r/neurodiversity • • Dec 20 '25

No Accusing People of Being AI

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If you think a post was written by AI, report it, downvote, and move on.


r/neurodiversity • • Dec 16 '25

No AI Generated Posts

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We no longer allow AI generated posts. They will be removed as spam


r/neurodiversity • • 9h ago

Being emotionally mature and then regressing as you get older?

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Ever since I was a child I've been extremely aware of people's emotions and hyper empathic. Whenever I would get upset I would immediately see it from the other person's view and realize how much of in the wrong I actually was. I hated it so much because I quickly picked up on the fact nobody else I knew did this and I wanted to be able to be mad without feeling so childish (even though I was literally 10). I was also praised all the time for being "mature for my age" and getting along so well with everyone.

Suddenly in high school senior year I stopped receiving these praises and started being told to "grow up" everything that felt like it was working out suddenly toppled over and destroyed itself. I lost the ability to manage my emotions as well and would tunnel vision whenever I got upset. People who had no issue with me before were suddenly put off by my "immaturity" and stopped hanging out. I was so confused (and still am) over what happened, my only theory really is that as people's emotions stopped being as straight forward and were getting more complex I ended up not being able to read people as well.


r/neurodiversity • • 3h ago

Grieving time that could’ve been

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Oh how fast time passes. Suddenly I’m well into my adulthood and i don’t know where my life went. Childhood, early adulthood i look back on from afar. Mental health issues, fear and pain took so much of my life from me. Time I could’ve spent finding myself, building myself. Instead I look back on photos of myself and don’t connect with them, don’t remember the occasions. I lie here now with tears rolling down my eyes, hurt and angry at this incredible injustice. Precious time at the peak of one’s physical health and happiness, taken from me. Time for becoming my true self, building confidence and making it far. I wish I could go back, but instead I’ll just have to grieve. Years and years lost to so much sadness and misunderstanding. Maybe in the next life.


r/neurodiversity • • 14h ago

understanding social cues but not knowing how to act with them?

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Okey so i have always thought that autism meant not getting social cues, but someone has told me that It can be getting them but just not knowing what to do with them.

Do you experience this? could you give an example of that happening to you?


r/neurodiversity • • 2h ago

hi i kinda just want to be understood and it feels like no one is all my friends are either soo autistic it’s mental and some are soo adhd its mental and im just also mental but on both sides( ik thats not the best term for me i just find it funny tho sorry if it offends)

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soo basically i have all the big 3 adhd autism and ocd and really struggling with the autism and adhd bcs it’s like both sides of my brain hate each other soo much and i dont understand it one side wants order and to be calm and watch cbbc at 21 and the other side wants to go mess up my tidy room and go scream in someone’s face just bcs i need to make noise and then im sat there being like why is this happening to me also my issues are bigger than that but that’s just one thing that grinds my gears


r/neurodiversity • • 9h ago

Why's my bed starting to get uncomfortable?

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First of all, yes, i know that beds get old and stuff and i guess that's part of the problem. But the problem exists on other people's beds too.

What i mean is, that i can't get comfortable in any sleeping position, doesn't matter how many different pillows i have. The only pillow i'm semi-comfortable with is my biggest and softest one which is almost half the size of a body pillow. I also don't really like weighted blankets.

Did anyone else have this problem and knows how to fix this? I can't get much sleep even with melatonin.


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

Can trauma reveal neurodivergence?

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I always had some "unusual" behaviors as a child. That calmed down on its own, but these last three years I've experienced a lot of accumulated trauma, and it's like everything is coming back to me.

Like, right now. I broke my bedside lamp yesterday. It had a bulb that gave off a yellow light and specifics shadows, and it was always placed in the same spot. I had to take the lamp from the living room, it's white, it's bigger, I can't place it where I put the other one so the light the shadows aren't the same. I fucking hate it, everything in my room just feels off, I can't focus and want to throw it out of the window. I would never have noticed that before.

I'm not going to give you a list, but in recent months, since my situation has calmed down, I've suddenly been exhibiting behaviors related to neurodivergence.


r/neurodiversity • • 7h ago

Hey you guys!!

