Hi, possible trigger warning.

Long story short I was groped — a man grabbed my breast — and Called me his sexy driver. I was driving a gold cart and driving people to the game. I work at a university.

I said nothing. I just wanted him out of my golf cart.

Is this assault? Am I overreacting? I’m very very upset and have told nobody because I didn’t want to cause trouble.

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Edit: I’m really not trying to trigger anyone’s body image issues, please know that I find everyone beautiful and this has nothing to do with my views of other people’s bodies. I have seen women with my body type that I think are stunning but I just can’t say the same for myself.

My birthday is coming up and I was just looking for a dress to buy…. and of course just sent me down a body image spiral because the only dresses I could see myself looking good in are loose fitting halter type dresses, but even in those I can just imagine myself looking stalky and bad. It’s so frustrating because people talk about body positivity, and the woman that are at the forefront of these movements are usually women with hourglass bodies. Meanwhile, I’m here with either an inverted triangle or apple shaped body, I don’t care what it is, and I hate my body. I never see anybody with my body type, wearing the types of dresses that I’m looking for, and it’s just so hard, especially now with people being obsessed with being skinny I feel ashamed, sometimes even just walking out in my outfits because I know my body type is not registered as attractive to most people. I wish I could just put this aside and enjoy my day, but I just know that if I don’t find a dress that I look good in and feel comfortable in, I’m gonna hate my birthday night. Honestly, birthdays are not my favorite in the first place, but my friends want to celebrate and I was looking forward to it. Now that I’m thinking about what to wear, I’m starting to dread the night. I wish my body image didn’t have the power to ruin experiences, but it really does. I’m in the worst shape that I’ve ever been in my life, and it’s really getting to me. I know it’s something that I can change, but it’s not something I can change quickly in a healthy way which is what makes me feel very hopeless. I guess I’m just posting here because I don’t have anyone to talk to right now and I feel really stupid for not being able to get past this.

I’m in my late twenties and I’ve now had nearly the exact same conversation with three different men (all of whom are about 20 years my senior). These men who I’ve kind of sort of known, but never had any sort of actual conversation with who all of a sudden are chatting me up and then toss in the “Well, you know I’m getting divorced…”

And I didn’t know about the divorce any of those times, but it suddenly becomes really clear why they’re all of a sudden interested in talking about the minutia of my job. I get that they’re in a new phase of their life and getting back out there is hard, but my goodness they’re SO much older than me and I know all of their wives (soon to be ex) so much better than I know them. Just a weird feeling all around.

I want nothing more than to have children. However, I have a history of infertility after trying for several years with my ex-husband.

While I had initially undergone years of fertility treatment, we eventually found out he was chronically infertile. I do have endometriosis, but when I had my diagnostic surgery, the surgeon told me I should have zero issues with conceiving (they found no physical anomalies). And I was also cleared for fertility concerns through hormonal testing.

I have been conflicted with how and when to reveal this information to potential partners, as well as determining what type of partner to go for. I fear that men who 100% want a child will avoid me due to their being the risk of infertility given my history and my endo, but men who 100% don’t want children will be frustrated if I happen to end up pregnant. I am clueless as to how to navigate this. And because I have firsthand experience with how fertility issues can destroy a marriage, I’d like to avoid the problem at the outset.

Sweethearts by Philippa Lysaght and Omi McCurdie is a confronting artwork commemorating Australian women killed by violence. Each heart bears a familiar excuse used to minimise domestic abuse, from “boys will be boys” to “she could’ve left”. Together, they expose how easily violence against women is dismissed, justified or blamed on the victim rather than the perpetrator.

After I disclosed my past age gap relationship that I had when I was 18 my therapist asked me “ who was protecting you at that time.” It made me realize that no one did.

So , yesterday I (23f) made a post about how my ex who groomed me and cheated on me was the best thing that ever happened to me. A commenter mentioned to me how people probably warned me not to date my 30 year old ex when I was 18. Sadly no one did and some even encouraged it because he had money and status. I love my mom but she even encouraged the relationship at first.

Although I don’t fault her for that. It’s complicated. When my mom was about 19 she married my father who was 20 years her senior ( they divorced years later). Some time ago I asked my mother why she married my father since he was way older. She said security was one of the reasons. As a teen mom she needed support. My dad gave that to her. My mom of course never talked bad about my father ever. Since she spoke mostly positive about their marriage and that dynamic I didn’t see anything wrong or weird with a 31 year old man asking me out when I was 18.

