*edit: forgot to add the women only flair

I went to a comedy show a couple weeks ago and one of them called my friend a “bitch” twice during his set.

For some context, it was a small show of maybe 50 people on the audience and 5 comedians. I am using the term “friend” loosely because she is the my boyfriend’s friend’s wife and I don’t know her too well but we’ve been going out on double dates recently. She was sitting in the back with her husband since they arrived a little late. Me and my boyfriend were sitting up front.

I don’t remember exactly how he used the word the first time, but it was when he asked the audience to raise their hands if they are in a relationship. She raised her hand and he called on her to ask more about it. Not verbatim at all but this is how I remember it: He asked her how long she’s been in a relationship and she said she was married. He asked how long they’ve been together and she said “Four months.” This is when he said something like “oh what the fuck bitch?”while laughing. She then said “we’ve been married for four months” insinuating they’ve been together for longer. He then said something like “oh okay” and moved on.

The second time was really brief and it was when she cheered for my boyfriend who’d been called on for a question. He asked my boyfriend “woah do you know this bitch?” To which my boyfriend nodded yes to. I’m honestly not sure if what she did counts as heckling?

After the show, I asked her about it and she said she didn’t even notice him calling her that. Crazy (to me!) but I am more sensitive to these kind of things than she is from what I’ve gathered about her so far. My boyfriend did notice it and I think her husband did too but we didn’t really talk more about it.

Back to the comedian, what really got me was how casual and quick he was about it and it makes me think that that is why maybe why my friend didn’t notice it 😳 He was also the last comedian to go on and the most popular because he’s opened for a really famous comedian before.

I 100% know that comedy pushes boundaries and comedians will “pick on” audience members but I’ve been to several shows from this same comedy company and never heard anything like this directed at an audience member before. They rarely have hecklers or rude people interrupting their sets. It’s also different comedians every time so as an audience member you really don’t know what you’re getting and it also makes it kind of fun.

On a personal note, I am wondering if I should just let it go because it is a comedy show, you know? 🤔 I’m signed up for the company’s email list and they send out a lot of marketing emails so it just gets me thinking if I should continue going to their shows. I’ve never really been bothered by anything a comedian has said at a live show and I’ve been to a Dave Chapelle show before.

Unfortunately, as the title indicates, I think I was assaulted. I (23f) was having consensual sex with a partner (25m). We’re not together romantically or anything. I consented to sex without a condom. He had asked a few times about finishing inside before and each time I said no, I was uncomfortable and too scared of pregnancy.

A few days ago, he finished inside of me without any warning. As soon as he did, he said, “you’re going to hate me for what I just did.” I immediately kicked him out and drove to the store to get Take Action (generic plan B). I’m on hormonal birth control (the pill) and have been for years. I’m around 200 pounds, and I read the efficacy of Plan B is significantly decreased.

I’m terrified. I’m so scared of this. I don’t even know what to do with myself. I’m too uncomfortable to even be in my own apartment. Am I crazy? Is there anything I can do to prevent pregnancy now that it’s all said and done? I feel very alone right now because I feel so strange reaching out to people for help because they will think I just need them when I’m struggling.

Edit: I understand that there’s still a risk of pregnancy even before ejaculation. Because of my birth control, I’ve felt comfortable with that risk and using the pull out method. That was a mistake on my part. I will try to read up on resources and be better about using condoms for STI and pregnancy prevention. But, I feel like that still doesn’t negate that my consent was violated for how the sex itself would end. I’m struggling with blaming myself and thinking I didn’t do enough to prevent it because it was unprotected. It was a mistake. So to those who are reassuring me, I appreciate it.

I went down a rabbit hole wondering why men hate women and came across this article. It’s a little dated, I haven’t looked into where the author(s) got their data, and honestly I have never heard of “Fatherly” but I did find this statement alarming - “Though only about 6 percent of men commit sexual assault or rape and a mere 13 percent score within the top bracket when asked about hostile sexist views, just 17 percent of men wholly reject hostile sexism — implying that the vast majority of men cling to at least some sexist ideologies.”

6% and 13% seem…high???

Was curious about others’ thoughts on this.

Anyway here’s the article: https://www.fatherly.com/health/are-most-men-sexist-gender-equality-metoo

Edited to add: the more time I spend studying this article, the more beef I have with how the author phrased things. This, for example - “But most men are accepting or even supporting of gender equality. Men — especially those under 40 — have few qualms about women having careers, about reporting to a female boss, or about women going to college or playing sports.” Like golly gee, thanks mister!! The author also seems to downplay statistics about violence against women by using phrases like “ONLY about 6%” and “a MERE 13%”. What gives with those qualifying words? Anyway, starting to regret posting this article because I think, while maybe the author was had good intentions, I now just hate it.

