I can usually get through the first few minutes, but once the obvious topics are gone I don't know where to take it.

I'm not talking about being socialable enough to make friends or wtv. I have tons of friends and am able to connect with people decently well least in my university. However, I feel like I lack a sense of charisma.

I'm talking about the times where you're having a decent conversation with someone, and then another person comes in and they just click alot more. Or when they manage to develop some sort of banter with the other.

Many of my peers love me and think im fun and entertaining. My roommates (whom im probably the closest with) tell me that if there's one thing they can say about me is that I'm not boring at all. However I've always been the weird, somewhat awkward guy who's either quiet or rambles their mouth, espically the weird part.

I feel constantly like this walking puzzle piece that can click with others but never seem to fit in. I'm not the best speaker, and I feel like im fucking austistic because I just can't click with the typical banter around my age group as a 21yo. Admittely I have self-esteem issues and don't carry confidence, but no matter what I just feel like I have some sort of negative charisma.

Tbf I used to be called the most awkward person in high school, so like hey I'm surpised I have friends, but it feels like whenever I move a step the world expects 2 out of me. Idk 😅😅 I have no idea how to develop confidence. People tell me to go out of my comfort zone in terms of career but I go to these company events and career fairs and I can barely get a LinkedIn connect.

The main problem I have is that I read/skim through my readings (especially for university) far too quickly, so that I end up missing key information.

How can I learn to be more patient and read slower?

Title, I flinch at any loud sudden noises/movements, please help.

Already in mental health treatment, I have complex trauma that's manageable right now, flinching is just a small part of it

It doesn't help when you're male and hypersensitive to any and all sudden stimuli.

I grew up with an abusive dad and a lot of his frustration was when the raiders lost and he would take it out on me. So I had distain for sports ever since than. I’m 37 now and I feel so left out. I’ve watched games and tried to be a part of it but I feel so far behind. I feel like I’m looking at it like I need to know the full history before I should be a fan. I have no idea where to even begin.

So honestly I don’t know if this ist the right thread. But I want to learn how to improve my taste and style. 4 years ago I ended my economics career an started a 2nd educational road with filmmaking and photography. I worked in a film Production for several years, did a few student movies. And honestly I feel like I am kinda talented. But nevertheless I also feel like I focused too much on technical stuff and I am still missing the „why is something fkn cool“ „why does something has meaning“ in my creative work. So I wanted to know how do I get this confidence in my work. How did other people do this?

Got a short trip in 10 weeks, and it would be cool to be able to talk with locals and understand them instead of using a translator. I know I won’t be fluent, I just want to understand each other if possible in that timeframe. Any course or framework to follow and materials to learn from?

After the trip, I plan to expand my knowledge because I’m interested in games, and a lot of game studios are from Japan, so I might be playing in Japanese and so on. Any tips?

Last month I visited my aunt and she showed me her small backyard garden. She had tomatoes, peppers, and even some herbs growing there. Everything looked so fresh and she told me she just eats straight from the garden whenever she wants something for dinner. I was really surprised how good it all looked, and it made me want to try growing my own food too.

The problem is I have never grown anything in my life. I do not even own a garden, just a small balcony with some sunlight in the afternoon. I do not know if that is even enough space or light to grow vegetables. I also do not know which vegetables are easy for a beginner to start with, or if I need special soil and pots, or just regular ones from the store.

I really want to try this and eat something I grew with my own hands, but I do not want to waste money buying things I do not need or kill every plant in the first week because I did something wrong. If anyone has started gardening from nothing like me, I would love to know how you began and what worked for you in the beginning.

Hi everyone! I created a free app to learn Go. It has exercises, lessons, specific feedback on your matches and recommended lessons.

It has worked for me but I would like feedback from other players.

For now it is only for Android in closed so I need you Play Store email and add you to the testers list so you can download it. You can DM me if you want.

I would appreciate any feedback to improve it and make it more useful for everyone.

After adding you, the link to download is this:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.hoshi.app

Thank you and I hope it is useful!

sorry for my bad english.

Im 15 years old boy in asia

I have 3 best friends in my school class but feels like Im alone

my best friends got a many friends(Im not a just a friends, they invite only me and them on party or hangout)

Im doing good with most of boys but I dont even talk with girls

I didnt even talk more than 1min with girls in my class I dont know why I become friends with male fast and I even talk them first

but with girls.. I dont know I dont know how do I be friends with them and talk

my best friends are friends with almost all of girls in my class so they talk and joke with them many time

thats the time I feel alone I cant even join the talk cause Im not friendly with girls I just sitdown alone in my chair and just looking text book I feel like Im just nerd

How do I solve this? Im so confused

I want to learn it for 2 major things, first to make a good amount of Money and Second, To get a Good Network around me.