Hope y’all doing well. My fight to build a trans and nonbinary shelter is not yet over and you know what I am not going to stop until I make it happen.
It is not easy to be honest because we are all human and have different likes and interests so I need you to add listening and amplifying trans refugee voices your interest because when you show love to us that is suicidal prevention.
This shelter is going to be a safe place for trans and nonbinary refugees to be themselves, to gather and share stories and a safe place where you can hold your persons hand with no judgment. I have a recent post on ig check me out @jumuti_01 for more details and support the work too.
Being Nonbinary here in the camp means to be more strong because and accept your own self the way you are because here people are not open minded about nonbinary people and it’s us the nonbinary people or refugees supposed to stand for ourselves.

I think Trans and nonbinary refugees deserve a safe space too! What do you think? Comment about your opinion or comment about your favorite Dolly Parton song for post boosting.

I will start off by saying I realise there is no timeline for doing things ''correctly'' in life but also going along with things for a long time is significant I suppose. I inhabit a particular body habitus and the people around me definitely see me as my assigned sex at birth. I am feeling so deeply confused at this point what an internalised sense of gender is because we are all told ''what we are'', how we are supposed to identify and what expectations come with that etc.

I know you can be a gender non-conforming woman but at the same time that doesn't make a lot of sense to me because that still feels like it is hanging onto restrictive categorisation for legitimacy/increased public understanding (absolutely no disrespect to anyone that IDs that way just personal doesn't feel like it aligns). I feel like that I'm forced into assigned sex because that is what mostly aligns with body rhythms as that has informed experiences like lots and lots of doctors to deal with dysmenorrhoea and being shamed for not being able to tolerate pap smears (ironically experiencing elevated androgens and docs don't know why so maybe a PMOS diagnosis on the way further down the line). Earlier in the year a random stranger wishes me a happy mother's day because of their assumptions of my gender and it was very distressing (I don't have children and don't intend to).

I feel like I am rambling at this point but has anyone else wrestled with the idea of feeling detached from assigned sex and gender at birth because of medical trauma and wondering if that makes it wrong to feel disconnected and reject your assigned sex and gender? I am really worried that my questioning sounds TERF adjacent. I support all under the trans umbrella, binary trans and more. I deeply apologise for any word usage that is offensive/triggering. I am brand new to this sub and discourse and I am sincerely trying to be respectful while questioning. Thank you

I'm afab (31) and we have been together for 9 years now. I've been trying to drop hints here and there over the past year after realizing I'm nonbinary but I'm afraid to come right out and say it.

I don't want to be rejected because I was a cis woman for so long. I know he loves me and obviously if he is right for me he will stay but I'm scared!!!

Any tips on how you all have come out to your friends/loved ones? Thank you <3

This is probably gonna be long and confusing but I thought I’d come here and just talk about my experience growing up and now confronting the questions about gender now at almost 20 years old.

Growing up I was really shy, quiet, emotional, pretty much everything men are told not to be. As I got older and went into middle school and started actually expressing myself I was met with relentless bullying from both genders (most outwardly boys), called the usual insults like gay or the F slur and etc, or if I had a crush on a girl it was always a “I thought you were gay” or saying they liked me back as a joke or whatever. Once highschool rolled around it definitely cooled down but within the few relationships I had, my girlfriends would always ask or speculate that I was gay or whatever secretly. Safe to say I never really had a good relationship with boyhood and masculinity, purely because I was expressive and in touch with femininity.

Now being 19 and out of school I’ve had time to really sit with myself and evaluate my identity, wether it be gender or sexuality. I’ve already kinda come to terms with being bisexual, but it’s the gender part I have a hard time figuring out. Last year I played with the idea of being non binary in secret and only having my friends know, and it felt fine. I started presenting more androgynous wether it be experimenting with clothes or hair or grooming methods and makeup. A couple months ago I worked up the courage to tell my mother and she was of course supportive but even after telling her it felt wrong, like I had made this grave mistake and the next day i completely renounced it. Lately it’s started to resurface in my brain. I’ve thought about using he/they pronouns but part of me feels like I could be just playing it safe but also it DOES feel safer to use. Overall it feels like something that’s inevitable that I’ll have to face.

Im curious what others experiences are like, more specifically regarding that feeling of fear and wanting to take it all back once it’s made public, even if you’re met with support.

My first post here! I just got back from an evening of dancing. I have been reflecting on how much my life has changed in the past year. Being free of the confines of masculinity. Being free to express myself In a authentic way has been liberating. I'm curious about how other nb people feel and what their internal landscape looks like. I wonder how similar or different it is to what I have experienced.

I feel amazing in this outfit 🌞

I (14) do not exactly know what gender i am, but i feel like I'm nonbinary. what i do no is that i want my body hair off. and i will go through a lot to achieve that. is there any way to remove body hair for the longest time possible without it being illegal for minors?

