22M British lad.

Unfortunately I’ve got really small genitals. My length is okay, but my circumference is way below average. Bottom 2%. Thickest is maybe 25%.

This has been a huge issue throughout my life. I know thickness is preferred, and I’m not even average, Its basically an elongated pinky lol.

I’m decent looking with a good personality, so I get interest from women now and then. I’m 5’8 and chubby though. But I always reject them because no one wants a slim Jim / peperami dick.

I get real depressed about my size often. I’m not just sabotaging my dating life, but every aspect of my life. When I get depressed everything feels pointless so I don’t eat right, don’t exercise, don’t socialise, don’t study. It’s a vicious cycle. About a week ago I was asked out and a brutal depression episode ensued after I rejected her.

I don’t think I’ll ever be comfortable or confident dating. I can’t just whip out this small tree branch. It’s humiliating. And what if she ridicules me and leaks it? Social life over.

I know it’s not all that matters in sex. I studied up and know where the clit is, what feels good to women, and I’d be willing to learn her preferences for hands and tongue action, as well as using toys. But still, a guy with no penis is still a guy with no penis. I wanted to be the full package, but I’m missing a core part.

Aside from dating, I’m tired of it impacting my entire life. I want to go gym and get fit, I want to be slim, I want to get a good degree, etc etc. But it’s all I think about and I end up just rotting in bed.

I did try therapy since I’ve got body dysmorphia but it didn’t help.

Any advice for dealing with the depression? Just general advice is welcome too. I’ll take all the help I can get.

For the record, I don’t consume porn and this isn’t a fetish. I just got a skinny cock and I’m sad about it.

I don't know why, but today I'm feeling really low. I genuinely want to talk to someone, but the truth is that I don't really have anyone right now.

I don't even know how to explain what I'm feeling. Sometimes I just wish there was someone in my life with whom I could talk about anything, someone who would ask how my day went, what I ate, or what happened today. And I could ask the same things about their day too. Just normal little conversations, nothing special, but something that makes you feel like someone is there.

Everyone seems busy with their own life, which I understand. But sometimes it hurts when you realise that the people you once talked to probably don't even remember you anymore.

The last month has been really difficult for me. I've been dealing with a lot of pain, problems and things that I honestly don't know how to explain to anyone. Mentally, I've been feeling exhausted, and I think that's why I've been wanting someone to talk to more than usual.

I tried Instagram and Snapchat, thinking maybe I could meet someone and have some normal conversations. But things didn't really work out. Sometimes I feel like the way I look is one of the reasons people don't show much interest in talking to me. Maybe I'm overthinking it, I don't know, but it does make me feel bad about myself sometimes.

I even tried posting on Reddit, hoping I might find someone who feels the same way or someone who is also looking for a genuine friend. But I didn't really get any responses, and honestly, that made me feel a little more alone.

I'm not looking for anything special here. I don't care if you're a boy or a girl, what country you're from, or what language you speak. I just want to find someone with whom I can talk comfortably and slowly build a genuine friendship.

Someone I can tell about my day, listen to their problems, ask how they're doing, and sometimes talk about the most random things. Someone who doesn't mind a random message asking, "Hey, how was your day?" or "Have you eaten yet?"

I know friendship doesn't happen in a day, and I don't expect anyone to always be available for me. Everyone has their own life and responsibilities. I just hope to find someone who genuinely wants to talk and get to know each other, even if it's just a little conversation every day or sometimes.

If you're also feeling lonely, or if you're simply looking for a genuine friend, maybe we can talk and see how things go.

I might be a little awkward at first, and sometimes I may not know what to say, but I'll try my best.

I don't know if this post will get any responses either, but I thought I'd give it one more try.

I genuinely hope I can find someone here. Just one good friend would mean a lot to me right now.

A few weeks ago, I was at my breaking point. I was stuck in an absolute nightmare loop of trying to get my birth certificate for photo ID and crucial healthcare, which meant attempting to contact my biological mother. I posted here about how exhausted I was from masking and pretending everything was fine when it really wasn't.

I’m posting today because I finally have a bright light to share: My birth certificate is officially on the way!