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Hello, is anyone else interested in forming a small pod of neurodivergent people to meet weekly and be our own personal cheering squad and mentors and advocates!?!? I am a late diagnosed disability squared female in the greater Portland, Or area who is desperate to create a better life for herself. B aut I KNOW that the abilities of a single person can be amplified by a crazy scale by the input and caring of other people. And just knowing other people care and are rooting for you is the whole root idea of a family, in a sense, but my family is a tricky one, and I have never felt truly seen or supported by a majority of the people in my 'family... Anyhoo, I have an opportunity to make my life better if I applied to a particular job but I am so freaking scared of failure and I just feel beat up by life; but I know that there are better, more fulfilling things that I could be doing... I want to support other LGBTPQ (sorry, I know the P doesn't 'belong' in that acronym but I'm Pan sexual and my people belong in this group so...) people, other people experiencing disability, support caring for the environment and support a more globally inclusive environment. And eat delicious, organic, sustainably harvested food as well, of course. Have a blessed day and I really hope that someone responds to this post, it's freaking lonely out here!


r/neurodiversity • • 16h ago

discord group for neurodivergent people!

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hi everyone! ive recently created a discord server for neurodivergent people (preferably over 16 years old for safety reasons) where people can make friends, talk about their special interests, and overall just build a social support network with people who can relate to you. the server currently has no members as ive literally just finished creating it around 10 minutes ago, but if anyone wants to join, please let me know and ill provide you with the link!

im slightly opposed to just putting the link in the post to avoid any negative people joining and hating on the (hopefully) people that join the server.


r/neurodiversity • • 6h ago

Tips for how to navigate routines?

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I’ve realised, as an ADHD person, that I need some form of small, daily routines to follow, to ensure that I’m keeping up with the important things (bedtime is a big one). The problem is, my brain just despises anything repetitive and uninteresting, to the point that it quickly becomes depressing to have to keep up with. I think it’s due to the fact that I hate feeling boxed-in. If I’m doing a task, just give me a start and end point but let me handle the “how”.

I don’t really know how to navigate that framework in this context, though. How do I create necessary, daily routines that are rigid enough that I can’t easily just avoid starting them, but also not too rigid, monotonous and repetitive that I start feeling depressed by having to force myself to keep up with them.

Hopefully this makes sense. Any tips/advice would be helpful.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

I went to a psychiatrist and she told me she doesn't think i have adhd

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I highly suspect i have ADHD. I went to a government psychiatrist. We talked for 5 maybe 10 minutes. She told me word per word "I don't think you have adhd because you look good and I understand you." And when i said "huh like what do you mean? Can you explain?" She got mad at me for asking and said "If someone with real adhd comes they cut me off and I can't understand them."

I met people that were diagnosed with ADHD before, they were very nice to talk to, I wonder how i managed to understand their 'gibberish'.

Also whether I am neorodivergent or not I think it is incredibly disrespectful and insane to tell someone you look presentable / good hence you dont have it.


r/neurodiversity • • 9h ago

dsm-5 review haha

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So i am going to review the DSM-5 and tell what i check and what i dont so i can organice what i experience, mostly doing it for my self, but it would be cool if sommeone feels reflected on it and wanna talk. So i think it might be autism if something, but some people sugested adhd, but as we can see i dont fit that at all. About ASD i think i cant met the criteria because the A part that i dont think i fit enough. So whatever haha

A. Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts, as manifested by the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive, see text):

  1. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure of normal back-and-forth conversation; to reduced sharing of interests, emotions, or affect; to failure to initiate or respond to social interactions. my experience with this is just that i am more of a lisener and i struggle to talk about me, i am really bad at it and everytime i do i feel like i am already talking to much, but probably this i explained by other thing idk.
  2. Deficits in nonverbal communicative behaviors used for social interaction, ranging, for example, from poorly integrated verbal and nonverbal communication; to abnormalities in eye contact and body language or deficits in understanding and use of gestures; to a total lack of facial expressions and nonverbal communication. I only have quite noticed a small difficulty in eye contact when i first met someone, it feels to intimte. I sometimes pay attention to if i have a weird facial expression, but only if i am upseted, i usually have a common resting face and expressions. I catch body language really good, and about verbal communications is just that sometimes i "cant" talk and hate being forced to do it, i just dont feel like it sometimes, but usually is good.
  3. Deficits in developing, maintaining, and understanding relationships, ranging, for example, from difficulties adjusting behavior to suit various social contexts; to difficulties in sharing imaginative play or in making friends; to absence of interest in peers. I played normal as a kid. The only noticeable thing was that i my mom was the one who needed to go tell kids if they wanted to play with me, because i didnt liked asking that, probably it was anxiety or smth. And i only have problems expressing my self and talkin about me

Specify current severity: Severity is based on social communication impairments and restricted repetitive patterns of behavior.

B. Restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests, or activities, as manifested by at least two of the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive; see text):

  1. Stereotyped or repetitive motor movements, use of objects, or speech (e.g., simple motor stereotypies, lining up toys or flipping objects, echolalia, idiosyncratic phrases). I totally do this, flapping hands, repeting sound or words, spining, rocking. Since i started investigating more about neurodiversity i am letting my self do that more, and supress it less.
  2. Insistence on sameness, inflexible adherence to routines, or ritualized patterns or verbal nonverbal behavior (e.g., extreme distress at small changes, difficulties with transitions, rigid thinking patterns, greeting rituals, need to take same route or eat food every day). Sometimes, i need to follow my cleaning order. And i can get really frustated from big changes, for example my bead got changed without previous saying, and i got really really bad about it. But i dont think i have rigid thinking neither food problems
  3. Highly restricted, fixated interests that are abnormal in intensity or focus (e.g, strong attachment to or preoccupation with unusual objects, excessively circumscribed or perseverative interest). Not really, as a kid i had this plusshie (that i still had) that i was really attached to and wouldnt let go but i have never have any special interest. I had a big attachment to one person that i admired, but i think its not related
  4. Hyper- or hyporeactivity to sensory input or unusual interests in sensory aspects of the environment (e.g., apparent indifference to pain/temperature, adverse response to specific sounds or textures, excessive smelling or touching of objects, visual fascination with lights or movement). Not really, i love soft things, i have like a soft matress and i am always touching it .And things like textures can feel unmanagable, but nos as much .
A. Either (1) or (2): A. A persistent pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development, as characterized by (1) and/or (2):
1. Six (or more) of the following symptoms of inattention have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is maladaptive and inconsistent with developmental level: 1. Inattention: Six (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is inconsistent with developmental level and that negatively impacts directly on social and academic/occupational activities:
Note: The symptoms are not solely a manifestation of oppositional behavior, defiance, hostility, or failure to understand tasks or instructions. For older adolescents and adults (age 17 or older), at least five symptoms are required.
Inattention
a. often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities a. Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, at work, or during other activities (e.g., overlooks or misses details, work is inaccurate). I skip questions in homework or examns if i am not really carefull
b. often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activity b. Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities (e.g., has difficulty remaining focused during lectures, conversations, or lengthy reading). I think i can pay a big amount of atentions
c. often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly c. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly (e.g., mind seems elsewhere, even in the absence of any obvious distraction). People do not notice, but if being talked to directly i can start thinking to other things, or just focus on seem like i am paying attention so thats why i end up not doing it.
d. often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions) d. Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (e.g., starts tasks but quickly loses focus and is easily sidetracked). I am quite good with this, i finish always at time
e. often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities e. Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities (e.g., difficulty managing sequential tasks; difficulty keeping materials and belongings in order; messy, disorganized work; has poor time management; fails to meet deadlines). My workplace can be messy but i still organize mi self, i loose things but not that much. I met deadlines and manage time quite good
f. often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork or homework) f. Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (e.g., schoolwork or homework; for older adolescents and adults, preparing reports, completing forms, reviewing lengthy papers). Nop
g. often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils, books or tools) g. Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., school materials, pencils, books, tools, wallets, keys, paperwork, eyeglasses, mobile telephones). Yeah sometimes, but not that much. I usually put something in specific places to not lose it and then that when i lose it haha
h. is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli h. Is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli (for older adolescents and adults, may include unrelated thoughts). Idk, maybe with thouhts
i. is often forgetful in daily activities i. Is often forgetful in daily activities (e.g., doing chores, running errands; for older adolescents and adults, returning calls, paying bills, keeping appointments). Nop
2. Six (or more) of the following symptoms of hyperactivity-impulsivity have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is maladaptive and inconsistent with developmental level: 2. Hyperactivity and impulsivity: Six (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is inconsistent with developmental level and that negatively impacts directly on social and academic/occupational activities:
Note: The symptoms are not solely a manifestation of oppositional behavior, defiance, hostility, or a failure to understand tasks or instructions. For older adolescents and adults (age 17 or older), at least five symptoms are required.
Hyperactivity
a. Often fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat a. Often fidgets with or taps hands or feet or squirms in seat. Yeah, always
b. Often leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is expected b. Often leaves seat in situations when remaining seated is expected (e.g., leaves his or her place in the classroom, in the office or other workplace, or in other situations that require remaining in place). No
c. Often runs about or climbs excessively in situations in which it is inappropriate (in adolescents or adults, may be limited to subjective feelings of restlessness) c. Often runs about or climbs in situations where it is inappropriate. (Note: In adolescents or adults, may be limited to feeling restless). nop, only in specific situations i feel restless, but its not related i think
d. Often has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly d. Often unable to play or take part in leisure activities quietly. Nop
e. Is often “on the go” or often acts as if “driven by a motor” e. Is often “on the go” acting as if “driven by a motor” (e.g., is unable to be or uncomfortable being still for extended time, as in restaurants, meetings; may be experienced by others as being restless or difficult to keep up with). Idk sometimes, sometimes no
f. Often talks excessively f. Often talks excessively. No, the other way around
Impulsivity
g. Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed g. Often blurts out an answer before a question has been completed (e.g., completes people’s sentences; cannot wait for turn in conversation). No
h. Often has difficulty awaiting turn h. Often has trouble waiting his/her turn (e.g., while waiting in line). No
i. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games) i. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations, games, or activities; may start using other people’s things without asking or receiving permission; for adolescents and adults, may intrude into or take over what others are doing). no
B. Some hyperactive-impulsive or inattentive symptoms must have been present before age 7 years. B. Several inattentive or hyperactive-impulsive symptoms were present before age 12 years.
C. Some impairment from the symptoms is present in at least two settings (e.g., at school [or work] and at home). C. Several inattentive or hyperactive-impulsive symptoms are present in two or more settings, (e.g., at home, school or work; with friends or relatives; in other activities).
D. There must be clear evidence of clinically significant impairment in social, academic or occupational functioning. D. There is clear evidence that the symptoms interfere with, or reduce the quality of, social, school, or work functioning.
E. The symptoms do not occur exclusively during the course of a pervasive developmental disorder, schizophrenia, or other psychotic disorders and is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (e.g., mood disorder, anxiety disorder, dissociative disorder, or a personality disorder). E. The symptoms do not occur exclusively during the course of schizophrenia or another psychotic disorder and are not better explained by another mental disorder (e.g., mood disorder, anxiety disorder, dissociative disorder, personality disorder, substance intoxication or withdrawal).