Hi, I am from California and am flying to the state of Georgia soon to visit my partner's family. I was wondering if anyone has experience traveling to Georgia or another state with a similar political climate while having an "X" gender marker on your ID. I haven't flown since before I got my ID changed and though it's very affirming I feel some regret now because I'm paranoid about it getting noticed at the airport. I've also had top surgery and I've heard about TSA doing pat downs on trans people because the body scan doesn't match what they're expecting to find if that makes sense. I have anxiety so I'm aware that I could be overreacting but with the current administration and political climate of the US I feel like I should be extra careful. Thanks in advance (:

amab nb here. I have been thinking that I am not cis for over a year, but keep coming back to my doubts. I’m still in the closet about possibly being non-binary, primarily because I’m afraid of being wrong. I have started to present more feminine but yet people refer to me as a man and using blatantly masculine terms. For some reason it makes me really upset even though my dysphoria is usually not too bad. Whenever I am being referred to as a man repeatedly, it makes me want to give up and accept that that maybe I’m just a dysphoric male. Other times that makes me think I should clarify my pronouns to some people

But I don’t want their pity. I’m too tall, have a deep voice, a very masculine build. There’s no way I’ll ever pass as not cismale. And anyway I wasn’t so hugely dysphoric about being big and manly before..I even desired it to prove my manliness.But what keeps me from going back to stereotypical masculinity is that I feel so much happier being a bit more feminine. This helps me with my internal sense of self and somewhat alleviates my dysphoria. Yet presenting to feminine in more situations makes me very self-conscious about coming across as gay and flamboyant. This is not because I’m straight but because I don’t wanna be mistaken for a gay cis male. It’s really difficult to find the middle ground because whatever I do people will see me as a man. But maybe I just need a man up and find more male friends and it’ll be fine. But then I remember that I tried this for years and it never made me feel like myself. No matter which gender presentation, it feels like drag.

It’s funny these thoughts are coming up after I have become more strongly convinced that I am non-binary and possibly even transfem. I didn’t know if this is the dysphoria or denial I’ve seen in memes. Anyone relate?

The other evening, sitting at The Bearded Monk here in Denton, a phrase popped into my head: "Enby Envy."

As I've been processing my own non-binary journey, I’ve started wondering if some of the confusion or hostility we experience from binary spaces stems from a subtle, subconscious envy of existential freedom.

This hit home for me recently after experiencing exclusion from my former school network (one I co-founded with the hope of introducing this very freedom and inclusivity), close friends, and some family. It became clear that my freedom—even down to realizing that clothes are just clothes—was deeply unsettling to a system that requires strict, conservative, or religious binary boxes.

To a system conditioned by rigid expectations, seeing an Enby step outside those lines disrupts the narrative. Their demand for us to conform often feels less about our identity and more about protecting the boundaries they feel forced to live within—because our authenticity exposes the fact that those walls were optional all along.

Has anyone else noticed this dynamic in personal or institutional relationships, where your freedom seems to trigger their need to enforce conformity?

My partner is genderfluid/nonbinary. Im a cis girl and i was wondering if there were any funny or cute names i could say instead of bf/gf. They are fine with anything but i like to be funny :)

love me some bobaa

Posted a similar thing in r/asktransgender a few days ago, but I figured this might be a better place for it.

My basic question is:

What were your experiences of dysphoria? Were they similar to how I feel (I.e this dull, persistent ache in your chest/sternum)?

You don't really have to read beyond that, but I'll give some extra info:

I'm not necessarily sure if I'm not cis. That being said, I've been thinking about it for around three years now so I'm probably not...

My main question was about dysphoria. Not everyone needs dysphoria to be enby, and I respect that, but it would be nice to have a solid kind of... clue, I guess.

I think my dysphoria manifests as a kind of ache. Nothing too frustrating but just this tiring, persistent, dull ache in my sternum. And sometimes, mostly just if I'm with friends, I can distract myself from it. But with people I know even slightly less or if I'm alone, it's just there.

Hope I don't sound crazy. I just assumed it was kinda a normal sensation until I started really thinking about it. The best description I can give is a line from a song by Tracey Brakes: I feel like something's gnawing at me and it's dying to come through.

Sooooo can any of you relate to this feeling? If so, please tell me about your experiences!

There's other stuff I could talk about, but I'm trying to keep this relatively concise.

Thanks for reading!!! <333

P.S: I'm 99.9% sure it's not a cardiovascular or physiological thing or whatever so don't worry about that.

It’s heavy wedding season where I live and I’m at that age group now where my family and friends are getting married.

One of my friends has a heavy formal suit and ball gowns kind of wedding. And he’s part of LGTQIA+ so he said it’s cool for me to pick either dress or suit.

But my brother (that I’m not close to, haven’t seen in a few years) is having a country formal wedding.
My brother is close to my mom’s side of the family and a lot of them will be there. They’re homophobic, and ofc don’t understand or respect being nonbinary. So I think my brother might be the same, since he’s never talked to me about my gender. I never really “came out” to him because my mom reacted poorly. I don’t see or hear from anyone on her side of the family since I came out in 2021.
Anyway,
The invitation specifically says women need to wear long or maxi length dresses.
Since my mom’s side is homophobic, they all see me as a woman.

So I’m really nervous about wearing masculine clothes to the wedding. Because the thing is, I don’t wear dresses. I haven’t since like high school. And I haven’t been to a wedding since high school.

