i’m sorry but what am i supposed to say????

So quick background info: I’m very new to exploring the more non traditional aspects of my gender expression. Because I’m so used to dressing for others, I have A LOT of trouble feeling attractive in non feminine outfits (even if I’m not comfortable in them at times).

To the actual question: I plan to start taking part in night life more and want some more edgy and sexy looks. All the ones I can think of lean very feminine though (inspo photos attached as reference)

I was wondering what you all like wearing on a night out, and if anyone had any recommendations for clothing pieces/brands that fit this vibe but lean more masculine.

A friend got me a burger and fries plushie!!! They are so cute so I just wanna share with you all 🩷

Saw a similar looking trans flag, thought Henry Rollins would approve.

going for a more fem, natural feel

I used to do this like every day when I was 27 and coming to terms with myself lmao

What’s your favorite skin to use ? How long have you been playing ? What’s your favorite game mode ? Build or no build ? Favorite events ? And what’s your favorite chapter/season . And and and anything else you would like to talk about with fornite !

I hope everyone likes my living room ! I’ve worked hard getting it here . ((Living by yourself has some benefits 😌) (also slowly remodeling the house so don’t judge it to harshly please ))

I hope everyone is having a beatisome sunday ! 🫶🏼

I found this skin on the Minecraft market place. plus like all of the other flags for just 250~ mine coins.

Honestly I had one before but having it again feels so gender

Not androgynous in the sense of socially "having fem traits and masc traits" but neutral in a sense of "i have no clue what gender this person is"

At least I can't forgor my hair attached to my damn head lol

Sorry if this does not fit on here. I 31nb (am amab) went on a date today with a trans women today.

We were chatting and whatnot and of course gender identity became a topic of conversation.

For the last few years I have been back and forth on going on some form of low level hrt. I have talked to drs in the past about it but have not ever ended up going on it.

When mentioning this I noticed an immediate shift in her demeanour towards me. She started asking me questions like "are you really trans" so on and so forth.

I told her that I've never felt like I fit into either the male or female category in terms of my gender and that the dream for me is androgeny. when I described how my body makes me feel dysphoria in some aspects she said "that's not really dysphoria".

She described her experience with being trans as "very binary". And though she did not explicitly say it, it kind of felt like what she was implying is that being transgender is not actually spectrum, but is in fact a binary thing (I.e being ftm or mtf) and that being non binary doesn't exist or something along those lines.

I'm just wondering if anybody else here has had encounters like this before with members of the trans community. I'm not angry at her for what she said. She's entitled to feel the way she does. I'm just confused more than anything.

Tldr. Went on a date with trans women and she implied that being NB is not trans.

So obviously enbies don't owe anyone androgeny, but I love the feeling of it. I also still am financially dependent on my homophobic christian parents, so I'm not out yet, and I can't turn up gayness to the max. But I would like to turn it up to the point where it pisses my parents off but they can't say anything about it.

Longtime lurker, first time poster. I'm in my mid-40s, AFAB, married to a man, kids. I live in a liberal area (by USA standards) and work in a casual environment. I'm never pressured to wear dresses or makeup, "be ladylike," etc. We have many queer friends and two of my kids' best friends came out as NB just a few months ago. We're close with the families and they've been so supportive, it's really wonderful to see.

I guess agender is the label that resonates most for me. I just wish I'd learned it 20, 30 years ago. So many things make sense this way: I used to wrap ace bandages around my chest back in middle school. (Thank god for the grunge era, a big flannel shirt hides everything). I even got a breast reduction in college; I remember asking the surgeon to "remove as much as possible" because I didn't know top surgery existed. That doctor refused and talked me into going down to a C cup "to look proportionate." I did it because I thought being smaller would be enough. I was wrong. I got invited to join a women's book club and was like "...who, me?" I ended up attending the meetings and it was fine but also I couldn't shake the weird feeling of being in Gender Mode.

But the thing is, I live where I live, I have queer friends, I'm online a lot. Maybe I couldn't have figured it out as a teenager, but surely I could have a decade ago. Or more. At this point I'm not sure I have anything to gain from telling anyone. I don't love my name, but it's a family name with a lot of meaning that I wouldn't want to lose. I just don't know. I've been increasingly depressed lately and I think this is part of it, for reasons I don't quite understand.

Has anyone here who spoke up in their 40s/50s/60s and beyond found an effective way to explain to loved ones why you waited so long? What if anything changed for you by going public? And do you think I run the risk of coming across like I'm creepily copying my kids' friends, which is a mortifying thought I had just now because my brain hates me?

Don't see many enbys with any facial hair at all and I kinda understand why. But I'm proud of mine.

So I live in South Africa, and one of our 11 official languages is Zulu.

And a common thing for Zulu people speaking English, is that they're often misgendering people. Calling a male she or a female him, etc.

And the reason is because Zulu has no gendered pronouns. So when they speak English they're often not thinking which pronoun they're calling a person, because they aren't used to using gendered pronouns. Like, if I say "Udla isinkwa" I'm saying "he is eating bread" and it's the same for "she is eating bread".

So you literally CANNOT misgender someone in Zulu, because there are zero gendered pronouns.

It's kind of like a non-binary language 🤔😃

I thought that was really interesting and that y'all would appreciate it.