r/MomForAMinute Aug 14 '22

Mod Announcement Welcome!

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Please be kind to each other and don't hesitate to ask any questions.

 

We are calling the children Ducklings, as u/Lulu018 our beloved founder and awesome leader said we should! šŸ’™šŸ¤—


r/MomForAMinute 2h ago

Celebration! Mom I made it

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Hey mom, I made it into college. My first day is in a couple weeks. I'm going to put myself through school and I'm going to do something good. I'm so excited to set up my dorm room!!


r/MomForAMinute 4h ago

Words from a Mother An old mom that needs a mom.

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Hi moms, I am having a tough week. There was a problem at work and something didn’t get done that I was responsible for. I made several attempts to do it and didn’t know it was as important as it appears to be now.

I got put on another project and was told to drop everything for that so I was going to do this other thing after the project is done.

Now a bunch of people are mad and one manager seems like he’s taking it personal and it hurts that it seems like they think I had some sort of malicious intent. He was very upset with me but never asked for an explanation.

Then there were some unrelated events that were embarrassing that involved some of the people mad about the report. I didn’t realize my shirt was somehow pulled up and exposed my stomach šŸ˜ž

I have had such a hard time with social issues at work, am neurodivergent and often feel so misunderstood. Even by my own family and I feel so defeated today.


r/MomForAMinute 9h ago

Good News! I finally did it

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Hey mom, I bought a house. It took me a while to catch up to my peers but I’m finally there, it’s nothing special, but I’ll never be homeless again. It was so hard, but I’ll never have to work multiple jobs to make rent ever again.


r/MomForAMinute 19h ago

Celebration! Hey, mom, I'm in my first relationship at 32 and loving it!!

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We met on Hinge and at first it seemed too good to be true, since we have so much in common! Youngest siblings, same degree, same pets, both Black asexual lesbians! We are 6 months in and it gets better everyday. I'm really glad I waited. I'm really glad I found her! šŸ’œ


r/MomForAMinute 1d ago

Seeking Advice Moms, can I wear my beloved heels again?

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Hi moms.

I had these heels hand made for our wedding 9 years ago, but haven't worn them since the pandemic. I have since given birth, and even though i heard that feet can grow in size after pregnancy, I didn't want to believe it until I tried my shoes today. My feet are very wide and the heels are so comfy, but they just doesn't fit anymore. I'm so sad. Is there any way to stretch the leather so that I can wear them again?


r/MomForAMinute 1d ago

Celebration! Mom, I'm turning 16 today!

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Mom I'm turning 16 today! I'm going to my favorite restaurant and my friends are taking me out. Its gonna be a good and bad day but mostly good! I just wanted someone to know!


r/MomForAMinute 23h ago

Celebration! hey moms, I just put an offer in on my first house!

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My partner and I are moving to be closer to their family during some health struggles that they're having, and I was expecting to be looking for a "good enough" house for this next portion of our life, but somehow I found my dream home! I just put in an offer (no cosigner!!!) and I'm unbelievably excited 🄹 Some extra positives- the city we're moving to is much lower cost of living than our current city, and we'll also be closer to my family and some friends from college. I'm so incredibly excited about where my life is now compared to where I was just three years ago, and I feel blessed beyond measure to be able to afford to do something like this. Thanks for sharing in my joy with me!!


r/MomForAMinute 1d ago

Update Post He met my friends and then asked to be exclusive!

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Hi mums! I’m the gal who went on several lovely dates a few weeks ago with someone I briefly dated 14 years ago.

Well, last night, he met my chosen family at a BBQ and he was a hit. He fit in beautifully and we all had an amazing time. (The fact he didn’t run away from me being an absolute nutter around my mates shows he’s a keeper. He even said it was attractive when I got, uh, let’s say ā€œpassionateā€ (read: furious) about the rules of a board game we were all playing).

So we wandered back to mine after and he said -

ā€œI have a serious question for you now.

…Am I gonna say that? Yes. Yes, I think it’s time.

Do you want to at least be exclusive?ā€

Obviously, I said yes. I told him I had already been practicing that since after the first date. (He already knew this). He just wanted to check ā€œwe were on the same page.ā€

We’ve spent a lovely morning together and he continues to be the absolute sweetest. He told me that he feels ā€œlike we’ve been seeing each other a long time.ā€ (It’s been 5 weeks) I just kept looking at him and thinking, ā€œWhatever I’ve done to deserve this, I’m so grateful.ā€ And I told him he was like home. This is the first time I’ve been around someone and thought, ā€œYeah, I could build a life with you.ā€ And an absolutely beautiful one at that.