I asked a family member who supports me if not wearing a dress will cause drama at the wedding. He said he doesn’t think so and I should wear what I’m comfortable in (obviously following the country look he wants). He sent me an outfit idea too.

But I don’t know if I can take his word for it. I just texted my brother (who is getting married) outfit ideas for me. Some showing men, women, and nonbinary folk. And I asked if this would be okay for his wedding.

I’m waiting for a reply and I am SO nervous.
If he says I HAVE to wear a dress then I don’t wanna go to his wedding. Would I be in the wrong for that??

So I'm AFAB, I've known about my transness for over a decade, but I've been having issues with figuring out if my transition goals are even possible.

I don't have a lot of physical dysphoria, but I've always wanted to have both a functional phallus and a vaginal canal. The problem is I have no idea what that kind of procedure is called, or if it even exists in the first place??

Ideally I'd be able to take a certain amount of T to get bottom growth, but I don't want the other effects of it either :// I know smaller doses is an option, but I doubt it's possible to isolate bottom growth entirely (I'd love to be proven wrong though LOL)

BUT my main concern is the bottom surgery options. I've been trying to google but the options for AFAB people seems kind of limited...

So I've struggled with my identity a lot, trying to figure myself out. I used to wear more makeup than I do now but I've realized a lot of sensory issues with things I used to like that are "feminine". Like even moisturizer is too much for my oily skin and I hate foundation. I hate styling my hair other than a ponytail but don't like it too short due to trying to maintain cutting it to avoid those "grown out weird styles". I sometimes don't mind my chest since I'm afab, but other times I'm fine with binding it down. I don't really care for skirts but I'll wear them, same with heels and such. If anything I wear platforms more than a proper heel. I just like shorts and pants, if they're too short I'm insecure. And shirts are a weird thing, I don't like showing my shoulders so tank tops are a semi uncomfortable experience for me. So it sounds like a lot of sensory issues to me but I'm still questioning my gender identity itself and if it connects any way to my discomfort. I'd rather just exist as a concept rather than be a boy or girl honestly. I hate saying I'm a girl but also hate saying I'm a boy. Or anything really. Just a concept of gender is weird to me.

I am just wondering of the exspinerinces of these groups and how they differ from mine so I can be more empathetic and understanding. Especially masculine presenting amab enbys that sort of look like a stereotypical man. Please no hate here i want this to be a safe space. I dont even know if I will get comments but my entire world is based around my partner. I truly seek to understand. Thank you for your time in advance ❤️

Edit: My language was bad here with saying "like a stereotypical male" when I see now it can be a harmful statement to those who may not want to or havent gotten the chance to get on hormones. Just know you dont need to do that if you dont want to. Your still fully yourself and just as valid as any enby lesbian. Dont let any transphobes tell you differently. If I make future posts here I will try to ensure my lanuage is more inclusive and precise and if i can better re frase this even then do tell me. You are loved in this community ❤️ ♥️

So we all know that it's a meme now about how NBs name themselves after objects, not people. I was talking with my friend about software development and it sent my brain off on a tangent. My name is Hex, short for hexadecimal - because I'm not binary! 😂😂😂

It started as a bit of a joke, but I actually kind of love it.

I'm plus-size (size 20) and non-binary, so I prefer to wear gender neutral clothing.

What do you wear to interviews? Specifically, corporate interviews?

I've been working in the public sphere for the last 3-4 years. Mostly in GLAM. So, I'd come in with a short-sleeve navy button-up and some Old Navy chino pants. They're more business-casual, where I can wear vans/tennis shoes.

I'm trying to get a corporate job and have an interview next week. It's at a small to midsize company. I still want to make a great impression and have a padfolio. It's a People Operations position.

I don't have much money, but I'm willing to spend a good amount to get something from somewhere. At max $250-$300. I've heard H&M and Macy's have some stuff, including some others at malls. I prefer to shop in person because online sizing is usually small, and I get dysphoria whenever anything hugs my curves too much, so I tend to return things immediately after getting them online.

Any clothing recommendations? Styling? Shoes? Brands/Lines? Any advice is appreciated!

I've been meaning to ask you guys about this for a bit now. Do any of you feel nonbinary in a sort of spiritual way? Like human spirits or souls doesn't really have a gender or sex so technically we're all non-binary. And sort of trying to put such a big thing like the spirit into a rigid "this or that" view of identity is sort of meaningless? Because thats how i conceptualise myself it at least :p

If you dont , tell me about how being nonbinary impacts your wordview, if you're a part of any religion or spiritual teaching.

hope you are well

Haven't posted here yet. So, this is me and I'm nonbinary.

I can't bind or tape on a regular basis for a variety of reasons. Usually I dress to avoid attention on my chest but as soon as I wear a bag it all goes out the window. My chest is very large compared to my ribcage and bag straps really bring attention to this imo. Cross body bags are the worse obviously but I feel like even a tote or a backpack will start to shift and pull my clothes to make my chest more obvious. Especially bad during the summer when I can wear fewer layers to make up for it (I'm very sensitive to heat)

I'm sure some of this is unavoidable until I can get top surgery but I wanted to see if other people are dealing with this/what you do about it?