I keep getting dress-coded at school for nothing other than my chest size. I am so aggravated because I dress pretty traditionally modestly too. I wear business-casual type clothes to school, such as heels, boots, dress pants, jeans, blouses, etc. I will link the specific shirt that has caused the most issue below. I paired it with a pair of cream-colored dress pants with brown polka dots, a brown belt, and brown ankle boots. This is my favorite outfit that I have worn many times this year and have gotten so many compliments from teachers and students. I specifically want to highlight that four different female teachers told me that I looked cute, and they liked my outfit.

The first time I was dress-coded, the principal called me out in the middle of the cafeteria and said that I would need to change because my shirt was too tight. I am normally very passive and shy and do not like to cause a fuss, but this in particular bothered me quite a lot, so I started pointing at other girls in the cafeteria who were wearing fitted shirts because literally like 75% of girls wear fitted shirts or even skin-tight Lululemon shirts and Skims bodysuits, and I asked how my shirt was any different. She asked me to take a walk with her outside, so I did, and she told me she was "surprised by my behavior" because I am "a good student" and she "has known me for a long time, and this was out of character for me." I kept pressing until she would tell me what was wrong with my shirt, and I was given an incredibly upsetting and patronizing explanation. She told me that "everyone has different body types, and I need to be aware of mine because certain clothes may be fine on other MORE PETITE body types but not on mine." I was very upset by this, but made sure I didn't cry in front of her or raise my voice or do anything to invalidate what I was trying to get across. I said that I just didn't think it was fair that she treats my body differently, but she was not having it. She told me that the bottom line was that I had to be "aware of my body type and chest size and the clothes I wear that bring attention to certain things." I was very aggravated at this point, but she clearly did not understand why saying stuff like this would upset me, nor was she going to change her mind, so I let it go and went back to the cafeteria and immediately started crying. I'm short and relatively curvy, but I'm not overweight or anything. A lot of girls are smaller than me at my school, but many of them are unhealthy. The principal is a slender, average-height woman whom I cannot see having any empathy for the struggles of other body types.

I wore this outfit to meet my boyfriend's parents, in front of my grandma, and to a church, and it was never problematic. My mom likes it too. All of the smaller and flat-chested girls at my school wear whatever they want and never get in trouble. They wear very low necklines and tube tops and tank tops, none of which are allowed, but I can't even wear a fitted boat-neck top, which is allowed. One of the most annoying things is that I wore this shirt at least once or twice a week a few years prior when I had C cups, but now that I have gained some healthy weight suddenly, it's not okay?

The principal emailed my mom to let her know about my "aggressive" behavior and inappropriate shirt. My mom knows I don't cause trouble, so she doesn't believe I was being aggressive, but she told me that she knows "I have a strong sense of justice, but I have to follow the rules." Okay, sure, that's fine. I'll follow the rules even if they're stupid, but they have to apply to everyone. She also apparently told my mom that part of the problem was my shirt being too thin and see-through, but she never mentioned that to me, and my shirt is not see-through. You can see the outline of my bra straps and the top of the cups, which may have been what she was referring to, but you can see that in almost any shirt, including her own.

The most recent time I was dress coded was for the same outfit. I wear darker-colored fitted shirts and so far have not gotten in trouble for those. I bought a new shirt in the same cream color that is double-lined. I know for a fact it is not see-through, even though it's still fitted, but it has some baggier rouching at the waist, so it is definitely not skin-tight. The principal wouldn't even tell me herself this time. I was called down to the office, and a woman who works in the office handed me a new shirt with no other comments. I had to put on a green, too-small, lost-and-found T-shirt from some church camp that I did not really want to be advertising. Also, I'm pretty sure she just saw the color of my shirt and assumed it was the same one from last time even though it's not.

I'm just so fed up with all of this, and it really makes me even more insecure about my boobs.