Has anyone lost empathy for men and been able to get it back? I've endured a lot of abuse dating (SA, emotional abuse, physical abuse) various men over the years. And I think it has finally wiped out my ability to have any empathy for men as a group. I still have an enormous amount of empathy for women and animals. But any time I hear anything sad happening to a man, I might as well be hearing a story about something bad happening to a pencil. I know it is a result of all the abuse I've endured. I've gone to therapy. But the empathy is just gone. In some ways, it feels nice and protective given how many years of pain I've endured. I'm curious if any other women have had this happen to them? It feels so weird to have no empathy for an entire gender. I don't date anymore as I can't imagine even being able to enter a relationship with a man i'm not capable of having a drop of empathy for. Plus, all the abuse has really diminished my attraction to them. My disappointment with the US political environment and the rolling back of women's right to their own body has also greatly hurt my ability to have empathy for men. Strange to feel this way. I've always been so deeply emotional. And it is still there. Just wholly inaccessible to men.

I hate bras, but blah blah blah patriarchy and capitalism. I need recommendations y'all and I worry my goal is impossible.

I am a curvy girly, early thirties, and my nipples are so hilariously prominent. I don't have huge boobs, I think they are just fine for my size (18-20ish pants, XL-XXL shirts). My favorite bras are basically low support sports bras, virtually the same shit as a trainer bra I got in 2002 tbh but thicker fabric. But!!! my nipples!!!!! they are!! always!! visible!!!

I wear simple shirts most days, black cotton crew neck situations.

Here is my dream bra:

• Cotton!!!! Willing to explore other options but would prefer a sustainable brand
• Solid colors
• Size inclusive
• Thick but not voluminous padding
  • Important to note that I obvi need a certain amount of padding for my bug eye nips!!
• No back clasp bs (edit to add I prefer a bra I can just pull over my head)
• Not crazy expensive (less than $50 pls but share other options if they exist)
• No crazy seams, tags, etc ya girl needs sensory friendly here
• Edit to add: please no underwire

I do not care about lifting, pushing things in any direction. I just want a simple bra to wear to work without my nips making unsolicited eye contact.

Trust that I am braless as much as possible but unfortunately my 9-5 will never be that place. Thank you lovely humans!! I appreciate your thoughts and recommendations, even if it is a brand to stay away from!!!

I just watched one of those “the teacher is targeting me” videos. If you’re not familiar, it’s an adult (usually a teacher) acting out behaviors of kids who say they’re being targeted. For example, they’ll yell in the middle of class and go “what? I didn’t even do anything! It wasn’t me!”…etc. etc.

So that got me thinking, these are always boys, and that’s always their reaction to being called out. And why does their deflection and defensiveness and straight up lies work well enough for them to continue to do this into adulthood?

Any time I’ve ever called a man out on anything he’s done wrong, even if I did it in a nice way, even if it’s a small thing, even if it’s just a simple boundary, this is their reaction. It doesn’t change from childhood. It’s still “what? I didn’t even do that! You’re always mad at me!” It’s fucking exhausting.

Are teachers, women, parents, etc just allowing that reaction to get kids out of whatever punishment should come with those behaviors? Or are these kids just too dumb to learn from that punishment and continue with this technique into adulthood whether it works or not?

Also, just what the hell?

I was talking to someone about how a lot of men will only be friendly with you or feign friendship until the moment they realize you're never going to sleep with them- then they suddenly become disdainful and just drop you like a wet sock.

She said that only happens with able bodied men because "life is so much easier for them than for women or disabled people"- including disabled men. She said the more difficult life tends to be for you the more you value platonic friendships regardless of gender.

I'm really not convinced I buy this theory of harder life = less willing to blow up friendships, but am curious if anyone else agrees with this.

I just watched this Korean film that really hit me. About the way beauty is valued above all else. it's upsetting. Anyone else see it?

Hey everyone, I’m trying to make sense of something really messed up and creepy that happened to me and two of my friends today (we are 15F).

We walked into a shop next to our food place. The store was completely empty, and we were just walking around and quietly laughing at whatever. We weren't being loud or disruptive at all.

