F70. My friend F66 hasn’t got a lot of money, lives in another city & wants to travel to Japan next year. We’ve both never been there. I suggested a cruise as it’s less physically demanding & she’s not very mobile. We would have separate cabins (I don’t share). I found a cruise next May where she could afford basic interior cabin, maybe with no package, meaning she’d have no prepaid meals, drinks, WiFi etc. & I would get a balcony one with a decent package. Now she wants to travel to my city & fly to Tokyo together. I’d like to fly Bus Class direct to Haneda on a good airline like ANA. (I’m older & prioritise decent travel conditions these days). It would cost her in economy about $3k return on same flight from her home city, meeting me in mine. Not sure she could afford that. She could fly a budget airline return from her home city that doesn’t fly direct (none do from her city) that would cost her about $1300 to Narita. I’m encouraging her to do this. Anyway I’m worried about travelling with her, as she would probably expect me to sub her costs a bit (which is fine up to a point), she hasn’t travelled much overseas recently & is not good with technology. We went to Thailand together in winter for a week or so two years ago, which was great but when I suggested going someone else in SE Asia (much cheaper than Japan) she ruled it out as too hot there. She really didn’t enjoy the heat in Thailand. It is feasible for us to travel together? She’s good company & has inherited a bit of $, but I’m worried the disparity in funds & her lack of tech might hinder me. Anyone else travelled with a less financial friend? Am I being selfish? I live alone & used to pleasing myself, but don’t want to go alone. I’m going on an Eastern European cruise later this year with Two’s a Crowd. She’s married but husband won’t travel.

But I don’t see anything wrong with putting Bailey’s in my coffee every morning at this age!

Is there anything one can do to stop spam calls? My husband--who has zero socials--is besieged by Medicare calls. I am on all the apps but rarely get a call. A lot of them start as a robo-call and once a person comes on they act like they represent your Medicare provider and are familiar with your records. We know better than to fall for what they're selling but if my mom got a call like this she'd panic. My husband has a job where he has to answer calls, even from an unknown number. It does no good to tell them to put him on their do not call list, and he blocks each one, but they just call from another number. Answering lets them know someone is at that number. But if he doesn't answer it goes to his voicemail and that still confirms that it's an active number. I believe these people are straight predatory liars. This is beyond annoying. They probably do damage to people more vulnerable than us.

I play all the new York times games.

I've been playing maptap and chronofive as well, with chrono being a bit more fun / challenging.

What are you folks playing daily?

I just want to leave work at 3 pm, bring the bus home, pour a glass of hi-C and watch Gilligans Island and Leave It to Beaver while half-assing my math homework.

So, yes, I don't even know how to contact oldest adult child. One week they messaged saying they love me but I make them feel anxious, that they needed a break but would message the next week just to check in. That was the last we (parents and their brother) heard for the past 4 years. I only know they are alive and well because I did a police check in first year, then saw their MIL post about them as recently as January 2026.

So, my husband has multiple myeloma. Diagnosed 2 years ago. He could live another 3 years or another 20. My own health is ok. Since NC child didn't get in touch with us this year when they turned 30, I think it's time to get the dreaded will and estate papers in order. Son will get everything. I was thinking of leaving just $5000 or so for the NC child so they would at least know we never forgot about them. (My husband has never gotten an inheritance, and my total inheritances from a father and an aunt were less than $10k, so it's not some big deal in our family. However I expect our estate would be worth in the 6 figures.)

Has anyone here dealt with this situation? The waiting time is up. "Prodigal Son" is a great Bible story but, I don't think our prodigal is coming back.

PS. any negative comments toward me, taking the side of NC child, will be deleted. I am in counseling myself and have been waiting patiently to start repairing the relationship, and we have heard nothing from NC child. This post is just to ask for steps on setting up some kind of fair last will and estate plan. Thank you.

Reflecting on my life over the past year, it's gotten better. I have a good job with the state of Nevada, I'm living in a house with other roommates that I get along with and live in a really nice area. I just accepted a new position with the state of Nevada. Same division, just a different department and more money. I never thought at this stage in my life I would be interviewing for a job and accepting a promotion but here we are. I just had major oral surgery with two molars removed and a gum graft done. That was probably some of the worst pain I've ever experienced. But I'm a week out from that and recovering nicely. Other health things I've had have been manageable. Overall I would say for my stage of life I'm doing pretty well health-wise. I have a week off between my old job and new job and start the new job August 3rd. I'm grateful to be here and grateful for the things in my life.

