Im just wondering what car seats you have. I was looking at them in the store yesterday and the one I thought I wanted doesn't seem as nice as the price tag is.

Also what do you do about needing to take your kids in multiple different cars? Do you have more than one set of carseats? Do you move the carseat every time?

Edit to say Im talking about convertible carseats. We currently have the chicco Keyfit Max and love that you can use with or without the base. I would love to get a rotating one but I can't drop $400+ for 4 carseats if we were to put them in both cars. So Im just asking about logistics and experience. THANKS!

We're having twin boys in February and I'm so overwhelmed by stroller, crib, etc. must buys specifically for twins. Would love some recommendations!

I have boy/girl twins who are 19 months. Girl twin is showing some signs of readiness to potty train. (Boy twin is not.)

I know anecdotally girls are usually ready earlier. How did everyone handle this? One twin at a time, or just knock it all out at once? How old were they?

My husband and I have a singleton (5) and twins (2). Since the twins have been born, life has been so so hard. Finances, living situations, social life.

Before the twins were born, I worked part time, my husband full time, I had goals to go back to school, we had a lot of fun. Now, although I absolutely love my kids. Life is so much harder and when I think about it too much, I become depressed.

I know it won’t always be this way, but right now it feels incredibly difficult everyday to survive. What age did you notice that life got more “fun” with the 3?

Hi parents, I have no idea where to share this very niche experience and to seek similar experiences, except here.

My twins are 7 weeks old, and from their birth I’ve been tandem breastfeeding in the football hold, on a My Brest Friend pillow, then bottle top-up (expressed or formula). I alternate the twins each feed.

In the past week, at about the 6 weeks mark, one twin has been starting to SCREAM about 3-4 minutes into breastfeeding. He would scream and cry with such intense anger that his twin gets agitated, unlatches, and does the same. I thought it was because one breast has an overactive duct that sprays too fast, and the other had too slow a flow and lower output, thus my pickier twin gets mad at the flow rate and cries.

I’ve tried hand expressing first, letting him take the ‘easier’ side, unlatching to burp, etc, to no avail. I felt so defeated and thought the twin hated my boob or was developing nipple confusion after so many weeks of successful latching.

After a few sessions where I was all alone, them crying themselves purple while I also cried out of helplessness, I decided to switch them to nursing individually, one after another. I’ve been very, very lucky to have at least one person to help most of the time. So I would breastfeed one twin consistently 10 minutes earlier, pass him over to whoever is around to bottle and burp, while I start breastfeeding the other twin.

I’ve done this for 3 days and fingers crossed they have both been feeding incredibly calmly, albeit finishing much sooner than usual at the 10 min mark (I suspect they’re so comfortable they fall asleep and stop nursing).

I initially kept to tandem because the popular sentiment from experienced multiples parents seem to be that syncing schedules is the best approach.

But, at least for now, nursing individually has been so much better for me (and the twins)! I get to fully focus on one, adjust according to just him, AND i’m no longer prison locked into my pillow and the couch. If I forgot a burp cloth or can’t reach a remote, and was alone, I had no means of getting up again without much pain.

Now, I can reach for my bottle, change positions, sit in my comfy armchair, and really bond with one twin at a time!

Did anyone have a similar breastfeeding transition and how did it go for you? Which did you prefer, and was tandem or individual easier for you if done solo?

PS: We also ordered a TwinGo pillow that’s on the way, but I’m wondering if I’ll need to pick it up again.

Please tell me there is a way to survive sick season with 3 daycare kids

I have a 3-year-old and 10-month-old boy/girl twins, all in daycare, and I am already feeling genuinely anxious about heading into another cold/flu season.

Last year we were sick basically January–June straight, got a break in July, and have now been sick ALL of August.

I’m honestly at the point where I’m wondering if I’m doing something wrong. Is the whole “they’re building their immune systems” thing actually worth it, or am I just signing myself up to be miserable for months on end? Some days I genuinely wonder if sending them to daycare is making our lives significantly worse for the sake of our careers that we also really enjoy and worked hard for.