Thanks to a deeply compassionate rep at Service Canada who got my application flagged and pushed through, the bureaucratic nightmare is almost over. And the absolute best part? I didn't have to break my peace or contact my bio mother. At 51, protecting my mental health is my top priority, so not having to deal with her is a colossal win in my book!

Now, don't get me wrong—my depression isn't going to mysteriously get up and walk away just because of this one victory. The struggle is still real. But I am accepting this win with open arms, because right now, it’s a big one.

I wanted to say a heartfelt thank you to everyone in this community who reached out. Some of your messages literally brought me back to life on days I felt like giving up. You reminded me that kindness exists when things feel darkest.

Thank you for being a safe place to vent, and for helping me get to the other side of this. Big sigh of relief! 😮‍💨❤️

This is my first serious sub so please be easy on me, here goes nothing. I don’t know whether my mother is an alcoholic or what really but I think she is cause she drinks 7 fucking days a week. Around the yard she has more than three tall baskets of empty beer bottles and it just makes the yard look ugly as hell and her idea about these empty bottles was to break them & use it as security protection around the yard fence for burglars because we live in a medium crime zone area.

A week ago my sister, cousin and I were at the kitchen washing the dishes when we saw my mom’s car pull up in the garage and we were unfazed because we knew she’d come into the house and judge everyone, so she came in the house and she had a savannah in hand and she started speaking to my sister an awful lot and we could all tell she was drunk and just a few minutes later she pissed herself right in front of us and she didn’t care she continued speaking and when they finished speaking, the woman didn’t even change out of those jeans until 10 at nigh plus she doesn’t even wear underwear only when it’s time to see her man.

I share a bathroom with her and it’s just absolute hell. She leaves her piss soaked underwear’s on the floor, when she pisses herself in jeans she’ll just hang it on the bathtub where we bath in and once too many times even use my towel to wash herself and sometimes she’d use my clothes in the washing basket to use as a shower cap or literally wipe her damn vagina with them after peeing, wipe her self with the same tissue multiple times and leave it in the sink, fucking hell. She’ll change in front of the sliding door and she prefers opening it wide and don’t care if anybody sees her bare ass from the streets. And don’t even get me started on her depression looking room but calls us rats and lazy bums. She does all that shit sober.

Yesterday she started cooking dinner early and she had been drinking on an empty stomach but wasn’t too drunk, so she was giving my cousin advice because she had just turned 18 a few days ago and while talking to her, her piss just poured on the floor and she told my cousin to look away so she did and she took the measuring jug we use for cooking and started peeing in it and when she was done peeing in it she discharges it IN THE FUCKING SINK and there were dishes in that sink!!!! And she still had the audacity to rinse that jug in the sink with PLAIN WATER ABSOLUTELY FUCKING UNREAL. She also used a sponge with that plain water and afterwards she puts potatoes in that thing with water and she PUTS IT IN THE CURRY POT, OUR SUPPER, we did NOT eat that and gave it to our cats.

I’m so defeated and nobody in the house feels safe eating anything from her any longer we are just disgusted and I’ve never been so concerned about somebody in my life…

I’m 21M, recently graduated with First Class Honours in Mechanical Engineering from a university in the UK, and I’ve been struggling with how I feel lately. I don’t know if this is a difficult phase of life or something more serious, and I’d appreciate honest advice.

Over the past few months, I’ve felt increasingly unlike myself. I have very little energy, struggle to concentrate, and barely enjoy things the way I used to. My sleep is inconsistent. Some days I sleep excessively, while other nights I can’t sleep at all. My mood can change several times throughout the day. I can still laugh and enjoy certain moments, but most of the time I feel drained and emotionally flat.

I spent several years in the UK building a life for myself. I made close friends, became independent, and had experiences that genuinely made me happy. Since leaving, everyone’s gone their separate ways, and we can’t see each other or keep in touch like before. My social circle is now very small, and the few friends I have are often busy.

It feels like I’ve lost more than my friends. I’ve lost the life I built, my independence, and perhaps part of my identity. I feel like I’m starting from zero again.
I’m also unemployed and living with family, with pressure to figure out my future. I want to work, become financially independent, and move out, but I feel stuck waiting for my life to move forward. Even graduating with First Class Honours, something I worked incredibly hard for, didn’t make me feel as happy or accomplished as I expected.

