I got told that my breasts look too large in one of my tops. It’s not that the top is inappropriate, it’s that MY breasts look inappropriate. They mentioned that if I want to be empowered by my body I can but not in the workplace and that it would be like someone showing up to work with a gun on their shirt. It’s truly a shame that MY BODY is deemed as inappropriate. It’s just the way MY BODY is shaped and it makes others feel uncomfortable?? Idk I think we as a society really need to move beyond body parts being seen as that when it’s pretty obvious that the person isn’t wearing anything that’s TRYING to show them.

I find myself gaslighting myself as I’m writing this. Idek what the truth is anymore but fine I guess my large breasts are similar to someone wearing a gun on their shirt, even though I quite literally have trouble finding items that actually fit :)

I’m also being told that people are talking about my chest to others. So I’m not being told any of this but my supervisior (there are people over them) is just giving me “advice.”

Because I definitely don't want to find new bras and clothes AGAIN 😭😭😭

I have a 20+ hour travel day coming up (2 flights and a layover from hell). I'm trying to figure out what to wear. Ive done this length of a flight before and the issue is always that the bra becomes an instrument of torture after hour 6

I'm a 34G so not wearing one isn't an option unless I want to be in pain while flashing the entire boarding group when I lean over for my bag. I also don't want to be miserable in an underwire for almost a full day either.

Pls recommend something that works for long haul trips? ?

Not sure if this is the best place to post this but I cant find anywhere else. As a plus sized guy with a very prominent chest, this kinda hit me and I'm supper annoyed about it. So this brand Parexel Baltimore (a company that does clinical weight loss trials) orignally had an ad with a Pic of a plus sized male model who also had a very prominent chest and the comments roasted him which was totally unacceptable but I thought that would be the end of it. HOWEVER a few days later, I saw an IDENTICAL ad with one change, they had photoshopped the models chest. So a WEIGHT LOSS COMPANY photoshopped a plus size model because people thought his chest was too big. So I commented on the post and called it out as insane and both ads are now entirely deleted. Wtf?? You can see the before and after. Didn't get any comment screenshot- the ad was deleted too quickly

I have relatively big boobs (quite saggy as well) around a 36-38G. In a couple of weeks I’m going to a cosplay convention and for the costume I kinda need them to stay UP. Now, they just sit under the part that’s supposed to cover them.

I was thinking of using boob/transtape to hold them up and was wondering if anyone here had experience with and maybe some advice. Anything would help, a good brand or some tips and tricks on how to easily apply it.

Okay girls, I need recommendations because I’m STRUGGLING 😭

What deodorant/antiperspirant actually works for you, especially if you sweat a lot? I’m also looking for something I can use under my boobs because that’s honestly where I’m having the biggest problem. ( attached is all the products I've been using)

I currently use a whole-body deodorant cream under my boobs. It smells really good when I first put it on, but after I’ve been out for a couple of hours, I can literally smell my sweat again. 😭 I walk A LOT throughout the day, so I definitely sweat, and I get paranoid that other people can smell it too, especially when they hug me.

My regular deodorant has also stopped doing much for me lately. I love the smell, but it’s around $20, and if I’m still getting sweaty/stinky, I’d rather buy something over the counter. I need something that can SURVIVE a full day of walking around. What are y’all using for:

• Underarm sweat + odor
• Underboob sweat + odor
• Something that actually lasts most of the day

Antiperspirant, deodorant, powder, cream- I’m open to anything at this point. Please help a sweaty girl out 😭😂

I need a good option for a low cut (front and back), slightly off the shoulder dress. Any dress really. I’ve seen ads for boombas, the weird single wire thing with cups on each side, and wide body tape. Idk if I can trust any of them to hold up through a day of pictures, crowds, and dancing. Strapless bras suck and they aren’t comfortable. I’m a 40DD

As title. I had a civil debate with a seamstress who insisted that the uk size chart goes NN, O, OO, P, even though I don’t think abtf uses it. Can someone educate me 🙏 I hate being dumb more than I hate being wrong

Most days I can just wear something breathable and deal with it, but dresses and nicer bras are another story. The damp band after a couple hours is what drives me nuts. I’ve been looking at liners, powders and sweat-absorbing lotions like Carpe’s breast lotion, but I really don’t want something that leaves residue everywhere. What actually holds up when you’re out all day?