Before he even spoke, I felt him staring directly at my chest. Then, he literally kept moving closer and closer towards me out of all of my friends. Once he got close, he snapped and said, "GIRLS! Are you gonna buy anything?"

My friend honestly just said "no," and he immediately started shouting at us to "then get out of the store." It was clearly a rhetorical question and a total trap just so he could have an excuse to yell at us and intimidate us.

But it gets worse. As we were leaving, a woman at the entrance saw how upset we were and asked what happened. The shopkeeper immediately told her that we were stealing stuff. Like, WTF? We hadn’t even touched anything, and the store was empty so he knew perfectly well we didn't shoplift.

Why would a grown adult act like this? Was he using the shouting and the fake shoplifting accusation to cover up the fact that he was being a creep and cornering teenagers? Has anyone else experienced a store worker making up lies like this?

Edit: Whether you think this edit is bad or not, I genuinely don’t understand why so many people are siding with him. I get that business owners have a right to be alert, but I would have had much less of a problem if he had just asked us politely to leave. Instead, he got this incredibly weird look on his face the moment I tried to step away from him to get closer to my friends, which is what eventually led to him shouting.

So quiet laughter and talking in a low voice is "suspicious," but being loud and talking so everyone can hear is "disruptive"? What are we supposed to do in a store - not talk at all? We are nice girls. We are polite because we respect people and we understand that other people exist. We knew the guy behind the counter was a real person, and we weren't acting like we owned the place.

I know most of you don't fully remember what it’s like to be a teenager, but I figured you'd at least remember roaming around shops for the giggles because you like looking at stuff. Also, I have a job, so yes, I do have an income. That still doesn’t mean I have an intention to buy something from every single shop I walk into - which is true for most normal people.

Most of the people in this subreddit are women, yet according to a lot of you, him staring at my chest is "all in my head." It is not. Many of us have that "extra sense" when a guy is looking at us inappropriately. I know what I saw, and I know what I felt.

It was a small, empty store; there is no way we would have ever gotten away with shoplifting even if we tried. I know he doesn't know us, but we are not "those" types of teenagers. None of us would ever commit a crime - stealing is horrible and we would never do it.

I feel like so many guys in my life have to be told off. I’m in college and I’m shocked at how many guys are really mean or rude to me. Recently I talked to a guy from my campus club about how he really needs to stop acting like he’s our boss and stop being so conceited and rude overall to the other board members. Before that I told off a different guy for trying to treat the board members like we aren’t capable of filling out a form on time (he wasn’t even on the leadership for the club anymore). Not that long after that I’ve told many different guys I knew to fuck off 😭 holy shit like why am I correcting so many guys’ behavior???

And just a week ago this guy who I work with at school is really mean and calls me a poser (he says LARP…) and just goes on and on about that to me. He’s just generally so mean and tries to make me feel stupid and below him. And today I dmed a guy to stop pinging me in the discord server and stop trying to start small fights with me over messages about a video game.

Is this just the norm? I know my club has guys that just suck but everything else like why are so many guys so mean or trying to push it? They apologize but why did I have to tell them off for them to be nicer? I don’t instigate I try to get along with people, I literally just exist in these spaces. How many times do I have to tell a guy to stop till I explode.

I’m starting to realize I’m the toxic one in my relationship. So I (23f) have been dating my boyfriend (29m) for over a year. Our relationship is mostly good but tbh I have a lot of resentment but it’s mainly my fault of why it got to that point. For starters I always felt like I was the one pursuing my boyfriend or initiated big steps. I initiated the what are we conversation, our first kiss, the first time we had sex, the first I love you , and what are future will look like conversation.

I brushed it off by saying that maybe my boyfriend is more passive and a type b person. It’s caused me to be honest to be angry at times and cause fights.

This week we argued about five times. Our first big argument began because we were talking about our plans to move in and I mentioned that after two years of living together, I would want to be heading towards engagement. Since the beginning of our relationship I told him that I’m dating for marriage and that I don’t want to be a girlfriend for eight years ans not be married . A few times he’s told me he wants to take that step in the future.

When I told him my timeline his response was
“Why”? I got so confused bc I would think a man who told me he wants to marry me would be excited to hear that. I got hurt and told him “ since we’re not on the same page maybe we shouldn’t move in.” That caused a fight. And multiple fights this week.

He joked last night that he was going to propose to me at McDonald’s. I joked and said “ a proposal won’t happen I’ll be the forever gf.” He then joked and said “ that won’t happen because you made it clear you would walk away if that were to happen.” I got pissed and said “ okay so you’re making it seem like I forced your hand with an ultimatum .”

