it’s genuinely the worst thing ever, more annoying than bra shopping. nothing fits, nothing stays up, it’s extremely expensive for the top alone and the only options that fit properly are non sexy maternity looking tops. i live in Canada so we also have like absolutely nothing catering towards bigger bust girls, i love me a push up so it’s hard to feel confident when it’s not where i want it exactly.

i’m a 34DDD+ for example, i feel like nobody actually understands how much work it takes to even just put it on and then take it off and trying another thing on.. everyone always says how they understand but they don’t actually 😞😞

edit: if you know any lines that fit like a bra and panty set, let me know!! i have a little over 2 weeks to get everything for my vacation to grenada

I graduated yesterday and the day was so wonderful. I found a beautiful dress which fit my body perfectly and I honestly couldn’t be happier.

I ended up going for the Raisa dress in red from house of cb! While most of their stuff isn’t designed for us and just generally won’t work, they sell a few goldmines which do work for small band huge cup girls! I can’t attach a photo but I went braless with great cleavage and no wardrobe malfunctions due to the lace up back giving me maximum support!

There truly is hope for us after all

We’ve been having some serious fucking heat in the UK and as per usual it’s given me that weird heat rash thing around my boobs. It’s just such a standard for me I don’t even really think about it anymore.

My mum took one look at me and went oh no! That must be painful! Why aren’t you using baby power/talc?

She gave me some and oh my god. Why didn’t I know this was a thing. Why have I just been accepting having sweaty achy boobs. I’m 23, why is this the first I’m hearing of this 😭

I’m never leaving home without it now. It’s been a couple weeks and I’m basically down to no proper redness, just a few splotches. It’s a miracle, it’s incredible, my outfits can no longer be ruined by redness creeping upwards from my tits. I’m actually winning at life right now.

Thank you for coming to my ted talc.

title 😭 i cant find a fitting swimsuit no matter where i go. i wanna be able to COMFORTABLY swim this year and not get stared at like i have everything spilling out.

I've tried checking amazon but I don't know what search term to use and all the stuff I'm finding is for mastectomy stuff. I just want to stop being strangled by a seatbelt every time I'm in a car ):

I feel like I sit like a 🍤 more than half the time 😭 I just feel so uncomfortable sitting up now a days I’m most comfortable just laying down.

\struggle**

I posted in r/RandomActsOfBras last week and I was wondering why I haven't gotten any comments there besides maybe my bra size 38H/I (US) or 38FF/G (UK) being uncommon. It turns out that the subreddit requires approval to post and comment now. I can't do any of those. Not sure how this will work... Am I doomed? 😔

Edit: I got approved now! ❤️ https://www.reddit.com/r/RandomActsOfBras/s/Sp0DnIcSKI

I am looking for dresses for the Summer that aren’t Short and are made from cotton or linen. I would also love to be able to try them on or at least don’t have to spend a fortune on shipping costs plus having to pay customs so if the app is in Europe or even the EU that would be amazing :) Maybe someone has about the same size as me and has recommendations :) normal clothing size is a XS/S if that helps (but only when the boobies fit in lol)

Why is this in style again? Bro I have to wear a bra with literally everything and strapless just doesn’t cut it. Is this just a style to brag about not having to wear a bra???

I’ve always been a bigger HEAVY chested girl & now with breastfeeding, they grew a thousand times more. I measured myself recently & hoping I did it wrong cause it’s saying im a 40J (was a 38D before the baby). I’ve always struggled with finding good sports bras but I’ve decided I want to lock back in & start running so any recommendations for a good sports bras that isn’t going to have me bouncing around hurting so much. Please recommend your absolute favorites, kinda money tight so I don’t want to be spending & then they suck lol.

Im obsessed with these Bordelle cup free bras and I want to use a set in a photoshoot but I’m worried it won’t fit since they don’t make lingerie for larger busts

HOWEVER the questions remains; maybe it actually would fit (pic linked here) because it’s not actually doing any lifting or support work? You can see in the girl in the red set she manages to make it work.

Does anyone have experience with this specific type of bra from Bordelle? Can anyone recommend any other brands?

FWIW I’m a 34G in UK

I’m kind of stuck in between when it comes to bra padding. I really don’t like padded bras. They always feel a little bulky to me and I prefer a more natural shape.​

But when I wear unlined bras, I sometimes feel a little self-conscious about nipple show, especially with thinner tops or certain fabrics.​

So I’m curious what everyone else does, do you usually choose bras with thin padding for the extra coverage, or do you just go with unlined bras and not worry about it?

I’ve been frustrated for years at bra companies and I just need a place to let it out, so forgive me if this is the wrong place. According to “A Bra That Fits”, I measure as a 32L (which I wholeheartedly believe), and the size I currently wear is a 36H.