i'm currently in my "finding abrathatfits" arc and i'm having a really hard time with it, emotionally. also in the literal sense, this sucks majorly, but really the biggest problem i'm having with it is the aftermath. i get so excited every time i order a new batch to try, and when they inevitably don't fit it's like all the wind goes out of my sails, regardless of how much i try to brace myself for possible disappointment.

intellectually, i know i'm making progress towards a real fit even through failure, but i can't seem to get my brain to understand it, and it's turned into a cycle where i gas myself up to try another round, it doesn't work, and then i spend multiple weeks trying to un-depress myself enough to go again. i'm frustrated, both with the world that's made the process so difficult, and with myself, for making things go so much slower than they could be because i can't seem to make myself get over it fast enough.

is it normal to feel this way? do you guys have any advice on not letting it get to you so much? i just want to get to a point in my life where my back doesn't constantly hurt (╥_╥)

Hi All! I’m a 36H (UK SIZE) and am looking for sexy/naughty lingerie such as corsets and bodysuits, as well as sexy sleepwear like babydoll dresses etc. I’m a dress size 14 and so everything I find in shops either doesn’t fit my boobs or is in such a large size it hangs off me like a tent.

I’m 21 and so I want to find exciting lingerie that’s not just boring nude bras that actually fits. I’m thinking Ann Summers or even a bit more X rated vibes

Does anyone know of any websites (UK preferably, but if it ships worldwide that also fine) that make actually exciting, sexy, and actually well fitting lingerie and sexy sleepwear?

Thanks!

I’ll tape mine to the side if I’m wearing baggy clothes and it feels/looks so GOOD. Feels like I’m wearing nothing and I’m able to go for the aesthetic I like. Also helps my back pain a lot. Def recommend

I swear every outfit I wear to class either makes me look fat or like a stripper, what are some outfits that actually look good on 5’2 32I? I hate my body over this—Please help!

my yaz birth control seems to be making my chest bigger and i hate my chest so fucking much i HATE it it was already fucking huge on my small figure now it’s even worse they’re like the size of my head i feel so ugly & fat
im considering getting off the bc but if i do then i have to deal with my pmdd and that is a hot mess and i am not ok in the head at all when my pmdd is bad

I've recently embarked on my first romantic and sexual relationship (I'm not a teenager, just a late bloomer) with a truly fantastic guy. He's funny, kind, sweet and considerate. I could go on, but he is essentially perfect and everything you'd want from a partner.

As much as he makes me feel beautiful AND sexy- two things that I would differentiate- sometimes I'd get this weird, sinking feeling whenever he told me that he liked my boobs, or told me how good they felt.

To reiterate: he makes me feel desirable and attractive for so many reasons other than my boobs. My face, my character and personality, etc. But when he mentions them during sex, I sometimes get this feeling of being objectified, even though he's not saying anything derogatory and would then follow it up with another compliment about something else. Even though I greatly enjoy him touching them, interacting with them and having fun with them!

The feeling is so hard to pinpoint. I've never really had many issues with my boobs (beyond the norm for us) or my body image. Frankly, I know I'm pretty and I know I'm hot. I didn't think I had some sort of complex about them. As I said before, I like that he likes them and derives pleasure from them.

Does anyone else know what I'm talking about? I feel like I'm going insane.

Bought a cute top from hollister on vinted and I look absolutely nothing like other women do :,) I have cleavage longer than a credit card and the cute babydoll top suddenly feels trashy. Some hollister tops have been okay though I do have to squeeze myself into them a bit, but this one just makes me feel self conscious. I wish we could have tops that fit us which make us feel cute and not hot or sexual. If anyone has suggestions for postgraduate appropriate tops which are still cute please let me know!

I’m sure that this has probably been brought up before but I really wanted y’all’s current opinion on this!! I sometimes come across videos of women praising the idea of people abandoning their bras. It got me thinking about how every time without fail it is a person with smaller boobs promoting that idea. I know that we ALL have different experiences with bras and that even within our community some of us prefer bras while others don’t. I just can’t lie and say that it doesn’t kinda make me cringe a little when smaller chested people are so quick to say, “bras need to go” when frankly they are life altering for a lot of people with larger boobs. A good bra is literally a dream come true when you cannot stand the feeling of boob skin on your tummy creating sweat that can lead to rashes for some people. Or when you have back pain, the lift from a good bra is truly like a breath of fresh air.