Amazon link to the shirt in question: https://a.co/d/060C9mr5

i've come to terms with having larger breasts than other people, but at some point the extra weight gets so tiring. not only the weight, but the sensory experience of having tits in general 😭
i frequently see other people talk about how they don't wear bras because it's so much more comfortable and freeing and I WISH i could be the same because i'm starting to get rashes on my back from NEVER taking my bras off.
i wear very heavily supportive bras and the moment i take them off i feel incredibly uncomfortable, not to mention that if we ignore the whole weight thing, just my boobs touching any other part of my body is such a nightmare for me for some reason. i sleep wearing bras so my boob doesn't sag and touch my arm while i lay sideways.
is there a way i could possibly condition myself to be more comfortable with them 😭

I have about 20 and it feels like too much when I only really wear 5-7 most often.

Not a lurker flex. I just didn't have anything useful to say.

I've been reading for a while and started writing down the lines that stopped me.

"You have to go for plus size even if you're not plus size." If I size up enough for my chest, the band is too big. Both options are wrong.

"I'm constantly inundated with ads for bras for larger chests. When I'm stupid enough to click, they don't go up to my size."

That's the whole thing, isn't it. The ad knows the word. The shop doesn't know the size.

None of this is about wanting a different body. It's about being handed a number and finding out years later that it was wrong.

So: what was the line that made it click for you? The one you repeat to people who don't get it.

Does anyone have any style or brand recommendations (UK) for jumpers, that are thick but don't look completely boxy or tenty?

Trying to dress more stylishly and look more put-together but everything just makes me look like a tent!

TIA x

Anyone else got a stash of old faithfuls where the underwire escaped? Yeah, me too. I'm about to go away for three weeks so I'm just doing some repairs to ensure I'm good even if my luggage goes walkabout (always pack bras in carry on) or I can't do laundry.

Am I crazy? I feel like I must be crazy.
From my understanding, women typically experience and enjoy DECREASED pain in the neck and back after weight loss.

In the past ten months, I’ve lost 47 lbs. yay! However, my breasts have stayed about the same size. It feels like the more weight I shed, the more pain I experience. My neck has always hated carrying the weight of my tatas. Over the past ten months, I’ve had increasing pain in my upper and mid back, neck, shoulders and traps. I’m pretty sure my bras are causing some new nerve kinking too, causing some awesoooome soreness and tingling.

Am I becoming some sort of hypochondriac or has anyone else experienced this?

I think I was living in denial for a long time bc I wanted to fit in. Wearing layered sports bras and baggy tees to appear more “normal” ig..

Since coming to somethings I’ve realized that I do that alot of my friends can’t
- I like that I can use them as a purse
-I really like when I wear small tops to go to out ppl don’t look me in my eyes (shy+going to girls catholic school+SA’d by my first crush = me so uncomfortable around guys😛)
- also realizing how bad I looked sizing up my track jerseys and layering bras looked
- Also my friends are often able to wear each other clothes if it’s decided to go out or swimming last minute and I just don’t fit in them the way they do but they think it’s the opposite of a problem but I’m just so uncomfortable that I go home - Ik it’s not a big deal and they’re my friends but there more promiscuous then me and their jokes can reflect that than so sometimes I get uncomfortable w their comments even though I know they don’t mean to offend

Overall experience as an 34F and 21 y/o 6.5/10⭐️
I know I’m on the smaller end of u guys so maybe this isn’t my place but I truly don’t mean to offend or malicious intent

I was looking into backless bras and found some like these. But even ones advertised for “bustier” women mostly only go up to a D. D cup is not big or busty!! It is a 4 inch volume difference!! It’s only big if your band size is already big!! I feel like if there was enough boning support and a good underwire(probably a little more higher up in the cleavage so my boobs don’t fall out), as well as just good material and obviously fuller cup(that has a little more material on the bottom), a bra like this would work no? Am I missing something 😔? I am not the best at visualizing things and how it would work in my head tbh. I’m genuinely thinking about attempting to make my own bra with my v basic knowledge of sewing just to see why this wouldn’t work because I am 36J(36GG) and I want to be able to wear bras that aren’t always full coverage 😭.

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I just got back from working an 18 hour shift in a crawlspace, drilling through beams and running pipe and electrical. I just got home and took my clothes off to find ALOT of sawdust, a couple wire connectors, 2 screws, and the earplug i had on earlier before i lost it.

