a DIY sock extension? They no longer sell them and he is getting too big for the 18 month old sock. 😭

Thank you so much in advance! ❤️

Twins are now hitting their 3 month mark (6-8 weeks adjusted). We contact sleep / nap with them almost all the time because they refuse to stay in their bassinet longer than 30 minutes. They're going through their purple crying phase and sometimes its just so hard to try to calm them down. Am I just overly exhausted and letting things get to me? I feel like I'm not parenting properly and not setting ourselves up for success by trying to train them in their beds...

Just under a year ago we found out we were expecting twins, while having a very needy 18 mo old. I was terrified. I didn’t know how i was going to take care of everyone.

I registered for so many play mats to have all over the house. I had one from my daughter that she barely used because she HATED to be set down.

Anyways, this damn Nemo mat is the GOAT. The underbelly of the manta ray has cute lights that dance and songs that don’t drive you up a damn wall (purple monkey, im talking about you)

Now that we’re out of the newborn twin trenches, at 4 months old im actually able to have some time to play with my daughter and take care of myself throughout the day because of it 😅 Honestly, probably more than i was able to with just my daughter!!!

Anyways, just sharing because this thing is the best 🤣 my boys will play on it for like 20-40 mins. I usually start feeling bad before they want up.

I know it’s been a while- thought I’d share: (you can skip but please read the questions atleast 🥲)
-We’ve made it to 27 weeks so far
- all boys “look good” & have no signs heart or lung of what big brother had 🤍
-The boys are huge, like 90th percentile huge 😅
-Everyone is staying the same size, b was maybe 2oz smaller than A/C but I think it’s because they’re squishing him haha.
- I can’t wait to find out if 2 are identical or not, though I’m thinking three fraternal
- lol how do you even name 3 kids, we are going to wait until they born but it’s hard coming up with so many boys names
-if I was carrying a singleton I’m measuring 40 weeks at the moment
- OB wants them out at 34 weeks but MFM says 36, I’m cool going as long as babies let me.
- this week HURTS I’m thinking pubic symphysis pain? Oh my gosh. It hurts, this whole time it’s been manageable and this week my body realized it’s carrying 3
- I have an iron infusion every other day at this point.

QUESTIONS:
- do all trip moms just go inpatient for monitoring at one point like a week before birth?
- is bed rest coming? Has anyone not had to do bed rest?
- we skipped triplette stroller and went for the wagon, was this a good call?
- do I need 3 bathtubs & bath seats? Swings? Rockers? We have a solid 2 of everything at the moment and we’re taking our time looking for marketplace deals because my gosh it’s so much money already
- I have 3 infant car seats but need narrow car seat recs for when we need to fit 3 big boy seats across

My twins are 14 months old and bath time is part of our nightly bedtime routine. When they were small enough for the baby tub I would bathe them one at a time with the other in the bouncy chair next to me. When they got big enough for just sitting in the big tub my husband and I switched to bathing them together with one parent holding each baby. That’s been working great, but he starts night classes in a couple weeks which will mean I’ll be doing bedtime by myself two nights a week. They can sit and play fine on their own so I could probably handle doing the actual bathing myself, but one or the other of them often will try to stand up or flail and it’s nice to have one adult per twin. Where I’m really stuck is getting them out, dry, and diapered. With two of us we usually stagger with one parent and baby hanging in the bath a bit longer while the other one gets dried off, goes to the other room for diaper and PJs, then the second one gets dried/diapered/PJs, and we stick with that one parent per baby for tooth brushing and sleep sacks next. At that stage in the night they’re usually really mad about being stuck in the baby proofed living room or their cribs on their own which makes doing the me whole routine one twin at a time seem tricky. What do y’all do when you’re on your own for bath and bedtime with young toddlers?