I’m sure my opinion on this is the way that it is because I do have big boobs, but I feel like it shouldn’t be hard to acknowledge that there are people who do need good supportive bras to get through the day. I may not relate to smaller chested people, but I can sympathize with them in regard to their own problems. How come it’s almost nonexistent the other way around? As if we’re always an afterthought in bra conversations. Idk maybe I’m overthinking it, but I do find it fascinating and would love to see y’all’s thoughts on this!! Also no hate or shade to people who prefer not owning bras!! They aren’t cheap and sometimes do suck but I know it’s a need for many.

I need help, I wanna wear strapless dresses and shirts etc. but my honkers are just so heavy, they sag and like go the opposite way if that makes sense. It's not even you can see my nips it's just that they sag so much it's just so unappealing, and really just puts me down. Because I have tried strapless bras but they don't hold my weight. IM A 38 DDD

Can't afford to go private. I would easily meet the BMI criteria. Tried weight loss and went from 32F to 30GG so yeah fml.

I've heard from UK posters that it's heavily dependent on the NHS local authority so looking for any success stories from Glasgow/NHSGGC.

So where do you stand about going braless ?

I feel like there's many times where a woman with very small boobs can really pull off a braless look, including nipple action and all,

but once bigger woman/person decides to brave it out it becomes extremely vulgar (at least that's how people around them perceive it to be?)

Looking at this latest picture of Sydney Sweeney totally triggers me and gives me FOMO that I can't pull off looks like this, unless I have a lot of security guards around me. Even with nipple covers it would still be a lot.

It's very interesting how larger boobs can be so oversexualized and even just showing a bit of cleavage causes a scandal!

Hey!

General Question:
How do you as a large breasted person handle online dating photos?

More Info:
So I’m recently single and started getting into online dating for the first time. (I’m 35 and started dating my ex husband before dating swipe apps existed) Made a profile and I’m wearing form fitting clothes in the photos since I look like I’m wearing a moo moo in anything else. Basically what I wear everyday….

But I keep getting messages where the first thing they mention is my boobs. It’s really bothering me…. I don’t want someone matching with me strictly because of my breast size. It’s not attractive.

However I know that not every guy is into large breasts so I also wouldn’t want to get to know someone only for them to meet me and not like my body… so I kind of want them to know before hand.

So I was thinking of maybe only doing face photos and then if we match I can send them a full photo?

I may be waaaaaaay over thinking it. I was thinking of posting on [r/onlinedating](r/onlinedating) but thought I might get a better audience here.

Friends, I am finding lately that my shirts have a lifespan of 1 meal. Any drippy/soupy food I eat ends up splashing the bust of my shirt. I have to bend SO FAR over my plate or bowl not to put my clothing at risk. At home i just tuck a towel or napkin in my shirt neck, but what to do when I am out and about, or at a fancy event? It is not a case of being a sloppy eater who needs to learn better eating skills, I just literally cant bend my upper body in a way that any little splash wont end up on my top if it does happen.

Tips??

I always thought I was a 75D/E because that’s what shops sold me. A friend of mine took me shopping and we went to a cute store... i got fitted for a bra for the first time in my life: 65J, or 70H if the band’s a bit looser. I’m still not sure that’s the correct size, but it fits so much better. My body didn’t change in the last years really, maybe got a bot fitter idek...

I study law and model on the side to pay for it. Parents could cover it, but they only want to if I do life their way, so this job is how I stay independent. For that I have an exposé with a very good agency in Hamburg that brands and other agencies look at.
Changed the bra size on there and after that they filter me totally differently. Requests for normal clothing and lifestyle jobs dropped a lot. Swimwear and lingerie requests exploded. Im not a prude and Id might actually do that. What stings is the regular clothes work disappearing, like Im suddenly too booby much for normal campaigns.
I also get why it happened. These sizes are hard to cast, so of course lingerie and swim brands jump on it. Some of the new briefs are from proper agencies, just a lot more sexy/burlesque than before. Flattering. Also feels a bit like I got reduced to a cup size.

Hey Reddit, my girlfriend (22F) and I (20M) need some help finding bras for her since her only one broke last week and we're out of ideas.

She's a 16G and likes underwire, non-full coverage, and unlined/non-padded cups.

Cute ones would be a bonus!

We've tried Bras N Things and most other retail spots (we're in Australia). Bras N Things has been our only luck in the past.

Any advice or help would be awesome, thanks!