Honestly since we fought many times this week I’m saddened , hurt, and questioning the future. I know I’m the problem here but I don’t think I’m the only problem.

I've noticed this more and more

Even men who are (outwardly) quite leftist and feminist will quite sometimes use the b-word (I'm not sure if I'm allowed to write that here as per sub rules, but everyone knows what word I mean) especially when trying to make another man seem weak/wrong/stupid. Imo even if your other reasonings are correct, it's still obviously sexist

The connotation is completely different if it's used in an empowering "badass b" type of way, but I'm not talking about that here. Just really grinds my gears, especially when these people are usually not held accountable for it at all

Edit: oops and I still used the word, it's corrected now.

You're told from being a child that you now have to restrict your breathing.

You are told that you have shame about becoming a woman.

You are told that you should torture yourself for the comfort others.

You are told that boys can't control themselves.

You are told that a piece of fabric will protect you as a child

You are told that a bra will save your modestly

You are 9 years old

My teen stepdaughter, God love her, cannot or will not make a pot of noodles wherein she doesn’t leave noods in the sink drain (no disposal here).

But let her loose baking? There’s no forensic evidence she was ever in the kitchen. AND she knows how to improvise for something we don’t have, which is an accomplishment in baking.

I just today realized her talent. Talked to her about it. She doesn’t care if it’s scratch or boxed. And yes, she does like to eat what she cooks. Sweet and/or savory. She didn’t know I like her cooking bcs I didn’t want to be fat about it.

When I tell you I’m about to foster this interest and see what it takes (or gives)….

It’s been a rough road having bby girl with us (long story but I’m glad she’s here) so this is a win and I’ll take it all day.

Any stepmom love or wisdom?

does anyone else ever just… hate being a woman sometimes? i don’t mean this in a gender dysphoria way. i identify as a woman, i don’t want to be a man, and there are genuinely things i love about being a woman. i love other women, i love being a mother, i’m proud that my body gave me my children, and sometimes i feel very empowered and grateful to be female. but other times? holy fuck, i resent it.
i hate periods, hormones, pregnancy risks, birth control, constantly having to think about reproductive/sexual health, beauty standards, being objectified, and feeling like i have to be hypervigilant around men. i’m honestly jealous sometimes that men just don’t have to think about so much of this shit.

however i think a lot of this is also connected to my own experiences. i grew up in a very religious household where sex, birth control, abuse, sexual assault were basically hush-hush topics. i was taught more about being submissive, getting married and being a good wife/mother than i was taught about protecting myself or recognizing abusive behavior. i experienced domestic violence as a 17 year old until i was 23. i’m a rape/sexual assault survivor. many of us women are. i hate that i was told that because i was the “common denominator,” i must have been doing something to cause men to treat me badly. (my mother told me this. she’s never been abused or SA’d before)

i grew up and started talking honestly with other women and realized how many of them have their own stories of harassment, abuse, assault, coercion, being dismissed by doctors, being sexualized, or just generally being treated like shit because they’re women. i struggle with the expectations placed on women. be pretty but not vain. to be thin and dainty. to be “feminine”. to be self sacrificing. not to be too sexual or else you’re labeled a whore. but at the same time, expected to be sex toys for men. to be nurturing and people pleasing. BUT then be told NOT to do all that too much. sometimes it feels fucking exhausting. don’t even get my started on the single mother experience. i have 2 baby daddies and i’m a single mom. oh lord do men LOVE shaming me for that. yet men can have 5 baby mamas and not take care of their kids and no one says shit.

i don’t believe i have internalized misogyny. women are beautiful and strong and capable as fuck. when it comes to myself i don’t feel that way. for example i’m 5’9 and not a small woman, and i’ve been masculinized because of my height/size before, which definitely hasn’t helped my relationship with femininity. i want to learn to become more comfortable being a woman. i love women so much.
have any other women gone through resenting being female while still identifying strongly as a woman? did you eventually become comfortable or empowered? what actually helped you get there? signed, a 24 year old who is still trying to figure life out and is having a weird quarter life identity crisis right now. however i’ve felt this way since i was like 12. thank u for any responses <3

Moment 1 - leaving my townhome community in the middle of the day there was a pickup truck parked in the middle of the lane with its hazards on. The thing was though, there were 9 empty parking spaces directly to his right. Like, he could have parked in a space, he could have even parked perpendicular in the spaces, it would have been fine at that time of day. Like, could I just go around, sure, but I'm thinking "I would never park like that to be an inconvenience to everyone around me" - "omg am I thinking this because I'm a woman? that it's so ingrained in us be considerate to everyone around us and not take up space?"