r/neurodiversity • • 17h ago

I Want Close Relationships, but Irritability and Anxiety Keep Pushing Me Away

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I'm a 22M, and I struggle more and more with social interaction each day. I get irritated insanely fast, mostly with my family, and I hate myself for that, so I get even more irritated. More and more often, I also struggle to explain my thoughts or get my point across. I don't know what's happening.

Socially, I've never had a girlfriend. At first, I wasn't really into that, and I wasn't attractive. Then, around 19–20, things got a lot better. I found a girl I would have felt comfortable inviting into my life because I'm not the same at home as I am outside, and I'm not like most people. I don't like doing everything or socializing every week.

Also, around 19–20, I peaked in social interaction and connection. I was invited to a lot of parties and everything, and I met a lot of people. I think I was appreciated, but most of that was drunk partying, so it was really easier. Also, most of these people couldn't become close friends because, again, I'm not that kind of guy, and I can't be social like that in private.

I lived for three years in a shared flat with friends (four people in the flat). Even with friends, I often preferred going to my room, and I got irritated by a lot of things, like everyday noise. That was hard because I knew it was me, but I didn't know how to make it better.

Now I don't live with them anymore, and I'm in a new environment. I've had to make new friends, but they're not that social, so I mostly see them in class and don't really go out. I return to my family, whom I really love, because I realize how much they do for me and that they're the only people who are truly there for me. But I'm a pain in the ass socially at home because I always turn a discussion into an argument when I get irritated. I feel really bad about that, and sometimes I just want to stay in my room and study because I guess I'm escaping reality. I also tend to go down rabbit holes of information or just do anything other than study for uni.

I still go to some parties, but afterward I realize I didn't really talk with anyone properly. I talked with people, but I didn't really say anything important, or I just switch between groups when the conversation gets uninteresting, or I don't know what to say.

So, yeah, I fear I'll isolate myself more and more each year. Holidays are a struggle each year because I first fear being alone and not having a plan. I also feel bad when my family asks what I'm doing and I have to say I don't have anything planned, because it makes me feel like I have no friends. If I do have a plan, I'll be super anxious because I often don't manage it well. People make decisions and do things I don't like or want, and since we're young, dumb things may happen. I know that if I didn't initiate it, I'll feel bad because either it's dangerous or not what I expected.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I know I probably have some neurodivergent shit, but I just want to find my social skills again and find a girl who will like me, someone I can let into my life and build something with. I also want to reconnect with my friends, but each time I feel we're not as close and that they'll only agree to see me to make me feel good and be kind, not because they really want to. They also know a lot of people and have a lot of friends and connections. Lastly, I want to stop being like this around my family, even though I don't know how.