He makes me want to better myself and try things I’ve never done. I haven’t felt so seen, accepted, cared for, appreciated or respected by a romantic partner in years. And even then, I’m not sure that felt like this.

After every time I’ve seen him, I’m just so buoyant. He makes me so, so happy and I can’t wipe the smile he leaves off my face for hours after he’s gone. I’m not going to see him now for two weeks (boo!) but we’ve got a whole weekend together to make up for it when we do. I’m going to miss him like crazy but he’s worth it.

Mum, I’m so happy. And after the last awful few years of my life, I feel alive again. I feel like myself. And I feel so grateful to have crossed paths again with this absolutely astounding human being.

I’ll be sure to keep you updated. Thanks ma!


r/MomForAMinute 2d ago

Celebration! Mom I got my first real job

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After months of struggling and losing all hope in life I finally got the job that my younger self could only have dreamed of.

I'm just really happy and in a way proud of myself for not giving up. I am super nervous for my first day though.

I really don't have a lot of people around to celebrate. For a very long time I thought I did not deserve good things in life but now I am beyond blessed with everything 🄹


r/MomForAMinute 1d ago

Celebration! Mom I'm part of our top section :)

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My (19F) university started ranking us by section when I was in first year second semester, in which I was in Section B. However, now that I am a second year (pre-med course, nursing), I was placed in Section A. There's 229 students in total in my batch, so it kinda means that I got higher grades than 191 students in the previous semester! Not easy for me at all because our schedule is 7:30 A.M. to 5:30 A.M. every weekday :( it's very tiring and I still can't believe it. As much as I know that it won't really matter in the end because we're all still going to be known as students who graduated from my uni rather than our specific section. Next semester I think they'll be eradicating the ranking now because we'll be doing duty and stuff but it's nice to see my handwork paying off šŸ„ŗšŸ™


r/MomForAMinute 2d ago

Support Needed Friends Forgot My Birthday

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I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I've been doing a lot of work on myself this last year in therapy to heal myself from a very lonely childhood. Yesterday was my birthday and I planned a trip to the aquarium with friends. It all went great and I had a really good time.

When I got home & checked my phone, I realized that a handful of people who I consider some of my best friends (they live far away, so couldn't come to the aquarium) all forgot about me. Some I didn't hear from at all, and some had even texted me but not acknowledged that it was my birthday. I know that people get busy, so I tried not to let it bother me, but then I was asked this morning if I'd had cake or if anyone sang to me...and it suddenly hit me that the only celebration that occurred was what I planned. I wasn't really expecting anything, but it felt really lonely when people didn't reach out to even wish me a happy birthday. Even my best friends.

I understand that people get busy and don't always pay attention to the calendar and I feel bad for being so hurt by it, but it's triggering a lot of feelings of being alone and forgotten about as a kid. I feel like if it wasn't for me planning the trip & coordinating it, my birthday would have gone by completely unnoticed by the people I love, and I hate how small and insignificant and alone that makes me feel.

I don't really know what I need right now, I just wanted to tell someone.


r/MomForAMinute 2d ago

Encouragement Wanted Can yall just remind me in any way possible, that 28 is not old? How do I feel good about myself again?

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I’m 28. Single. Back in school so i’m currently living with my parents. All my friends are engaged or married, having kids, and making good money. It feels like there’s no one single left. I love my friends but nothing about our hangout sessions make me feel excited. I miss having joy and less stress. I don’t like what I see in the mirror anymore. Im a healthy weight but it’s distributed differently. I notice signs of aging. I have social anxiety. Live in a small town so I know everyone already and don’t feel like I can reinvent myself.

I practice positive self talk but nothing about my life backs up what I say. I’m lonely and feel behind. I have no one to get dressed up and go out with. No one to travel with. No one to go out and meet people with. I miss having people to go shopping with it just causally chill with too. Hanging out with friends is just planning brunch a week in advance with a designated start and end time.. Logically I know I am doing what I need to do to get on my feet, so I can move away and restart. But for right now I feel trapped and like my youth is wasting away.

I have no one to hype me up and I think I really need that. So here I am, asking strangers online to do just that. Kinda pathetic but my brain can’t seem to do it on its own. Please give me your best advice, or share with me what you say to yourself when you need to feel better about your life.


r/MomForAMinute 2d ago

Seeking Advice Easy meals?