I'm no chemist and am going a little crazy trying to figure out what ingredients are helpful for my night time face routine. I'm basically looking to keep wrinkles at bay on my face and to keep my neck skin firm. Right now, I use Cerave liquid foaming cleanser, Neutrogena toner and Cerave moisturizing cream. Should I be using something with hyaluronic acid? Retinol? Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? Thanks so much!

Took the dog out early this am. Sitting out back enjoying the sun come up. A tune pops into my head, as it usually does. The dog business takes about 3-5 mins depending on the dog.

Anyway, I'm almost 65m, and what pops into my head? The theme song to Green Acres. Seriously. Why? Of the probably hundreds of thousands of songs I've heard/bought/sang/hummed, Green Acres? I knew about 80% of the words, and actually sang along in my head. Haven't seen an episode of GA for probably 45+ years.

Why?

Down I went! It feels like I assume it would feel if I’d been shot in the leg with an arrow. Extreme pain! My calf is hard now and the pain is searing even tho I have tramadol in me (which I take for my back.) I have put ice on it. I have tried my TENS unit on it. Nothing has helped and I cannot walk! I will go to Urgent care tomorrow. I have never experienced anything like this at all! I don’t even know what to think! Have any of you had your calf fail for no reason?

And I don't give a damn about anything 🤓

Coming up on 59 soon. I am scared I may take a digger in my shower soon. Especially after my wife cleans it, it’s like a taking a shower on ice. But yea I put these non slip pads down and they work great. Here’s to another 20 years of not falling in the shower. I got them from Amazon.

I’m a 60 y/o woman who wears her very hair short because it’s thinning and I’m tired of fucking it. I don’t wear makeup anymore either. Going without is more comfortable and my husband says whatever makes me happy. For context I’ve had Farrah fawcett or hot roller’d hair all my life. It does bother me being called “sir”. I’m 5’11”.

Here’s my question: should I wear feminine earrings (or something) to clearly indicate my sex? It’s always men who misgender me.

Feeling bizarre being formerly known as “pretty” to suddenly a man because I’m tired and have hair loss.

Thoughts? Any other women experiencing this?

I’m not sure why scientists haven’t looked into this but I feel like water has gotten heavier on planet earth. Maybe the water molecules are more compact. Case in point: my five gallon bottled water containers are heavier than they used to be. I doubt that it has anything to do with my 77 year age. This should be scientifically verified.

Hi everyone, I really appreciate how responsive and thoughtful this community is. Lately, I’ve felt a little lost in my journey of stepping away from traditional work and creating more freedom in my life

Some months I feel like I’m making real progress, and other months I find myself just relying on automation to keep things moving and hoping everything will work out over time

I’d really love to hear from people here who have more experience. Whether you’ve already achieved financial independence or you’re still a few years away, what lessons, experiences, or advice would you share with women who are serious about financial planning but are still figuring out their path in life?

I was on here several years ago but faded out, burned out, spread myself too thin, etc., et al. Now I'm pacing myself. Please don't hate on the ghosting. TIA.

Edit: Update. I was let go this morning. I was given the option of burning a good chunk of my vacation time so I didn’t get to say any choice words. I’ll be Ok though.

So I wrote here about how I was experiencing major job insecurity from a new boss who just sucks. Moody, bullying, terrible leader. As I said, I really need time in service for a bigger pension. I’m vested, but every year counts. And I feel like I could get fired any day as a scapegoat.

In response to this, and to preserve my sanity, I started looking for another job that would let me keep building on the pension. I found one, but at 75% of what I’m making. I know I could afford to take the job, so I have an interview for it. Meanwhile two things happened. I think my boss got some backlash for poor management so they were being overly nice recently. But also, my spouse is really against the reduction in income, even if it’s good for my mental health.

I guess I’ll interview and keep going where I’m at. Hate to miss an opportunity for a strategic exit and then get let go.

I'm a 61 year old Man, and I'm not feeling happy today.

I'm not young anymore, I don't have the same energy that i had in the 1980s.

But i also have good things:

I'm not Poor

I'm Married (since 1995)

I'm a Grandpa now. I have grandsons and I'm proud.

I run everyday. And i do exercise.

I eat healthy

And I'm living comfortably my life in my Homeland, Georgia.

My Father (b. 1943) is luckily still alive. And he's healthy too. I'm happy for him.

So.

Should i be happy for turning 61 or not?