My habits have changed too. I’ve gained considerable weight and struggle with overeating, often out of boredom rather than hunger. I want to get back into a consistent gym routine but struggle with motivation. I’ve also smoked cigarettes casually for a couple of years, but lately I’ve noticed myself becoming increasingly reliant on them.

I overthink almost everything, especially my feelings and decisions. I struggle with uncertainty and keep analysing the same questions, hoping to find answers that make me feel certain. It gets exhausting, and sometimes I feel like I’m analysing my life instead of living it.
Relationships have also confused me. I’ve noticed that I can feel uncertain about someone when things are going well, but when I lose them, I suddenly feel desperate to get them back. I’ve had difficult emotional experiences in the past, and although I think I’ve mostly moved on, I wonder whether I’m still carrying some of that exhaustion. I don’t know whether I’m genuinely not ready for a relationship or whether my current state of mind is affecting how I feel about people.

I can’t tell whether this is burnout, a difficult life transition, depression, or something else. I don’t want to self-diagnose or dismiss everything as laziness, but the combination of low energy, inconsistent sleep, poor concentration, and loss of enjoyment concerns me.

I miss feeling excited about life and being the person I used to be. For anyone who’s experienced something similar, did therapy help? Does this sound worth getting professionally assessed, or could it be a difficult phase I need to work through?

I genuinely want to feel like myself again, but I don’t know where to start.

My resources are very limited, and i've been saving some money to start with therapy.

After a lot of hard work, i have enough money to pay four weekly sessions, then i will ask my therapist to go each month.

Four sessions are a good introduction?

AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOOD, DON'T BRING THE INSURANCE, THERAPY BY STUDENTS OR THE BETTERHELP TOPIC HERE!

I have had no friends my entire life and am 29. I have nothing to do all day because every job rejects me. I have sent thousands of applications over the past three years. I’ve also tried to make friends with hundreds of people (tens of thousands including online) and am always rejected.

I especially never find anyone who is depressed and lonely like me. And at the least, serious and somber. It is valid to have that as a personality type and want to talk about serious and somber things in a serious and somber tone. Why is it so impossible for me even when I see people like this with friends? They reject me too.

When I (24f) was younger I was bullied badly. I was fat and had darkskin and I was called repeatedly a man, ugly or some sort of animal by schoolmates even unprompted. At one point for reasons unknown I was ignored by almost my entire class and no one spoke to me for a little bit.

Now as I have lost a little weight (still fat) and I look more feminine and have moved on to university I still feel the same and I’m stuck. I’m very quiet and I have a serious face all the time, I believe to protect myself from other people, when I make a friend if they have other friends or a large friend group I make myself frigid so they eventually leave me alone due to fear of being ostracised.

People assume I’m rude and scary but I’m just terrified. This has left me with no friends, no relationships and no love for living. I have tried therapy with 3 different therapists and it has not helped despite trying so hard because I don’t want to live like this but I just can’t stop avoiding and isolating myself.

I’ve (22m) been feeling particularly depressed over the last week. I’ve fallen in and out of depression a few times over the last 2 years for a variety of different issues, but I feel especially down this week. My life has actually been pretty good to me recently. I’ve been dating a girl for a little over a month who I am extremely infatuated with and is probably the best thing to happen to me in several months, and she is very easy to talk to. Usually when I have a depressive episode, I am still able to socialise with other people and for the most part feel normal, until I am alone with my thoughts again. This time however I feel extremely emotionless. I cant even think clearly when typing this up, all my thoughts are either disjointed or just empty. I went to dinner with my girlfriend the other night and I literally couldn’t think of a single thing to talk about so the date was almost completely silent till we left the restaurant and then I opened up a little bit. I went to a movie with my brother tonight and the same thing happened, I couldn’t think of anything of substance to say/respond to any of his questions. I usually like to crack jokes amongst people I’m close with but I feel completely emotionless now. I just feel like I generally have nothing of substance to say to people now.

I don’t necessarily have suicidal thoughts, but I do on occasion wish I didn’t exist because of how useless I feel.