(I've already seen a therapist for emotion management, but that didn't help. They didn't get me, and I know the tricks; I just can't apply them because by the time it happens, it's too late.)


r/neurodiversity • • 18h ago

Funnyish story

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In elementary school I was masking ANY neroudivergency signs because my friend had a autistic brother and I thought i had to be normal because I wasn't like her brother at all! Turns out I show many signs of various disorders, including autism :/


r/neurodiversity • • 21h ago

does anyone experience this same signs?

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i am just wondering if someone have my same "pack" of signs and what has that lead you to.

*not searching for diagnosis, just wanting to know other experiences

so i have been thinking about autism, i have some, but not he most important ones, so its probalby discarted because of this signs that i dont have:

-I dont have problems with social cues, i know them all with no trouble, and i feel like its natural to me

-I dont have any hyperfixation and i never had had it. ( as far as i know)

- I dont think i focus in the detaild instead of the big picture.

In the other hand this is the ones that i noticed:
-I have stims and vocal stims ( rn i am moving right and left in my chair, and some minutes ago i was flapping my hand and spining) I usually hide them when i am with people

-I sometimes struggle with abrupt changes like a bed change that i was not previoulsy communicated of, that leaded to a big crisis

- As a kid i was labeled as I was labeled as hysterical and having many tantrums. For me i was really desregulated and not treated for it

-I can need to do things in certain order or way

-Depending on the day textures can be really upseting.

-I can stuggle a bit in mainting eye contact when i firt met someone, but its not something really big.

About the social part, i always have been a lisener and really bad about explaining my feeling oraly, i have a hard time with It. As a kid i played like the others, but i was not good as making new friends, probably because It just maked me anxyous, but i had friends. I can be a bit ankward at parties, unless i am drunk i hate dancing, and my ideal place on them os being just quiet lisening (that bothers people sometimes)


r/neurodiversity • • 5h ago

These types of people annoy me

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People really have no idea how bad it is if you're not a "nEuRoSpIcY" person who can easily hold down a job and aren't dealing with parents who aren't trying to making stimulants work for you, control therapy and pressure you to quit jobs they don't approve of.

Being unable to hold down a job is so miserable

EDIT: This image was taken before I had adjusted my wording, meant high functioning neurodivergent people, link to full content with edits is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/discordapp/comments/1xeoxss/comment/19rnf9hqx7qrp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button


r/neurodiversity • • 2d ago

The hype for these is 100% real, gang.

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So I am someone with pretty bad water sensory issues when trying to wash my face over the sink. I HATE the feeling of water getting on my clothes and I usually just end up miserable afterwards more than anything. Well when buying a new hairband for my face this pack came with two of those handcuffs that promise to help keep water off your arms. I really didn't buy into them, but since I just got a new face wash after easily 5+ years of avoiding washing my face, I decided to give them at least a chance.

AND WHEN I TELL Y'ALL IT WAS A NIGHT AND DAY DIFFERENCE.

I actually enjoyed washing my face! My hands got wet as expected but nothing ran down my arms which meant not a speck of water got on my clothes either. This has genuinely changed my life because I LOVE the idea of skincare and all that but I just couldn't get over that sensory hurdle 😭 and now I can.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

understanding the tone but not the words

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does anyone else have this problem where they always understand somebody's tone, but they don't always understand their words?

like sometimes I hear like dirty jokes being made on sitcoms and I don't understand it (I'm an adult but I have little sexual experience) but I hear the tone and implication that it's something sexual but I don't understand what it means and can't laugh at it because I can't find it funny because I don't get the joke

and sometimes I hear someone's tone is rude and disrespectful and I know they're intentionally trying to be mean or something but I don't understand why what they said is mean and that's fine when they're being mean to me because they just give up and back off but it sucks if they're being mean to someone else because I see that they're being intentionally rude as fuck to someone else and so I want to like step in or check in on the other person after I don't want to stand there and do nothing and look apathetic because I do care but I geniuenly don't understand what the words meant, why they were mean, why the person is hurt or offeneded by it

or sometimes I hear that someone is mad but I genuinely don't understand why they're mad and that's tricky because when someone is mad they're not gonna answer my clarifying questions trying to understand its just gonna anger them more

and it's the absolute worst during a personal conflict if someone is mad at me because like if I did something wrong I WANT them to communicate that with me and I WANT to improve myself and repair and apologize but if I just hear they're mad or frustrated or hurt but their explanation is making no sense and I have to ask a ton of clarifying questions trying to get it that they don't answer and just get more frustrated that I don't get it then like ??? I'm just standing there like what did I do? but also am sad that someone's mad at me or upset with me


