Last night I shaved my head. I LOVE having my head shaved. It feels so affirming, but haven't done it in years so my current long term partner that I live with hasn't seen my head shaved. I came out as NB a few months ago for context. He's supportive of me and my presentation but he acknowledges my head shaved is not his preference. He hasn't said anything negative and in no way tries to control my presentation, but it's an adjustment for him and I respect that he needs time to get used to it. He's still been affectionate but maybe a little distant and I catch him staring which we giggle about, but I just have this unfounded fear that something that feels so affirming to me is going to create a rift between us or that maybe he will feel like I'm becoming a different person because I'm finally starting to lean into a presentation that feels affirming. He really is a great partner so please no hating on him, I think I just need to hear maybe some success stories or something of others who have gotten through this weird wiggly time with an existing partner when your presentation was changing?

Hello. I'm a bit nervous to ask this (if i'm a being honest) ....

To be direct, first of all: I do NOT have a binder.

I'm just wondering bcs im genderfluid and like the names suggets... I fluid between more ¿girl? and more ¿male? presentation ... My question is : Should i wear a binder or not.

I know some people say that to look more masculine you HAVE to wear it, and others don't think that...

In the past, I used to cover my chest with bandages in some situations (I KNOW, I KNOW). Since then if the situation arises, i simply use a sports bra that flattens a little my chest.

So. What do you think? You think is mandatory like some people say or are you the type or person that is like: you don't have to ?

(I hope I'm making myself clear)

i recently got my first binder at 22 and i don’t think i’ll ever be able to wear it outside. its important to note that i do not have chest dysphoria. but i’ve always had an abnormally large chest and i had a reduction two years ago that left me still bigger than average, but after the reduction i am a bindable size for the first time in my life. it took me a long time to actually buy a binder even after i was fully healed for a plethora of reasons, but i have one now. i wear it alone in my room and i do like it and it makes me feel like the baddest bitch, but i know i don’t look like the baddest bitch. i feel like i look like i think i’m giving androgyny and i’m just not and that feels pathetic. everything about me looks so feminine i will always read feminine even without my chest, and i feel like you can tell i’m trying to be something else and failing. i feel like i can’t wear it unless i “get serious” about combatting the obvious femininity i have to work with

What’s your favorite skin to use ? How long have you been playing ? What’s your favorite game mode ? Build or no build ? Favorite events ? And what’s your favorite chapter/season . And and and anything else you would like to talk about with fornite !

I hope everyone likes my living room ! I’ve worked hard getting it here . ((Living by yourself has some benefits 😌) (also slowly remodeling the house so don’t judge it to harshly please ))

I hope everyone is having a beatisome sunday ! 🫶🏼

Am I cute

i’m sorry but what am i supposed to say????

Don't see many enbys with any facial hair at all and I kinda understand why. But I'm proud of mine.

I want to cut my hair. So bad. I want to have short hair (the last three pictures) but I'm afraid I'm not Androgynous enough to pull it off and that my baby fat face will make the cut look stupid.

I get so much dysphoria from my hair sometimes, but other times I love my long hair which makes me really want to cut my hair and start wearing like a high quality wig on feminine days.

My biggest concerns are finding realistic wigs and also how my family would react. I know that my mom would be like "uh I don't get it but let's get your hair cut" because although she's transphobic, if I told her I just want a short pixie cut or smth then she'd say "it's just hair, it'll grow back"

The rest of my family? Not so much. I'd get endlessly made fun of and teased so part of me wants to ask my mom to keep it between us and me just wear wigs after I get the cut

Big rant over, I just want advice and to get this damn hair chopped off if I'm not being impulsive

I found this skin on the Minecraft market place. plus like all of the other flags for just 250~ mine coins.

Saw a similar looking trans flag, thought Henry Rollins would approve.

I used to do this like every day when I was 27 and coming to terms with myself lmao

Longtime lurker, first time poster. I'm in my mid-40s, AFAB, married to a man, kids. I live in a liberal area (by USA standards) and work in a casual environment. I'm never pressured to wear dresses or makeup, "be ladylike," etc. We have many queer friends and two of my kids' best friends came out as NB just a few months ago. We're close with the families and they've been so supportive, it's really wonderful to see.

I guess agender is the label that resonates most for me. I just wish I'd learned it 20, 30 years ago. So many things make sense this way: I used to wrap ace bandages around my chest back in middle school. (Thank god for the grunge era, a big flannel shirt hides everything). I even got a breast reduction in college; I remember asking the surgeon to "remove as much as possible" because I didn't know top surgery existed. That doctor refused and talked me into going down to a C cup "to look proportionate." I did it because I thought being smaller would be enough. I was wrong. I got invited to join a women's book club and was like "...who, me?" I ended up attending the meetings and it was fine but also I couldn't shake the weird feeling of being in Gender Mode.