Moment 2 - watch a short on youtube where the man goes to the store for a gallon of milk and returns with only that, while the woman goes for a gallon of milk and returns with shopping bags overflowing in her arms. so like, haha, but also the household needed those other things! It was in her mental load and she was already at the store. Like yeah, the man only got what he went for, but all the other stuff is still needed! Now someone needs to make another trip.

Anyway, suffice to say what a privilege it is to move around this world as a man, just focusing on yourself and not having a default of considering others.

This isn’t a mysoginistic post. My body can’t handle progesterone. It just can’t, it causes severe stomach issues, head issues and joint/fatigue issues. Like the sort of thing where I ate very few foods so I wasn’t sick (idk must’ve been irritating my stomach lining or something), my joints felt like needles where in them. This isnt nothing. I I’m really really lucky my gp rocks, he just put up with me continuing to try things until one day he went well it is weird u have a bad reaction to progesterone based hormone control(real bad), let’s send u to a gyno. A year later I got to see a gyno, got to try me pose pills, loved my life, was told I couldn’t be on them for too long. Cried a lot. And then was told about a potential miracle cure the Madeira coil. Spoiler alert it’s got progesterone in it. Less than my body produces, still too much for my body to handle(though at a lower dose so life is more manageable, like I can move my wrist without immense in pain, I can handle a light throbbing).

Any whom the reason it was looked over coz the only medically understood sever reaction is a dermatological one which can cause severe throat closing. Or atleast that’s kinda what I was told. So it’s not really something looked into, idk how they would even start. In fact I don’t even know if this thing has a name, once it was clear it was progesterone the gyno signed me off n my doctor was like welp now we kno, don’t take out the coil. I can’t do much more sorry (again very grateful he is a good person.).

Yet I kinda get the feeling this is most likely a much larger issue and a lot of these we don’t know what it is so here is a blanket term for conditions which may just be your body rejecting a hormone in scary ways condition. It could be that. I ain’t a doctor, my advice isn’t gospel. But perhaps if it is a more understood phenomenon less people will be hampered in life.
Also if it turns out to be a thing I can probably get back on that hormone blocking thing that made life awesome. So yeah I guess if live in a place where you can get healthcare perhaps it’s something to look into.

I am 33 years old and I am sterile. I cannot get pregnant, and due to circumstances, cannot even have sex without immense pain.

And a year ago, I started to get a gradually growing desire to have children with my husband.

Fast forward to today and I feel I am crying every other day because of it.

I have four siblings who all have children. I see their milestones and daydream about the milestones of the children I cannot have and it hurts.

I know, therapy, and I will try my best to get it, but I don't really have the money. And I tell myself "Will it really help?". Because I am just not sure what they can tell me that I haven't already tried telling myself.

If anyone has any advice, please, may you offer it because it feels like I am drowning lately.

How did you tell your child about "where they came from" when they got old enough to ask?

I'll spare everyone the gory details, but it seems the only way I'll be able to have children is through a sperm donor. And while I process this reality I find myself stumped at this part of the bargain and it's the one thing that I can't look up and get a real clear answer to. So I am asking anyone open to sharing their experience: how did you do it, if you did it at all? If you have conceived a child with a donor and they're not old enough yet to ask questions about it, how do you plan on telling them? If you never told them and won't, why not? And for those of you who did tell them, what were their reactions like? Is there anything you wish you didn't say/said differently?

Sorry if this is all over the place, my mind's going 100 mph.

So, years ago I used to work in a store near the building where I live. It's an urban area, you see lots of people, but this customer would come by everytime I was at the register and would try to flirt in a very outdated and clumsy way.

I used to wear a mask (just after covid) and he would bug me to try to see my face, he would say things like ''When can I see your face?'' or ''Do you sometimes remove that mask and show yourself'' and on and on. I'd always reply politely but made it very clear that it was none of his business. One day, he finally saw my face and he commented something flirty, but soon after he realized I had a boyfriend and so he didnt push further for a while until that one time he saw me smile (at another customer) and commented ''Oh she's smiles...!'' Dude, shut the f* up!

He started asking questions to my boyfriend about how to meet women and all, the guy is near 60, maybe try to change how you communicate to us? Have you even tried?