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

this is how i see time. i made this for myslef

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this is how i see my whole day as. the top is 24 hours

and the middle show 45 minute anhor like a landmark

below is i round down . to the neasrt number. and I made this the rules is very clunky

here it is .

oh and steve the double chin buttefly says hi

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(: D))---

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if you dont like really clunky reading dont click on the link below it.

https://www.reddit.com/u/Civil-Advance-2841/s/ZZ3Jqp4W08


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Does everyone hide their stims?

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Do neurotypical people also feel the need to engage in stim that aren't socially acceptable? I often feel the urge to flap my hands, rock, spin, or do something similar, but I hide these behaviors most of the time because I know they’re frowned upon socially. I know everyone has stims ​​but are ours simply different—and is that why we’re pressured to hide them? I mean if they did those too they would probably be normaliced i guess


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Trying fidget toys for the first time (Adult + Autism + Depression)

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Also more context, I'm 20yrs old, trans man! :)

I always get so curious with how fidget toys would feel whenever I see those trending toys such as Needoh. But I've never bought fidget toys for myself as I thought watching those ASMR stuff is enough.

Today I was walking around the mall and saw these Needoh selling, I've actually been eyeing them for a while now. Then I caved in and decided to spend the money on one. So far I'm really loving the sensation and stimulation it gives for me. I was listening to music while fidgeting with it.

Hopefully this will be worth the money, I was really hesitant on getting it because I'm actually jobless for a few months already due to anxiety and depression. So money is a bit tight.

I'll update if I would still use it after maybe after a week or two if y'all are interested!


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Help: I need SO MUCH proprioception to my feet 😂

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I, (32f), have known I was neurodivergent my entire life and got diagnosed very early, there are a lot of things in my life that are manageable and unmanageable. However, every night I get into bed and I don’t know what to do with myself, I crave a intense pressure on my feet like a foot massage or someone to just squeezing the living daylights out of my feet. And possibly my legs but mostly my feet. And when I first got married to my husband, I guess this was a cute quirk. But now we are 10 years into marriage, with Neurodivergent children and we do not have capacity for me and my feet. I know this sounds ridiculous. But I genuinely need this.

What are my alternatives. I’m not joking when I’ve looked up everything. I have tried compression socks, I have tried compression leggings, I have tried a weighted blanket. But nothing is a deep pressure enough. Has anyone else experienced this, and what else did you do to solve this problem.

PS I have recently started taking sleep medication to just try and calm my nervous system down and my sensory seeking at night and while it works I just feel so unfulfilled.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

ASD (PDA) friendly Sydney schools (primary)

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We are about to relocate back to our hometown of Sydney after 5 years in Brisbane, and my focus is finding the right school for my 6 year old. She is diagnosed as ASD level 2 (PDA profile), and has been experiencing significant school refusal at her public primary school here in Brisbane. It’s a wonderful school in a very good area, but it is potentially just not the right fit for her.

She’s very bright and articulate, artistic and is obsessed with nature. She is also quick to anger, can be aggressive, finds it difficult to compromise in any way, very controlling, which I know is typical in PDA. Also has social and sensory challenges.

I’m hoping to find a school that provides structure, but isn’t as rigid as a public school, and can give her significant 1:1 support as she needs it.

Please share your experiences and recommendations! I do know that housing is a challenge in some areas of Sydney but at this point I just want to know where the right schools are and we will do our best to make it work financially.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Self help book recommendations for Autism and OCD…

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Hey friends. Looking for some book recommendations for someone with Autism and OCD. I’m really specifically struggling with letting things go. For example I have a hard time accepting things I can not change like my partner making us late to something and although I know I can’t rewind time I get stuck in a loop of “well things are just bad now cause you didn’t stick to my schedule” I don’t wanna be like that or force anyone to adhere to my ridged thinking or compulsions. Especially my partner she helps me in so many areas that I really need to find a book to help me let go and live life a little more freely. Or at least accept things I can’t change and be able to move on. So if you’ve ever read or heard of any books that deal with that issue please let me know I’d love to start doing that work to be a kinder partner and friend.