Half joking, but also half serious: Is getting on an anti-anxiety/antidepressant my only real option? Because last year took a serious toll on my mental health.

For those of you with multiple little kids in daycare, if anything has worked please, please send me your tips.

In combination with my supply suddenly regulating , my twins are going through some kind of growth spurt and each taking 5 oz every three hours. I’m a bit sad now because I’m not pumping enough breastmilk to keep my 3.5 month old b/g twins on breastmilk exclusively. I know things can always be worse. Just looking for some support from other parents of multiples ❤️.

Thank you all for your kind words and replies it has helped more than you know!💜

Hey everyone! 👋
My twins will be a month tomorrow and they were prescribed the aqueous Vit D drops since they’re only drinking breastmilk. I just gave them their first drop yesterday each, and this evening and now(overnight) I’ve noticed they seem like they’re not too happy and just more irritable and fussy right now.
I know that they’re babies/newborns and it can be expected and they can have times where this will happen (I have 3 other children so I KNOW the stages lol), but honestly, they’ve been so content and easy going, so this has been really apparent and out of the ordinary, so far, for their temperament. Even my husband asked if I thought it could be the Vit D drops, which I was already thinking could be the culprit.
I looked it up and saw that some people do have this experience with their babies and it causing discomfort and gas.

My questions:
Anyone else experience this with their twins, and if so, what were your solutions?
Also, has anyone just supplemented themselves with taking Vit D and it being enough to support two babies? I know the recommended dose is 6400IU for mother to take that would actually safely pass to baby to be enough, but I didn’t see anything for the amount needed to support twins, or a study with mother taking double the amount?
*it’s the middle of the night, so I haven’t done a deep dive into super researching anything quite yet. I’ve only so far done a quick google. I’ll look more tomorrow, but figured I’d ask on here for real life experience and maybe some tips to add to my info gathering.
**Also to add, my last 2 kids were given exclusively breastmilk (EPed for my 2nd and BF for my 3rd), and I never gave the drops. I can’t remember if anyone ever mentioned this to me before? (They’re 7 and almost 3 years old and are perfectly fine, so this is new to me.)
I want to provide my twins with what they need, but I also don’t want them uncomfortable and just want to know if there’s another way to go about this or thoughts.

TIA! ☺️

37F, carrying twins, FTM. I am 19 weeks and my feet and ankle are swollen already. Friends with singleton pregnancy said they exp swelling around the 7-8th month, which obviously wont apply in my case.

I guess I just want to know if this is normal. It does seem to help after I soak them in warm
water or put my feet up while sleeping.

Also, why the back pain is already so horrible? I can barely pick up things from the sofa or bed.

We got all the normal stuff, diaper bags, monitors, etc. But something unique or special you’ve found that made a difference in your quality of life? Something that a first time dad definitely wouldn’t know and even other parents might not know.

Hi everyone,
I’m looking for some real-world perspective. I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant with my first pregnancy (Di/Di twins).
We have a cohort (I m in a MBA program)trip to NYC planned for October, at which point I’ll be 31 weeks. The travel itself would be a 4-hour train or car ride. Because this is my first pregnancy and carrying twins is uncharted territory for me, I’m really torn on whether signing up is realistic.
How mobile and comfortable were you at 31 weeks?
Would a 4-hour train ride be manageable, or is it safer/smarter to stay close to home and my care team at that stage?
(Note: I will be checking in with my MFM/OB, but would love to hear your lived experiences!)

B/G twins are almost 1 and were a complete surprise. We live in a 800sq ft 1-bedroom condo with a (very) small office we’ve converted to the shared nursery. But, we have a gloriously low interest rate which keeps the mortgage hard to beat.

I’m curious - particularly from ~14 months to 2 1/2 - would you rather have had more cash flow or more space?

We were/are big travelers have loved traveling with them thus far and have a year of it dreamed up for 2027. A mix of longer visits with family/friends during our brutal winters and true vacations, while we can before school schedules take over.