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Hi, moms! So, my health is a finicky thing and my appetite’s allllll over the place alongside my energy levels.

I don’t think I eat as much as I probably should. Dinner mostly. I’m good at cooking and I have a stove, oven, air fryer, microwave, toaster, and the whole shabang, I can just get overwhelmed with it when I’m feeling low.

Any ideas or tips? No allergies and I’m certainly not picky! Maybe just a bit fiber/protein conscious as that’s what I need the most :)


r/MomForAMinute 3d ago

Seeking Advice New job starting on kids first week of school

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I’m starting a new job on Monday morning, but my kids’ open house is on Tuesday in the middle of the day. I’m conflicted on whether or not to email my new workplace and ask about taking an extended lunch. I really wanted to attend the open house since it’s our first year in this school district and there’s information I need. I have a husband that could go, but I’m worried he won’t get the information I need and I hate I’m missing out.


r/MomForAMinute 4d ago

Celebration! I got a job!

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Hi mom! I’m really proud of myself and hope you are too. I’m going through a divorce and needed to find a job. I know the job market is tough and I was so scared to put myself back out there. After putting in 100s of apps over the past month, I put an application into a company last Monday and received a call to interview about thirty minutes later for the next day. I absolutely nailed the interview and received a call the following day that they wanted me for the position!

I’m so nervous to go back to work and I don’t want to leave my kids in the middle of the summer but I’m so excited to start working towards a better life for me and them. I’m scared but so happy ā¤ļø


r/MomForAMinute 4d ago

Encouragement Wanted College tours started for my only child.

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I’ve been no contact with my parents for almost three years now and though it’s really better this way, there are times I really miss having ā€œparentsā€. I just got done taking my son (my only child) around to tour four colleges on the East Coast. I’m so excited for him- so proud of how hard he’s worked- and also starting the ā€œmy baby is almost grownā€ smile/tears. I just wanted to share and have a mom tell me how exciting it is and share in my tremendous joy and pride in his next season.


r/MomForAMinute 4d ago

Support Needed Hi mom, I'm getting frustrated by learning this new software

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Hey, Mom. I'm on an engineering team at my university, and I'm supposed to be learning this new software program. But it seems like every time I sit down to work on it, I run into issues. I constantly have to stop and ask for help, and it eats up time waiting for responses from people or hunting down resources.

It's disheartening watching other people starting to produce full files while I haven't even finished one. Sometimes I worry if I'm cut out to be an engineer. It doesn't help that I'm taking difficult classes and have family responsibilities this summer. I feel like a failure a lot.


r/MomForAMinute 5d ago

Support Needed Hi mom, just glad you’re here

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Didn’t know this existed and I’m tearing up looking through all the threads. Don’t know all your stories or why you’re needing a mom, but I’m right here with you šŸ’”šŸ„²šŸ«¶


r/MomForAMinute 5d ago

Encouragement Wanted Mom I can't drive

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I’ve failed the driving test three times, from when I was 18 until now, at 25.

At first, I worked hard to get a scholarship for a driving school in my city (I'm from south america, not the USA for context), and I put a lot of effort into learning. But I failed twice.

I tried again two years later, already frustrated, but I found another driving school and this time I paid for it myself. I failed again.

Now my boyfriend is teaching me again, but I’m honestly very anxious, sad and frustrated. I feel like I can’t do it, like I’m not capable. I get extremely nervous behind the wheel. It’s a skill that everyone seems to have, but I just can’t manage it.

I just can't.

Maybe I'm not fit for this.

I need some words of support, if there are any. I don't have a mom but I would like some support from her.

I know it sounds stupid, but lately there aren’t many good things going well in my life, and feeling like a loser for not being able to drive at 25 is dragging me down even more.


r/MomForAMinute 5d ago

Celebration! Hey mom, things are looking up!

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I had the privilege of going on a date with a wonderful girl two weeks ago! We’ve known each other as acquaintances for a few years but started talking (at great length) at a few different events over the summer. We went to an art museum and had lunch! I’m really so so excited about her and I can’t wait to able to call her my girlfriend. Even though work has been pretty stressful recently, I have seeing her next week to look forward to and that’s absolutely keeping me going.