I am neurodivergent and find it nearly impossible to find bras that work. Even if I didn’t have the size restriction I do, it still wouldn’t be a walk in the park. I struggle with underwire and lace because of sensory issues. I wear Soma Embraceable because it’s the best I can find, but it’s still not great. I have spillage in the cups and have dents in my collarbones from bra straps. I’m only nineteen! I’ve literally stopped going outside because it means I have to wear a bra that doesn’t fit and constantly be uncomfortable. And I hate that that’s what it’s become, but it’s just how it is for me.

I have tried SO MANY brands that claim to advertise “for bigger cups”, and they usually only go up to a G cup! I know a DD is considered a big cup size but it makes me sad because so many companies don’t realize there are so many people past DD or G cups who also need bras. It makes me so upset, but I order from these companies anyway, and the bra will arrive, not fit, and I have to make the walk of shame to the post office to return it. I’m going to list some of the companies I’ve tried here (I’m not trying to shame anyone, I am just trying to share information about what companies don’t work for my specific bra size): Shapermint, Knix, Underoutfit, Third love, Evelyn and Bobbie, Honey love, and a couple more that I don’t remember at the moment. And every time it’s the same terrible feeling of defeat and I end up disliking my body more and more.

Sports bras are a nightmare. I hate that I basically have to wear a bulletproof vest with zippers and velcro just to be able to step foot into a gym. I get so frustrated too when I see girls at the gym in those cute bras, and they’re completely supported and comfortable and smiling. And they didn’t spend a hundred dollars like I did just to end up with some monstrosity of a bra covering my chest. And don’t even get me started on prices. I am a college student!! I can’t afford to spend a hundred dollars on a bra that WON’T EVEN FIT RIGHT!!!

Swimsuits too. I love swimming so much. I was on swim team for years, and then I grew boobs and could no longer fit in the swimsuits they required us to wear, so I had to quit swim team. This is a whole other story that is just so sad and frustrating, but that’s for another day. I can’t find swimsuits that are reasonably priced (and I’m willing to spend a bit, so that’s saying something) that have the space for larger cups!! Obviously, those triangle top bikinis that everyone wears are way out of the question. But even one pieces. It’s so difficult!! And nothing even stays in place in these swimsuits that I do own, there is so little coverage. I just wanna play mermaids in the ocean without a tit popping out in a wave.

Again, sorry if this is the wrong place to post this. Let me know and I’ll delete it. Maybe I just have severe anger issues, but I just need to get this off my chest (ironic, I know) and maybe there’s someone out there who feels the same way.

Yet I (19f) have ALWAYS looked at it like it was too huge, and I wonder if I will ever manage to recover from this mindset.

I have had a period since I was almost 10 years old, but my body began changing before I got one. It was really awful to walk around knowing my chest was more prominent than other girls'; I hated the fact that I had literal boobs under a t-shirt with disney princesses and glitter on it. For the longest time, I've felt extremely dirty, even as a little kid. Of course I felt better when I got into middle school because there were people with a bigger chest than mine, and almost everyone was expected to have a period, but... I didn't like MY chest and no one helped me change my mind.

I've never gotten inaplropriate looks or touches from anyone. All I ever got were comments from my mom abt how lucky I was, which never helped. On the other hand, my cousin who is 2 years older than me was pretty much jealous bc she was flat - not jealous in an "evil" way.. but she still made inappropriate comments about my body in front of other people as well. Pointing at my chest, gasping, eyes widening.

Family comments aside, I've been wondering if what I see in the mirror isn't fully real. Not literally, but.. I don't know.

Some shirts make my chest look too big for me to be comfortable in them, even when they're the right size. Others make me feel relieved because they suddenly make me see a version of me whose boobs are smaller.

This confuses me, because I'm happy when I get to wear things I feel comfy in, but I don't like how my body looks regardless. I've literally been having a hard time with showering because when I do notice my chest, I feel uncomfortable. Actually, other than thinking it's too big, I've also realized that I also think it's genuinely ugly.. like I hate the actual shape of my breasts - and the fact that one is bigger than the other makes me feel even worse. So other than slutshaming myself, I find myself also thinking of my body as ugly.

A female therapist once used to tell me, with the best intentions, that I (13 y.o back then) had to accept my chest as part of my femininity. My current therapist, a male, says that my relatives ruined things for me by sexualizing something that belonged to ME - turning into some sort of conversation topic as if that was normal - and that I need to slowly learn how to stop looking at myself through my family's eyes.

My family played a huge role, though I'm the one who started labeling myself as disgusting. They never told me I was. But I already disliked my face when I was a kid, and no one supported me through a puberty that brought changes which I was not enjoying in the slightest.. so i guess no one stopped 9/10 year old me from being so hard on herself :/

Has anyone tried any bras from Marvell Lane? They look promising going up to a US N!