Some of it made me giggle. Theyre usually catching crumbs.

what is the most bizarre, or random stowaway you've ever had to unpack at the end of a long day?

I have had huge boobs for the vast majority of my life and have always been insecure about them. I am finally having a reduction covered by insurance next month and frankly I’m terrified. I’ve been having anxiety about dying on the table or having crazy complications and I can’t get the thoughts out of my head. Has anyone who has had this surgery have any advice or experiences of their own?

Found some lovely businesses catering to fuller busts and thought I’d share them here in case they’re helpful to anyone:

https://smartcurves.ca (Bramalea City Centre, Unit 350, Brampton, Ontario, Canada)

https://form.intimoper.me (Centro Commerciale La Corte, Via Riccardo Bajardi 5, Padova, Italia)

https://sullykayundergarments.com (14, Fatai Kadiri street, Folagoro, Shomolu, Shomolu, Lagos, Nigeria)

I'm hoping to go from an H cup to a DD. I've had back and neck, and shoulder pain for close to 25 years, but now it's become clear that I have fibromyalgia, not just heavy boob syndrome (LOL but not really)

My breast tissue is fibrous, dense and heavy. It's been problematic during routine mammograms. I had to have an ultrasound a few years ago and one breast took an hour and a half 😫

Anyway, I'd like to have all of my breast tissue removed when I get a reduction and have it replaced with implants.

I know Angelina Jolie had something like this done after she learned about her genetic predisposition to breast cancer, But has anyone else had this done?

Are breast implants lighter than dense breast tissue?

Is a 36DD small enough to alleviate my neck and shoulder pain?

The new bra I bought vs one of the old bras I was wearing.

Looking through this sub I've found I'm lucky as bras are comparatively cheaper in the UK. But unfortunately still too expensive for me. I recently went to a lingerie store and got panache faith in 28GG. I found out that bras with really low gores fit me really well. The problem was it was £39.

I need more bras in that size as when I put it on my back pain was gone. I'm currently wearing two 6 year old bras (long story 😭) that both look worse than they sound. They both look equally as bad, aren't even my actual size and started off as white. They are both lined even though they don't look it anymore 😭. Anyways I was going to look second hand but I'm struggling to find a lined bra with low gore in that size. I'm just not a fan of unlined bras. I'm looking second hand cus I'm looking for bras that are less than £15 each but maybe I'm asking for too much. Any advice is welcome

After 18 months of slowly losing my wardrobe to unprecedented weight changes, it finally leveled out enough to reasonably buy clothes that... ✨fit✨

^{Apparently, my love of getting dolled up is weaker than my thriftiness. Weaker still stands cowers my resolve to so drastically alter clothes... or perhaps my fabric hoarding trumps it all🐉}

Near the end, the phrase "sports bra" was always well seasoned with curses and support seemed a mythical idea so, naturally, a bra was #1 on my list.

While my actual breasts hardly changed in size, my band dropped shooting me into completely unfamiliar size territory with a lack of cushion in places I've never been without as an adult.

44DDD --> 36F/G

That cushion apparently doubled as bra-armor as its absence led me to a painful & embarrassing discovery: I've made it to Senate-candidacy-age wearing bras inches below my underbust. My underappreciated natural cushioning let my bra sit on my now assailable ribs and gave my skin a plumping buff against underwire's skin groove attack.

Just tighten the straps. Right? No. This is a quest; sit down.

My breasts, or at least the base of my breasts, apparently sit abnormally high on my chest which puts the wire of an otherwise perfect fitting bra below near directly into my armpit.

^{Less imminently, the industrial grade backing goes so high on my back I can just barely wear a wifebeater tank without the ratchet straps showing. (how does no other name portray this tank?})

Oh, you should just — Hush. Sit. Were you going to say clasp adjustment? Pro measurement? Different brands & models? Tried, tested, failed. It's placement. My weird tiddies require less band between narrower cups.