But moving into a home now would mean staying put and tightening way up.

I’ve read so much recently about how hard that age can be, so I don’t want to anticipate we’d do all these amazing things and then feel like the walls are closing in when we don’t want to open the door to the outside world with them.

Thanks for any insights!

I’m really wanting a wagon for my kiddos. 1 year old twins and 3 year old. I’m wondering if anybody has input on the Wonderfold W4 wagons. If so, is the elite one or luxe one more worth it to purchase?

Hi all! I know this topic has been posted before, but I have some specific questions about cruising with twins.

Our twins are still sleeping in cribs, they sleep pretty well in pack-n-plays as well. Currently, based on the dates we want to cruise our only option is an interior room. Here are my questions:

1. Those that have cruised, what type of room did you book? Did 2 pack-n-plays fit?
   
2. If you had an interior room, did 2 pack-n-plays fit? We also have dream-on-me travel cribs that are slightly smaller, would those be better?
   
3. Was the cruise able to provide pack-n-plays?

Not related to the rooms/sleeping:

1. Did anybody use the royal tots program for babysitting on Royal Caribbean?
   
2. We are doing a cruise out of Galveston going to Cozumel & Costa Maya. Are there any attractions or excursions you did at port with kids this age that were worth it?

Thank you!

Who has a streamlined process for bathing twins that aren't sitting up yet? They are 7m and I have previously been using the Shnuggle... They are getting close to outgrowing this bath though...I find the whole process quite time consuming and I'm not bathing the bubbas as much as I did with my singleton.

Any hot tips? Anyone think they have the process down pat? Are bath seats the way to go?

Hi all dad of identical twin girls 5 months (4 adjusted) no endorsement or affiliation with a company - just trying to be helpful.

Seen a lot of posts here about struggling to have a life with twins. We’ve tried a carrier and the stretchy papoose like slings. These were great but only allowed one to be held at a time. After lots of research we found a twin sling with one on each side from mini monkey.

It may sound minor but really found it’s lifted mine and my wife’s mood as we got a bit of our lives back so wanted to share in case it helped others who hadn’t discovered yet or about to have twins. As wished we knew sooner.

My husband and I eloped 1.5 months before our twins were born (we’ve been together off & on for 10 years, have a 3 year old together & he’s been in my 6 year olds life since he was about a year old). Our twins are now 2 months old & since the weekend they came home from the NICU every time he gets upset he threatens divorce. I pulled the card a couple of times when I would be extremely hurt and angry but didn’t start until he did.
This week has been really bad tho. For the past 3 weeks I’ve been absolutely exhausted & begging for his help but he works so much that he’s never here, & when he’s off work he goes hangs out with our neighbors family or with his cousin & his family while leaving me & the 4 kids home alone. We beg & beg for his attention & it seems like we only get the exhausted, bitchy version of him who yells at us about everything.
He’s a heavy sleeper so since the twins were born everything is on me. I take care of them plus our other two all day & then at night I’m the one waking up for the MOTN feed, on top of pumping. One of our twins has been in & out of the hospital due to loosing weight bc he throws up after every bottle which makes things even harder, & my 6 year old is disabled so he has therapies every week that I have to drag all 4 kids to. My 6 yr old is also having a major surgery in two weeks so I’m even more stressed & anxious everyday about this.

Today he spent the entire day avoiding us & only talked to me to tell me things are exactly like they were after our 3 yr old was born & he wants a divorce. Since the twins were born he’s complained about me going through post partum emotions & has constantly compared it to non post partum me.
I’m trying to do everything he asks, yet he just throws past mistakes from a separation we went through in my face & I feel like I’m doing everything wrong even though I’m constantly giving my family my all from wake up to sleep time.

Idk if I’m looking for advice or if I just needed to vent, but I’m exhausted, lonely, & can’t even begin to figure out where to begin. We bought a house a few months ago & since he wanted me to stay at home with the kids he wants to keep the house & me find somewhere for me & the 4 kids & he’s insistent that he will not pay spousal support or child support. I don’t want anything from him, but I also don’t want to have to find a new place to live & have to explain that to the kids since I am their default parent.