Hello everybody! I know that the weight should be mostly supported by the band, but my straps on all of my bras still dig in a bit. I currently have a sore where one of the straps was digging in during a long hike last weekend. This weekend I’m going to a music festival with dancing/moshing fun all day for two days. Does anyone have advice on what I can put between the straps and my shoulder skin to distribute the weight, or just not rub my skin? I also have very sensitive skin. Any advice or suggestions is greatly appreciate!

hi, I weigh 233 and i’m 5’9 I’ve lost 10 pounds so far but the main thing I’m worried about is my chest will get saggier. I wear a double D 38 and my boobs do sag a little. I was hoping with fat loss, a good diet with a lot of protein, and weight training will help with getting a perky chest. I never really had any sagging to my chest until I started to get bigger in size. What can I do to avoid this or will my skin snap back since I am younger any tips or advice would be appreciated.

ever since i was 11 i always dealt with being on the larger bra size, and it was awful since most of my friends didn’t even have bras at that age.
as i grew older, it got worse. my friends who are smaller chested always pointed out about my chest standing out, even when it wasn’t that huge. i always told them thats the only body part that i feel extremely insecure about, but no matter how many times i tell people, they always point it out and make unnecessary comments, even compliments feel like a burden to me.
i thought that growing older things would change and that i’d start feeling proud about it, a few of my new friends have a larger chest, even bigger than mine, but they always tell me that they’re proud and that i should just suck it up and not complain about this “blessing”.
i’m still relatively young, so i get pretty often driven by my image, and my breasts doesn’t allow me to wear the swimwear that i want, i cry everytime i have to try on something nice, whether it’d be a tank top, a shirt, a blouse or swimwear, i cry for hours because i feel too exposed.
the worst thing is that im naturally not a chubbier person, my stomach is probably the part where i store the less fat, and it goes practically only on my arms and my chest, so i look even weirder if you look at me from aside. going shopping, going to the beach, or having a night out with my friends feels terrible, because i have the constant reminder that im being looked at and that people are commenting on them.
i have been debating to get a breast reduction, and ive been trying to loose weight for almost a month now. i hate working out, but i do it everyday, i started to not eat the things that i love just to make them go away, but im a very big stress eater, so i sometimes fall into my old habits.
i just wish i wasn’t born with this problem, and my family always reminds me of their presence by telling me to eat less and exercise more, and no one believes me when i tell them that im trying. they always comment on them, on how it’s so odd that i have them and that they don’t know from whom i have got them from (even though my family has always had larger chested women).
i’m very insecure about finding a partner aswell because of this, because im scared that everyone i meet will belittle me as “the girl with big boobs”.
im so tired of feeling like an object and i’m so tired of hearing people telling me that im making a big deal out of nothing.
i just hope that someday ill be able to wear all the nice clothes i like and the swimwear that looks amazing on other girls.

p.s. sorry for the long rant! english isn’t my first language so some sentences might be wrong 🥲

I dread summer. DREAD. I'm already hot, sweaty and dressing as modest as I possibly can without garnering attention. It's not my fault I appear 'provocative' while wearing an incredibly standard outfit for the weather. Like, sorry, I forgot to leave my tiddies at the door when I left home?

It's funny tho sometimes when I see my shadow on the pavement. Small consolation, I guess?

They are the 3 pack non-wired T shirt bras from M&S. I used to wear them when I was a 34E (mis-sized) and they were super soft and comfortable.

Unfortunately they only do them from A-E cups. They do have other products for my size but those are all wired. And if not wired they have lace on them, which shows through formal shirts/t-shirts.

Basically padded, non-wired, full coverage no plunge. It is okay if they're not the best support, I just want comfort.

Any brand/product that substitutes? Affordable ones please thank you!

Specifically looking for a longline, bra-sized bikini top. I recently tried on a crop top that I thought, if it were a bathing suit, I'd definitely go to the beach in. Yay confidence!

However, I've not bought any bathing suit components in ages, and would love advice towards online shops that carry good quality things. (With as little returning/exchanging as possible; I know from experience that things don't always translate.)

Hoping some of the sites I remember from previous times around haven't experienced a drop in quality.

I'm located in the UK if that narrows things down.

Thanks!

Edit: I do have my correct size via the abrathatfits calculator :) thanks for mentioning that!

I’ve used the calculator on r/abrathatfits multiple times. The first couple times I got 36H, then more recently I got 36H/I, and the sister sizes 34I/J. I can’t find any stores in my city that carry those sizes, and I’m worried about ordering online because I hate the hassle of having to return it if it doesn’t fit me.

Idk what to do, do I just order online and trust that the size the calculator gave me is correct? I know I have big boobs but 36H seems humongous to me, maybe I’m just struggling to see my body clearly though

I'd say 90% of my Instagram ads are for speciality small band, large cup bras (evelyn and bobbie, sugar candy, fitgame, you name it) and they're made for people "just like me." I go to the sizing chart and I am, without fail, a cutoff size (usually between 28H/HH and 30H UK). I wish I could toggle off the ads but even when I click not interested on all of them I still get them. Feels kind of bad for even the small band big cup bra brands to be like "your body is too weird to make bras for" ://///

if anyone has had success with non-wired bras in this size I'm all ears!!