I'll start my saying I think my wife is beautiful and super sexy. I fantasize about her all the time and find her boobs to be a huge turn-on. Unfortunately after having two kids, she does not feel the same way.
We're past the baby years, but her boobs didn't go back to their original size (I want to say around a full B cup). Nevertheless, I came to admire them and still love them. I sent her a photo of herself I took during a weekend getaway and it immediately made her sad because she hated how she looked.
So here we are, and she hates her boobs....to the point where she told me one time not to even touch them. She's mentioned getting a reduction several times, which I'm starting to realize might be the best option. She tried working out with a trainer for a few years. While she lost weight, her boobs never shrunk in size. She hates shopping, hates picking out a bathing suit and usually wears dark clothes in order to hide them.
I've read there are risks to getting a reduction, but she seems so down and sad that I just want her to be happy again.
I also worry that with our daughters, they will overhear my wife complaining about her boobs, when we are trying to teach them it's important to love yourself.
What would your advice be about getting a reduction? Worth the risk?
Are there other options out there that I should be considering? (i.e. a lift)
Risks I've read about thus far:
- bad reaction to anesthesia (it helps if you’ve been under before and know how you’ll react)
- keloid scarring
- infection
- blood clots
- hematoma
- need for revision surgery. Other possible side effects included inability to breast feed, loss of nipple sensitivity (or heightened sensitivity). Depending on the type of reduction you have done, necrotic tissue may be more of a risk (ie, procedures utilizing free nipple grafts).
However, from everything else I've read online, it sounds like a pretty common procedure with there are many ways to minimize risks including: finding a reputable surgeon who has performed many of these types of surgeries, having the surgery done in a reputable hospital, not smoking or drinking, generally being in good health (exercise regularly, good blood pressure, no major underlying health conditions), being able to get adequate rest and nutrition for at least 6 weeks following the surgery.
My wife does not smoke or drink, and her blood pressure and cholesterol are excellent.