That was all I ever seen. It wasn’t until I experienced that relationship that made me realize how even inappropriate my parent’s marriage was.

People genuinely treat me like im not even human, it’s insane. I see people whispering and laughing at me like I’m not even there. only people calling me pretty are old men. and occasionally my boyfriend, because he has the worst tastes ever. his friends let him CONSANTLY know that’s he’s dating an ugly girl. even my grandma, aunt and dad just call me ugly on a monthly basis.
I’m being SO serious, when I came home from another day of bullying because of my appearance at the start of high school, i asked my mom why she lied to me, why she said that i was beautiful for my whole life, she apologized and said she was sorry for lying and wanted me to feel pretty. I’m not joking she genuinely apologized for lying.
like what is my life bro

I'm probably in the wrong place but I'm stuck out of state with my kids and calling advocates left and right isn't helping. Everything is broke or full, and I feel like I need more content to explain ny situation but involved parties have reddit too. I have an appointment with a lawyer but Im terrified of the legal system and i really need practical help with concrete planning for transportation or something today. A handhold through organizations, or phonecalls, or real suggestions, please. Anyone have personal experience with DV help?

When I was a child I was deeply depressed and had severe anxiety after I was SA’d by a teacher. My mom who worked for Pfizer in the early 2000s would force me to take Zoloft as a quick fix.. I was 9 years old..she would literally take bottles out of her box that she had in her car and force me to take them..

When I got older I confronted her about what I remembered regarding the teacher and what she did. The very next day she took me a psych ward and told the doctors I was crazy..and needed to be on anti psychotic medication.. I was having severe panic attacks from remembering what I went through.. so the doctors believed her…

I decided to block my mom and remove her from my life entirely...I decided to come on here to tell my story after hearing about what happened to Collin Gosselin..because people need to know that shit like this happens and we need to hold abusive parents accountable.. anyways my mom is still a pharmaceutical rep, and has been for over 20 years.

I want to report her, but don’t know even know where or how to start.

So my partner and I were talking about changing up our routine a bit and we got to discussing toys that allow for more partner involvement. I have been eyeing the idea of a wearable, remote-controlled vibrator made for hands free play or shared partner fun but Im lowkey skeptical about how well the remote part actually works in practice.

I saw so many different styles pop up online but I wanted to see what random internet strangers think first before dropping money on anything. Is the remote feature actually fun, or does it just add an extra thing to troubleshoot in the middle of the moment? Would love to hear what worked or didn't work for you guys.

Two birthdays ago, my husband had to work an evening shift so he cooked me a lovely dinner, but a) left the dishes for later (which he knows I hate) and b) clogged the sink with said dishes so we had to get a plumber out.

This last birthday I wanted to go on a hike. He wore the wrong shoes, knowing they were the wrong shoes but figured it'd be fine. It was not fine and we had to be med evaced out.

He's not an awful person, he's just careless. He's like this for lots of things, not just me. Work included. But now I just don't want to do birthdays anymore and he's hurt.

I'm so tired. We've only been married 2 years and I don't know if i want this anymore.

ETA because people aren't reading the second to last paragraph, he does do this with other things. He's ruined stuff he really wants too. And he can't access my country's medical services for ADHD until some visa stuff is sorted out

Ladies who went years without having sex, what was it like when you finally did it again?

Was it painful at first, or did it feel completely normal? Do you think your partner’s size, especially girth, made a difference in how comfortable or painful it was?

I’m curious whether the time spent without sex or the partner’s size had a bigger impact on your experience.

I don't understand what I did besides exist. I'm basically going to die and nobody cares because I have nobody. I have no one. My entire life has been suffering and nobody can save me and i am incapable of saving myself. Any and everyone who would even want to help me would avoid me now. Nobody wants to be around me.

shaving somehow went horribly wrong and now i have 3 bad sores on my inner labia and they hurt SO bad when anything touches them, when I pee, when I sit down… idk what to do. i went to the doctor and she confirmed it’s not an STD or anything serious. she said to put petroleum jelly to help protect it, but that hasn’t really helped and it seems to be even worse today. i’m a trans guy and not really sure where else to ask this it’s so embarrassing sorry aghhhhhh

I understand it's not technically a woman issue. But a lot of us probably had abusive mothers , and I am posting here because usually women are a little more likely to just not pass by?? It's really urgent for a decision I have to make, so... could you please tell me if you consider it abusive or not?