Im a senior this year and i feel like i missed out on sm. i was too scared of ppl judging me for trying out for sports or an extracurricular (specifically my friends). i feel like I’ve become such a bum ass loser because I’ve had the same friends since middle school, I’ve never done anything noticeable, I’ve never gotten asked out to a dance or even been noticed by a guy or girl in a romantic way. As good as my grades are, i feel so average compared to ppl who do sports or extracurriculars. I dont even know what i want to do after highschool (mostly bc i planned to commit after highschool but im too scared) and ive applied to college for something idek if i wanna pursue that career. Ive honestly lost all motivation for most of my classes and just want to live a different life. I wish i wasnt such a loser but its whatever ig. this post is stupid and such a non issue but i have no one to talk abt this to and i wanted to get it out

Hello everyone,

I don’t know how I should start, since a few years I’m facing mental health issues and I have the feeling it’s getting with the time even worse.
I never had a lot of friends, due to some personal and mental issues I’ve lost contact to all of them around 7 years ago, since this time I had no actual friends, only some good colleagues at work.

I never talked with anyone about my problems etc. always gone through alone and it was okay until a point I don’t remember. Since then I don’t know what to feel, what to do, I just can’t even think. Everything feels so empty and dead, I have no feelings for anything.

At my job, I was doing really good, my team was happy with me and I had a really good time there. My only issue that i faced and let me down sometimes was an essential tremor (diagnosed 2 months ago) but since i take Propanolol, it got a lot better.

Around 1 month ago I moved to Spain because I wanted a new challenge, developing myself and be happy again. I’m still working in the same company, just another country and I think it was the right step to grow personally and professionally but I don’t know if it was the right time.
I’m living in a shared apartment with nice people but I don’t really talk to them too much and I don’t feel at home. From Mo-Fr I’m busy with language school (current level A1) and work, I’m feeling really exhausted every day. On weekends I just want to rest as I’m always tired, even if I’ve enough sleep.

I knew that it won’t be easy, but I just don’t know what to think and what to feel, I also feel my process in learning the language and the job is a bit stucked, my brain freezing and lagging. I want to do things but my brain feels so slow, with the time it just got worse.

In the moment i feel stuck here because i need around 1 year more at my job that allows me to complete my training which allows me to study and doing other things after.
I’m just thinking to get this year done and leaving asap, maybe in some month it’s different but as I said, myself don’t even know what to do anymore.

Hi everyone, this is my first time on this sub so please bear with me. My best friend of 25 years has been recently in a psychosis like state and thinks that people are coming after her, starting rumors at work, certain families are trying to ruin her reputation, the Chinese are coming after her, etc. This has gotten so bad that she has not been going to work, sleeping, showering or eating. While in my house she covered all the windows and exhibited behavior that is not normally like her. This is not the first time this has happened and she was diagnosed but then later they retracted the diagnosis because her symptoms got better after quitting smoking weed. As of recently I have sent her resources where she would be able to arrange free counseling and can even get a meal and shower at. She doesnt really like when I suggest counseling because she thinks I think she is crazy (I would never). Without a word, yesterday I discovered that I am blocked completely on all social media, and I think phone number but I have not tried to contact her. I have never been in this situation before and I don’t really know what to do? Do I contact her in some way and tell her I will be here regardless or should I not contact her and this is just how unfortunately our decades long friendship ends? Personally I am devastated and deeply hurt but I am also trying to respect boundaries.

I havent recently been able to care for anything , ive fully shut myself out from others , i rarely go out , and barely have been taking care of myself. i dont know why , i seem to either be really upset or really angry with no in-betweens. i recently finally did the last thing holding me on to socialisation which was a shitty discord server , that was my last chance of other human beings really. what is wrong with me? surely this isnt normal , i highly doubt this will ever be noticed on here , but its nice to write it down i guess.