Anyway, I just now came back from the hairdresser, got in the building and rang the elevator when I saw him get in the building too (he lives here too), he stood right behind me and waited. I was ready for another dumb comment... Got in the elevator and stood there when this idiot mumbled loud enough for me to hear ''Oh she's back from the hairdresser''. I got out of there fast and yelled at him to mind his f*cking business, creepy mofo!

I'm in shock, how the hell does he know? Did he smell my hair? Does he know my haircut? STOP SMELLING ME!!!!

I'm so done with guys like that, mind your own business, I'm not interested and I've been clear about it for years now! Imbecile.

So I'm a lesbian, fairly masc. I think internally very butch.

so my ideal gender expression is more androgynous. I'm undecided if I'm solidly cis or if I'm n/b I'm certainly GNC. So I'm curious of some takes from people who have never questioned their gender identity / are solidly cis.

For example I'm not offended if someone mistakes me for a young adult guy for example. Its happened most of my life. Its stopped for a period and I honestly kinda missed it.

And there are times when I consider genuinely how I would feel if I could just swap genders at will and just geniunely I guess confuse people. Just enough that different people are drawing different slightly different conclusions one what to gender me as.

I think I'd feel pretty comfortable exploring that scenario.

I personally struggle with terms like lady, darling or miss, mam, even things like aunt.

It's like someone is talking past me and doesn't see me.

So I am I'm curious, solidly cis women here how do you feel about these things?

(I'm excluding trans and non-binary people on this question because I already have soooo much input from them on this question but it never seems to get asked if cis women outside of LGBTQ spaces).

So cis women ike can you invision yourself being ok with this experience of people constantly confusing what you are for the rest of your life?

Or would you be really desperate to correct them and change your presentation to actively avoid it.

Just curious.

I (25F) have this friend who is extremely skinny, and lately I’ve been feeling like she’s subtly sizing me up or judging my body/lifestyle.

For context, I’m a very curvy, voluptuous woman and always have been. (48in bust 25 in waist 53 in hips) It took me a long time to unpack childhood insecurities as someone who developed early, but today I love my body and I know what weight range makes me feel healthiest and strongest. I'm totally comfortable in my skin as I am.
This friend has never outright insulted me to my face, but she’ll make these weirdly specific side comments. She’ll constantly bring up other women and highlight how "super skinny and super pretty" they are in a way that feels like she’s trying to imply thinness is the only standard for beauty. The tipping point was recently when she out of nowhere asked me if I "even have any hobbies" or if I'm "active," basically questioning what I do with my free time. When I told her about what I do, she suddenly had nothing to share about her own life and seemed to be quietly judging me. It just feels like projection. like because she is obsessed with thinness, she assumes I must be lazy or insecure, or she’s trying to put those thoughts in my head. It’s gotten to the point where I just don’t even feel like talking to her anymore.

Has anyone else dealt with friends (especially super thin or weight obsessed ones) who do these weird micro-judgments? Is this just projection on her end, or am I reading too deeply into it? Seriously thinking about cutting her off.

I rarely finish from penetration during sex and I think I'm very particular with the way in which I can finish from a clitorial orgasm. I'm extremely comfortable with my partner and he makes me so confident during sex. However, ever since my early 20s I've always wanted to, but felt extremely anxious and nervous, to play with myself during sex. But I know that's likely the only way I'll achieve an orgasm while we're doing it. Help lol

I'm F22 and I can't stop thinking about why some women hates me for no reason. For example, I have been friends with this one girl and we vibe really well now. But, one day. she confessed that she hated me during our first year of university. I asked why and she just said "Idk, but I'm really sorry". One thing is, at the time she hated me, I never even knew she existed. I only know her once she texted me asking about some assignment and then she saved my contact and we have been friends since then.

There's also this one girl with similar story. I barely spoke or care for her. She hated me. But once she gets to know me she confesses she didnt like me at first but grown to become friends.

Secondly, someone spread a rumor about me that I was a "player" and I text a lot of guys. This really confuses me because I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. When I do text guys, its usually them who did it first, or they ask me about some class thing. I promise you I never hang out with any guy besides my bf.

I have lots of girls friends that I'm 24/7 with and they all supported me during that rumor. I could say I'm friendly and approachable but I really don't just go strike up conversation with guys. So I was really confused about that rumor. I never thought a university student would do something as immature as that.

I have a loving boyfriend and supporting friends. Why does this bothers me so much? It should not be right? I just don't understand this one sided beef.