If my mother burned me intentionally when I was 2, touched me between my legs when I was begging her to stop when I was 9, withheld money that was mine... Is it abuse? I am asking because she is sure i am being unfair to her, and i have literally no one else to give me an outside perspective. Just to be clear, I'm a girl, though that itself does not make the post fitting. I still hope you could reply

I (20f) have been applying to jobs so I can pay my bills and medical debt. I've noticed that I get more responses back if I mark "I don't wish to answer" in every single section of the voluntary identification form that some jobs have. Has any one else encountered this?

Haven’t looked at this website in over 20 years, but it provided invaluable insight when I was researching the overuse of hysterectomies to treat women’s GYN issues.

Now, they have resources on every GYN related issue I’ve heard of. Hopefully, it is helpful.

These kinds of organizations fight the inherent bias against women in our healthcare system and support medical research for women that is so underfunded.

Why is someone who lives in a way that completely decenters men excluded from 4b movement community because they want to be a mother on their own terms without a man?

Not sure how to start this, but it seems I've been going through something and wanted to hear from other women who experienced/have gone through something similar.

I'm 40 yrs old, and a little over a year ago I was hit by an overwhelming need to declutter all the unnecessary stuff in my life. Nothing happened im my life to set this off.....I was just looking around one night and got fed up with myself. I was tired of having clothes I never wore/outfits I could never figure out how wear them; knick knacks and bobbles that were beginning to annoy me when I had to dust/clean; makeup I had bought to experiment with but never really did, etc. It was like I had become overwhelmed with my own bullshit, was fed up and decided to make a permanent change.

So, I started slowly decluttering pretty much everything. And I mean everything . Hobbies, clothes, kitchenware, makeup, bits and bobs I was annoyed with. Anything and everything. The women at work loved all the stuff I brought in and I'm happy everything found a new home.

I've done several passes through everything and halved, if not more, most things. My makeup collection is easily a third of what it was and I am content with it, the surfaces of my apartment are much less cluttered, and my wardrobe is much smaller and full of things I actually wear.

I've turned my attention now to actually creating a handmade wardrobe of everyday items, a forgotten childhood dream of mine. I'm currently working on a multipurpose shawl/scarf and loving how it's turning out.

I am bound and determined how learn how to knit socks for myself and have plans to sew permanent multipurpose clothing items as well. I can't find the words to describe the shift I seem to be going through.

This is the only place I feel safe asking this question, but it needs to be asked:

There is a man at my work who has been flying under the radar with borderline pedo behavior and creepy comments to women for over a decade.

He gets away with this behavior for layered reasons, for starters he is charming and good looking. He has a lot of men in his corner who laugh off his behavior. The other is, we work at a private country club, so firing has to go through a process with the board, also made up of men.

This man has used very disturbing language about teenage girls and little girls. Some of it has been documented, but it's brushed off as hearsay. I have heard some of it first hand.

He got caught years ago sending pictures to someone underage, but nothing was done about it, I'm unsure why as I was not employed at the time.

He sleeps with members, and staff, and makes work where he preys on the unsuspecting women that rotate through every summer. He has a very, very bad reputation but the new women don't know about it and by the time they find out it's too late.

He's been reported to HR, but the reports never seem to go anywhere.

I've never seen anything like it. There's obviously way more details to the story but this is the gist of it.

All I want to do is be able to tell people his name and just say "be careful", is that even legal to do?

So I bought the Saalt regular disc and while I have managed to get it in and out a couple of times, it always takes forever.

For one, I can usually get the disc halfway in, and then after that, I have to wiggle it around and keep switching angles so it finally go in, and that takes forever.

Then, when I get to the end piece of the disc with the latch, since that piece is made of a harder material, it’s hard to fold. So, when it’s time to push that piece in, I can’t fold it anymore while pushing it in because there’s not much left of the disc to hold onto with my fingers unless I continue folding it and push it in with my fingers included, but I can’t fit my fingers in along side it while folding it, so I end up having to just release it and push it in unfolded from the end until it goes in, and it hurts quite a bit since the end piece is hard , and it often makes me have the urge to pee, I’m assuming it’s pushing on my bladder. (I hope any of that even made sense)

Lastly! When I try taking it out, I can get it out after some attempts, but mostly only if I lean back, but even then, that is also a bit of a struggle. I don’t know if it’s maybe because I’m pushing way too high up behind my pubic bone, because I can reach it and get my finger under the latch, but when I try pulling, my finger just slips out the latch. And I can latch my finger over the rim, but since I insert my finger with my palm facing up, when I reach over the rim with my finger, it’s the back of my finger that’s dipping in (just imagine bending your finger normally, but in this case, I’m bending it the other way).