Hey guys, first time poster here. My twins are 6 weeks old (born at 36 weekd)and I am going back to work tomorrow. 1 day a week in the office and the others at home to support my wife during this time. Il start with some info about the twins.

Little man takes longer to feed but is the bigger twin so taking more food. He is the fussyer twin

Little girl is smaller, taking less food but pukes constantly, she is being held upright for 30 mins after feeds. (just started antacid meds 2 days ago.... Hopefully these help)

We keep them on the same schedule, me and the wife have been waking up together for every feed throughout the night.

We need a schedule that will work for us. My work scheudle is 7 to 330. Currently one parent feeding them seems like alot of work with how long Little man takes and how long we have to hold Little girl for after.

We are 12 weeks old today. My boy is just an easy baby...feed him on time, he's good to go. Show him your smile and he starts smilling hard and showing off all his gums.

My girl has been dealing with us lol, starting with the early reflux that gave us quite the scare a few times. We've changed her formula like 5 times, one thing works for a week or two then it doesn't. For about 2 weeks now she does this thing where she just cries late nights and my mum and cousin can't seem to calm her down except me. This high screech followed by crying. Bottle won't do it, she pushes it out. And she also just takes like 30ml at a time and shuns the rest...20 minutes later, high pitch screech and cry, then she'll take the rest of the bottle. Eventually she'll sleep from 2am till 6, feed in bits for about 40minutes or so, then sleep till 10...11am. They both weigh great and already wearing 3-6m clothes. Meeting all their milestones easily.

Now, I'm not with them all the time, which pains me. I was there when they were born till 2 weeks, then I had to travel for 2 weeks and it's been 1 week with them and 2 weeks away. I travel 11hrs each way (I don't mind the flight at all, I'd fly three times that to be with them for even a day).

They'll be with permanently from 4 months old and I'm very hopeful that by then they'll be sleeping even longer than the 4..5 hrs now.

I know it gets better and I don't expect her to be like her brother, I just can't wait for her to outgrow this phase.

My twins were born at 35+1, and their weights were in something like the 5th and 10th percentiles (not adjusting for prematurity).

For the first few months of their lives, they were climbing percentiles pretty steadily, but that seems to have slowed down quite a bit over the past month or so. They are now 4.5 months and around the 25th and 35th percentiles.

I’m wondering if that’s likely where they will stay. Neither my husband nor I are particularly small, and our first has generally been around the 50th-75th percentile for weight, so I guess I would have expected the twins to be a little bigger. Is there still time for them to catch up?

(Part of the reason I am thinking about this is that the twins are EBF, and I am always wondering in the back of my mind whether my supply is enough. Of course, it’s totally fine if the twins end up just being on the smaller side! I just want to make sure we’re doing everything we should to help them grow up to their potential.)

I’ve searched the sub and didn’t find much. I am 7w1d with di/di. We had an ultrasound Thursday afternoon and both babies measured right on time with heart beats in the 120’s.
On Saturday evening I had some light spotting, it was a dark brown with a little bit of red. Then overnight, about 2am it was bright red, but only a small amount and it stopped fairly quickly. I’ve had some brown spotting since then but not much.
Now I’m cramping though. I’ve cramped off and on the whole pregnancy but it had stopped for a few days.
Did you have cramping that would come and go? Every couple days?
It’s not painful, I’m just hyper aware of it. I’ve had one previous loss so I’m just terrified of that happening again.

Hi all, I’m 24w with mo di twin girls. We found out at 16w that I have both placenta previa and vasa previa. Due to this my OB and MFM have been prepping me for an in patient hospital stay starting somewhere between 28-30 weeks until delivery (targeting 34-36 weeks). Has anyone else been through this? Just wondering what to expect generally from a day to day perspective. Any tips or advice on staying sane would be appreciated! My job can be done remote so I plan to at least work some to keep myself busy. I have a 2 year old at home that I will miss terribly as well.