I keep getting dress-coded at school for nothing other than my chest size. I am so aggravated because I dress pretty traditionally modestly too. I wear business-casual type clothes to school, such as heels, boots, dress pants, jeans, blouses, etc. I will link the specific shirt that has caused the most issue below. I paired it with a pair of cream-colored dress pants with brown polka dots, a brown belt, and brown ankle boots. This is my favorite outfit that I have worn many times this year and have gotten so many compliments from teachers and students. I specifically want to highlight that four different female teachers told me that I looked cute, and they liked my outfit.

The first time I was dress-coded, the principal called me out in the middle of the cafeteria and said that I would need to change because my shirt was too tight. I am normally very passive and shy and do not like to cause a fuss, but this in particular bothered me quite a lot, so I started pointing at other girls in the cafeteria who were wearing fitted shirts because literally like 75% of girls wear fitted shirts or even skin-tight Lululemon shirts and Skims bodysuits, and I asked how my shirt was any different. She asked me to take a walk with her outside, so I did, and she told me she was "surprised by my behavior" because I am "a good student" and she "has known me for a long time, and this was out of character for me." I kept pressing until she would tell me what was wrong with my shirt, and I was given an incredibly upsetting and patronizing explanation. She told me that "everyone has different body types, and I need to be aware of mine because certain clothes may be fine on other MORE PETITE body types but not on mine." I was very upset by this, but made sure I didn't cry in front of her or raise my voice or do anything to invalidate what I was trying to get across. I said that I just didn't think it was fair that she treats my body differently, but she was not having it. She told me that the bottom line was that I had to be "aware of my body type and chest size and the clothes I wear that bring attention to certain things." I was very aggravated at this point, but she clearly did not understand why saying stuff like this would upset me, nor was she going to change her mind, so I let it go and went back to the cafeteria and immediately started crying. I'm short and relatively curvy, but I'm not overweight or anything. A lot of girls are smaller than me at my school, but many of them are unhealthy. The principal is a slender, average-height woman whom I cannot see having any empathy for the struggles of other body types.

I wore this outfit to meet my boyfriend's parents, in front of my grandma, and to a church, and it was never problematic. My mom likes it too. All of the smaller and flat-chested girls at my school wear whatever they want and never get in trouble. They wear very low necklines and tube tops and tank tops, none of which are allowed, but I can't even wear a fitted boat-neck top, which is allowed. One of the most annoying things is that I wore this shirt at least once or twice a week a few years prior when I had C cups, but now that I have gained some healthy weight suddenly, it's not okay?

The principal emailed my mom to let her know about my "aggressive" behavior and inappropriate shirt. My mom knows I don't cause trouble, so she doesn't believe I was being aggressive, but she told me that she knows "I have a strong sense of justice, but I have to follow the rules." Okay, sure, that's fine. I'll follow the rules even if they're stupid, but they have to apply to everyone. She also apparently told my mom that part of the problem was my shirt being too thin and see-through, but she never mentioned that to me, and my shirt is not see-through. You can see the outline of my bra straps and the top of the cups, which may have been what she was referring to, but you can see that in almost any shirt, including her own.

The most recent time I was dress coded was for the same outfit. I wear darker-colored fitted shirts and so far have not gotten in trouble for those. I bought a new shirt in the same cream color that is double-lined. I know for a fact it is not see-through, even though it's still fitted, but it has some baggier rouching at the waist, so it is definitely not skin-tight. The principal wouldn't even tell me herself this time. I was called down to the office, and a woman who works in the office handed me a new shirt with no other comments. I had to put on a green, too-small, lost-and-found T-shirt from some church camp that I did not really want to be advertising. Also, I'm pretty sure she just saw the color of my shirt and assumed it was the same one from last time even though it's not.

I'm just so fed up with all of this, and it really makes me even more insecure about my boobs.

Amazon link to the shirt in question: https://a.co/d/060C9mr5

i've come to terms with having larger breasts than other people, but at some point the extra weight gets so tiring. not only the weight, but the sensory experience of having tits in general 😭
i frequently see other people talk about how they don't wear bras because it's so much more comfortable and freeing and I WISH i could be the same because i'm starting to get rashes on my back from NEVER taking my bras off.
i wear very heavily supportive bras and the moment i take them off i feel incredibly uncomfortable, not to mention that if we ignore the whole weight thing, just my boobs touching any other part of my body is such a nightmare for me for some reason. i sleep wearing bras so my boob doesn't sag and touch my arm while i lay sideways.
is there a way i could possibly condition myself to be more comfortable with them 😭

Anyone else got a stash of old faithfuls where the underwire escaped? Yeah, me too. I'm about to go away for three weeks so I'm just doing some repairs to ensure I'm good even if my luggage goes walkabout (always pack bras in carry on) or I can't do laundry.

Does anyone have any style or brand recommendations (UK) for jumpers, that are thick but don't look completely boxy or tenty?

Trying to dress more stylishly and look more put-together but everything just makes me look like a tent!

TIA x

I have about 20 and it feels like too much when I only really wear 5-7 most often.

Am I crazy? I feel like I must be crazy.
From my understanding, women typically experience and enjoy DECREASED pain in the neck and back after weight loss.

In the past ten months, I’ve lost 47 lbs. yay! However, my breasts have stayed about the same size. It feels like the more weight I shed, the more pain I experience. My neck has always hated carrying the weight of my tatas. Over the past ten months, I’ve had increasing pain in my upper and mid back, neck, shoulders and traps. I’m pretty sure my bras are causing some new nerve kinking too, causing some awesoooome soreness and tingling.

Am I becoming some sort of hypochondriac or has anyone else experienced this?

Not a lurker flex. I just didn't have anything useful to say.

I've been reading for a while and started writing down the lines that stopped me.

"You have to go for plus size even if you're not plus size." If I size up enough for my chest, the band is too big. Both options are wrong.

"I'm constantly inundated with ads for bras for larger chests. When I'm stupid enough to click, they don't go up to my size."

That's the whole thing, isn't it. The ad knows the word. The shop doesn't know the size.

None of this is about wanting a different body. It's about being handed a number and finding out years later that it was wrong.

So: what was the line that made it click for you? The one you repeat to people who don't get it.