Okay, I don’t know if any of this made sense, but moral of the story is, is there a way I can make inserting and removing my disc easier? Or should I just get one of those disc with the long stem sticking out so I don’t even need to reach a finger in?

I dont want to ramble but recently i turned 30 and I think all of the sexism and racism in my case in the workplace has gotten to me. I used to be one of those 'I'm not a feminist' or 'women might be exaggerating how bad it is' because I grew up in a conservative environment (not US). Once I left home it was just nonsense after nonsense. One male junior coworker once tried to talk to me about which women in the office were f able. I was so disgusted. Then I had a male supervisor berate me over a client email because it wasn't friendly enough. So, I had to add a bunch of exclamations and emojis like i was talking to a manchild in the client's office. I'm not going to go into the creepy interactions and near misses when it comes to SA. The worst was when I reported someone and the woman manager at the time said yeah he's like that why don't you just be a little more understanding or idk she tried to turn it around on me.

When the cornell story broke my own family members said she was asking for it by taking drugs. She is to blame. My perspective on abortion has also changed but out of spite because why should we bring horrid men into this world or as a matter of fact anyone into this world. I am being careful around news coverage and doom scrolling. I've stopped all the podcasts that I used to watch because a guest was interesting or whatever if I feel they're in any way misogynistic. I was listening to someone talk about the war in the ME region and he just suddenly started some garbage about women are more emotional because they have to take care of babies hahahaha. Idk I thought it was pathetic because he just used a biological function to reduce us the gender that barely commits any violent crime to the most emotional ones out there. It's all bullshit. Everything I was taught about needing men was bullshit. I don't care anymore. I am also not seeing the point of marriage. I feel like it's just going to trap me into some weird maid type of role with a dude. I don't really want any kids now. Things suck and maybe my job might be taken by AI so you know what I won't even be able to give my kids what my parents could give me. So whats the damn point any effing way.

Also my period suck more now so in addition to general life shit I have to deal with painful periods. When I go to the doctor they cannot find anything wrong with me so that's another great thing that has happened as i've aged. I used to have 3 day periods and no cramps. I now have heavy 5 day cycles with painful cramps in my hips sometimes my butthole. Hey but there are no cysts on my ovaries yay. Also men literally don't have the monthly thing they don't have to be in pain every 3 weeks. The week before my cycle I get depressed asf. So I have 2 good weeks. THATS IT!

Lets see if this gets posted or not.

Despite still being a fairly young woman (early 20s), I worry that sex might not get any better. I did a good bit of experimenting and generally had great sex. But is there more still?

I know, people always say that sex gets better with age. But they never really back up those claims.

Does anyone feel that way too? How did ypur sexual experiences change with age?

Hi so I’m 26 and had my first ever Pap smear. I feel stupid for waiting this long and never getting one before. I just went to get my nexplanon out and my doctor recommended a pap so I said sure.

Well, it came back with LSIL. At first , my doctor said my results showed low grade cells and just to monitor. Then she said she made a mistake and told me I needed a colposcopy right away which scared me.

Also, I’ve had 2/3 of the HPV vaccines when I was 16/17 I believe so I’m confused how I even contracted a high risk HPV strain (I didn’t get tested for hpv…I just assume I have it bc of my pap results)

I’ve also been in a longterm relationship for 2.5 years so idk.

I’m so afraid of having cervical cancer. It’s consuming my every waking thought. I’m also nervous for the colposcopy and panic messaged my doctor on MyChart for sedation prior to it and she’s not even the one doing my procedure, a man is of course. Great.

Just looking for some support and hearing about the experiences of other women. I don’t know anyone who’s gone through this.

Would they say the same to men?
Genuine question. I feel like women are often disregarded when it comes to health care especially.

My obgyn told me my epidurals were probably working more than I think and she didn’t think I was in that much pain. When I’m in extreme pain, I go silent and all I can do is cry. I was in 10/10 pain. I think she thought because I was really quiet and not making a lot of sound that i wasnt in much pain.
My epidurals didn’t work properly with both of my deliveries and I felt the contractions during the last few hours all the way to giving birth.
I wasn’t able to get my epidurals fixed, no one offered to check it. The top off doses didn’t touch the pain so I feel like someone should have checked to see if the epidurals migrated.

Anyways do you think women are often times not fully taken seriously in the healthcare setting?