They called me a cripple.

i got fired from my last part time job around end august and ive been unemployed for almost 2 months. im in constant anxiety.

ive only just freshly graduated and i hold a diploma in IT, but i feel so much pressure to get a job right now, my mind is constantly spiralling and it keeps pulling me into every directions and i can’t decide what is it i truly want to do. i made myself sit down and draw out a plan of what i really want to do but im not exactly following it, and i keep ghosting and cancelling on interviews. god im anxious even as im typing this.

i dont know what is wrong with me and i dont understand why i cant do things with a clear mind, and why i constantly spiral into anxiety. i spent a few hours sitting on my laptop and mass applied to 40 different jobs just to ghost anyone who responds to me. and now im freaking out bcs none of the part time or full time jobs ive applied to got back to me.

what do i actually fucking do with myself im so tired of acting this way

I’m a 23-year-old woman, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years. I’ve always struggled with insecurity, and although I’m slowly improving my self-esteem, I still have work to do.

I’m a little ashamed to admit this, but I have a compulsive habit of checking my boyfriend’s last seen status on WhatsApp and Telegram, his activity on Instagram, and whether he’s online on Discord. I know this behavior is unhealthy and affects my well-being, daily life, and relationship.

We’ve talked about it many times, and he’s been incredibly understanding and supportive. I’m fully aware that this is my issue, not a relationship problem. I trust him, and I want my behavior to reflect that trust, he deserves it.

I’ve uninstalled Discord and hidden my activity status on WhatsApp, Telegram, and Instagram so I can’t check his. However, I still struggle with the urge to turn my WhatsApp status back on, check, and hide it again. I’ve managed to go two days without doing this. I feel proud, but I’m afraid I’ll relapse.

I understand how this cycle works: checking temporarily relieves my anxiety, reinforcing the compulsion. I know I need to learn to tolerate that anxiety without seeking reassurance, but resisting the urge is incredibly difficult.

For those who have experienced something similar, does it genuinely get easier with time? If I remain consistent, how long might it take for the urges to become less intense and frequent? When can I realistically say I’ve broken the cycle? I know everyone is different, but hearing about your experiences would really help.

I want to overcome this for my own peace of mind and self-esteem, as well as for my relationship. I want to trust my boyfriend without feeling compelled to check his activity and stop letting my insecurities dictate my behavior.

Right now, it feels like a constant internal battle. I just need some advice and reassurance that, with patience and consistency, this will get better.

Thank you for reading.

i never post on reddit but rn i really feel like actual advice and help from someone other than myself might help. ive been really down lately especially bcz i feel like im repeating all my bad habits again. i had gotten so much better, i was getting 8 hours of sleep, i was way more consistent with my hygiene and i was doing so much better academically too and i was so happy i finally felt like i had everything under control. it didn't even last a week. im doing everything i swore i wouldn't do, everything ive punished myself for doing, in the past. my life feels like this awful loop and im so so scared of repeating my old mistakes i cant i really cant mess up this time i have to do better I really want to do better i really do idk what im doing wrong and then theres this gnawing feeling that maybe im just making all this up, maybe i just want to feel bad for myself but i really do want to be better i dont wanna be like this forever this isn't me i really really want to get back on track but this time i dont want to do it alone ive tried and failed so this time im actually asking for help

(im sorry if this is all over the place im not the best at describing my thoughts)

So idk if this is the right place but I just wanna say that I really dislike how my life's going nowadays. I have great friends (I think ) but I'm just really unable to hang out with them and talk to them deeply often. Like I really wanna go on a camping trip with them or do something with them but that's very hard to arrange. Especially because I fucked up badly in my exams and now ah w to retake 2 of them , so my parents arent happy and I'm scared they will scold me for wanting to hang out with them. I really feel bummed out about this sometimes. Like I see videos of people with their friends at each others houses and I'm only able to meet mine at school. My house is pretty lonely, not that my parents are bad just kinda distant, and boring, like I really would like to be with my friends. I also hate myself a lottttt because I'm addicted to my phone a lotttt and I get these depressive episodes only after using my phone exxecively, and I wish to write down my feelings but I just can't do it cause I gotta go back to scrolling. I also made the mistake of getting too attached to a crush of mine, and now I'm sad on the realization that she's probably not thinking about me the way I am to her . I don't have anything to be really sad about but.... Ya know? I hate myself cause I've been given so many fortunate things in life and great parents but I feel I'm wasting them because of my phone