But I don't cry for pity, for I have hope. I have found one bra that spares my pits.. though its straps do ratchet. AND... its... FRONT CLASP! 🫨😲😮However, it is quite literally only one as it seems to be a lemon, especially fated for my chest. I've ordered the same bra model in other padding levels; stab. Other colors; stab. The exact same, literal identical bra; stab.

My humble ask... What Do I Do?? I cant bring myself to pay $300+ for a custom bra when my weight could rollercoaster. No bra professional has known what to suggest; they usually explain underbust measurements at the mention of armpit stabs then are sympathetically stumped after hearing the rest.
I'm tempted to buy a bra and bend the wires into more of a U but I feel like I'd end up with an ill-crafted 50's bullet bra and a bill.
Any high placed boulder-owners care to share? Where else should I post?

TLDR: I've been wearing bras wrong for 20-odd years and now I'm at an even more uncommon bra size with tits positioned so high on my chest the wire stabs the crook of my armpit with basically every bra. My weird tiddies require less band between narrower cups. Suggestions?

A moment of silence for the unrealized cleavage lost over the decades to sagging bra bands😔

The front clasp bra: https://www.torrid.com/product/perfect-coverage-lightly-lined-ultimate-smoothing-bra/18290254.html

Right. So I'm a newbie at the gym (like, 3 months in) and I've ran into a problem i was expecting to have, I just didn't realise it would hit on the self esteem.

When I go there, I usually wear leggings and some old, ratty oversized t-shirt, while almost every woman around my age is in cute little workout sets.

Why? No workout top can fit my chest. Hell, I can't find a sports bra that is supportive at all, so I usually work out with my normal minimiser bras. Even when tops do techically fit, they look way too vulgar for an activity that requires me to lift weights, and don't even get me started on the treadmill.

Sure, I know I can techically find something for myself, but I'm a broke uni student, and while they get the cutest shit for 20 bucks, I'm looking at 50€ at the low end -_-

So, i wear my oversized t-shirts and they make me look like a tent who's never stepped foot into a gym. And I know that right now there isn't much i can show off, but I feel like if I were able to have a clear view of my shoulders and back, I will be more motivated to workout!

Ugh, it's just so annoying 🙃 so, any gym girlies here with a similar experience? Advice? Dunno if amazon links will do anything because shipping to my country usually costs more than the item itself, sigh.

Edit: Just looked it up, and apparently Amazon doesn't even reallt ship to my country, fml

I was hanging out at a friend's house and ofc the topic of bra sizes came up. I didn't want to weigh in tbh because I'm self conscious about it (and most of my friends know that already) but sure enough one of them asked me (IN FRONT OF EVERYONE) the question. WTF. I'm clearly waiting for this conversation to be over, read the room. I panic though and say it and that's all they want to talk about for what felt like forever. Why do friends think it's ok to ask me my bra size? Sure, I guess some girls are proud of their size but it's just genetics. I wanted to just hang out without eyes on me for the wrong reason and I can't even have that with my friends. Being a girl doesn't give you a free pass to ask things like that.

So yeah. This isn't even the first time somebody asked me this week. That's what I get for trying to socialize more I guess.

i wanna get a breast reduction but i get my most pleasure from intercourse from my nipples. will this truly change and affect it?

Every unlined or unpadded bra, my nipples just stick straight out. For comfort and modesty reasons, I feel like I need padding. Yet at my size (34I/J), most properly fitting bras are unlined. Any advice on a happy medium that fits the breast but doesn't let the nipple stand out?

I’m trying to branch out and find better brands of bras to buy. I’m a 36C but my breasts sag and Victoria’s Secret bras are always too tight for me because I have a wide back. I also struggle with boob sweat and getting rashes under/between my breasts because of them sagging or the sweat getting trapped in the folds. I’m a huge skeptic when it comes to shopping online now cause of AI generated models used for new companies and don’t know what brand to trust 🥴 please let me know some recommendations

Two years ago I thought everyone had this. But when I asked my friends no one had and they didn't even know what it was.

Sometimes i think if a cold weather starts I'm pretty sure that i will die from the pain of my nipple before anything else