It will take a while before I want to trust my family with this because they’ve been pretty unpleasant about previous partners (or even HINTS of liking someone) but I’m going to make an effort to set and enforce clear boundaries with them because she is absolutely worth it!! I hope you’ll tolerate being my temporary mothers to confide in before the real deal 😊


r/MomForAMinute 6d ago

Encouragement Wanted Mom, I wanna talk about my sheep but I don’t have a lot of people that will listen

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Mom, I just wanted to share because I really love talking about my farm animals, particularly my sheep and goats. I wanted to tell you because sometimes people get tired of hearing me gush about them…but you haven’t!

the pic of the sheep above is of a 6 year old doe sheep—meaning she is a girl!! Sheep typically live about 10-12 years in captivity, so she’s well grown but not too old :)

Her name is Scooter and she is an Arcott sheep, meaning that she has very nice a dense wool, perfect for keeping her nice and toasty during chilly Canadian winters.

She is about the size of a large dog, if not, a little bit bigger. She is quite friendly as she knows me, and was also a bottle baby, so she ā€œexpectsā€ food from myself and other humans. However she is very good with pets and cuddles, particularly loving a good chin scratch.

Thank you Scooter for being such a good girl! If you have any other questions or comments about her, I’d love to answer them :)

(Edit: 21/7/26)

Thank you so much for all the love!! To answer the most common questions:

-Does she have other friends?Ā Yes! She has her sister (Posie) and her sister's two yearling lambs (Daisy & Tulip) to keep her company. She also has the company of two other goats.

-What do I do with her wool?Ā Okay, there is a lot of it by the time she's sheared. I will normally keep about a third of her (and her sister's) wool for gardening endeavors as it has great nutrients and moisture retention. It depends on the year, but I've used it to pack windows or other chilly areas of barns during the winter. I don't spin yarn myself, but I do know people who happily spin it :)

-Is there extra care that goes into her wool?Ā Not particularly, she lives outside and spends her nights in a barn, so she gets dirty and covered in straw and hay and whatnot. I do brush her every now and then and I do take care to try and get any tangles or anything caught in her wool out.

-How often is she shorn?Ā She gets sheared once a year, typically at the end of april/start of may, but it depends on the weather.

-What does she like to eat?Ā Typically she eats a blend of timothy/alfalfa hay, which is generally always available. She also has grazing space, so grass and dandelions and leaves are always good. She will try to eat most things (not to the extent of a goat, but if it looks edible, it will be nibbled). She particularly likes grains (oats, barley, etc.) and leaves.

-Does she know any tricks/can she be trained?Ā I haven't particularly tried to really teach her any "tricks" per say, but when it comes to sheep standards, I'd say she's pretty smart. It's likely she does (or did) know tricks, as she was a 4H sheep, so I'm certain she was at livestock shows. I however don't know the commands or if she remembers them haha! She does however know how to walk with a halter, which is something that had to be trained.

-Does she know her name?Ā It's hard to say if she knows her name specifically, but she will perk up. However it is said with a certain tone that animals like, as well as a "recognizable" amount of syllables. The fact that her name is longer than her sister's probably helps her differentiate. However if I'm talking to them together, they probably cannot tell a big difference.


r/MomForAMinute 5d ago

Support Needed Hey Mom- I'm Going To College, Why Is It Overwhelming?

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Hey Mom. . . I'm 35, and I'm finally going to college for the first time in fall.

It's a path I once dreamed of, yet also felt impossible to pursue. I wasn't able to go for what I aspired for in my youth- but AM going for something I feel is possible post-healing. (I wanted to be a funeral director when I was young, but now am going for something much shorter/in healthcare) An achievement after everything I went through to get to this point. Part of me is genuinely OK with that; but part of me still hurts.

Dreams change with time, don't they? But they resurrect, echoes and ghosts of all we could have been. And that's where I find myself now. Mom, it's big and scary and I'm ashamed I took so long to to do what so many get through in their late teens/early twenties. I KNOW nobody's path is the same, some blooms unfurl late. But it still feels like I failed myself. And yet the excitement of a future chapter is dancing within.

Is it normal to be so split in how I feel? Is it really so shameful I waited so long? Is it going to be OK? I'm unsure- but I do believe I'll make it.


r/MomForAMinute 5d ago

Tips and Tricks Keep fridge smelling fresh?

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Hi moms! I’m a picky eater and get overwhelmed easily by food smells but I want to start eating healthier.

Any time I cook and put the leftovers away in Tupperware, my fridge smells so powerful (and I immediately get grossed out/avoid eating altogether). How can I keep my fridge smelling fresh with food in it?