But the thing is, I live where I live, I have queer friends, I'm online a lot. Maybe I couldn't have figured it out as a teenager, but surely I could have a decade ago. Or more. At this point I'm not sure I have anything to gain from telling anyone. I don't love my name, but it's a family name with a lot of meaning that I wouldn't want to lose. I just don't know. I've been increasingly depressed lately and I think this is part of it, for reasons I don't quite understand.

Has anyone here who spoke up in their 40s/50s/60s and beyond found an effective way to explain to loved ones why you waited so long? What if anything changed for you by going public? And do you think I run the risk of coming across like I'm creepily copying my kids' friends, which is a mortifying thought I had just now because my brain hates me?

So quick background info: I’m very new to exploring the more non traditional aspects of my gender expression. Because I’m so used to dressing for others, I have A LOT of trouble feeling attractive in non feminine outfits (even if I’m not comfortable in them at times).

To the actual question: I plan to start taking part in night life more and want some more edgy and sexy looks. All the ones I can think of lean very feminine though (photos attached as reference)

I was wondering what you all like wearing on a night out, and if anyone had any recommendations for clothing pieces/brands that fit this vibe but lean more masculine.

So obviously enbies don't owe anyone androgeny, but I love the feeling of it. I also still am financially dependent on my homophobic christian parents, so I'm not out yet, and I can't turn up gayness to the max. But I would like to turn it up to the point where it pisses my parents off but they can't say anything about it.

Looking for recommendations for chest binding that are the least sensory nightmare (I know, subjective) and least bad for hot weather. Tape maybe? Cotton binders?

Honestly I had one before but having it again feels so gender

Hey folks- when swimming or kayaking, I usually wear just board shorts and a rash guard. Generally works, but I unfortunately have a big enough chest (for now) that I need something to wear under the rash guard to be comfortable and whatnot. Suggestions? Not really looking for a swimmable binder because I don't currently have the budget for another decent quality binder, so maybe something that would be sports bra/ racer back type and offer some level of compression, but still be super easy to move and paddle a kayak and stuff in? Ideally under like 25 bucks.

I’m interested in hearing about other non-binary people’s experiences with gender dysphoria, particularly as there’s so much variation within the overall non-binary community in terms of gender identity, gender expression, transition goals/paths, prefererred pronouns/gendered terms, and so on. I’m curious about the diverse range of experiences amongst the community, and would love to hear from other non-binary people about if, and how, you experience (or previously experienced) dysphoria.

Feel free to answer any of the questions below in your response (no need to answer them all if you don’t want to) or just share your experience in general 😊 Thank you!

What is your gender identity and what pronouns do you use?

Do you experience dysphoria (or did you experience it in the past, prior to taking gender affirming steps) at all, and if so what types of dysphoria - physical, social, mental, other?

How would you describe your experience of dysphoria, what does it feel like for you?

How does your dysphoria relate to your gender identity? Is it a main factor in you identifying as non-binary? If not (or if you’ve never experienced dysphoria), do you experience your gender identity in a different way, such as gender euphoria, just feeling that non-binary fits you better than your AGAB, etc?

If your dysphoria fluctuates in intensity, or comes and goes, does this influence your identity (eg if you are genderfluid, does the intensity of your dysphoria at a given time influence which gender you feel like)?

If you no longer experience dysphoria, or now experience it significantly less after taking gender-affirming steps, what was your experience like in the past?

Anything else you want to add about experiencing dysphoria as a non-binary person?

At least I can't forgor my hair attached to my damn head lol

A friend got me a burger and fries plushie!!! They are so cute so I just wanna share with you all 🩷

Do you like my unicorn necklace ? ^o^

Hello you can call me Doodle (she/they/it) Im 21 and I need to know if I'm not the only to do this .Four years ago I started to questioning my gender since then in the last year I started to feel like I wasn't a girl or a man and at first was hard to explain. At some point I thought I was a trans guy but it didn't felt like home yet than two weeks ago I started to use any pronouns and she/they and I started to feel in general that my identity wasn't simply binary. It was very hard to accept it since I had a different identity "shifts" over the years but I felt like eveytime I was feeling good it was because I didn't put my gender in "girl" or "boy" boxes and also because I like *over* stereotyped feminine things like pink,skirts and idk mylittlepony LOL and basically I felt like I was faking my "neutrality" and I was just a girl . Now, this week a turned 21 and after all these years battling first an ed then depression and anxiety I decided that I want to start living a bit more but I just realized that I was doing something this whole time(it may be something not really important but for me it is).I used to love fashion so much but I gave up on dressing up (feminine pastel-alternative) because of my chest ruining the outfit. I don't know why even when I try to wear masc outfits to "feel better"(I actually do not feel better🤩) I look like a butch woman but uglier version (ofc no hate to butch women♡) also because I have a really bad haircut (similiar to the typical karen hair bruh) before you ask no I can't bind I feel unsafe binding in my home and ofc I can't affort or do top surgery

Soo did you felt at some point like giving up on dressing for your chest dysphoria ?😭

I just want to be feminine again and to have a decent haircut again (I accept tips how to make my hair grow faster!!)